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My name is Zara Beth (zeezee25 on tiktok) and I post videos about disability, neurodiversity and what its like living with Tourette's Syndrome, Functional Neurological Disorder (FND) and a chronic illness called Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome (POTS). Tourette's syndrome is a neurological condition causing involuntary movements called tics.
I use my social media (TikTok, RUclips and Instagram) to advocate and raise awareness for my conditions and show what it is like living with a disability as a neurodivergent person.
I am also autistic and share my sensory struggles along with my experiences with mental health disorders.
I show what its like having a disability and the accomodations I have to help my daily life. I am also an ambulatory wheelchair user showing my life using mobility aids and how symptoms change from day to day!
I am also a musician with a popular song called "She's Mine" available on all streaming services - I wrote, produced, mixed and mastered all my songs myself! I am also an artist and a writer. I love reading and I'm currently writing a novel and a book about my life!
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reminder that this isn’t a diagnostic tool or that these traits aren’t ONLY for neurodivergent people 🙃💖
The fact that I put my fingers down on the same ones you did 💀
Oh wow I had put so many fingers down im so different haha. Bro I have adhd and other stuff and I despise adhd content. It’s cringe and it’s going to make people think they are quirky for no reason. Stop it
@@user-gj6rl7po9q she is just spreading awareness about it so don’t hate on her.
Who thought this was
@@user-gj6rl7po9qwhy did u comment it will only bring u more content that your not enjoying. The algorithms show you vids similar to those u comment on so if u really don't like ppl being silly on the internet don't comment just leave the vid. Or u could click the don't recommend so your even less likely to see similar content.
Questionnaires are frustrating because they don’t allow you to give details, explanations of your choices, or options to choose more than one option! Mine invariably end up being covered in notes between the questions! 😂
I struggled with this even in grade school when we were supposed to guess what was happening in a picture and of course the only “correct” answer was related to some current spelling word or something but to me, the picture was very ambiguous.
@kimberleyhosmer5997 I hate it so much.
Just yesterday I had to do one at my doctor's. I have to do it 4 times a year and I hate it.
It's for chronicle pain. The question "Do you often have a dry mouth" makes me always mad. Because I often have a dry mouth because of my meds. Not because of my pain itself.
And then I have to say if certain adjectives describe my pain. Adjectives like 'terrible, excruciating, torturing, creepy, etc'
It's actually not in English. I'm just using some English words as examples. But the actual adjectives are some, I've never heard anyone describe their pain.
Yeah, I always want to explain the situations in which my answer applies, or ask how often is often etc.
I don't know if you've ever seen the "literacy" test (it's called that, it doesn't test for literacy at all) that was used to exclude black people from voting? Every question had several possible answers and any of them could be considered right or wrong based on the whims of the corrector. Some questionnaires make me feel like filling out one of those tests.
OMG yes. Overthinking them.
Also, yes 'what do they mean' or, 'none apply to me, I want ANOTHER option!'.
Doesn't help that I deal with questionnaires a lot in my job and often say 'well this is porely designed' or 'I wouldn't have asked it like that'!
I get a lot of eye-rolling from colleagues lol.
Often get to look at draft surveys etc. Big mistake if they ever want them finalised, or not twice as long as when they started😂
Don't try to take autism diagnostic tests then bc if you're like that you'll find them just as rage inducing as I did..
To be fair that should probably be one of the questions "do you think you were given an adequate amount of choice options per question?"
The obvious answer is no but at least I'd feel a little better knowing the frustration was PART of the quiz 😂
I always explain where I need to in questionnaires. There is usually enough blank space somewhere if it’s on paper. At the Dr office online questionnaires include an extra info space. Whew!!!
"what?...I'm gay" GOLD
I find hilarious that Zara didn't say "lesbian"
@@madgoose_probably bi or pan then
@@madgoose_why
@@preppycloset cuz "gay" is primarily male homosexuality
@@th3dream1ng so why gay men can't call themselves "lesbians" :/
I didn't put a finger down for the questionnaires one because I don't consider them *impossible* to complete - but, now I think about it, they ALWAYS leave me feeling "These are stupid questions, they don't allow for ANY nuance at all... ah, screw it, I'll pick that one, because it doesn't matter anyway..!"
yes omg same
I’m so sorry but this counts 😭 overthinking questionnaires is part of it. Thats what my doctor said when I spoke about the pre-screening tests to be a pain to get though cause there’s always a “but-“ clause.
Or it’s because it question isn’t specific enough
Same!! They never allow you to provide an accurate, whole answer, and it $***$ me to tears!!!!!
"it doesn't matter anyway..!"
Well, except if it's a diagnostic questionnaire. For half of the questions on the ADHD one I was like "technically no, but only because I do this". The other half was remembering stuff that would have changed my answer like a month later.
Questionnaires (ESP mental health questionnaires at the doctor) are so hard because I’m always like “well, do I ACTUALLY feel this way or is my brain LYING to me??? If I answer with 1000% honesty are they gonna put me back in the psych ward????? Am I feeling this way FOR ATTENTION??? No I do genuinely feel like I wanna die all the time… BUT WHAT WILL THEY THINK OF ME??????”
DUDE SAME
I hate the "lack of focus" and "speaking so fast or slower that others may notice" because ITS NOT SPECIFIC
I'm just sitting there staring at it like "I know this is for depression but I was never able to focus in class even before my depression, would I say "all the time" or "never"??? And the speaking too fast part too, idk what could be causing that?? It's normal for me"
And I always feel like I'm faking it when really I don't remember how often I feel a certain way or do a certain thing, I don't keep track and when I do, I never look back at it
YALL ARE BOTH SO RIGHT
Also, "do you struggle with X" - well … no, but only because I explicitly do stuff to avoid or preempt it.
I'm left with 2 fists, and an urge to start boxing, outta turn adhd into a superpower with hyperfixation in the boxing world
Omfg lmaoo
@@anengineer152 let's do it G
Does ocd count as neurodivergent?
@@JonathanMullany-fx1qh being completely honest I'm a fucking mess mate I have no clue what ocd is outside of having to do certain things in certain orders
Lol
THE QUESTIONNAIRES! I always find myself thinking "that's not how the words 'agree' and 'disagree' even work, that's just a factual statement...." or "this isn't a survey, this is a series of "questions" designed to bolster the interrogator's preconceived notions...." or ......
I never understood how other people can do personal questionaires quickly. Like, do they not need to introspect to find the right answers? If we were doing one in a group I'd always be the last one.
@@Evija3000 I'm starting to think that "think" has distinctly different meanings depending upon which "thinker" is speaking.
You know, I didn't really think I struggled with questionnaires at first, but then I went down into the comments and saw replies like yours. It turns out I DO actually do stuff like this. 😆 For me, it depends on the type of questionnaire/ how straightforward it is.
Argh, questionnaires! I always overthink the questions and get annoyed at how ambiguous some of them are. Like, if the question asks, Would you say that…? Am I answering subjectively? Objectively? I feel one way about certain things, but that doesn’t mean I can’t see the other side, so how do I answer? Or if I instantly see circumstances where a statement could be true/false, when they’re clearly looking for the opposite answer. I need a box underneath to qualify my answer, please.
This! I'm glad I'm not the only one asking questions to the questions! 😂 "what do you mean?"/"Well, it depends on the context"/"Define [_]" or even "...what the fuck are you on about?!" 😂
OMG THE WRITTEN COMMUNICATION. I am incapable of explaining/expressing my feelings and opinions by verbal communication, I prefer 100 times written communication. Even when I was little, I used to give my mother notes about how much I loved her instead of just telling her out loud, same when I was angry or sad or happy, I wrote it down to let other people know
I think i can only truly express something to another person through visual stimuli, on occasion paired with auditory stimuli, probably why my special interest is film studies
@@WelcomingFrown Interesting my preferd communication goes face to face > written > voice only.
This is me 100%. My mom has passed away but she kept all my notes, professions of love and everything else. And it’s still me today, I feel I can express and represent myself clearer in writing. In person I’m usually quite uncomfortable because interactions are just draining and overwhelming.
most neurotypical people actually do experience all these things! and what's more, not all neurodivergent people will experience all of these things either, since neurodivergence is a huuuge spectrum. i'm AuDHD (ADHD and Autistic) and i only put down 4 or 5 fingers. as some people have mentioned in the comments, some of these things can also be behaviors resulting from trauma, not necessarily even linked to neurodivergence at all. but something to consider if you're wondering if you may be neurodivergent, is the frequency of your symptoms/behaviors. stimming, for example, is done by _both_ neurotypicals and neurodivergents. but where neurotypicals stim only occasionally (maybe a couple times a week or even less often), neurodivergents--especially those with ADHD and/or Autism--will stim pretty much every day, often multiple times a day. just like how if you sneeze once or twice, you and everyone around you probably won't think much of it if they notice at all. but if you're sneezing every few hours, and everyone around you seems to be noticing the difference (maybe even pointing it out to you), it's pretty likely you're coming down with something. neurodivergence is much like that.
of course, as the OP stated, games like these, as well as online questionnaires, shouldn't be taken too seriously. they're mostly for fun. but they can definitely be a springboard that leads to real research, self realizations, and consultations with qualified professionals. and there's nothing at all wrong with that :)
Please don't call it Neuro divergent symptoms. Neuro divergent is a umbrella term that consists of many different disorders and conditions. You saying it's only ADHD and autism invalidates the other disorders and leaves people with misinformation.
Yeah I’ve been stimming for as long as I can remember. I have the fingernails (or lack-thereof) to show for it. It’s very obvious to those around me.
The confusion around gender or sexually diverse was a demonstration of why questionnaires are difficult. Also the answer "it depends". (I'm an 8.5?)
As a person who doesn't identify with the social construct of feminine for my culture and beautiful people come in all forms, i get how this is a difficult question
8-8.5 here too because I don’t know if people take advantage of my trusting nature, like they might but it’d be behind my back if anything
I actually laugh at myself now bc I've noticed almost every time I get asked an opinion-based question my answer is 'depends' 😅 (this time it was the guilt one)
Not sure what the confusion was, if she's gay then yeah, that's pretty obviously a Yes
That one confused me a bit. I’m bisexual, so would I put a finger down for that one? 🤔
The one about not starting new tv shows hit me DEEP!!!!!!😂😂
i have never heard someone actually bring up the struggle of listening or watching new things, it’s stressful and for some reason it’s just hard. same with committing to books.
I'm good with factual books/TV what I struggle with is new fiction....
@@chloebenn5708 it’s just really nerve racking in general, even if i really want to watch something
Yes! Have struggled trying to explain to friends why I don't have the mental energy yet to watch the show they have suggested, even though I know I will like it...
I have so many shows I still want to watch but then when it's time to start something new I just watch RUclips videos from people I already know lol. And I *never* intentionally listen to new music. I have my 16gb SD card in my 10 year old mp3 player that I just listen to on repeat lol. The only way I ever find new music at all is when it's in the background in a TV show (when I actually start watching it lol) or when I'm at someone else's place and they put on music.
@@blackquartzsphinx6853 thats so relatable, i have a list on my phone of all the things i want to watch and it seems to grow more than it does shrink. i have to be heavily acquainted with something before i start it. also the music thing is so so relatable, i have a long playlist of things but i typically only listen to the same 4 things over and over again. or ill listen to the same artist on loop due to familiarity. wooo go autism lol.
The written communication one is always so funny to me. I over think everything and rewrite texts over and over again while feeling extreme anxiety so it's much easier for me to have verbal communication. If i say something embarrassing, I'll over think it and feel bad later lol but at least I'm not frozen and unable to say anything.
seriously same. interpreting what the other person is saying and how they're reacting to what i'm saying is tremendously more difficult when i can't see or hear them. i'm getting better at letting go and just writing but i still feel like i'm always trying very hard.
I found this out when I realized that I learned better when I took notes in class. I rarely went back over them, but writing things down helped cement them in my brain. Now, it shows up by a preference to read captions while I listen to someone's videos. Huh, I wonder if this is why I really am not fond of audiobooks. I need to read the words. (Although I was terrible about reading textbooks, lol.)
Lol I relate, but I prefer non verbal because Id rather just take forever retyping things bc the fear of saying something wrong is that high 😂 but ironically enough, speaking is much more convenient, and as long as its in person, I'm much better at it than writing.
It depends for me. I prefer written over spoken because I can put my thoughts into clearer language that way, but 0hone calls are a nightmare for me
I’m the exact opposite lol. I can kind of freeze up and have lots of pauses between words when I’m verbally communicating, especially if it’s someone I don’t have a close connection with and it’s not just small talk. I’ll be talking to my new addiction clinic counselor (counselors are mandatory even tho I have no fears of relapse), and the conversation ends up taking so much longer because of all the pauses and “uhh, umm”s and trying to remember specific words because I didn’t start learning English til kindergarten (5 y/o) because my parents are Romanian immigrants who didn’t wanna teach me broken English. Well, I’m great at English, when it comes to reading and writing, but when it comes to actual speech my brain gets so jumbled up
Sometimes these can be side effects of having trauma.
So I might not be neurodivergent just PTSD and bpd? So confusing
@@sol-leks6122PTSD and BPD are still neurodivergency, it's not just ADHD and autism. ND just means that the brain is different from what's "typical" of most people. Dyslexia is neurodivergency as much as NPD is
I have autism and PTSD.
Trauma is a so called "acquired" neurodivergence. Plus being neurodivergent makes us incredibly prone to trauma, compared to neurotypical ppl.
Wait-what? I got 8 out of ten.
Everyone has been taken advantage of their trust.
Thats called the human experience
10/10 🎉 I aim for excellence lol. But really, I’ve been working on healing a number of these ways/habits and have made substantial progress that has greatly improved my quality of life. I’m still very neurodivergent and will never not be, but healing and growth is possible and I know because I’ve done a lot of it. Much love to all of the neurodivergent people of the world and especially the ones reading this comment. 💗
"Do you plan conversations in your head?"
....give me a minute...assume it could get heated, and practice my chest puffing.
Yep 🤣🤣
I used to, but I don't really do it anymore. I will have a mock dialogue with myself in the car, about a topic which I will most likely either A) not discuss with anyone, or B) not be as dramatic IRL as I was when talking to myself. I don't know how to feel about that. 😑
I was an adult before I realised that not everyone plans conversations in their head...
Don't forget to later relive the conversation a dozen times, improving on what you said when it's much too late.
@@lselley1980 and with time, you forgot what you were so upset about...
where did all my fingers go 😭
Thanksgiving is coming up and turkey is too expensive these days. We had to put something on the table. On the bright side, your robot hands that you get 20 years from now will be awesome.
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I struggle when questionnaires are too simplified with their options and questions. When the answer is yes/no to a complicated question such as “I like to party” Like what do you mean by party? A large get together? Clubbing? Chilling with friends on a Saturday? Give me more than yes or no!!!
The written vs vocal communication... it depends!! In general, i prefer writing because i can take my time choosing my words and i can erase the whole thing if i change my mind. If my brain needs to improvise more than one thing at a time or remember stuff on the spot, i melt. But if i need to communicate a complicated issue, i find it easier to plaj my conversation and speak rather than write, because writing long paragraphs is boring to read for anyone and often ends up being a waste
All of these except apologizing because my mom taught me early on that "I'm sorry" means you always have to change the behavior and should only be used for very serious situations.
My parents tried to teach me that from an early age too but my response would always be to apologise for apologising and then I just apologised more so they gave up lol
OMG, as a mom trying to teach my daughter not to apologize for merely existing, I LOVE this explanation!!! It will make so much sense to a kid! TY!!!!
@@ameeliamartin yes, as an adult, I was able to hear and implement the idea that I shouldn't apologize for my mere existence, and that's been great. But, there is a usage of "I'm sorry" that the rule above doesnt allow, but which I feel is more than legitimate, which is to express compassion for someone's suffering by saying a version of, "I'm very sorry that happened to you." I used to just say "I'm sorry", which sounds weird and can strike observers weird. But my version expresses the whole feeling and I have found is quite appreciated. This might also be useful to your daughter in the quest to tease apart the "I'm sorry" pool of emotion. I'm both autistic and ADHD, only diagnosed late in life. Everything would have been so much easier in my life if I had been recognized. I'm glad your daughter will have that advantage.
EDIT: Basically, what Victoria said:
I've learned to say, "I'm sorry" with qualifications: I'm sorry you're not having a good day. I'm sorry that wasn't the answer you wanted. I'm sorry I don't have what you're looking for (have you tried XYZ?) I'm sorry I can't make promises for other people. I'm sorry the weather isn't to your liking.
None of these things are under my purview; I can't do anything but commiserate. But I'm happy to do that.
Yes to all of the above. Your face was a mirror of my thoughts.
Same
Mine too, hehe
This stuff happens to everyone in varying degrees. This sounds like a horoscope in that its vague enough for ppl to say "oh that describes ME".
That's why some ppl say that it is frustrating that you cant give context to the answers because it's so vague that it almost fits everyone in some way. 🤷♂️IMO
The written communication thing is good to be able to visually organize your thoughts and refine them. But talking is massively preferable over text
I love how for three of these I was like "eh, idk, maybe?" and for the rest my body just jostled up in a panicked "YES YES YES YES"
These ten questions have just described the entire culture of Canada.
This explains so much.
😂
We’re all quite neurodivergent up here…
Lol
Wait...... so I may be less neurodivergent because I'm half-Canadian? Or my neurodivergence could possibly be the result of being half-Canadian. So confused, I'm sorry.🥴😋
@@Sixica you’re more likely neurodivergent if you are canadian… :3 we all be weird AF but it’s fine because we super polite and say sorry for absolutely no reason half the time. XD
No wonder why all my fingers are gone!
9 fingers down. A bunch of the early ones were things I have worked on and don't struggle with as much anymore. Learning to self advocate was hard and becoming disabled forced me to start taking inventory of my energy levels before agreeing to things and making sure I have built in flexibility to any plans I make.
The one about new music and shows!! When people suggest a show or something for me to watch I really struggle to get myself to actually watch it! I always feel so bad for not doing it but I do care. My brain just won't cooperate. 😭
9 out of 10. I love new shows and music but theI watch them on a loop for a week
Like when you find a song that makes you feel good it gets played on repeat until it annoys me 🤣🤣
9/10 I don't know how to put thoughts into words
Same!! I’m obsessed with horror so if theres a new horror movie out, I’m down.
Thank you for posting this. It made me realize that I’ve been successful with some of the issues I’ve worked on. I’ve managed to stop over committing and have cut way down on apologizing. I’ve been feeling a little overwhelmed and unaccomplished the past few weeks and this reminded me that some of the work I’ve done on myself has produced results!
This exact thought! When they got to the points about overcomitting and apologizing, I actually paused and thought to myself "yeah, I'm working on that one .. and I'm actually doing a lot better on the second one!". It brings so much content to look back and just see how high you've climbed!
So, I guess, cheers 🌞
Same!! Took me decades to realize, but I'm so much better on not being people pleaser and over committing. 😊
Exactly! I would have put a lot more fingers down if I had done this when I was younger, but between therapy and a lot of work on myself I’ve been able to get rid of the constant guilt, the constant apologizing, the overcompensation and people pleasing (I still like being helpful, but I don’t overcommit myself anymore), etc.
It felt good to recognize the progress I’ve made! 😊
My one little pinky still up...
I love new music and shows!!
I do too!! I’m always on the hunt for new music and movies.
With questionnaires, I wind up 2nd guessing previous answers so I go back & forth. It's usually a mess. If that's what you mean by "virtually impossible" then all my digits went south.
I'm 55 y/o and have just recently started to be comfortable with who I am. I'm happy to see you answer the questions with a beautiful smile. Understanding, respecting & loving who you are gives you power. Keep being awesome!😊
Yes to all but the "introverted and extroverted" one. I'm almost completely introverted. It takes everything I have to even pretend to be extroverted for a short period of time. Communicating with strangers is a skill I've had to actively practice my entire life, and I'm still rubbish at it. Still kind of rubbish at communicating with what few friends and family I've left. Wish I could tick that particular box, but nope.
I’m the exact same, but I still put my finger down because I tend to only be that introverted and socially exhausted from talking to strangers/acquaintances. When it comes to family and good friends tho, sometimes I genuinely can’t stop talking
Same. There is zero part of me that’s extroverted. I made ONE friend, literally one, who I felt completely free to be myself around, but still not extroverted. I’m introverted around everyone, family and friends included.
9 fingers down (diagnosed Tourette’s, on the pathway for autism)
@@GabrielRUclips8933 I hope you can get your diagnosis and the help you need soon!
@@GabrielRUclips8933 I hope you can get your diagnosis and the help you need soon!
i got like 3 and i am autistic and have adhd
@@oliviarodrigos_wife how am I acting like it’s cool?-
I was just saying that I do and am in no way glorifying or making it seem cool
8 fingers and have never been diagnosed with anything in my life
Everybody plans their conversations. What makes neurodivergent different is how flexible you can be to change your planned conversation.
i got news for ya buddy... no actually, not everyone plans out their conversations. in fact, the majority of neurotypical people do not, that's why it's considered a sign of neurodivergence, because it _is._ i'm not talking about planning out what you might say for a specific important convo, like a job interview, or going to apologize to someone, etc. or even planning what to say to a crush you're nervous about talking to. obviously most people regardless of neurotype will do that at least a few times in their life. but it means like, rehearsing or planning out even everyday _casual_ conversations with friends/acquaintances, for what to say to the cashier at the geocery checkout, or how to order your food at a restaurant. if you do those things, it's highly likely you're some form of neurodivergent.
@@MonAhgasInsomniAroELF Thanks for the clarification but you are only clarifying, not disagreeing. You even admit yourself that neurotypical people plan out what we might say for "a specific important convo, like a job interview, or going to apologize to someone, etc. or even planning what to say to a crush you're nervous about talking to." Therefore you admit that "everybody plans their conversations" and you are only clarifiying that neruotypical people don't plan EVERY conversation but neurodivergent people do. I did not know that. Thank you for the clarification.
This girl is so sweet, I can just tell! ❤😂🥰
I put 8 fingers down❤
Love you, Zara❤❤❤❤❤🎉😊
Same for both
Same
Just three down. Guess I can burn my diagnosis documents. XD
Exactly this.
Where does one even get a diagnosis?
Imo most of these questions don't have anything to do with neurodivergence
@@CheapsKate77Ive got mine from a psychologist when i initial came there to get cured from my depression and suicidal thoughts... tho i no longer remember how this shit turned into a diagnosis for autism and ADD 😂
I find ASL (I'm hearing) easier than speaking to others because of difficulty being confident while socializing, which I feel is similar to preferring writing, maybe. I want to reach fluency so i can use sign as more of a tool since it really helps me not be so anxious to communicate, but for now I'm a beginner limited to basic conversation mostly in English word order (working on more ASL grammar structure more, hopefully 🤞🏻)
The new music or television shows… I didn’t know that was part of it! (I put that down to the anxiety! 😂)
Ten fingers for the last one, dude.
As an Autistic, all of them except for the sexuality one, questionnaires, & written communication. 1. Always been straight. 2. I know who I am 😆 3. I like both textual and spoken communication, but I prefer verbal, yes, when I’m actually verbal 😂
Wow! Scored pretty much 10 out of 10
For some questions could give more detailed explanations, but still did put the finger down.
I have learnt that I most likely have autism a few years ago when my kids were going through assessment for ASD. And recently I have discovered that on the top of that I most likely live with ADHD. It does explain a lot. A lot of things started to make sense.
Thank you for the video.
Only three. Interestingly, I used to struggle with spoken communication more until I had to start working retail. The big irony is that I trained myself to organize my thoughts more patiently in order to actually express myself orally, so I kinda have to plan what I want to say, but in the moment instead of beforehand
I haven’t been diagnosed with anything but I put over half my fingers and I find it really hard to make friends and let people in and have lasting relationships. I don’t no what to say or read social situations but this channel makes me feel seen
That could possibly be mild autism (asperges) or ADHD, maybe both. If you can, you should see a professional.
Same
I also relate to this channel a lot, but I’m not neurodivergent. Labels and diagnoses can be helpful, but it’s also okay to just exist as you are and find connections where you can❤️
try to meet with autistic people at college, In ghent we are looking to start a student organisation but it's hard to get the ball rolling
@@thebluewolf2472Asperger’s isn’t a diagnosis and don’t diagnosis somebody you don’t know
These questions are so general they could apply to anyone
Really got me putting more fingers down than any other video with this trend
Bro not a single time in my life did I ever think that the reason I’m different is because I’m neurodivergent because all of the people around me that claim they are neurodivergent never understand me. So now I guess I’m going to get evaluated for that too.
I put 8 fingers down 😂
same 💀
same lmao, I'm straight and I'm fine with questionnaires
i put 9 fingers down, figures lol
All but one of them, but thats just because I enjoy discovering new shows and songs… but I have a very safe rotation of video games I like that I hyper-fixate on. It’s hard to enjoy new games without feeling guilty for not playing one of the games I know I like lol.
9.5. I prefer written communication for instructions, but verbal for interpersonal interaction as I have more ways of monitoring mood and knowing if I've misspoken!
8/10 I am comfortable in my gender and I used to prefer written communication, and books, but now I like watching tutorials instead. BTW I’m 56 years old and feel like I’m always waiting for something, like I’m stuck and I need a better adult to come give me some direction, and I’ve forgotten what I’m really supposed to be doing.
Same here. I’m 55.
I appreciate being seen like that I related to almost all of that
"if you apologize for nearly everything"
There's a certain type of girl that acts a certain way and I feel like even though I'm super shy and whatnot that I could still take advantage of them so I try to be super nice to them when I come across them and I freaked him out before my apologizing way too much.
The only reason I'm not sure if I should be putting a finger down is because I mostly only do it with that type of girl and in general I don't apologize too much that I can tell.
We need another Zara video it’s been too long ❤️❤️❤️
tonight!!!
As someone with AuDHD it’s nice to see someone with this do them xx there’s so many people who say they are diagnosed when they’re not and it’s very frustrating sometimes ❤
Frustrating that ppl self diagnose?
@@Stenko222 well if they haven’t done extensive research on it or had other people (not necessarily professionals) agree they may be ND, then yeah it’s a bit frustrating. I was self diagnosed with adhd, autism, and BPD for a few years, BUT I had done tons of research and looking into other peoples lives who were ND, plus talking about it with other ND people, before coming to any concrete conclusions. Then at 18 I started getting diagnosed. I was 100% right, I have autism, ADHD, and BPD, just as I had suspected for those few years, but I could only be certain because I learned as much as I could about those things
People who watch videos like this and put more than 5 fingers down saying “omg!!! I think I have autism/adhd/something else” is what’s frustrating
Agreed. I'm very likely ONLY ADD because I related to many Internet content about it. However, it's only an observation not a reliable diagnosis. I'll get a ADHD test some day to see if I am or not.
true or "oh but everybody has it a little bit"
bish I haven't gone trough all the bs and ignorance in high school and even grade school to be told everyone kinda has it in college.
Well sometimes people think only asd or ADHD are neurodivergent too. Ps- adult diagnosis is prohibitively expensive. There's cheap test at the doctors do but they're no better than the internet self-test really. True testing takes more than 10 hours of a train psychologist time, and cost thousands of dollars. I know this when I had to try to renew my paperwork for college accommodations. It wasn't worth it so I never did. :/ (global language processing disorder, never tested for ASD or ADHD because I was a girl). Now that I'm in a career that studies the DSM-5... I will tell you it's an umbrella for most of those conditions. So if you have four out of five of the categories of autism you're not autistic but you're pretty close... So you will see people that are somewhere in between autistic and not autistic. And stop being hurt by the fact that almost every single mental health condition is just an extreme variant of stuff that happens to neurotypical people. For example one of the things that happens to me is I have trouble retrieving words, even very common words. What if I were to say to somebody says oh yeah me too, to stop trying to copy my condition. Hello, everybody has trouble retrieving words at some point mine's just at the level of being extreme. This tends to hold true with almost every type of mental health condition including those that fall under neurodivergent. Therefore a lot of people that are not neurodivergent will experience a lesser form, it helps them have empathy for those that have it in extreme form. It's not a bad thing, it helps bridge the gap of understanding others when approached appropriately.
I actually love filling up questionnaires AS LONG as Im allowed to answer with more than a SINGLE word. Now ...... That level of summing up kills me. I need phrases, full, extended explanations......
I was all fingers down , struggled all my life and now at 50 I learn why I’m so different. Explains a bit why I never fit in anywhere
All these are signs of childhood trauma. Especially people pleasing, it's the faun response. In the fight, flight, freeze, faun system of dealing with parents that weren't emotionally there, didn't validate, hurt, or neglected their children.
Yes but if you have an undiagnosed spectrum condition because you have emotionally neglectful parents then it becomes exacerbated as you grow older
Thank you for upload ive been checking every day
The saying sorry for everything was a quick one for me too, and we literally got the same exact score 😂
All but 2 of them, as I've identified those things and worked to stop that behaviour (feeling guilty for no reason and apologising when it's not warranted). But i didn't realise that reluctance to start new shows or listen to new music was an ND thing
7, I thought this was normal 😭
Me too'!
I got 7 too!
Im hungry 😭😭😭
Same, let's get in line to the doctor 💀💀
@@folded_pizza 💀😭
It is normal.
Your absolutely GORGEOUS i just had to say that
All those traits are common in people who had a non empathic and overly judgemental primary care giver.
They are not necessarily a sign of neurodivergence.
We are all different, so much so that why do people need labels to describe themselves this way.
By sticking a label on things it unfortunately more often than not creates judgement from others (because everyone has their own perspective and experience or lack there of)
Just do you! ❤
That last one made my smile drop so fast. Yes I have in fact let myself be used. I let my “friends” walk all over me and I’ve learned my lesson in being completely oblivious to passive aggressive behavior. I just let this girl treat me horribly cause I thought she was being reasonable whatever, and then other people were like, um that’s liek really mena of her to do that I would like call her out. And I’m like 😅 so it’s not my fault she constantly hurts my feelings and makes me afraid to upset her.
For context she was my roommate. Don’t worry I eventually got outta there. But it literally traumatized my naive ass. I didn’t realize I was so easily bossed around and vulnerable to being basically controlled and bullied. And I actually tried to change and fix myself cause of it. By that I mean stop being me and shutting up and doing everything I’m told plus changing HOW I ATE AND LIVED LIFE. She told me what foods I shouldn’t eat too much, and what I should and shouldn’t leave in my desk. She made me organize my desk differently cause she didn’t like how cluttered it looked. I have ducking adhd man this was absolute hell for me and as most who are also adhd relate to have RSD. So I was constantly getting my feelings hurt for no goddamn reason.
Soo true! 🫶 xx
3 fingers 😂
I love how when it got to the questionnaire part I mentally started going “well idk see it depends….”
I have 2-3 fingers left… out of 10. I’m neurodivergent… not sure if it’s a thing, but I’d say I’m EXTREMELY neurodivergent… verging on broken/incapable of being an adult. Sadly, my daughter (also neurodivergent) understands me and my personal struggles less and less as she gets older. It hurts, because I thought if anyone in this world understood and accepted me as I am, it would have been her. I often feel like a nuisance, even though I ALWAYS mean well.😔
I don't mean to be rude, but genuine question, if you are incapable of adulthood why did you decide to go through the intense pain and stress of labour and motherhood? I hope you were not coerced into it against your active enthusiastic consent
@@trishasurangana2278I don't have a kid, but maybe a useful insight. I struggled in my 20s, but NOTHING like the level of struggling I'm doing now at 46! I'm not sure why things have gotten harder - it honestly doesn't make any sense - nothing that big has changed. But it's WAY harder now. It may be the same way for the woman who wrote the previous comment. In my 20s, I thought I had things fairly together, and would be fine. But I was REALLY REALLY wrong. So it's possible it worked the same way for her.
@@kateshiningdeer3334 It's actually quite a typical thing to happen. Especially neurodivergent women tend to hit a "glass wall" starting 30-ish+. The expectations and challenges change and we usually have many adaptations that then start to backfire on the long run. E.g. because we don't develop certain skill sets and the thing is, that progressive adulthood tends to come with more and more subtle pressure and challenges and responsibilities, while the myriads of small traumas tend to increase and weight down on us more and more.
@@KxNOxUTAI feel that as I get older the energy and confidence to just do it anyway had gone. I remember a person I was but can't get back to that person. My life has given me many knocks. I used to think I was lucky and so things would turn out ok. I was able to bolster myself. I might have been kidding myself. Anyway now life seems much harder.
Neurodivergent is the new emo... just get through this period in your life and head towards your future ... it's way better and way cooler, I promise🙏
lol and some ppl just nvr get over it either so whatever floats their boat ig
Omagawd than you! Someone said it! I was thinking is everyone just a paid actor
me when i just grow out of my autism
I'm neurotypical, but I put down as many fingers as you did because I was a victim of a lot of abuse and it impacted my life.
But questionnaires don't bother me and I prefer spoken to written communication.
Hi about the apologizing all the time for everything! I’m neurodivergent and I’ve had this problem big time. I just wanted to say here that you do deserve to live, and be happy and safe!! And if you have the time and resources, please try therapy. It helped me a lot to get over this with time, and it is definitely worth it. Have a nice day because you deserve it!!!!
Such a beautiful, brave woman ❤
Not introverted, just socially anxious so quiet.
Many of these unfortunately are based more so in anxiety and depressive disorders and past childhood experiences, which makes those diagnoses more difficult
Just going to point out, the fact you struggled so hard with some of the more ambiguous or less-clear questions towards the end... is, itself, an answer to the questionnaire question.
My husband doesn’t understand the music thing. He’s a musician 😂 I only listen to songs that I’ve heard before, primary ones from my teen years or older. The thought of having to sit through a whole album of new music gives me anxious feelings.
I'm conflicted with written and spoken directions because I suck at reading baking directions or cooking ones but I will need it written down if there's something that needs to be done because verbal sounds like there's too much.
All but one. I’m always listening to new music.
I actually adore questionnaires because I like putting myself into categories and definitions. It's really fun to go through and tick endless boxes, and I always give really specific answers
I agree totally. Matt's art and interviews are amazing. Thanks for sharing.
7/10. I’m pretty much only introverted and I don’t like written communication better because it’s harder to understand tone and implications. I also don’t overcommit to people because I know I’d let them down and I don’t want to lol.
It felt really good to be able to keep some fingers up for things I used to deal with, but don’t anymore after figuring out my diagnoses and working through therapy, etc., to unmask, set boundaries, and practice self compassion.
I’m not all the way there yet, but i see a path forward that’s not so exhausting and that feels more genuine and I’m so excited to be on it.
I actually do not know how to apologize, i think its bc of that "don't apologize, do better" thing, ive always hated that
ALL OF THEM! But mine are from CPTSD, which often mimics ADHD, etc.
My reason for struggling with questionnaires is because Google Forms will "lose connection" with my bad internet and make me go back to page 1 on every page of the form. The nuerodiverse part is me saying to myself, "I need to get a developer job at Google just to fix Google forms." 😅
I will have to do that after I get a job at Facebook and fix the fact that you can't ask to not be shown a specific "memory" again. The only option is to see less memories in general. 😤
I have 4 fingers remaining. I don’t have any diagnoses, but I definitely am on some sort of spectrum for something. It’s always oddly reassuring when I hear other people who do have legit diagnoses say they have some traits and behaviors that I have. I wish I could’ve had some of this insight in school. I felt like there was something wrong with me and really struggled with some things.
NO QUESTIONARRES ARE SO FRUSTRATING BECAUSE THE QUESTIONS ARE ALWAYS SO VAGUE AND BROAD AND I HAVE TO THINK ABOUT MY ANSWER FOR LIKE 5 MINUTES FOR EACH QUESTION.
8 fingers.
Also I'm actually neurodivergent!
I have ADHD, Autism and apparently terettes but I don't really get tics, sometimes I make noises but I can control it sometimes.
Also some physical disabilities
A lot of these are things that used to affect me. I’ve had my diagnosis for almost 4 years now and I’ve been unlearning most of those behaviors, thoughts, and feelings.
*me sitting with a single pinky up for struggling to start new shows* I love starting new shows just can't finish often
Fingers all down..but Feel guilty for no reason 😢 I’ve been working hard to not to feel that way goshhh
I find questionnaires don’t have specific enough questions cause so much depends on so much. I redo questionnaires all the time especially ones got to do with psychology. No wonder why school was so hard 😅
Im left with one pinkie out like a Brit drinking tea. Lmao☕
The people pleaser part was a hard thing to come out of and I still struggle with it when it comes to friends.
Left me with two fingers. I hate questionnaires. Ugh.
Honestly, these are things almost everyone struggles with...
Everyone has stomach aches. Does it mean everyone has Ulcerative Colitis? What do yall think the definition of a disease, disorder, or syndrome is? It's the extremes that differentiate it. Why is it so hard to comprehend damn 💀
One of the few things I've gotten 100% on