I fully believe 4-9 months is the TRENCHES of motherhood. The newborn glow is gone, the exhaustion hasn't let up, the baby is still fully dependent on you and they aren't just sleeping through the day. You are so strong and NOT ALONE.
Agreed. I actually wait when bringing meals to support a new mom till around the 4 month mark cause I feel like everyone wants to bring something and come visit early and it can be overwhelming. By 4 months all the excitement from other people has worn off everyone expects you to be back to normal, us working moms are mostly back to work by then but your still not sleeping through the night if you breastfeeding you’re worrying about supply and pumping when your at work and your life is sty revolving around their 2hr at a time schedule. I feel like this is the time when a meal being dropped of is an unexpected delight. For a new mom in my neighborhood I also took her older child (2 yr old) for the day and went to the park with home and my daughter so she could have a day with just the baby during that phase.
In an age where social media lies so much about what motherhood is like, this video right here is amazing content Shayla, I'm sorry you feel down and I'm sorry your videos are not performing so well but when you post a video I run to watch it because I love how down to earth and honest you are, you are sooo relatable that it doesn't actually matter what you are talking about, you always bring something to the table, you are a super mamma with 3 small kids, breastfeeding, co sleeping, so on and so on! I couldn't do either of those with my son! Sending you hugs
Do a craft idea video!! I need ideas! My kids are about the same age. And also, you're amazing! Thank you for all the raw and real videos. I feel way less crazy after watching these, knowing I'm not alone ❤
I have always appreciated how transparent and honest you are, Shayla. Thank you. Content idea: Would you and your sister ever do a video together (Q &A, how you do parenting differently, what you've learned about each other as moms, etc?)
New mom of 3 as well. Even if this video doesn’t “perform” like you want it to, just know that there is someone out there that is hearing what you have to say and so deeply appreciated it. This is the content is love because it truly makes me feel not so alone. I always worry that I’m not doing this right or good enough, but we are all doing our best and it seems like so many of us moms are on this wild ride together. So thank you for your honesty and thank you for being so real. ❤
If you have SAD, give yourself some grace to start your new year goals and resolutions in the Spring. March is the historical time that new beginnings were celebrated with the Solstice, in the Spring we have energy to accomplish our goals. Winter is for rest, recharge, low power mode, hibernate. Give yourself permission to match your environment, release the “I should be” guilt. You’re doing a great job!
I'm one month postpartum with my first (and maybe only!) baby. This content- real raw conversation about how tough postpartum is, is the only kind of content that is getting me through this time. I'm watching this video painfully engorged with a pump attached to me at 6 am. Don't feel like you need...half way through typing that sentence I dropped the bottle off my pump and lost all my breastmilk 🫠. Anyway, don't feel like you need to cater to the algorithm- trust that your work will find the people who need it. I needed this!
I think six months postpartum tends to be when I'm having the hardest time with every baby. But I'm pregnant with my fourth, and the best gift that experience has given me is the unwavering confidence that the difficult phases pass and we all adjust to what is now normal for our family. So I can really lean into the hard times knowing that it's temporary. It's always fleeting in hindsight but that doesn't make it easy while you're in it!
Can you share your experience and why 6m tends to be the hardest for you? I a ftm mom of 6mo and I'd love to hear the experience of another mom, it's been hard I need someone to relate to ahah
@jeuen6933 hi, I'm also a ftm with a 6mo old and have been feeling pretty burnt out lately, physically and emotionally exhausted all the time, I don't have the answer to your question but wanted to say you're not alone, being a mom is hard!
@jeuen6933 For me, around 6 months the baby is sleeping much less during the day and starts to have stronger opinions, kind of knows that they can cry to achieve a certain effect, and they're alert enough to know what they want but they can't communicate it yet. I am definitely one of those moms who has a difficult time letting a baby cry, and at 6 months they're still so much a baby. It takes me a few months to notice the changes and adjust to them and come up with strategies to work with that particular baby. And every baby is different! I'll tell you some things I've found helpful at this age. Or maybe closer to the 8 month mark depending on the baby. When baby is sitting up and taking solids, I love to give them a whole whole mango pit. With the mango taken off. It's too big to choke on, it's slippery and once they get ahold of it, they'll chew on it for a long time to try to get all the mango off. Also when they can handle it, my babies would eat cooked plain corn on the cob for an hour easy. Empty tissue boxes filled with smallish things to take out and put back in. That's all I can think of right at this moment... Good luck. It's a tough phase but it is so much fun when they can chat and understand, and that's coming!
Shayla, I’m so proud of you. Being a mom is so hard. People without kids don’t get all the struggles moms go through. I’m proud of you for hanging in there, essentially when you feel like the chaos will never end, nights are long, and you have so little energy. Girl you have got this!! In a year it will be easier, but for now keep taking the little moments for yourself when you can. You are so strong you just need more time to yourself even in those 15minute yoga. You are gonna make it. You are doing great. We are all so proud of you girl.
You are totally on the cusp of the golden baby age. My youngest is 10 months and only now do I feel like I've come through it. Exiting newborn survival mode takes time. Just remember how with your last two, you suddenly were ready for the next baby. Wishing you the best!
I am literally twinning with you mentally. I am 2 months postpartum with my third baby. I love it here but also experiencing postpartum anxiety for the first time. I feel stuck at home but also hate leaving. I’m obsessed with motherhood but feel like I’ll never know myself again because my focus is all on my children and partner and when I try to take time for me outside of work and school (cause wtf did I go back to school???) i end up napping. Cause im physically and mentally exhausted. I know it’ll get better for us but right now im gonna hold on to your words that hard doesn’t mean bad.
Heyy sister!!! I’ll be praying for you for sure!! It’s ok to have off days for real! Just wanted to share something that has helped me in the past. I gave up yoga. And I was a yoga instructor for 8 years. For me personally, my faith and walk with God, learning to lean into the Holy Spirit more instead of chasing peace on a yoga mat really changed my life. Love you and keep doing what you love no matter what! ❤
I have a 4 yo, 2 yo, and an 8 week old and I feel this so hard. Indiana winters are also depressing and cold and being in the house trying to manage the baby’s naps and breastfeeding while managing the older two is like living in a time warp 🙃
😂😂😂 about the ADD: “oh it’s kind of cute, right? I can multitask like ALL THE TIME”…………. Same, girl, same. And then I hit the newborn through 9 months phase too and it wasn’t cute anymore either. 😂 Just want to throw this out there: sleep deprivation, lack of sunshine, and the first year of baby’s life is such a unique time that diagnosing yourself with something during this phase should be illegal (yes, I know “they” say that postpartum can magnify preexisting conditions…. But like… or we could just cut ourselves some slack?) Thank you for the solidarity!! I come to your channel to receive your realistic positivity all the time when I’m feeling burnt out by my biggest blessings and this video really made me feel like that stage is normal, okay, and fleeting!!
Had my second child 8 weeks ago. Had a second C-section. It's a STRUGGLE to multi-task and look after two kids and be tired a lot. Yesterday i woke up feeling low and CRIED 😭😭😭 felt depressed and BURNTOUT. Went to a salon in the afternoon and felt BETTER. Self-care is NECESSARY ❤
Would highly recommend the book Hard is Not the Same Thing as Bad by Abbie Halberstadt. My baby no 5 is 4m old and I encourage you- I find each baby from 4-6 months is a hard time for me. I feel a lot better once they are like 7 months old.
I could not have related to this video more. Almost 4 year old, 2 year old and a 3 month old. It’s been so hard, but at the same time I’m incredibly grateful for my three children. I think their ages play a huge role in how we’re feeling. Motherhood is all consuming, especially when we do it this way (breastfeeding, bedsharing, homeschooling). Sending hugs and positivity your way. This video gave me so much comfort in knowing I’m not alone in this, so thank you for sharing Shayla!
I've got a 2½y a 9m and I'm 8 weeks pregnant. I definitely understand how you are feeling! God will get you through, He gave you those babies and knew that you were the mama that they needed out of all the mamas in the world. My MIL always tells me the times when her little ones were little was the hardest, but it was also the sweetest.
Literally my favourite video of you. I feel so seen. And it’s so relatable. I’m pregnant with my third so I’m gonna go through what you are but I’ll also use all your tools and mindset etc etc. Seth sounds just amazing. Keep it real these videos are my favourite. You’re still hilarious even when you’re slumpin’ sis. So you’re amazing too. You’ve got this. We’ve got this! X
Survival mode is okay too!! It makes you appreciate it so much more when it gets easier. Hugs to you!! And that's not to dismiss how hard it is. It feels like a never ending marathon. You are doing amazing and look great and made a video!!!!
I'm here to say I feel you. I'm a FTM with a 6mo old. She is so clingy at this point my only time to myself is my drive to work and sometimes my shower in the morning. She has gotten to the point where I cannot leave her to sleep alone at all. All naps are contact naps and we co-sleep. I work full time and my Mom watches her while I work. My husband helps but all she wants is Mommy right now. So as soon as she sees that I am home I'm IT. I love it and it's also hard...so I feel you ❤️
“I feel like I’m doing a lot but I’m not doing anything well.” AMEN. My baby is five months & we also have a two year old daughter. I felt this confession to my core. If one more person tells me the days are long but the years fly by…. 😅Solidarity!
I’m on baby #2 … 3 year old and 6 month old. Been watching you since I was pregnant with my first. You have made me feel 10x better countless times about countless things. Somehow your video topics are always exactly what I need to hear exactly when I need to hear them. Every time that happens I think how I wish you had a you for you (lol not a typo) because truly I’ll be stressed and then your video makes me realize I’m not the only one and that is just so comforting to know this is all part of this stage of life. You’re like my cliff notes for parenting and motherhood. So thank you so much for your content. It is making a difference. ❤
I have a 2 year old and a 2 month old and my toddler is in full time daycare and I still feel like I’m going crazy. You are amazing you are doing it all with 3!
I resonate with so much of this, just as a stay at home mom of two! I’m pregnant with our third and when he or she is born, I’ll have a 4 year old & 2 year old (both girls), so I just love getting a peak at what the future could hold- the good, the bad, the unexpected, all of it! Thank you for being so real and honest, you’re such a blessing to so many of us mom out here. Solidarity, sister. ❤️
Probably the most helpful of all your videos Ive seen in the last couple of years. You’re not alone friend, we’re still here watching. I appreciate your videos so much!
Fresh mom of two (baby #2 just turned a month) and I just want to say, I love watching your stuff because we too are a growing family and going through same challenges. Please keep the hippie dippie content, cloth diapering, EC, ect. Coming. Your channel is great. And you’re doing great. I watch you during nap time while I crochet for a little and feel like I’m hanging with a friend. You’re right, moming is hard but not bad. I’m right there with you. Thank you for your content. And thank you for being honest and authentic.
Not even finished the video yet and all can say is how much I needed this video today. 8 months PP and have been grateful for you for a good year. Truly favorite RUclipsr lately. Thank you for the honesty. Always.
You're one of my favorite channels on youtube. I always feel so encouraged and inspired by you. I get where you're at right now completely!! It's so hard even though we are so grateful for it all. Prayers for things to get a little easier for you. ❤
Hey Shayla, I met you last summer at the pool and our two girls and boy were born just ahead of your littles. These videos continue to be such a funny mirror into our life. Just wanted to say thank you for your honesty- it is truly felt and appreciated. Three sick kids and Minnesota winter is just WOW. Our son just turned one and I am finally getting some windows back to myself again. Around the time he was your baby’s age I decided I needed to figure out what the hell brought ME joy in this phase of life. It started small (turning on music and singing in the shower small) but now that he’s a little older it’s been fun to explore hobbies again. I’m swimming this winter and it’s been life changing. You will get there. Just wanted to say thanks for talking about the hard too and send you some solidarity. And a hope that spring comes soon for all of us.
I love the vulnerability! I have been in the same boat and currently have a 1 and 3 year old. My kitchen dance parties have been a saving grace in the SAD season we’re in. I need sun and funny reels. This too shall pass! Trying the find the gratitude in everything as well. Love you girl! You got this!
You will get through this season! You are not alone and are an encouragement to SO many women. Stay connected and take breaks when possible. Its okay to NOT be okay. Comparison is the thief of joy. You are an amazing mom and wife even when its difficult. ❤
Shayla, you’re rocking it!!!! That’s all. You’re a mama!! You’re amazing!! It gets easier. Remember it takes one FULL YEAR!!!! To get out of the trenches. It’s an endurance. Be so so kind to yourself.
“I’m doing a lot but not doing any of it well” strikes such a chord. Three months PP with my first baby and resonate with much of what you said here. I love all your content, especially your advice around mindset- that has already helped me so much in motherhood! I always leave your videos either feeling informed, inspired, or seen. Thank you for being real with the good and the bad. So glad I found your channel!
the more external resistance, the harder it is the more external encouragement, the easier You are so encouraging to us, even to know you are in a hard (not bad) place, and are literally doing ALL the things and actually aiming to do it well means we aren't the only ones. Yours and Jess Hover's channels have been on repeat for me to be like it's okay to admit the hard and ask for help, and still do all you can to keep a positive mindset. Sending lots of kindness and love your way, Shay!
I found you during my first pregnancy when you were pregnant with your second. I just had my second 6 months ago. I feel like we are going through motherhood together. I love seeing how real you are with your struggles. You are not alone. We all have bad days and mom brain is so real. Don’t put on a mask to try to be “entertaining” I’d much rather you share how you are feeling and what you are going through. So many influences act like they have everything figured out and perfect. With you I feel like I’m catching up with a friend who can be who she is and share what she is actually dealing with. Thank you for that ❤you are doing great
6 months postpartum was the hardest for me, especially for my summer babies when that time lined up with the cold Northern WI winters. It always seemed like things should be back to normal and be getting easier when that wasnt the case. I found your channel when I was pregnant with my fourth kiddo, now over 4 years ago. You were always refreshing and I enjoyed your (slightly nieve) perspective and enthusiasm in those videos. When I saw the title of this video I had to watch it right away because I thought 'shes arrived'! Motherhood is no joke and feels like trudging through mud at times. In my experience kids get easier between the ages of 5-7, they start doing more for themselves but are still really fun and you see the fruit of your labor. Find yourself some good mom friends that are in the trenches with you. Enjoy the stable hormones that come with lactation (cant wait for your my 'period came back/I'm hemorrhaging' video post baby #3). And keep keeping it real. You're awesome!
I feeeeel you. This is where my brain is at! 1.5 yr pp and 18 wks pregnant. Feeling so lost in motherhood. Hard is not the same thing as bad book has helped IMMENSELY for me. Also getting my thyroid tested and finding I’ve got a problem helped like crazy with my mood. I really appreciate your honesty ❤ keep on going. God bless you!
I found your channel when I was pregnant with my son. He’s now 2 years old but you have helped me so much through my motherhood journey and has really shaped who I am as a mom. From your advice to your parenting stories. Any time I see you post a new video I watch it right away! So thank you for consistently showing up even when life gets hard! I struggle with my one, three is such an accomplishment. Remember to give yourself grace.❤
I have felt this way ever since I had my daughter 3 years ago. And she's the only child we're going to have, I don't know how people have multiple children. The guilt takes over and it's hard. You always seem to pull out of these slumps, I hope that happens soon for you and you start to feel productive in every part of your life! The caffeine information was very interesting. I feel the same way as you with the scattered thoughts, but literally don't know if I could give it up! I'll have to try the decaf! Thanks for always being honest Shayla 💕
Thank you for sharing such a raw and transparent video-it’s so powerful to see someone openly navigating the journey from resenting motherhood to finding joy in it. Your vulnerability is truly inspiring, and I’m sure it resonates with so many moms like me!! Here are a couple of mindset flips that have helped me: 1. Viewing difficult moments as opportunities to learn about ourselves and grow as parents. I like to use the word difficult instead of hard because it acknowledges levels of challenge rather than feeling rigid or insurmountable. It reminds me that these moments are fluid and can change. 2. When you feel in a slump with creating content or life in general, remind yourself that even small steps forward count. Celebrate the progress you’ve already made and consider revisiting your purpose-why you started sharing your journey in the first place. I’d also love to see a video about actionable steps you took to move from resentment to joy in motherhood. It could be incredibly helpful for moms who feel stuck in the early, challenging phases. Other topics could include tips on finding small joys in everyday chaos or how you handle moments when resentment creeps back in. Thank you again for sharing your journey-it’s a reminder that we’re not alone in the ups and downs of motherhood!
I like your verbiage pivot from, “Get it together,” to “What do you need to get it together?” ❤ Hard and what we want are totally hand in hand all the time. I feel so many of these feels right now. For content- just speaking for myself and idk what helps your channel but I’m pregnant with my first and was watching your stuff for a while since we WANTED to be pregnant and had to wait. So I’m still here for the kiddo stuff as you like 😊 I would appreciate an updated elimination communication video … how that changed/didn’t with multiples…. If you’re doing it with your son and any differences vs girls… etc etc. have a good day ❤
I needed to hear another mom be honest about this season- thank you Shayla! I love your videos and content, every week I feel like “YES! I so relate”. My second is 4 months old today, and I have a 2.5 year old and it is so hard in this season, baby’s ok but the toddler - WOOF. The novelty of baby has worn off at this stage and it is meltdown city and sleepless nights 24/7 for everyone. So hard. I’m in ND so I can relate to the bitterly cold winter and not being able to get out for EVERYONES sanity. I feel you. Hang in there - 3 months from now when the Midwest spring comes, hopefully we’ll be in a better place! Sending love and good vibes your way! Lord knows all us moms need it!
We have 2 kids, very close in age to your youngest 2 (an almost 6 month old and a 2.5-year-old). I'm tandem nursing both of them, and boy it's hard. They both need me so much in different ways, and I have continued to support them to sleep, so we are tired over here 😅 You're doing an amazing job! I've loved watching your videos for the last 3 years, It's raw and real.
It is so hard to create stellar content when you aren't "feeling it". I think the fact that you have let your audience know you is so valuable! Your content is you and your thoughts and you share so much that so many moms feel but don't express!
I also have a 4, 2, and 6 month old! This made me feel a lot better because we’ve also felt very cooped up and overwhelmed. I think when we can’t get outside because it’s cold, it is a lot harder on everyone.
The first year is so tough for me too….. there are tiny improvements before then but really that first year is so tough. I have a 3 y/o and an 11mth old. I could never go through that 1st year again. Thanks for being honest and making me feel not alone!
Girl, thank you for sharing your true feelings. I just had my first baby and she’s 4 months old now. I wanna have a few more kids and it is definitely difficult. Keep your head up, you got this! Don’t overwork yourself, and just enjoy life. It sounds like you have a beautiful life and you know what you have to be grateful for. ❤
Shayla you have just expressed everything I have felt since I had my 2nd baby 9 months ago and I feel less alone. Thank you for being honest, your videos make a difference!
Mother of one, who's one year old and this was still great content for me because it's honest, real and raw. And I could relate to A LOT.. That is precious and encouraging. Solidarity yes. Conflicting ideas, paradoxical thoughts, good and hard... Jumbled mins. ADD tendencies (like having 16 squirrels in my head all the time) but I've also been working on quieting them down. Holding you for all the allness, it's a lot. I feel like there's something in the matrescence books that explain the changes in brain and how so many things feel harder. But, no time to read it! Hugs and love from UK!
Thank you for this video. I have just one boy - 2 year old and currently pregnant and I feel terrible, all day long sickness. You are superwoman, that you were able to do it 3 times. Recently your videos are different, but for my mental health very appreciated. It's somehow calming that we all are struggling, but important message I hear from your videos is don't give up. Try to do your best to enjoy the good stuff in current situation. Sending some love from Czechia ❤.
I have 2 littles and this is how I feel. I also feel like I deal with ADD and things get overwhelming for me so easily. Being a mom is so hard. Thank you for sharing where you are really at. It sounds weird, but it's kinda refreshing I guess just knowing that I'm not the only one feeling this way.
YOU CAN DO HARD THINGS AND hard things don't equal bad things! You got this. You're doing a great job. Please do content on the crafts you're doing with the kiddos!
Hola from Southern Spain! I have a 14-month-old and just found out I’m pregnant with my second. I’ve followed you since my first pregnancy two years ago, and your content has been such a source of comfort and inspiration. I love how open and natural you are, and your values align so much with mine... breastfeeding, co-sleeping, being an at-home mama, and prioritising natural, sustainable choices. It hasn’t always been easy, and I’ve had to adapt along the way, but your journey reminds me I’m not alone. Now, with 2 under 2 on the way and my little one facing surgery and developmental challenges, I feel overwhelmed. I know I’ll be revisiting your videos for guidance and reassurance in the coming months. Thank you for sharing your story ❤ it’s made such a difference in mine. You’re truly amazing.
I enjoy all your content, but most of all I enjoy you. I'm also from MN and your way of communicating is so familiar and relatable. Thanks for sharing how you're doing.
What’s crazy is how although you’re in a slump, your content ALWAYS helps me when I’m my own. I’m a new mom and my son is 8 months now. I first found your videos about minimalism and must-have baby products. So happy to follow your account! ❤
Your realness has tremendously helped me over the last few months. Thank you for sharing the struggles and for encouraging a positive mindset. My husband told me the other day that he doesn’t know what flipped, but I seem happier and better than I have since I first became a mom two years ago. He didn’t know what flipped because everything he has tried to say to me to lift me up didn’t work. Know what it was? Your videos reframing my mindset. Thank you Also definitely not out of the baby trenches. Baby #2 due in a month! Please feel free to make more baby videos 👀😂😊
Okay. This means literally everything to me. That your husband noticed a shift?! I hope you feel a shift to. If I do nothing but hea help with this I’m satisfied. I KNOW that feeling of grumpy and of “oh dang I’m coming out of the trenches of my own demise” 🫶🫶
I think we all feel this way and not enough moms talk about it. It was a lot around this time with my 3rd too. I have 3 boys and am pregnant with my 4th, a girl! But the first year I feel like we need to take the pressure off of ourselves alot lol and just do the best you can, soak the babies up while they are little and try to do things that make you happy when you can too. Before I knew it I was through it, sure didn't feel that way around the 5to 12 month parts lol.
Thank you for being raw and honest. I’m right here with you in the trenches with 3 kids 4, 2 and 9weeks. Wow it’s a LOT right! Thankfully like you I have an amazingly supportive partner keeping me (mostly) sane!
Thanks for being so candid: It’s so real that you want to take time for yoga or something and can’t because your husband says the baby cried the whole time 😂 I just had my second 4.5 months ago and ya this stretch of time is rough. It’s like, we’re still sleep deprived and still nursing and still trying to get a routine and keep all of our kids healthy because cold and flu season is in full swing and it’s cold out. But everyone expects us to be back to normal. Nope. It’s just the season. It will get better soon. Hang in there mama. It’s ok to not be ok. I say though, even if baby isn’t thrilled to do some yoga or something you need. Take an uninterrupted nap and just tell everyone to not need you for a few hours and have nanny or hubs be on duty. It’ll be fine. They’ll figure it out. Baby will be ok too. ❤ your videos Don’t stress too much. Everything will be ok.
Shayla, I’m so grateful for you and all that you do. I binge watched your channel religiously while I was pregnant. And all your advice was sooooo helpful. I’m finally out of what felt like the hardest thing in my entire life ( newborn - 5 months) and starting to really love motherhood at the 9 month mark. I just want to encourage you and say thank you 😊
I love your description of caffeine from coffee 😂😂 i got an electric kettle and have been on a tea kick and it is cozy like coffee but the best part is that I can keep refilling my cup!!
“If they didn’t need me I would be sad. When they do need me, I’m like ‘please be independent kid’.” Relatable! ❤ Thank you for sharing. The first 6-10 months are really tough. Because baby needs you so frequently. Everything revolves around sleeping & nursing/feeding baby. I found that as baby got older…nursing & naps were a little more spaced out. It gave me a lot more room to wiggle & to breathe. You’re doing awesome mama!
Starting homeschooling content would be amazing! I apperciate content like this so much. It's relatable and doesn't make you feel like something is wrong with you after watching. Okay this normal having rough bouts is normal.
Shay.. my youngest is 2 now, and I relate to this almost probably 100% so thank you for being there all the way out on the table like you’ve always been. Can’t wait until spring time and we can get out of the house stay sane my friend.. ❤
I just had my second and he’s 5 months too and I’m literally drowning and grumpy all the time. I try to work from home as much as I can too but can never have a long stretch without distractions. And to make matters worse the whole house has been sick the entire month of January with terrible sleep as you can imagine. I don’t know how you do it with three because I’m not doing anything well with 2. Thanks for always being real.
Girl, I just like to watch you talk. About whatever! The content is YOU! 💪 and also, this whole picture you described in the video, I saw myself in such rich details, it´s crazy. So good to know we are not alone in this. So thank you for you sincerity.
I had a REALLY hard time with the transition from 1 to 2. Now I'm pregnant with #3 and this was just nice to hear. To know that struggling is ok and normal. My mom montra is "Everything is a phase" it's both good and sad but everything is a phase.
Mom of 1 and I hear you Girl. I Love your content and when I have breaks at work I watch your videos. Keep them coming. All you share is relevant SOOO TRUE and Gold. 💕💕💕
I can not relate to this more!!! You have spoken every word that goes through my head!! Shayla, thank you thank you thank you for putting yourself out there!
I don’t often comment on YoutTube videos, but I’m pretty sure this is the third comment I’ve posted on your channel (that’s big for me!). The reason why I want to comment is because I genuinely and so deeply thank you for making this content. I felt alone, like a failure, because I couldn’t (and still sometimes cannot) stay on top of the house and parent ONE baby. He’s almost 2yrs now, and he’s the light of my life, and I finally feel like positive mindset work is WORKING. And it’s content like yours, Shayla, that helps it stick in my brain. My emotions are more regulated, my partner and I fight less, and I can see my little boy for who he really is - loving, dependent, clever, and headstrong 😂
Hey Shayla, your content has always been helpful through my motherhood journey so far. I love how fast you talk and how raw your videos are. I can always relate to something in your videos. I've been in alot more this winter with my daughter because ei want to slow down. I have found moving from room to room for a bit helps with keeping her busy I also love yoga.. and most days do it with my toddler climbing on me or putting stickers on me etc.. Some ideas for future videos... maybe do a 5-10minute yoga with shayla Motherhood affirmations video for relaxation or for mood boosting, empowerment I hope you get out of your slum soon.. I know how it feels
Don’t be afraid to reach out to your doctor if you’re feeling down. Often only in retrospect do we realize how bad we’re feeling. PPD is no joke and can spring up months later, especially as breastfeeding ebbs and flows. Some video ideas: craft or indoor activities by various ages, yoga for pregnancy/postpartum/mom life, favorite toys or minimalist take on toys at various ages. Also, what’s worth saving from one kid to another. Hope you get out of your slump soon! Winter in Minnesota sounds tough
I love your videos! I feel like I can really relate to you even though I only have two kids… it’s hard. And then when it’s going great my anxiety makes me think I NEED SOMETHING to worry about! I’m currently in the fun phase of my baby is constantly pulling up to stand but also falling down super easily so I feel like I have to always be right there to catch her. Plus she’s breastfed to sleep and we bedshare. It’s hard when they are so dependent on us for everything ! Meanwhile I still want to make my 3 yr old’s life as enriching as possible, not have him watch tv all day although it can be a useful tool at times! You’re an amazing mom, and you’re not alone!
Thaaaaank you Shayla for being so opened! It helps me a loooot cuz I’m feeling exactly the same and I just have a 3 and half and a 1 and a half boys. ❤❤❤❤
Love your videos Shayla! Been watching since I was pregnant and now my baby is 6 weeks old. You provide me so much value. I don’t care if you have 3 ads in your video! Gotta support your fam
Hey lovely. Your videos certainly never feel like an add. They are short enough for us busy mums to watch them and you seem sooo very relatable because of the ups and downs we get to witness. Being a parent is a real rollarcoaster, I guess everyone who follows you is aware of that. We love you and you can do it.
I fully believe 4-9 months is the TRENCHES of motherhood. The newborn glow is gone, the exhaustion hasn't let up, the baby is still fully dependent on you and they aren't just sleeping through the day. You are so strong and NOT ALONE.
Thank you for that...I'm a ftm with a 6mo baby and I feel like it's been hard lately!
Yup! It’s also when postpartum anxiety and depression hits a lot of people hard without them realizing it.
Yupppppppppp
So true 😅
Agreed. I actually wait when bringing meals to support a new mom till around the 4 month mark cause I feel like everyone wants to bring something and come visit early and it can be overwhelming. By 4 months all the excitement from other people has worn off everyone expects you to be back to normal, us working moms are mostly back to work by then but your still not sleeping through the night if you breastfeeding you’re worrying about supply and pumping when your at work and your life is sty revolving around their 2hr at a time schedule. I feel like this is the time when a meal being dropped of is an unexpected delight. For a new mom in my neighborhood I also took her older child (2 yr old) for the day and went to the park with home and my daughter so she could have a day with just the baby during that phase.
“If they didn’t need me, that’d be sad, but also like, be independent kid” is what I think everyday all day 😂
Yes, yes!
In an age where social media lies so much about what motherhood is like, this video right here is amazing content Shayla, I'm sorry you feel down and I'm sorry your videos are not performing so well but when you post a video I run to watch it because I love how down to earth and honest you are, you are sooo relatable that it doesn't actually matter what you are talking about, you always bring something to the table, you are a super mamma with 3 small kids, breastfeeding, co sleeping, so on and so on! I couldn't do either of those with my son! Sending you hugs
Same!
Yes totally agree with this comment!!!
Do a craft idea video!! I need ideas! My kids are about the same age. And also, you're amazing! Thank you for all the raw and real videos. I feel way less crazy after watching these, knowing I'm not alone ❤
Yes this!
I have always appreciated how transparent and honest you are, Shayla. Thank you. Content idea: Would you and your sister ever do a video together (Q &A, how you do parenting differently, what you've learned about each other as moms, etc?)
This would be awesome!
love this idea!
Here to second this idea too!
New mom of 3 as well. Even if this video doesn’t “perform” like you want it to, just know that there is someone out there that is hearing what you have to say and so deeply appreciated it. This is the content is love because it truly makes me feel not so alone. I always worry that I’m not doing this right or good enough, but we are all doing our best and it seems like so many of us moms are on this wild ride together. So thank you for your honesty and thank you for being so real. ❤
If you have SAD, give yourself some grace to start your new year goals and resolutions in the Spring. March is the historical time that new beginnings were celebrated with the Solstice, in the Spring we have energy to accomplish our goals. Winter is for rest, recharge, low power mode, hibernate. Give yourself permission to match your environment, release the “I should be” guilt. You’re doing a great job!
I love this ❤❤
I needed this. Thank you!
What a great point
Yes!
I really needed this. 4 year old, 3 year old and a 6 month old and wow I feel like most of this video sounded like me ❤
This is awesome. I'm pregnant with my third and in the trenches of the first trimester while caring for 2 young kids. Hard is not always bad.
I'm one month postpartum with my first (and maybe only!) baby. This content- real raw conversation about how tough postpartum is, is the only kind of content that is getting me through this time. I'm watching this video painfully engorged with a pump attached to me at 6 am. Don't feel like you need...half way through typing that sentence I dropped the bottle off my pump and lost all my breastmilk 🫠. Anyway, don't feel like you need to cater to the algorithm- trust that your work will find the people who need it. I needed this!
Sleep deprivation along with a lack of outside time does numbers on your brain. Hang in there. You are doing great ❤
I think six months postpartum tends to be when I'm having the hardest time with every baby. But I'm pregnant with my fourth, and the best gift that experience has given me is the unwavering confidence that the difficult phases pass and we all adjust to what is now normal for our family. So I can really lean into the hard times knowing that it's temporary. It's always fleeting in hindsight but that doesn't make it easy while you're in it!
Can you share your experience and why 6m tends to be the hardest for you? I a ftm mom of 6mo and I'd love to hear the experience of another mom, it's been hard I need someone to relate to ahah
@jeuen6933 hi, I'm also a ftm with a 6mo old and have been feeling pretty burnt out lately, physically and emotionally exhausted all the time, I don't have the answer to your question but wanted to say you're not alone, being a mom is hard!
@jeuen6933 For me, around 6 months the baby is sleeping much less during the day and starts to have stronger opinions, kind of knows that they can cry to achieve a certain effect, and they're alert enough to know what they want but they can't communicate it yet. I am definitely one of those moms who has a difficult time letting a baby cry, and at 6 months they're still so much a baby. It takes me a few months to notice the changes and adjust to them and come up with strategies to work with that particular baby. And every baby is different! I'll tell you some things I've found helpful at this age. Or maybe closer to the 8 month mark depending on the baby.
When baby is sitting up and taking solids, I love to give them a whole whole mango pit. With the mango taken off. It's too big to choke on, it's slippery and once they get ahold of it, they'll chew on it for a long time to try to get all the mango off. Also when they can handle it, my babies would eat cooked plain corn on the cob for an hour easy.
Empty tissue boxes filled with smallish things to take out and put back in.
That's all I can think of right at this moment...
Good luck. It's a tough phase but it is so much fun when they can chat and understand, and that's coming!
Just thanku ❤
Shayla, I’m so proud of you. Being a mom is so hard. People without kids don’t get all the struggles moms go through. I’m proud of you for hanging in there, essentially when you feel like the chaos will never end, nights are long, and you have so little energy. Girl you have got this!! In a year it will be easier, but for now keep taking the little moments for yourself when you can. You are so strong you just need more time to yourself even in those 15minute yoga. You are gonna make it. You are doing great. We are all so proud of you girl.
You are totally on the cusp of the golden baby age. My youngest is 10 months and only now do I feel like I've come through it. Exiting newborn survival mode takes time. Just remember how with your last two, you suddenly were ready for the next baby. Wishing you the best!
I am literally twinning with you mentally. I am 2 months postpartum with my third baby. I love it here but also experiencing postpartum anxiety for the first time. I feel stuck at home but also hate leaving. I’m obsessed with motherhood but feel like I’ll never know myself again because my focus is all on my children and partner and when I try to take time for me outside of work and school (cause wtf did I go back to school???) i end up napping. Cause im physically and mentally exhausted. I know it’ll get better for us but right now im gonna hold on to your words that hard doesn’t mean bad.
Heyy sister!!! I’ll be praying for you for sure!! It’s ok to have off days for real! Just wanted to share something that has helped me in the past. I gave up yoga. And I was a yoga instructor for 8 years. For me personally, my faith and walk with God, learning to lean into the Holy Spirit more instead of chasing peace on a yoga mat really changed my life. Love you and keep doing what you love no matter what! ❤
Amen
I have a 4 yo, 2 yo, and an 8 week old and I feel this so hard. Indiana winters are also depressing and cold and being in the house trying to manage the baby’s naps and breastfeeding while managing the older two is like living in a time warp 🙃
😂😂😂 about the ADD: “oh it’s kind of cute, right? I can multitask like ALL THE TIME”…………. Same, girl, same. And then I hit the newborn through 9 months phase too and it wasn’t cute anymore either. 😂
Just want to throw this out there: sleep deprivation, lack of sunshine, and the first year of baby’s life is such a unique time that diagnosing yourself with something during this phase should be illegal (yes, I know “they” say that postpartum can magnify preexisting conditions…. But like… or we could just cut ourselves some slack?)
Thank you for the solidarity!! I come to your channel to receive your realistic positivity all the time when I’m feeling burnt out by my biggest blessings and this video really made me feel like that stage is normal, okay, and fleeting!!
Had my second child 8 weeks ago.
Had a second C-section. It's a STRUGGLE to multi-task and look after two kids and be tired a lot.
Yesterday i woke up feeling low and CRIED 😭😭😭 felt depressed and BURNTOUT. Went to a salon in the afternoon and felt BETTER.
Self-care is NECESSARY ❤
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Would highly recommend the book Hard is Not the Same Thing as Bad by Abbie Halberstadt. My baby no 5 is 4m old and I encourage you- I find each baby from 4-6 months is a hard time for me. I feel a lot better once they are like 7 months old.
I was thinking the same thing when she said hard doesn’t mean bad! I’ve read Abbie’s other book but am planning on reading that book this year!
I could not have related to this video more. Almost 4 year old, 2 year old and a 3 month old. It’s been so hard, but at the same time I’m incredibly grateful for my three children. I think their ages play a huge role in how we’re feeling. Motherhood is all consuming, especially when we do it this way (breastfeeding, bedsharing, homeschooling). Sending hugs and positivity your way. This video gave me so much comfort in knowing I’m not alone in this, so thank you for sharing Shayla!
I've got a 2½y a 9m and I'm 8 weeks pregnant. I definitely understand how you are feeling! God will get you through, He gave you those babies and knew that you were the mama that they needed out of all the mamas in the world. My MIL always tells me the times when her little ones were little was the hardest, but it was also the sweetest.
Literally my favourite video of you. I feel so seen. And it’s so relatable. I’m pregnant with my third so I’m gonna go through what you are but I’ll also use all your tools and mindset etc etc. Seth sounds just amazing. Keep it real these videos are my favourite. You’re still hilarious even when you’re slumpin’ sis. So you’re amazing too. You’ve got this. We’ve got this! X
Survival mode is okay too!! It makes you appreciate it so much more when it gets easier. Hugs to you!!
And that's not to dismiss how hard it is. It feels like a never ending marathon. You are doing amazing and look great and made a video!!!!
I feel like these videos are needed for other mothers having a hard time too. It makes us feel not alone! Thank you!!
I'm here to say I feel you. I'm a FTM with a 6mo old. She is so clingy at this point my only time to myself is my drive to work and sometimes my shower in the morning. She has gotten to the point where I cannot leave her to sleep alone at all. All naps are contact naps and we co-sleep. I work full time and my Mom watches her while I work. My husband helps but all she wants is Mommy right now. So as soon as she sees that I am home I'm IT. I love it and it's also hard...so I feel you ❤️
“I feel like I’m doing a lot but I’m not doing anything well.”
AMEN. My baby is five months & we also have a two year old daughter. I felt this confession to my core. If one more person tells me the days are long but the years fly by…. 😅Solidarity!
I’m on baby #2 … 3 year old and 6 month old. Been watching you since I was pregnant with my first. You have made me feel 10x better countless times about countless things. Somehow your video topics are always exactly what I need to hear exactly when I need to hear them. Every time that happens I think how I wish you had a you for you (lol not a typo) because truly I’ll be stressed and then your video makes me realize I’m not the only one and that is just so comforting to know this is all part of this stage of life. You’re like my cliff notes for parenting and motherhood. So thank you so much for your content. It is making a difference. ❤
The constant duality and push & pull of motherhood is exhausting isn't it? Whew! You're doing great
I have a 2 year old and a 2 month old and my toddler is in full time daycare and I still feel like I’m going crazy. You are amazing you are doing it all with 3!
Just wanted to send you a hug. Mom of two, but my brain is overloaded all the time. You are doing your best!
I resonate with so much of this, just as a stay at home mom of two! I’m pregnant with our third and when he or she is born, I’ll have a 4 year old & 2 year old (both girls), so I just love getting a peak at what the future could hold- the good, the bad, the unexpected, all of it! Thank you for being so real and honest, you’re such a blessing to so many of us mom out here. Solidarity, sister. ❤️
Probably the most helpful of all your videos Ive seen in the last couple of years. You’re not alone friend, we’re still here watching. I appreciate your videos so much!
Fresh mom of two (baby #2 just turned a month) and I just want to say, I love watching your stuff because we too are a growing family and going through same challenges. Please keep the hippie dippie content, cloth diapering, EC, ect. Coming. Your channel is great. And you’re doing great. I watch you during nap time while I crochet for a little and feel like I’m hanging with a friend. You’re right, moming is hard but not bad. I’m right there with you. Thank you for your content. And thank you for being honest and authentic.
Not even finished the video yet and all can say is how much I needed this video today. 8 months PP and have been grateful for you for a good year. Truly favorite RUclipsr lately. Thank you for the honesty. Always.
You're one of my favorite channels on youtube. I always feel so encouraged and inspired by you. I get where you're at right now completely!! It's so hard even though we are so grateful for it all. Prayers for things to get a little easier for you. ❤
Talk more about the struggle and the realness of motherhood! It’s so relatable!
Hey Shayla, I met you last summer at the pool and our two girls and boy were born just ahead of your littles. These videos continue to be such a funny mirror into our life. Just wanted to say thank you for your honesty- it is truly felt and appreciated. Three sick kids and Minnesota winter is just WOW. Our son just turned one and I am finally getting some windows back to myself again. Around the time he was your baby’s age I decided I needed to figure out what the hell brought ME joy in this phase of life. It started small (turning on music and singing in the shower small) but now that he’s a little older it’s been fun to explore hobbies again. I’m swimming this winter and it’s been life changing. You will get there. Just wanted to say thanks for talking about the hard too and send you some solidarity. And a hope that spring comes soon for all of us.
I love the vulnerability! I have been in the same boat and currently have a 1 and 3 year old. My kitchen dance parties have been a saving grace in the SAD season we’re in. I need sun and funny reels. This too shall pass! Trying the find the gratitude in everything as well. Love you girl! You got this!
You will get through this season! You are not alone and are an encouragement to SO many women. Stay connected and take breaks when possible. Its okay to NOT be okay. Comparison is the thief of joy. You are an amazing mom and wife even when its difficult. ❤
Shayla, you’re rocking it!!!! That’s all. You’re a mama!! You’re amazing!! It gets easier. Remember it takes one FULL YEAR!!!! To get out of the trenches. It’s an endurance. Be so so kind to yourself.
“I’m doing a lot but not doing any of it well” strikes such a chord. Three months PP with my first baby and resonate with much of what you said here. I love all your content, especially your advice around mindset- that has already helped me so much in motherhood! I always leave your videos either feeling informed, inspired, or seen. Thank you for being real with the good and the bad. So glad I found your channel!
the more external resistance, the harder it is
the more external encouragement, the easier
You are so encouraging to us, even to know you are in a hard (not bad) place, and are literally doing ALL the things and actually aiming to do it well means we aren't the only ones. Yours and Jess Hover's channels have been on repeat for me to be like it's okay to admit the hard and ask for help, and still do all you can to keep a positive mindset. Sending lots of kindness and love your way, Shay!
I found you during my first pregnancy when you were pregnant with your second. I just had my second 6 months ago. I feel like we are going through motherhood together. I love seeing how real you are with your struggles. You are not alone. We all have bad days and mom brain is so real. Don’t put on a mask to try to be “entertaining” I’d much rather you share how you are feeling and what you are going through. So many influences act like they have everything figured out and perfect. With you I feel like I’m catching up with a friend who can be who she is and share what she is actually dealing with. Thank you for that ❤you are doing great
6 months postpartum was the hardest for me, especially for my summer babies when that time lined up with the cold Northern WI winters. It always seemed like things should be back to normal and be getting easier when that wasnt the case.
I found your channel when I was pregnant with my fourth kiddo, now over 4 years ago. You were always refreshing and I enjoyed your (slightly nieve) perspective and enthusiasm in those videos. When I saw the title of this video I had to watch it right away because I thought 'shes arrived'! Motherhood is no joke and feels like trudging through mud at times. In my experience kids get easier between the ages of 5-7, they start doing more for themselves but are still really fun and you see the fruit of your labor.
Find yourself some good mom friends that are in the trenches with you. Enjoy the stable hormones that come with lactation (cant wait for your my 'period came back/I'm hemorrhaging' video post baby #3). And keep keeping it real. You're awesome!
I feeeeel you. This is where my brain is at! 1.5 yr pp and 18 wks pregnant. Feeling so lost in motherhood. Hard is not the same thing as bad book has helped IMMENSELY for me. Also getting my thyroid tested and finding I’ve got a problem helped like crazy with my mood. I really appreciate your honesty ❤ keep on going. God bless you!
I’m just started the motherhood phase of life so I still love and appreciate all of your baby and kiddo content. ❤
I found your channel when I was pregnant with my son. He’s now 2 years old but you have helped me so much through my motherhood journey and has really shaped who I am as a mom. From your advice to your parenting stories. Any time I see you post a new video I watch it right away! So thank you for consistently showing up even when life gets hard! I struggle with my one, three is such an accomplishment. Remember to give yourself grace.❤
I have felt this way ever since I had my daughter 3 years ago. And she's the only child we're going to have, I don't know how people have multiple children.
The guilt takes over and it's hard.
You always seem to pull out of these slumps, I hope that happens soon for you and you start to feel productive in every part of your life!
The caffeine information was very interesting. I feel the same way as you with the scattered thoughts, but literally don't know if I could give it up! I'll have to try the decaf!
Thanks for always being honest Shayla 💕
Thank you for sharing such a raw and transparent video-it’s so powerful to see someone openly navigating the journey from resenting motherhood to finding joy in it. Your vulnerability is truly inspiring, and I’m sure it resonates with so many moms like me!!
Here are a couple of mindset flips that have helped me:
1. Viewing difficult moments as opportunities to learn about ourselves and grow as parents. I like to use the word difficult instead of hard because it acknowledges levels of challenge rather than feeling rigid or insurmountable. It reminds me that these moments are fluid and can change.
2. When you feel in a slump with creating content or life in general, remind yourself that even small steps forward count. Celebrate the progress you’ve already made and consider revisiting your purpose-why you started sharing your journey in the first place.
I’d also love to see a video about actionable steps you took to move from resentment to joy in motherhood. It could be incredibly helpful for moms who feel stuck in the early, challenging phases. Other topics could include tips on finding small joys in everyday chaos or how you handle moments when resentment creeps back in.
Thank you again for sharing your journey-it’s a reminder that we’re not alone in the ups and downs of motherhood!
I like your verbiage pivot from, “Get it together,” to “What do you need to get it together?” ❤
Hard and what we want are totally hand in hand all the time. I feel so many of these feels right now.
For content- just speaking for myself and idk what helps your channel but I’m pregnant with my first and was watching your stuff for a while since we WANTED to be pregnant and had to wait. So I’m still here for the kiddo stuff as you like 😊 I would appreciate an updated elimination communication video … how that changed/didn’t with multiples…. If you’re doing it with your son and any differences vs girls… etc etc.
have a good day ❤
I needed to hear another mom be honest about this season- thank you Shayla! I love your videos and content, every week I feel like “YES! I so relate”. My second is 4 months old today, and I have a 2.5 year old and it is so hard in this season, baby’s ok but the toddler - WOOF. The novelty of baby has worn off at this stage and it is meltdown city and sleepless nights 24/7 for everyone. So hard. I’m in ND so I can relate to the bitterly cold winter and not being able to get out for EVERYONES sanity. I feel you. Hang in there - 3 months from now when the Midwest spring comes, hopefully we’ll be in a better place! Sending love and good vibes your way! Lord knows all us moms need it!
We have 2 kids, very close in age to your youngest 2 (an almost 6 month old and a 2.5-year-old). I'm tandem nursing both of them, and boy it's hard. They both need me so much in different ways, and I have continued to support them to sleep, so we are tired over here 😅 You're doing an amazing job! I've loved watching your videos for the last 3 years, It's raw and real.
It is so hard to create stellar content when you aren't "feeling it". I think the fact that you have let your audience know you is so valuable! Your content is you and your thoughts and you share so much that so many moms feel but don't express!
I also have a 4, 2, and 6 month old! This made me feel a lot better because we’ve also felt very cooped up and overwhelmed. I think when we can’t get outside because it’s cold, it is a lot harder on everyone.
The first year is so tough for me too….. there are tiny improvements before then but really that first year is so tough. I have a 3 y/o and an 11mth old. I could never go through that 1st year again. Thanks for being honest and making me feel not alone!
Girl, thank you for sharing your true feelings. I just had my first baby and she’s 4 months old now. I wanna have a few more kids and it is definitely difficult. Keep your head up, you got this! Don’t overwork yourself, and just enjoy life. It sounds like you have a beautiful life and you know what you have to be grateful for. ❤
Shayla you have just expressed everything I have felt since I had my 2nd baby 9 months ago and I feel less alone. Thank you for being honest, your videos make a difference!
Mother of one, who's one year old and this was still great content for me because it's honest, real and raw. And I could relate to A LOT.. That is precious and encouraging. Solidarity yes.
Conflicting ideas, paradoxical thoughts, good and hard... Jumbled mins. ADD tendencies (like having 16 squirrels in my head all the time) but I've also been working on quieting them down.
Holding you for all the allness, it's a lot. I feel like there's something in the matrescence books that explain the changes in brain and how so many things feel harder. But, no time to read it!
Hugs and love from UK!
This is stellar content. I have a 4 yo, 2 yo, and 8 week old. We are also in the Midwest. This is hard. It will pass. You are not alone.
Thank you for this video. I have just one boy - 2 year old and currently pregnant and I feel terrible, all day long sickness. You are superwoman, that you were able to do it 3 times. Recently your videos are different, but for my mental health very appreciated. It's somehow calming that we all are struggling, but important message I hear from your videos is don't give up. Try to do your best to enjoy the good stuff in current situation. Sending some love from Czechia ❤.
I have 2 littles and this is how I feel. I also feel like I deal with ADD and things get overwhelming for me so easily. Being a mom is so hard. Thank you for sharing where you are really at. It sounds weird, but it's kinda refreshing I guess just knowing that I'm not the only one feeling this way.
YOU CAN DO HARD THINGS AND hard things don't equal bad things! You got this. You're doing a great job. Please do content on the crafts you're doing with the kiddos!
Hola from Southern Spain!
I have a 14-month-old and just found out I’m pregnant with my second. I’ve followed you since my first pregnancy two years ago, and your content has been such a source of comfort and inspiration.
I love how open and natural you are, and your values align so much with mine... breastfeeding, co-sleeping, being an at-home mama, and prioritising natural, sustainable choices.
It hasn’t always been easy, and I’ve had to adapt along the way, but your journey reminds me I’m not alone. Now, with 2 under 2 on the way and my little one facing surgery and developmental challenges, I feel overwhelmed. I know I’ll be revisiting your videos for guidance and reassurance in the coming months.
Thank you for sharing your story ❤ it’s made such a difference in mine. You’re truly amazing.
I love you, been here for 3 years and clock immediately when I see you
My boy is 3 haha found you and you are the reason I did cloth diapering, EC, hypnobabies etc
I enjoy all your content, but most of all I enjoy you. I'm also from MN and your way of communicating is so familiar and relatable. Thanks for sharing how you're doing.
What’s crazy is how although you’re in a slump, your content ALWAYS helps me when I’m my own. I’m a new mom and my son is 8 months now. I first found your videos about minimalism and must-have baby products. So happy to follow your account! ❤
Your realness has tremendously helped me over the last few months. Thank you for sharing the struggles and for encouraging a positive mindset. My husband told me the other day that he doesn’t know what flipped, but I seem happier and better than I have since I first became a mom two years ago. He didn’t know what flipped because everything he has tried to say to me to lift me up didn’t work. Know what it was? Your videos reframing my mindset. Thank you
Also definitely not out of the baby trenches. Baby #2 due in a month! Please feel free to make more baby videos 👀😂😊
Okay. This means literally everything to me. That your husband noticed a shift?! I hope you feel a shift to. If I do nothing but hea help with this I’m satisfied. I KNOW that feeling of grumpy and of “oh dang I’m coming out of the trenches of my own demise” 🫶🫶
I think we all feel this way and not enough moms talk about it. It was a lot around this time with my 3rd too. I have 3 boys and am pregnant with my 4th, a girl! But the first year I feel like we need to take the pressure off of ourselves alot lol and just do the best you can, soak the babies up while they are little and try to do things that make you happy when you can too. Before I knew it I was through it, sure didn't feel that way around the 5to 12 month parts lol.
Thank you for being raw and honest. I’m right here with you in the trenches with 3 kids 4, 2 and 9weeks. Wow it’s a LOT right! Thankfully like you I have an amazingly supportive partner keeping me (mostly) sane!
Thanks for being so candid:
It’s so real that you want to take time for yoga or something and can’t because your husband says the baby cried the whole time 😂
I just had my second 4.5 months ago and ya this stretch of time is rough. It’s like, we’re still sleep deprived and still nursing and still trying to get a routine and keep all of our kids healthy because cold and flu season is in full swing and it’s cold out. But everyone expects us to be back to normal. Nope.
It’s just the season. It will get better soon.
Hang in there mama. It’s ok to not be ok. I say though, even if baby isn’t thrilled to do some yoga or something you need. Take an uninterrupted nap and just tell everyone to not need you for a few hours and have nanny or hubs be on duty. It’ll be fine. They’ll figure it out. Baby will be ok too.
❤ your videos
Don’t stress too much. Everything will be ok.
This makes me feel better as a mom and not alone! Thanks for sharing!!
Shayla, I’m so grateful
for you and all that you do. I binge watched your channel religiously while I was pregnant. And all your advice was sooooo helpful. I’m finally out of what felt like the hardest thing in my entire life ( newborn - 5 months) and starting to really love motherhood at the 9 month mark. I just want to encourage you and say thank you 😊
"Doing a lot, but none of it well." YESSS
I love your description of caffeine from coffee 😂😂 i got an electric kettle and have been on a tea kick and it is cozy like coffee but the best part is that I can keep refilling my cup!!
“If they didn’t need me I would be sad. When they do need me, I’m like ‘please be independent kid’.” Relatable! ❤
Thank you for sharing. The first 6-10 months are really tough. Because baby needs you so frequently. Everything revolves around sleeping & nursing/feeding baby. I found that as baby got older…nursing & naps were a little more spaced out. It gave me a lot more room to wiggle & to breathe. You’re doing awesome mama!
I watch you because you are honest and raw. I love your video because I feel connected and comfortable in my motherhood when I watch your videos.
Starting homeschooling content would be amazing!
I apperciate content like this so much. It's relatable and doesn't make you feel like something is wrong with you after watching. Okay this normal having rough bouts is normal.
I’m sorry you’re going through it, girl! Thanks for inspiring us to be our best!❤ You’ve got this, mama!!
My kids are the same age as yours. My youngest is 6.5 months now. Right there with you girl ❤ sorry we’re going through it
Shay.. my youngest is 2 now, and I relate to this almost probably 100% so thank you for being there all the way out on the table like you’ve always been. Can’t wait until spring time and we can get out of the house stay sane my friend.. ❤
I just had my second and he’s 5 months too and I’m literally drowning and grumpy all the time. I try to work from home as much as I can too but can never have a long stretch without distractions. And to make matters worse the whole house has been sick the entire month of January with terrible sleep as you can imagine. I don’t know how you do it with three because I’m not doing anything well with 2. Thanks for always being real.
Girl, I just like to watch you talk. About whatever! The content is YOU! 💪 and also, this whole picture you described in the video, I saw myself in such rich details, it´s crazy. So good to know we are not alone in this. So thank you for you sincerity.
I had a REALLY hard time with the transition from 1 to 2. Now I'm pregnant with #3 and this was just nice to hear. To know that struggling is ok and normal. My mom montra is "Everything is a phase" it's both good and sad but everything is a phase.
I have just one 15 month old. Doing everything not very well, story of my life?! Maybe. 😂 Love your videos. Sending love cuz I have no advice. 😅❤
Mom of 1 and I hear you Girl. I Love your content and when I have breaks at work I watch your videos. Keep them coming. All you share is relevant SOOO TRUE and Gold. 💕💕💕
Crying while watching this because I know I’m not alone 💛
I can not relate to this more!!! You have spoken every word that goes through my head!!
Shayla, thank you thank you thank you for putting yourself out there!
I don’t often comment on YoutTube videos, but I’m pretty sure this is the third comment I’ve posted on your channel (that’s big for me!). The reason why I want to comment is because I genuinely and so deeply thank you for making this content.
I felt alone, like a failure, because I couldn’t (and still sometimes cannot) stay on top of the house and parent ONE baby. He’s almost 2yrs now, and he’s the light of my life, and I finally feel like positive mindset work is WORKING. And it’s content like yours, Shayla, that helps it stick in my brain. My emotions are more regulated, my partner and I fight less, and I can see my little boy for who he really is - loving, dependent, clever, and headstrong 😂
I feel u, i would tell u its really! Just a season in ur life especially with a new baby… its gonna pass thankfully! 😅🌹
Hey Shayla, your content has always been helpful through my motherhood journey so far. I love how fast you talk and how raw your videos are. I can always relate to something in your videos.
I've been in alot more this winter with my daughter because ei want to slow down. I have found moving from room to room for a bit helps with keeping her busy
I also love yoga.. and most days do it with my toddler climbing on me or putting stickers on me etc..
Some ideas for future videos... maybe do a 5-10minute yoga with shayla
Motherhood affirmations video for relaxation or for mood boosting, empowerment
I hope you get out of your slum soon.. I know how it feels
I would love to see yoga videos! when I was pregnant/postpartum I would have loved yoga content. even now just some chill mom vibes would be great
Don’t be afraid to reach out to your doctor if you’re feeling down. Often only in retrospect do we realize how bad we’re feeling. PPD is no joke and can spring up months later, especially as breastfeeding ebbs and flows.
Some video ideas: craft or indoor activities by various ages, yoga for pregnancy/postpartum/mom life, favorite toys or minimalist take on toys at various ages. Also, what’s worth saving from one kid to another.
Hope you get out of your slump soon! Winter in Minnesota sounds tough
My second is 3 months old, so I feel you. Thank you for still being here and sharing your struggles. It is hard
I love your videos! I feel like I can really relate to you even though I only have two kids… it’s hard. And then when it’s going great my anxiety makes me think I NEED SOMETHING to worry about! I’m currently in the fun phase of my baby is constantly pulling up to stand but also falling down super easily so I feel like I have to always be right there to catch her. Plus she’s breastfed to sleep and we bedshare. It’s hard when they are so dependent on us for everything ! Meanwhile I still want to make my 3 yr old’s life as enriching as possible, not have him watch tv all day although it can be a useful tool at times!
You’re an amazing mom, and you’re not alone!
Couldn’t have said it better myself!
Thaaaaank you Shayla for being so opened! It helps me a loooot cuz I’m feeling exactly the same and I just have a 3 and half and a 1 and a half boys. ❤❤❤❤
Wow I never related to a video that much ever. Thank you Shayla for being so real and making me feel so validated 🩷
I hear you. Sending hugs.
Love your videos Shayla! Been watching since I was pregnant and now my baby is 6 weeks old. You provide me so much value. I don’t care if you have 3 ads in your video! Gotta support your fam
Hey lovely. Your videos certainly never feel like an add. They are short enough for us busy mums to watch them and you seem sooo very relatable because of the ups and downs we get to witness. Being a parent is a real rollarcoaster, I guess everyone who follows you is aware of that. We love you and you can do it.