@@NaturalBornDocumentarian Everyone can identify with all the types... We have some similar functions with most of the types. Also, I can see by your comment you haven't watched FJ's video.
I was that INxJ flip flopper, until I gained understanding of cognitive functions and realized that INTJs can be emotional and empathic too. No personality type is a monolith.
exactlyyyyyy. I thought I couldn't be INTJ because I'm dumb and feel way too much. I thought I was an INFJ because I wanted to give people a good experience (Se) but like, no way lol.
I was an INFJ for so much years and just converted to INTJ this year. It started when I prioritised myself, being adamant towards my boundaries, and started not caring much towards people who does not value what I do for them. It feels good, to be honest.
I hope I can reach that point one day! Mine is INTJ now, but liks 51% 49%, still very much flip-flopping :") im very self conscious and I hope I can love and prioritize myself more❤❤
So true, as an INTJ I would probably have gone with: "You're stupid to even arriving at this conclusion, you're the same type all your life" and then proceeds to explain my reasoning in the most derogatory way
I used to think I was an INFJ in my teens and early adulthood. I struggled with severe mental health issues until recently. However, when I got intensive therapy, I realized I had always been an INTJ who struggled with emotion dysregulation. Don't know if mental health plays a role when it comes to "type confusion", but in my case, it definitely does.
I think you are onto something. Traumatic events can alter preferences (especially among Turbulent types). That's how I understand my transition in early teens from INTJ into INFJ and then back in mid 20s. I was really driven by fear of "missing" people feelings and not taking them into consideration which just seemed foolish and non efficient. I was also really suprised when my results after psychotherapy were INTJ and not usual INFJ I was getting for close to 10 years. Some tests indicated really close balance between "Thinking" and "Feeling" but after getting more into nitty gritty of it NiTeFiSe isn't exactly NiFeTiSe so I'm still trying to explain it to myself :V. That said it can also by debated as change in behaviour doesn't equate change in perception.
I thought I was an INFJ all my life. But really I just learned people pleasing behaviors and had poor emotional regulation due to childhood trauma. The whole reason it was traumatic was because I was actually an INTJ growing up in an environment specifically detrimental to my development.
@Exie D. Romero - I feel like that's how I am continually having to communicate to people who can't handle the truth. "I WANT THE TRUTH!" *"You can't handle the truth!!"*
I’ve always been an INTJ- I just learned how to be tactful and feign interest in people’s small talk... ok, I’m still learning that but it’s important to be truthful in a kind way... most of the time.
Tamarah Bryan It’s all acting. My mom is an ENFP so I’ve learned a lot from her. Well, I’ve learned what I could. I could never be THAT peppy. 🤢 It’s just nodding a lot and smiling while thinking “For God’s sake Carol, I don’t care that you had a flat tire this morning!”
As a INTJ female, being an INTJ is much harder and more complex than just being 'the rarest female personality type'. It gets tiring to constantly be persieved as cold or mean and to constantly have to do things yourself because you just fundamently and phycologically dont believe that anyone can do it your way or as good as you. It ends up alienating a lot of people leaving you with often a very lonely and antisocial life. What I'm saying is that being one of the rarest personality types if a double sided coin. On one hand its cool and different but on the other it makes making friends and finding people like you extremely difficult.
100%. People like to glorify our type, but it's honestly very isolating and not great in society since we don't think/process things the way most people do. I actually want to make a YT video about the downsides of being our type to hopefully dissuade people from trying to pretend to be INTJs just because they think it's "cool" and "edgy"
As a girl, there's also a gender barrier, as I feel I'm never percieved as a leader or like i know what I'm doing, for some people I'm just a bossy bitch
Okay, but lets be honest INTJ's, we dont really wanna be the other types. At least for me thats the case, because they just dont suite me. All that waste of time and energy. (Obviously, cuz, well, Im a female INTJ) (As example: No offense! I love INFJ's and their genius and intuition, but I would go nuts having to live as one.)
@@alguienrandom742 I feel ya. People can be so blind. Not judging by quality but by looks. (Random thought to lift the mood: Matriachs. Being the big momma of a family is a thing. There are a lot of people who never would dare to disrespect the real "emperor" of the house. Reigning with an "iron fist" ...you guys get what i mean if your brain works. Im too tired to make better word choices.)
I was an INFJ for years until I had some life experiences that really changed how I thought and felt towards people and life. After a long period of time I noticed big changes in myself and retook the test and got INTJ several times. I consider myself an empathetic INTJ now :)
This is exactly like me! I was an infj before. I think so many journeys of life changed me. Then some time ago I took another test and the results are now I'm an intj
So true. I’m an INTJ. But I made a conscious effort for my kids’ benefit to become more extroverted to connect with people when we moved across country a few years ago. Recently, a person I’ve known for about a year and a half told me I was, “hospitable and nurturing.” At first, I was honestly offended by this. But then I realized, why? Those are good traits. People want to be treated with hospitality and kindness. Why would I be offended if someone saw those qualities in me? I’ve come to realize that I can still be an INTJ - something I take pride in - while acknowledging my personality weaknesses and striving to correct them.
The one exception I would include is very young people. The brain doesn't finish developing until around age 25 on average. It's very easy for teenagers to mistype themselves. Especially younger teenagers, whose cognitive functions are still forming.
@@Revelwoodie Yes, this! Adults usually can't, or at least find it much harder to, change the way their brain works/its "functions" - I've never heard of someone past their mid twenties switching MBTI types to one with entirely different functions (though small changes in the order of the functions are probably possible, like ENTP to INTP [?]). However, kids can easily grow up to be an entirely different MBTI personality than they were before, so the information in this video isn't really applicable to them (well... Yet).
@@TG-vt7ue Yeah, and ENFJ and INFJ are a great example. We have the exact same functions, just in a VERY slightly different order. You might be able to say of a 14 year old, for example, that he has Fe high in his function stack. But is he an INFJ or an ENFJ? Well, that might depend on how high school goes, lol. Or what's going on at home with the family. Or who he hangs out with in a particularly formative summer. I get worried when I hear kids typing themselves. Especially when it comes to the simple extroversion/introversion axis. It's completely common to have social anxiety when you're a teen. Both introverts AND extroverts can experience that. If you're being bullied, or you don't feel supported by your family, or you don't feel like you "fit in" for whatever reason, the goal should be to work through that and build the support structures you need to become your full self. Too many young people seem willing to just say, "Well, I'm an introvert so this is just my life." Then they grow into a 30 year old extrovert who can't socialize with people. That is a special kind of misery. Being shy and being an introvert are NOT the same thing. Younger people should wait until they really get a chance at life before putting themselves in a box.
I am an INFJ that suppressed my emotions for many years and believed I was an INTJ, when really I was lying to myself about my priorities with every decision I made 😎
I’m the opposite. I was an INFJ, with therapy and a lot of inner work, I learned to detach from feeling, and rationalize before acting or judging. I am able to see very clearly now where my judgment is coming from, F or T. T is always smarter and a better decision maker. F is more sensitive and sometimes more childish. That’s how I see it in my case at least.
As an INTJ, my Se really sucks, although that's also a problem of INFJs, and often also INFPs, since they have Se on the 7th place, which is together with the 4th place the lowest. INTJs have Fe in 7th place and I don't really get Fe at all.
Just because you don't know a way to change it / you are not capable of changing that does not mean that is impossible . I'm sure you did not even think about a single case if it is possible , you just came to this conclusion without considering any factor . FYI you should take a look at people / criminals who have been to extreme rehab centers of different kinds , they are forced to change into something they are not , permanently . A lot of external factors contribute to our personality that MBTI fails to explain , MBTI just talks about the start , the origin and which way we are facing in the path of life but nothing about what may follow ... Moreover I changed my type from INFP to INFJ and later INTJ in my early 15-16 .... The first time I took the test I got INFP , my INTP friend suggested me to take it thinking that eve I would get the same type as him . I was extremely happy with what I got but over the days a voice in my head started developing , it was not satisfied with the result , I did not like my friend getting type INTP but not me . I took the test once again after 3 months and this time I got INFJ - it was better but it was not what I was expecting(INTP) - again not satisfied I thought about it all day and recalled what I answered and was thinking about how I could answer better . Next day I took the test and I got INTJ - it was like I was given a complete different set of questions than before . I never knew that a type called INTJ existed but I was completely satisfied this time . The description matched with my talent ( inventing stuff / making gadgets of my own ) . Now my T-F ratio is 92:8 ... I can never relate to the person I was before ....
I'm an INFJ, while my boss is an INTJ. We get on so well and often share so similar views on many things. But as we work together, I have realised how different we are in the way we make decisions and solve problems, especially on people-related matters. That's when I realise I can never be an INTJ 😆 And now we understand each other better, we know what task each should pick up to use our strengths. So yeah, stick with being an INFJ 😂
Same same! INFJ here with INTJ boss. It's a win win combo, when I see the need for empathy for people related decisions (I think about it as consideration for certain underlying reasons) she actually listens. And sometimes when she makes tough ruthless decisions, I see it as necessity for maintaining work ethics. It's a good teamwork. Sometimes when I made effort to hear people I even heard my INTJ boss say, "I need that in my life for balance".
do you think you could do a video on INFJs seeming like other types on the outside because of our chameleon abilities? like how INFJs can sort of embody other types? im pretty confident that im an INFJ but i feel like if i were to ask my friends to pick which type they think i am theyd probably choose ENFP and id just like to hear you talk about INFJs being misunderstood like that :)
INFJ really camelion types. My daughter is so adaptable, she gets mistaken for other personality types all the time. Especially when she's around her sister (ENFP) and when she's around me (ENFJ). So I totally understand what you are talking about.
I'm INFJ and I cannot embody other types? I mean, if I'm with a person of confidence, I can be more extroverted-like so people would guess I'm ENTP... But I'm an INFJ.
Maybe because I'm an Fi user and more attuned to people's internal workings and personality rather than Fe presentations and personas, but I don't find INFJs to be chameleons at all, insofar as they are not changing something intimately attached to themselves. Also, it interplays with Big 5, the more introverted and disagreeable INFJ I know doesn't change at all. My mother changes her behavior and even beliefs, but her speech pattern is still obviously NiFe; she sticks out even as she can interact so well with most people. It's more like someone with a highly unique face adopting the cultural manners and dress of an area, not changing their face itself.
@@Koshrocreations yeah, Fi is a bit of a paradox in that it gives the awareness of the innerworkings to change it fundementally but in doing so creates an attachment/will against changing. INFPs I think have the greatest capacity, but most often will only do so in the pursuit of something like acting. With ENTPs, its like the Fi blind lacks precise identity so the being can inadvertently change with the external Fe changes. Which NeSi helps. But there's certainly a few factors!
This is so true, just because you get more social or closer to yourself doesn't mean your type changes, why we all have cognitive functions that can change, i think people really mistake the fact that introverts can get more social overtime but that don't make them an extrovert
It's so normal for INFJs and INTJs to relate on the perceiving/irrational functions (the whole Ni vs Se thing we both face) but the decider/rational functions being so inverted I think the difference shows up when a choice needs to be done and the motivation(s) behind it can be explored ❤️
Agreed! I’m definitely an INFJ, and I never understood why people would say they changed personality types. It makes me worried they have split personality, to be honest.
When I was younger, I closed off a lot of my emotional/feeling side to protect myself from rejection and isolation, so I probably came off a lot more INTJ at that time and the first time I ever took a test on it that was what I came out as. But it never really explained me and the way I functioned well. It wasn't until i took it later in a career course that I got INFJ and it fit like a glove in comparison. Looking back on it, always been an INFJ, but you can definitely grow, accept parts of you you've pushed to the side to cope, etc.
I can really relate to this, and having deeply sensitive emotions yet suppressing them and having this hard rational veneer, always attached to big picture rational things and getting INTJ. But when I burrowed under the surface I acknowledged sometimes this was a way to not be overwhelmed by the intensity of my empathy and feelings. Now I score INFJ
@@NyrVindr Did you try different websites? Sometimes different questions give different results. If you don't relate to what's written for INFJ, chances are you might not be one ×_×
*Well explained-* _you will always be your type but you can still work on improving your functions._ That won’t change the fact that as an *INFJ, Se* will _always_ be a lot less comfortable for you than *Ni* or that as an *ENTJ,* functioning in *Fi* might still be _hard_ for you to muster- with improvement & working to balance oneself, though, an *ENTJ* could start _connecting with their emotions more readily_ & therefor be able to _move forward in areas of life they might’ve felt they couldn’t before._ *MBTI* is an *amazing & powerful tool* that _I am working hard to utilize in my own life._ It can also be a *fun & lighthearted tool-* _a way to share yourself with loved ones & vice versa-_ helping you to *understand* each other _more_ & *love* each other _better._ *If you’ve only touched the surface,* I _highly_ recommend *searching deeper* because it can _help improve your life in ways you’ve known you needed,_ by showing you how to get to the areas you _never knew how to reach before._ - *Have a lovely day- keep loving yourself, loving others, & make sure to remember, you’re beautiful & you’ve got this!* -
I think the difficulty some people tend to have with their type is that they interpret their type as their "personality" which it is not though. The four letters in your type description are your cognitive functions, basically how you perceive the world and respond to it primarily. This can't change. On the surface though behaviour can change, which many confuse with a change in type. Your initial way to respond to the things that surround you never changed though. It's not something we actively notice, it's the way we "think" or "feel". We can broaden our horizon and we should and of course we develop, but our initial response stays the same and relies on our main functions.
There are literally cognitive behavioural therapies used to change people’s responses to things. You can, to some extent, train yourself to respond differently and this is apparently reflected in the physical development of your brain. Maybe it’s unrealistic to expect people to change between 2 completely different types, but I think it’s reasonable to think some people could change cognitive types enough that their type changes.
@@genericname8727 Trained response ≠ initial response. My vocabulary used in this description is chosen for a reason the way it was chosen, but thanks for the comment 😊
Jung said the type could change. He was very clear about it. His reasoning for saying that is complicated because it goes to the heart of his understanding of human psychology.
@@maxbooth179 Well, that claim is the same as saying that Freud in all his theories is still correct. The core of any science related discourse is that theories change and develop. Jung opened the can, in this case typology, but the contents were later on cooked and seasoned by others (and don't get me wrong, I like Jung).
@@Toranghu But you train your brain to have a different initial response. If you’re suggesting that who I am now matters less to my type than who I was as a 12 year old then that’s ridiculous. If we’re defining type by what it was at a fixed point and saying that any deviations from that type don’t count because they’ve changed from how you initially would have responded, then the only reason type can’t change is because you’re arbitrarily defining it that way..
OMG, thanks FJ! this video is definetly the answer for all of my friends that always says their type always change everytime. They should learn more about MBTI if they want to know about their real Type!
I'm INFJ and i always think that i can't change my personality. Yes, sometimes i can think logically, sometimes i can just let things be unorganized and chaos, sometimes im outgoing and want to throw myself in social events and having really good fun all day, all night. But one thing i noticed is that, after i went through all of these, i would normally get back to my INFJ nature. Stay indoor, listening to a very good music, ignoring people texting me for months or just started my old hobby again. I would recharges my energy by listening to some spiritual podcast, interesting human psychology, making judgement on things i should do or i should not do. I think that our cognitive functions function the way we wanted to think/feel at that moment. I hope this makes sense.
I agree with you 100%. There's a lot of confusion, though, because people do different tests and get different results. They think they've changed in their personality rather than understanding that some tests aren't very accurate. And, also, a lot of people assume extroversion means confident and introversion means shy which isn't the case. An introvert and extrovert make their decisions in different ways. The introvert will look into themselves and ask themselves what feels right whilst an extrovert will look outwardly and decide what will work best with others or the outer world. Both can feel socially confident or awkward. A good question to ask is: if you have a problem or are stressed, where do you go looking for answers? Within yourself or outside yourself? An introvert is like a cat whereas an extrovert is like a dog. A cat is true to its own inner desires or integrity and is willing to dismiss the views of others. The dog is happiest when it's getting along with others and so it is willing to change its own behaviour to achieve social integrity. I guess you could say that the introvert seeks inner harmony whilst the extrovert seeks outer harmony. I'm an introvert and I must admit that in the past I've thought extroverts aren't very smart people because when a decision needs to be made, they ask other people for their advice or guidance or what they want - and I would be like, "Are you unable to think for yourself?" Haaa. In a similar way, an extrovert could easily assume introverts are very selfish people. I really like how you referred to the weaknesses/shadow/personal unconscious. Those weaknesses are particular to each type and don't change. They just show up in your life more or less depending on how conscious you are of them and how you manage them.
Great analogy! (Cat person, all the way!!) I would add that an introvert is more likely willing to go to the bathroom/ a movie/ a restaurant by themselves, whereas most extroverts would prefer to travel in packs. I also think it has to do with energy. Extroverts get their energy by being around other people and social interaction, whereas introverts need quiet and alone time in order to recharge. 😊
Very correct how you put it! And the line gets thinner when you have an extroverted introvert or an introverted extrovert. I have 2 daughters. One is an INFJ. The other is ENFP. Everyone thinks my extrovert daughter is an introvert (simply on the basis that she's quiet) and my introvert daughter is an extrovert (on the basis that she's more social). But it has nothing to do with whether you like people or not. It's about how your brain functions.
I keep having more thoughts and wanting to add to this! The shadow of the extrovert is selfishness. The unconscious extrovert will put forward an idea, suggesting that it will be great for others, when in fact it is what they personally want and it would not work for others. The shadow of the introvert is not valuing others. Introverts can have the greatest ideas that will work for both themselves and others but they struggle to turn dreams into reality because outer reality requires an ability to work with others, and others will only work or play with you if you are valuing or appreciating them.
@@eynta2 Absolutely. You get it! I've got an extrovert brother who is very shy and awkward socially, and an introvert brother who is very confident socially.
@@laurela.235 Yes, extroverts are enlivened by social harmony or social integrity so it makes sense that they (and dogs) enjoy being in packs. And an introvert is enlivened by inner harmony or being true to oneself, so, yes, very comfortable "doing your own thing".
I love how some people don't catch the sarcastic/ironic message of the video and now is commenting with a totally actual innocence "I was an XXXX a few years and now I'm a XXXX" Cheers since the ENTP side of the reality, a big hug for you Frank, I adore your videos. ♡
Interesting video. I guess it also comes into consideration the percentage you got on each category. My experience as an INTJ getting 55% introvert and 45% sensing is not gonna be the same as one who’s got >90% intuition
It's about cognitive functions though but yes, if you're more extroverted than an extremely introverted person your extroverted functions would be more developed naturally
I'm here, because I have I 81%, N 80%, F 54/T 44%, J 83%, A 56%. Several test results :99% I have infj, Other 1 % is always intj. When I'm under big stress or really pissed I have intj. I guess it is logical transition - from relax (more or less) Mode to survival mode /fight mode. It is the way I see it and /or how I understand it. (sorry for mistakes, I'm not native english speaker)
Also, there may be reliability issues with the 5-minute online quizzes we're using to determine our types. Or (from another video, describing INFJ) I don't even have a "self."
As an INFJ,i'm very emotional,so not only good emotions hit me hard,but also bad emotions. So,i can be very negative,sad and "emo" when i feel like it😬
I'm an INFJ who tests as an INTJ often. It just doesn't fit me. I know I'm just an INFJ with highly developed Ti and someone who (especially lately) gets stuck in an Ni/Ti loop. I feel that's one big reason that INFJ types may get INTJ on their results.
Same! I think it's part of being more balanced, but at the end of the day, the combination of being a human sponge and subsequently an absorber of personalities is what ends up tipping the scale towards INFJ for me!
True, I know, I'm a INFJ, but some tests get INTJ results, I was going to buy the book mistic INFJ, after that INTJ result I'm not so sure. Actually, after this video, I may reconsider that. 😊
I am so glad I am not the only one! I am INFJ. A lot of times, when I get into situations that are extremely emotional for me, I try to handle it the best way I know how. Cold-hard logic and reason. This goes on for long periods of time, but the three times I remember testing during these phases, my result was INTJ. I wondered about it, because every other time (with various tests), my result has been INFJ.
One of the best things about knowing your personality type is understanding how to tone down your dominant functions when you see it annoying others. You can also learn to improve whatever you are weak at in order to become a more balanced person. But your I/E 'type' is basically how your brain processes data (internally or externally) which makes you you. It has little to do with loving or hating to be around people. So I agree, you can't change your personality type. You can, however improve your personality.
Almost a decade ago I took the Myers Briggs test several times and I was definitely INFJ.. But when I got emotionally hurt or emotionally traumatized by someone who I was in a relationship with for more than a decade, I became more critical to the point of being sarcastic, I became more introverted or reclusive, more independent and rational. I took the test again several times & my result came as INTJ. I researched in RUclips and read articles online about the INTJ personality and I can tell I really changed from being an INFJ to INTJ.
Honestly, I struggled so much as INFJ,so I decided to be cold blooded and less social and I converted my 60 %percent F into 75% T. And now I'm a happy INTJ.
I had this talk with my girlfriend a lot when we first met, in an MBTI group. I'm ENFP and for a few days I convinced her as not being INTJ as she originally thought but an INFJ instead because she was warm and caring. However, I later admitted I'm wrong because she uses the INTJ functions and the "cold" INTJ is just a stereotype. Plus in our lone tense situation...She definitely showed true INTJness lol.
I was INFJ 4 years ago. Today, I'm an INTJ since 3 months. I actually welcomed my new state of mind as a test to look if it helps me dealing with people. I'm fascinated. Live long and prosper.
Whoa. I remember taking the test several years ago for fun, but I’ve never seen anyone discuss it like an actual researched subject. It’s kind of cool.
I definitely switch between the 2, moods can change your personality, sometimes I’m very well and am touchy-feely, when I’m sick I’m very cold hearted. (mentally)
Yeah, I'm a socially extroverted INTP that used to be a social recluse. (Socially extroverted in the sense that I won't want to interact with anyone unless I'm forced to, but I become social once I'm in the situation. My energy still gets drained from s, but I will still be interacting like an extrovert while I have energy.) I'm not an ENTP just because I can talk to people normally now, I still use Ti, Ne, Si, and Fe as my cognitive functions, and I have developed Fe. My personality type didn't change, I just learned how to be more social and developed my inferior function.
I'm exactly the opposite. I'm an ENTP. I'm naturally a person who likes to be around people, but I'm kinda socially awkward and so I've become a bit more introverted and really relied a lot on my secondary Ti function so on some tests I'll sometimes come across as an INTP and I sometimes just consider myself a very introverted ENTP.
Can I just say it's awesome to watch his older videos and feel like Frank has really blossomed? He looks so much more comfortable in front of the camera compared to his older videos.
just guessing here, but i would think a lot of people who are into MBTI these days are young- like, under the age of 25. people are bound to be confused about who they are until they have had more life experience. also, people with high Fe may be easily confused about who they are since they are absorbing so much of other people's personalities.
I believe I was an INFJ. with therapy and a lot of inner work, I learned to detach from feeling, and rationalize before acting or judging. I am able to see very clearly now where my judgment is coming from, F or T. T is always smarter and a better decision maker. F is more sensitive and sometimes more childish. That’s how I see it in my case at least.
So... you improved in handling certain issues better. Good job. Thats very hard work. (Doesnt change a type. it helps with life quality, and thats the reason for this all anyway. So, you've done good. I hope youre proud of you.)
I'm very much an INTJ and it's become more obvious as I've grown older. But I've also become a more balanced INTJ over the years. I am fairly sensitive, though I don't often show it, and I care more about getting things done than how people feel about decisions that are being made. I've tested as different things, depending on the day, but cognitive functions and descriptions of reading the types have confirmed.
My guess, youre not an INTJ. Ooooor, youre just really insecure. Whatever the case, I hope youre doing fine or better or whatever. But, you got this. Just keep going.
YES "if u was in your shell a lot and now u talking to ppl that doesn't mean u become extroverted,that means you just growing as a person,you are still your personality" I am Infj and i do talk a lot to ppl when i get to and i love listening to their perspectives all the time,i love when they vent to me or tell me their problems,i feel than like something important in their life,like i worth. Rather than to be quiet and be insolated in my thoughts,i give them compliments now and advices if i see its important
The Dr. Grande impression/reference delighted me right off the bat, then you followed with a great lesson on cognitive functions. Well done. Gold star for you on the Big Board. /intj 4-ever
That was rather refreshing. All this time I thought I was an INFJ who balanced emotions with logic, but I found out I'm actually an INTJ who's simply more nurturing...not to mention more comfortable expressing and dealing with emotions. Although romance is as foreign to me as JAVA is to a programmer who's only fluent in C++. I solve problems with methods and logical thinking. I make decisions based on personal values or what option makes more sense/is more efficient. Yes, I would kill one to save five. I'm just not good at subtleties, but I think that's more due to my lack of social experience. I've ALWAYS been socially inept. So was I an INFJ who became an INTJ? No. I was simply mistyped. I'm happy that I finally have that all settled though.
As an ENTP my personality is: Fuck your rules! + Please like me/adore me Aside from that I just glue on top of it whatever seems useful at the moment. Inside I feel as if I have *no* personality but examining my actions externally has pointed out some quite static sides of me. I guess that's personality then?
Frank, I agree with your point but I think you're looking at the question in a limited way and not factoring in all variables; for example mental illnesses or neuroplasticity. I'm personally an ENTJ but struggle with ASPD and depression. And here's the thing: do I believe myself to be extroverted? Yes. Am I actually acting like an extrovert? Not at all. For the past few years I've watched myself become more and more introverted, and I'm fully aware that it is because of my mental health issues and thus grapple with them constantly to keep them under control and not allow them to change me too severely. And they actually *can* do that. Based on what I've learned of brain functions, mental illnesses, and trauma, a personality *can* change. Of course, it's also possible to change it back, but the more severe the situation the less likely that is. But just like my friend who has BPD can create new neural pathways and alter her own mind through different techniques, and just like people with ASPD improve with age, so can a person's preferences, tendencies, and impulses change. I'm not talking about a day-to-day shift in mood (which you addressed perfectly in your video), I'm speaking of behavioural patterns that hold true in different circumstances over a long period of time. To go with a pop culture example, I've discovered I'm a Slytherin-Gryffindor-Ravenclaw hatstall (each at about 30%) yet all through my teen years I viewed myself as a Gryffindor-based on both my values and impulses. Now, I identify as a Slytherin (a hatstall has to choose a House as well), because my values, preferences, and even subconscious reactions to different situations have vastly changed. *My point is,* brains are not set in stone and therefore personalities are not objective but subjective. Yes, there is a certain level of flexibility in a personality, and feeling introverted one day does not mean our personality has changed, but past that level there does exist a line where we do indeed change. Actually, it's better to say brains and personalities *are* set in stone. It just so happens that stones are not diamonds.
I'm a ENFP with cptsd, when life is rough I stay in my shell, and that is a big part of the problem, I need to get out more, its even what I do for therapy, big chunks of the world suck, but little chunks don't, and they are worth seeking out.
@@tenthousanddaysofgratitude Thank you, yes you have a point. I think the issue with typology can be addressed by accepting a certain line between types that can be crossed but not easily. For example, we can say trauma *can* change a person's MBTI type, but not always. Deciding whether the type has changed or not would require the person to re-evaluate and reassess their functions. Perhaps with the help of a psychologist. It *is* important to find out who we are and how we've changed. As they say, knowledge of self is the most crucial type of knowledge.
@@tenthousanddaysofgratitude I don't think trauma changed my function stack, but it helps knowing that i'm a damaged ENFP, and using ENFP to understand where I need to get back to to be a little less broken.
@@Gee-xb7rt That *is* one way to look at it and I'm so glad the typing has helped you in that way. I wish you strength in your journey 🖤 For me it's a little different. I don't view my healing journey as fixing myself. Because I might be broken, but that's who I am and cracks are rather beautiful. I am fully aware of the ways my trauma has changed me and I don't wish to go back, because there is nothing wrong with the person I've become. I'm proud of me. Of course, my function stack hasn't changed in any other cases. I only now identify as ambivert. Do I wish to go back to the extrovert I was? No. Do I plan to fight to keep myself from changing further and becoming introverted? Yes.
There's also the fact that as you get older, you tend to see yourself using your tertiary and inferior functions more, while they may have been almost non-existent when you were a kid. Another misunderstanding that people who bristle are personality typing have is that typing is prescriptive. Typing is descriptive. It doesn't "put" anyone anywhere, it merely describes what is already there. If a biologist identifies something as a butterfly, that doesn't mean the biologist is keeping it from being a moth. The biologist is merely describing the characteristics that already make that creature different from a moth. Hopefully that makes sense.
Thank you! This plus other research has led me to realize that even though I tested as an INTJ years ago, I was really just a mean INTP. The J and the P were almost equally matched in the test. I’m much better now as I grow into myself fully embrace the INTP.
I was introduced to Myers-Briggs back in 2009, then took the test again in 2011 and both times my results were INFJ. I felt so strongly about the accuracy because it perfectly described who I was from childhood up until that point. Years later in 2014, after major life changes and some personal growth, a friend asked me to take the test again because she didn’t believe I was an INFJ. I was shocked when suddenly my results indicated I was an ISFJ. While agreeing that the results suited my then-personality, I stubbornly refused to believe I was an ISFJ for a long time. But when I think about how I was from adolescence until college and who I am now, I know I’ve changed. I continue to take the test every few years and my results have remained constant. I believe that this test is most accurate after a person’s most formative years and would argue that our personalities do “change”, but only in regards to how we view others and the world around us, and only after a period of growth and development. I believe in the consistency of the Myers-Briggs and Jung theories, but then-they are theories and by no means do I believe them to be perfectly accurate. OR. One could argue that I was always an ISFJ, but that taking the mbti as an adolescent (and even young college student) was not going to reveal an accurate result due to my experiences of the world and fluctuating beliefs at the time.
I agree and disagree. I agree in the sense that a child will definitely fluctuate in the sense that they’re trying to figure out themselves and how they view/interact with the world. You could’ve been one thing but gained more understanding of yourself over time and turned into something else. I disagree in the sense that I think a traumatic event would have strong potential to knock you into a different personality type as well. If you had a trauma, that could also have done something to affect you, where you changed personality types like that. I say this because at least, that’s how (I think) it worked in my case. So it makes sense to me that this is possible. However I was pretty young when both traumatic events happened, so I’m also not certain if it’s the trauma or if it was me still developing, especially since I was one thing, bumped into something completely different, then regressed back into original thing. I was definitely INTP based on my poor upbringing, it’s just how I had to be to keep it together and continue on with life without everything bothering me. However after a near death experience at 15 and waking up in a hospital, I was definitely an ENFP. It was a trauma but it affected me in a positive way. It’s literally like my brain snapped into something else after it, I have no way of describing the sensation other than that. I was a completely different person when I woke up in the hospital than from my 15 years prior to that event, which still sounds and is crazy to me. I saw the world in almost an opposite way than I did before, instantly. But again at 20, I experienced another trauma, this time in a negative way. As an ENFP, I had a strong connection with other people. I always looked to the good qualities in people, nobody is truly evil right? Find the good in them and build your friendships/relationships off that! Unfortunately that mentality made it impossible to see the danger signs of someone I thought was my good friend for 3 years. They were a truly evil person, but scarier, they had me completely fooled. What they did went against everything I believed to be true about others and how I viewed them and world, and it was so personal because it came from someone whom I would’ve thrown my life away for in a heartbeat. I couldn’t comprehend anything that happened or why this person did the things they did. It drove me to the point where I just broke down inside, because now I was just questioning everything about anything and everyone around me. This event was but wasn’t instant like the near death experience trauma. This one took some months to settle in. I kinda just cut myself off from the world, got lost in thought, and realized how little I truly understood. I had to try and rationalize what this person did, understand it, figure it out, to be able to move on with myself, otherwise I knew I was going to get stuck in this rut and never recover. When I calmed down enough to take some time to step back and think to myself finally, I realized all the warning signs this person had set off, that I never noticed before. It was so obvious, how could I have missed it? I was so caught up in how great people are, that I completely didn’t account for just how equally terrible they can be by their own choice. There is good, but there is also evil, and this person CHOSE evil. It was an eye opener. In that moment I just felt like everything in the world made sense again. It was like a weird switch in my brain flipped and I could feel gears start turning again. “Never again”. Poof. Instant. From that moment to present, full blown INTP again, no end in sight. Been almost 10 years. Don’t know jack about other people any more (I clearly didn’t know in the first place anyway), but hey, I can definitely spot a bad apple now by analyzing everything about them first as they approach me! That’s my silver lining I guess. So is it possible to change your personality? Again I just don’t know, I WAS pretty young. Plus, I went from INTP to ENFP back to INTP. That tells me maybe I was always INTP but had somehow tapped into better developed cognitive functions, then regressed based off of a really bad event with a terrible person. But I also do know, if I hadn’t experienced 1st trauma, I would’ve stayed INTP regardless, and I would’ve never experienced 2nd trauma because I’d have immediately plastered a red flag on this person’s face. But I also know, if I experienced 1st trauma, and not 2nd trauma, I would’ve stayed an ENFP, and would still be like that now. So I guess yes, personality can change? A trauma could deeply affect how you approach the world. 🤔but I’m still not entirely certain if that’s a fact. I’m just one person. ....you know it’s an INTP in the comments when they write you a short story for a reply 🤣sorry it got so long!
Sometimes I wish I knew about the test when I was young so I could have taken it. I'm so curious to know what I would have been, if it would have made a difference.
@@katherynemero4118 if you know what your thought process was when you were younger, you can still take it now and see. Just pick answers based on what you would’ve done then vs what you do now.
Personality type is like a cooking recipe. Sometimes you need to improvise and the best recipe in life will always be the one that you made on your own
@@ley3905 One of my discord friends thinks I’m an extrovert because I’m not afraid of talking to new people I like talking to old ones too but I mostly talk to a variety of people so I can get different opinions and knowledge in a new way I’m not ENTJ though I’m really quiet irl lol too. I keep on telling them that I’m an introvert with alright social skills but they still think I’m extroverted. -INTJ
@@pastelpanta2966 yeah being an introvert doesn't mean we suck at talking with new people. Its mostly because we don't care. Introversion means we get energy from alone time, not we would be mute lol.
Happy you addressed this matter. Heard some people saying recently "I was infp but now I'm infj etc etc...so I changed.." 😵 THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN INFPs & INFJs is just so huge....how can...???😵 I think our MBTI type can be compared to our eyes color...my color doesn't change! If my eyes are green can't be blue after 2 years! Of course the shade can change a little because of the sunlight or darkness...or even because of the eye-makeup...but basically it remains the same. If u took the test once, and you answered honestly then u should stick to that result. If u keep on repeating the test again&again the result might be biased.
Well said 😊 hmm, MBTI was a thing when I was in university. I was on my high horse in my late teenage years and I tested ENTJ. So, for a very long time, I believe that I was an ENTJ. For I never truly understand what 'social anxiety' feels like. I never felt it, I never experienced it! I am not shy, I am a very confident kind of person with self value and I can talk with anyone with no hesitation. Until the pandemic came and I was forced to snuggle in isolation 😅 I didn't get out of my childhood home for one and a half years and needed another two years to get used to civilisation again. I knew that I became more introverted and began to experience the anxiety I looked down upon 😂. So I got another test and repeated it in half a year. Surely, now my 'E' turned into 'I' Or I thought 😅 because when the change intrigued me and made me dig deep into these MBTI things, I had to admit that I was and am an INTJ all along 😊 I traced back my past actions from my memory and diaries and solid proof of how thick the INTJ thinking traits in my young self! Maybe because of a lack of experience, my Fi has yet to develop much. Now I have become a more emotional INTJ. Although could not be compared with the Fi dominant individual 😂 I have not changed from an extroverted individual to an Introverted individual. I was just an extroverted imposter for some period in my life.
This is so true, just because you get more social or more closer to yourself doesn't mean your type changes, it develops so don't get into that, but dont worry you can still pretend
Personality types can be changed and this is how: Your cognitive functions describes how exactly your brain is wired(rn!) and in reality you can actually change your mental wiring and whole patterns by doing what? By getting into uncomfortable situations or letting some trauma into your life. I personally used to be an INFJ around 5 years back and now I'm an INTJ. I took the test almost 7 times in last 10 months and I always got INTJ! Personality types can be changed, its all about changing your behaviours, patterns by repetition and putting yourself in uncomfortable situations.
"letting some trauma into your life" implies that you are choosing to let it in or not. are you saying I could've just told my entire childhood "hm. no thanks!" and just... not let myself be traumatized??? holy shit this is a GAME CHANGER... god I wish I knew that as a kid!
Ahaha, oh no. That sarcasm is good, ahh i feel bad. Forgive me. Im so sorry that you had to endure that. My opinion is that trauma just distorts the original personality type. As the comment above said, they used to be an INFJ, but now they behaves more like a INTJ, which implies that certain behavior ...and its basically just "one aspect" got warped around. Its a safe mechanism. Being too feeling was too much, so they kinda judge with "distance" now. I dont think someone can "just avoid their trauma", thats like "no, i got run over by a car, but i definitly did totaly not get hit by it" ...really? But that doesnt mean that we need to stay trapped in the pain of trauma, even when it changed our bodies or minds, ...uh... as they say, "im more than my trauma" ....or scars. Or bad memory... or whatever it was. Sorry, the bad memory part was a bad joke. Cuz, i cant remember it right. @@arcticshark3420
Thanks a lot for this eye opening train of thought. I have been an INTJ for my whole life but had some major life changes 4 years ago and got typed as an INFJ for the last 4 years. Just went through another wave of changes and was typed as an INTJ again. Got the hang of it now 😇
Thank you for explaining this. Some people could use this information. A lot of people involved in the MBTI community don't really understand the cognitive functions and how they come into play with certain aspects of life and development. A lot of people can't really self-analyze and roll back their lives in their head to view how they might possess stronger cognitive functions and weaker ones, aka their "personality" type. Like you said "zoomed out". I admit that it can take quite some effort to do enough research to understand the functions and what it might mean for each type. But it doesn't mean anyone is limited to be a certain way, it's just like you said, weaknesses and strengths. It's useful for self development to learn about it if you can see past the simple surface-level guise that people make MBTI into. I will admit that the "MBTI 4 sides of the mind" that a certain group of people organized does seem to make a LOT of sense, but it doesn't mean you are multiple types. You have one type.
when you don't know if you are an INTJ or INFJ, you can question if you are more in T when you are healthy or F. its about who you are, when you are your best self
I think it’s a bit like sexual orientation. You can’t change it at will or suddenly. Your behavior may mask the way it manifests to other people. It tends to be stable for long periods of time. But it CAN evolve over your lifetime, whether due to environmental factors, physiological changes, or learning more about the way you most naturally function.
Great video - this comes up A LOT - and I think the biggest reasons for that are that folks confuse behavior with preferences, (an introverted manager may have to hold a lot of meetings with others but that doesn't mean it's their preference), and also the less well you know yourself, the more likely you are to answer how you think others want you to be rather than how you really are
Severe traumatic experiences can change one's personality, they have to impact you right at your core. The flip flopping just shows that people don't know what they're talking about or they haven't yet grasped the essence of typology.
True. Also, a personality can change in childhood years since personality isn't fully integrated until you're nine. I used to be ENTP before I was around eight, but I'm now ISTJ due to my parents being incredibly strict. But if it is a change in personality, it is usually a large change in the cognitive stack rather than a simple T/F flip.
@@woosh5102 I wouldn't say you can actually point to a specific personality type in childhood, maybe in rare cases. But you can point to different temperaments that kids have which later can crystalize into a specific personality type. It's very malleable at that age.
Yes that is how I am typed as INFP sometimes instead of ENFP. I was bullied as a kid and that just made me scared of new people and appreciate lonesomness. I will always carry that with me. But I still know I am ENFP.
My sister was an ENFJ when she was younger; she used to talk to lots of people and openly express her feelings but after being picked on a lot through life she became an INTJ. I honestly feel that depending on your circumstances your personality can change. Sorry if I'm wrong.
I'm an ENFJ. I've often thought after the passing of years that I became more of an INFJ. But I realized I just don't enjoy being around people as much as I use to. I love my alone time (which is unusual for an ENFJ). But I also have studied how you can improve your low functions and tone down your top functions. Many would guess I changed. But...even though I don't think Frank explained this one well, other than improving your low functions, you can't change the way your brain processes information. The most an extrovert can do is hold back from expressing as much as they use to... Especially when they are around people that know their personality type and they don't like being a stereotyped person. 😅
After I had a huge emotional trauma partly caused by me hurting someone and having consequences beyond any possible repair, I think I developed a very strong Fe. When I talked to my mom about MBTI a few months ago she was sure I was a XXTX, although I'm definitely an INFJ. It's hard for me to remember how I was before my trauma (at 21yo) and getting anxiety and all sorts of defenses from it but she might have guessed I was an INTJ as a kid. I think it's not something that happens day to day, but type not being absolutely stagnant in this type of cases just makes a lot more sense than "you can only be what you were in childhood" !
I was for sure an INFJ during my adolescence but... high school drama happened... Betrayal after betrayal, followed by my grandma dying, so... I'm now an INTJ. And it seems normal to me... I was more "naive" emotionally, more open emotionally, more "innocent" while now I'm more stern and I don't base my decisions purely on my emotions. I also don't trust people that easily anymore ☺ So yeah... INTJ's for the win
I’ve taken the test several times, have reviewed the cognitive functions, and I’m almost always split between INTJ and INFJ. Normally it goes about 51% T and 49% F. Ultimately, I think I identify more with INTJ, but I think a large contributing factor is my medicine. I struggled with rage and anxiety but my medicine has greatly helped in calming me down and relaxing me. During this state, I tend to be a feeler at the apex of the cycle and go back into my thinker states at the beginning and end of the day. Not sure if that makes sense or if I just haven’t discovered what my “true” type is and have merely developed/improved upon my weaknesses.
Well, INTJ or INFJ isn't simply about feeling vs thinking. The main difference is in preference of cognitive functions. You know really the difference when you are asked to choose either explaining the logic behind your thought or explaining what you feel - what do you think you can explain and make other person understand it? When you feel, do you "feel" others (feel sad as an emotion when others are sad) or do you try to understand the feeling of others conceptually? Do you choose to hug a sad person first and make sure they feel better, or to listen to the sad person first and then give them a useful advice for them to improve themselves? These choices are what make you an INTJ or INFJ, else the make is almost similar. An INTJ with developed Fi can mimic INFJ in simpler personality tests, and INFJ with developed introverted thinking can mimic INTJ too, but when you get to know them and yourself, you know exactly who you are.
You can imagine how glad I am at the end of this as an INTJ. If it was possible to change, then the whole world would want be XNTJs and I really don't want that kind of common. Good explanation FJ!
I think Objective Personality has an answer regarding how the functions interact with each other (Blast, Sleep, Play, and Consume). About 50% of the people favor their 1st and 2nd functions in the stack, while the other 50% favor their 1st and 3rd functions. For example, I am an INFJ (Ni Fe Ti Se) but I like the interactions between Ni and Ti, which may make me look like an INTJ (Ni Te Fi Se), but I'm not. People with extroverted feeling, Fe, are quite different from those with introverted feeling, Fi. The same is true of the thinking functions, T.
I feel like I’m INTJ and since you mentioned horoscopes.. I’m a Pisces as well and a woman...it’s been very interested growing up and being misunderstood
@Kei Keishin my mom is an INTJ Aquarius. I don't believe that's misunderstood. I read that Aquarius is supposed to be introverted, so your type makes perfect sense. Maybe for the Pisces too. It's the more intellectually developed time of the year. Supposedly. I don't really believe the Aquarius intelligent/unique/gifted stereotype. That's not my experience with Aquarius. I'm an Aries. I'm supposed to be an Extrovert, but I'm an INFJ. If I feel misunderstood, it's only because people have no idea what is going on. People don't really think about things other than themselves. The few people I like are INTJ's. One is an Aquarius. The other is a Virgo. The Virgo thing shocks me all the time because she is super intelligent. And she's not even 18 yet.
@Kei Keishin I have to admit, I've learned so much about myself and the people around me with this study of MBTI. My sister is an ISFP. We've gotten closer because I can finally understand what she's going and why. I've also been working on my negative traits too. Now that I see them.
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@@NaturalBornDocumentarian me llamo Frank 😎🤟
Judge = decision
Perceive = choice
@@NaturalBornDocumentarian Everyone can identify with all the types... We have some similar functions with most of the types. Also, I can see by your comment you haven't watched FJ's video.
@@NaturalBornDocumentarian 😐
@@NaturalBornDocumentarian I was just confused why you laughed when I was serious. I didn't mean to start a fight if that's what you think now.😅
"Join the dark side, we have cookies." - INTJs
I love that meme.
@@sarahmoore4917 Me too, ha ha!
Lol
.....chocolate chip, perhaps? 👀
@@astoldbynickgerr All the chocolate you want! Chocolate chip cookies are delicious!
*INFJ:*
"When you meet me, you think I'm quiet"
"When you talk to me, you wish I was quiet"
"When you know me, you get scared when I'm quiet"
@@tenthousanddaysofgratitude yea pretty true
Omg yes this is me 🤣🤣
Uuum thats me
Omg hahahahahahahahaha! That's bang on the money! My god!
Smoothest self-promo I've ever seen... wow
I change my personality after every show I watch.
yup
Then you're ENFP, the chameleon one.
@@Koshrocreations ?? INFP the chameleon one?
@@Koshrocreations ENFJ is the chameleon
@@cassiopeia8066 Sorry I meant ENFP*
I was that INxJ flip flopper, until I gained understanding of cognitive functions and realized that INTJs can be emotional and empathic too. No personality type is a monolith.
exactlyyyyyy.
I thought I couldn't be INTJ because I'm dumb and feel way too much.
I thought I was an INFJ because I wanted to give people a good experience (Se) but like, no way lol.
Hundred percent same 💯
So you were always an INTJ, with Fi as your third function and you haven’t got Fe in your function stack (Which an INFJ would).
@@jlistergaming7880 yea
Exactly, they are not monolithic, which is what grandfather Jung taught us many years ago
I was an INFJ for so much years and just converted to INTJ this year. It started when I prioritised myself, being adamant towards my boundaries, and started not caring much towards people who does not value what I do for them. It feels good, to be honest.
I still empathize and listen to other people but the difference is that I don’t get swayed with emotions whenever making a decision.
I hope I can reach that point one day! Mine is INTJ now, but liks 51% 49%, still very much flip-flopping :") im very self conscious and I hope I can love and prioritize myself more❤❤
Oh my god... your personalities don't change that way 🙄
Pretty sure O have always been an INFJ-T.
Same here. Since I started to work in my boundaries, I relate more and more often with the INTJ.
“It’s not a straightforward answer. I mean it kind of is, but I’m trying to be polite about it.”
Definitely not an INTJ then lol
😂
He's an infj
So true, as an INTJ I would probably have gone with:
"You're stupid to even arriving at this conclusion, you're the same type all your life" and then proceeds to explain my reasoning in the most derogatory way
@@MightyDoomerChannel That's not something to be proud of.
@@tkyk4893 yeah, I know... Don't think we INTJ are proud people, we despise ourselves in the first place
I used to think I was an INFJ in my teens and early adulthood. I struggled with severe mental health issues until recently. However, when I got intensive therapy, I realized I had always been an INTJ who struggled with emotion dysregulation. Don't know if mental health plays a role when it comes to "type confusion", but in my case, it definitely does.
I think you are onto something. Traumatic events can alter preferences (especially among Turbulent types). That's how I understand my transition in early teens from INTJ into INFJ and then back in mid 20s. I was really driven by fear of "missing" people feelings and not taking them into consideration which just seemed foolish and non efficient. I was also really suprised when my results after psychotherapy were INTJ and not usual INFJ I was getting for close to 10 years. Some tests indicated really close balance between "Thinking" and "Feeling" but after getting more into nitty gritty of it NiTeFiSe isn't exactly NiFeTiSe so I'm still trying to explain it to myself :V.
That said it can also by debated as change in behaviour doesn't equate change in perception.
same here. I used to be emotional junkie at my teens. Now I realised who I really am. Good to see my own types around. Have a great life
that's exactl what it happened to me hahah, A lot of things changed after therapy.
OH GOD THIS IS MY EXACT STORY
I thought I was an INFJ all my life. But really I just learned people pleasing behaviors and had poor emotional regulation due to childhood trauma. The whole reason it was traumatic was because I was actually an INTJ growing up in an environment specifically detrimental to my development.
One day I'm intj, and another day I'm intj but meaner. Lol, jk.
Are you though?😏 Joking, that is?
True for me tho
That's a stereotype, INTJs are not mean.
@@teatastudio6119 Yes, it depends though: anyone can be mean no matter their personality.
the “lol,jk” .. felt it on another level
“It’s not a straight forward answer... I mean, it kind of is, but I’m trying to be polite about it.” 😬😅lol
@Exie D. Romero - I feel like that's how I am continually having to communicate to people who can't handle the truth.
"I WANT THE TRUTH!" *"You can't handle the truth!!"*
@@weirdwolf888 Literally me every time I speak to people.
brutally honest yet philosophical kind of approach
“It’s not a straight forward answer. I mean it kind of is but I’m trying to be polite about it.” What an INFJ thing to say 😂😂
I'm already am an INTJ, no clue why I'm watching this.
@H. J. Yeah I'm aware of that, don't worry.
Same here
Lol me too. I just watch all FJs videos
Same
Same lmao
I’ve always been an INTJ- I just learned how to be tactful and feign interest in people’s small talk... ok, I’m still learning that but it’s important to be truthful in a kind way... most of the time.
this made me laugh.
Teach us your ways!
Tamarah Bryan It’s all acting. My mom is an ENFP so I’ve learned a lot from her. Well, I’ve learned what I could. I could never be THAT peppy. 🤢 It’s just nodding a lot and smiling while thinking “For God’s sake Carol, I don’t care that you had a flat tire this morning!”
@@cjradenbaugh Okay. That's helpful. I will try to do more of that. Thank you!
One moment I'm listening, and then some time later I'd hear them say, "Hey! Why are you reading again?" I didn't notice I wasn't listening anymore lol
As a INTJ female, being an INTJ is much harder and more complex than just being 'the rarest female personality type'. It gets tiring to constantly be persieved as cold or mean and to constantly have to do things yourself because you just fundamently and phycologically dont believe that anyone can do it your way or as good as you. It ends up alienating a lot of people leaving you with often a very lonely and antisocial life. What I'm saying is that being one of the rarest personality types if a double sided coin. On one hand its cool and different but on the other it makes making friends and finding people like you extremely difficult.
100%. People like to glorify our type, but it's honestly very isolating and not great in society since we don't think/process things the way most people do. I actually want to make a YT video about the downsides of being our type to hopefully dissuade people from trying to pretend to be INTJs just because they think it's "cool" and "edgy"
As a girl, there's also a gender barrier, as I feel I'm never percieved as a leader or like i know what I'm doing, for some people I'm just a bossy bitch
Okay, but lets be honest INTJ's, we dont really wanna be the other types.
At least for me thats the case, because they just dont suite me. All that waste of time and energy.
(Obviously, cuz, well, Im a female INTJ)
(As example: No offense!
I love INFJ's and their genius and intuition, but I would go nuts having to live as one.)
@@alguienrandom742 I feel ya. People can be so blind. Not judging by quality but by looks.
(Random thought to lift the mood: Matriachs.
Being the big momma of a family is a thing. There are a lot of people who never would dare to disrespect the real "emperor" of the house. Reigning with an "iron fist" ...you guys get what i mean if your brain works. Im too tired to make better word choices.)
I was an INFJ for years until I had some life experiences that really changed how I thought and felt towards people and life. After a long period of time I noticed big changes in myself and retook the test and got INTJ several times. I consider myself an empathetic INTJ now :)
This is exactly like me! I was an infj before. I think so many journeys of life changed me. Then some time ago I took another test and the results are now I'm an intj
Nobody can change their personalities. You think you have changed, but inside you there is will be your original personality :)
Yes! It is the correct analysis of my case, and I have always wondered for an explanation.
There's a difference between relying more on your thinking side as an infj and being an intj
INFJs thinking they have turned INTJs are just using their thinking to perform day routines but feelings are still in control in disguise.
So true. I’m an INTJ. But I made a conscious effort for my kids’ benefit to become more extroverted to connect with people when we moved across country a few years ago. Recently, a person I’ve known for about a year and a half told me I was, “hospitable and nurturing.” At first, I was honestly offended by this. But then I realized, why? Those are good traits. People want to be treated with hospitality and kindness. Why would I be offended if someone saw those qualities in me? I’ve come to realize that I can still be an INTJ - something I take pride in - while acknowledging my personality weaknesses and striving to correct them.
"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate."
-Carl Jung
Great quote!
Wow
True....
woahwoahwoah what a quote. 🥰
Our boy, CW Jung 👏
I love this one! I love reading Jung’s works!
2% of the population: *is intj*
99% of people here: *how's your day fellow intjs*
Exactly
Well technically 99% of this comment section could be about 0. Whatever of the population.
I'm 2% of them🤦🏻♂️
@@zaaxmx fellow intj here! Not a toxic one!
2% is 150 billion people in world 2020 its normal to have lot of intjs in comments when they are looking for video about their mbti type
The problem is people dont want to hear the truth, the truth is just because you change how you act, you can't change how your brain functions
The one exception I would include is very young people. The brain doesn't finish developing until around age 25 on average. It's very easy for teenagers to mistype themselves. Especially younger teenagers, whose cognitive functions are still forming.
Yes it can change
Look up neuroplasticity
@@Revelwoodie Yes, this! Adults usually can't, or at least find it much harder to, change the way their brain works/its "functions" - I've never heard of someone past their mid twenties switching MBTI types to one with entirely different functions (though small changes in the order of the functions are probably possible, like ENTP to INTP [?]). However, kids can easily grow up to be an entirely different MBTI personality than they were before, so the information in this video isn't really applicable to them (well... Yet).
@@TG-vt7ue Yeah, and ENFJ and INFJ are a great example. We have the exact same functions, just in a VERY slightly different order. You might be able to say of a 14 year old, for example, that he has Fe high in his function stack. But is he an INFJ or an ENFJ? Well, that might depend on how high school goes, lol. Or what's going on at home with the family. Or who he hangs out with in a particularly formative summer.
I get worried when I hear kids typing themselves. Especially when it comes to the simple extroversion/introversion axis. It's completely common to have social anxiety when you're a teen. Both introverts AND extroverts can experience that. If you're being bullied, or you don't feel supported by your family, or you don't feel like you "fit in" for whatever reason, the goal should be to work through that and build the support structures you need to become your full self. Too many young people seem willing to just say, "Well, I'm an introvert so this is just my life." Then they grow into a 30 year old extrovert who can't socialize with people. That is a special kind of misery.
Being shy and being an introvert are NOT the same thing. Younger people should wait until they really get a chance at life before putting themselves in a box.
INFJ: No, not really, I'll explain why.
Me, an INTP: Are you stupid or something? No.
An INTJ:... *leaves the room *
INFJ: “I’m trying to be polite”
Me, an ENTJ: “You’re a stupid donkey and here’s why”
Me (INTJ): LOL.. of course not.. and why do u want to change someone into something they're not? 😁
FJ should make a sketch out of this: 16 personalities facing with stupid arguments
H. J. the hell are you saying?
*aggressively shares this video to people who treat this as horoscope*
I am an INFJ that suppressed my emotions for many years and believed I was an INTJ, when really I was lying to myself about my priorities with every decision I made 😎
k... yes.
oh god this could be me
I’m the opposite. I was an INFJ, with therapy and a lot of inner work, I learned to detach from feeling, and rationalize before acting or judging. I am able to see very clearly now where my judgment is coming from, F or T. T is always smarter and a better decision maker. F is more sensitive and sometimes more childish. That’s how I see it in my case at least.
There is no answer. 😊😃❤️🙏
exactly! As an INFP, I really need to work on my Te...
As an INTJ, my Se really sucks, although that's also a problem of INFJs, and often also INFPs, since they have Se on the 7th place, which is together with the 4th place the lowest. INTJs have Fe in 7th place and I don't really get Fe at all.
Just because you don't know a way to change it / you are not capable of changing that does not mean that is impossible . I'm sure you did not even think about a single case if it is possible , you just came to this conclusion without considering any factor .
FYI you should take a look at people / criminals who have been to extreme rehab centers of different kinds , they are forced to change into something they are not , permanently . A lot of external factors contribute to our personality that MBTI fails to explain , MBTI just talks about the start , the origin and which way we are facing in the path of life but nothing about what may follow ...
Moreover I changed my type from INFP to INFJ and later INTJ in my early 15-16 .... The first time I took the test I got INFP , my INTP friend suggested me to take it thinking that eve I would get the same type as him . I was extremely happy with what I got but over the days a voice in my head started developing , it was not satisfied with the result , I did not like my friend getting type INTP but not me . I took the test once again after 3 months and this time I got INFJ - it was better but it was not what I was expecting(INTP) - again not satisfied I thought about it all day and recalled what I answered and was thinking about how I could answer better . Next day I took the test and I got INTJ - it was like I was given a complete different set of questions than before . I never knew that a type called INTJ existed but I was completely satisfied this time . The description matched with my talent ( inventing stuff / making gadgets of my own ) . Now my T-F ratio is 92:8 ... I can never relate to the person I was before ....
We can...
It is sth that you choose. Choose to make decisions by your feeling istead of thinking. Be more alone than before... an intj
Don’t let the smooth taste fool you. Being an INTJ is not for most people.
Accurate
Facts.
"You want the truth? You can't handle the truth!"
We are an acquired taste.
Gayyyy
ENTP
I'm an INFJ, while my boss is an INTJ. We get on so well and often share so similar views on many things. But as we work together, I have realised how different we are in the way we make decisions and solve problems, especially on people-related matters. That's when I realise I can never be an INTJ 😆 And now we understand each other better, we know what task each should pick up to use our strengths. So yeah, stick with being an INFJ 😂
Same same! INFJ here with INTJ boss. It's a win win combo, when I see the need for empathy for people related decisions (I think about it as consideration for certain underlying reasons) she actually listens. And sometimes when she makes tough ruthless decisions, I see it as necessity for maintaining work ethics. It's a good teamwork.
Sometimes when I made effort to hear people I even heard my INTJ boss say, "I need that in my life for balance".
I’m an INTJ. I wish I knew more INFJs, because we get on so well.
@@katnipkatnips I try to hire some of my people who are more feelers as an INTJ because I know my weaknesses.
do you think you could do a video on INFJs seeming like other types on the outside because of our chameleon abilities? like how INFJs can sort of embody other types? im pretty confident that im an INFJ but i feel like if i were to ask my friends to pick which type they think i am theyd probably choose ENFP and id just like to hear you talk about INFJs being misunderstood like that :)
INFJ really camelion types. My daughter is so adaptable, she gets mistaken for other personality types all the time. Especially when she's around her sister (ENFP) and when she's around me (ENFJ). So I totally understand what you are talking about.
I'm INFJ and I cannot embody other types? I mean, if I'm with a person of confidence, I can be more extroverted-like so people would guess I'm ENTP... But I'm an INFJ.
Maybe because I'm an Fi user and more attuned to people's internal workings and personality rather than Fe presentations and personas, but I don't find INFJs to be chameleons at all, insofar as they are not changing something intimately attached to themselves. Also, it interplays with Big 5, the more introverted and disagreeable INFJ I know doesn't change at all. My mother changes her behavior and even beliefs, but her speech pattern is still obviously NiFe; she sticks out even as she can interact so well with most people. It's more like someone with a highly unique face adopting the cultural manners and dress of an area, not changing their face itself.
@@xkenny-personalitydatabase5604 100% agree. ENTP would be THE chameleon. Then you have ENFP as well, and in the 3rd place INFP.
@@Koshrocreations yeah, Fi is a bit of a paradox in that it gives the awareness of the innerworkings to change it fundementally but in doing so creates an attachment/will against changing. INFPs I think have the greatest capacity, but most often will only do so in the pursuit of something like acting. With ENTPs, its like the Fi blind lacks precise identity so the being can inadvertently change with the external Fe changes. Which NeSi helps. But there's certainly a few factors!
I love how the INTJ is just a little bit more sad
This is so true, just because you get more social or closer to yourself doesn't mean your type changes, why we all have cognitive functions that can change, i think people really mistake the fact that introverts can get more social overtime but that don't make them an extrovert
It's so normal for INFJs and INTJs to relate on the perceiving/irrational functions (the whole Ni vs Se thing we both face) but the decider/rational functions being so inverted I think the difference shows up when a choice needs to be done and the motivation(s) behind it can be explored ❤️
Agreed! I’m definitely an INFJ, and I never understood why people would say they changed personality types.
It makes me worried they have split personality, to be honest.
I'm an INFJ but i like the INTJ personality alot but i like being an INFJ
INTJ friends and partners are amazing as an INFJ, at least that's my experience !
When u want to share ur thoughts with the world ,get out of ur head and view it from another point of view
*An Infj went through here *
You're my opposite! Im an INTJ but I like INFJs a lot...but I still like being an INTJ 😆
I am INTJ and my best friend is INFJ. We have been friends since we were 11 years old.
same, also i love ur pfp 😌
When I was younger, I closed off a lot of my emotional/feeling side to protect myself from rejection and isolation, so I probably came off a lot more INTJ at that time and the first time I ever took a test on it that was what I came out as. But it never really explained me and the way I functioned well. It wasn't until i took it later in a career course that I got INFJ and it fit like a glove in comparison. Looking back on it, always been an INFJ, but you can definitely grow, accept parts of you you've pushed to the side to cope, etc.
I can really relate to this, and having deeply sensitive emotions yet suppressing them and having this hard rational veneer, always attached to big picture rational things and getting INTJ. But when I burrowed under the surface I acknowledged sometimes this was a way to not be overwhelmed by the intensity of my empathy and feelings. Now I score INFJ
OMG this is exactly what I wanted to know because I have recently started getting INTJ though I was INFJ!!! Thanks!!!
Same I almost thought I was INTJ
ya same here
Same here!
I don't feel INFJ. Like... REALLY ;-;
@@NyrVindr Did you try different websites? Sometimes different questions give different results. If you don't relate to what's written for INFJ, chances are you might not be one ×_×
*Well explained-* _you will always be your type but you can still work on improving your functions._
That won’t change the fact that as an *INFJ, Se* will _always_ be a lot less comfortable for you than *Ni* or that as an *ENTJ,* functioning in *Fi* might still be _hard_ for you to muster- with improvement & working to balance oneself, though, an *ENTJ* could start _connecting with their emotions more readily_ & therefor be able to _move forward in areas of life they might’ve felt they couldn’t before._
*MBTI* is an *amazing & powerful tool* that _I am working hard to utilize in my own life._
It can also be a *fun & lighthearted tool-* _a way to share yourself with loved ones & vice versa-_ helping you to *understand* each other _more_ & *love* each other _better._
*If you’ve only touched the surface,* I _highly_ recommend *searching deeper* because it can _help improve your life in ways you’ve known you needed,_ by showing you how to get to the areas you _never knew how to reach before._
- *Have a lovely day- keep loving yourself, loving others, & make sure to remember, you’re beautiful & you’ve got this!* -
I think the difficulty some people tend to have with their type is that they interpret their type as their "personality" which it is not though. The four letters in your type description are your cognitive functions, basically how you perceive the world and respond to it primarily. This can't change. On the surface though behaviour can change, which many confuse with a change in type. Your initial way to respond to the things that surround you never changed though. It's not something we actively notice, it's the way we "think" or "feel". We can broaden our horizon and we should and of course we develop, but our initial response stays the same and relies on our main functions.
There are literally cognitive behavioural therapies used to change people’s responses to things. You can, to some extent, train yourself to respond differently and this is apparently reflected in the physical development of your brain. Maybe it’s unrealistic to expect people to change between 2 completely different types, but I think it’s reasonable to think some people could change cognitive types enough that their type changes.
@@genericname8727 Trained response ≠ initial response. My vocabulary used in this description is chosen for a reason the way it was chosen, but thanks for the comment 😊
Jung said the type could change. He was very clear about it. His reasoning for saying that is complicated because it goes to the heart of his understanding of human psychology.
@@maxbooth179 Well, that claim is the same as saying that Freud in all his theories is still correct. The core of any science related discourse is that theories change and develop. Jung opened the can, in this case typology, but the contents were later on cooked and seasoned by others (and don't get me wrong, I like Jung).
@@Toranghu But you train your brain to have a different initial response.
If you’re suggesting that who I am now matters less to my type than who I was as a 12 year old then that’s ridiculous. If we’re defining type by what it was at a fixed point and saying that any deviations from that type don’t count because they’ve changed from how you initially would have responded, then the only reason type can’t change is because you’re arbitrarily defining it that way..
OMG, thanks FJ! this video is definetly the answer for all of my friends that always says their type always change everytime. They should learn more about MBTI if they want to know about their real Type!
I'm INFJ and i always think that i can't change my personality. Yes, sometimes i can think logically, sometimes i can just let things be unorganized and chaos, sometimes im outgoing and want to throw myself in social events and having really good fun all day, all night. But one thing i noticed is that, after i went through all of these, i would normally get back to my INFJ nature. Stay indoor, listening to a very good music, ignoring people texting me for months or just started my old hobby again. I would recharges my energy by listening to some spiritual podcast, interesting human psychology, making judgement on things i should do or i should not do. I think that our cognitive functions function the way we wanted to think/feel at that moment. I hope this makes sense.
I HAD THIS EXACT DEBATE WITH SOMEONE THIS MORNING LMFAO
Who won?
YEAH ME TOO OMG after this video I can say that I won lol
I agree with you 100%. There's a lot of confusion, though, because people do different tests and get different results. They think they've changed in their personality rather than understanding that some tests aren't very accurate.
And, also, a lot of people assume extroversion means confident and introversion means shy which isn't the case. An introvert and extrovert make their decisions in different ways. The introvert will look into themselves and ask themselves what feels right whilst an extrovert will look outwardly and decide what will work best with others or the outer world. Both can feel socially confident or awkward. A good question to ask is: if you have a problem or are stressed, where do you go looking for answers? Within yourself or outside yourself?
An introvert is like a cat whereas an extrovert is like a dog. A cat is true to its own inner desires or integrity and is willing to dismiss the views of others. The dog is happiest when it's getting along with others and so it is willing to change its own behaviour to achieve social integrity. I guess you could say that the introvert seeks inner harmony whilst the extrovert seeks outer harmony.
I'm an introvert and I must admit that in the past I've thought extroverts aren't very smart people because when a decision needs to be made, they ask other people for their advice or guidance or what they want - and I would be like, "Are you unable to think for yourself?" Haaa. In a similar way, an extrovert could easily assume introverts are very selfish people.
I really like how you referred to the weaknesses/shadow/personal unconscious. Those weaknesses are particular to each type and don't change. They just show up in your life more or less depending on how conscious you are of them and how you manage them.
Great analogy! (Cat person, all the way!!) I would add that an introvert is more likely willing to go to the bathroom/ a movie/ a restaurant by themselves, whereas most extroverts would prefer to travel in packs. I also think it has to do with energy. Extroverts get their energy by being around other people and social interaction, whereas introverts need quiet and alone time in order to recharge. 😊
Very correct how you put it! And the line gets thinner when you have an extroverted introvert or an introverted extrovert.
I have 2 daughters. One is an INFJ. The other is ENFP. Everyone thinks my extrovert daughter is an introvert (simply on the basis that she's quiet) and my introvert daughter is an extrovert (on the basis that she's more social). But it has nothing to do with whether you like people or not. It's about how your brain functions.
I keep having more thoughts and wanting to add to this!
The shadow of the extrovert is selfishness. The unconscious extrovert will put forward an idea, suggesting that it will be great for others, when in fact it is what they personally want and it would not work for others.
The shadow of the introvert is not valuing others. Introverts can have the greatest ideas that will work for both themselves and others but they struggle to turn dreams into reality because outer reality requires an ability to work with others, and others will only work or play with you if you are valuing or appreciating them.
@@eynta2 Absolutely. You get it! I've got an extrovert brother who is very shy and awkward socially, and an introvert brother who is very confident socially.
@@laurela.235 Yes, extroverts are enlivened by social harmony or social integrity so it makes sense that they (and dogs) enjoy being in packs. And an introvert is enlivened by inner harmony or being true to oneself, so, yes, very comfortable "doing your own thing".
I love how some people don't catch the sarcastic/ironic message of the video and now is commenting with a totally actual innocence "I was an XXXX a few years and now I'm a XXXX"
Cheers since the ENTP side of the reality, a big hug for you Frank, I adore your videos. ♡
It sums up the problem, they don't listen or process the new information.
Is this Si thing to do? Also seem like low Te idk
As an ENFP I feel like turning into an ENTP on them just for this occasion...
Interesting video. I guess it also comes into consideration the percentage you got on each category. My experience as an INTJ getting 55% introvert and 45% sensing is not gonna be the same as one who’s got >90% intuition
this is so me...
It's about cognitive functions though but yes, if you're more extroverted than an extremely introverted person your extroverted functions would be more developed naturally
I'm here, because I have I 81%, N 80%, F 54/T 44%, J 83%, A 56%. Several test results :99% I have infj, Other 1 % is always intj. When I'm under big stress or really pissed I have intj. I guess it is logical transition - from relax (more or less) Mode to survival mode /fight mode. It is the way I see it and /or how I understand it. (sorry for mistakes, I'm not native english speaker)
Yeah, because in the end, everyone is different and the types aren’t going to represent everyone perfectly.
Also, there may be reliability issues with the 5-minute online quizzes we're using to determine our types. Or (from another video, describing INFJ) I don't even have a "self."
People don't want to hear about negative stuff these days, that's why. This "toxic positivity" is so exhausting!! Thanks Frank.
As an INFJ,i'm very emotional,so not only good emotions hit me hard,but also bad emotions.
So,i can be very negative,sad and "emo" when i feel like it😬
I'm an INFJ who tests as an INTJ often. It just doesn't fit me. I know I'm just an INFJ with highly developed Ti and someone who (especially lately) gets stuck in an Ni/Ti loop. I feel that's one big reason that INFJ types may get INTJ on their results.
Hey, Ashley. I do also. For me it is work related as I tend to become more assertive in leadership positions and my F flips to T.
Same! I think it's part of being more balanced, but at the end of the day, the combination of being a human sponge and subsequently an absorber of personalities is what ends up tipping the scale towards INFJ for me!
True, I know, I'm a INFJ, but some tests get INTJ results, I was going to buy the book mistic INFJ, after that INTJ result I'm not so sure. Actually, after this video, I may reconsider that. 😊
I am so glad I am not the only one! I am INFJ. A lot of times, when I get into situations that are extremely emotional for me, I try to handle it the best way I know how. Cold-hard logic and reason. This goes on for long periods of time, but the three times I remember testing during these phases, my result was INTJ. I wondered about it, because every other time (with various tests), my result has been INFJ.
I am an INTJ and my sister is an INFJ and more often than not, she is much colder than I am. I’ve always found this interesting.
One of the best things about knowing your personality type is understanding how to tone down your dominant functions when you see it annoying others. You can also learn to improve whatever you are weak at in order to become a more balanced person. But your I/E 'type' is basically how your brain processes data (internally or externally) which makes you you. It has little to do with loving or hating to be around people. So I agree, you can't change your personality type. You can, however improve your personality.
I just love how frank and transparent FJ is. Really
Almost a decade ago I took the Myers Briggs test several times and I was definitely INFJ.. But when I got emotionally hurt or emotionally traumatized by someone who I was in a relationship with for more than a decade, I became more critical to the point of being sarcastic, I became more introverted or reclusive, more independent and rational. I took the test again several times & my result came as INTJ. I researched in RUclips and read articles online about the INTJ personality and I can tell I really changed from being an INFJ to INTJ.
you just got into a loop lmao thats not healthy
Honestly, I struggled so much as INFJ,so I decided to be cold blooded and less social and I converted my 60 %percent F into 75% T. And now I'm a happy INTJ.
I had this talk with my girlfriend a lot when we first met, in an MBTI group. I'm ENFP and for a few days I convinced her as not being INTJ as she originally thought but an INFJ instead because she was warm and caring. However, I later admitted I'm wrong because she uses the INTJ functions and the "cold" INTJ is just a stereotype. Plus in our lone tense situation...She definitely showed true INTJness lol.
I was INFJ 4 years ago.
Today, I'm an INTJ since 3 months. I actually welcomed my new state of mind as a test to look if it helps me dealing with people. I'm fascinated.
Live long and prosper.
Whoa. I remember taking the test several years ago for fun, but I’ve never seen anyone discuss it like an actual researched subject. It’s kind of cool.
yeah, its a whole science!! i encourage you to look more into it, personality psychology can be really fascinating :)
I definitely switch between the 2, moods can change your personality, sometimes I’m very well and am touchy-feely, when I’m sick I’m very cold hearted. (mentally)
Yeah, I'm a socially extroverted INTP that used to be a social recluse. (Socially extroverted in the sense that I won't want to interact with anyone unless I'm forced to, but I become social once I'm in the situation. My energy still gets drained from s, but I will still be interacting like an extrovert while I have energy.) I'm not an ENTP just because I can talk to people normally now, I still use Ti, Ne, Si, and Fe as my cognitive functions, and I have developed Fe. My personality type didn't change, I just learned how to be more social and developed my inferior function.
I'm exactly the opposite. I'm an ENTP. I'm naturally a person who likes to be around people, but I'm kinda socially awkward and so I've become a bit more introverted and really relied a lot on my secondary Ti function so on some tests I'll sometimes come across as an INTP and I sometimes just consider myself a very introverted ENTP.
@@jpg99999 i read once that ENTP is the least extrovert among the the extrovert types
Can I just say it's awesome to watch his older videos and feel like Frank has really blossomed? He looks so much more comfortable in front of the camera compared to his older videos.
just guessing here, but i would think a lot of people who are into MBTI these days are young- like, under the age of 25. people are bound to be confused about who they are until they have had more life experience. also, people with high Fe may be easily confused about who they are since they are absorbing so much of other people's personalities.
I believe I was an INFJ. with therapy and a lot of inner work, I learned to detach from feeling, and rationalize before acting or judging. I am able to see very clearly now where my judgment is coming from, F or T. T is always smarter and a better decision maker. F is more sensitive and sometimes more childish. That’s how I see it in my case at least.
So... you improved in handling certain issues better.
Good job. Thats very hard work.
(Doesnt change a type. it helps with life quality, and thats the reason for this all anyway. So, you've done good. I hope youre proud of you.)
I'm very much an INTJ and it's become more obvious as I've grown older. But I've also become a more balanced INTJ over the years. I am fairly sensitive, though I don't often show it, and I care more about getting things done than how people feel about decisions that are being made. I've tested as different things, depending on the day, but cognitive functions and descriptions of reading the types have confirmed.
Our type can definitely change. I was an ENFP as a child and became an INFP because of bullying and abuse.
I’m so indecisive I change my mind about my MBTI type every two seconds and just decided to not ever decide ✌️feels better that way lmao
My guess, youre not an INTJ. Ooooor, youre just really insecure.
Whatever the case, I hope youre doing fine or better or whatever. But, you got this. Just keep going.
YES
"if u was in your shell a lot and now u talking to ppl that doesn't mean u become extroverted,that means you just growing as a person,you are still your personality"
I am Infj and i do talk a lot to ppl when i get to and i love listening to their perspectives all the time,i love when they vent to me or tell me their problems,i feel than like something important in their life,like i worth. Rather than to be quiet and be insolated in my thoughts,i give them compliments now and advices if i see its important
2:54 - 3:20
Thx FJ, that part really helped clear something up for me.👍
The Dr. Grande impression/reference delighted me right off the bat, then you followed with a great lesson on cognitive functions. Well done. Gold star for you on the Big Board.
/intj 4-ever
Frank you are a vampire, you never sleep
That was rather refreshing. All this time I thought I was an INFJ who balanced emotions with logic, but I found out I'm actually an INTJ who's simply more nurturing...not to mention more comfortable expressing and dealing with emotions. Although romance is as foreign to me as JAVA is to a programmer who's only fluent in C++.
I solve problems with methods and logical thinking. I make decisions based on personal values or what option makes more sense/is more efficient. Yes, I would kill one to save five. I'm just not good at subtleties, but I think that's more due to my lack of social experience. I've ALWAYS been socially inept.
So was I an INFJ who became an INTJ? No. I was simply mistyped. I'm happy that I finally have that all settled though.
merch idea:
"Is't possible?"
- Shakespeare
As an ENTP my personality is: Fuck your rules! + Please like me/adore me
Aside from that I just glue on top of it whatever seems useful at the moment.
Inside I feel as if I have *no* personality but examining my actions externally has pointed out some quite static sides of me. I guess that's personality then?
Frank, I agree with your point but I think you're looking at the question in a limited way and not factoring in all variables; for example mental illnesses or neuroplasticity.
I'm personally an ENTJ but struggle with ASPD and depression. And here's the thing: do I believe myself to be extroverted? Yes. Am I actually acting like an extrovert? Not at all. For the past few years I've watched myself become more and more introverted, and I'm fully aware that it is because of my mental health issues and thus grapple with them constantly to keep them under control and not allow them to change me too severely. And they actually *can* do that.
Based on what I've learned of brain functions, mental illnesses, and trauma, a personality *can* change. Of course, it's also possible to change it back, but the more severe the situation the less likely that is. But just like my friend who has BPD can create new neural pathways and alter her own mind through different techniques, and just like people with ASPD improve with age, so can a person's preferences, tendencies, and impulses change. I'm not talking about a day-to-day shift in mood (which you addressed perfectly in your video), I'm speaking of behavioural patterns that hold true in different circumstances over a long period of time.
To go with a pop culture example, I've discovered I'm a Slytherin-Gryffindor-Ravenclaw hatstall (each at about 30%) yet all through my teen years I viewed myself as a Gryffindor-based on both my values and impulses. Now, I identify as a Slytherin (a hatstall has to choose a House as well), because my values, preferences, and even subconscious reactions to different situations have vastly changed.
*My point is,* brains are not set in stone and therefore personalities are not objective but subjective. Yes, there is a certain level of flexibility in a personality, and feeling introverted one day does not mean our personality has changed, but past that level there does exist a line where we do indeed change.
Actually, it's better to say brains and personalities *are* set in stone. It just so happens that stones are not diamonds.
I'm a ENFP with cptsd, when life is rough I stay in my shell, and that is a big part of the problem, I need to get out more, its even what I do for therapy, big chunks of the world suck, but little chunks don't, and they are worth seeking out.
@@Gee-xb7rt They definitely are. I wish you strength :)
@@tenthousanddaysofgratitude Thank you, yes you have a point. I think the issue with typology can be addressed by accepting a certain line between types that can be crossed but not easily.
For example, we can say trauma *can* change a person's MBTI type, but not always. Deciding whether the type has changed or not would require the person to re-evaluate and reassess their functions. Perhaps with the help of a psychologist. It *is* important to find out who we are and how we've changed. As they say, knowledge of self is the most crucial type of knowledge.
@@tenthousanddaysofgratitude I don't think trauma changed my function stack, but it helps knowing that i'm a damaged ENFP, and using ENFP to understand where I need to get back to to be a little less broken.
@@Gee-xb7rt That *is* one way to look at it and I'm so glad the typing has helped you in that way. I wish you strength in your journey 🖤
For me it's a little different. I don't view my healing journey as fixing myself. Because I might be broken, but that's who I am and cracks are rather beautiful. I am fully aware of the ways my trauma has changed me and I don't wish to go back, because there is nothing wrong with the person I've become. I'm proud of me. Of course, my function stack hasn't changed in any other cases. I only now identify as ambivert. Do I wish to go back to the extrovert I was? No. Do I plan to fight to keep myself from changing further and becoming introverted? Yes.
I'm an INTJ that became an INFJ. First MB test at thirteen, second at forty.
There's also the fact that as you get older, you tend to see yourself using your tertiary and inferior functions more, while they may have been almost non-existent when you were a kid. Another misunderstanding that people who bristle are personality typing have is that typing is prescriptive. Typing is descriptive. It doesn't "put" anyone anywhere, it merely describes what is already there. If a biologist identifies something as a butterfly, that doesn't mean the biologist is keeping it from being a moth. The biologist is merely describing the characteristics that already make that creature different from a moth. Hopefully that makes sense.
Thank you! This plus other research has led me to realize that even though I tested as an INTJ years ago, I was really just a mean INTP. The J and the P were almost equally matched in the test. I’m much better now as I grow into myself fully embrace the INTP.
I was introduced to Myers-Briggs back in 2009, then took the test again in 2011 and both times my results were INFJ. I felt so strongly about the accuracy because it perfectly described who I was from childhood up until that point. Years later in 2014, after major life changes and some personal growth, a friend asked me to take the test again because she didn’t believe I was an INFJ. I was shocked when suddenly my results indicated I was an ISFJ. While agreeing that the results suited my then-personality, I stubbornly refused to believe I was an ISFJ for a long time. But when I think about how I was from adolescence until college and who I am now, I know I’ve changed. I continue to take the test every few years and my results have remained constant.
I believe that this test is most accurate after a person’s most formative years and would argue that our personalities do “change”, but only in regards to how we view others and the world around us, and only after a period of growth and development. I believe in the consistency of the Myers-Briggs and Jung theories, but then-they are theories and by no means do I believe them to be perfectly accurate.
OR. One could argue that I was always an ISFJ, but that taking the mbti as an adolescent (and even young college student) was not going to reveal an accurate result due to my experiences of the world and fluctuating beliefs at the time.
I agree and disagree.
I agree in the sense that a child will definitely fluctuate in the sense that they’re trying to figure out themselves and how they view/interact with the world. You could’ve been one thing but gained more understanding of yourself over time and turned into something else.
I disagree in the sense that I think a traumatic event would have strong potential to knock you into a different personality type as well. If you had a trauma, that could also have done something to affect you, where you changed personality types like that. I say this because at least, that’s how (I think) it worked in my case. So it makes sense to me that this is possible. However I was pretty young when both traumatic events happened, so I’m also not certain if it’s the trauma or if it was me still developing, especially since I was one thing, bumped into something completely different, then regressed back into original thing.
I was definitely INTP based on my poor upbringing, it’s just how I had to be to keep it together and continue on with life without everything bothering me. However after a near death experience at 15 and waking up in a hospital, I was definitely an ENFP. It was a trauma but it affected me in a positive way. It’s literally like my brain snapped into something else after it, I have no way of describing the sensation other than that. I was a completely different person when I woke up in the hospital than from my 15 years prior to that event, which still sounds and is crazy to me. I saw the world in almost an opposite way than I did before, instantly.
But again at 20, I experienced another trauma, this time in a negative way. As an ENFP, I had a strong connection with other people. I always looked to the good qualities in people, nobody is truly evil right? Find the good in them and build your friendships/relationships off that! Unfortunately that mentality made it impossible to see the danger signs of someone I thought was my good friend for 3 years. They were a truly evil person, but scarier, they had me completely fooled. What they did went against everything I believed to be true about others and how I viewed them and world, and it was so personal because it came from someone whom I would’ve thrown my life away for in a heartbeat. I couldn’t comprehend anything that happened or why this person did the things they did. It drove me to the point where I just broke down inside, because now I was just questioning everything about anything and everyone around me. This event was but wasn’t instant like the near death experience trauma. This one took some months to settle in. I kinda just cut myself off from the world, got lost in thought, and realized how little I truly understood. I had to try and rationalize what this person did, understand it, figure it out, to be able to move on with myself, otherwise I knew I was going to get stuck in this rut and never recover. When I calmed down enough to take some time to step back and think to myself finally, I realized all the warning signs this person had set off, that I never noticed before. It was so obvious, how could I have missed it? I was so caught up in how great people are, that I completely didn’t account for just how equally terrible they can be by their own choice. There is good, but there is also evil, and this person CHOSE evil. It was an eye opener. In that moment I just felt like everything in the world made sense again. It was like a weird switch in my brain flipped and I could feel gears start turning again. “Never again”. Poof. Instant. From that moment to present, full blown INTP again, no end in sight. Been almost 10 years. Don’t know jack about other people any more (I clearly didn’t know in the first place anyway), but hey, I can definitely spot a bad apple now by analyzing everything about them first as they approach me! That’s my silver lining I guess.
So is it possible to change your personality? Again I just don’t know, I WAS pretty young. Plus, I went from INTP to ENFP back to INTP. That tells me maybe I was always INTP but had somehow tapped into better developed cognitive functions, then regressed based off of a really bad event with a terrible person. But I also do know, if I hadn’t experienced 1st trauma, I would’ve stayed INTP regardless, and I would’ve never experienced 2nd trauma because I’d have immediately plastered a red flag on this person’s face. But I also know, if I experienced 1st trauma, and not 2nd trauma, I would’ve stayed an ENFP, and would still be like that now. So I guess yes, personality can change? A trauma could deeply affect how you approach the world. 🤔but I’m still not entirely certain if that’s a fact. I’m just one person.
....you know it’s an INTP in the comments when they write you a short story for a reply 🤣sorry it got so long!
Sometimes I wish I knew about the test when I was young so I could have taken it. I'm so curious to know what I would have been, if it would have made a difference.
@@katherynemero4118 if you know what your thought process was when you were younger, you can still take it now and see. Just pick answers based on what you would’ve done then vs what you do now.
Good in depth analysis.
Personality type is like a cooking recipe. Sometimes you need to improvise and the best recipe in life will always be the one that you made on your own
People think I'm an extrovert when I'm having fun with my Ne.
-Very introverted INTP
Yeah that's relatable
-Another very introverted INTP
My classmates think I'm an extrovert
-A very introverted INFJ
EXACTLY, it happens me a lot. -INTP
@@ley3905 One of my discord friends thinks I’m an extrovert because I’m not afraid of talking to new people
I like talking to old ones too but I mostly talk to a variety of people so I can get different opinions and knowledge in a new way
I’m not ENTJ though
I’m really quiet irl lol too. I keep on telling them that I’m an introvert with alright social skills but they still think I’m extroverted.
-INTJ
@@pastelpanta2966 yeah being an introvert doesn't mean we suck at talking with new people. Its mostly because we don't care. Introversion means we get energy from alone time, not we would be mute lol.
Happy you addressed this matter. Heard some people saying recently "I was infp but now I'm infj etc etc...so I changed.." 😵
THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN INFPs & INFJs is just so huge....how can...???😵
I think our MBTI type can be compared to our eyes color...my color doesn't change! If my eyes are green can't be blue after 2 years! Of course the shade can change a little because of the sunlight or darkness...or even because of the eye-makeup...but basically it remains the same. If u took the test once, and you answered honestly then u should stick to that result. If u keep on repeating the test again&again the result might be biased.
Well said 😊
hmm, MBTI was a thing when I was in university. I was on my high horse in my late teenage years and I tested ENTJ. So, for a very long time, I believe that I was an ENTJ. For I never truly understand what 'social anxiety' feels like. I never felt it, I never experienced it! I am not shy, I am a very confident kind of person with self value and I can talk with anyone with no hesitation.
Until the pandemic came and I was forced to snuggle in isolation 😅
I didn't get out of my childhood home for one and a half years and needed another two years to get used to civilisation again.
I knew that I became more introverted and began to experience the anxiety I looked down upon 😂. So I got another test and repeated it in half a year. Surely, now my 'E' turned into 'I'
Or I thought 😅 because when the change intrigued me and made me dig deep into these MBTI things, I had to admit that I was and am an INTJ all along 😊
I traced back my past actions from my memory and diaries and solid proof of how thick the INTJ thinking traits in my young self! Maybe because of a lack of experience, my Fi has yet to develop much. Now I have become a more emotional INTJ. Although could not be compared with the Fi dominant individual 😂
I have not changed from an extroverted individual to an Introverted individual. I was just an extroverted imposter for some period in my life.
This is so true, just because you get more social or more closer to yourself doesn't mean your type changes, it develops so don't get into that, but dont worry you can still pretend
This video: * Was made 30 minutes ago *
Me : * looks at the comment section * ok nvm...
Personality types can be changed and this is how:
Your cognitive functions describes how exactly your brain is wired(rn!) and in reality you can actually change your mental wiring and whole patterns by doing what?
By getting into uncomfortable situations or letting some trauma into your life. I personally used to be an INFJ around 5 years back and now I'm an INTJ.
I took the test almost 7 times in last 10 months and I always got INTJ!
Personality types can be changed, its all about changing your behaviours, patterns by repetition and putting yourself in uncomfortable situations.
"letting some trauma into your life" implies that you are choosing to let it in or not. are you saying I could've just told my entire childhood "hm. no thanks!" and just... not let myself be traumatized??? holy shit this is a GAME CHANGER... god I wish I knew that as a kid!
Ahaha, oh no. That sarcasm is good, ahh i feel bad. Forgive me. Im so sorry that you had to endure that. My opinion is that trauma just distorts the original personality type. As the comment above said, they used to be an INFJ, but now they behaves more like a INTJ, which implies that certain behavior ...and its basically just "one aspect" got warped around. Its a safe mechanism. Being too feeling was too much, so they kinda judge with "distance" now. I dont think someone can "just avoid their trauma", thats like "no, i got run over by a car, but i definitly did totaly not get hit by it" ...really? But that doesnt mean that we need to stay trapped in the pain of trauma, even when it changed our bodies or minds, ...uh... as they say, "im more than my trauma" ....or scars. Or bad memory... or whatever it was.
Sorry, the bad memory part was a bad joke. Cuz, i cant remember it right. @@arcticshark3420
We're the same type our whole life, EXCEPT DURING PMS WHEN OUR INNER ENTJ IS UNLEASHED 🦈
Caz Bee 😂🤣😂🤣 So true lol, I call it my inner psycho haha. I’ve been way more cranky during quarantine lockdown though. ☹️
full time ENTJ here... 🤨
If anything, PMS unleashes my inner INFP, lol.
I’m an INTJ, and I go full psycho during PMS. That’s why I isolate myself as much as possible. I’m not made for prison. 😂🤣
As a typically *playful* ENTJ, when I PMS I go full on Gordon Ramsey mode
Thanks a lot for this eye opening train of thought. I have been an INTJ for my whole life but had some major life changes 4 years ago and got typed as an INFJ for the last 4 years. Just went through another wave of changes and was typed as an INTJ again. Got the hang of it now 😇
Thank you for explaining this. Some people could use this information. A lot of people involved in the MBTI community don't really understand the cognitive functions and how they come into play with certain aspects of life and development. A lot of people can't really self-analyze and roll back their lives in their head to view how they might possess stronger cognitive functions and weaker ones, aka their "personality" type. Like you said "zoomed out".
I admit that it can take quite some effort to do enough research to understand the functions and what it might mean for each type. But it doesn't mean anyone is limited to be a certain way, it's just like you said, weaknesses and strengths. It's useful for self development to learn about it if you can see past the simple surface-level guise that people make MBTI into.
I will admit that the "MBTI 4 sides of the mind" that a certain group of people organized does seem to make a LOT of sense, but it doesn't mean you are multiple types. You have one type.
when you don't know if you are an INTJ or INFJ, you can question if you are more in T when you are healthy or F. its about who you are, when you are your best self
I think it’s a bit like sexual orientation. You can’t change it at will or suddenly. Your behavior may mask the way it manifests to other people. It tends to be stable for long periods of time. But it CAN evolve over your lifetime, whether due to environmental factors, physiological changes, or learning more about the way you most naturally function.
Great video - this comes up A LOT - and I think the biggest reasons for that are that folks confuse behavior with preferences, (an introverted manager may have to hold a lot of meetings with others but that doesn't mean it's their preference), and also the less well you know yourself, the more likely you are to answer how you think others want you to be rather than how you really are
Severe traumatic experiences can change one's personality, they have to impact you right at your core. The flip flopping just shows that people don't know what they're talking about or they haven't yet grasped the essence of typology.
huh. I guess that's how I went from esfp/estp to isfp
True. Also, a personality can change in childhood years since personality isn't fully integrated until you're nine. I used to be ENTP before I was around eight, but I'm now ISTJ due to my parents being incredibly strict. But if it is a change in personality, it is usually a large change in the cognitive stack rather than a simple T/F flip.
"The flip flopping just shows that people don't know what they're talking about or they haven't yet grasped the essence of typology." Exactly.
@@woosh5102 I wouldn't say you can actually point to a specific personality type in childhood, maybe in rare cases. But you can point to different temperaments that kids have which later can crystalize into a specific personality type. It's very malleable at that age.
Yes that is how I am typed as INFP sometimes instead of ENFP. I was bullied as a kid and that just made me scared of new people and appreciate lonesomness. I will always carry that with me. But I still know I am ENFP.
Don't know why but with the glasses on he actually looks and sounds like an INTJ
I thought Carl Jung said that as we become more individuate the types become more balanced
That sounds about right.
It makes sense.
I went from an INTJ to an ESFP. Guess I didn't test well the first time. ESFP for me is spot on!
Cheers!
Go Nats!
My sister was an ENFJ when she was younger; she used to talk to lots of people and openly express her feelings but after being picked on a lot through life she became an INTJ. I honestly feel that depending on your circumstances your personality can change. Sorry if I'm wrong.
Agree
Experience exhibits that result.
Also if those wounds are dealt with(patiently..) you eventually find yourself again..
I could say the same... but nope, we just grow up and become more independent. We discover our own comfort. :)
I'm an ENFJ. I've often thought after the passing of years that I became more of an INFJ. But I realized I just don't enjoy being around people as much as I use to. I love my alone time (which is unusual for an ENFJ). But I also have studied how you can improve your low functions and tone down your top functions. Many would guess I changed. But...even though I don't think Frank explained this one well, other than improving your low functions, you can't change the way your brain processes information. The most an extrovert can do is hold back from expressing as much as they use to... Especially when they are around people that know their personality type and they don't like being a stereotyped person. 😅
@@ruiierudice I agree with you
After I had a huge emotional trauma partly caused by me hurting someone and having consequences beyond any possible repair, I think I developed a very strong Fe. When I talked to my mom about MBTI a few months ago she was sure I was a XXTX, although I'm definitely an INFJ. It's hard for me to remember how I was before my trauma (at 21yo) and getting anxiety and all sorts of defenses from it but she might have guessed I was an INTJ as a kid. I think it's not something that happens day to day, but type not being absolutely stagnant in this type of cases just makes a lot more sense than "you can only be what you were in childhood" !
I totally agree with Frank. You know, there's sth you cannot change, your cognitive function, but you can become a healthy version of your type...
I was for sure an INFJ during my adolescence but... high school drama happened... Betrayal after betrayal, followed by my grandma dying, so... I'm now an INTJ. And it seems normal to me... I was more "naive" emotionally, more open emotionally, more "innocent" while now I'm more stern and I don't base my decisions purely on my emotions. I also don't trust people that easily anymore ☺ So yeah... INTJ's for the win
awesome! well path of disturbances occurs in everyone's life so you are right
But you still INFJ you are making decisions based on past emotional wounds..
So INFJ is not bad
My first thought when you mentioned someone thinking they switch, I was like "that sounds like typical INFP & ENFP". 😆
I took personality tests before and I always get INFJ until I did the cloverleaf test and got INTJ. so I thought, maybe I’ve changed.
My best friend is INFJ and I am INTJ. I have other friend who is ENTJ and the connection goes so smoothly that it feels like it was always meant to be
I’ve taken the test several times, have reviewed the cognitive functions, and I’m almost always split between INTJ and INFJ. Normally it goes about 51% T and 49% F.
Ultimately, I think I identify more with INTJ, but I think a large contributing factor is my medicine. I struggled with rage and anxiety but my medicine has greatly helped in calming me down and relaxing me. During this state, I tend to be a feeler at the apex of the cycle and go back into my thinker states at the beginning and end of the day.
Not sure if that makes sense or if I just haven’t discovered what my “true” type is and have merely developed/improved upon my weaknesses.
Omg same! Antidepressants have really toned down my "sensitivity" aka nearly daily meltdowns. Now I find it hard to cry lol
Well, INTJ or INFJ isn't simply about feeling vs thinking. The main difference is in preference of cognitive functions.
You know really the difference when you are asked to choose either explaining the logic behind your thought or explaining what you feel - what do you think you can explain and make other person understand it?
When you feel, do you "feel" others (feel sad as an emotion when others are sad) or do you try to understand the feeling of others conceptually? Do you choose to hug a sad person first and make sure they feel better, or to listen to the sad person first and then give them a useful advice for them to improve themselves?
These choices are what make you an INTJ or INFJ, else the make is almost similar. An INTJ with developed Fi can mimic INFJ in simpler personality tests, and INFJ with developed introverted thinking can mimic INTJ too, but when you get to know them and yourself, you know exactly who you are.
This was such a perfect timing cause this whole day I was wondering if I was an INFJ or INTJ. Thanx FJ for making this clear!
You can imagine how glad I am at the end of this as an INTJ. If it was possible to change, then the whole world would want be XNTJs and I really don't want that kind of common.
Good explanation FJ!
Hrm. I would not. I'm pretty comfortable with my FJ leanings, and compensating for them by now. 😂
MARGARET KAMAU I type INTJ but I’d really rather not.
Who wants to be an xNTJ, wth? XD Literally no one wants that bro
I stay with one.
15 yrs.
No one needs this.
In any way.
ENTP
Can you elaborate your "the whole world would want to be xNTJs?
I think Objective Personality has an answer regarding how the functions interact with each other (Blast, Sleep, Play, and Consume). About 50% of the people favor their 1st and 2nd functions in the stack, while the other 50% favor their 1st and 3rd functions. For example, I am an INFJ (Ni Fe Ti Se) but I like the interactions between Ni and Ti, which may make me look like an INTJ (Ni Te Fi Se), but I'm not. People with extroverted feeling, Fe, are quite different from those with introverted feeling, Fi. The same is true of the thinking functions, T.
I feel like I’m INTJ and since you mentioned horoscopes.. I’m a Pisces as well and a woman...it’s been very interested growing up and being misunderstood
@Kei Keishin my mom is an INTJ Aquarius. I don't believe that's misunderstood. I read that Aquarius is supposed to be introverted, so your type makes perfect sense. Maybe for the Pisces too. It's the more intellectually developed time of the year. Supposedly. I don't really believe the Aquarius intelligent/unique/gifted stereotype. That's not my experience with Aquarius.
I'm an Aries. I'm supposed to be an Extrovert, but I'm an INFJ. If I feel misunderstood, it's only because people have no idea what is going on. People don't really think about things other than themselves. The few people I like are INTJ's. One is an Aquarius. The other is a Virgo. The Virgo thing shocks me all the time because she is super intelligent. And she's not even 18 yet.
@Kei Keishin I have to admit, I've learned so much about myself and the people around me with this study of MBTI. My sister is an ISFP. We've gotten closer because I can finally understand what she's going and why. I've also been working on my negative traits too. Now that I see them.
Yeah, you always explain that the cognitive functions are about preferences and not overly rigid.