The Psychology of Value - Why Bartenders Get Laid
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- Опубликовано: 1 июн 2024
- So I don't think bartenders are "dumb", but they are definitely the beneficiary of some "dumb luck" that makes girls unreasonably attracted. Have you ever stopped to consider why being a bartender is a "high value" job when it comes to meeting girls?
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I don't think bartenders are "dumb" by any means, but "dumb luck" is definitely their ally in attracting women while they're at work. Find out more in this video, and find out MUCH more about value at www.toddvdating.com/value/
THAT IS REALLY TRUE BR, i was bartending at this part and i was taking orders and i got this one girl who wouldn't leave me alone. i was talking to her and others as well that night as i worked. Long story short she's my GF now. I got a lot of numbers tat night thou XD
This is why as a guy, you make friends with the bartender! I can't tell you how many times knowing the bartender has helped me get out of awkward scenarios, like the one you described in the video. When a girls sees you getting preferential treatment from the bartender, that elevates your SMV, because you're a priority with the bartender. Also, the bartender can help you in other ways, like complimenting you, and helping you break the ice by saying things like, "He's a cool guy", to the girl, which in a weird way pre-qualifies you. Also, by tipping that bartender well you help him out while you're able to look generous and likeable. And he can make the drinks for her a little bit stronger. This works even better when the bartender is an attractive female.
Side note for guys: Do not try to pick up the female bartender. This is bad for a lot of reasons.
I think there is a broader rule here about girls liking to see men doing an activity around them. This is most visible with bartenders but think craftsmen. Carpenters, plumbers, builders even - as long as the guy has an activity other than hitting on a girl it seems to give them permission to be more direct, more slutty, if you will, because there is built-in plausible deniability and is in itself a DHV because she can see with her own eyes that the guy can do stuff. Maybe it has to do with the physical movement as well? There is something there but I can't quite put my finger on it...
Her: Is it true that attractive girls don't have to pay for drinks?
Bartender: It is. That'll be $ 12.
Lol those who ask, never get. To me that's an unwritten rule, even for girls that I was just about to give a little discount to.
LOL
On spot! , trying to get free drinks from me is kinda like heckling a stand up comedian.
Todd im tryna sleep man
1. Getting too much attention, and ignoring part of it
2. Being a commander
Remember when working on yourself, you need to have or create a fun life. Girls see bartenders as fun and exciting because they're hosting parties. Being the center of attention in a social setting shows extreme value. Excellent explanation Todd. 👍
How the hel can a guy who is hosting parties b a man of value 🤔 don't talk shit lol they will attract low value women !
Go to a bar where you know the bartender....cultivate relationships with the bartenders....its worth the investment....its like buying a wing that also gives you free drinks and social proof
not possible her rn in my country x), everything is closed 'shrugs'
Smart man. Read my mind.
Lots of bartenders actually stand on platforms, so they look taller than their actual height, and that makes them even more attractive than usual to girls
I can vouch for this, I've never been hit on by girls this much, it's easy to feel a sense if abundance as a bartender
One of the perks of poisoning people while listening to loud music. funny world we live in, right :D
Makes sense. I was a manager at my last job and the hottest girl at work developed a crush on me
As a bartender in NYC you nailed it! also for guys out there, a bartender will always be your best wingman..
Todd needs to make a 2020 book or 2021 book on all his gained knowledge.
As a young woman currently working at a big rooftop bar in NYC, have a few things to say.
1. If you’re a shitty tipper at a bar, a bartender will never forget this, they will let other bartenders know & will probably not want you to come back.
2. I think a lot of people have a complete misconception when it comes to the work load that comes with this job.. it is a LOT of hard labor, 10-14 hour shifts back to back, remembering a fuckload of signature cocktails along with other random shit people might ask for. It requires a lot of physical strength, organization, memorization, PATIENCE with the public, excellent communication skills, and a high ability to multi-task. This can obviously be attractive to anyone, you have someone who’s busy making sure everyone is being personally catered to, even when surrounded by huge crowds.
3. Looks most definitely matter, especially at a high-end bar like where I work. I’ve had all kinds of men flirt with me ask me out on dates leave their numbers, even older men, they specifically tend to really love a good looking female bartender. And the male bartenders I work with get hit on alll the time as well.
4. 100% agree with other commenters saying to get cool with the bartenders, make a good impression so they remember your name and know it’ll be a pleasant experience for them when you come thru.
5. Don’t be an asshole and show up when the bar is about to close, we HATE that, show up at a decent time especially if you’re trying to impress someone.
6. And last.. bartenders at a good bar are walking out with real good money majority of the time.
Couldn’t agree more once again Todd. Great info and perspective for guys who meet most of the women they speak with out at the bar or club.
Yup. I have seen this first hand many times irl, from personal experience as well as seeing my buddies interact with people. It makes a huge difference when you understand what's going on.
Huge revelations!
Amazing stuff as always Todd
Hey Todd , Great video - Another example that comes up time and time again is University girls getting a crush on their professor, who objectively a lot of the time isn't even remotely objectively attractive. Same concept applies here, and its something I've never ever been able to understand. Thanks a lot!
Partially, yes, but don't sell professors short. Unlike bartenders, they're literally the highest echelon of intelligence in our society. They're the professional athletes of the academic world - hardly something low value. The point here was that bartenders don't necessarily have anything majorly impressive going for them. University level professors definitely do. Anyone could be a bartender. They're also likely to be older and more refined in most other aspects of their lives.
@@jimjohnson357 Great point which I overlooked
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The same thing is going on with some DJs, i know many cause i'm the one actually and I assure you that lot of them use this as a tool to manifest higher value, I got a friend that's changin' his behaviour instantly just in moments before he goes on the stage behind the console/mic. Most of them just pretend something they're not, remember. Or when i was making driving license, girls fallen for the instructors on the course, and these idiots were making lowest money in the country, and still they acted like bosses of their own work which was manipulation of perspective obviously. Believe or not, that people "just work", but every single one got a shadow, that manifests itself under socially acceptable mask. Don't buy any kindness from anyone, they always do something for themselves putting you low down dominance hierarchy (when you can't see)
I'm gonna blow u our cover
Reading that comment I thought there was something Slavic about it in the way it was written (I even read it in an generic Eastern European accent in my mind). Then that last point about never trusting anybody sealed the deal. Only a child of the post-Soviet collapse could be so jaded by humans. I actually don't mean this as an insult btw. My closest friends are Romanians and Ukrainians. I think Western idealism needs to be tempered with some post-Soviet cynicism.
@@argh2945 People's culture and nature is nowadays the same as a result of connection everyone have, it wasn't an insult when i was talking about manipulative people, but straight fact. Give someone power and see how he changes. We all take from US, doesn't matter what country in Europe, so saying about socialism might work with people 35+ because 1989 was the year of ending this political system
Eye opening for sure, salute Todd
I never order anything at the bar, I only do drugs so I keep my value high ⬆️
dope 👍
🤘😤
Thank you Todd, a valuable insight fo sho
thank you thank you thank you. delivering real VALUE to the PUA scene. thank you again!
Todd, first off let me at thank you for the years and years of content. I have been following and absorbing your instructions for a little over a year and a half now and I am continuously impressed. You are spot on with your methods and philosophy. I can attest to this due to the new found success I experience with women daily.
I want to share something interesting with you. Perhaps you can elaborate on it so others may benefit.
As I said I have had amazing success with women lately. However, I realize early on I'm not a multiple women guy. I just want one pretty young thing on my arm, and I'm good. Well I have achieved this and I am very happy.
"The issue".
She is, obviously, friends with other beautiful young ladies and I get to hang out with them alot. When this first started , I was nervous and didn't know what to expect. One day I was out and about by myself. One of her friends, I had met a few times, came up to me and tried to give me a hug. I, being such a noob, seconded guess an obvious gesture and reached out my hand for a shake instead. She obliged but gave this disgusted look as though I thought I was too good. When, in actuality, I was the one thinking, "why would a drop dead, gorgeous, prefect ten figure lady like this initiate a hug with me" . We talked a bit then she said she had to go, and that she did. Long story short she didn't like me for this reason and started making sly joke about how uppity I am. One night we were hanging out and she made one of her remarks which I tried to ignore but couldn't. It was a sh*t test from someone I wasn't perusing. This was frustrating to say the least. My first thought was to explain myself. But I heard you (Todd) in my head yelling, "DON'T GIVE AWAY YOUR VALUE". So I said to your voice in my head, "ok genius what should I do?"...and the light bulb lit. "USE IT". So I joked about how I am in a sophisticated Class all my own and can't just hug anyone. She laughed and we continue to talk for a bit. Later on I pulled her to the side and I explained we were by ourselves and I didn't want anyone to get the wrong idea from me hugging such an attractive girl. She smile, very hard might I add, and said she totally understand and respects me as a real man. Now we have a friendship, independent of my girl. She even flirts with me from time to time saying she's coming in for a hug and I better not think of running away. Todd...I wouldn't dare!
Lesson I took away...
My status/value is going to continue to change and I have to be mindful of it. Utilizing your principles for raising my inner value/game /dialog is going to materialize and others will notice. But I too have to believe, just applying the principles is not enough. The principles are the road map that got me to the destiny. It's my responsibility to partake in the reward.
Principles...
A few of the principles in particular I am referencing are 1) Going to the gym and working on your body. 2) Dressing appropriate. 3) Writing down ten things good about yourself, or that are your strongest characteristics and reflect on them. Incase they come up you can talk about them and project value. However, 4) Don't brag, but let it come up naturally and she will be blown away when she feels she discovered it on her own. (this one work wonders)
These small nuggets have paid off in dividends.
Sincerely,
Thank you much Todd V!
You read this long @$$ comment yet? @Todd
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This is all true but bars also tend to hire good looking bartenders so they're starting off with a huge advantage.
In any job about sales and dealing with the public directly, looks are paramount. Again, people always want to dance around and avoid the looks issue.
without being consciously aware of this even at 15 when i was on a date with a girl & the waitress ignored my wave for attention, i remembered feeling deeply loser-ish inside though logically I knew the waitress is busy & will be back sometime else. wouldnt have felt like a loser if i was alone so this means i knew i looked bad in front of the girl without even being aware of this value crap.
I think your frame was just too weak
...And then the girl fell in love with the waitress
Men's desire to impress women is the root cause of much of the conflict in this world. Just think about what you just said. if she wasn't there, you wouldn't have felt how you did. Really marinate on that.
always great to learn something new
Thank you brother
I'm a bartender and I agree. Also there is the fact that we talk to women all night, often the interaction being somewhat intimate. Say there's a woman, that seems to like you, keeping an eye on you. She sees that there is this abundance of women targeting this one guy, which gives an illusion that there's a high competition for you, which makes her want you even more. On another note, being a bartender is great for picking up women. Not exactly behind the bar as that wouldn't be a nice thing to do at work but you get to tell appart good quality women and have a chance to interact with her outside of the bar or while on a break etc. There are those special quieter nights where pretty much all you do is chat with women all night long and they come to you, often without ordering anything, just to interact with you. Being a well appreciated barmen at the top bar in the city definitely adds some status. But I guess that also applies for being a well appreciated worker in any of the cities top tier places. Just like being a well appreciated chef in a top restaurant. All that said, I have had many relationships with women I first met while bartending but the same could be easily achieved if you just had good positive energy and interacted with lots of people. Smiling is a big thing.
How did you start out?
@@RendHeaven Do you mean how did I start out bartending?
@@LaserChair yes :)
The contextual alpha
The Rationale Male by Rollo Tomassi. That book changed my life
Simply Balling mine as well. That’s where I got that phrase from
Hey Todd! Could you, please, make a video on the following topic: is there a way to make girl feel validated by a hookup with you, if you are not some kind of celebrity? You just met her 1 on 1, no special context, just a most common acquaintance and date. Can you help her feel somehow that this little sex adventure might be valuable for her as well? Thanks for the content anyway! :)
Good Lord if this is true, its the equivalent of baby ducks being drawn to a broomstick with a carrot nailed to the top
yes, girls just love to submit to authority. well to be fair many men are very submissive to authority also especially men with lower education, but girls and women are just at another level when it comes to submitting.
Need a vid on how to get drinks without losing value now.
Chat people up while youre waiting and dont pay much attention to the douche bartender, he will see that youre higher value than him and will come to interrupt you asking you to order. Works every time
get there early. make friends with the bartender.
@@gandoncikas are you serious? lol legit question tho
@@gandoncikas I see someone in line talking to someone else and not pating attention, I immediately turn to someone else for the order. Talking is fine but remember why you're standing in the line in the first place. We don't have time to waste.
@@gandoncikas
idiot you are
-yoda 2020
Very interesting, I don't think there is anything like this out there ;)
My mma teacher and school teacher does this too.
It's disguisting to see
@1:48 so without no further a do... 🤦♂️
Finally gets to the dam point.
Edit: but I did learn something new which I didn’t realise before. 👌
Bingo, so true! I've lost girls to both scenarios.
I'm kind of curious in which branches of psychology you've been educated on. It's quite a fun subject
Could this be the reason why many women see attractiveness in some serial killers? Because they have a lot of attention from authorities and society in general? Or is something else? I just saw Ted Bundy's documental and made the connection
I'd like more of u fellas seeing this comment to give ur opinion on this...personally I have no clue. However recently have seen a lot of women praising serial killers, some obsessed over many different ones.
Yes definitely. The media in essence turns these monsters into rockstars.
Yes! Girls sexually obsessing over the bad boy or serial killers is called "hybristophillia"!. There is a very insightful video on this by "Bar Bar". He covers the phenomenon of hybristophillia. Watch it, it'll blow your mind.
so basically get there early, befriend the bartender and slip him a 100 to make sure he notices you and responds immediately and effortlessly. Go home and then go back later in the evening and act like your a boss ;)
or be a regular and greet them by first name and have him ask "the usual?" still tip generously, of course
Just being a regular and being nice is enough. some occasional small talk would be appreciated too. This doesn't apply to every bartender but If you give me an opportunity improvise a special cocktail that suits your desires, I will definitely remember you. I love making custom drinks!
@@LaserChair That's even better. Make a unique custom drink and make a name for it. I'm sure that would make her cog wheels spin a few more times. Great idea!
So true, and so stupid. It’s all about appearances, rarely anything of substance
My friend works in a high end establishment with a restaurant and bar and he uses his 50% discount code whenever I order any food or drink.
Wish i could afford this course!
Hey Todd. Lately I have been matching girls on tinder and getting em straight to my house for first date. I went for the kiss on the first one in less than 20 min and she said I was moving too fast, the other 2 I tried to take my time and things just got bored and platonic until she said "I can't stay here longer, I have to wake up early tomorrow..." or something like that. Usually when I take a girl home we already kissed or at least things were already built up so once we're at my house I just make my move and it works, we have sex. But meeting them on my house for the first time has been weird, I don't know if I am doing something wrong. Please make a video about this.
Every girl is going to be different. Some will want you to make your move quickly or they'll get bored, while others will want to build more comfort beforehand.
It's your job as the man to go after what you want and it's her job to "pace you", at a level and speed she's comfortable with, so don't overthink it and just go for what you want and let her do her job, which is pacing you.
If you meet the girl at your house, then first go for a walk. Walking reliefs tension, so that's great to make her feel more comfortable. You can also cook together.
@@murphsviews thanks for the advice man :)
@@rick732 thanks for the advice :) I'll keep that in mind
Attraction ? Bartenders are the prime example of female gregarious thinking , and way of appraising.
One huge reason. They want free drinks or a discount 🍸
what a Dillema
Word. Also DJ's for free VIP tickets.
Value...simple and BIG🤘🔥🤘🔥 LEVEL UP MEN
Todd, what would you do if you were on a game show like Paradise Hotel?
I was cheated on once upon a time because of that manager example ... And you're right, dude was fat as hell and a complete loser to anyone else's standards, so it made absolutely zero sense at the time.
Nonetheless thanks for contextualizing this Todd, really resonated~
You don't drag the girl with you when you're tryin to get a drink. If you really want to get the girl a drink you should go to the bar alone and while ordering the drinks you interact with other girls nearby.
Depends on who the girl is. If you just met her it may be a bad idea...unless you're ok with the idea that she may be getting with someone else.
No way, ppl gonna be hitting on her like mad
Female opinion here - because the bar tender is well dressed, fun and friendly, he may flirt a bit but doesn’t have an agenda to sleep with her so she can just relax and enjoy the interaction.
" he may flirt a bit but doesn’t have an agenda to sleep with her " oh really ;)
@@stayhungry1503 Lol they like to live that fantasy.
lmao...I get your point, this is how women must feel if you say so. But its based on the fact that he is actualy working! He just dont have the time to pay attention to her all evening. But his agenda is still the same as all the other guys. (+ he is working for a tip lol)
The feelingbof lack of agenda is *everything*.
Girls are always suspicious of guys, and always suspicious of direct communication, because it's always engineered to present a false front.
This is why they shit test, to gather unscripted, and unbiased data on a guy.
With the bartender, yeah he may want to bang her... butbthars 100% not why he's interacting with her in that moment. He's there to take her order and get paid.
and then he's off to deal with others, not clinging to her... his attention is scarce., and thus valuable.
Just the kind of guy she wants to bang.
meanwhile in reality … the bouncer, promoter, manager, DJ, and bar tender got the job to get laid
This may change now with Covid and table service by app.
Social Proof. All attention is focus on the bartender.
I have worked as the security guy and works as well if you play around that the place is kind of exclusive and there is a chance some girls might not make it in. Shortly, security guy= judge who comes in or doesn't.
Also I have tested being nice and an asshole, guess what's more effective...
We'd love to hear some stories man.
Being an asshole I guess but not to the target ?
@@breakingthemasks sure, I like fooling girl around. For example when a group of girl come, I try to see how one of them is different from her friends. Let's say a visible tattoo, I would raise my eyebrow and tell her that I wouldn't let her in if it wasn't because of her friends style fitting into the night club. (The tattoo example is stupid but you can say shoes, heels, dress, skirt, whatever)
@@Hshjshshjsj72727 actually I would lower the target's value by telling her that shouldn't let her in but her friends are cool or have the club's vibe, whatever, some excuse then she would try to like me automatically.
@@robertromo4041 nice, but short interaction .. when can you get her digits ?
If a bartender isn’t hot or somewhat fit, girls aren’t going to flock to them….but yes, if a bartender is semi handsome/semi-fit and somewhat confident , he will find more opportunities than most men, because of the social aspect of his job
i am 32, usualy wearing suit and using Subways. it makes me look suit guy is trying. what do you suggest to make me look just normal ordinary day game approuch?
It depends how you are wearing your suits and how they are looking and what type of girls you want to aproach. Young colege girls will not respond well to a suit. Older professional women will. Maybe dont wear a tie while you are not at work. Preffer more slim shirts, and more playful colors for the pants and jackets.Wear them unbuttoned, dont wear a big watch. Be careful about how "polished" you look. You must strife for the "I take care of my looks but it is far form the most important thing for me" look. You need a good haircut, but not much hair product in your hair.If you wanna wear something else - grew sweatpants, white converse and dark grew slim t-shirt works well for the absolute stylish but casual vibe. Specialy if you have the body for that. Fit jeans and a lumberjack shirt with roled up sleeves/white t-shirt - semi-casual and you can put more hair products in your hair. Whatever you wear - it always must fit you well, no baggy or too slim shit.
Alex has some solid points.
Id just add that I thinknyoh can pull off a suit, so long as you sub communicate that it isn't worn for the girls. That it is a side effecr of hist getting done with work.
So, lose the tie, flip the jacket over yihr shoulder, and roll up the sleeves. With a casual air of idgaf
That can work.
It is true. Maybe I should quit my middling job to go be a lower paid bar tender or restaurant manager. They shoot way out of their league, and I am straight incel mode over here just rottin' on the vine.
i bartend sometimes. when i’m on the patron side if the bar i have pretty lame luck with girls...when i’m working girls leave me their numbers multiple times a week without fail. i can’t recommend a bartending job enough for meeting girls
@@OrloTheM3D1C damn. I should do that instead of what I am doing. Pussy > a little more money.
"You have to go where the girls are" as a short balding ginger guy once said.
@@argh2945 Is that short balding ginger not a multi millionaire who happens to live in a Hollywood mansion ?
@@simplyballing1592
Yes, the mad lad of Kingston, Ontario himself
The master
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:02 *🧠 Understanding female behavior requires comprehension of underlying psychological factors.*
00:44 *📚 Value Master Class delves into the concept of value, particularly regarding what women find valuable.*
02:52 *💃 Bartenders often garner attraction due to their perceived high value in social settings like bars and clubs.*
04:03 *🍸 Taking a girl to the bar can enhance a conversation, but it may also expose you to situations where your value diminishes due to circumstances beyond your control.*
05:42 *🏢 Dumb luck responsiveness can elevate one's perceived value in certain contexts, such as being a manager, despite external factors that might suggest otherwise.*
I went on a date with a girl and it went great. She texted me multiple things on instagram and messenger right after I dropped her off. (which is a good sign I thought) But the next day I texted if she was free next weekend and responded with 'a lot of homework'. Which is BS if you really like someone right? What is she thinking and what should I do?
What you did wrong is that you texted her the next day. You should have waited at least a day. And the second is - you didnt ask her when she is free, you asked her if she is free like what 5 days before the weekend? And no shot fun chat before asking her out? It shows that you just "couldnt wait" to see her again and the girl wanted to leave her weekend free for a better deal. Go watch the videos fo coach Corey Wayne - he explains how to handle the next date arrangemnts best. But in short - you already fucked up, so wait for her to text you again and use that as opportunity to chat a bit(just a bit,Tod have videos about texting) and ask her out again. Just this time ask her when she is free. But untill she reaches out - you can only wait. At least a week. If she doesnt, after a week - text her something funny/inetresting to start the conversation. Its like starting from zero. You need to win her again with good fun texting. And when you feel that the convo is going well - she is sending smiles, lols and asking questions about you - "Hey its fun talking with you, when you are free to continued it in person?" But yeah, watch Tods videos about texting and the coach Coreys about dating.
Never ask her when she is free. Tell her you are going somewhere & she is welcome to join you. Better if you are not alone one on one. You are just living your life & she can join on but you have to give the impression you were going to do that regardless. The next day make sure you are busy & post about it to your social media but do not message her. If she is interested she will message you
So what is the solution in that bar situation ?
What I do in this kind of situations is just doing something else while waiting (talking to my friend, answering a message in my phone, watching something and acting like I'm concentrated on it 😅) then the person who's actually ignoring me tries hard to gain my attention back (this is how I show my value).
This scenarios can happen anywhere ( the grocery store, the bank, tha bar/pub).
@@abdtq8942 interesting : )
Avalanche talk to the girl and engage her!
Establish yourself as a good tipper before asking someone to join you ar the bar
Go to the bar less and budget for paying for someone's tab that will order drinks for you and your date.
Never buy a girl drinks till she's your girlfriend. I'll pay for a date when the girls my girlfriend. Why would you pay for a girl's time to get to know her to decide if you want to be with her. Once you've asked a girl questions and she is trying to be interesting and then you have shown her interest based on her trying to get your approval. And she knows that you like her and you've had sex. by then she's invested so much that you paying for a date makes sense. If the girl ask for something get her to give something first. A lot of guys are going on dates paying for stuff and they're being used or just attracting gold diggers. Now if you want to be with a girl they wants to be taken care of then just dress nice and drive a nice car. and if she knows you have a great job she's going to know that you can take care of her you don't have to try to buy her affection.
I've never understood why tips are expected for a bartender popping a lid off of a beer bottle or pouring liquid into a glass.
In the old days it was customary to paid off your server in order not to be poisoned.
Lmao well you’re delusional for sure clearly have no idea what the job entails.
It's the same with DJ's.
Vip table game.
I work as a middle manager at a very busy grocery store. Same thing happens to me. Tons of crushes etc. Most are worthless at best...a few play out. I have a good time, that's all that matters.
Could you do a video on how to convince my girlfriend to be okay with me sleeping with other women? She's known that I crave this for a long time now so it's not a secret and we are pretty honest with each other, but she's a human woman so of course she cares. Some how you have this worked out with your partner and it just doesn't make sense to me. There's just no way she doesn't mind you fucking multiple women a year. I'm about to have a kid with my gf so now she will be apart of my life forever and there is just no way that I can only sleep with her the rest of my life so either were gonna split or she will have to be okay with it or I'll have to be extremely good at hiding it.
It's kinda ur fault for having a baby right now,u don't want ur kid to think u cheated on his mom and had a divorce just to keep it dick happy.
Be upfront and honest. Tell her you’ll be there for her and the kid no matter what, but in the future you intend to sleep with other women given the opportunity. She’ll either learn to accept it over time or break up with you. You should prepare for the worst. Either way, sexual variety in your situation will come at a cost.
@@johnnyblaze9158 yeah you're right. Somehow Todd has it worked out with his girlfriend where there in an open relationship. But honestly it just seems like relationships like that don't last. Todd is a smart guy so I'm curious to hear more detail about how he is navigated that. I watched his relationship speech on it but I would love more detail on that specifically.
Can someone give me any advice how to hook up with a girl which is in a process of divorce,she s getting divorced? Tnx guys in advance..bye.
step 1. hook up with her
that's it, those are the steps
Hang out with her as friends first.
Get her alone at some point. Doesn't have to be the first interaction.
Make your move. :) Good luck.
Sometimes not doing something is better long run than doing it in the short term. Opportunity costs are to weighed and measured before making any move in any direction.
Have a game plan. Don't make it look like you have a game plan. Don't be reading from a script
Hang out, have fun, hook up. Don't pressure her or even bring up future plans or relationship status. She probably doesn't want to be "locked down" any time soon. Just be fun and allow sex to happen, don't be clingy or needy.
Human beings are funny
I hate it when bartenders ignore me, my wife also !
Aka the situational alpha
i didnt think this was even a thing
Make video on low value behaviors/habits!
It boils down to anything that involves placating, being needy, or being to reactive, best way to avoid it is to have your own momentum in life to not get phased by small stuff but that’s just my 2 cents
@@DESTRAKON he explained about this in the value masterclass (which I can't buy :/ ) so I kinda needed him to go on this topic.
Maybe he'll show another clip of his value masterclass, who knows 😂
Abhay Pratap I feel you, but if you just analyze any of your behaviors and find them to fall into one of those categories then drop them, that’s what I did, give it a try and see if works for you
@s bright you don't get what I'm tryna say bro, but nevermind :P
Todd-stache
Chicks love uniforms
rip bartenders
It seem to me like I’m able to understand anything I put my mindful full attention to, except women, the more mindful I get the stupidest I become, drives crazy 😜
A bartender is a BMOC (big man on campus)--in a bar. And that's what women want. It's all "situational," but many women don't understand that.
cant get the bartender's attention is low value lmaooooo......
Any girls here
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Is this guys info backed by science or this a get rich scheme?
look at his other videos, todd v seems legit and he puts out a bunch of free shit on yt.. DYOR
Yes either believe it or don’t. This is not a get rich scheme. Anyways science is always behind on things. By the time science proves something right the information is 10 years too old, so science always has to play catch up
Well, he usually backs everything up with evolutionary psychology. It is not all strictly scientific, because that would be pretty impossible, but the info he puts out seems legit
@@GettingMeGreat. this might just be the stupidest comment I've read all week. Then again, it's only Thursday.
To OP: its well rooted in evolutionary psychology and behavioural studies have (in a more abstracted way usually) shown there seems to be consistencies, and not even only in humans, but other primates too. Even if that wasn't the case though, you'd be better off in this instance asking whether or not what Todd says is backed up by reality. Just look around. Do you observe what he says, or does the opposite happen? You don't need to know the intricate mechanisms of changes in neurotransmitter concentrations as a response to different stimuli in order to observe and make a link between situational input and behavioural response output.
They are usally good looking guys that’s about it mostly
Everything about this is super cringe... did you take an Intro to Psych course and then read a pick up artist book or something?