OP really was a doormat for most of this. I'd have made it clear early on that "my volunteer time is important to me and I won't be belittled into leaving behind something that means a lot to me. If you have a problem with me trying to help disadvantaged kids, you're free to leave."
When your values are this fundamentally different, the relationship has no future. She essentially told OP that orphans are not worthy of attention or respect, which inadvertently applies to him as well, especially since he aged out of the system without being adopted.
The girlfriend in this story is incredibly selfish and lacking understanding. Not only does she disrespect the meaningful volunteer work, but she also tries to sabotage her boyfriend's relationship for selfish and shallow reasons. Asking someone to give up an important part of their life for the sake of one's own personal comfort is unacceptable and toxic behavior.
OP really was a doormat for most of this. I'd have made it clear early on that "my volunteer time is important to me and I won't be belittled into leaving behind something that means a lot to me. If you have a problem with me trying to help disadvantaged kids, you're free to leave."
When she showed who she was, why didn't OP believe her? Why did he let the situation keep escalating?
She's jealous of kids how gross
When your values are this fundamentally different, the relationship has no future. She essentially told OP that orphans are not worthy of attention or respect, which inadvertently applies to him as well, especially since he aged out of the system without being adopted.
Op is dumb for even staying with her after she literally called orphans gross. It makes him look bad for staying ngl
How many times does she have to degrade the kids before he stands up?
You ought to adopt a child from the orphanage.
The girlfriend in this story is incredibly selfish and lacking understanding. Not only does she disrespect the meaningful volunteer work, but she also tries to sabotage her boyfriend's relationship for selfish and shallow reasons. Asking someone to give up an important part of their life for the sake of one's own personal comfort is unacceptable and toxic behavior.