Stockholm Synchronization Workshop - Loneliness and Avoidance

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  • Опубликовано: 13 сен 2024
  • This is the Part 1 excerpt from the Stockholm Synchronization Workshop. You will see the introduction to the workshop along with the first session held on stage. Teal speaks with the participant about loneliness and avoidant attachment relationship style. Through understanding the avoidant attachment style we can understand the root of many loneliness afflictions on this planet.
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Комментарии • 614

  • @jamieazalea685
    @jamieazalea685 5 лет назад +204

    Once, I met someone who asked me, "What are your needs? Are you thirsty or hungry?" and I was completely blown away. That kind of consideration is favourable, especially when it's consistent, stable, and genuine.

    • @cleofore
      @cleofore Год назад +3

      Very hard to find

    • @PhoenixRizen33
      @PhoenixRizen33 8 месяцев назад +1

      & to live like this is an extra special uniqueness as like none other & all the same at once

    • @PhoenixRizen33
      @PhoenixRizen33 8 месяцев назад +2

      It's multi-timelining adventures & they're mini games

  • @BlackNella
    @BlackNella 5 лет назад +466

    “You never learned that somebody else was capable of considering your best interest. So you never opened the door for me to consider your need.” 🤯 mind blown.

    • @sushmak8855
      @sushmak8855 5 лет назад +6

      Teal should quote this on Instagram

    • @wintonic7406
      @wintonic7406 5 лет назад +3

      I honestly need more elaboration on what this means

    • @youtubingbabs
      @youtubingbabs 5 лет назад +36

      @@wintonic7406 it's like if there were one slice of pizza left over from last night and neither had lunch. He says I'm hungry. I want that slice. She says I'm hungry too. And he says, well I'm hungry. I'm going to eat it. She says, can't we share it? He says you're needy! You're clingy! You always try to take all the food. Get your own slice. She says can't we figure something out? He says why are you still talking about this always creating drama. I'm trying to do some work. She says what if we split it and eat the rest of the salad it there to make it two full meals. He says, I saw it first. I'm eating it. I need food. She says, but don't you even care about me? He says, i paid for the pizza last night. She says, I paid for the Chinese the last time we ate out. He says you're needy. You're clingy. She says why don't I make us two plates with half slices, I'll make fuit salad, and you can make steamed broccoli so we can both eat balanced meal together. He says stop trying to control me. She says I just want to enjoy a nice meal, together. He says I just need to get back to work and be successful so Daddy loves me. I don't have time for all that. *he stuffs slice into mouth and tells her to grow up.
      You can't make him care about her needs though, because he only knows to treat others the way he's been treated. He doesn't know how to be invested in her well being because he's so bought into dad he feels way out of line being naughty and taking a break to put her (and his needs for intimacy and food) before his Dad's long ago implanted need to have his son be a perfect little puppet/extension of himself.
      That's how i get it.

    • @youtubingbabs
      @youtubingbabs 5 лет назад +6

      @DT M She's really gifted at making psychology/behavioral health relatable!

    • @chinzanasweat
      @chinzanasweat 5 лет назад +4

      @@youtubingbabs great illustration! Thank you very much!

  • @shea5542
    @shea5542 Год назад +19

    One of the biggest things I’ve learned recently, is that I’ve avoided people because I’ve just assumed relationships would be one sided and no one would consider my needs…that it was me or them, and if it was me, I was selfish, and if it was them, I was humiliated. There was no winning. It donned on me, radically, that in adult life with healthy people, other healthy people will consider my best interest. Relationships aren’t so scary because they aren’t one sided like I assumed. Wild.

  • @RussMalina
    @RussMalina 5 лет назад +117

    Teal, please do more work on the disorganized attachment! We so badly want a relationship but they feel to us exactly like you say, a constant terror! It's terrifying, weird, confusing, scary, hard! 😱😩😵😰😭😭😭

    • @user-ey9fm5my3s
      @user-ey9fm5my3s 2 года назад +4

      You need therapy with a person who works on disorganized attachment style. They give you whatever was missing in childhood and teach you to get it from yourself and from others as well.

    • @johnzalapa4192
      @johnzalapa4192 День назад

      Maybe you and should be in a relationship . Even if it’s scary 😂.

  • @Kelsi96
    @Kelsi96 5 лет назад +102

    When I first heard about Teal it was through people who were extremely skeptical, and so I also came in as a skeptic. I watched a video to see if she was as bizarre as they made her sound. But now after watching so many of her videos and synchronization workshops I feel completely differently. Even if I’m not totally in alignment with everything she believes spiritually, she is so intelligent and speaks the hard truths. I have a great deal of respect now for Teal Swan 💕

  • @superbobor
    @superbobor 5 лет назад +102

    1:17:03 "You're not getting vulnerable enough for me to care."
    This applies to me 100%. Opened my eyes quite a bit.

    • @Whateveranybody
      @Whateveranybody 4 года назад +3

      mine too
      it even hurt to hear her saying like that to him

    • @valedro
      @valedro 4 года назад +3

      I have an issue with vulnerability too

  • @jodam96
    @jodam96 5 лет назад +204

    I cried watching this because I’m just starting to recover from a relationship I was in exactly like this, and I was the anxious one. She’s right, you feel like your hooked on drugs and recovering feels like withdrawing from a drug you’ve been hardcore hooked on. It is so hard. And very damaging to all aspects of yourself.

    • @Newmoney1122
      @Newmoney1122 5 лет назад +5

      Its good to hear you are in healing and recovery season.

    • @jodam96
      @jodam96 5 лет назад +4

      Stand up Straight With Your Shoulders Back thank you ❤️

    • @Newmoney1122
      @Newmoney1122 5 лет назад

      @@jodam96 you're welcome. Im glad my Logos helped.

    • @andreasleonlandgren3092
      @andreasleonlandgren3092 5 лет назад +1

      Det är bra att gråta

    • @Z.Theory
      @Z.Theory Год назад

      I relate

  • @subtlediosa
    @subtlediosa 4 года назад +50

    I love the way Teal dresses. It screams: I know me, I love me, I honor me!!

  • @m.m.8159
    @m.m.8159 3 месяца назад +3

    My every relationship ever has been with a version of this man. The courage it took for him to move into a pattern of wellness is encouraging - healing, dare I say - for me.

  • @JaneyImaaniEmotionalAwareness
    @JaneyImaaniEmotionalAwareness 5 лет назад +147

    Teal has such a powerful presence 💕

  • @putribrilliany1182
    @putribrilliany1182 4 года назад +39

    i'm a woman but i had attachment style like him. all i need is total autonomy for now, and when it's time to choose relationship in my will, then i'll try to be more close and not afraid that i'll lose myself 😢
    oh my god this is so PRECIOUS. thank you, teal.

  • @MiladeOliveiraGaia
    @MiladeOliveiraGaia 2 года назад +49

    22:15 Teal, I absolutely love how you mix psychology with spiritual teachings

  • @silencio1234
    @silencio1234 4 года назад +43

    Teal’s intermittent reinforcement video saved my life from this type of relationship (I am anxious attachment) I left the relationship and am so much happier

  • @MrMusic238
    @MrMusic238 2 года назад +37

    This was extremely useful to me as someone with a dismissive avoidant attachment style. I felt so triggered and annoyed by the guys responses & then I realized, that's me! I'm working with my therapist on learning to feel my emotions and then express them. It's hard work though.

  • @gitagavarem
    @gitagavarem 5 лет назад +165

    I was there! Incredible experience, one of the best in my life. Thank you

    • @moulee7448
      @moulee7448 5 лет назад +6

      Amazing that u got a chance to go there😰..i wanna goo😧

    • @Newmoney1122
      @Newmoney1122 5 лет назад +5

      It seemed like a great moment

    • @RussMalina
      @RussMalina 5 лет назад +6

      I was also there, loved it! 😊🤗

    • @gitagavarem
      @gitagavarem 5 лет назад +3

      @@RussMalina Hi Ekaterina, that's wonderful to know, so great to connect with conscious people :)

    • @jn2050
      @jn2050 4 года назад

      You are a fool

  • @isabellestahl7634
    @isabellestahl7634 5 лет назад +154

    I‘m so grateful that you uploaded the workshop! 🙏🏻 Thank you so much! 🥰

  • @kristi4444
    @kristi4444 5 лет назад +79

    That disorganized attachement thing just blew my mind! Wow! I'd be soooo happy to hear more about that from you Teal *-* !!

    • @mimimaria3
      @mimimaria3 5 лет назад +5

      me too, it actually made me shed a few tears :( I wish there was more information about it

    • @misslawlesss
      @misslawlesss 4 года назад +2

      Your lucky! The attachement theory is basic psyhology actually.

    • @artisticagi
      @artisticagi 4 года назад

      Yup, just RUclips it, there are a lot of good psychologists on here who explain it very well. Actually a lot of what Teal talks about can be found in psychology. And the psychologists have really helped me understand her points even more :) I recommend Psychology in Seattle

  • @judahlevine3104
    @judahlevine3104 5 лет назад +62

    I love Teal Swan, she makes it so easy to learn.

  • @isabelwiese1528
    @isabelwiese1528 3 года назад +15

    I love how she said "magic" and I love how time is no factor in these workshops. Three years after it was posted the content is still speaking to so many of us. It is still very much "alive" to us. It is as if we were perhaps not ready to learn what was taught during the workshop but we are ready now as we watch it. This is absolute magic. This is the magic of life.

    • @KristyMartinez
      @KristyMartinez 2 года назад

      I know huh?! Now is when I needed to see this video. Right now.

    • @soulthriver-oz6470
      @soulthriver-oz6470 10 месяцев назад +1

      This has nothing to do with time. It's about human evolution.

  • @KristyMartinez
    @KristyMartinez 2 года назад +12

    Teal, that was amazing. I am avoidant attachment style and most everyone else in my life seems to have had abandonment issues. I understand so much better what's been going on. It was the enmeshment that has made me this way. I couldn't see that as my issue relative to my attachment style. I am also not comfortable with having so much power in relationships like Blake said about himself. I had no idea that I could be the one who is abusive in my relationships as you described. Thank you for helping me to see where I can finally begin to work on this aspect of myself for me and for the people I really do care about. What an eye opener.

  • @leighd301
    @leighd301 5 месяцев назад +3

    The full part is on RUclips under the same title starting at about 22:00 min in with this guy on stage and is VERY invaluable. It’s therapy gold for Avoidant and Anxious attachment styles dating Avoidants! This should be required education for Avoidants, it’s so well done. Definitely check out the full video if you want more of this clip.

  • @evian.
    @evian. 4 года назад +5

    My German Shepard Dog suffered with separation issues and I suffered with abandonment issues. First time in life I felt loved, wanted, needed. It was a start of my healing journey. My new partner stays with me all the time. We work from home on separate businesses. My need for predictability is met and yes, my best interest is his best interest and yes, when he is away, I feel safe and secure. Thank you for the great insight.

  • @domq9002
    @domq9002 5 лет назад +40

    The avoidance guy seems like he wants to stay positive so hard, like he's all about avoiding his shadow, he even said he was "confused in a good way".

    • @knittingggg326
      @knittingggg326 4 года назад +4

      Dom Q yes, good point! I had the feeling he wasn’t totally surrendering to something, but I couldn’t put my finger on what

    • @KristyMartinez
      @KristyMartinez 2 года назад

      I had to really zero in on this one hard in order for me to get it. So I can understand Blake's responses. We don't want to be avoiding love at all.💔Oh, God no!

  • @TheEmperorAs
    @TheEmperorAs 5 лет назад +56

    Ok Teal, you got me. Im gonna get the Premium Membership...

    • @a7madev
      @a7madev 4 года назад +2

      Same, I just subscribed, that was amazing!

  • @the_jedi_priestess3600
    @the_jedi_priestess3600 5 лет назад +18

    “My approval & closeness to you is completely dependent on you giving yourself up for me” 😭

  • @songwriterlife7777
    @songwriterlife7777 5 лет назад +40

    I love when she says "Do you want me to tell you why?" She sounds like a little English Granny.

    • @LUZDELUNA420MEX
      @LUZDELUNA420MEX 5 лет назад +1

      Like super nanny show ? 😂😂

    • @RussMalina
      @RussMalina 4 года назад +2

      I noticed the same!! She does it more often. I wonder how this came to be.

  • @darnellaford8141
    @darnellaford8141 4 года назад +19

    This single video just elevated my entire life! Teal, omg...God bless you, God keep you! You are doing AMAZING work upon this planet. Keep...going!!!

  • @celark
    @celark 5 лет назад +46

    One hour and a half of Teal! I'm in heaven... Would you consider uploading the whole recent Birmingham workshop? That had some really good sessions.

    • @celark
      @celark 5 лет назад +2

      @Just Serenity Ah I see thanks!

    • @moulee7448
      @moulee7448 5 лет назад

      Same feeling

  • @Wendywolf8
    @Wendywolf8 5 лет назад +142

    Can you please please do more on the disorganised attachment style???!!!

    • @carolina.mueller
      @carolina.mueller 5 лет назад +10

      Yesss please!

    • @infjness
      @infjness 5 лет назад +7

      ohh yes

    • @RussMalina
      @RussMalina 5 лет назад +8

      Yes!!! Highly requested.

    • @linneahasselgren
      @linneahasselgren 5 лет назад +8

      I think we really need this one yes.

    • @Wendywolf8
      @Wendywolf8 5 лет назад +30

      Linnéa Hasselgren yeah, I know i do! Its getting more and more clear to me that i have traits of this attachment style. Which is somehow a relief because in the past I always got confused feeling a mix of avoidant and anxious, not being able to figure out where I fitted in that and how to deal with it.
      How Teal describes it is exactly how I feel, to a T. When I get in to a fearful state in relationships I freeze and I don’t want the other person to come closer or put any pressure on me, this feels very threatning, but I also don’t want them to leave and abandon me which feels equally scary. So I feel completely stuck and powerless. All I really want is for them to tell me: I AM HERE AND AM NOT GOING ANYWHERE, LET ME KNOW WHENEVER YOU ARE READY. So stay lovingly open and present. Without moving forward or pulling away. But this feels like soooo much to ask from someone. I am lucky enough to have experienced this once or twice in the last year and it feels like a uge relief

  • @iamamoghalfmanhalfdog5325
    @iamamoghalfmanhalfdog5325 5 лет назад +22

    that guy in the chair triggers my anxiety i could literally feel every moment by all accounts he did well .

    • @lunarose9042
      @lunarose9042 7 месяцев назад

      Same! It was so difficult to watch. 😂

  • @huggiesunrise
    @huggiesunrise 5 лет назад +103

    I like seeing blake open up.

  • @annitendo
    @annitendo 4 года назад +12

    This was so valuable, probably the most valuable thing we need to learn in general in relationships. Taking each other's best interests at heart is something that was always lacking in my relationships. Even when there wasn't even any enmeshment or abandonment trauma in our childhoods, it was still not something we've learned. It was always a zero-sum game and that's the norm.

  • @BornToBeFreak
    @BornToBeFreak 4 года назад +9

    Wow i was looking into attachment styles like 2 days ago and i got confirmed mine is the avoidant one. Today i decided to watch one of Teals workshops and this was the first video that came up. What a synchronicity

  • @grettatorgerson9050
    @grettatorgerson9050 3 года назад +3

    This should be taught in schools Teal

  • @the_jedi_priestess3600
    @the_jedi_priestess3600 5 лет назад +13

    I could listen to every workshop ever non stop. So addicting!

  • @ThousandairesClub
    @ThousandairesClub 5 лет назад +26

    i grew up feeling like i HAD to be independent and when i got in relationships, i would at times completely not consider how the other person felt because i put myself first.....but then when i did consider how the other person felt, it almost felt like i was being taken advantage of and wasnt my own person.....its a really slippery slope and many people are afraid of losing themselves to someone else.

    • @user-ey9fm5my3s
      @user-ey9fm5my3s 2 года назад +2

      That happened to mee too (when I was extremely young and was afraid of "entrapment" . But when you grow up and you develop more self-confidence+independence you are not scared of "entrapment" anymore. You KNOW that if you start being taken advantage of you will leave and you won't be too scared of leaving , so paradoxically you don't feel that much like escaping anymore . ).
      I did not actually get entrapped but I WATCHED how other people got entrapped with their parents or their friends or partners so although I wanted to get close to people I avoided it 100% for a while until I was SURE there is no way for me to "lose myself" into connections.
      The whole "lose myself" thing did NOT happen to me BUT I watched it happen to other people and I was so damn scared of it I just isolated myself a lot for years.
      Nowadays I am not too scared of anything : enmeshment is not very likely to happen to me because I know how to leave a person when things get parasitical or just incompatible. I am also not that much likely to attract abandonment , since I feel no attraction towards people who are standoffish , inconsistent or breakers of promises.
      When you do introspection you DISCOVER what thoughts ,traumas and beliefs attract slavery or aloneness in your life and when you uproot those thoughts from your system these things do not happen to you anymore , or not at such huge scale as to traumatize you.

  • @stefaniepjatene
    @stefaniepjatene 5 лет назад +6

    This video resolved one of my life’s most torturing doubts. What a Christmas present. Can’t express how thankful I am for it. Thank you, Teal. Please please please come to Brazil!

  • @saraswatisky3119
    @saraswatisky3119 2 года назад +7

    Wow, fantastic analysis of early childhood development and the parent expectations of erasing their children's sense of self to control them and how the children who didn't make it we're fighting for their identity at the cost of being ostorized.

  • @EostarKamala
    @EostarKamala 5 лет назад +22

    Pure wisdom, very well articulated, very helpful, thank you, thank you, thank you!

  • @cassandramartin-smith3354
    @cassandramartin-smith3354 11 месяцев назад +2

    Omg disorganised this is my bringing :( crying really hope i find that right person one day

  • @sospita_
    @sospita_ 5 лет назад +6

    This hits home for me in so many ways. I feel like I have never learned so much about relationship in my life, and why my relationships have been as they have. Teal, your examples, presentation style and wisdom really works for me to understand how to approach healing. I too feel as though I have been on an Ayahuasca trip my whole life. I have also been diagnosed dyslexic (among other 'disorders') both in childhood and again as an adult. Thank you from the whole of my heart for your work. Thank you. 🙏🏽

  • @sanditeale3632
    @sanditeale3632 5 лет назад +30

    Really helpful and thanks for the guy with the avoidant pattern. Quite a few insights

  • @ArthurMoore
    @ArthurMoore 5 лет назад +61

    Thank you for this, super grateful for you

  • @whitewitch44
    @whitewitch44 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you, Teal. Watching this is giving me feeling that I have done a lot better in life that I've been thinking and perhaps others have made me think. In a way it's bringing me back to my core and my inner knowledge. I was recently in a very unhealthy relationship where a lot of my beliefs about "how to feel with someone" or "how to deal with situations" got twisted around - for example the fact that his idea of compromise was "take a little pain each", and I never agreed with that. I wanted us both to really connect and feel that relief. While I haven't lost myself entirely, I can feel that it's been affecting me a lot... like my sense of self and self-confidence (this stuff was on many many areas of life, not just that). Listening to you now I feel that inner strength coming back and remembering who I really am and what sort of partner I'm looking for.
    So thank you for being so damn authentic, you are ridiculously brave speaking your truth like this and I'm so glad our planet has someone like you on it ♥

  • @critter_paws
    @critter_paws 27 дней назад

    How does Teal explain disorganized attachment better than all of the books and professionals I have heard from with one freaking sentence WTF.
    ❤ ... &ty for your bravery, compassion and LOVE Teal🩵

  • @amyelizabeth8432
    @amyelizabeth8432 3 года назад +2

    Imagine what the world would be like if everyone could understand, and implicate these techniques to one's lives.
    Just Wow!
    🌱

  • @tpriestess
    @tpriestess 5 лет назад +36

    Teal Swan
    How I am the same as you:
    In my Mama's womb, her blood was RH negative and mine RH positive ....
    I nearly fell over when I heard you share this.
    I, too am extra sensory ...and always have been.
    When I read your descriptions of different places ....I so relate...as I do the same thing.
    I receive understandings about places...what works or does not work. Many times I would read your
    writings and feel that this could be mine....only I did not dare write it for fear of being called crazy.
    It is a worry I have often.
    Also, like you, I am persecuted pretty much everywhere I go...and loved. People feel super comfortable around me because I let them be.
    I also, like you, love being in front of an audience.
    My traumas from childhood involve an adult male taking advantage of me alone, in secret.
    I could go on.
    And will rest there.

  • @drazicmilosovic1065
    @drazicmilosovic1065 4 года назад +1

    Teal is a true original in her presentation style. She can inspire a person to genuinely consider the process of life, whilst being - as they used to say - “dressed to kill”. She has an elegant approach towards the destruction of standardised ignorance. Wow!

  • @InSearchofaSunrise
    @InSearchofaSunrise 3 года назад +1

    I often break out in tears when I watch anything by you, Teal. You awaken me to myself. You ease me into loving all my parts, to bless the journey that allowed me to see these parts, and have such gratitude to have such an incredible teacher to guide me along the way. I can’t wait for the pandemic to shift to a place where we can travel again so I can attend one of your workshops and hopefully hug you and express just how grateful I am for all you do for us💜❤️.

  • @piff8061
    @piff8061 5 лет назад +18

    YES! THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR UPLOADING THIS!!! WOHO!

  • @muellerjean-baptiste5465
    @muellerjean-baptiste5465 5 лет назад +22

    Just awsome....is it just my feeling that Teal gets more and more powerful in every way...? It is hard to imagine at her already so evoluted level, that it can get more intense, but it actally is happening. It just impresses and moves me beyond words... Australia was awsome too, just to mention, fantastic. Be blessed
    Jean-Baptiste

  • @SpiritDragon888
    @SpiritDragon888 5 лет назад +2

    Dang... I resonate so much with Teals teachings, it’s like innate and I just forgot because society likes to program us. She’s so spot on. Grateful for this video🙏

  • @guyanasun4361
    @guyanasun4361 Год назад +1

    The way she explained the conscious was well said and understood. I would add, it's like water we're all equally sharing. This connected us in "current" like an endless ocean of energy separating and coming back together.

  • @karentonks7581
    @karentonks7581 4 года назад +1

    can anyone else believe the knowledge of this beautiful woman? we miss our own selves so easily ..so helpful to gather more insights and awareness ..thankyou teal

  • @kateschuyler4760
    @kateschuyler4760 6 месяцев назад

    You just broke me wide open, in the best possible way. I always wondered why I flip flopped between avoidant and anxious. I call in both avoidant and anxious partners. I will even switch from avoidant to anxious in the same relationship depending how they are acting. The second they pay "too much" attention to me I feel smothered, untrusting, in physical danger. Then they will go out to get a coffee and my avoidant kicks in, fear its over, they are leaving for good. Now I have a definition "disorganized attachment". When I read it, it's bang on. You saying that exercise where partner lays down and doesn't approach, but doesn't leave. I imagined it, and it broke me open. I can't imagine that in a partnership. The feeling that someone doesn't want anything from me, but is also not leaving, is something I will hold tight. Thank you for everything you do. Your videos help me beyond words. Thank you for putting yourself out there in the world, navigating the haters. Just know, you have a real cheerleader out here. Thank you.

  • @Xristina1111
    @Xristina1111 8 месяцев назад +1

    Gratitude to you beautiful Teal ❤

  • @lambmaster27
    @lambmaster27 5 лет назад +46

    Blake's pretty dope

  • @alisonaicard
    @alisonaicard 5 лет назад +3

    Very helpful! Im in a relationship with someone with an avoidant attachment style. Everything about him is avoidant, repressive, denial.... It's extremely frustrating but, understanding, helps me keep my cool.

  • @mimimaria3
    @mimimaria3 5 лет назад +5

    I'm very very happy they uploaded the Stockholm one after I've read it on her blog!

  • @lorelledehnhard
    @lorelledehnhard 5 лет назад +13

    Wooow. Game-changing. Thanks for uploading it to the public.

  • @harshithaprakash4115
    @harshithaprakash4115 3 года назад +8

    She looks like a goddess 😭❤️

  • @LuaLeonetti
    @LuaLeonetti 5 лет назад +11

    Omg so exited by this video, the information I've been craving! thank you Teal 🤩
    Please do more videos about how to get a stronger sense of self. 😘 So much love ♥️

  • @fallonkramer3665
    @fallonkramer3665 4 года назад +1

    You really are a visionary and insightful way beyond anything or anyone I’ve seen yet. Thank you for all of it. It’s truly invaluable to the connection elements of us with ourselves and ourselves with others.

  • @HH-pj5bl
    @HH-pj5bl 2 года назад +1

    Teal is AMAZING!!!! Ive learnt so much, I love how straightforward and to point she is with her teaching!!!

  • @smurfy31
    @smurfy31 2 года назад +1

    This is the best RUclips video I have ever watched.

  • @CCANUEL1
    @CCANUEL1 3 года назад +2

    YOU ARE AMAZING TEAL SWAN!!! SO TRUE _ ALL OF IT!! YOU ARE absolutely correct !! 💯. LOVE LOVE LOVE

  • @anitadick5787
    @anitadick5787 5 лет назад +19

    Lol Stockholm Syndrom debunked in Stockholm, love it. We grow to trust or rely on the very people who entrap us (mentally and physically)... subconsciously acting in way they expect of you intitiated through enmeshment trauma....and you can either become completely co-dependant or avoidant, what is it that causes some people to be pushed away and others to heavily rely on these people? Is it the amount of closeness in the relationship? Now I'm so curious

    • @andreasleonlandgren3092
      @andreasleonlandgren3092 5 лет назад +2

      That is a great question i had this dynamic with a person and i chose to start doing things for me and refused to be gaslit anymore it worked.

    • @youtubingbabs
      @youtubingbabs 5 лет назад +3

      I am using radical acceptance concept to work to do random reality checks and examine things more closely, trust myself, trust action over words, trust my research and statistics, my common sense. The book The Gift of Fear by Gavin DeBecker is amazing. I'm not super into auras and spirits and stiff although I don't claim none of it exists. But I see Teal has inedible insight about behavior and perception and take what I like and leave the rest (something I learned in Alanon, another amazing program) to keep on my path to self-care. Good luck!

  • @terri-reborninchrist4168
    @terri-reborninchrist4168 5 лет назад +1

    Everytime a video comes on its exactly what i need when i watch it... made me cry so much x

  • @amarieh2218
    @amarieh2218 4 года назад +2

    HolyS***!!! Explained everything I'm currently struggling with! Thank you soooooo much!!!

  • @DiamondsLilRooster
    @DiamondsLilRooster 2 года назад +1

    This is all so incredible. I definitely appreciate the explanation of disorganized attachment in relationship with the training of horses.

  • @thesunforest5178
    @thesunforest5178 4 года назад +2

    I learned so much through this video I can‘t even count it.
    Blessings to you Teal

  • @carolinecarvalho1669
    @carolinecarvalho1669 3 года назад +1

    You so intelligent and empathic! It's impressive!!!

  • @ZyloLyrix
    @ZyloLyrix 3 года назад

    I Would Have Never Noticed Myself Without Seeing This Video. Thank You Teal, And Also Thank You To The Guy In The Hot Seat. Because Of This I Can Aspire To Heal.

  • @annabanai8440
    @annabanai8440 3 года назад +1

    I just found this video and watched the whole thing because I am exactly this guy. Very helpful.

  • @chrisbrussel5818
    @chrisbrussel5818 5 лет назад +1

    Wow.... So beautiful how much this all flowed. Makes me soooofa king grateful for my partner and how she treats me. Then again she is my SoulFlame. Mind Blown.

  • @JaxxEnzo
    @JaxxEnzo 5 лет назад +29

    Excited to watch this :)

  • @LexaKaiia
    @LexaKaiia 5 лет назад +19

    Was there as well

  • @KayoYuuki
    @KayoYuuki Год назад +3

    I have a huge resistance against the avoidant attachment style, this video started playing out of nowhere, spirit wants me to learn something lol

  • @Emma-Laya
    @Emma-Laya 9 месяцев назад

    Very very beautyful, please do more on these styles, this was SO indescribably useful and lifesaving to me.
    Even though I have been doing all I could, on attachment styles and trauma especially. But the disorganized and anxious style, and how they work (terribly) with the avoidant, this was incomparable.
    You are good at putting it into very understanderble explanations, that we can interpretate in our reality, like really.
    It says everything about you. That you really want everyone to be able to follow, not just speaking for the admiration, like everyone else seems to do, with no usable clarification or deeper description of what it ACTUALLY means ❤
    It really chocked me, that the avoidant is actually the one that conformed, and lost their real definition of autonomy, while the anxious are the one, that can't let go of their authentic actual needs for REAL closeness, a type of predictable and secure, loving closeness, that is not just dependent on them being the perfect faked doll.
    Now it is clear, why the avoidant seeks and are longing so intensely for autonomy, and seeking the feeling of a defined self, and seeks to define their boundaries so much, over everything else. ❤

  • @deborahhaton2669
    @deborahhaton2669 3 года назад

    He's always so childlike. I'm happy they found each other.

  • @SanoopAI
    @SanoopAI 5 лет назад +1

    After a long time someone who connect with at a deeper level

  • @Wakilispeare
    @Wakilispeare 5 месяцев назад

    This is so beautifully informative. Thank You. 🙏🏽 💐🫶🏽💞

  • @andreasleonlandgren3092
    @andreasleonlandgren3092 5 лет назад +3

    Honored to have you here Teal as a swede tickets were sold out so i could not attend but it was a cool night i see

  • @bluespiral4678
    @bluespiral4678 5 лет назад +2

    This was a joy to watch seeing how I also have an avoidant attachment style. Just finished reading Teal's book. Amazing!! 👍👌So enlightening!! Another book I stumbled upon recently that goes more into attachment styles is a book entitled "Attached". Haven't read but will do.

  • @moulee7448
    @moulee7448 5 лет назад +1

    I usually never watch long videos...bt this video made me feel like why is it getting over...love you teall...

  • @ChannelYourselfAcademy
    @ChannelYourselfAcademy 5 лет назад +2

    Shine on sister, be blessed with a prosperous New Year,love & light from Greece!

  • @kittydewinter3515
    @kittydewinter3515 5 лет назад +7

    Teal please do a video deep diving into the anxious attachment style. In fact a video on all the attachments styles would be great.

  • @katrin6388
    @katrin6388 2 года назад +2

    what about those who are fearful avoidant? cause i feel like i cant handle either. i cant handle being abandoned by an avoidant and i cant handle being too demanded by someone it´s suffocating

  • @MissEvantiaMaria
    @MissEvantiaMaria 5 лет назад +1

    Thank you so much for all the content Teal it makes so much difference in so many people's lives.

  • @moulee7448
    @moulee7448 5 лет назад +1

    I can relate to this guy so much..this message that teal gave is for me...the best workshop everrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr....i cant thanyou enough for posting it..it means a lot..this is the exact same problem i am dealing with

  • @yogawithjulia844
    @yogawithjulia844 11 месяцев назад

    I just drew a boundary and was so happy about knowing one more thing about myself, and now I know I was drawing a boundary and that’s why it made me so happy!!! ❤❤❤❤ thank you teal 😘

  • @nargisrajabick8308
    @nargisrajabick8308 2 года назад +1

    Very useful information.Thank you!

  • @emilywalter7292
    @emilywalter7292 5 лет назад +11

    What if I've been both sides in different relationships? In one relationship I was in control, in the next, my partner was. I don't think I could have changed my subconscious programming in that short amount of time.... very interesting.

    • @viktoriyailcheva3043
      @viktoriyailcheva3043 5 лет назад +5

      I can fully relate to that.. I believe that both attachment styles aren't necessarily mutually exclusive and that it's perfectly possible to have experienced as a child both types of trauma.. and the thing is that the one is not truly dominating over the other so you attract circumstances in your life that trigger either the one at a specific point in time or the other.

  • @victoriarose4937
    @victoriarose4937 5 лет назад +1

    Wow! The timing of this is so beautiful and perfect! Thank you so much Teal ❤❤❤

  • @ultranoica
    @ultranoica 2 года назад

    Thank you beautiful soul for being here, hope to come visit you in person once in this lifetime!

  • @heather7440
    @heather7440 5 лет назад +31

    This last exercise is really triggering me with the whole dynamic, but in a positive way. This is so common with male-female relationships, especially where I’m from. Reminds me of the movie ‘The Breakup’ when Jennifer Anniston screams ‘I want you to want to do the dishes!!!’ and then the women feels dismissed when the man is like your just a crazy hormonal woman or something like that haha an, totally emotional for me rn...Teal please do a video expanding more on this I feel like it could help so many people. I don’t think the guest on stage realizes how triggering and upsetting the seemingly simple dirty dishes issue can be for so many women.
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    LOL I found it for all whose interested 😂😂😂

  • @mari7393
    @mari7393 5 лет назад +2

    This got me realizing so much, thank you for all the work you do really you're amazing!!!

  • @kittydewinter3515
    @kittydewinter3515 5 лет назад +1

    @28:00 parents who treat children like dolls. @ 32:00 avoidant attachment vs anxious attachment - 34:15 @51:30 intermittent reinforcement pattern. 59:30 healing for both types of attachment styles.

  • @BuddyLeroyBoerkoel
    @BuddyLeroyBoerkoel 5 лет назад +2

    Thanks for the great pointers about how our early attachment styles are played out in our current relationships.

  • @cokeconversationhardrealit416
    @cokeconversationhardrealit416 5 лет назад

    I live in America. But I was in Stockholm Sweden 🇸🇪 when Teal was there for this. I wanted to go so bad but was leaving to go back home early that next morning. But I was so happy and surprised to be going through the Swedish newspaper and see Teal was there. I’m always going back and forth so I hope she goes back to Stockholm again. This time I’ll be there.