Found EMDR, EFT (tapping) and trauma-informed YOGA helpful for my C-PTSD. Please be careful volunteering in a battered women’s shelter, as there may be many triggers there; also experiencing vicarious trauma” is real. Excellent talk, thank you.
What an absolutely fantastic presentation. The emotion, shakiness, paused breaths, and possible nervousness did NOT take away from this presentation, but, instead, added to it. God bless your sweet heart
My second marriage was financially, emotionally and physically abusive. It turned me into an anxious, depressed mess. At 61 after a three year marriage to a Narcissist I never knew the damage that could be done ! I am dying inside. Problem is I am still in touch with her and all she ever wants is money from me. Plus I know I am trauma bonded to her. I hate her and love her at the same time. I know I am a man , but we are abused as well !
I feel the same way with my dad. All he does is cause my family and I misery but I can’t seem to let him go, we stay in limited contact at the moment. I wonder if he is the way he is because he never got help for the trauma he dealt with as a kid. I’m a woman but men’s mental health really needs to be take much more seriously! Don’t be ashamed to share your story
I'm a man who has been experienced ptsd for months, have been having every criteria you mention. I can see you are a bit nervous on stage, but I'm so happy you put yourself out there to spread the awareness, and it is helpful, to know what's going on, maybe could help with my shame,guilt. thank you
I watched this video a couple of weeks ago. It unexpectedly unlocked a forgotten aspect of my life that had been affecting me negatively, without my awareness until now. Thank you very much; it has been life-changing so far.
Daisy, Thank you for your candid self-disclosure and for such an informative talk. Although I sensed that you were battling anxiety as you were presenting, the courage you demonstrated is, of itself, testament to how effectively one can recover from PTSD and CPTSD. Great job!
Daisy, I am a 44 year old man. I appreciate your intention in gearing your talk towards women, however I am a survivor of extreme mental, emotional, and physical abuse in a marriage to a woman with a personality disorder that had been misdiagnosed for her entire life. We are no longer married and I do not know if she has ever been officially diagnosed. I do however know that multiple mental health professionals agree with me and that she exhibits all 21 symptoms and I have heard her express each symptom herself but never but them together with a disorder. The medical community thinks a majority of disorders are ADD or ADHD and do not seem interested in assessing correctly or helping individuals or their families. I dated a woman a year after we separated who was just as manipulative if not more and both were the most hateful human beings I have ever met. What has become prevalent is women lying about being the abuser and pretending they are the abused and the stigma of men being the abusers has made it almost impossible for me to live a normal life. I suffer from extreme PTSD from 3-4 years of extreme abuse from the 2 together and still can not get away because their attack is relentless with the help of greedy attorneys and a very corrupt judicial system and what I believe is the absolute worst stigma is that the man is the abuser in every relationship. I am on here looking for therapy to help me cope with the triggers as they have made it almost impossible to function normally and have effected my daily life. I appreciate your information, I do find it offensive as you seem to believe only women need the assistance in getting the help needed as your entire talk that I listened to was directed only at women suffering and making sure we are conscious of what PTSD looks like so we can assist them in getting the support they need. I will admit I am making an assumption I hope I am wrong about as this is the only TED Talk or information I have heard from you and hope you realize or to bring some awareness to the fact that many women are abusing the stigma of being the victim. I am sorry you suffered any abuse at the hands of a man in any way. Please be conscious that there are many very hateful, vindictive women who have learned to take advantage of simply being a woman and crying wolf when she herself is the monster dressed in sheep's clothing.
I left my abuser five years ago and have been in analysis for the last four years. I finally have enough confidence to hold my own job and at this point, I'm thinking about starting to date. You're right, there is a double standard, but for everyone, the work is the work. A psychoanalyst vs a psychotherapist works on all levels - physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. I have found talents that I didn't know I had, and I now know why I came into this body, in this culture, to my particular family, etc. The best teachers teach the hardest lessons and my abuser brought me to a place where I had to go inside and find that eighteen year old, happy and creative woman I was at the start. Now, she's growing up. I thank him for that, but I don't want his energy in my life anymore which is sort of difficult at times since we had three children. There is help, but I wouldn't look in the Western medical community, rather depth psychology which is named that for a reason. By the way, I never usually respond to these things, but I've been through it, I've done the hard work and it sounds like you're looking to embark on a journey to your inner self.
I hope you can find peace and healing, internet stranger ❤ I believe her talk was more geared towards women due to women’s mental health being understudied as a whole, but I can see how it would make you feel upset due to your trauma. Hope you’re doing better
Myself and my husband split up and I was in a very abusive relationship, it took me years to build up my courage to get him out of my house and when I finerly got him out I had manic depression, with no help at all. Then I got into another abusive relationship and I finerly got him out of my house and finally I met a good man that helped me alot also I done psychology causes leval 3 and that answered my questions, but iam now single and I am too scared and I avoid having relationships I have come to the decision to stay on my own as iam now 66 years old. I feel your pain, it's awful that we had to go through this 💔
Thanks for the talk. How about a shout out for the men too! lol Got my PTSD from my wife. Crazy stuff. Didnt know that could happen....until it did. Best wishes to you.
I can only imagine how stressful or fearful you must be experiencing. I'd like to suggest you to see a CBT psychotherapist. You may be able to recover from it, but if not then you'll be able manage with it.
The vigilance is so exhausting. It can get better though. My PTSD has gotten so much better with therapy, specifically brainspotting, which is similar to EMDR. No other therapy helped very much and CBT made it much worse for me. CBT really isn't a good therapy for trauma. For me, it felt very similar to the way my abusers would try to gaslight me into doubting my own perception and I know many other people with PTSD who have had the same experience. I'd highly recommend finding a good therapist who does EMDR, brainspotting or somatic experiencing therapy. You deserve to be able to feel safe so you can relax and be in the present. It's possible with good therapy.
For six years, i have been suffering anxiety,depression, panic attack, several headache.I feel stress al time.I is so hard to live like that.I don't know what to do.
Iam so stressed literally i lost my self I attached everyone 😢 and i disgusted kind of this behavior my education is soo hard i don’t have some one who helped me when i was tried to figure out some one helped my education after few days they began to bully me and I disappeared guys if you see my message iam apologizing you my English and helped me plssss😢😢😢😢😢😢
EMDR does not help with complex PTSD. Please be care with this therapy. It made things 10 times worse than it should have been. I’m not blaming anyone for this. It is just a fact.
The therapist who did it with you didn't do right, then. That's unfortunate because it does help with CPTSD but it has to be done correctly and it has to be done when someone's nervous system can tolerate it.
I’m so sorry it didn’t work for you, but it helped me (CPTSD) so I would caution you making bold claims in case this therapy could help someone else. I hope you have been able to find a treatment method that works 😔❤️ it’s not your fault that it didn’t work either. Dealing with trauma is no joke man
I'm sorry it made it worse for you. I could see how poorly done EMDR would do that. Finding a good therapist who works at an appropriate pace is so crucial. I wonder if brainspotting would be a better fit for you. It is somewhat similar in that it uses eye focus, but I feel it's a bit gentler since it doesn't force you to recount the trauma in the same way. It has been extremely helpful to me for my CPTSD and I would recommend it to anyone struggling with trauma. Somatic experiencing is another good option that might be gentler.
Found EMDR, EFT (tapping) and trauma-informed YOGA helpful for my C-PTSD. Please be careful volunteering in a battered women’s shelter, as there may be many triggers there; also experiencing vicarious trauma” is real. Excellent talk, thank you.
What an absolutely fantastic presentation. The emotion, shakiness, paused breaths, and possible nervousness did NOT take away from this presentation, but, instead, added to it. God bless your sweet heart
My second marriage was financially, emotionally and physically abusive. It turned me into an anxious, depressed mess. At 61 after a three year marriage to a Narcissist I never knew the damage that could be done ! I am dying inside. Problem is I am still in touch with her and all she ever wants is money from me. Plus I know I am trauma bonded to her. I hate her and love her at the same time. I know I am a man , but we are abused as well !
Peace and freedom to you, compadre. 🙏
Im proud of you dude, you recognize what happened and are confident enough to talk about it. I know how hard that is. Your doing great dude
Try God, all the answers are in the Bible
I feel the same way with my dad. All he does is cause my family and I misery but I can’t seem to let him go, we stay in limited contact at the moment. I wonder if he is the way he is because he never got help for the trauma he dealt with as a kid. I’m a woman but men’s mental health really needs to be take much more seriously! Don’t be ashamed to share your story
Ben oui, les hommes aussi peuvent être victimes de pervers narcissiques.
Après cela se soigne… EMDR ( Francine Shapiro), brainspotting ( David Grant)
I'm a man who has been experienced ptsd for months, have been having every criteria you mention. I can see you are a bit nervous on stage, but I'm so happy you put yourself out there to spread the awareness, and it is helpful, to know what's going on, maybe could help with my shame,guilt. thank you
I've had a TBI for 30years and PTSD
EMDR can also be done with head phones which is great for highly sensitive people because their eyes are shut and there is less sensory input.
I watched this video a couple of weeks ago. It unexpectedly unlocked a forgotten aspect of my life that had been affecting me negatively, without my awareness until now. Thank you very much; it has been life-changing so far.
Daisy, Thank you for your candid self-disclosure and for such an informative talk. Although I sensed that you were battling anxiety as you were presenting, the courage you demonstrated is, of itself, testament to how effectively one can recover from PTSD and CPTSD. Great job!
Educative presentation, Id wish she also added the hope of future treatments regarding psychedelic assisted therapies.
Well done! You looked so nervous but you did it. Well done!
Daisy, I am a 44 year old man. I appreciate your intention in gearing your talk towards women, however I am a survivor of extreme mental, emotional, and physical abuse in a marriage to a woman with a personality disorder that had been misdiagnosed for her entire life. We are no longer married and I do not know if she has ever been officially diagnosed. I do however know that multiple mental health professionals agree with me and that she exhibits all 21 symptoms and I have heard her express each symptom herself but never but them together with a disorder. The medical community thinks a majority of disorders are ADD or ADHD and do not seem interested in assessing correctly or helping individuals or their families. I dated a woman a year after we separated who was just as manipulative if not more and both were the most hateful human beings I have ever met. What has become prevalent is women lying about being the abuser and pretending they are the abused and the stigma of men being the abusers has made it almost impossible for me to live a normal life. I suffer from extreme PTSD from 3-4 years of extreme abuse from the 2 together and still can not get away because their attack is relentless with the help of greedy attorneys and a very corrupt judicial system and what I believe is the absolute worst stigma is that the man is the abuser in every relationship. I am on here looking for therapy to help me cope with the triggers as they have made it almost impossible to function normally and have effected my daily life. I appreciate your information, I do find it offensive as you seem to believe only women need the assistance in getting the help needed as your entire talk that I listened to was directed only at women suffering and making sure we are conscious of what PTSD looks like so we can assist them in getting the support they need. I will admit I am making an assumption I hope I am wrong about as this is the only TED Talk or information I have heard from you and hope you realize or to bring some awareness to the fact that many women are abusing the stigma of being the victim. I am sorry you suffered any abuse at the hands of a man in any way. Please be conscious that there are many very hateful, vindictive women who have learned to take advantage of simply being a woman and crying wolf when she herself is the monster dressed in sheep's clothing.
I left my abuser five years ago and have been in analysis for the last four years. I finally have enough confidence to hold my own job and at this point, I'm thinking about starting to date. You're right, there is a double standard, but for everyone, the work is the work. A psychoanalyst vs a psychotherapist works on all levels - physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. I have found talents that I didn't know I had, and I now know why I came into this body, in this culture, to my particular family, etc. The best teachers teach the hardest lessons and my abuser brought me to a place where I had to go inside and find that eighteen year old, happy and creative woman I was at the start. Now, she's growing up. I thank him for that, but I don't want his energy in my life anymore which is sort of difficult at times since we had three children. There is help, but I wouldn't look in the Western medical community, rather depth psychology which is named that for a reason. By the way, I never usually respond to these things, but I've been through it, I've done the hard work and it sounds like you're looking to embark on a journey to your inner self.
I hope you can find peace and healing, internet stranger ❤ I believe her talk was more geared towards women due to women’s mental health being understudied as a whole, but I can see how it would make you feel upset due to your trauma. Hope you’re doing better
I believe now days it's difficult knowing who to trust in a relationship.
As men and women do suffer with an abusive relationship
I hope that you are staying away from women. You sound like a very abusive man who does not like women at all! Frightening!
L’essentiel est dit. C’est clair .
Merci.
À l’EMDR, on peut rajouter le brainspotting et le TRE( David Berceli)
Very insight and comprehensive presentation. Thank you 🙂
Oui et il y a aussi le brainspotting - découvert par David Grant. Une avancée spectaculairement efficace de l’EMDR.
Myself and my husband split up and I was in a very abusive relationship, it took me years to build up my courage to get him out of my house and when I finerly got him out I had manic depression, with no help at all.
Then I got into another abusive relationship and I finerly got him out of my house and finally I met a good man that helped me alot also I done psychology causes leval 3 and that answered my questions, but iam now single and I am too scared and I avoid having relationships I have come to the decision to stay on my own as iam now 66 years old.
I feel your pain, it's awful that we had to go through this 💔
Wow, that was a beautiful Ted talk. Very relatable. Thank you
Thanks for the talk. How about a shout out for the men too! lol Got my PTSD from my wife. Crazy stuff. Didnt know that could happen....until it did. Best wishes to you.
I'm sick of being vigilant all the time and what I've learnt I think is I am always going to have it
I can only imagine how stressful or fearful you must be experiencing. I'd like to suggest you to see a CBT psychotherapist. You may be able to recover from it, but if not then you'll be able manage with it.
The vigilance is so exhausting. It can get better though. My PTSD has gotten so much better with therapy, specifically brainspotting, which is similar to EMDR. No other therapy helped very much and CBT made it much worse for me. CBT really isn't a good therapy for trauma. For me, it felt very similar to the way my abusers would try to gaslight me into doubting my own perception and I know many other people with PTSD who have had the same experience.
I'd highly recommend finding a good therapist who does EMDR, brainspotting or somatic experiencing therapy. You deserve to be able to feel safe so you can relax and be in the present. It's possible with good therapy.
EMDR- Francine Shapiro.
Brainspotting- David Grant.
T.R.E - David Berceli
For six years, i have been suffering anxiety,depression, panic attack, several headache.I feel stress al time.I is so hard to live like that.I don't know what to do.
Search for healing frequency, trauma release, somatic exercises, how to regulate vagus nerve, EMDR, go for a walk, rest,
Iam so stressed literally i lost my self I attached everyone 😢 and i disgusted kind of this behavior my education is soo hard i don’t have some one who helped me when i was tried to figure out some one helped my education after few days they began to bully me and I disappeared guys if you see my message iam apologizing you my English and helped me plssss😢😢😢😢😢😢
Excellent talk. Great woman! Sorry for what you went through.
Does this include severe mental and emotional abuse by parents and siblings?
This is helpful thanks
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“It’s not a life sentence.”
EMDR does not help with complex PTSD. Please be care with this therapy. It made things 10 times worse than it should have been. I’m not blaming anyone for this. It is just a fact.
The therapist who did it with you didn't do right, then. That's unfortunate because it does help with CPTSD but it has to be done correctly and it has to be done when someone's nervous system
can tolerate it.
Interesting because I found it the only treatment that helped me. Perhaps there was an issue with preparation to help you stay in windows of tolerance
I’m so sorry it didn’t work for you, but it helped me (CPTSD) so I would caution you making bold claims in case this therapy could help someone else. I hope you have been able to find a treatment method that works 😔❤️ it’s not your fault that it didn’t work either. Dealing with trauma is no joke man
@@marybrindley174 This possibility occurred to me, too. The resourcing phase of EMDR is vital to its success
I'm sorry it made it worse for you. I could see how poorly done EMDR would do that. Finding a good therapist who works at an appropriate pace is so crucial. I wonder if brainspotting would be a better fit for you. It is somewhat similar in that it uses eye focus, but I feel it's a bit gentler since it doesn't force you to recount the trauma in the same way. It has been extremely helpful to me for my CPTSD and I would recommend it to anyone struggling with trauma. Somatic experiencing is another good option that might be gentler.
superficial lecture
She had limited time. It was a beginning.
@@darondatoole7439 AGREE