he should be seeing everything through 6 inches of plexiglass. if your first thought around other people is how you can murder them then you shouldn't be walking around in society.
The sadness I felt when the guy who had his beard shaved was trying his hardest to keep it together and try to explain it to her that if the roles were reversed, it'd be hell for him to pay, just for him to get giggled at like it was a small prank. I can't even imagine shaving my husband's beard! Absolutely disgusting behavior, man.
Well said. The disrespect, the hypocrisy, and this weird idea that she has the right to control his body. He deserves better. And it was a beautiful beard.
It does make you want to scream at him to leave already. Sounds like he knows it’s wrong. She wrecked his beautiful beard, but even if it was a raggy, dirty beard, she had no right. He needs to get out.
I hope he leaves. All narcs are the same- once they have you they enjoy taking away your peace and happiness- and they will treat you as competition - and way worse. Best to get out- she doesn't love him at all.
His body language, too. Defeated, he's just used to it. Whether she likes the beard or not is irrelevant when its not her face. A good way to gas light people is to shit on things that are important to them and make it sound like they're over reacting. And she's been doing it for a long time obviously. He's right about the double standard, too. That's emotional abuse no matter who it is. I really feel for that poor guy.
To the dude who is yelling at his pregnant partner for getting food from her mom, are you jealous that she's getting food and you're not? My dude, her mom is not doordash. Is there a reason why you can't go the kitchen and make a sandwich, go pick up some fast food, or do a trip to the grocery store? Your partner's mom is just trying to help her daughter however she can during her pregnancy and it sounds like you're sitting in the corner pouting that you're not getting snacks or lunch delivered to you too.
same guy who was yelling at his wife who gave birth two days ago. i dont get those people his wife is still weak no mattet the point she got out of the hospital right away, that just shows she doesnt have any inner wounds from the birth or something like that and she could nurse her baby in an familiar enviorment not that shes already able to cook and clean and all the other house chores
I am just speechless at the guy mad at his wife for doing silly accents to their toddler. How miserable do you have to be to hate joy that much. Also to the backpack ick girl, sorry but I'll be over here with my Herschel, hands free and not causing myself excruciating shoulder pain and my wallet and keys in easy reach.
I'm almost 50 and still more likely to carry a backpack than a purse even. Totes have their place, they're better for groceries than a backpack is, lol. 😂
The one that ENRAGED me was the pregnant lady whose man was complaining that he starves all day every day, DUDE, it's not the 1940s anymore. You are PERFECTLY capable of making your own damn food, I could go on a WEEK LONG RANT about cause and effect and reason but It's my birthday today and I don't feel like being upset.
The fact so many of these people are married and they clearly don't even like or respect their partners...it just really explains the divorce rates. It's so sad.
@poodypooroo or your partner doesn't treat you well/regularly tries to gaslight, manipulate, or lie to you. when you're in that situation, recording your conversations with your partner is very normal. many people don't just want to divorce, which makes sense considering the extremely negative connotation divorce still holds
Interesting factoid: what type of couples have the lowest divorce rates? Gay men. Highest? Lesbian women. :O I know one gay couple who got a divorce out of about a dozen. Almost all my str8 cousins & siblings got at least 1 divorce, if not 2+, or separated; and my family is pretty decent size. It's interesting to see how its different.
@sunflowerlady2057 probably because if you feel like you have to record them constantly it is already a sign the relationship has become toxic and you should leave
I was raised by a narc mother, then married an emotionally abusive man, divorced and had two toxic relationships since. I want to thank you for your videos that help me identify red flags. When you’re raised a certain way you become immune to toxicity. thank you for your work. ❤❤
It's very easy to think this stuff is normal when it makes up the majority of your life experience. I'm glad you are getting to see that it is not okay for people to treat you with such disrespect - you deserve people in your life that bring good things and not an endless string of problems and fights!
She probably stayed because she knows he can track her down and become violent. That is the primary reason I stayed with my abuser for as long as I did. Leaving did, in fact, prove to be dangerous, but luckily he did respect the no contact order after going to jail. I was worried he wouldn't respect it (and some abusers do kill their victims over no contact orders), but he did. Abuse victims need way more resources so they can be protected when leaving.
That last one is super scary. She is terrified because another man smiled at her. She didn't even DO anything but exist and she's terrified of what will happen. That guy beats her regularly. For any reason he feels like.
I scrolled for so long through the comments looking for anyone mentioning the last one. She's SOBBING from how scared she is of that man after a completely harmless interaction. I cannot imagine how much fear she lives in constantly. I'm sure if she managed to get away, the protection she would need would be immense, not to mention the therapy
I was sooo sad that the cop wasn't able to convince her to leave that guy. Like I don't inherently trust cops but that one seemed decent and she could've been in the perfect spot to escape an abusive situation by having an officer who witnessed how this guy behaved, but the mental abuse led her to stay anyway and that's so painful to watch.
@@Seegtease yeah, I think you are right, he was not an actual cop. This whole interaction, the woman sobbing, the insane language of her boyfriend (like, people smiling are a threat? WTF?!) and the game warden trying to have a conversation...ugh. So dangerous.
@@Seegteasegame wardens are cops it’s just a variety of cop. Like troopers, deputies, police officers, game wardens are armed LEOs. But some states laws kind of limit what can be done. If she wanted to go she is free to do that.
7:00 helll no that guy was creepy af. "My partner needs to know I could kill her but I won't" duuuude. Youre not getting a medal for not being abusive. Thats literally not even the bare minimum. Get help man
My exact thought. He's acting like he needs some acknowledgement from this theoretical woman for not picking her up and slamming her into a wall, "because I can but I never would." That is not grounds for celebration, MY bare minimum partner is a person who doesn't think about causing me grave physical harm EVER! If being chubby saves me from that fate so be it. I love my thick thighs and apparently it'll save my life one day with guys like this walking around.
I asked my bf. He does not in fact think about physically harming or even killing me in any way. He's normal and he doesn't demand a goddamn medal for it 😂
My baby father literally has this mentality and didn't reveal that until a year after the baby was already born. The disgust I've felt and feel thinking about it. He says that there are men out there that would hit me and he would never do that so I should feel lucky he's so good to me.?? But at the same time is constantly degrading me with "jokes" about me and telling me I don't need to take everything so personally.
The one about the size of partners in relationships got me heated. The man who abused me weighed 20 lbs less than me (190 & 170) and was only an inch taller. I couldn't stop him when he was holding me by my hair and repeatedly punching me, I tore his shirt off and left him covered in these bruises where I was trying to get leverage against him. He did almost kill me. He had been physical before and convinced me it wasn't abusive because I wasn't "fragile or delicate like dainty girls". The statements he made just fuels abusers in the mental gymnastics they do to sleep at night.
It aggrevates me to no end when I hear things like that, as if size and height has any bearing on the will or capability to inflict harm on another, physically or mentally, or the inverse, where you somehow apparently become invulnerable to any type of harm because you are bigger than the aggressor and therefore cannot be a victim. We are all still people, that by definition means we can all emact and suffer from violence in all its forms, do not make the mistake of discriminating because of judgemental concepts and biases regarding size, strenght or gender. Any person can be an aggressor or a victim.
@@4yinyang EXACTLY! All it takes is one True Crime video to shatter that small size arguement. All it takes is one instance of suprise/vulnerability around the wrong person and it's curtains. Getting woken up with 28 stab wounds from a tiny girl will still end them. Same with AGE! Younger doesn't make them safer. 12yr old CHILDREN have taken out their entire families. 🤦♀
I mean, I'm disabled. So when the guy was like "Oh, he's in control of himself." BETTER HOPE HE DOESN'T LOSE CONTROL AND KILL YOU, THEN. Statistics of husbands and boyfriends being the number one danger to women, ESPECIALLY if they get pregnant, would like a word!
@@pd9935 that really sucks to hear. Please remember that whatever they did to hurt you was wrong of them and you did not deserve that, especially so if their excuse is "you can take it" it is just messed up. Also I am someone on the larger side who can't seem to lose weight and who has struggled with self confidence my enitre life and the most important message I think I can give is that you have value and you are important. Do not forget that and remind yourself of this often, especially during times things are especially rough.
the face and the caption make me think that she's gathering evidence for the lawyer or at least family (they probably wouldn't believe he destroyed her things)
The lady getting yelled at for her mom bringing her food actually seems more to me like someone who is used to getting yelled at and shutting down to get through it. Her reactions and responses are very similar to my own when I'm getting yelled at and I lived in a verbally absuive household for several years. The rapid blinking to hold back tears, the straight face, the silence, the noncommittal 'okay'...I think this girl is dealing with this a lot.
Yep, absolutely. If she were a turtle, she’d be pulling her head into her shell. But the look on her face says she is just f’n over his bs. Like omg and you mated with that POS? Now you won’t get away from his fuckery for at least 18 long ass years
@@thegingersaur_streamsOh my lord I just looked it up and that is so horrific! So many women still die giving birth because it’s literally the most traumatic thing a human body can do and yet they are more likely to be murdered by their male partner. And my friends wonder why I’m not interested in dating.
You know what the biggest secondary red flag was, in that one? The fact that she literally LAUGHED at everything he said! She didn't just a little bit, kinda, dismiss his concerns. She LAUGHED her ASS off like the very _idea_ of him being upset, was HILARIOUS! Dude, run. GTFO of there with what's left of your beard, and find you somebody who treats you like an actual human being with valid feelings.
@6:30 That dude is upsetting because he is scary close to how some women feel but he's just not right. My wife says she loves how strong I am because she knows that strength will never be used against her, only ever in defense of her. It's not "oh he could throw me into a wall but doesn't", it's "whatever tries to hurt me is getting thrown into a wall and that's comforting".
Well said. What was the Doctor Who quote? “A good man never would.” I think too many confused people don’t understand the concept of toxic masculinity vs just plain masculinity. That we can love male strength and what a good man does with that strength, but that we don’t love when terrible things are justified in the name of masculinity. That can go for a lot of things, of course. I try to point out that true strength is in controlling yourself, not others. It should ideally really never cross your partner’s mind that you could hurt her, because of the person she’s always known you to be. Who doesn’t want to feel that safety?
@@BeeWhistler Exactly! Excellently said. The true merit of a man's strength is not his control of those around him, but the control he has over himself. Strength without restraint is self destructive and wrong.
@@Flumpfy Also well said. An important detail I keep in mind as a dom is that I'm not the one really in charge. Sex is an equal partnership, and there's no excuse for ignoring your partner's boundaries or desires.
The bloke complaining about being starved because his wife is too sick to prepare food is reminding me of a family member that tells people that her mom was withholding and denying her food by telling her to make it herself
Wasn't that the girl who became vegan and then became upset that her mom didn't become a gourmet vegan chef for her benefit? 😂 And I can't even say "She didn't learn how to make tofu for her" because in the comments, the girl admitted she didn't like tofu. Had the audacity to be vegan and a picky eater.
@@Lennyxx Yes. It's almost like I said that. (Friend in Christ, if someone used the phrase "don't be a backseat driver" you wouldn't respond that that's okay, as long as that person drives. The concept of backseat driving INCLUDES them being a passenger. Likewise, the concept of a picky eater INCLUDES someone else cooking the food, because if someone silently goes grocery shopping, picks foods they like, silently cooks them, sits down, and enjoys their meal they prepared themselves, there isn't any reason or a second party to call them "a picky eater." You read my comments in bad faith because you automatically assume I have something against vegans.)
One of my ancestors was attacked by a bear in the late 1800's, he survived, but was blind and lost an arm. They shot the bear, he got a yearly pension from the king and they named a hiking trail after him. No one is saying he shouldn't have gone out alone at night or that he was wearing the wrong clothes.
Actually, I bet that other people definitely thought he was crazy to go outside without a weapon and he would've walked away with more flesh if he had one, but I get your point. Women and men who come back alive from SA or stalking cases are shamed more often than comforted, physical injuries or not. I almost wish the government would give pensions if they got SA'd, it might help single parents a little or pay for therapy, but it would be hard to predict how that would change our society.
@@jayleensmile8900I know exactly how that would change society. Everyone and their dog would be claiming they had been SA’d for the pension. A better idea is to quit incentivizing fatherless homes, quit having children with losers, and teach all children to be better, boys and girls. I still discipline and respect, for themselves as well as others, early on and there will be fewer societal problems.
@@dion8895Facts. That was legitimately shocking to see. Like I almost think it might warrant a trigger warning for violence. You chuck foam balls or maybe water balloons that hard, not whatever that was.
At 13:45, the women yells in french "J'ai passé 3 heures !" meaning "I've spent three hours !". So I think it's safe to interpret it as "I've spent three hours making that cake". Without the translation the dude is still a red flag, but at least now you know
Thank you! I came to the comments looking for a translation of what she said. Seeing it typed I could understand it (Thank you jr. high French class) but maybe it was the level of emotion maybe it was the reverb effect that was on the clip, maybe it was my own hearing issues, I couldn't make it out.
@@dukeskunk Her words are slurred and it was closer to the sound of a scream rather than an actual sentence. Even I as a french native did not caught what she said the first time. It just sounded oddly french so I rewind it and it was in fact, french So yeah understandable that you didn't catch that
As a woman, watching the clip of that girl cutting her mans beard genuinely upset me. He's 100% correct in saying of he cut her hair cause he didn't like it, it'd be considered assault. He also failed to mention that other girls would gang up and call him all sorts of nasty names.. tearing him down ever more! And for her to have the balls to laugh irks me even more!! Like what the actualfuck dude?? He looks good with a beard and i truly, TRULY hope he was able to trim it without having to completely shave it
Yeah. Im a woman. That really upset me too. It is abusive. It doesnt matter that hes a man and shes a woman. Cutting someones hair without permission, forcing them to wear or not wear certain clothes - thats abuse. If you dont like something your partner is wearing, the only thing you can do is suggest. Not force. And for her to giggle and laugh over him being upset is just gross. How would she react if he shaved a giant chunk of her hair? My husband grew a beard for a few years. I dont like him with facial hair. But its his body and his right to wear what he wants on it - just as I have the same right. We might say 'I like/dont like that (whatever)" to each other. But thats it. Its the persons whos body it is final decision. I hope that guy found a woman who is respectful of bodily autonomy and treats him better. His beard looked like he put a lot of effort into growing it and making it look good and for her to be so disrespectful makes me wonder what other nasty things she does to him?
As a guy I might have just trimmed that other side similar and left things like that so she would be bothered still So her little plan did not now work and if she dares to try that again that I would leave But that is what my mind tells me now and now we all know you can act different at that moment
the poor lady whose mom would bring her food.... WHY WAS HER HUSBAND NOT THE ONE DOING THAT?? she's literally so ill she can't even get up to get food for herself, and he's telling her that she should refuse to let her mom bring her food. what??? and he says he's starving like.... dude are you just not working?? sitting on your ass all day?? I'm so angry and confused at the same time
that dad with the 16 year old daughter - he is insane. i went through that, no matter how upset you get, you are the parent and adult, it is NEVER okay to push her boundaries if she can’t do something and then punish and shame her when she can’t do it. she’s obviously going through a lot and his response of blaming and punishing her is abusive. then kicking her out is downright criminal. she is supposed to trust you as a father and you can’t even treat her as a human. that’s disgusting.
This is EXACTLY how my dad is. Even before we got to the worst part of the story he sounded exactly like my dad when he used to villainize us(the children)and act like the victim himself and then blame us for not being perfect🙄🙄Don't we love narcissistic, emotionally unavailable, manipulative parents?
The pregnant one breaks my heart. I’ve had such a rough pregnancy and my partner has done literally everything I’ve needed. He cooks all my meals, gets my meds, does all the shopping. I feel so bad for pregnant folks who don’t have that support
Everybody please take this video to heart. All that rage you feel on behalf of someone else, keep it in the back of your mind. Keep it for a time when someone may just treat you like this, and in the moment you may be tired of the fighting and just want to give up, but remember how mad you got that someone else was being treated like this. Give yourself that same rage and don't let people stay in your life if they treat you this way. You're worth getting mad for too.
I agree, but I’ll add a layer… remember this when you feel like blowing up over something small, or feel like you deserve something you may not deserve, or are about to mistreat someone who thought they could trust you.
that 16 yr old daughter one will never fail to annoy me, not only did she not want to take the class, but the second she was out of his house she got her grade up and yet the dad didn't want to give up. I used to be in _all_ honors classes (from 3rd grade to 10th) and they can be very overwhelming especially if you're going through a rough patch (and her dad taking away her entertainment definitely didn't help), I hope she's doing well now
Same, her mental health problems probably started way before her grades dropped too. Her grades declined because she didn’t consent to being put into that group and she felt that giving up was the only way out.
I can see why everyone is blaming the dad on this one but what if the mother is actually to blame? The father states he gained custody of his daughter and since then her grades dropped and she didn’t want to take the honors class. She blames it on bullying yet the second she’s back at moms her grades shoot back up but she’s skipping the tutoring class. I’m betting moms allowing her to stay home and she’s doing the work for her and 16 year olds can be very manipulative. Maybe dad really is trying to do his best for her?
Yeah, that one pissed me off. Can you imagine how she'd react if he'd done the same to her head because he didn't like her haircut? Just 🤯. Poor guy may have married his nemesis.
1:41 yeah cutting someone's hair without consent is a crime. You can also sue for it. He probably should, since she's giggling and not taking it seriously
I love the "you better not" when he talks about someone doing it to her. I'm not advocating petty revenge but sometimes people need to experience things to realize how serious they are, ya know? Helps to have chaotic friends is what I'm saying.
I’m 30. In my 30 years I have been: groomed (age 13-19), stalked by a drunk group of men who after failing to convince me to follow them to their car followed me for 4 blocks barking at me at 2am, stalked by a man on a bike while walking trails near my home in the afternoon when I was 17, S.A.’d by a coworker at the summer hotel job I had during college where he asked me to help him with something (he did maintenance I manned the front desk) - brought me to one of the only places without cameras in the hotel and did what I’m sure your imaginations can fill in… So excuse me if I’m convinced a bear will be my safer option in a forest. If my life experiences and the STATISTICAL evidence and testimonies of women all over the world somehow offend you that I would not want to be alone with a strange fudging man in the woods compared to the natural wildlife…well some of you have never had to fear the opposite sex. I hope you’ll take it to consideration that your point of view is invalid in my choice of choosing the bear.☠️🙃
I’m so sorry all that has happened to you! And I hate how often I hear stories like yours. I have been very fortunate myself, but I don’t understand how so many people seem to never have heard of these things, like they refuse to believe it happens to others if it hasn’t happened to them. My first thought when I hear that question is, “Dang… is there a third option? How about I just don’t go into the woods?” But I fully understand why the bear keeps getting chosen. I wish more people would recognize it and try and do better instead of trying to tell you that you’re wrong.
@@BeeWhistler It's nice to see someone who's been more fortunate to believe those who haven't and understand. It can be painful, regardless of gender, when there's a lack of understanding. It's not all men, but it takes only one in thousands if not more, to scar a woman for the rest of her life. And one beast can scar many women. My mother has always been fortunate, so she didn't take my assault seriously even though I was a kid and needed stitches in a place one doesn't randomly injure themselves. She kept the only possible assailant in my life for months after because it was hard to find a babysitter that could also look after the animals.
For the guy that wanted to game on his birthday: 1) She was so down for you to game, as long as you were quiet while she worked. If you can't game without screaming, then just wait until she's done, it's not a huge deal 2) Destroying your gaming set up makes it so you CANT play games on your birthday??
2:30 a British roast dinner is an oven roast, yorkshire pudding, mashed potatoes, gravy, and veggies. Think closer to small Thanksgiving. Way more work than a pot roast❤🇨🇦
Whoa, so he didn’t just want a pot roast? I mean, that was already asking too much considering she’d just had a baby, but had it been a few weeks, sure, it wouldn’t be that hard to just shove a pot roast in the oven (not that I would after how he acted). But he wants all that? Dude, find a pub or order takeout.
Having made a that, yeah. It takes a good long while and a lot of work. I wouldn't even ask someone 2 days postpartum to make me a grilled cheese. A whole British roast? Fuck no. I might make it for her, if that's her thing, though. Lots of good energy un there.
My dad had my mom go back to work 3 days after she had the C-section to have me. She was told "All employees walked out" and when she got there nobody walked out. She said even customers she didn't even recognize would come in and tell her "Didn't you just have a baby?! Why are you here?!"😭
It literally hurts just to stand after giving birth and I had c sections. I imagine walking after vaginal birth is worse. I can’t fathom cooking dinner just 2 days afterwards. He can go all the way to hell
I heard that a baby can split you from your vagina to your anus. I didn't choose to be born, but I am 100% grateful for the sacrifices my mom made for me. From her body to her mental health.
@@jemiinouYou’re not wrong about that. When I gave birth to my son in June, that’s exactly what happened to me. My Hubby wasn’t helpful at all and only decided to help me take care of our son after I had a mental breakdown at midnight. But my son is definitely worth all of the pain that I went through and the tearing that I had.
@@jemiinou Yep. They often will snip you so you don't tear, since a cut is easier to repair than a tear. It's called an episiotomy and is one of the reasons I will never have children.
I don't eat meat or dairy, and my partner literally only eats things with meat and dairy in them 😄 Wanna know how he survives such atrocious living conditions and doesn't starve to death? When he's hungry, he goes in the kitchen and makes something to eat, or he goes and picks something up to eat. I do the same. Bc we are not a singular organism that depends on anyone else for our own survival. It's crazy, I know! This dude should probably give that a try 😂😂
Fr like I'm lactose intolerant and can't handle a lot of food textures without throwing up and my partner has a sensitive stomach and gag reflex so there's only a handful of (fairly expensive and somewhat unhealthy) foods that we can eat together, instead of making that an issue or either of us starving we just man up and cook our own meals or make slight alterations to the meal, a dude not knowing how to cook is a huge red flag to me.
@@qweeeshI’d never say she deserved this, but I do wonder how many women had plenty of warning and still procreated with a chump like this. Still, it’s not too late to make an exit plan…
@@qweeesh oh, *huge red flag!* Unless you're like 12 years old, there's zero reason why you shouldn't be able to go into the kitchen and prepare your own food 🚩🚩
I could literally feel her holding back those tears. Pregnancy is such a vulnerable time. I cannot believe he would pick a fight with her at all when she is CARRYING HIS CHILD! especially not over something so stupid. What sucks is some men only show their worst sides after they have tied you down. Its so much harder for her to run now. Heartbreaking
“You gave birth two days ago and have been sitting own all the time” yeah because her body got ripped open and is still oozing from the gaping wounds. That last one was really scary, the officer seems to have tried to help her when he saw that freak out. Oh man I wish she had gone with how bad she was crying that was the cry of a heartbroken and fearful person.
Christ that couple. How do you get so far into a relationship that you've had a baby together, without already having seen what a colossal pr**k that guy is?
her body did something NATURAL aka NO PAIN, NO INJURY in a HEALTHY outcome She had complications then Either way she SHOULD rest and pay attention to the literal newborn who needs a LOT MORE attention than that scum who calls himself "husband" and his parasyte relatives
@@Gerishnakov Some get tricked. My ex did that to me. Was nice, til he felt I was sufficiently stuck and unable to leave him. Lied about being unable to have kids. And once I was pregnant and isolated. He started to cheat on me. Situations happen. I was naive then and he took full advantage.
10:18 yeah so as a teenager, i will say a couple of things relating to that story. 1 - having divorced parents can already impact your mental health, especially when you constantly see families that are all in one home and happy together. (even if you’re like me and have experienced separate homes most of your life.) 2 - If we tell you we don’t think we’re going to do well in an honors class, NO MATTER HOW GOOD WE ARE AT THE SUBJECT, do not force us. chances are that we will be right, because we know ourselves a hell of a lot better than you do. 3 - We’re not on our electronics as much as you think we are. It can take me personally HOURS to do homework because i have adhd and struggle to focus. a lot of teens struggle with the same issues (not necessarily adhd-related). 4 - If we open up about problems at school, you should NOT call them excuses. social life can affect mental health severely and thus spill over into academic life. 5 - do not dismiss our mental health. when that happens, we feel unimportant and unheard. and then we will internalize everything just because you dismissed us. and bam, it gets even worse because now we’re scared to say something. 6 - probably the most important. DO NOT SAY THAT YOU WANT THE BEST FOR US if you NEVER LISTEN. if you really want the best for us, you will listen to what we have to say. ask how we feel. consider our feelings. just a message to parents out there so stuff like the video i timestamped doesn’t happen.
God, this is so relatable. Honestly, I just wish I had family members that listened for once before blaming my phone or thunk I'm just sitting there doing nothing.
Not doing as well at honors and AP classes isn't always the kid's fault either. I got a C in calculus because the teacher didn't explain it very well. And wow, being average at advanced maths, how terrible. It sounds to me like she had depression. I had depression in high school and I struggled. I had school, I was in all the singing groups in school, my parents made me do another choral group outside of school, singing lessons, and a part time job, and in the fall I liked to be in the musical. I was exhausted and would not be able to handle that kind of work load as an adult. Kid's are routinely overloaded and held to higher standards than adults, and then treated like they are overreacting or lazy. If I had school (full time job), homework (part time job), and an actual part time job on top of that, I'd be tired and grumpy every day and not doing so well at work. Then they wonder why kids burn out in college as if they haven't been put through the wringer until then. I guess it would be different with parents who are actually supportive but I have no idea what that's like. My anxiety was through the roof living with my parents. And even when I lived on campus, I had to go home once a month, and my mom demanded that I call her every few weeks. Then they wonder why you go low contact as an adult, even though they're not likable as people and can't hold a normal conversation without complaining about what you're not doing well enough. So glad those days are long behind me.
I took an AP History class in high school and it was honestly one of my favorite classes and I did really well IN CLASS but I still barely passed. It was set up as a lecture/discussion based class and we had a small test either every Friday or every other Friday (it’s been a while so that part is a bit foggy). I understood the material and did well on the tests but that didn’t change the fact that 80-90% of our grade came from independent note taking which I’m apparently incapable of. I did all of the reading and was able to participate in discussions; even my teacher said he hated giving me such low grades because he knew I understood everything. Eventually, I started getting notes from a friend because this friend was very aware that I don’t have a note taking type of brain. So I passed but I wasn’t able to take AP Government the following year because the class style just didn’t work for me as the student. That was my own choice, I really can’t imagine how poorly I may have done had somebody pressured me into taking the course.
@kairosclerii_ THANK YOU for mentioning how some kids aren’t necessarily just playing games as much as people think, but are actually doing their homework, but it just takes a long time. I also have adhd and homework took me forever! Even when my mom was helping me with it. (not doing it for me like some of my teachers claimed) Honestly, everything in your comment made me feel so seen and validated. Thank you for that, I really appreciate it. I hope you’re doing better now. 😊
@@Cheetahgirl_Studios "What if I took that and cut your hair off?" "You'd better not" the hypocrisy of it is insane. She has the audacity to say that and then be like "it'll grow back" so would your hair!!! and you'd still be PISSED! I cannot imagine having this little empathy for another human being, let alone one I'm close to and love, like genuinely what the fuck
About these fellers expecting their wives to cook while pregnant and sick or just after giving birth: DO THEY NOT LOVE THEIR WIVES AT ALL?!?! My mom was pregnant during quarantine and instead of having weird cravings, she would be too sick to eat most of the time and would have to try to think of something she might feel like eating, and then eat that for a week until she was sick of it. Rough times, especially with the pandemic going on. BUT MY DAD! He went out of his way to get her something she could eat. HE’D COOK IT HIMSELF IF HE HAD TO! We got those meal kits delivered and he, my sister, and I would do our best to cook them. Though I would have preferred if everyone had stayed out of the kitchen and let me do it (because of this I developed a hatred of cooking that I’m trying to get over), he still wanted to help!! He always wants to help! He goes out of his way just to bring her a coffee that she didn’t ask for but absolutely needs! He’ll come home from the store and my mom might mention something he forgot or something that just wasn’t on the list AND HE WILL ABSOLUTELY BE WILLING TO GO RIGHT BACK TO THE STORE!!! He’ll do ANYTHING FOR HER! WHAT THE HECK IS WRONG WITH THESE GUYS?!?! I don’t always get along with my dad, but it’s videos like these that make me remember what a green flag he is. 💚💚💚
My husband is like your dad. These videos always make me appreciate him. He also cleans better than I do! And you’re so right. There’s worse guys than him, like the ones who don’t respect doctor’s orders to not resume… ahem… bedroom activities… until their wife heals up. Horrifying stuff. Good spouses take care of each other. My husband would get takeout or cook when I’d had a baby.
To answer the question: no, they don’t love their wives. Most are incapable of the “love” you’re speaking of. They are just feeling mad that the wife appliance they bought isn’t performing the way they want it to, and they can’t deal with it.
The puzzle one will never cease to disappoint me. My brothers treated me like that and while it's expected to be bullied by your siblings, being treated like that by your spouse is insane to me. Your significant other is supposed to be your safe space, not a continuation of the childhood trauma
I think it's more acceptable from your siblings because you're CHILDREN, less than because they're your siblings. If your adult siblings treat you this way, that's past time for either a serious conversation about their disrespectful behavior, or going no-contact. But yes, it's always absolutely horrible behavior from a partner. IDK why some people think disrespect is ever funny, but especially in intimate relationships (like the beard shaver, too).
Okay, Mr. "Pick Her Up And Throw Her Into The Wall" needs to be locked up pre-emptively. I don't care in what context he said that stuff, it objectively should never have entered his brain in the first place, let alone left his mouth. It was actually horrifying to listen to him.
@@corysanderson6177 For real! He’s a small man (figuratively) and was brazen enough to say that in front of a woman. The lack of self awareness only heightens the chances of him actually using physical force against a woman. He’s disgusting.
@@KingOfDarknessAndEvilthat’s literally NOT it at all , the reason is because a Bear is predictable and set in its way 🤦🏽♀️ while with men AND women you’ll never know what you’ll get , you don’t know their intentions while if you’re with a bear you know ultimately you just might get mauled.
@@KingOfDarknessAndEvilnot really, its just that bears are animals, and like most animals they won't attack out of nowhere with no reason at all unprovoked, giving peoole atleast some wiggle room to navigate safely. Which is not possible if you're unlucky enough to cross paths with a certain type of guy. There is also the factor of what the risks are. In case of a bear you might die because it tried to eat you or because it defended its territory. If it was a certain type of human being you know for sure there will be some very bad stuff done first, just for the sake of doing it. And if you were to live, in a bears case you would get patched up and generally get a lot of sympathy from being attacked by a wild animal, the bear in question might even be hunted and shot which isn't unusual. But in the case of a human being there's a lot of shame/victim blaming, and getting the help you want/need after an encounter is sometimes even impossible. Overall picking a bear seems like the logical choice
The girl in that last video was crying so hard. You could tell she was scared and freaked out. The cop was totally trying to deescalate the situation but that guy seemed unhinged. 😬
The problem with the "You walk past a hundred thousand guys on the street" is that a statistically significant population of those men might only be leaving you alone because the street has witnesses. There are no witnesses in the forest.
As a teen i went camping a lot. I've meet men in the woods. I've meet _a_ bear in the woods. Yes the bear was teriffying but it looked at me and went the other way. There have been plenty of other bears that have seen me before I saw them and just scuffeld off. I'm not the primary pray for bear, not even at 4'11. The _men_ I meet? Actual danger. Two, unlike the bear, started stalking me (I found a pine to hide under), others just made remarks to let me know I wasn't safe. I started doing like the bear and just fekking of into the woods if I heard, saw or smelt humans.
There are people who consider me objectively less intelligent for being Puerto Rican. There are people who consider me an abomination that should be unalived for being bi. The last thing I need is for more unalterable attributes of my existence to be considered inherently evil. I just wanna exist without people hating me for just existing. I'm tired boss.
There are people who consider me objectively less intelligent for being Puerto Rican. There are people who consider me an abomination that should be unalived for being bi. The last thing I need is for more unalterable attributes of my existence to be considered inherently evil. I just wanna exist without people hating me for just existing. I'm tired boss.
I grew up in the Canadian Rockies - the bears that attacked me: 0 - the amount of S.A’s (and even an attempted kidnapping off the street by strangers) I’ve experienced: too many to count.
F*cking heartbreaking that anyone can say they can’t count how many times they’ve been assaulted. You never should have had to experience any of that. I’m lucky to have only experienced one attempted assault when I was 12 and a two year relationship with a guy who didn’t understand the word no. I too would choose the bear every single time.
Hello neighbour! I also grew up and currently reside in the Canadian Rockies. I went out for a smoke and was watching a bear in the tree 20 feet from my back door last night. I can't count on my fingers the number of times I've been SA'd since childhood. Not all from the same guy either. I will 100% always go for the bears. They have no hidden agendas.
12:44 Let me see if I understand, your daughter didn't want to take a class, you forced her to take that class, your daughter didn't show interest in the class she didn't want to see from the beginning, you got angry and took everything away from her, she was being bullied and had a moment of weakness where she literally had some pretty worrying behavior like just sleeping and you kept getting angry because "No, her grades in the class she didn't want to see aren't the way I WANT them" But you're asking if you're the AH? Wow, you'd have to be blind not to know that you are.
Also threw her out of the house for getting a C. Literally imagine what it feels like to have your own dad not want you to have a home because of that.
It honestly sounds a lot like my childhood friend's abusive parents. She was suicidal and sleeping all day and they kept trying to punish her for not going to school or doing her homework. Not a drop of awareness or shred of care for how she was feeling. It was only about the results.
1:43 "If I took that and cut your hair, it would be abuse or something, but you do it to me, and it's fine." No sir. This is abuse, and don't you let her tell you otherwise. Poor guy, that shit takes forever to grow. Not to mention the absolute AUDACITY of her to say, "you better not." 🤬
A lot of ppl (more than you would think) do not have healthy internal guidelines because they grew up in abusive situations. ETA: and it's not their fault. 0%
For me it was years of unaddressed issues my parents had passed down to me plus my particular personality and anxiety. Led to a very scared, jealous and selfish love coupled with no ability to advocate for myself properly. I felt like a cornered animal and in those years there was almost never a voice in my head - it was constant fight or flight mode… lots of flight leading up to explosive moments of fight when there seemed no other way out. My wife asking for a divorce didn’t help me see the error of my ways, it was when she told me how afraid she was for our kids when I finally realized the horrors I was actually committing. Two years later I am putting up the same kinds of boundaries for my dad and the shitty ways he acted towards me painfully reminded me of how I used to act. Controlling and manipulative tactics are often used when the person is afraid they won’t get what they want and they can’t accept that reality. The main thing I try to tell others is there are very valid reasons why I or anyone else might treat people this way. It makes sense! But it absolutely does not make it okay and firm boundaries are important for both individuals.
On the bright side, these videos mean the victims now have documented evidence to provide at the divorce/custody hearing. Re the bear: you see a bear and while you immediately know it’s dangerous, you also know that chances of being attacked are statistically very small. You see a man and have absolutely no way to know if he’s harmless or if he’s dangerous, and your chances of being attacked are statistically far, far higher. That is a major factor in why we’d rather face a bear.
I will never think a bear is my friend only to be surprised with the information that the bear was only spending time with me to try and convince me to have s'x with him (and now he's pissed I made it clear that's not happening)
Also you can protect yourself from bears in easy ways. One of the main defenses against bears are *bells.* Them knowing you're around is enough for them to avoid you. Compare that with how you protect yourself from a human.
Right? Plus I know what to do if a bear attacks me! Well, unless it’s a polar bear, then I’m fucked but at least it’ll be over quickly and I KNOW it won’t be personal! With a man, you can never know what to do because men aren’t always predictable in their behaviors!!! And I KNOW they can do horrific shit to me! And worse, I KNOW that they’ll be people out there that will blame ME for it!!!!! Any man that feels personally offended that women picked bears is the type of guy that you should keep a close eye on! Hell, my dad that has been camping in areas CRAWLING with bears still picked the fucking bear!!! If even other MEN pick the bear, then we have serious issues with men’s violence in this society that NEEDS to be addressed!!!
People are misunderstanding this. They think we say that all men are dangerous and don't get the fact that the point is that we cannot know who of them is.
I'm the only one who cleans the bathroom, but my boyfriend ALWAYS notices and he thanks me for doing it every single time. I feel so lucky with my relationship after watching your videos
13:23 instead of, you know asking his daughter why she doesn’t think she can do the honor class or if she wants to do the honor class just unilaterally force things onto her that’ll DEFINITELY work 🚩
Oh, you mean parenting? Agreed. I have three kids and I will NEVER understand discarding your own child. And we aren’t talking about parents of a sociopath, or a parent whose ex has poisoned the child’s mind against them, or a parent whose kid grew up and embraced some bias that made them turn away from their parent… no, this guy makes it sound like somehow his good, good girl was always hard to get along with and is now a delinquent for not being able to handle crushing pressure, bullying, a break-up and parental rejection. He’s basically blaming her for their bad relationship. This is how you lose your kids. They go no contact.
It's amazing that he's mad at her for not getting good grades in an honors class that she already told him she wouldn't be able to keep up with. He literally forced her into a position where her grades would be worse as a consequence of her being put in a harder class and somehow she's the one who's getting punished for it. Even if she wasn't dealing with bullying, a breakup and suddenly being pushed into the custody of a parent she already didn't get along with, suddenly being put in a far more advanced class than the one you were already excelling in is obviously going to cause grades to suffer a little bit, I don't understand his logic.
I took honors and ap classes. I got a C in calculus. My parents were pissed. But they didn't ask why and just assumed I was lazy. Actually the teacher was new and not very good at explaining the math so I didn't really understand it. But being average at calculus doesn't even sound like a bad thing. Also, I was offered an honors program at my college. My parents really wanted me to join and I definitely did not want to because I knew I couldn't keep up with it for four years. I talked to someone in the program. She said not to join because they kept changing the requirements and the workload was too high. My parents were mad that I didn't join, but it wouldn't have been worth it. After I graduated, I went to teach English in Asia. All of that extra effort would have been worthless. If you need excellent grades to get into a certain college, then by all means, get the best grades possible and take weighted courses. Otherwise, just get decent grades so you can graduate, no pressure necessary.
5:34 hi. I take care of one those “old ladies in a wheelchair” you speak of (my triplegic mother). The REASON wheelchair bound people need to go first and have those big parking spots (with the diagonal lines people LOVE to park on instead of giving the wheelchair bound person the LOADING ZONE they need to get in and out of their vehicle for) is not only for their safety, but for YOUR safety as well. And not only is it for safety, it’s to save EVERYONE time. It is FAR easier and faster for EVERYONE to have someone who needs A LOT OF SPACE to do something as simple as take a seat on a plane to go first so they have the adequate room and distance away from other people to not only fit in that space, but so their equipment doesn’t injure that baby of yours (or anyone in the area of their seat). Same goes for parking in a parking lot. Not only do they need the space to get in and out, you don’t want a wheelchair ramp plowing through your driver door, now do ya? Anyone who complains about the MINIMAL courtesies handicapped people get in this world that is NOT built for them can use those 2 healthy legs of yours and TAKE A HIKE!
I am 39 and use a cane when I have bad pain days. Ableists PISS ME RIGHT THE FCK OFF! Carry some zip ties & attach carts to ppl's vehicles that park where they aren't supposed to. It's entertaining AND they get a severe inconvenience just like they so graciously did for the handicapped ppl that COULD have parked there! 😂😂😂😂
13:01 my mom is just like this. She puts too much pressure on me to get amazing grades while I’m taking 3 honors classes and 2 AP classes and afterschool activities and complains when I get home a sleep. She yells at me when I get below an A on a test. It’s horrible
I’m so sorry you have to live with that. You don’t deserve it. Parents sometimes don’t seem to realize how hard it is to push their kids away, and still they manage to do it. Kids want to love their parents. You have to be actively awful to damage that. My daughter has friends with parents who seem to love their achievements more than they love their children, and it pisses me off to hear it. They’re wonderful kids, as I’m sure you are. The only bright spot is that sometimes they get scholarships and once they get a degree and a job, they can get out, get therapy, go no contact and decide for themselves what they want to achieve. It’s not a super happy thing to look forward to, but if a parent won’t treat you right, you kinda have to give yourself the love and care and acceptance they aren’t giving you. And hopefully you find friends who do love you for who you are.
My dad is just like this. If I'm not succeeding, and furthermore succeeding *exactly* like he succeeded, I'm lazy and playing the victim. GFDI what is it with parents treating their offspring like extensions of themselves.
You’re not alone. My Dad was like that too. You still have value even when you don’t meet their expectations. You’re a really strong person and I can’t wait until you can leave your situation. 💛
I'm so sorry, Hon. If you were my kiddo I'd be very proud of you. Heck, you're not my kid, but I'm proud. I had a similar situation with a controlling parent, and finally being on my own when going to college was a huge relief. It was freeing, scary, and exciting all at once, but worth it. Anyway, your mom might not see it, but you're doing great! I hope you're proud of yourself.
People who are getting upset that women would choose the bear keep forgetting a very important sentence from an interview: worst case scenario, the bear will just k1ll you. We are well-aware of the dangers in each case, and we are aware of the numerous steps *before* death that can come from our species.
Im a dude(born afab of course) I would rather be mauled to death and/or watch the bear eat my limbs while I'm still alive then experience anything I have experienced even with TRUSTED men and women. I choose the bear because I would rather suffer a painful death for a little while, then an eternity of suffering that could end in death
Edit, adding a FAQ, because I keep getting replies. 1. Very important to mention this first. The original commenter I replied to literally used the Trump Jr Skittles analogy. It's hard to differentiate between the people here and racists/homophobes when both of you use the same terrible analogy. In a similar vein to the original, I'll counter by saying that men aren't candy, men are people. 2. There is this weird double standard where people here agree wholeheartedly that judging someone based on some genetic dice rolls is terrible, but with other genetic dice rolls it's considered fine? Doesn't quite sit right with me to judge anyone based on stuff they can't do anything about. I don't view existence as a hostile action, and people from all sides have a problem with that. 3. This might just be me, but I feel like some of this is kinda TERFy? Like, some of these replies give me that bad taste that TERF comments leave, the "IT was born with an XY chromosome, in the name of the wall mold I deem IT untrustworthy" kinda bad taste. I got a feeling some of y'all are having some interesting feelings towards Imane Khelif's existence. 4. Just to clarify my general political stance, I am left-wing in general. I'm voting blue team leader HarrisWalz 2024, because P2025 is all of our nightmares combined into one dangerous doc and HarrisWalz is directly opposed to it and then some. I've spelled it out plenty, but I'll just go ahead and say that I classify myself as egalitarian, which gets me in trouble with both sides. I don't see the benefit of making someone feel bad about stuff they can't change, and to the annoyance of both sides that goes for any such attribute, because a person can't do anything about any such attribute (i.e. it's unreasonable to expect someone to stop being hispanic to escape racism). 5. I'm very against negatively comparing human beings to inhuman creatures, I still remember a time about 2 years ago when I was called "muttspanic" and many other racial epithets in an argument on this platform and at this rate it's gonna be a long time before I forget it. It's gross and we should stop doing it for any and all reasons. If your argument involves negatively comparing a group of human beings to an inhuman creature on the basis of their (gender/orientation/race/sex), then I'm not gonna feel like agreeing with you because by doing that you have crossed a line morally and I'm not obligated to agree with someone who uses such arguments. If no negative comparisons were made between human beings and inhuman creatures, I wouldn't have even left my first reply. Hope that clears some things up for people replying to me in the future. FAQ over, returning to the original comment: I'd choose the man, 10 out of 10 times. For the same reason that I'd choose the gorilla in the "would you rather be stuck in a mall with a gorilla or 7 big snakes" thing, random primates are more negotiable than random murder beasts. Also, we both know that if you had to escape a burning building and your options were an elevator with a bear and an elevator with a random guy, you'd choose the random guy because you're not dumb.
For the girl who got all her stuff taken away for bad grades: Yeah, my parents did that too. I consistently got failing or barely passing grades throughout all of grade school. It turns out I was a special needs student with a couple of federally-recognized disabilities. Just one of many reasons I absolutely despise my mother and always will.
5:50 He’s envious over disabled boarding? Does he get upset when a Make a Wish kid gets to cut the line at a theme park? 😵💫 I’m glad the kid is too young to pick up on what his dad’s saying.
Dad is probably completely oblivious to what's coming out of his mouth. I wonder if he'll ever get it? I'd like to see him in 40 years and see if he ever got over his sense of entitlement
@@snowmiaow They missed their flight because they didn’t budget enough time to get through traffic/security. The dad is suggesting that if they were disabled, they would have been able to skip the longer security line and get to their plane on time. Airports suggest you arrive up to two hours before your flight is supposed to leave, so it may not have made a difference anyway.
@@WaitingxInxSilence Yes thank you. That is correct. Have you seen that happening? Somehow I only ever seen people in wheelchairs getting off the plane. I haven't seen anybody in an actual wheelchair, just the airport ones.
HOLY SHIT, THE DUDE AT 9:10 *IS THE SAME ONE WHO WOULDN’T EAT HIS WIFE’S HOMELAND FOOD!!* she made him his own dinner one time and he was like “this is great, why don’t you do this all the time?” i really fuckin hope she takes the kids and LEAVES, ‘cause there ain’t a damn thing that guy is bringing to the relationship!!
Actually, he said her homeland food upsets his stomach. I don’t make food I know upsets my man’s stomach. He’s lactose intolerant; I don’t make ravioli and cheesecake.
@@saragerardo6089 Sure, but she shouldn't have to be cut off from her cultural foods either. If she wants it for dinner once in a while, she should be allowed to have it. Surely he can pick up a pan and cook a grilled cheese or something occasionally.
@@Nylon_riot Bro thats like saying its ok to poison someone since others might drink it on purpose. like theres a reason why they did that, its called pure unfiltered delusion. ive heard better arguments come from the flat earth commitee, up ur game ty.
While he did get too defensive, she also criticised him for a video. She didn't appear to have a real reason, just wanting to make content out of it? Also seems like a red flag for me...
Me too. I love puzzles. That was such a cute puzzle and she was so happy she finished it and he just destroyed it without a second thought. He doesn’t love her. He doesn’t want her to be happy. That makes me so sad for her. 😢
It's not alright to shave your husband's beard without his consent, even if you hate it. You can express your preferences but can't control your partner's appearance. Simple as that.
@@GiordanDiodato i like how i can immediately tell you're on the spectrum because you feel the need to go to the most extreme scenario that could potentially disprove a non-all encompassing statement. its okay im autistic too
@GiordanDiodato they could be, what's the context? Home invader & unalived them in self defense? Have an abusive family member & the minor finally snaps after tolerating it for so long & everyone they've tried to get help from has brushed it off. I can come up with more. But you don't want the conversation, you just wanted to be a smart a&&.
The cup prank is actually a pretty funny and harmless prank. The cups are easy enough to knock over when you want to leave the gaming chair. I don’t understand why he looks so mad at a prank that actually is a good prank.
I'm not a fan of pranks. But Even I didn't see the harm in stacking empty cups. She obviously didn't distract him while doing it, or he would've knocked them over sooner. The only reason I can think he'd be that mad is he was doing something he didn't want her to see/hear, while "gaming."
I thought the same. Personally, I qould be pretty annoyed if someone recodred pranking me to put it on the internet. I don't want that kind of exposure and I would be very firm in communicating that, so having that line in the sand violated would make me pretty upset.
I mean has she done this before? Have they discussed pranks? There's any number of reasons why a seemingly harmless prank could be annoying to someone.
I mean I’m a gamer at times, and if my bf did that to me I’d just laugh, then apologize for not paying attention, cause obviously if he was able to make a full on wall of cups I probably been at it for too long. 😂 it’s a cute joke and I usually HATE pranks
I feel soooo so bad for the roast wife... imagine giving birth 2 days prior and getting talked to like that. Instant divorce papers. Bye. Cook your own fucking roast.
18:12 dude that’s not the “i’m hearing too much complaining” look, that’s the “i can’t fight anymore/it’s useless to fight and i really don’t want to cry because i’m going to be yelled at even more” look. sincerely, someone who grew up in an emotionally abusive household and is *very* used to doing that
The grass-cutting one upsets me. My dad's gotten upset with my mom like this when she'll purposefully poke fun at the work he does when she knows he's tired. The woman in the video did this for his reaction and criticized him when, according to him, she's never bothered to do it herself. I'd say they're both red flags.
I do 99% of the yard work. When my wife criticizes something about it, I tell her she is welcome to do it herself then. That typically ends the discussion
@@Katriella. not a lot of space on the lawn mower. However, if you suggest Gardening in general, like one person mows and the other weedwacks, I offered that. No takers
I don’t know a lot of men that won’t react like this except Jesus. It is easy to judge other people’s reactions and tell them how to act. We are all perfect in our head.
@@rachelhaynes9669 The bear doesn't think "I could kill this woman if I wanted to." it only attacks if it feels threatened or is starving. The first thing is way scarier.
And it clearly shows that this man does not want a partner. He wants somebody to fear him, and I find it pretty sickening that his woman is supposed to admire his "strength" and be grateful that he does not uses it against her. What a pathetic little man he must be inside! But as he has shown, makes him much more dangerous on the outside. Yikes!
Honestly, hearing other peoples, stories with unhinged parents/unhinged parents outing themselves always warms me up and makes me feel more understood about my own family. Also just having it read by a grown up who runs around public parks with flags makes it x10 more funny! My social anxiety would never!!! I salute you Red flag guy! Flag them devils in disguise!
You, too? I swear I love my husband so much more after watching these… and I also check my behavior to make sure I’m treating him right! And he can grow as much hair on his face as he wants. It’s his face, dang it.
@@BeeWhistler Lowkey why is watching the worst of humanity the best way to become part of the better part of humanity! Like not us looking at these examples of unstable individuals and being like "They suck, we're not gonna act like them!"
Likewise. I treat my family and my partner with compassion and respect, and they treat me the same. I'm very thankful for the people around me. My partner is an amazing man and I am still stupidly infatuated with him almost 5 years in 😊
3:43 Seeing someone getting this mad about some empty plastic cups on the floor is the most alarming thing I've seen all day but again, I'm barely 4 minutes into this video right here, so we'll see
Also, the bear thing: a bear will pretty much always have am actual reason to attack me. Ie: i was threatening its territory somehow, or messing around too close to its cubs A bear wont attack me because my skirt was short, or because i had a couple drinks. A bear wont pin me down and tell me to just relax. A bear wont punch me because i was talking to another bear at the grocery store or something. If im alone in the woods with a bear, i know ill morre than likely walk away unscathed. If im alone in the woods with a man, i will be terrified the entire time until im able to get back somewhere where there's people because im more than likely going to be attacked for being out there alone. Men that dont understand why we would choose the bear probably are exactly the type of men we'd choose the bear over..
Yeah, I think the men who get offended by this are kinda telling on themselves. Like the only reason you can think women mean you is if you are the type of man they're worried about.
There are people who consider me objectively less intelligent for being Puerto Rican. There are people who consider me an abomination that should be unalived for being bi. The last thing I need is for more unalterable attributes of my existence to be considered inherently evil. I just wanna exist without people hating me for just existing. I'm tired boss.
I have never been around a bear, but I have dealt with other creatures. For example, a potentially venomous snake in the classroom where I was teaching. Or the hand sized lightening fast wall climbing spider in my apartment. Or cockroaches. I'd rather deal with those again than some random dude when I don't know his intentions.
@@animeotaku307Cyzor? Ill have to look that up 😊 If you think of the Aussie's handle or anything, drop a reply maybe? I'm always interested in the perspective of those who've changed direction with growth, or are in the process of😊😊😊
@@KOKO-uu7ydSame, looking up Cyzor. I also appreciate that these guys don’t just go after the toxic men. I know there are guys dealing with horrible women and too embarrassed to let anyone know it.
with the man vs. bear debate, one simple sentence that i saw going around really cut through to the core of the issue. “worst case scenario: the bear would just kill me, i can’t say the same for the man.”
@@JohnDoe-sp4mk 1. No one said anything about MGTOW. 2. MGTOW very rarely mind their business and leave women alone, like they claim they want. They just project their resentment of women outwards, which has led to violence towards us in the past.
The girl in the last part deserves better. The way the guy yelled at the cop for being polite. I fear for the woman's safety if that guy is abusive. I mean if she was crying and the incel yells at the cop, it shows she's in an abusive relationship. And the cop offering her to get away and she refused? I hope nothing bad happens to her.
I think he might be the same guy that insults his wife’s cooking, so she got him McDonalds, told him she made it and he told her “you should leave it to McDonalds”
yep. he is an absolute trash human. Wish this were higher in the comments. ignorance of taste buds is one thing. He clearly has none. Ignorance of the eyes and nose? Makes you wonder as a wife what he might... I guess hear? in you... I truly hope it's staged content. If it is, he deserves an Oscar.
The guy talking about the bear thing and saying women will probably never walk past a bear is hilarious to me, a woman who literally opened her tent while camping and saw a bear standing 4 feet from her and screamed so loud she work everyone up in a 14 mile radius. And that wasn't even the first time I'd seen one out camping! And as much as the event unnerved me, I highly doubt that I could scare a man up a tree just by screaming like I did to the bear that night. 😂
16:05 "literally anyone wearing a backpack gives me the ick." That sounds like a you problem, lady.. Other people's clothing, general appearance or behaviour isn't yours to criticize or dictate (exceptions being wildly inappropriate cases, like someone with their genitals out and about in the middle of the city). And a backpack.. what's wrong with a backpack? It's the most normal thing to use when you have to carry stuff around (though I personally prefer shoulder bags). Totes are annoying when you walk around longer, since you have to readjust them so much.
Bro, i actually know a guy from my high school who thinks that even liking another guys post on facebook; even if you didn't realise it was a mans meant that you were cheating. Even if you don't know or talk to the guy, he considers it cheating and thats crazy. Man has hella insecurity
One of my exes used to monitor my instagram cause he was insecure about other guys. I had a hard boundary about sharing passwords(he definitely asked though), but he could still see my likes, comments, and follows and would "research" every account I interacted with. It was annoying, especially when he'd bug me about _how do you know so-and-so, who's that guy in this picture you liked,_ etc but I've been cheated on before too so I knew it could make you act a little crazy for a while. I figured if I just answered his questions he'd calm down and realize I was trustworthy. Silly me! One time a complete stranger followed me, some guy whose page was full of pictures of his dog, family, and GIRLFRIEND. This dude couldn't have looked like less of a threat, but I guess because he was generically good-looking my ex felt threatened so he flipped out and hurled his phone at the wall. AND THEN- he asked if I could loan him some money so he could replace the phone he just smashed in a jealous rage! Lol, goodbye sir.
Exactly. Male or female, you dont have a right to tell someone what to do with their hair, clothing or body or worse force them into it. You can suggest but thats it. Im a woman who doesnt like facial hair. My husband wore facial hair for a few years. It was his choice, I suggested I thought he looked better without it if he asked me if hed should shave it, but that was all I said. He eventually shaved it but only because he wanted to. I got so mad at that dumb chick laughing at what was basically abuse.
Why do couples become couples when one, the other, or both hate each other? Sincerely, A Childless Cat Lady (who's cat would never dream of punching holes in the wall, shaving off a section of beard, or any other stupid nonprank because cats know what boundaries are)
It's usually not like that in the beginning. And I had an electric like connection the first time I touched this one guy even though we aren't compatible. I thought it would be OK.
If your aspect on dating is “could I kill them if I wanted to” then you shouldn’t be seeing a partner- you should be seeing a psychiatric doctor
Good thing I live in Texas. He wouldn't get away with that here.
@@empath9814it would probably open up his dating pool since guns can kill anyone and he wouldn't have to rely on physical strength
he should be seeing everything through 6 inches of plexiglass. if your first thought around other people is how you can murder them then you shouldn't be walking around in society.
man is confusing his own kink, that should only be practiced with consent of their partner, with "how relationships should be" lol
His facial expressions while he talked about it were creepy.
The sadness I felt when the guy who had his beard shaved was trying his hardest to keep it together and try to explain it to her that if the roles were reversed, it'd be hell for him to pay, just for him to get giggled at like it was a small prank. I can't even imagine shaving my husband's beard! Absolutely disgusting behavior, man.
Well said. The disrespect, the hypocrisy, and this weird idea that she has the right to control his body. He deserves better. And it was a beautiful beard.
As someone part of the women community we do not take her. Maybe the chickens will take her.
@BeeWhistler he was an absolute green flag unlike his betch wife :( That made me mad.
The giggling was so infuriating. She's a piece of crap
I hate my hubs beard and beg for him to shave when it gets out of hand but never would I dream of this disrespect.
When the guy with the beard said "why do you keep doing this stuff to me?" was a gut punch. That ain't right. And she just kept laughing.
He needs to leave. Find someone thay genuinely respects him.
Was horrified by that line, too
It does make you want to scream at him to leave already. Sounds like he knows it’s wrong. She wrecked his beautiful beard, but even if it was a raggy, dirty beard, she had no right. He needs to get out.
I hope he leaves. All narcs are the same- once they have you they enjoy taking away your peace and happiness- and they will treat you as competition - and way worse. Best to get out- she doesn't love him at all.
His body language, too. Defeated, he's just used to it. Whether she likes the beard or not is irrelevant when its not her face.
A good way to gas light people is to shit on things that are important to them and make it sound like they're over reacting. And she's been doing it for a long time obviously. He's right about the double standard, too. That's emotional abuse no matter who it is. I really feel for that poor guy.
To the dude who is yelling at his pregnant partner for getting food from her mom, are you jealous that she's getting food and you're not? My dude, her mom is not doordash. Is there a reason why you can't go the kitchen and make a sandwich, go pick up some fast food, or do a trip to the grocery store? Your partner's mom is just trying to help her daughter however she can during her pregnancy and it sounds like you're sitting in the corner pouting that you're not getting snacks or lunch delivered to you too.
pathetic little boy
Yeah, how vile it is, that the one, who helps this lady is her mom, but not the actual father of the newborn baby
He's probably stuck to the couch, gaming.
Meanwhile: "I'm sitting here all day starving".
Yeah and she is probably cleaning the whole house, and starving.
same guy who was yelling at his wife who gave birth two days ago. i dont get those people his wife is still weak no mattet the point she got out of the hospital right away, that just shows she doesnt have any inner wounds from the birth or something like that and she could nurse her baby in an familiar enviorment not that shes already able to cook and clean and all the other house chores
I am just speechless at the guy mad at his wife for doing silly accents to their toddler. How miserable do you have to be to hate joy that much. Also to the backpack ick girl, sorry but I'll be over here with my Herschel, hands free and not causing myself excruciating shoulder pain and my wallet and keys in easy reach.
Gimme a well designed day pack any day
I'm almost 50 and still more likely to carry a backpack than a purse even. Totes have their place, they're better for groceries than a backpack is, lol. 😂
"Gives me the ick." What are you, 5? Like, what the hell. Everyone has odd quirks for sure, but... are you for real?
I would much rather a man have a backpack then a purse. And That means I don't have to carry his stuff and mine.
I feel like the bagback girl just wants to have some control over him. If she gets an ick from me, then we should probably part ways.
The one that ENRAGED me was the pregnant lady whose man was complaining that he starves all day every day, DUDE, it's not the 1940s anymore. You are PERFECTLY capable of making your own damn food, I could go on a WEEK LONG RANT about cause and effect and reason but It's my birthday today and I don't feel like being upset.
🎂 Have a cake instead.
Happy Birthday 🥳
Happy birthday
Happy birthday!!
@@TheKrispyfort thank you!!
The fact so many of these people are married and they clearly don't even like or respect their partners...it just really explains the divorce rates. It's so sad.
If you regularly record conversations with your partner, then you probably shouldn't be married
@@poodypooroowhy? Explain.
@poodypooroo or your partner doesn't treat you well/regularly tries to gaslight, manipulate, or lie to you. when you're in that situation, recording your conversations with your partner is very normal. many people don't just want to divorce, which makes sense considering the extremely negative connotation divorce still holds
Interesting factoid: what type of couples have the lowest divorce rates? Gay men. Highest? Lesbian women. :O I know one gay couple who got a divorce out of about a dozen. Almost all my str8 cousins & siblings got at least 1 divorce, if not 2+, or separated; and my family is pretty decent size. It's interesting to see how its different.
@sunflowerlady2057 probably because if you feel like you have to record them constantly it is already a sign the relationship has become toxic and you should leave
I was raised by a narc mother, then married an emotionally abusive man, divorced and had two toxic relationships since. I want to thank you for your videos that help me identify red flags. When you’re raised a certain way you become immune to toxicity. thank you for your work. ❤❤
Same with everything tho narcissistic dad I wish I knew this stuff 30 yrs ago 😢
It's very easy to think this stuff is normal when it makes up the majority of your life experience. I'm glad you are getting to see that it is not okay for people to treat you with such disrespect - you deserve people in your life that bring good things and not an endless string of problems and fights!
I'm sorry and I wish you the best! Psych2Go is the best RUclips channel for psychology
I unfortunately would not be surprised if the last girl ended up on the news. She needs to leave him.
That's why the officer said he advised her to leave but he can't make her
Hearing the way she cried made me want to cry 😢
@@lilscenechick1995 Me too, my heartrate is up, I'm having like secondhand anxiety for her Dx
She probably stayed because she knows he can track her down and become violent. That is the primary reason I stayed with my abuser for as long as I did. Leaving did, in fact, prove to be dangerous, but luckily he did respect the no contact order after going to jail. I was worried he wouldn't respect it (and some abusers do kill their victims over no contact orders), but he did. Abuse victims need way more resources so they can be protected when leaving.
If he’s willing to argue with an officer that way, she has 💯 more scared to leave.
That last one is super scary. She is terrified because another man smiled at her. She didn't even DO anything but exist and she's terrified of what will happen. That guy beats her regularly. For any reason he feels like.
I scrolled for so long through the comments looking for anyone mentioning the last one. She's SOBBING from how scared she is of that man after a completely harmless interaction. I cannot imagine how much fear she lives in constantly. I'm sure if she managed to get away, the protection she would need would be immense, not to mention the therapy
I was sooo sad that the cop wasn't able to convince her to leave that guy. Like I don't inherently trust cops but that one seemed decent and she could've been in the perfect spot to escape an abusive situation by having an officer who witnessed how this guy behaved, but the mental abuse led her to stay anyway and that's so painful to watch.
@@lanturn3239 I thought he was a game warden and not an actual cop but I could be wrong.
@@Seegtease yeah, I think you are right, he was not an actual cop. This whole interaction, the woman sobbing, the insane language of her boyfriend (like, people smiling are a threat? WTF?!) and the game warden trying to have a conversation...ugh. So dangerous.
@@Seegteasegame wardens are cops it’s just a variety of cop. Like troopers, deputies, police officers, game wardens are armed LEOs. But some states laws kind of limit what can be done. If she wanted to go she is free to do that.
7:00 helll no that guy was creepy af. "My partner needs to know I could kill her but I won't" duuuude. Youre not getting a medal for not being abusive. Thats literally not even the bare minimum. Get help man
My exact thought. He's acting like he needs some acknowledgement from this theoretical woman for not picking her up and slamming her into a wall, "because I can but I never would." That is not grounds for celebration, MY bare minimum partner is a person who doesn't think about causing me grave physical harm EVER!
If being chubby saves me from that fate so be it. I love my thick thighs and apparently it'll save my life one day with guys like this walking around.
I think he said, then she'll know she can trust me, bc I'm so in control of myself that I choose not to kill her 😢
I asked my bf. He does not in fact think about physically harming or even killing me in any way. He's normal and he doesn't demand a goddamn medal for it 😂
Basically he's saying I won't date a woman who could kick my ass because I plan to throw hands with her
My baby father literally has this mentality and didn't reveal that until a year after the baby was already born. The disgust I've felt and feel thinking about it. He says that there are men out there that would hit me and he would never do that so I should feel lucky he's so good to me.?? But at the same time is constantly degrading me with "jokes" about me and telling me I don't need to take everything so personally.
The one about the size of partners in relationships got me heated. The man who abused me weighed 20 lbs less than me (190 & 170) and was only an inch taller. I couldn't stop him when he was holding me by my hair and repeatedly punching me, I tore his shirt off and left him covered in these bruises where I was trying to get leverage against him. He did almost kill me.
He had been physical before and convinced me it wasn't abusive because I wasn't "fragile or delicate like dainty girls".
The statements he made just fuels abusers in the mental gymnastics they do to sleep at night.
It aggrevates me to no end when I hear things like that, as if size and height has any bearing on the will or capability to inflict harm on another, physically or mentally, or the inverse, where you somehow apparently become invulnerable to any type of harm because you are bigger than the aggressor and therefore cannot be a victim.
We are all still people, that by definition means we can all emact and suffer from violence in all its forms, do not make the mistake of discriminating because of judgemental concepts and biases regarding size, strenght or gender. Any person can be an aggressor or a victim.
@@4yinyang EXACTLY! All it takes is one True Crime video to shatter that small size arguement. All it takes is one instance of suprise/vulnerability around the wrong person and it's curtains. Getting woken up with 28 stab wounds from a tiny girl will still end them. Same with AGE! Younger doesn't make them safer. 12yr old CHILDREN have taken out their entire families. 🤦♀
I mean, I'm disabled. So when the guy was like "Oh, he's in control of himself." BETTER HOPE HE DOESN'T LOSE CONTROL AND KILL YOU, THEN.
Statistics of husbands and boyfriends being the number one danger to women, ESPECIALLY if they get pregnant, would like a word!
My boyfriend used to say I can take it because I’m big as well. I’m trying to lose weight but my confidence is so low now
@@pd9935 that really sucks to hear. Please remember that whatever they did to hurt you was wrong of them and you did not deserve that, especially so if their excuse is "you can take it" it is just messed up.
Also I am someone on the larger side who can't seem to lose weight and who has struggled with self confidence my enitre life and the most important message I think I can give is that you have value and you are important. Do not forget that and remind yourself of this often, especially during times things are especially rough.
" Your beard will grow back". " My love and my trust will not."
Exactly.
Should shave her hair and tell her the exact same thing. KarMAS A BITCH. SHE SHOULD HAVE KNOWN BETTAH-
For real. I can't imagine doing something to my partner like that even if I disliked something he likes. It's so wild to me
I hate beards personally. But I would never NEVER dare to do anything close to that… He looked so sad. Not mad but sad…
I wonder how she’d react if *he* got giggly and shaved all the pink dyed sections of hair on her head bald.
The look on her face when he punches the puzzle, like she is not surprised at all
the face and the caption make me think that she's gathering evidence for the lawyer or at least family (they probably wouldn't believe he destroyed her things)
@AleTitan that's smart, hope she's ok wherever she is now
She most likely wasn't surprised.
@@AleTitanYep. She's looking at the camera like she was staring at everyone who told her she was "overreacting" and saying "See?"
That’s the exact face my old principal made. At her least favorite student, that constantly screwed up🗿
The lady getting yelled at for her mom bringing her food actually seems more to me like someone who is used to getting yelled at and shutting down to get through it. Her reactions and responses are very similar to my own when I'm getting yelled at and I lived in a verbally absuive household for several years. The rapid blinking to hold back tears, the straight face, the silence, the noncommittal 'okay'...I think this girl is dealing with this a lot.
Same. It's always the head and eyes down just saying "okay" and admitting defeat while getting belittled and screamed at. Gives me ptsd honestly.
Yep, absolutely. If she were a turtle, she’d be pulling her head into her shell. But the look on her face says she is just f’n over his bs. Like omg and you mated with that POS? Now you won’t get away from his fuckery for at least 18 long ass years
Yeah she looked like she was disassociating through it. And considering what the number one killer of pregnant people is… I worry for her
@@thegingersaur_streamsOh my lord I just looked it up and that is so horrific! So many women still die giving birth because it’s literally the most traumatic thing a human body can do and yet they are more likely to be murdered by their male partner. And my friends wonder why I’m not interested in dating.
Same here, even as an adult it can be hard for me to handle, getting berated intensely.
That second one when he said "you keep doing this crap to me" - I'm genuinely concerned about him. What ELSE did she do??
I felt so sorry for him. He looks like a really nice guy and was minding his own business.
Yeah. He's just a joke to her. He'd better just get out now.
Dye her hair pink and purple
You know what the biggest secondary red flag was, in that one? The fact that she literally LAUGHED at everything he said! She didn't just a little bit, kinda, dismiss his concerns. She LAUGHED her ASS off like the very _idea_ of him being upset, was HILARIOUS!
Dude, run. GTFO of there with what's left of your beard, and find you somebody who treats you like an actual human being with valid feelings.
She recently fed him cucumbers he is deathly allergic to them and threw away his epi pen because she accused him of throwing away her rose toy
that lady recording the smashed gaming setup didn't dodge a bullet, she dodged that dude's fists. good job to her!
He needs to be sued for a property damage, bothering at her work place and for everything that she paid for ,since he was living for free
I really hope she left him. That's scary.
He could’ve install his own wifi router or use his 4G(it’s expensive but it’s still cheaper than a whole damage game setup)
@@jollygirl94 4G has too much latency for first person shooters.
@@JohnShalamskas not as much latency as smashing your setup so you can't play lmfao
@6:30 That dude is upsetting because he is scary close to how some women feel but he's just not right. My wife says she loves how strong I am because she knows that strength will never be used against her, only ever in defense of her. It's not "oh he could throw me into a wall but doesn't", it's "whatever tries to hurt me is getting thrown into a wall and that's comforting".
Well said. What was the Doctor Who quote? “A good man never would.” I think too many confused people don’t understand the concept of toxic masculinity vs just plain masculinity. That we can love male strength and what a good man does with that strength, but that we don’t love when terrible things are justified in the name of masculinity. That can go for a lot of things, of course.
I try to point out that true strength is in controlling yourself, not others. It should ideally really never cross your partner’s mind that you could hurt her, because of the person she’s always known you to be. Who doesn’t want to feel that safety?
@@BeeWhistler Exactly! Excellently said. The true merit of a man's strength is not his control of those around him, but the control he has over himself. Strength without restraint is self destructive and wrong.
I use that sort of language to explain why s&m is exciting, it's not something I'd want to make my entire life
@@Flumpfy Also well said. An important detail I keep in mind as a dom is that I'm not the one really in charge. Sex is an equal partnership, and there's no excuse for ignoring your partner's boundaries or desires.
yeah, that was extra creepy.
The bloke complaining about being starved because his wife is too sick to prepare food is reminding me of a family member that tells people that her mom was withholding and denying her food by telling her to make it herself
Bonus points if the family member was like 24 or something
@@novatheenby8779 🤣
Wasn't that the girl who became vegan and then became upset that her mom didn't become a gourmet vegan chef for her benefit? 😂 And I can't even say "She didn't learn how to make tofu for her" because in the comments, the girl admitted she didn't like tofu. Had the audacity to be vegan and a picky eater.
@@Cityweaver you're allowed to be vegan and picky, but you can't be an asshole on top of that. At that point you cook your own food
@@Lennyxx Yes. It's almost like I said that.
(Friend in Christ, if someone used the phrase "don't be a backseat driver" you wouldn't respond that that's okay, as long as that person drives. The concept of backseat driving INCLUDES them being a passenger. Likewise, the concept of a picky eater INCLUDES someone else cooking the food, because if someone silently goes grocery shopping, picks foods they like, silently cooks them, sits down, and enjoys their meal they prepared themselves, there isn't any reason or a second party to call them "a picky eater." You read my comments in bad faith because you automatically assume I have something against vegans.)
One of my ancestors was attacked by a bear in the late 1800's, he survived, but was blind and lost an arm. They shot the bear, he got a yearly pension from the king and they named a hiking trail after him. No one is saying he shouldn't have gone out alone at night or that he was wearing the wrong clothes.
Actually, I bet that other people definitely thought he was crazy to go outside without a weapon and he would've walked away with more flesh if he had one, but I get your point. Women and men who come back alive from SA or stalking cases are shamed more often than comforted, physical injuries or not. I almost wish the government would give pensions if they got SA'd, it might help single parents a little or pay for therapy, but it would be hard to predict how that would change our society.
@@jayleensmile8900I know exactly how that would change society. Everyone and their dog would be claiming they had been SA’d for the pension. A better idea is to quit incentivizing fatherless homes, quit having children with losers, and teach all children to be better, boys and girls. I still discipline and respect, for themselves as well as others, early on and there will be fewer societal problems.
Poor bear
3:35 wow he threw those at her HARD nothing about any of that was playful.
Yeah, that was my thought too. Just straight up physical abuse
@@dion8895Facts. That was legitimately shocking to see. Like I almost think it might warrant a trigger warning for violence. You chuck foam balls or maybe water balloons that hard, not whatever that was.
@@dion8895 My exBrother in-law used to do these kinds of things to my Sister in-law under "just kidding around".
I had to place my hand on my own back cause I felt that first impact. Especially when the glass plate fell and broke
These people hate their spouses and try to be slick by disguising acts of aggression as "pranks". Honestly disgusting
At 13:45, the women yells in french "J'ai passé 3 heures !" meaning "I've spent three hours !". So I think it's safe to interpret it as "I've spent three hours making that cake". Without the translation the dude is still a red flag, but at least now you know
Thank you! I came to the comments looking for a translation of what she said. Seeing it typed I could understand it (Thank you jr. high French class) but maybe it was the level of emotion maybe it was the reverb effect that was on the clip, maybe it was my own hearing issues, I couldn't make it out.
@@dukeskunk Her words are slurred and it was closer to the sound of a scream rather than an actual sentence. Even I as a french native did not caught what she said the first time. It just sounded oddly french so I rewind it and it was in fact, french
So yeah understandable that you didn't catch that
Thank you!!!!
Same!! @@lolitacalveras1815
Thank you, my French isn't great and she was really upset
As a woman, watching the clip of that girl cutting her mans beard genuinely upset me. He's 100% correct in saying of he cut her hair cause he didn't like it, it'd be considered assault. He also failed to mention that other girls would gang up and call him all sorts of nasty names.. tearing him down ever more! And for her to have the balls to laugh irks me even more!! Like what the actualfuck dude?? He looks good with a beard and i truly, TRULY hope he was able to trim it without having to completely shave it
Yeah. Im a woman. That really upset me too. It is abusive. It doesnt matter that hes a man and shes a woman. Cutting someones hair without permission, forcing them to wear or not wear certain clothes - thats abuse.
If you dont like something your partner is wearing, the only thing you can do is suggest. Not force. And for her to giggle and laugh over him being upset is just gross. How would she react if he shaved a giant chunk of her hair?
My husband grew a beard for a few years. I dont like him with facial hair. But its his body and his right to wear what he wants on it - just as I have the same right. We might say 'I like/dont like that (whatever)" to each other. But thats it. Its the persons whos body it is final decision.
I hope that guy found a woman who is respectful of bodily autonomy and treats him better. His beard looked like he put a lot of effort into growing it and making it look good and for her to be so disrespectful makes me wonder what other nasty things she does to him?
i truly hope, he gets far far away from her.
As a guy I might have just trimmed that other side similar and left things like that so she would be bothered still So her little plan did not now work and if she dares to try that again that I would leave
But that is what my mind tells me now and now we all know you can act different at that moment
@@childofcascadiaAlso he even mentioned why she now keeps hurting him basically so confirmed even
You can, minimum, get arrested in some countries for cutting someone's hair without permission.
the poor lady whose mom would bring her food.... WHY WAS HER HUSBAND NOT THE ONE DOING THAT??
she's literally so ill she can't even get up to get food for herself, and he's telling her that she should refuse to let her mom bring her food.
what??? and he says he's starving like.... dude are you just not working?? sitting on your ass all day?? I'm so angry and confused at the same time
that dad with the 16 year old daughter - he is insane. i went through that, no matter how upset you get, you are the parent and adult, it is NEVER okay to push her boundaries if she can’t do something and then punish and shame her when she can’t do it. she’s obviously going through a lot and his response of blaming and punishing her is abusive. then kicking her out is downright criminal. she is supposed to trust you as a father and you can’t even treat her as a human. that’s disgusting.
This is EXACTLY how my dad is. Even before we got to the worst part of the story he sounded exactly like my dad when he used to villainize us(the children)and act like the victim himself and then blame us for not being perfect🙄🙄Don't we love narcissistic, emotionally unavailable, manipulative parents?
Shouldn't have had kids in the first place
It sounds like she’s going through symptoms of depression too, due to her environment
Thank god she got out and is with her. I’m now, is all I have to say.
* And is with her mom now. Wouldn’t let me edit my comment.
The pregnant one breaks my heart. I’ve had such a rough pregnancy and my partner has done literally everything I’ve needed. He cooks all my meals, gets my meds, does all the shopping. I feel so bad for pregnant folks who don’t have that support
Abort that shit and get a divorce imo. He does not need to be procreating and she doesn't need to deal with him missing child support payments. 😂
Those poor babies
Everybody please take this video to heart. All that rage you feel on behalf of someone else, keep it in the back of your mind. Keep it for a time when someone may just treat you like this, and in the moment you may be tired of the fighting and just want to give up, but remember how mad you got that someone else was being treated like this. Give yourself that same rage and don't let people stay in your life if they treat you this way. You're worth getting mad for too.
I agree, but I’ll add a layer… remember this when you feel like blowing up over something small, or feel like you deserve something you may not deserve, or are about to mistreat someone who thought they could trust you.
@@BeeWhistler True. Keep yourself in check,
And give yourself reality checks on how this may make other people feel.
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Beautifully said!
You're right and wise! Thanks
that 16 yr old daughter one will never fail to annoy me, not only did she not want to take the class, but the second she was out of his house she got her grade up and yet the dad didn't want to give up. I used to be in _all_ honors classes (from 3rd grade to 10th) and they can be very overwhelming especially if you're going through a rough patch (and her dad taking away her entertainment definitely didn't help), I hope she's doing well now
Same, her mental health problems probably started way before her grades dropped too. Her grades declined because she didn’t consent to being put into that group and she felt that giving up was the only way out.
I can see why everyone is blaming the dad on this one but what if the mother is actually to blame? The father states he gained custody of his daughter and since then her grades dropped and she didn’t want to take the honors class. She blames it on bullying yet the second she’s back at moms her grades shoot back up but she’s skipping the tutoring class. I’m betting moms allowing her to stay home and she’s doing the work for her and 16 year olds can be very manipulative. Maybe dad really is trying to do his best for her?
The one where she shaves off his beard still makes me cringe
Yeah, that one pissed me off. Can you imagine how she'd react if he'd done the same to her head because he didn't like her haircut? Just 🤯.
Poor guy may have married his nemesis.
I physically jumped and yelled "THATS LITERALLY ASSAULT!" on my lunch break.
I hope he shaves her hair now. It'll grow back, after all..
That one was so sad. He looked so done with her and the whole situation. Hopefully he got out of the relationship
He nailed it. "If I did that to you, it'd be assault,"
And she gleefully giggled at him. She's gross, bearded guy deserves better.
1:41 yeah cutting someone's hair without consent is a crime. You can also sue for it. He probably should, since she's giggling and not taking it seriously
good thing she filmed and posted her own crime.
And it's clearly not the first thing she's done. "why do you keep doing things to me"
I love the "you better not" when he talks about someone doing it to her. I'm not advocating petty revenge but sometimes people need to experience things to realize how serious they are, ya know? Helps to have chaotic friends is what I'm saying.
It's considered assault iirc
I’m 30. In my 30 years I have been: groomed (age 13-19), stalked by a drunk group of men who after failing to convince me to follow them to their car followed me for 4 blocks barking at me at 2am, stalked by a man on a bike while walking trails near my home in the afternoon when I was 17, S.A.’d by a coworker at the summer hotel job I had during college where he asked me to help him with something (he did maintenance I manned the front desk) - brought me to one of the only places without cameras in the hotel and did what I’m sure your imaginations can fill in…
So excuse me if I’m convinced a bear will be my safer option in a forest. If my life experiences and the STATISTICAL evidence and testimonies of women all over the world somehow offend you that I would not want to be alone with a strange fudging man in the woods compared to the natural wildlife…well some of you have never had to fear the opposite sex. I hope you’ll take it to consideration that your point of view is invalid in my choice of choosing the bear.☠️🙃
I’m so sorry all that has happened to you! And I hate how often I hear stories like yours. I have been very fortunate myself, but I don’t understand how so many people seem to never have heard of these things, like they refuse to believe it happens to others if it hasn’t happened to them.
My first thought when I hear that question is, “Dang… is there a third option? How about I just don’t go into the woods?” But I fully understand why the bear keeps getting chosen. I wish more people would recognize it and try and do better instead of trying to tell you that you’re wrong.
@@BeeWhistler It's nice to see someone who's been more fortunate to believe those who haven't and understand. It can be painful, regardless of gender, when there's a lack of understanding. It's not all men, but it takes only one in thousands if not more, to scar a woman for the rest of her life. And one beast can scar many women.
My mother has always been fortunate, so she didn't take my assault seriously even though I was a kid and needed stitches in a place one doesn't randomly injure themselves. She kept the only possible assailant in my life for months after because it was hard to find a babysitter that could also look after the animals.
@@esmee6308that's appalling. I hope you get closure
@BeeWhistler The third option is not being born into this world for me
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The question is a hypothetical, so it would be pointless to have a third option. 🙄
For the guy that wanted to game on his birthday:
1) She was so down for you to game, as long as you were quiet while she worked. If you can't game without screaming, then just wait until she's done, it's not a huge deal
2) Destroying your gaming set up makes it so you CANT play games on your birthday??
2:30 a British roast dinner is an oven roast, yorkshire pudding, mashed potatoes, gravy, and veggies. Think closer to small Thanksgiving. Way more work than a pot roast❤🇨🇦
Whoa, so he didn’t just want a pot roast? I mean, that was already asking too much considering she’d just had a baby, but had it been a few weeks, sure, it wouldn’t be that hard to just shove a pot roast in the oven (not that I would after how he acted). But he wants all that? Dude, find a pub or order takeout.
"Two days"* but yeah...
Having made a that, yeah. It takes a good long while and a lot of work. I wouldn't even ask someone 2 days postpartum to make me a grilled cheese. A whole British roast? Fuck no. I might make it for her, if that's her thing, though. Lots of good energy un there.
Yep can confirm - an “English Roast” takes me allll day and a bit of yesterday to make - which makes this guy even worse.
My dad had my mom go back to work 3 days after she had the C-section to have me. She was told "All employees walked out" and when she got there nobody walked out.
She said even customers she didn't even recognize would come in and tell her "Didn't you just have a baby?! Why are you here?!"😭
It literally hurts just to stand after giving birth and I had c sections. I imagine walking after vaginal birth is worse. I can’t fathom cooking dinner just 2 days afterwards. He can go all the way to hell
I mean moving with c-section stitches is probably no picnic either. Not that I can imagine either.
@@shadenox8164yeah but vaginal birth tends to turn your vagina into a cloaca, so you need stitches after vaginal birth too
I heard that a baby can split you from your vagina to your anus. I didn't choose to be born, but I am 100% grateful for the sacrifices my mom made for me. From her body to her mental health.
@@jemiinouYou’re not wrong about that. When I gave birth to my son in June, that’s exactly what happened to me. My Hubby wasn’t helpful at all and only decided to help me take care of our son after I had a mental breakdown at midnight. But my son is definitely worth all of the pain that I went through and the tearing that I had.
@@jemiinou Yep. They often will snip you so you don't tear, since a cut is easier to repair than a tear. It's called an episiotomy and is one of the reasons I will never have children.
I don't eat meat or dairy, and my partner literally only eats things with meat and dairy in them 😄 Wanna know how he survives such atrocious living conditions and doesn't starve to death? When he's hungry, he goes in the kitchen and makes something to eat, or he goes and picks something up to eat. I do the same. Bc we are not a singular organism that depends on anyone else for our own survival. It's crazy, I know! This dude should probably give that a try 😂😂
Fr like I'm lactose intolerant and can't handle a lot of food textures without throwing up and my partner has a sensitive stomach and gag reflex so there's only a handful of (fairly expensive and somewhat unhealthy) foods that we can eat together, instead of making that an issue or either of us starving we just man up and cook our own meals or make slight alterations to the meal, a dude not knowing how to cook is a huge red flag to me.
@@qweeeshI’d never say she deserved this, but I do wonder how many women had plenty of warning and still procreated with a chump like this. Still, it’s not too late to make an exit plan…
We recently got an apartment together, and my bf only cooks meats on the grill outside so I don't have to smell it, and I didn't even ask
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I don't eat most of what my family eats, so I just cook for myself something different.
@@qweeesh oh, *huge red flag!* Unless you're like 12 years old, there's zero reason why you shouldn't be able to go into the kitchen and prepare your own food 🚩🚩
I could literally feel her holding back those tears. Pregnancy is such a vulnerable time. I cannot believe he would pick a fight with her at all when she is CARRYING HIS CHILD! especially not over something so stupid. What sucks is some men only show their worst sides after they have tied you down. Its so much harder for her to run now. Heartbreaking
“You gave birth two days ago and have been sitting own all the time” yeah because her body got ripped open and is still oozing from the gaping wounds.
That last one was really scary, the officer seems to have tried to help her when he saw that freak out. Oh man I wish she had gone with how bad she was crying that was the cry of a heartbroken and fearful person.
Christ that couple. How do you get so far into a relationship that you've had a baby together, without already having seen what a colossal pr**k that guy is?
her body did something NATURAL aka NO PAIN, NO INJURY in a HEALTHY outcome
She had complications then
Either way she SHOULD rest and pay attention to the literal newborn who needs a LOT MORE attention than that scum who calls himself "husband" and his parasyte relatives
If he went through anything similar he'd be sitting around for much, much longer.
And complaining too.
@@Gerishnakov Some get tricked. My ex did that to me. Was nice, til he felt I was sufficiently stuck and unable to leave him. Lied about being unable to have kids. And once I was pregnant and isolated. He started to cheat on me. Situations happen. I was naive then and he took full advantage.
@@mazarineyukihyo1824 I am sorry that happened, I hope you have recovered from this situation ! Wish you the best
10:18 yeah so as a teenager, i will say a couple of things relating to that story.
1 - having divorced parents can already impact your mental health, especially when you constantly see families that are all in one home and happy together. (even if you’re like me and have experienced separate homes most of your life.)
2 - If we tell you we don’t think we’re going to do well in an honors class, NO MATTER HOW GOOD WE ARE AT THE SUBJECT, do not force us. chances are that we will be right, because we know ourselves a hell of a lot better than you do.
3 - We’re not on our electronics as much as you think we are. It can take me personally HOURS to do homework because i have adhd and struggle to focus. a lot of teens struggle with the same issues (not necessarily adhd-related).
4 - If we open up about problems at school, you should NOT call them excuses. social life can affect mental health severely and thus spill over into academic life.
5 - do not dismiss our mental health. when that happens, we feel unimportant and unheard. and then we will internalize everything just because you dismissed us. and bam, it gets even worse because now we’re scared to say something.
6 - probably the most important. DO NOT SAY THAT YOU WANT THE BEST FOR US if you NEVER LISTEN. if you really want the best for us, you will listen to what we have to say. ask how we feel. consider our feelings.
just a message to parents out there so stuff like the video i timestamped doesn’t happen.
God, this is so relatable. Honestly, I just wish I had family members that listened for once before blaming my phone or thunk I'm just sitting there doing nothing.
@@ItsJustSeb i know, right? seriously.
Not doing as well at honors and AP classes isn't always the kid's fault either. I got a C in calculus because the teacher didn't explain it very well. And wow, being average at advanced maths, how terrible. It sounds to me like she had depression. I had depression in high school and I struggled. I had school, I was in all the singing groups in school, my parents made me do another choral group outside of school, singing lessons, and a part time job, and in the fall I liked to be in the musical. I was exhausted and would not be able to handle that kind of work load as an adult. Kid's are routinely overloaded and held to higher standards than adults, and then treated like they are overreacting or lazy. If I had school (full time job), homework (part time job), and an actual part time job on top of that, I'd be tired and grumpy every day and not doing so well at work. Then they wonder why kids burn out in college as if they haven't been put through the wringer until then. I guess it would be different with parents who are actually supportive but I have no idea what that's like. My anxiety was through the roof living with my parents. And even when I lived on campus, I had to go home once a month, and my mom demanded that I call her every few weeks. Then they wonder why you go low contact as an adult, even though they're not likable as people and can't hold a normal conversation without complaining about what you're not doing well enough. So glad those days are long behind me.
I took an AP History class in high school and it was honestly one of my favorite classes and I did really well IN CLASS but I still barely passed. It was set up as a lecture/discussion based class and we had a small test either every Friday or every other Friday (it’s been a while so that part is a bit foggy). I understood the material and did well on the tests but that didn’t change the fact that 80-90% of our grade came from independent note taking which I’m apparently incapable of. I did all of the reading and was able to participate in discussions; even my teacher said he hated giving me such low grades because he knew I understood everything. Eventually, I started getting notes from a friend because this friend was very aware that I don’t have a note taking type of brain. So I passed but I wasn’t able to take AP Government the following year because the class style just didn’t work for me as the student.
That was my own choice, I really can’t imagine how poorly I may have done had somebody pressured me into taking the course.
@kairosclerii_ THANK YOU for mentioning how some kids aren’t necessarily just playing games as much as people think, but are actually doing their homework, but it just takes a long time. I also have adhd and homework took me forever! Even when my mom was helping me with it. (not doing it for me like some of my teachers claimed) Honestly, everything in your comment made me feel so seen and validated. Thank you for that, I really appreciate it. I hope you’re doing better now. 😊
that first one with dude's beard is genuinely just so sad. he's so calm trying to explain it to her and she just laughs at him
The “You’re always doing stuff like this to me” broke my heart. Genuinely. I could never imagine hurting someone I love like this.
@@Cheetahgirl_Studios "What if I took that and cut your hair off?" "You'd better not" the hypocrisy of it is insane. She has the audacity to say that and then be like "it'll grow back" so would your hair!!! and you'd still be PISSED! I cannot imagine having this little empathy for another human being, let alone one I'm close to and love, like genuinely what the fuck
2:00 The absolute lack of respect this woman shows her partner is revolting. I hope he's moved on from that sociopath.
His reaction showed he deserves so much better
The disrespect was so much, red flag guy turned into a taquito
About these fellers expecting their wives to cook while pregnant and sick or just after giving birth: DO THEY NOT LOVE THEIR WIVES AT ALL?!?! My mom was pregnant during quarantine and instead of having weird cravings, she would be too sick to eat most of the time and would have to try to think of something she might feel like eating, and then eat that for a week until she was sick of it. Rough times, especially with the pandemic going on. BUT MY DAD! He went out of his way to get her something she could eat. HE’D COOK IT HIMSELF IF HE HAD TO! We got those meal kits delivered and he, my sister, and I would do our best to cook them. Though I would have preferred if everyone had stayed out of the kitchen and let me do it (because of this I developed a hatred of cooking that I’m trying to get over), he still wanted to help!! He always wants to help! He goes out of his way just to bring her a coffee that she didn’t ask for but absolutely needs! He’ll come home from the store and my mom might mention something he forgot or something that just wasn’t on the list AND HE WILL ABSOLUTELY BE WILLING TO GO RIGHT BACK TO THE STORE!!! He’ll do ANYTHING FOR HER! WHAT THE HECK IS WRONG WITH THESE GUYS?!?! I don’t always get along with my dad, but it’s videos like these that make me remember what a green flag he is. 💚💚💚
Hyperemesis gravidarum is not a trivial matter and can be fatal.
Glad your dad was being supportive of your mum 💚
My husband is like your dad. These videos always make me appreciate him. He also cleans better than I do! And you’re so right. There’s worse guys than him, like the ones who don’t respect doctor’s orders to not resume… ahem… bedroom activities… until their wife heals up. Horrifying stuff. Good spouses take care of each other. My husband would get takeout or cook when I’d had a baby.
I get you, parents not always easy to live with but I have to say I like your Dad
To answer the question: no, they don’t love their wives. Most are incapable of the “love” you’re speaking of. They are just feeling mad that the wife appliance they bought isn’t performing the way they want it to, and they can’t deal with it.
No, they don't.
“We love you red flag guy” we all say in unison
We love you red flag guy
We love you red flag guy
We love you red flag guy!
We love you red flag guy!
We love you red flag guy
I appreciate that he calls out actual shitty things people do and not just go with trends.
The puzzle one will never cease to disappoint me. My brothers treated me like that and while it's expected to be bullied by your siblings, being treated like that by your spouse is insane to me. Your significant other is supposed to be your safe space, not a continuation of the childhood trauma
I think it's more acceptable from your siblings because you're CHILDREN, less than because they're your siblings. If your adult siblings treat you this way, that's past time for either a serious conversation about their disrespectful behavior, or going no-contact.
But yes, it's always absolutely horrible behavior from a partner. IDK why some people think disrespect is ever funny, but especially in intimate relationships (like the beard shaver, too).
Okay, Mr. "Pick Her Up And Throw Her Into The Wall" needs to be locked up pre-emptively. I don't care in what context he said that stuff, it objectively should never have entered his brain in the first place, let alone left his mouth. It was actually horrifying to listen to him.
dudes compensating
@@corysanderson6177 For real! He’s a small man (figuratively) and was brazen enough to say that in front of a woman. The lack of self awareness only heightens the chances of him actually using physical force against a woman.
He’s disgusting.
the way they get so bent over a hypothetical bear. If they understood the comparison, they'd choose the bear too.
i have been in both situations,and would never choose the bear!
@@Molly-uy1iw I feel like people have this idealized idea of bears that they're this sweet and docile animal or something
@@KingOfDarknessAndEvilthat’s literally NOT it at all , the reason is because a Bear is predictable and set in its way 🤦🏽♀️ while with men AND women you’ll never know what you’ll get , you don’t know their intentions while if you’re with a bear you know ultimately you just might get mauled.
@@KingOfDarknessAndEvilnot really, its just that bears are animals, and like most animals they won't attack out of nowhere with no reason at all unprovoked, giving peoole atleast some wiggle room to navigate safely. Which is not possible if you're unlucky enough to cross paths with a certain type of guy.
There is also the factor of what the risks are. In case of a bear you might die because it tried to eat you or because it defended its territory. If it was a certain type of human being you know for sure there will be some very bad stuff done first, just for the sake of doing it.
And if you were to live, in a bears case you would get patched up and generally get a lot of sympathy from being attacked by a wild animal, the bear in question might even be hunted and shot which isn't unusual. But in the case of a human being there's a lot of shame/victim blaming, and getting the help you want/need after an encounter is sometimes even impossible.
Overall picking a bear seems like the logical choice
Exactly!@@STAYATINYARMYSIN
Domain expansion: Red flag of divorce! 🚩💔
LMAOO
LMAOOO OMGGG 😭
That would be an actually helpful one
That's not a bad idea.
Thank you for the comedic relief between all the videos. Lots of them just made me sad and feel bad for the people in those situations/ relationships
The girl in that last video was crying so hard. You could tell she was scared and freaked out. The cop was totally trying to deescalate the situation but that guy seemed unhinged. 😬
Yes, he probably said or did things to her before the car got pulled over. I hope she gets/got out of that relationship.
The problem with the "You walk past a hundred thousand guys on the street" is that a statistically significant population of those men might only be leaving you alone because the street has witnesses. There are no witnesses in the forest.
That is a....chilling analogy
As a teen i went camping a lot.
I've meet men in the woods.
I've meet _a_ bear in the woods.
Yes the bear was teriffying but it looked at me and went the other way.
There have been plenty of other bears that have seen me before I saw them and just scuffeld off.
I'm not the primary pray for bear, not even at 4'11.
The _men_ I meet?
Actual danger.
Two, unlike the bear, started stalking me (I found a pine to hide under), others just made remarks to let me know I wasn't safe.
I started doing like the bear and just fekking of into the woods if I heard, saw or smelt humans.
There are people who consider me objectively less intelligent for being Puerto Rican. There are people who consider me an abomination that should be unalived for being bi. The last thing I need is for more unalterable attributes of my existence to be considered inherently evil. I just wanna exist without people hating me for just existing. I'm tired boss.
Hell sometimes they use the crowds to hide, I've had men follow me across dance floors/bars even after I gave them a very clear "no".
There are people who consider me objectively less intelligent for being Puerto Rican. There are people who consider me an abomination that should be unalived for being bi. The last thing I need is for more unalterable attributes of my existence to be considered inherently evil. I just wanna exist without people hating me for just existing. I'm tired boss.
I grew up in the Canadian Rockies - the bears that attacked me: 0
- the amount of S.A’s (and even an attempted kidnapping off the street by strangers) I’ve experienced: too many to count.
That is truly horrible. I’m so sorry.
F*cking heartbreaking that anyone can say they can’t count how many times they’ve been assaulted. You never should have had to experience any of that.
I’m lucky to have only experienced one attempted assault when I was 12 and a two year relationship with a guy who didn’t understand the word no.
I too would choose the bear every single time.
Hello neighbour! I also grew up and currently reside in the Canadian Rockies. I went out for a smoke and was watching a bear in the tree 20 feet from my back door last night.
I can't count on my fingers the number of times I've been SA'd since childhood. Not all from the same guy either.
I will 100% always go for the bears. They have no hidden agendas.
@@Tsumeinu93Well, except for stealing your pic-a-nic basket!
@@Gerishnakov Not my basket!!
The very last one, man
The girl was terrified. Listen to her. Ain't nobody cries like that out of sadness, only out of fear
I can no longer watch the color guard section of my marching band without thinking of this guy
I love that! This man is a positive influence to all 🫡💚
I’m in guard and whenever I do my work I can’t help but think about him (I have a red practice flag)
12:44 Let me see if I understand, your daughter didn't want to take a class, you forced her to take that class, your daughter didn't show interest in the class she didn't want to see from the beginning, you got angry and took everything away from her, she was being bullied and had a moment of weakness where she literally had some pretty worrying behavior like just sleeping and you kept getting angry because "No, her grades in the class she didn't want to see aren't the way I WANT them" But you're asking if you're the AH? Wow, you'd have to be blind not to know that you are.
youre not you, youre me! dad needs a kick in the nuts and to stfu
Also threw her out of the house for getting a C. Literally imagine what it feels like to have your own dad not want you to have a home because of that.
It honestly sounds a lot like my childhood friend's abusive parents. She was suicidal and sleeping all day and they kept trying to punish her for not going to school or doing her homework. Not a drop of awareness or shred of care for how she was feeling. It was only about the results.
He's doing what a *LOT* of redditers do, seek validation on his shitty behavior as opposed to seeking outside opinions.
more like a brainless, worthless ps*cho you have a God complex
1:43 "If I took that and cut your hair, it would be abuse or something, but you do it to me, and it's fine." No sir. This is abuse, and don't you let her tell you otherwise. Poor guy, that shit takes forever to grow. Not to mention the absolute AUDACITY of her to say, "you better not." 🤬
yeah. he knows and its why he said it, i hope hes outta there
“He can’t even read the room” IS KILLER, fantastic roast - good soup
@@alyUWUTT that made me so happy! 😂
bruh what is wrong with these people 💀 does that little voice in the back of their head not exist??
I think the voice telling them to do it for the Tiktok is shouting louder.
Some people actually don’t got that voice.
Way to often people don't have that. It's honestly amazing they make it to adulthood.
A lot of ppl (more than you would think) do not have healthy internal guidelines because they grew up in abusive situations.
ETA: and it's not their fault. 0%
For me it was years of unaddressed issues my parents had passed down to me plus my particular personality and anxiety. Led to a very scared, jealous and selfish love coupled with no ability to advocate for myself properly. I felt like a cornered animal and in those years there was almost never a voice in my head - it was constant fight or flight mode… lots of flight leading up to explosive moments of fight when there seemed no other way out.
My wife asking for a divorce didn’t help me see the error of my ways, it was when she told me how afraid she was for our kids when I finally realized the horrors I was actually committing.
Two years later I am putting up the same kinds of boundaries for my dad and the shitty ways he acted towards me painfully reminded me of how I used to act. Controlling and manipulative tactics are often used when the person is afraid they won’t get what they want and they can’t accept that reality.
The main thing I try to tell others is there are very valid reasons why I or anyone else might treat people this way. It makes sense! But it absolutely does not make it okay and firm boundaries are important for both individuals.
On the bright side, these videos mean the victims now have documented evidence to provide at the divorce/custody hearing.
Re the bear: you see a bear and while you immediately know it’s dangerous, you also know that chances of being attacked are statistically very small. You see a man and have absolutely no way to know if he’s harmless or if he’s dangerous, and your chances of being attacked are statistically far, far higher. That is a major factor in why we’d rather face a bear.
Also if you get attacked by a bear, people will believe you.
I will never think a bear is my friend only to be surprised with the information that the bear was only spending time with me to try and convince me to have s'x with him (and now he's pissed I made it clear that's not happening)
Also you can protect yourself from bears in easy ways. One of the main defenses against bears are *bells.* Them knowing you're around is enough for them to avoid you. Compare that with how you protect yourself from a human.
Right? Plus I know what to do if a bear attacks me! Well, unless it’s a polar bear, then I’m fucked but at least it’ll be over quickly and I KNOW it won’t be personal! With a man, you can never know what to do because men aren’t always predictable in their behaviors!!! And I KNOW they can do horrific shit to me! And worse, I KNOW that they’ll be people out there that will blame ME for it!!!!! Any man that feels personally offended that women picked bears is the type of guy that you should keep a close eye on! Hell, my dad that has been camping in areas CRAWLING with bears still picked the fucking bear!!! If even other MEN pick the bear, then we have serious issues with men’s violence in this society that NEEDS to be addressed!!!
People are misunderstanding this. They think we say that all men are dangerous and don't get the fact that the point is that we cannot know who of them is.
Husband:
Wife: moving onnnn 😅
Husband: No I wanna talk about it
Bro, she was trying to _save you._
me when my dad is racist lmao
One of those people who get huffy when they don't get everything they feel they are entitled to.
I'm the only one who cleans the bathroom, but my boyfriend ALWAYS notices and he thanks me for doing it every single time. I feel so lucky with my relationship after watching your videos
13:23 instead of, you know asking his daughter why she doesn’t think she can do the honor class or if she wants to do the honor class just unilaterally force things onto her that’ll DEFINITELY work 🚩
Oh, you mean parenting? Agreed. I have three kids and I will NEVER understand discarding your own child. And we aren’t talking about parents of a sociopath, or a parent whose ex has poisoned the child’s mind against them, or a parent whose kid grew up and embraced some bias that made them turn away from their parent… no, this guy makes it sound like somehow his good, good girl was always hard to get along with and is now a delinquent for not being able to handle crushing pressure, bullying, a break-up and parental rejection. He’s basically blaming her for their bad relationship.
This is how you lose your kids. They go no contact.
It's amazing that he's mad at her for not getting good grades in an honors class that she already told him she wouldn't be able to keep up with. He literally forced her into a position where her grades would be worse as a consequence of her being put in a harder class and somehow she's the one who's getting punished for it. Even if she wasn't dealing with bullying, a breakup and suddenly being pushed into the custody of a parent she already didn't get along with, suddenly being put in a far more advanced class than the one you were already excelling in is obviously going to cause grades to suffer a little bit, I don't understand his logic.
I took honors and ap classes. I got a C in calculus. My parents were pissed. But they didn't ask why and just assumed I was lazy. Actually the teacher was new and not very good at explaining the math so I didn't really understand it. But being average at calculus doesn't even sound like a bad thing. Also, I was offered an honors program at my college. My parents really wanted me to join and I definitely did not want to because I knew I couldn't keep up with it for four years. I talked to someone in the program. She said not to join because they kept changing the requirements and the workload was too high. My parents were mad that I didn't join, but it wouldn't have been worth it. After I graduated, I went to teach English in Asia. All of that extra effort would have been worthless. If you need excellent grades to get into a certain college, then by all means, get the best grades possible and take weighted courses. Otherwise, just get decent grades so you can graduate, no pressure necessary.
5:34 hi. I take care of one those “old ladies in a wheelchair” you speak of (my triplegic mother). The REASON wheelchair bound people need to go first and have those big parking spots (with the diagonal lines people LOVE to park on instead of giving the wheelchair bound person the LOADING ZONE they need to get in and out of their vehicle for) is not only for their safety, but for YOUR safety as well. And not only is it for safety, it’s to save EVERYONE time. It is FAR easier and faster for EVERYONE to have someone who needs A LOT OF SPACE to do something as simple as take a seat on a plane to go first so they have the adequate room and distance away from other people to not only fit in that space, but so their equipment doesn’t injure that baby of yours (or anyone in the area of their seat). Same goes for parking in a parking lot. Not only do they need the space to get in and out, you don’t want a wheelchair ramp plowing through your driver door, now do ya?
Anyone who complains about the MINIMAL courtesies handicapped people get in this world that is NOT built for them can use those 2 healthy legs of yours and TAKE A HIKE!
I am 39 and use a cane when I have bad pain days. Ableists PISS ME RIGHT THE FCK OFF! Carry some zip ties & attach carts to ppl's vehicles that park where they aren't supposed to. It's entertaining AND they get a severe inconvenience just like they so graciously did for the handicapped ppl that COULD have parked there! 😂😂😂😂
13:01 my mom is just like this. She puts too much pressure on me to get amazing grades while I’m taking 3 honors classes and 2 AP classes and afterschool activities and complains when I get home a sleep. She yells at me when I get below an A on a test. It’s horrible
I’m so sorry you have to live with that. You don’t deserve it. Parents sometimes don’t seem to realize how hard it is to push their kids away, and still they manage to do it. Kids want to love their parents. You have to be actively awful to damage that.
My daughter has friends with parents who seem to love their achievements more than they love their children, and it pisses me off to hear it. They’re wonderful kids, as I’m sure you are. The only bright spot is that sometimes they get scholarships and once they get a degree and a job, they can get out, get therapy, go no contact and decide for themselves what they want to achieve.
It’s not a super happy thing to look forward to, but if a parent won’t treat you right, you kinda have to give yourself the love and care and acceptance they aren’t giving you. And hopefully you find friends who do love you for who you are.
My dad is just like this. If I'm not succeeding, and furthermore succeeding *exactly* like he succeeded, I'm lazy and playing the victim. GFDI what is it with parents treating their offspring like extensions of themselves.
You’re not alone. My Dad was like that too. You still have value even when you don’t meet their expectations. You’re a really strong person and I can’t wait until you can leave your situation. 💛
I'm so sorry, Hon. If you were my kiddo I'd be very proud of you. Heck, you're not my kid, but I'm proud. I had a similar situation with a controlling parent, and finally being on my own when going to college was a huge relief. It was freeing, scary, and exciting all at once, but worth it. Anyway, your mom might not see it, but you're doing great! I hope you're proud of yourself.
@@nikkifahy7762 thank you so much. That means a lot
6:04 “What do you think, they’re just going to put Henrietta on their hip and skip the B15”
I’M DEAD HELP 😭💀🙏
People who are getting upset that women would choose the bear keep forgetting a very important sentence from an interview: worst case scenario, the bear will just k1ll you.
We are well-aware of the dangers in each case, and we are aware of the numerous steps *before* death that can come from our species.
Some men can't seem to fathom that there are worse things than death.
@@Kadi_Fedoruk and they wonder why we choose the bear.
There's also predictability. You can't always know what will set someone off, but a bear is pretty straightforward.
Im a dude(born afab of course) I would rather be mauled to death and/or watch the bear eat my limbs while I'm still alive then experience anything I have experienced even with TRUSTED men and women. I choose the bear because I would rather suffer a painful death for a little while, then an eternity of suffering that could end in death
Edit, adding a FAQ, because I keep getting replies.
1. Very important to mention this first. The original commenter I replied to literally used the Trump Jr Skittles analogy. It's hard to differentiate between the people here and racists/homophobes when both of you use the same terrible analogy. In a similar vein to the original, I'll counter by saying that men aren't candy, men are people.
2. There is this weird double standard where people here agree wholeheartedly that judging someone based on some genetic dice rolls is terrible, but with other genetic dice rolls it's considered fine? Doesn't quite sit right with me to judge anyone based on stuff they can't do anything about. I don't view existence as a hostile action, and people from all sides have a problem with that.
3. This might just be me, but I feel like some of this is kinda TERFy? Like, some of these replies give me that bad taste that TERF comments leave, the "IT was born with an XY chromosome, in the name of the wall mold I deem IT untrustworthy" kinda bad taste. I got a feeling some of y'all are having some interesting feelings towards Imane Khelif's existence.
4. Just to clarify my general political stance, I am left-wing in general. I'm voting blue team leader HarrisWalz 2024, because P2025 is all of our nightmares combined into one dangerous doc and HarrisWalz is directly opposed to it and then some. I've spelled it out plenty, but I'll just go ahead and say that I classify myself as egalitarian, which gets me in trouble with both sides. I don't see the benefit of making someone feel bad about stuff they can't change, and to the annoyance of both sides that goes for any such attribute, because a person can't do anything about any such attribute (i.e. it's unreasonable to expect someone to stop being hispanic to escape racism).
5. I'm very against negatively comparing human beings to inhuman creatures, I still remember a time about 2 years ago when I was called "muttspanic" and many other racial epithets in an argument on this platform and at this rate it's gonna be a long time before I forget it. It's gross and we should stop doing it for any and all reasons. If your argument involves negatively comparing a group of human beings to an inhuman creature on the basis of their (gender/orientation/race/sex), then I'm not gonna feel like agreeing with you because by doing that you have crossed a line morally and I'm not obligated to agree with someone who uses such arguments. If no negative comparisons were made between human beings and inhuman creatures, I wouldn't have even left my first reply.
Hope that clears some things up for people replying to me in the future. FAQ over, returning to the original comment:
I'd choose the man, 10 out of 10 times. For the same reason that I'd choose the gorilla in the "would you rather be stuck in a mall with a gorilla or 7 big snakes" thing, random primates are more negotiable than random murder beasts. Also, we both know that if you had to escape a burning building and your options were an elevator with a bear and an elevator with a random guy, you'd choose the random guy because you're not dumb.
For the girl who got all her stuff taken away for bad grades: Yeah, my parents did that too. I consistently got failing or barely passing grades throughout all of grade school. It turns out I was a special needs student with a couple of federally-recognized disabilities. Just one of many reasons I absolutely despise my mother and always will.
5:50 He’s envious over disabled boarding? Does he get upset when a Make a Wish kid gets to cut the line at a theme park? 😵💫 I’m glad the kid is too young to pick up on what his dad’s saying.
That clip made no sense. What was the problem, the stroller going through security?
Dad is probably completely oblivious to what's coming out of his mouth. I wonder if he'll ever get it? I'd like to see him in 40 years and see if he ever got over his sense of entitlement
@@snowmiaow They missed their flight because they didn’t budget enough time to get through traffic/security. The dad is suggesting that if they were disabled, they would have been able to skip the longer security line and get to their plane on time.
Airports suggest you arrive up to two hours before your flight is supposed to leave, so it may not have made a difference anyway.
@@WaitingxInxSilence Yes thank you. That is correct. Have you seen that happening? Somehow I only ever seen people in wheelchairs getting off the plane. I haven't seen anybody in an actual wheelchair, just the airport ones.
I flinched at the guy throwing shit at his wife for a "prank". The thud those things made on impact. 😦
HOLY SHIT, THE DUDE AT 9:10 *IS THE SAME ONE WHO WOULDN’T EAT HIS WIFE’S HOMELAND FOOD!!* she made him his own dinner one time and he was like “this is great, why don’t you do this all the time?”
i really fuckin hope she takes the kids and LEAVES, ‘cause there ain’t a damn thing that guy is bringing to the relationship!!
I was wondering if anyone else noticed! He's such a whiny dirt bag.
Yeah I noticed that too. If they are not just making skits to rage farm she needs to leave. Dude is showing a pattern.
Actually, he said her homeland food upsets his stomach. I don’t make food I know upsets my man’s stomach. He’s lactose intolerant; I don’t make ravioli and cheesecake.
yea it is but i’m like pretty sure the whole acc is satire though 😭
@@saragerardo6089 Sure, but she shouldn't have to be cut off from her cultural foods either. If she wants it for dinner once in a while, she should be allowed to have it. Surely he can pick up a pan and cook a grilled cheese or something occasionally.
To the guy arguing that women go through/ interact with many men in their lifetime -
That's exactly why I would choose the bear.
That is indeed why so many would… because of the men they’ve met.
And yet two women married the Night Stalker and a juror on his case that put him in jail went to date him.
@@Nylon_riot Bro thats like saying its ok to poison someone since others might drink it on purpose. like theres a reason why they did that, its called pure unfiltered delusion. ive heard better arguments come from the flat earth commitee, up ur game ty.
@@Nylon_riot yes there are lunatics that don't choose the bear ... Doesn't prove anything.
@@lizcollinson2692keep pushing all men away and depicting all of us as monsters lol but when a guy generalizes women it's not ok lol
“The US military would pay 800million for this level of defense” got me good! 😂
While he did get too defensive, she also criticised him for a video. She didn't appear to have a real reason, just wanting to make content out of it? Also seems like a red flag for me...
@@dodobarthel2249100%
The puzzle one really hit a nerve with me
Me too. I love puzzles. That was such a cute puzzle and she was so happy she finished it and he just destroyed it without a second thought. He doesn’t love her. He doesn’t want her to be happy. That makes me so sad for her. 😢
It's not alright to shave your husband's beard without his consent, even if you hate it. You can express your preferences but can't control your partner's appearance. Simple as that.
Agreed. Bodily respect goes both ways.
That poor beard didn't get to realise his full potential 😢
Any child kicked out of their home at 16 is the victim.
"he murdered someone. He's the victim"
@@GiordanDiodato i like how i can immediately tell you're on the spectrum because you feel the need to go to the most extreme scenario that could potentially disprove a non-all encompassing statement.
its okay im autistic too
@GiordanDiodato they could be, what's the context? Home invader & unalived them in self defense? Have an abusive family member & the minor finally snaps after tolerating it for so long & everyone they've tried to get help from has brushed it off.
I can come up with more. But you don't want the conversation, you just wanted to be a smart a&&.
@@GiordanDiodatoif he murdered someone he'd be in jail, not homeless
Illegal until 18 unless she is emancipated.
The cup prank is actually a pretty funny and harmless prank. The cups are easy enough to knock over when you want to leave the gaming chair. I don’t understand why he looks so mad at a prank that actually is a good prank.
I'm not a fan of pranks. But Even I didn't see the harm in stacking empty cups. She obviously didn't distract him while doing it, or he would've knocked them over sooner. The only reason I can think he'd be that mad is he was doing something he didn't want her to see/hear, while "gaming."
I thought the same. Personally, I qould be pretty annoyed if someone recodred pranking me to put it on the internet. I don't want that kind of exposure and I would be very firm in communicating that, so having that line in the sand violated would make me pretty upset.
I mean has she done this before? Have they discussed pranks? There's any number of reasons why a seemingly harmless prank could be annoying to someone.
I mean I’m a gamer at times, and if my bf did that to me I’d just laugh, then apologize for not paying attention, cause obviously if he was able to make a full on wall of cups I probably been at it for too long. 😂 it’s a cute joke and I usually HATE pranks
@@eadanime1741 Right it a harmless joke that doesn’t hurt anyone. If it was something that you couldn’t easily move then I could understand being mad
The internet needs so much more of you Dustin, your videos are unique, funny and so brutally honest.
The cinematic editing deserves recognition. Made me laugh so hard
When the world needs him most- he appears and always gives justice
I feel soooo so bad for the roast wife... imagine giving birth 2 days prior and getting talked to like that. Instant divorce papers. Bye. Cook your own fucking roast.
18:12 dude that’s not the “i’m hearing too much complaining” look, that’s the “i can’t fight anymore/it’s useless to fight and i really don’t want to cry because i’m going to be yelled at even more” look. sincerely, someone who grew up in an emotionally abusive household and is *very* used to doing that
The grass-cutting one upsets me. My dad's gotten upset with my mom like this when she'll purposefully poke fun at the work he does when she knows he's tired. The woman in the video did this for his reaction and criticized him when, according to him, she's never bothered to do it herself. I'd say they're both red flags.
I do 99% of the yard work. When my wife criticizes something about it, I tell her she is welcome to do it herself then. That typically ends the discussion
yes antagonizing someone for views, abusive narcissist
@@manuelschneider1105 could also try offering to have it be something you do together?
@@Katriella. not a lot of space on the lawn mower. However, if you suggest Gardening in general, like one person mows and the other weedwacks, I offered that. No takers
I don’t know a lot of men that won’t react like this except Jesus.
It is easy to judge other people’s reactions and tell them how to act. We are all perfect in our head.
That guy who said that women should feel like the man could kill them… that’s just… I don’t have words.
Thats why we choose the bear
@@rachelhaynes9669 yes!
@@rachelhaynes9669 The bear doesn't think "I could kill this woman if I wanted to." it only attacks if it feels threatened or is starving. The first thing is way scarier.
And it clearly shows that this man does not want a partner. He wants somebody to fear him, and I find it pretty sickening that his woman is supposed to admire his "strength" and be grateful that he does not uses it against her.
What a pathetic little man he must be inside!
But as he has shown, makes him much more dangerous on the outside. Yikes!
Honestly, hearing other peoples, stories with unhinged parents/unhinged parents outing themselves always warms me up and makes me feel more understood about my own family. Also just having it read by a grown up who runs around public parks with flags makes it x10 more funny! My social anxiety would never!!!
I salute you Red flag guy! Flag them devils in disguise!
You, too? I swear I love my husband so much more after watching these… and I also check my behavior to make sure I’m treating him right! And he can grow as much hair on his face as he wants. It’s his face, dang it.
@@BeeWhistler Lowkey why is watching the worst of humanity the best way to become part of the better part of humanity!
Like not us looking at these examples of unstable individuals and being like "They suck, we're not gonna act like them!"
Likewise. I treat my family and my partner with compassion and respect, and they treat me the same. I'm very thankful for the people around me. My partner is an amazing man and I am still stupidly infatuated with him almost 5 years in 😊
@@ZirayaAlex Awww, still stupidly infatuated! I love that for you!
3:43 Seeing someone getting this mad about some empty plastic cups on the floor is the most alarming thing I've seen all day
but again, I'm barely 4 minutes into this video right here, so we'll see
That was scary. What was he mad about?
Also, the bear thing: a bear will pretty much always have am actual reason to attack me. Ie: i was threatening its territory somehow, or messing around too close to its cubs
A bear wont attack me because my skirt was short, or because i had a couple drinks. A bear wont pin me down and tell me to just relax. A bear wont punch me because i was talking to another bear at the grocery store or something.
If im alone in the woods with a bear, i know ill morre than likely walk away unscathed. If im alone in the woods with a man, i will be terrified the entire time until im able to get back somewhere where there's people because im more than likely going to be attacked for being out there alone.
Men that dont understand why we would choose the bear probably are exactly the type of men we'd choose the bear over..
let's start with the fact that bear has an actual reason to be in the woods in the first place...
Yeah, I think the men who get offended by this are kinda telling on themselves. Like the only reason you can think women mean you is if you are the type of man they're worried about.
There are people who consider me objectively less intelligent for being Puerto Rican. There are people who consider me an abomination that should be unalived for being bi. The last thing I need is for more unalterable attributes of my existence to be considered inherently evil. I just wanna exist without people hating me for just existing. I'm tired boss.
I have never been around a bear, but I have dealt with other creatures. For example, a potentially venomous snake in the classroom where I was teaching. Or the hand sized lightening fast wall climbing spider in my apartment. Or cockroaches. I'd rather deal with those again than some random dude when I don't know his intentions.
@@jessn.3851 What fresh hell do you live in with that big, and fast, of a spider and a snake just chilling in the classroom?
Dustin and speech prof give me hope for the future post red pill craze
Add Cyzor to the list. Also, don’t remember his name, but an Australian guy who used to be a red piller has also been popping up.
@@animeotaku307Cyzor? Ill have to look that up 😊
If you think of the Aussie's handle or anything, drop a reply maybe? I'm always interested in the perspective of those who've changed direction with growth, or are in the process of😊😊😊
@@KOKO-uu7ydSame, looking up Cyzor. I also appreciate that these guys don’t just go after the toxic men. I know there are guys dealing with horrible women and too embarrassed to let anyone know it.
@@animeotaku307 I ❤ Cyzor, and loved the Cyzor/S Prof besties "diss" track 😁
The Click is also pretty wholesome.
with the man vs. bear debate, one simple sentence that i saw going around really cut through to the core of the issue. “worst case scenario: the bear would just kill me, i can’t say the same for the man.”
Bear ain't gonna keep you in his basement for years...
“People will believe you if you get attacked by a bear”
This one really stuck with me, I just saw it in a comment once: "When a body is found in the woods, no one's first thought is a bear attack"
Why do you have a problem with MGTOW then?
@@JohnDoe-sp4mk 1. No one said anything about MGTOW.
2. MGTOW very rarely mind their business and leave women alone, like they claim they want. They just project their resentment of women outwards, which has led to violence towards us in the past.
The girl in the last part deserves better. The way the guy yelled at the cop for being polite. I fear for the woman's safety if that guy is abusive. I mean if she was crying and the incel yells at the cop, it shows she's in an abusive relationship. And the cop offering her to get away and she refused? I hope nothing bad happens to her.
0:18 XD this cracked me up
We need that as a thumbnail or an emoji 💯😂
Yes that is amazing. Does he have merch of that? He definitely should
"this is yellow tape conduct" omg for real! my jaw dropped when he said that like, bro what!??
Im pretty sure the bathroom cleaning guy is the same one where his wife has to cook him a seperate meal because hates Nigerian food
YEAH IT TOTALLY IS. I recognized his voice and his dumb punchable face.
yeah i really really hope she takes her kids and leaves him bc if the comments haven't changed this man's mind idk what will
I think he might be the same guy that insults his wife’s cooking, so she got him McDonalds, told him she made it and he told her “you should leave it to McDonalds”
yep. he is an absolute trash human. Wish this were higher in the comments.
ignorance of taste buds is one thing. He clearly has none. Ignorance of the eyes and nose? Makes you wonder as a wife what he might... I guess hear? in you...
I truly hope it's staged content. If it is, he deserves an Oscar.
that’s horrible :/
I get not liking certain foods but he should just make his own separate foods
The guy talking about the bear thing and saying women will probably never walk past a bear is hilarious to me, a woman who literally opened her tent while camping and saw a bear standing 4 feet from her and screamed so loud she work everyone up in a 14 mile radius. And that wasn't even the first time I'd seen one out camping!
And as much as the event unnerved me, I highly doubt that I could scare a man up a tree just by screaming like I did to the bear that night. 😂
16:05 "literally anyone wearing a backpack gives me the ick." That sounds like a you problem, lady.. Other people's clothing, general appearance or behaviour isn't yours to criticize or dictate (exceptions being wildly inappropriate cases, like someone with their genitals out and about in the middle of the city).
And a backpack.. what's wrong with a backpack? It's the most normal thing to use when you have to carry stuff around (though I personally prefer shoulder bags). Totes are annoying when you walk around longer, since you have to readjust them so much.
For real. She thinks bc SHE doesn't like backpacks that other people aren't allowed to wear them? The entitlement is astounding
or the old classic "i dont give a fuck what you think"
Bro, i actually know a guy from my high school who thinks that even liking another guys post on facebook; even if you didn't realise it was a mans meant that you were cheating.
Even if you don't know or talk to the guy, he considers it cheating and thats crazy. Man has hella insecurity
One of my exes used to monitor my instagram cause he was insecure about other guys. I had a hard boundary about sharing passwords(he definitely asked though), but he could still see my likes, comments, and follows and would "research" every account I interacted with. It was annoying, especially when he'd bug me about _how do you know so-and-so, who's that guy in this picture you liked,_ etc but I've been cheated on before too so I knew it could make you act a little crazy for a while. I figured if I just answered his questions he'd calm down and realize I was trustworthy. Silly me! One time a complete stranger followed me, some guy whose page was full of pictures of his dog, family, and GIRLFRIEND. This dude couldn't have looked like less of a threat, but I guess because he was generically good-looking my ex felt threatened so he flipped out and hurled his phone at the wall. AND THEN- he asked if I could loan him some money so he could replace the phone he just smashed in a jealous rage! Lol, goodbye sir.
Shaving someone’s beard like that is such a violation. Never ever do you have ownership on someone like that
Exactly. Male or female, you dont have a right to tell someone what to do with their hair, clothing or body or worse force them into it. You can suggest but thats it.
Im a woman who doesnt like facial hair. My husband wore facial hair for a few years. It was his choice, I suggested I thought he looked better without it if he asked me if hed should shave it, but that was all I said.
He eventually shaved it but only because he wanted to.
I got so mad at that dumb chick laughing at what was basically abuse.
9:25 "I'll do anything, please"
girl doing ANYTHING is what got you into this mess
I lost it at the “red flag guy” bat signal 😭
Oscar-worthy, lol!
Me too!
I've dated someone like the puzzle puncher before... They just enjoy getting a reaction outta you 🙄
Why do couples become couples when one, the other, or both hate each other?
Sincerely,
A Childless Cat Lady (who's cat would never dream of punching holes in the wall, shaving off a section of beard, or any other stupid nonprank because cats know what boundaries are)
Some people don't know how to be alone and not everyone see themselves accurately, what you feel and do can be at odds with itself.
It's usually not like that in the beginning. And I had an electric like connection the first time I touched this one guy even though we aren't compatible. I thought it would be OK.
11:15 A parent should know what their kids grades are before their teacher emails them about it. It's all available online.