A Better Way To Stop Backbiting | Taraweeh Reflections with Dr. Omar Suleiman
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One way to stop backbiting is to imagine the person present in front of you. But the scholars mentioned an even better and more rewardable way to protect your tongue.
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I back bite on people who have done me wrong😭 i know it is not good im giving them my hasanaath PLEASE make dua dat I will stop backbinh
I pray for you that you stop backbiting dear sister. Ameen ya rabb ❤❤❤😊
May Allah help us all to keep silent and speak good Allahoumma Ameen
I have a big problem…
I'm dealing with a person who backbites very quickly and I'm too cowardly to say it's wrong.
What can I do to get rid of this cowardice?😔
@@DEENOVERDUNJA-o5myou can just change the subject when he backbites
@@abidshukran2525 Do you mean, if the person says so-and-so did this and that, I'll divert attention to another topic and say hey, look at the nice weather or something?
Because the problem is, this woman is my mother-in-law and she is already old.
Unfortunately, she is not on the straight path and is a little further away from Islam.
And when I try to say something about Islam, They told me to stop talking about it.
It's very difficult, you need a lot of sabr...
May Allah make it easy for us🤲🏼
Jazzakuallahu khair may Allah bless you🤲🏼
To avoid backbiting:
1. Imagine that person sitting there with you. Would u say still say it to hurt them?
2. Call them with beautiful names and then say what they would like to hear if they were present during the conversation.
3. Imagining our own self in the position of that person and say what you would say if they were talking about you.
JazakAllahu khair
Jazak ALLAH
High sense of empathy.
the first one wouldnt really work would it? Im a very straightforward type of person and have a hard time with Reading social cues. . so even if something sounds mean, I would say it straight on without realizing it. do u have any tips?
Barakallahu feek. Is it okay if I use these tips in my instagram reel?
I came here with an honest intention to stop backbiting even though it's so hard because I live in an environment where the only shared activity that we do is talking and telling each other stories and mostly we end up mentioning some people without feeling it...I truly want to top this but I keep going back to it.. Pray for me to find the correct way and to avoid all the things that upset Allah SWT .. May Allah guide us all
I am in exact situation. I have a circle of friends that alhamdulillah we do not do anything haram. We go to gym, we pray and go to Juma together, we go swimming and gather at my apartment to hangout after work. The only haram thing we do is we takk and say story and end up back biting others, and I'm gonna be honest, I think I do that more than other friends. I have recently made a serious repentance and want to stop. The only thing shaitan is whispering on my ear is that: "you gonn be that boring, not funny friend who just gonna say nothing when friends talk. You barely do any haram, so doing only this one is okay/acceptable". I know how big of a sin back biting is, so I am 100% committed to stop. Please make dua for me
@@bardia8225 same here, may Allah forgive us😌
1. Speak at slow pace so that you aware of ur words
2. Avoid too much talk coz that involves in speaking false
3. When talking about third person , imagine the person talked about sitting in front of you, and say about that person the words they would love to listen about them
4. Being straight forward is from shaitan, keep modesty in your talks.
5. Call third person with their good names that they would to hear before talking anything about them
6. Imagine self to be that third person, and speak those words that you would like to hear about self- This is the people of Ihsan
Jazak ALLAH
I'm curious as to what you mean by straight talking is from shaytan?? Isn't shaytan the manipulating distorter of the truth? ??
JazakAllha khair
Barakallahu feeki can I use your tips for my video?
جزاك الله خير
Amn
May Allah help us and guide us all. May he make us the best Muslims we can be and allow us to be the people placed in Jannat-Al-Firdaus. May He allow us to stop backbiting and indulging in idle talk, a grave sin which is often overlooked. Ameen.
Ameen
Aameen
Amin
Ameen. 💙
Ameen
Such a good reminder BarekAllahu feekum. Adding timestamps:
0:18 "when they come across idle speech, they pass through with dignity"
2:16 Think before you speak
4:16 Process of tawbah becomes more complicated
5:04 Imagine the person sitting in front of you
7:28 Say what you know they'd like to hear about themselves
9:19 Imagine you are the person spoken of and say what you know you'd like to hear of yourself
11:10 Hayaa is lost
12:21 Disconnect the person's honour from whatever subject you're speaking about
Jazakallahu khayran
Take time to talk, and don't speak if there is nothing good
(JazakaALLAH khairan, I qas taking notes too but yours are better)
Nice Video
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thank you sister
Jazaakillaahu Khairan
what i have come to realise is that the reason it is easier not to sin in ramadan is because we are avoiding idle talk. Keeping ourselves busy in our worship and not allowing our tongues to run free. Let this month allow us to make an oath to use our tongues for only saying good words and to refrain from using it for the things that displease Allah and attains his wrath and anger. Allah saves us from the fire of jahannam and purify us.
Amin. You are right
This message means a lot to me 😢 may Allah forgive us all our sins
Ameen
Allahoumma Ameen
Aaameen yaa Allah 🙏
Ameen😢
I suffer from this sickness 🥺😢... Ya Allah help me overcome this disease of backbiting people... I really hate it even when i'm backbiting the person 🥴
Ameen ya Allah 🙏 may Allah forgive us all and show us a way to stop it.
I was having a difficult time but SubhanAllah this video come just after a prayed asking Allah s.w.t for help. May Allah help you all my sisters and brothers, May Allah bless you all, may Allah forgive us, may Allah forgive this Umma. Amin
May Allah Forgive us, Guide us, Have Mercy on Us, Bless us, and Accepts Our Fasting and our Ibaadah ..Aameen Ya Rabbil A'alameen 🤲🏻❤
Aameen
May Allah preserve us and allow us only to utter that which pleases him, ameen.
That’s why I have no friends I do not backbite but they have my name everywhere for 25 years now 😭😭😭it’s a very great injustice for too long now and my voice never heard. Only I’ve been crying. Forever. 😭😭😭😭not even a family can stop this great injustice. it’s very difficult!!! 😭😭😭😭❤️🌹
Nowadays in order to have friends you have to backbite because that's the culture and if you don't backbite they think you're a goody two shoes and they think you think you're better than them. Being among Muslims who don't backbite is a huge relief, like finally drinking cold water in a desert.
May allah swt bless you and every one behind yaqeen institute and to everyone reading this. May allah swt bless us, guide us and forgive us all ameen
May Allah make it easy for us and help us to pause and think before we speak. What a well delivered reminder. I feel like this was exactly what I needed to hear, since it is so easy to let your tongue slip nowadays. May Allah set right the affairs of Palestine and of all the Ummah 🤲
Subhanallah..❤Alhamdullilah❤Allahu Akbar❤Allahumma Ajirrni minnaar❤Allahumma inni Asalukal jannah❤subhanallahi wa bi hamdihi,sibhanallah hil azeem❤
Alhamdulillah for this wonderful religion. It always amazes me how there's a systematic way to act in certain situations; a guideline to everyday problems. Others may simply see it as backbiting but for us Muslims we see it as something that needs to be prevented as it leads to a much bigger problem.
Ma sha Allahu. This lecture suited my family present situation on backbiting. Jazaka Allahu khairan Shiekh.
المَرْءُ مخْبُوءٌ تَحْتَ لِسَانِهِ.
“A man is hidden under his tongue.
The tongue will unveil the curtain and display our real character...may Allah guide us on his straight path.
Jazzak Allah brother Omar Suleiman for touching on such an important subject. May Allah SWT help us to hold our tongue and only speak when goodness flows
May Allah swt guide us to be amongst the people of ehsaan
JazakAllaahu khairun kaseera for sharing it
Thank you sheikh May Allah bless you and protect us amine
MashaAllah..I love this brother. Alhamdulilah this is extremely important to address❤. Jzk
This message is sooo powerful may allah make it easy on us
May allah guide us and protect us ameen
ya rab
We should seek help from Allah Almighty to make it easier for us to stop backbiting in sha Allah🙏
May Allah S.W.T protect us from this habit as it's everywhere you go, and when you say you don't want to take part in it ,it's as tho you've done something wrong to them when you dont want to join in this conversation may Allah SWT protect us from the whispers of the shatan ameen
It like the saying "treat others the way you would like to be treated"
May Allah SWT correct our hearts and keep us steadfast with Him . May Allah Kareem reward you for educating people about Deen. I would appreciate this. Something I have been looking for, for a long time now
Ya Sheikh Alhumdulilah .. . May Allah SWT bless you and all of us May Allah forgive all of us Ameen, Because of your lectures I'm protecting my self from backbiting. I'm trying in this Ramadan. May Allah Accept from us . . I'm so much thankful to you Üstad .❤
Jazakallah Khair, for addressing this sinful weakness. Will work on it insha'Allah.
Jazakallah khair for guiding us so immensely
Important reminder these days, barakallah feekum
What to do when you are sitting on a dinner table and other are back biting or discussing other . Even when you don’t say anything about them how to stop others from doing it or hearing it . I usually try to change the subject . May Allah guide us to stop and prevent backbiting Ameen
I think in that case we should start defending them instead even if we don't want to
@@kainatshakil5854this is what I usually do now- defend them instead. But my question is, if I DONT want to defend them, are you sinful for that? Is there show off in there.
JazakAllah khair, I really needed this. Thank you. May Allah help and bless us all.
This is a phenomenal lecture
JazakAllahu khair sheikh, these are some extremely valuable methods to stop back biting. May Allah Forgive us, ameen.
جزاکم الله خیرا کثیرا فی الدنیا و الاخره
May Almighty Allah enable us to follow this beneficial advice in our daily life aameen.Jazak Allah khayr for this knowledge.
2.00 - reminder to myself
MashaAllah, very well stated in the how we shall think twice before say something about others. May Allah make it easier for us and forgive the ones who are not able to connect to their understanding of shameless🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾
Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu
I am indulged in sin of doing gheebat again n again and I repent from it and ended up doing gheeba and I am so ashamed of myself and I am so sad... because I am unable to control myself from doing this sin... please whoever sees my comment make dua for me that I can stop doing this sin till my last breath and Allah give me strength to stop doing this sin... please 🥺🥺🥺🥺
Please pray for me 😭😭 I need your dua's
If you are human being , you will do this lots of times. The important thing is you go back to Allah swt. These are one of those stumbling blocks in our lives ...sin. you fall everday
Aalahuma ajinrna minnarr Aameen ellahi Aameen!
Jajakallahu khairan ❣️❣️❤️❣️❣️
BarakAllah 👌...
Jazakum Allahu khair for the beneficial instructions.
May Allahu Subhanahu protect all of us from hurting others knowingly or unknowingly,
May Allahu Subhanahu wa Tha'Ala make us people of empathy Ameen 🤲.
Al hamdulillah 🤲.
Sheikh Omar with the Nur on his face 😇
Ma sha Allah may Allah guide him
@@FamaJobe-t3sAaameen yaa Allah
Jazakum Allahu Khairan sheikh
Subhhanallah. What a easy way to go to Jannah! And as easy as it is to go Jahannam!
Excellent advice
This is such a beautiful khatira. JazakAllah Khair!
Nice Video
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Words are powerful ❤
DAILY REMEMBERANCE OF ALLAH (SWT)
Whoever says SubhanAllahi wa biHamdihi (Glory be to Allah and Praise Him) a hundred times during the day, his sins are wiped away, even if they are like the foam of the sea
whoever says SubhanAllahi wa biHamdihi, Subhan-Allahi 'l-`adheem (Glory be to Allah, and Praise, Glory be to Allah, the Supreme)
Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Two words are light on the tongue, weigh heavily in the balance, they are loved by the Most Merciful One
Abu Umamah reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever recites the ‘verse of the Throne’ (ayat al-kursi) after every prescribed prayer, there will be nothing standing between him and his entry into Paradise but death.”
Allahouma Ameen🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾
Thank you❤
Oh Allah I seek refuge from you from doing anything to disgrace me in the sight of by bother". The deeds of the living are shown to those who have passed away. If they see they are good they rejoice in their graves. ☪🕋🤲💜🌙
AlhumdAllah thank you brother!!!
Eid Mubarak 😊
MashAllah ❤
Jazakallah khair
Listen and learn!!! 😭😭It’s 25 years you all are backbiting me whilst I’m busy getting hurt through the pain taking care of parents, whilst you all so restless, every eid we spend in four walls or assisting at the mosques!!! You all will come and pick the parents up and celebrate and never invite us all because you all under evil judgments.
Finally Alhamdulillah the world is assisting in this great oppression!!!
You'll be fine In Shaa Allah ❤
You are good😊
1. Backbiting is cowardly. Protect your dignity by staying away from backbiting.
2. Use the tongue to that which is pleasing to Allaah.
3. Do not be hasty to speak and do not talk a lot so as not to fall into backbiting.
4. Imaam Al Ghazaali mentioned three ways:
(i) Imagine the person sitting in front of you when you are talking about him? Will you still do it? If yes, you have no haya as you do what you want.
(ii) Do not say anything about anyone except that the person would love to hear. Call them by their best names and qualities.
(iii) Do not say anything except you imagine yourself being the person talked about.
5. Slow down. You do not have to comment on everything happening.
6. Remember that the honour of a Muslim is more sacred than the Kaabah. If there is a pressing need to talk about an issue, do so without playing with the honour of a Muslim. Avoid taking names.
Shaykh. I need help. I have seen 60 dreams that have come true. I have seen Muhammad SAW 7 times in my dreams and I have seen 3 times that I will become a great leader of Muslims all over the world. I am looking for someone who can guide me and show me the right way. I need someone like Waraqa bin Naufal was to Muhammad SAW.
thanks God ❤الله اكبر .
Is talking with the intentions of fixing behaviors or situations seen as backbiting? Like a parent-teacher conference or parents to each other about children’s behaviors, etc. to create a plan so everyone can be on the same line to reinforce behaviors and handle “bad” behaviors.
May Allah guide us in the right directions, help us to become better Muslim and grand us Jannah Al firdaus.
Naudzubillahi mindzalik, almost no one can survive from these sin coz people are social human being surounded by multiple of characteristic , but as a person who try to be better person we must prevent as hard as we can so we r not commit such of sin . La hawla wala quwwata Ila billah.
Allahuma Aameen!
Ameen ❤
Ameen may ALLAH accept our friendship fast brother sister I miss her too my from herself to help me I am fine Alhambra I would appreciate it. If Allah of would be happy with it it's a little while we are doing better than ever to help your own place that's what would happen to me though so it will be a good idea I think it's
Subhanallah
Aameen
MashAllah
Thank you
Ameen.
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Ya Allah, lindungi kami ✨️
Masallah thank you for this beautiful lesson
Sorry what if the person has offended you or what the person is doing something wrong that is not good,but you report to some else or you complain about your feelings of what someone has done to another person is it also considered as backbiting
Amen
Can we discuss someone's actions and bad behaviour (which is affecting us) behind their back
This video has the same problem. I cannot hear it properly unless i put my earphones.
Bismilllahirahman neeraheem ASALAMU ALAIKUM Warahmattulahi Wabarakatuhu Shiekh Omar Sulieman it's very awkward. When a person don't understand Arabic so they keep my phone occupied the whole day icould not even answer my Children's calls and they keep me out of sleep at night Playing there Nashieds and showing me video.s so unfair I can't even have my time to sit With my quraan if they feel im the bad person then I must accept im not one of there Arabain Ladies they show no respect I said so many times im old not hiding my age even they just ignore me totally Shiekh Omar Sulieman they. My Children found out about the Challenge s so the best thing for me to do is break and free my self from Shiekhs and from these Challenges and that's really final at this age it's not possible to the nice guy to please others and here im going to put myself in a lot of trouble at least at this old age I should thank and complain to Allah and no Shiekhs its no use im asking for Maaf to the Shiekhs What I have done any thing bad please forgive me So Alhamdullilah this Morning was my Last Challenge so Shiekh And Mufti Menk Should donate everthing but I don't want shiekh to tell me please help if iso much love to help others but it's no good tor me at this state im not young to handle all these Preasure Sallaams to everyone im the bad guy Alhamdullilah I came a long way and have lots of Sabr Allah is the one that gives guidance and Rizq NOT any Shiekhs or other individual .s Only Allah Shiekh can ask these Alafasy Mishry Shiekhs have I ever been rude to them the one that always recites had a habit of becoming Emotional then almost like a crying tune takes place and the other Companion that always on top with white and ared Frame is always when ihear these sad sounds then iopen my cover then I shake my head and say then it starts Jullaakha Alaikum And umrah and Ghadj and then saying about and saying about my Sujood What ever really made me sad I had to insure so can complain about me I.ll still be the bad guy I'm have been abused so they all take advantage my place is with my Allah Allah HafizPleaae tell them they remove my name or I.ll ask my son to do it Allah Hafiz
Ameen
Asalamualikum please please help me to stop backbiting 😢😢😢😢
What do u do when you are trying to practice this in your life, but you often are in interaction with people in ur family who easily slip a bit of talking about what others are doing in conversations. These people are of respect, and its not easy to say to them that i dont want to talk about other people. They would find it rude. Although i try not to be talking about others negatively myself but people around me make it hard for me because they want to have a conversation about someone else. Even though i dont entertain that sort of conversation. I just dont make the convo any longer from my side. So what should be done in a situation like this to avoid sin?
It's hard isn't it sister. Sometimes you might excuse yourself to go to another room. or if they try to include you in the gossip negative talk about someone, you can make it light hearted and chuckle a bit and say "oh not everyone's perfect, anyway doesn't matter about her" and change the topic. That way you're not directly telling someone off or embarrassing them if they're your elders, but you're politely hinting to them and they should stop. Sometimes it works for me. Sometimes if I am saying negative things about my in laws to my mum because they've hurt me, she uses this tactic on me and says oh never mind about them, and she changes the subject. That's my way of knowing my mum is teaching me as her child not to say negative things and try to be positive about people. But she won't tell me off and say what a bad daughter I am as I'm more likely to not listen to that!
@Yasmin i get what you're saying....i do this too. So is this way of handling it enough to not be in sin. Like, as long as im not entertaining the convo. As long as im cutting it short by saying Allah knows best or changing the subject ?
We should not backbite others
Brothers, I have a question.
I am a manager and sometimes I have meetings with other managers to discuss our employees/teams performance and behaviour etc. If we discuss someone who has been performing badly or less than expected, and due to this we explore through conversation what their weaknesses and problems are, is this backbiting?
Grateful for advise as I desperately wish to avoid doing harm to others and their honour with my words.
Jazak Allah Khair
"When they hear idle speech, they pass through with dignity."
Most people will end up in hellfire because of their tongues.
Hastiness is from Shaytan (Satan).
Is it gossiping if many people already know what you have have talked about and even you found out about it from someone else ? And what to do If I don’t talk to the person that I gossiped about to anymore? I feel guilty and very scared that I will never be forgiven.
What about if they are oppressing you and transgressing against you or someone you care about?
What about at work, when somebody is not doing their job and causing harm? A supervisor might have to say something they wouldn’t “like” to hear. I don’t understand how it is backbiting when someone is doing something unacceptable.
Every RIGHTEOUS person has a secret…???
🌱NONE of you’re a true BELIEVER unless you love for your fellow Muslim what you love for yourself
🌱Al Muminoon 23:3
وَالَّذِيۡنَ هُمۡ عَنِ اللَّغۡوِ مُعۡرِضُوۡنَۙ
Waallatheena hum AAani allaghwi muAAridoona👆🏾”And they who turn away from ill speech”
❤️🩹 May Allah PURIFY our souls and makes us amongst the RIGHTEOUS believers🌱🏝🏝🏝
@yaqeeninstitute Is there Arbic translation?
In our neighbourhood many our backbitters sector 44 b no work
I'm not backbiting but if someone else does and i keep silent and don't protest then will i also be sinned?
I'm really worried about this....some times my friends do gossips like that and i don’t backbite but i also can't stop them cause i feel like they'll think i'm too much. I just try to avoid it by saying its ok, let it go or sometimes i don’t say anything. Will i still be sinned? Can someone tell? I always feel guilty Whenever my friends gossips like that. I feel like i should have stopped them but i did't so i ask for forgiveness from Allah
What about toxic people?
If someone treats other person badly, there is third person involved? You get hurt, What should you do?
Just let other people hurt you and let them run over you and do not say anything?
Keep asking for forgiveness.
If someone hurts me ,then i shares it with other person .is that backbite?if yes .then how i control my emotions.
Try talking to Allah about it
Just cry to Allah to take care of it and to take care of that person
To remove that person from your path or ask Allah to not make that person a trial for you
But don’t wish bad for anyone
Just do that and I promise you Allah will take care of them
What if a husband is abusing his wife? Can’t the wife tell anyone?
There is an aya in the Quran regarding some one oppressing someone, that is different.
The wife can remind the husband that it is a sin and may affect the relationship. Worst it can invite legal action. The wife can seek intervention from elders or legal remedies. There should not be any insults, lies in this transaction
✅✅✅ 11:34
What about being quick witted ? Making funny observations that are sarcastical but really mean no harm ?