I keep listening to this message over and over because My life would have been different had I not allowed others to manipulate my life. Today I am a different person. Still working on this issue but by God’s grace I am working on being God’s daughter!
The Church was a major teacher of people-pleasing thinking and behavior in my life. Overdoses of inappropriate shame and guilt is what I often took from my life experiences from Church.
I keep on coming back to this sermon every once in a while, because it’s inspiring as far as helping me to stick up for myself and wanting more for myself.
It's so refreshing seeing the difference between an honest, intelligent, and observant pastor, and not an ignorant, fear mongering zealot. Thank you very much, this was exactly what I needed to be talked through today.
"You don't read yesterday's newspaper! Why? Because, it's worthless. Then why was it so important yesterday?" This is the perfect example,on how we treat everything,like it's permanent,and how none of it really matters in the long run!
Do you fear people and desire to change? Meditating outloud on the Word of God.(mainly the promises of God and the character of God) daily have done more for me than ANY other spiritual discipline. This is rarely taught in the church today yet so important to developing a renewed mind. Romans 12:2, Psalms 1, Joshua 1:8. I have been doing this for more than a year and the changes in my life have been nothing short of awesome. We MUST get the Word into our heart if we are going to see long lasting change in our life. Good bible teaching allows the Word to enter our minds but meditating gets it permanently rooted into our heart.
My people pleasing behavior is not just trying to make people happy or gain approval. I'm trying to prevent conflict and suffering because there are many power- tripping, aggressive and angry bullies out there.
I have been suffering from this all my life and many times I’ve tried to take my life. But, this video was the answer to my prayers. I only need to please God. Prayers welcome for deliverance and maturity. I pray that my life will count for Him. Praise God.
Was deeply moved by seeinh this. Please, don't ever take your life. I've tried several times. We are loved by God and the love for ourselves is only thing that really matters!!! Glad, i got to sse this. Amen
@@VictoriaTheBookworm thank you for your prayers. I just literally got off the floor giving my will to God in exchange for His and repenting. God is really amazing.
I am here because my friend told I am a people pleaser and I could not believe it because I did not know, I decided to do research and get out of it, I have been saying no to people then finally found this sermon and decided after this, I am free from this behavior because at the end of it all it is only God who can get me out of it. I can not wait to come back here and testify how things have changed. I am free indeed.
Needed this now and WISH heard this in my 20s, but glad have message now. 30:55-32:33 summed up my life from birth to 28. And now I see God pulled me from a lifetime of trying to please my parents by communication being cut off from them not accepting I have depression and me going on disability and moving. I've since then have new saying...Doesn't matter what my parents think of me what does God think of me. Thank You Pastor Rick!
I knew a girl who had this problem. She ended up living with us because of her abusive parents. I actually broke her of this habit by training her to say no to me. After a year of her living with us she was a pro at it! I consider to be a sister today and we talk often.
Salam( peace). I am a practicing Muslim and have this clip as my regular reminder for last 5 or six years. Everything the pastor says is matching to my islamic values (except obvious differences about divinity) However i never came across any Muslim scholar ( i hear a lot of them) described this common illness against faith in God so beautifully and eloquently. It made me a better servant of God/Allah. I am so lucky that i came across this and religious pastor like him exist and serving the common humanity for the greater good.
This is good lesson some people want to control not everyone going to have ur best interest. I rather please the person that can destroy body and soul. God is not like people he is love people are fickle. I refuse to be someone's puppet on a string.
I lam blessed to be able to listen to saddleback church. I’ve really grown since I’ve been listening to this. Thank you Rick and family for pouring into us as God pours into you !
Thank you very much Pastor Rick: you give clear instructions, but also speak out how I'm feeling. Though strict, there is no condemnation in your messages and they make one feel that it's achievable.
This video is Holy spirit anointed! Break free saints from "people bondage." If the Holy Spirit is leading us, we cant go wrong! We must be sure that we have a strong relationship with Jesus and know how to distinguish His voice from others, including Satan and our own. The Holy Spirit, our Comforter will lead and guide us in all Truth! I'm am free! Strongholds are being released! Shackles and chains are broken in the name of Jesus! Well done Pastors! God bless you all. ✝️👏🏾
I fell in the people pleaser trap and it took hold of my life. Now my body is facing great pain and destruction. I pray for God’s deliverance so that I can serve him now fully committed to Him and his promises. What can I do to keep pushing and be accepted through all my past addiction to drugs and sexual immorality
God has forgiven you keep on praying to Him,listen to songs that makes you happy as a way of distracting you from thinking about your past mistakes and hurt
The only person you should please is GOD. He should get all the glory from pleasing Him. You love and please people because you first LOVE GOD and He first LOVED YOU.
Pastor Rick, I thank God for your life. HE is working here in my life through you and yes I will also reach out to whoever I can through my life. God is really good. :)
Thanks for upload in high resolution, because besides watch the sermon, I need to download the video for archive and for share it offline with other who do not have good internet connection.
I dont know the key to success but the key to failure is tryong to please everyone in this univedse ........ .... Be warned yall ... I love yall i wish yall the vedt in life ......
Lord,please look my future happen, God l know u loves people first. Please think it over forwards. Maybe give me free and still loving me. I still doing good for the people and to sowing/ planting God words for them. In Mighty Name Jesus Christ, Amen
I consider myself a confident person, yet there was something the Lord was was trying to bring out of me. I hadn't know that it was that debilitating spirit of trying to gain validation. Jesus, Help me!!
You have to teach your kids looks don't matter, clothes don't matter, money doesn't matter, only God does. This will break the patterns. I have seen hate, and hate at its finest. As a kid growing up I thought I was in hell. I told myself growing up if I went to hell it will be a walk in a park for me. Hell would be a great place to be then here no way hell an be worse then this. My family hated me everyone in school hated me. Even people in the town hated me. Walk to school and be at school and home and hear yourself called every bad name in the dictionary put in everyway. I learned words I never knew in hate. I got so stubborn and hard headed no one could tell me nothing. I walked my own walk, talked my own talk, dressed my own dress, acted my own act. I talked to people others wouldn't. It also caused me to grow anger, rage, and a temper that it got to a point that just saying something I would snap and try to hurt someone. Now I rather be alone, I want nothing but quietness away from people I don't trust no one and have no friends. And still learning people play games. I learned to be able to see things in people by just looking at a person's face and eyes.
Honestly I am not total like that. I have always been different and so people's views didn't affect me much. I have always chosen to be myself rather than pleasing others and I assure you that is the best route to go. I don't care about fitting in this fallen society.
Emja10 I am with you and like you. In fact I often get in trouble because my no means no (and my yes means yes). I often feel the pressure to conform and be a people pleaser just for peace but it becomes so stressful and affects my health and happiness. I'm by no means a narcissist but I've always known exactly who I am and what I want from a very young age. I never bowed to peer pressure as a teen and went against my parents choice of career and spouse because I am my authentic self at all times. I'm not perfect but I've never needed peoples approval to make decisions in my life, as long as it's ok with God then I'm satisfied.
I live with a narcissistic for 36 years , live a life of pleasing him He verbally abused me mentally He lied to me and you cheated on me with another woman After I divorced him now I'm free I'm searching for God's love and if the God's love for me.
I dont want to be people pleaser anymore i think my mom give me this mindset and the truth is she is to a people pleaser but she dont realize that at home she always show her real face and when she talk to people she is very kind do what ever they ask her to do ..
1. selfish desires could be the reason why people try to push us to do things we don't like to do. To begin with, we have to clean our hearts from selfish desires not only this but also disguise these materialistic desires and move forward towards God's will and plan for us so no one or situation would push us to do these desires. It is so serious as in the bible it is said we are judged according to our thoughts, words as well as our action.
Don't get so wrapped up on whether or not the "letter" is true that you miss getting free from being a People Pleaser/Human Yes Man. Did you question the people who wanted you to do all those things that you didn't like doing?No.. See! You did learn something already. Question others sometimes when it doesn't seem right instead of just going along. Looks like we are off to a good start.
peace calm solitude working on specific as God leads me in a way we ministers team together sharing bible in part from areas we know. God restored my teacher in this moment as animation story world.
I've had this tortuous problem all my life and I am finally allowing Jesus to take this specific bondage away and deliver me. With that said if we as Christians have a responsibility to love others, do we have to like/associate ourselves with them? Like sure I understand we are in a spiritual warfare and are trying to bring others to Christ but doesn't loving someone and liking someone mean 2 different things? Billy Graham once said loving is doing. I mean I ain't just going to associate myself with a Fidel Castro or a Hitler. I'm just confused. Ever since I was born again in Christ Jesus I had a reborn sense of loving others. But when I started going to a Texas A and M college I'd realize I'd let others opinions, the fears dominate me my sophmore, Junior, and some of my senior year. Can someone help me understand the Biblical question of differences between loving others and liking others. Do I have to like others even though I have to love them as a Christian? I'm trying to stop being the "nice guy" or pushover or people pleaser that others have seen me here at college and all my life
God took me from people wrangling tugawar wrestling with people as we stand with idea of our own kindred to God plan. then people inklings. as God presented me to my pastor connection.like lead minister at cape coral community church. through sorting as I learned who my prayer partners truly waa like drama class a visit that truly is a figment of our good imagination my pastor knows we can not make a decision without our imagination.
I keep listening to this message over and over because My life would have been different had I not allowed others to manipulate my life. Today I am a different person. Still working on this issue but by God’s grace I am working on being God’s daughter!
Keep pushing forward , God will keep helping you🙏🙏
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So glad I found this, the woman’s letter at the beginning felt like it was pulled from my heart 💔
"I am a collection of the expectations of others" wow!!
I bet you have heart pains sometimes don't you
The Church was a major teacher of people-pleasing thinking and behavior in my life. Overdoses of inappropriate shame and guilt is what I often took from my life experiences from Church.
I keep on coming back to this sermon every once in a while, because it’s inspiring as far as helping me to stick up for myself and wanting more for myself.
It's so refreshing seeing the difference between an honest, intelligent, and observant pastor, and not an ignorant, fear mongering zealot. Thank you very much, this was exactly what I needed to be talked through today.
yea i like rick warren a lot has actually restored my faith. Sort of the no bs pastor that gets to the point ya know?
Hylian Jim Yes I absolutely LOVE pastor Warren and all the other Saddleback pastors. They make everything beautifully simple and practical.
"You don't read yesterday's newspaper!
Why?
Because, it's worthless.
Then why was it so important yesterday?"
This is the perfect example,on how we treat everything,like it's permanent,and how none of it really matters in the long run!
Amen. Only Jesus matters in the end 🙏🏻💗
Do you fear people and desire to change?
Meditating outloud on the Word of God.(mainly the promises of God and the character of God) daily have done more for me than ANY other spiritual discipline. This is rarely taught in the church today yet so important to developing a renewed mind. Romans 12:2, Psalms 1, Joshua 1:8.
I have been doing this for more than a year and the changes in my life have been nothing short of awesome. We MUST get the Word into our heart if we are going to see long lasting change in our life. Good bible teaching allows the Word to enter our minds but meditating gets it permanently rooted into our heart.
Amen.
My husband and I are so blessed by this message. Thank you
My people pleasing behavior is not just trying to make people happy or gain approval. I'm trying to prevent conflict and suffering because there are many power- tripping, aggressive and angry bullies out there.
yep
I have been suffering from this all my life and many times I’ve tried to take my life. But, this video was the answer to my prayers. I only need to please God. Prayers welcome for deliverance and maturity. I pray that my life will count for Him. Praise God.
Was deeply moved by seeinh this. Please, don't ever take your life. I've tried several times. We are loved by God and the love for ourselves is only thing that really matters!!! Glad, i got to sse this. Amen
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@@VictoriaTheBookworm thank you for your prayers. I just literally got off the floor giving my will to God in exchange for His and repenting. God is really amazing.
I am here because my friend told I am a people pleaser and I could not believe it because I did not know, I decided to do research and get out of it, I have been saying no to people then finally found this sermon and decided after this, I am free from this behavior because at the end of it all it is only God who can get me out of it. I can not wait to come back here and testify how things have changed.
I am free indeed.
Needed this now and WISH heard this in my 20s, but glad have message now. 30:55-32:33 summed up my life from birth to 28. And now I see God pulled me from a lifetime of trying to please my parents by communication being cut off from them not accepting I have depression and me going on disability and moving. I've since then have new saying...Doesn't matter what my parents think of me what does God think of me. Thank You Pastor Rick!
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How did you get Out of it Please???
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I knew a girl who had this problem. She ended up living with us because of her abusive parents. I actually broke her of this habit by training her to say no to me. After a year of her living with us she was a pro at it! I consider to be a sister today and we talk often.
I needed this. I can relate to everything that she said in that letter. Thabk You Jesus 🙏 I needed this
It’s refreshing to here messages like this , often times , at least with me . I hear a lot of prophetic messages..
Ever since, I was 6 I was entrapped to this bondage, up until I listened to this message! Thank you! It is on 🙏🏽🛡🗡
Amen.❤
Amem🙏🏽 “ live for an audience of one.....” ☝🏽
I relate, Pastor Rick, but I can't quite get my head round the fact that all that was written on one side of the paper ...you have amazing eyesight! 👓
Salam( peace). I am a practicing Muslim and have this clip as my regular reminder for last 5 or six years. Everything the pastor says is matching to my islamic values (except obvious differences about divinity) However i never came across any Muslim scholar ( i hear a lot of them) described this common illness against faith in God so beautifully and eloquently. It made me a better servant of God/Allah. I am so lucky that i came across this and religious pastor like him exist and serving the common humanity for the greater good.
What a great message pastor Rick. Thank you
This is good lesson some people want to control not everyone going to have ur best interest. I rather please the person that can destroy body and soul. God is not like people he is love people are fickle. I refuse to be someone's puppet on a string.
I can so relate to this woman’s letter.
Thank you Lord Jesus for the life of Pastor Rick! Thank you for this life changing sermon!
Just what I needed! That Pastor Warren for allowing God to speak to me through your teachings.
I lam blessed to be able to listen to saddleback church. I’ve really grown since I’ve been listening to this. Thank you Rick and family for pouring into us as God pours into you !
Thank you very much Pastor Rick: you give clear instructions, but also speak out how I'm feeling. Though strict, there is no condemnation in your messages and they make one feel that it's achievable.
This video is Holy spirit anointed! Break free saints from "people bondage." If the Holy Spirit is leading us, we cant go wrong! We must be sure that we have a strong relationship with Jesus and know how to distinguish His voice from others, including Satan and our own. The Holy Spirit, our Comforter will lead and guide us in all Truth! I'm am free! Strongholds are being released! Shackles and chains are broken in the name of Jesus! Well done Pastors! God bless you all. ✝️👏🏾
I fell in the people pleaser trap and it took hold of my life. Now my body is facing great pain and destruction. I pray for God’s deliverance so that I can serve him now fully committed to Him and his promises. What can I do to keep pushing and be accepted through all my past addiction to drugs and sexual immorality
God has forgiven you keep on praying to Him,listen to songs that makes you happy as a way of distracting you from thinking about your past mistakes and hurt
The only person you should please is GOD. He should get all the glory from pleasing Him. You love and please people because you first LOVE GOD and He first LOVED YOU.
I am not a collection of people’s expectation.... am free, thank you lord🙏🏾
Amen
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I want to set my mind in god to trust him and to love people but to always put god first in my life to
This man's a legend 🙂
This is very sad but I understand her. My family makes me crazy. Thank you pastor
Amazing. Thank you, Lord. Thank you, Pastor Rick. I've been set free from me.
Pastor Rick, I thank God for your life. HE is working here in my life through you and yes I will also reach out to whoever I can through my life. God is really good. :)
...such a thoughtful teaching....my integrity is more important than my popularity...
Thanks for upload in high resolution, because besides watch the sermon, I need to download the video for archive and for share it offline with other who do not have good internet connection.
I will listen over and over. And share to others that struggle too. Thank you!!
This is so powerful. I needed this so bad tonight. Sharing link, thank you.
Life lesson Everyone should learn this in school 🤔
I am so blessed of this message. Thanks to pastor rick.
Thank you for the amazing message. It blesses me. God bless your heart 💓
Thank you for this encouraging sermon. This was something I stuggle with
Thank you Pastor Rick, your preaching is helping me alot.
I dont know the key to success but the key to failure is tryong to please everyone in this univedse ........ .... Be warned yall ... I love yall i wish yall the vedt in life ......
Amen this message exactly I needed. Praise God
He is a good one, y'all.
Thank you Pastor Rick. I needed to hear this.
I 55 and still struggle with this but have only began to say No recently in some areas esp as family know my faith.
Wonderful sermon, thank you!
Thanks for this beautiful Sermon.
Woow that sermon was incredible!!
Thank You
Have you considered adding subtitles? A lot of people watch videos with an average english. It helps to follow :)
Lord,please look my future happen,
God l know u loves people first. Please think it over forwards.
Maybe give me free and still loving me.
I still doing good for the people and to sowing/ planting God words for them.
In Mighty Name Jesus Christ, Amen
Lord, u know l have a pland to connect group of people to sharing a God's word's soon.Help me to do good wherever am l. In Mighty Name,Amen
I am an empathy and it has ruined me
I consider myself a confident person, yet there was something the Lord was was trying to bring out of me. I hadn't know that it was that debilitating spirit of trying to gain validation. Jesus, Help me!!
You have to teach your kids looks don't matter, clothes don't matter, money doesn't matter, only God does. This will break the patterns. I have seen hate, and hate at its finest. As a kid growing up I thought I was in hell. I told myself growing up if I went to hell it will be a walk in a park for me. Hell would be a great place to be then here no way hell an be worse then this. My family hated me everyone in school hated me. Even people in the town hated me. Walk to school and be at school and home and hear yourself called every bad name in the dictionary put in everyway. I learned words I never knew in hate. I got so stubborn and hard headed no one could tell me nothing. I walked my own walk, talked my own talk, dressed my own dress, acted my own act. I talked to people others wouldn't. It also caused me to grow anger, rage, and a temper that it got to a point that just saying something I would snap and try to hurt someone. Now I rather be alone, I want nothing but quietness away from people I don't trust no one and have no friends. And still learning people play games. I learned to be able to see things in people by just looking at a person's face and eyes.
very valuble information
Honestly I am not total like that. I have always been different and so people's views didn't affect me much. I have always chosen to be myself rather than pleasing others and I assure you that is the best route to go. I don't care about fitting in this fallen society.
Emja10 I am with you and like you. In fact I often get in trouble because my no means no (and my yes means yes). I often feel the pressure to conform and be a people pleaser just for peace but it becomes so stressful and affects my health and happiness. I'm by no means a narcissist but I've always known exactly who I am and what I want from a very young age. I never bowed to peer pressure as a teen and went against my parents choice of career and spouse because I am my authentic self at all times. I'm not perfect but I've never needed peoples approval to make decisions in my life, as long as it's ok with God then I'm satisfied.
God give me a new set of mind I ask in Jesus Christ name it is done amean
The prreaching every Christian should hear
Thank you message is right on point and time
Fantastic!
I live with a narcissistic for 36 years , live a life of pleasing him
He verbally abused me mentally
He lied to me and you cheated on me with another woman
After I divorced him now I'm free I'm searching for God's love and if the God's love for me.
Amen In Jesus Name
I dont want to be people pleaser anymore i think my mom give me this mindset and the truth is she is to a people pleaser but she dont realize that at home she always show her real face and when she talk to people she is very kind do what ever they ask her to do ..
She's a typical narcissist?
1. selfish desires could be the reason why people try to push us to do things we don't like to do. To begin with, we have to clean our hearts from selfish desires not only this but also disguise these materialistic desires and move forward towards God's will and plan for us so no one or situation would push us to do these desires. It is so serious as in the bible it is said we are judged according to our thoughts, words as well as our action.
I am 46 and I am still addicted to approval. It’s a trap
Me to god help us amen
Don't get so wrapped up on whether or not the "letter" is true that you miss getting free from being a People Pleaser/Human Yes Man.
Did you question the people who wanted you to do all those things that you didn't like doing?No..
See! You did learn something already.
Question others sometimes when it doesn't seem right instead of just going along.
Looks like we are off to a good start.
Love is love
so good
Thanks a lot good reminders confirmations
Wow. So awesome and practical.
Amazing
As someone says: NO PROMISES: NO GUARANTEED!
Very correct
Great question . Wow 😮
Common Ricky W W
Common Ricky W W
the second guy is good!
peace calm solitude working on specific as God leads me in a way we ministers team together sharing bible in part from areas we know. God restored my teacher in this moment as animation story world.
thanks
I never even knew I was a people pleaser
Rick doesn't worry about people pleasing. Look what he's wearing.
haha, he might have shot the drapes, but he's also fighting the devil looking like that. He's twice as fearsome that way if you ask me.
100% good
It silences the truth
Need this Atm
Thats like one of the many traps id like to fall into
so ridiculous funny coming from him
I've had this tortuous problem all my life and I am finally allowing Jesus to take this specific bondage away and deliver me. With that said if we as Christians have a responsibility to love others, do we have to like/associate ourselves with them? Like sure I understand we are in a spiritual warfare and are trying to bring others to Christ but doesn't loving someone and liking someone mean 2 different things? Billy Graham once said loving is doing. I mean I ain't just going to associate myself with a Fidel Castro or a Hitler. I'm just confused. Ever since I was born again in Christ Jesus I had a reborn sense of loving others. But when I started going to a Texas A and M college I'd realize I'd let others opinions, the fears dominate me my sophmore, Junior, and some of my senior year. Can someone help me understand the Biblical question of differences between loving others and liking others. Do I have to like others even though I have to love them as a Christian? I'm trying to stop being the "nice guy" or pushover or people pleaser that others have seen me here at college and all my life
How to escape the people pleaser trap? This guy should know as that's all he does.
cant help wondering why i havent see even one of these guys with a single tattoo. where in america do they come from?
How can I get pastor Rick's email address? I have a few questions that I want to ask him.
God took me from people wrangling tugawar wrestling with people as we stand with idea of our own kindred to God plan. then people inklings. as God presented me to my pastor connection.like lead minister at cape coral community church. through sorting as I learned who my prayer partners truly waa like drama class a visit that truly is a figment of our good imagination my pastor knows we can not make a decision without our imagination.
You sound like Michael J Fox!!
very good teacher
hes also got a lot of bad publicity but i think its because hes misrepresented
29:45
That piece of paper is WAY too small for what he read. Just an observation
I was going to say a person's body.
some live in fear?.
Yep. I used to be one of them.