Hi Jacob, I'm so grateful that you're here and sharing all of these things. I really am. And I'm sorry for what you had to go through, especially with your mom. But I think you should be very proud of yourself, of what you've accomplished, and the fact that you can talk about it openly in your situation, and at the same time give people in the comments so much love, and that you are respectful of people whose comments aren't. I can't imagine what a great person you'll be when you get out of this, because the light you have inside is already gigantic. 💛🌟🐘
I can tell that your inner child has been hurt so much by the behavior of your mom (I assume your dad too). I’m so sorry that your mom doesn’t take accountability for the harm she’s potentially caused. Even if she DID NOTHING WRONG, it’s still a parent’s job to make sure their child feels safe, loved, and heard, and like you said…she didn’t show up as a mother :( I hope you continue to work with that inner child part of yourself. I think that little boy would be so proud of you for being so brave and speaking your truth ❤ Now you can give your inner child the validation you’ve always deserved. It seems to me that a lot of parents are so stuck in their old cycles of behavior and old ways of thinking, like they’ve given up on trying to better themselves. And narcissistic parents don’t even believe that they could ever do anything wrong. It’s not fair and not okay for parents to take out all of their stress and anger on their children. Also, I HATE that she called the slamming doors “abuse” ?? And then proceeds to spew hate and fear at you 😞 I hope she gets the help she needs. Suicide threats are fucking crazy (I had an ex who did that like once a month) NONE of this shit is your fault. She’s not acting as a safe parent. It makes me wonder about her pills…
rachel u kinda said it perfectly. im very proud of who ive become and how brave ive been. this is all still new for me as ive never acted in this way in my life. and none of my family members know how to take accountability. even though im an adult, im still their child and thats what ive always said, so i should still be receiving that nurturance, love, and support. u can say u support me, u just want me to have a job, and then proceed to do those things, say those things, and treat me in that way. its unacceptable. and narcissists are afraid of the mirror. i think i always moved boldly and authentically through my life up until a certain point, and light irritates demons. all i know is in disowning anyone that acts in that way. i want love & light in my life, and everyday i dont choose that is a waste of a day im grateful to have my life and be alive, so i wanna make the most of my time & my energy
@ I’m so glad you realized all of this at a young age. I see so many similarities in my own life when compared to yours, which is comforting in some way. My family was shocked when I finally started using my own voice and speaking my truth. It’s been a few years and they’re still not used to it 😂 my mom always says “Where did I get you from?!” And I tell her “The very depths of burning hell” lmao
Hi friend. It's Frana. If this helps... I have 5 adult children. 4 boys and a daughter. I butt heads with my daughter. She's is very cold and disrespectful towards me. I feel like a failure to her. No mother is perfect. I've also had to go through some hard times with the 4 boys. While one turned out to be successful in NYC. One was murdered over drugs and money. One is alcoholic in prison. My youngest is gay and he's estranged from his siblings, not because he's gay we love him unconditionally, but he decided to get into meth and now has hiv. So my other kids shun him. I'm closest to him because he needs me the most. When he's around, I try to get him to work, but he can't hold down a job because of the drug addiction. I've been through some really rough times with all my adult childre, but I'll never give up on them. I feel that you are such a sweet, harmless person. I'm praying that you find peace and contentment. I know you have love inside your heart. But we can't let people disrespect us. I get that 💯. Maybe this is too much to share, but I wanted you to know life is hard for so many of us. Your problems are different, but we all hurt and have our own cross to bear. ❤️ This world is harder on some than others. If it wasn't for my faith, I'd not be here. Hugs !
hi frana ❤ i enjoy hearing from u, and im so so sorry about the hardships youve experienced in your life, i cant imagine if i was in your shoes but you are such a strong woman, and i feel so grateful to have someone like you to not only talk to but to have support my page. all we can do is keep going. i have so much love & empathy for you & your family situation. and im sorry about the loss of your son. the relationship you have with your daughter sounds very similar to my mom and my sister. so through experience its safe to say that any form of drama effects the other children. all kids want is that “perfect” family, we want peace. and no matter our age, we still have that inner child within us all. i hope youve found ways to nurture yours, and please remember i am always here for u. thank u for being brave & sharing, and ill continue to do the same. i love u ❤
i feel you so much in this video it actually made me cry. i feel so held back by my family and their constant negativity and drama. my parents have given me everything like an education and a beautiful house but they isolated me my whole life. i was never allowed to see my friends really ever and they never made an effort to have an emotional connection to me, especially my father. I feel like i dont know who I am because of that, i just dont have the balls or the money to leave. thank you for being so vulnerable in the video, you are so incredibly strong. the fact that you gave all of your effort to work through your family relationship shows how much love you have in your heart. the text message your mother gave you is so unforgiveable. i truly wish the best for you.
i feel u nicoletta, and thank u for seeing me & being here ❤ i appreciate ur courage to share, family will say theyve given a lot, and they have, but the intention is not always pure. giving us things physically or financially as a means to control us doesnt mean its a nice gesture to be grateful for, because the intention is wrong and it ends up causing us more pain than good in the end, im always here for u and completely see & understand ur situation. hang in there. go your own pace, recognizing how u really feel is already a massive step in the right direction ❤ i love u
Sorry! I get it! It's too hard when you can't talk to your mom cause they have their own issues...I grew up with a mother like that, thankfully when it got really bad I was able to move in with a grandma..Thanks for sharing!!❤
You seem a little delusional about life, Everyone has their own self problems “My Auntie Voice” You are grown you can’t blame others for the rest of your life… and everyone can’t be the problem is what my mom used to tell me… Also you can’t live anywhere for free but Outside and that’s not exactly free either, Your expectations about a job are very unrealistic 😬 Anywho you are beautiful Good Luck with your life plans
@@tammylanae3066 I don’t think he’s trying to just throw “blame” onto others. He escaped an unsafe family situation. He’s just trying to share his story so others might relate to it. A lot of people have been asking why he’s choosing to live in his car temporarily. He feels safer by himself in his car than he did living with family members.
@@rachelspencer777 i was having trouble understanding what this person was trying to say caus they weren’t super clear but I think they are quoting their mother thus sharing common trauma with Jacob
@ The way I read it was that she was calling him “a little delusional about life” and he needs to take ownership of his own life and stop blaming others…but now idk 🤷🏼♀️
thank u for ur prayers rachel! ive relocated because of new fires showing up but still in LA, ill do what i have to in order to be safe. ill keep u updated, and thank u for checking in on me 🥺 that means alot
Jacob, I just want to say that I’m sorry that your family life was so unstable and it seems like it was really lonely for you. I’m beginning to see what led you to living in the car. I hope that you’re safe during the fires in California. Praying for you, Jacob
heidi! good to see u, im grateful for ur constant love and support it helps me greatly during this time. theres so much going on in the world but the fires seem to be getting better. i think ill be fine. thank u for taking the time to watch & see where im coming from. i love u and always appreciate u ❤
@@tammylanae3066 Parents did this a lot in the 80s/90s growing up. If a parent doesn't like that you have closed or locked doors then the next time that door is open, they would just completely remove that door off the frame. That is completely a more appropriate reaction than breaking down a door.
@@florafuryand i understand breaking it down if u were genuinely terrified that something bad happened. but that feeling completely left the moment she saw me, it was a really displaced reaction and i was really confused on how to feel
She's the parent. She should be the bigger person at the end of the day and find out what's going on with her child. Not completely being unattached. From your story, it sounds like your mom may have a personality disorder.
Look up Narcissist abuse. You describe yourself as a caretaker/giver a lot which is a common trait of someone who has survived narcissist abuse. In the past, you may have found that narcissist trait to be normal hence why even in your friendships, these personality types keep getting drawn to you. It is great that you're realizing it is not normal and breaking free from it. Some people don't find this out until they are a lot older. So, you're on the right track, Jacob.
Also to threaten to call the police on your Black child in the South. In Florida. And to say and know exactly what she is doing. That is so fucked up. I'm so sorry you experienced that. It looks like you are interracial like I am. Not sure if your mom is white. But that's really fucked up. Extra love to you.
After your description of your mom and her threatening to call the cops (and know exactly what the repercussions of that would be to her child in the South), your home life does not sound safe at all. Please consider if things get really rough on the road, going to a shelter if you need to. Temperatures are getting colder. Not sure how things are setup in LA. But in my city we have a youth shelter that is up to 24 years of age. Not sure how old you are.
ur 100% on the dot right flora. the parent has responsibilities, its a LIFELONG commitment. age not in question, i dont need to be raised, i just need to be loved, and shown that love in a way thats not evil or twisted, and she most likely does. regardless, its not justified (but u already know that) thank u for seeing me & getting it, it feels healing to be seen & heard by a community of people, and thats something ill always hold onto
Jacob, I wish you to remember that **No One** will Advocate for YOU better than Jacob 😊 I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, when it comes to “family”, Protek ya Neck AND your Peace at ALL times 😂 You cannot Make people happy no matter What you do. If you gave them the WorLd on a Silver Platter, would it even Matter? You made the Correct Choice when you chose to be unhoused. In effect, you CHOSE your Peace over chaos and confusion. ALso, if someone Genuinely desires to HeLp or to Support you in your Life, either they will or they won’t. It should not be solely dependent upon whether or not “you get a job”. Of course, if you’re staying with family or friends, you should expect to contribute to the household in whatever way that you can (doing household chores, cooking, purchasing food, etc). Personally, I don’t Prefer to reside with ANYONE 😂 because it’s True the old saying that “Familiarity breeds contempt”. I’d much rather live in my car (when I had one 😂) or go to the shelter BEFORE I will ever choose to live under someone else’s roof again. People turn into Monsters when they feeL you are dependent upon them.
thank u for this rene 😊 and i always appreciate ur love on the videos. ur absolutely right, and it wouldnt matter. when ur conditioned to overgive, vipers will always want more more more. ive just hit a point where i have no more to give. especially if im being told i dont give. theres more peace in giving to ourselves when we are in relation to people to dont express gratitude. its ugly energy that im grateful to step away from. i still have my mom & my sister reach out calling me on no caller ids, it really puts more into perspective than i originally noted.
Jacob, thank you for your videos. Your experiences and words bring me some healing to my soul, especially when it comes down to feeling invalidated with your own family. I’m so sorry that you have had to experience and endure that terror from your mom, her threatening to take her own life and your father boiling it down to “you need to get a job” is ballistic and I’m happy that you escaped that terrible place. Things will get better and I feel as though you have a divine mission here on Earth that all ties into your struggles. Thank you, keep speaking your truth, it brings peace and know that you’re not alone, empath. 🤍🧿
thank u for the love & for being here moon 🤍 i also greatly appreciate u sharing the video, it helps a lot. i trust that everything is happening how its supposed to, even if it doesnt “make sense” to what meets the eye. im gonna keep going and take action on whatever the divine tells me to do. glad we can be here together in these ugly moments within the world ❤ im here for u
Hi Jacob, I'm so grateful that you're here and sharing all of these things. I really am. And I'm sorry for what you had to go through, especially with your mom. But I think you should be very proud of yourself, of what you've accomplished, and the fact that you can talk about it openly in your situation, and at the same time give people in the comments so much love, and that you are respectful of people whose comments aren't. I can't imagine what a great person you'll be when you get out of this, because the light you have inside is already gigantic. 💛🌟🐘
I can tell that your inner child has been hurt so much by the behavior of your mom (I assume your dad too). I’m so sorry that your mom doesn’t take accountability for the harm she’s potentially caused. Even if she DID NOTHING WRONG, it’s still a parent’s job to make sure their child feels safe, loved, and heard, and like you said…she didn’t show up as a mother :( I hope you continue to work with that inner child part of yourself. I think that little boy would be so proud of you for being so brave and speaking your truth ❤ Now you can give your inner child the validation you’ve always deserved. It seems to me that a lot of parents are so stuck in their old cycles of behavior and old ways of thinking, like they’ve given up on trying to better themselves. And narcissistic parents don’t even believe that they could ever do anything wrong. It’s not fair and not okay for parents to take out all of their stress and anger on their children. Also, I HATE that she called the slamming doors “abuse” ?? And then proceeds to spew hate and fear at you 😞 I hope she gets the help she needs. Suicide threats are fucking crazy (I had an ex who did that like once a month) NONE of this shit is your fault. She’s not acting as a safe parent. It makes me wonder about her pills…
rachel u kinda said it perfectly. im very proud of who ive become and how brave ive been. this is all still new for me as ive never acted in this way in my life. and none of my family members know how to take accountability. even though im an adult, im still their child and thats what ive always said, so i should still be receiving that nurturance, love, and support. u can say u support me, u just want me to have a job, and then proceed to do those things, say those things, and treat me in that way. its unacceptable. and narcissists are afraid of the mirror. i think i always moved boldly and authentically through my life up until a certain point, and light irritates demons. all i know is in disowning anyone that acts in that way. i want love & light in my life, and everyday i dont choose that is a waste of a day im grateful to have my life and be alive, so i wanna make the most of my time & my energy
@ I’m so glad you realized all of this at a young age. I see so many similarities in my own life when compared to yours, which is comforting in some way. My family was shocked when I finally started using my own voice and speaking my truth. It’s been a few years and they’re still not used to it 😂 my mom always says “Where did I get you from?!” And I tell her “The very depths of burning hell” lmao
❤❤ I totally understand where you're coming from
thank u monroe ❤❤
Hi friend. It's Frana.
If this helps... I have 5 adult children. 4 boys and a daughter. I butt heads with my daughter. She's is very cold and disrespectful towards me. I feel like a failure to her. No mother is perfect. I've also had to go through some hard times with the 4 boys.
While one turned out to be successful in NYC.
One was murdered over drugs and money.
One is alcoholic in prison.
My youngest is gay and he's estranged from his siblings, not because he's gay we love him unconditionally, but he decided to get into meth and now has hiv.
So my other kids shun him. I'm closest to him because he needs me the most. When he's around, I try to get him to work, but he can't hold down a job because of the drug addiction. I've been through some really rough times with all my adult childre, but I'll never give up on them. I feel that you are such a sweet, harmless person. I'm praying that you find peace and contentment. I know you have love inside your heart. But we can't let people disrespect us. I get that 💯. Maybe this is too much to share, but I wanted you to know life is hard for so many of us. Your problems are different, but we all hurt and have our own cross to bear. ❤️
This world is harder on some than others. If it wasn't for my faith, I'd not be here. Hugs !
hi frana ❤ i enjoy hearing from u, and im so so sorry about the hardships youve experienced in your life, i cant imagine if i was in your shoes but you are such a strong woman, and i feel so grateful to have someone like you to not only talk to but to have support my page. all we can do is keep going. i have so much love & empathy for you & your family situation. and im sorry about the loss of your son. the relationship you have with your daughter sounds very similar to my mom and my sister. so through experience its safe to say that any form of drama effects the other children. all kids want is that “perfect” family, we want peace. and no matter our age, we still have that inner child within us all. i hope youve found ways to nurture yours, and please remember i am always here for u. thank u for being brave & sharing, and ill continue to do the same. i love u ❤
i feel you so much in this video it actually made me cry. i feel so held back by my family and their constant negativity and drama. my parents have given me everything like an education and a beautiful house but they isolated me my whole life. i was never allowed to see my friends really ever and they never made an effort to have an emotional connection to me, especially my father. I feel like i dont know who I am because of that, i just dont have the balls or the money to leave. thank you for being so vulnerable in the video, you are so incredibly strong. the fact that you gave all of your effort to work through your family relationship shows how much love you have in your heart. the text message your mother gave you is so unforgiveable. i truly wish the best for you.
i feel u nicoletta, and thank u for seeing me & being here ❤ i appreciate ur courage to share, family will say theyve given a lot, and they have, but the intention is not always pure. giving us things physically or financially as a means to control us doesnt mean its a nice gesture to be grateful for, because the intention is wrong and it ends up causing us more pain than good in the end, im always here for u and completely see & understand ur situation. hang in there. go your own pace, recognizing how u really feel is already a massive step in the right direction ❤ i love u
Sorry! I get it! It's too hard when you can't talk to your mom cause they have their own issues...I grew up with a mother like that, thankfully when it got really bad I was able to move in with a grandma..Thanks for sharing!!❤
You seem a little delusional about life, Everyone has their own self problems “My Auntie Voice” You are grown you can’t blame others for the rest of your life… and everyone can’t be the problem is what my mom used to tell me… Also you can’t live anywhere for free but Outside and that’s not exactly free either, Your expectations about a job are very unrealistic 😬 Anywho you are beautiful Good Luck with your life plans
you defintly got bullied in highschool for good reason too shut your auntie voice ahh up
@@tammylanae3066 I don’t think he’s trying to just throw “blame” onto others. He escaped an unsafe family situation. He’s just trying to share his story so others might relate to it. A lot of people have been asking why he’s choosing to live in his car temporarily. He feels safer by himself in his car than he did living with family members.
@@rachelspencer777 i was having trouble understanding what this person was trying to say caus they weren’t super clear but I think they are quoting their mother thus sharing common trauma with Jacob
@ The way I read it was that she was calling him “a little delusional about life” and he needs to take ownership of his own life and stop blaming others…but now idk 🤷🏼♀️
@@rachelspencer777 👍🏽 You were Spot On in your understanding of Tammy’s comment.
I keep coming back everyday, I hope you are staying safe and strong!
i appreciate u showing up to support me chuggie! ill be okay ❤ thank u for the love & support, more to come soon
I hope you’re safe during these horrendous fires! Please evacuate to a shelter if need be 💓🌟 I’m praying for you and everyone in the LA area
thank u for ur prayers rachel! ive relocated because of new fires showing up but still in LA, ill do what i have to in order to be safe. ill keep u updated, and thank u for checking in on me 🥺 that means alot
@ the air is full of toxicity too! If you can’t get further out of LA I would consider getting a mask of some sort :( I’m glad to hear you’re okay 💓
Jacob, I just want to say that I’m sorry that your family life was so unstable and it seems like it was really lonely for you. I’m beginning to see what led you to living in the car.
I hope that you’re safe during the fires in California. Praying for you, Jacob
heidi! good to see u, im grateful for ur constant love and support it helps me greatly during this time. theres so much going on in the world but the fires seem to be getting better. i think ill be fine. thank u for taking the time to watch & see where im coming from. i love u and always appreciate u ❤
Thanks for the video Jacob! Stay safe out there
thank u for the support always inspire, im very appreciative of u 🤍
@ You’re welcome!! 😁
😮 @ your Mom Breaking down your bedroom door 🚪 Sooo had she not ever heard of just unscrewing the hinges 🤷🏼♀️ Easy Peasy.
for real 🤣
Nobody doing that🙄
@@tammylanae3066 Parents did this a lot in the 80s/90s growing up. If a parent doesn't like that you have closed or locked doors then the next time that door is open, they would just completely remove that door off the frame. That is completely a more appropriate reaction than breaking down a door.
@@florafuryand i understand breaking it down if u were genuinely terrified that something bad happened. but that feeling completely left the moment she saw me, it was a really displaced reaction and i was really confused on how to feel
Always love yourself first! Family are the people who love you unconditionally. Blood has nothing to do with that. Never dim your light💜
thank u for this caril 🥺 it took me most of my life to recognize that. i love u
She's the parent. She should be the bigger person at the end of the day and find out what's going on with her child. Not completely being unattached. From your story, it sounds like your mom may have a personality disorder.
Look up Narcissist abuse. You describe yourself as a caretaker/giver a lot which is a common trait of someone who has survived narcissist abuse. In the past, you may have found that narcissist trait to be normal hence why even in your friendships, these personality types keep getting drawn to you. It is great that you're realizing it is not normal and breaking free from it. Some people don't find this out until they are a lot older. So, you're on the right track, Jacob.
Also to threaten to call the police on your Black child in the South. In Florida. And to say and know exactly what she is doing. That is so fucked up. I'm so sorry you experienced that. It looks like you are interracial like I am. Not sure if your mom is white. But that's really fucked up. Extra love to you.
After your description of your mom and her threatening to call the cops (and know exactly what the repercussions of that would be to her child in the South), your home life does not sound safe at all. Please consider if things get really rough on the road, going to a shelter if you need to. Temperatures are getting colder. Not sure how things are setup in LA. But in my city we have a youth shelter that is up to 24 years of age. Not sure how old you are.
ur 100% on the dot right flora. the parent has responsibilities, its a LIFELONG commitment. age not in question, i dont need to be raised, i just need to be loved, and shown that love in a way thats not evil or twisted, and she most likely does. regardless, its not justified (but u already know that) thank u for seeing me & getting it, it feels healing to be seen & heard by a community of people, and thats something ill always hold onto
It sounds like your mom got a taste of her own medicine. Ironically she doesn't like the way you react to her but you probably learned it from her.
Jacob, I wish you to remember that **No One** will Advocate for YOU better than Jacob 😊 I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, when it comes to “family”, Protek ya Neck AND your Peace at ALL times 😂 You cannot Make people happy no matter What you do. If you gave them the WorLd on a Silver Platter, would it even Matter? You made the Correct Choice when you chose to be unhoused. In effect, you CHOSE your Peace over chaos and confusion. ALso, if someone Genuinely desires to HeLp or to Support you in your Life, either they will or they won’t. It should not be solely dependent upon whether or not “you get a job”. Of course, if you’re staying with family or friends, you should expect to contribute to the household in whatever way that you can (doing household chores, cooking, purchasing food, etc). Personally, I don’t Prefer to reside with ANYONE 😂 because it’s True the old saying that “Familiarity breeds contempt”. I’d much rather live in my car (when I had one 😂) or go to the shelter BEFORE I will ever choose to live under someone else’s roof again. People turn into Monsters when they feeL you are dependent upon them.
thank u for this rene 😊 and i always appreciate ur love on the videos. ur absolutely right, and it wouldnt matter. when ur conditioned to overgive, vipers will always want more more more. ive just hit a point where i have no more to give. especially if im being told i dont give. theres more peace in giving to ourselves when we are in relation to people to dont express gratitude. its ugly energy that im grateful to step away from. i still have my mom & my sister reach out calling me on no caller ids, it really puts more into perspective than i originally noted.
Jacob, thank you for your videos. Your experiences and words bring me some healing to my soul, especially when it comes down to feeling invalidated with your own family. I’m so sorry that you have had to experience and endure that terror from your mom, her threatening to take her own life and your father boiling it down to “you need to get a job” is ballistic and I’m happy that you escaped that terrible place. Things will get better and I feel as though you have a divine mission here on Earth that all ties into your struggles. Thank you, keep speaking your truth, it brings peace and know that you’re not alone, empath. 🤍🧿
thank u for the love & for being here moon 🤍 i also greatly appreciate u sharing the video, it helps a lot. i trust that everything is happening how its supposed to, even if it doesnt “make sense” to what meets the eye. im gonna keep going and take action on whatever the divine tells me to do. glad we can be here together in these ugly moments within the world ❤ im here for u