I agree that it makes sense and helps a lot to regard depression as something totally outside of the happy-unhappy scale. Suffering from depression is not the same thing as being unhappy.
Also if people are constantly unhappy 😒 helping others will change their mindset & making others happy 😊 ie. Local Charity. Community base project . Homeless shelters. Recycle all you usually throw away in the bin. Be grateful. Life is up's & down 's do not have a victimhood mentality.
I read Gretchen Rubin's book and it was really good and is based on research. I also really like Matthieu Ricard's book on happiness a lot too. If you're looking for something less like self-help, maybe his book would be better to read as it's based on the tenets of Buddhism. It's interesting that even though today's world is much different than the world in the past with technology and jobs, our problems regarding happiness are universal and are not new at all. Ricard's book gets at this and teaches you how you work at being happy.
Contentment is not happiness, but rather is a compromise, certainly a matter of degree over those things which you cannot control. Analogically speaking, in emotive terms it raises the floor but does not raise the roof in comparison to starting off from a zero or negative foundation. True it is a beneficial factor for finding happiness, but in the end if you settle for contentment you are essentially settling for less than happiness.
I really appreciate Rubin's work. I only balk at her talking about what a go-getter, super-achieving type she is naturally - even an early riser. I so wish there was version of her who has come to this contentment from a place of having to overcome procrastination and fear. Anyone know of someone like this? Oh and BTW everyone should check out Dan Gilbert's stuff too.
When it comes to little things it is possible, but for the majority of people in such a situation the likelihood of general happiness is likely improbable.
The purpose of life ? That is to re-created and continue the species and that's about it, folks. Happiness is a shiny trinket that everyone wants easily. So, let's make up five categories... no, four categories (there are always four categories of human beings) so ppl feel better about the kind of live we have to live in order to survive.
It's very bourgeois approach to happiness, not that there's anything wrong with that. I had a different experience for most ofh my life I always had money and didn't really worry about it and then I for several reasons I I lost everything when I was in my fifties. That's when I discovered what it takes to be happy or not and that is to take stock of what you do have which is your mind and how you feel about things your attitude if you focus on what you might consider his loss then that would be your reality if you focus on what you have with you that is still great the greatest value and that would be with you but often it takes show losing everything to understand why people in Haiti don't seem miserable. In essence you must accept death you must accept loss because with every loss that you would like to take the time to wallow in but there's no point.there's a greater loss on its way and there will be another, until you die
Also there is nothing philosophical or scientific about the merits of this discussion lecture, or the practices prescribed. It is more in line with the likes of self help gurus and pseudo psychological babble espoused by the practice of sociological administration. However, don't get me wrong, it is still a good discussion to have and merits worth in the psycho-emotive state of our contemporary culture.
I'd rather watch a video or invest in a book written by psychologists or neuroscientists who do actual studies on this stuff. (And I've learned a whole heck of a lot more from them too!)
crimsonsamuraiftw Compromising if it makes you more happy because you are able to be comfortable with the negativity around you. surely that is a form of happiness??
No that is not happiness, it is complacency, or settling for less than possible happiness. Sure compromise is better than not happy in most situations, but it is also not the same potency as finding true happiness. But I do agree that in the majority of situations affected by external stimuli, that is the most you can likely achieve.
OK, you've covered yourself quite well there. I was going to say that the pursuit of happiness is just a pursuit. The complexity of life and emotions in all situations could mean that you interpret something by being happy or not. One could live a perfectly happy life style with everything provided and set in their life. However, when placed into a position where they are properly tested and pushed to the edge the experience might not be a nice one but they may find that they were in fact happier at that stage of their life because of the thrill and excitement. Or one may miss the feeling of pain. Therefore us Humans are in a way greedy, we can never be truly happy. However, being stable and compromising by exaggerating external factors to make them feel better than they truly are in a very personal and individual sense is finding a form of happiness. For example, lighting a candle that smells good every night. It's just lighting a candle but people will compromise by saying it makes them feel happy. You compromise by saying well I don't have the largest house or the smartest son/daughter but they have these set of skills or our house is very homily. It's compromising and changing the thought processes in your brain to be positive gaining happiness and more importantly being content. To reach full happiness one would have to have a perfect life and if that's the case they're probably deluded and abit of a arrogant cunt which no one would want to hang around with anyway.. this would make you question are they truly happy inside.
crimsonsamuraiftw But I know what you mean by complacency. Many people live inside their comfort zone and do not risk or test themselves for a possible greater happiness just in case it goes the other way for them. For example at the moment I have decided that I would like to make it big as an actor. But that will be extremely costly and time consuming and I may not make it and end up on the street failing. Or I could do a philosophy MA which is more financially achievable and I would enjoy very much and probably get an ok paid job such as a teacher at the end of it. I think I would prefer doing the MA and sticking. I'm being complacent and not pushing myself and therefore not reaching the highest level of happiness I could. I understand what your saying but I think you can find happiness in being complacent with the slight depression of what if. It's better than going for true happiness and then finding myself in a state of absolute depression by failing or even achieving but not finding what I expected and then saying "what if I was complacent?". It's hard.
This is nothing new. These concepts have been talked about for hundreds of years. Rubin is just packaging it in yet another form and of course, selling selling selling her books.
I agree that it makes sense and helps a lot to regard depression as something totally outside of the happy-unhappy scale. Suffering from depression is not the same thing as being unhappy.
LIFE is a gift, and the purpose of LIFE is to be happy
+Making It Happen No Excuse Yeah, but check out Fr. Robert Spitzer's four levels of happiness.
Also if people are constantly unhappy 😒 helping others will change their mindset & making others happy 😊 ie. Local Charity. Community base project . Homeless shelters. Recycle all you usually throw away in the bin. Be grateful. Life is up's & down 's do not have a victimhood mentality.
I read Gretchen Rubin's book and it was really good and is based on research. I also really like Matthieu Ricard's book on happiness a lot too. If you're looking for something less like self-help, maybe his book would be better to read as it's based on the tenets of Buddhism. It's interesting that even though today's world is much different than the world in the past with technology and jobs, our problems regarding happiness are universal and are not new at all. Ricard's book gets at this and teaches you how you work at being happy.
Far better than I expected. & not just because James Fallows is awesome
Contentment is not happiness, but rather is a compromise, certainly a matter of degree over those things which you cannot control. Analogically speaking, in emotive terms it raises the floor but does not raise the roof in comparison to starting off from a zero or negative foundation. True it is a beneficial factor for finding happiness, but in the end if you settle for contentment you are essentially settling for less than happiness.
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Amen to the point made at 23:40. Exactly my experience.
Great messages...
I really appreciate Rubin's work. I only balk at her talking about what a go-getter, super-achieving type she is naturally - even an early riser. I so wish there was version of her who has come to this contentment from a place of having to overcome procrastination and fear. Anyone know of someone like this? Oh and BTW everyone should check out Dan Gilbert's stuff too.
I totally understand the make your bed concept.
When it comes to little things it is possible, but for the majority of people in such a situation the likelihood of general happiness is likely improbable.
She sounds like a Virgo. Great talk!
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The purpose of life ? That is to re-created and continue the species and that's about it, folks. Happiness is a shiny trinket that everyone wants easily. So, let's make up five categories... no, four categories (there are always four categories of human beings) so ppl feel better about the kind of live we have to live in order to survive.
It's very bourgeois approach to happiness, not that there's anything wrong with that. I had a different experience for most ofh my life I always had money and didn't really worry about it and then I for several reasons I I lost everything when I was in my fifties. That's when I discovered what it takes to be happy or not and that is to take stock of what you do have which is your mind and how you feel about things your attitude if you focus on what you might consider his loss then that would be your reality if you focus on what you have with you that is still great the greatest value and that would be with you but often it takes show losing everything to understand why people in Haiti don't seem miserable. In essence you must accept death you must accept loss because with every loss that you would like to take the time to wallow in but there's no point.there's a greater loss on its way and there will be another, until you die
Also there is nothing philosophical or scientific about the merits of this discussion lecture, or the practices prescribed. It is more in line with the likes of self help gurus and pseudo psychological babble espoused by the practice of sociological administration. However, don't get me wrong, it is still a good discussion to have and merits worth in the psycho-emotive state of our contemporary culture.
I'd rather watch a video or invest in a book written by psychologists or neuroscientists who do actual studies on this stuff. (And I've learned a whole heck of a lot more from them too!)
Most people who succeed never give enough credit to luck.
crimsonsamuraiftw Compromising if it makes you more happy because you are able to be comfortable with the negativity around you. surely that is a form of happiness??
No that is not happiness, it is complacency, or settling for less than possible happiness. Sure compromise is better than not happy in most situations, but it is also not the same potency as finding true happiness. But I do agree that in the majority of situations affected by external stimuli, that is the most you can likely achieve.
OK, you've covered yourself quite well there. I was going to say that the pursuit of happiness is just a pursuit. The complexity of life and emotions in all situations could mean that you interpret something by being happy or not. One could live a perfectly happy life style with everything provided and set in their life. However, when placed into a position where they are properly tested and pushed to the edge the experience might not be a nice one but they may find that they were in fact happier at that stage of their life because of the thrill and excitement. Or one may miss the feeling of pain. Therefore us Humans are in a way greedy, we can never be truly happy. However, being stable and compromising by exaggerating external factors to make them feel better than they truly are in a very personal and individual sense is finding a form of happiness. For example, lighting a candle that smells good every night. It's just lighting a candle but people will compromise by saying it makes them feel happy. You compromise by saying well I don't have the largest house or the smartest son/daughter but they have these set of skills or our house is very homily. It's compromising and changing the thought processes in your brain to be positive gaining happiness and more importantly being content. To reach full happiness one would have to have a perfect life and if that's the case they're probably deluded and abit of a arrogant cunt which no one would want to hang around with anyway.. this would make you question are they truly happy inside.
crimsonsamuraiftw But I know what you mean by complacency. Many people live inside their comfort zone and do not risk or test themselves for a possible greater happiness just in case it goes the other way for them. For example at the moment I have decided that I would like to make it big as an actor. But that will be extremely costly and time consuming and I may not make it and end up on the street failing. Or I could do a philosophy MA which is more financially achievable and I would enjoy very much and probably get an ok paid job such as a teacher at the end of it. I think I would prefer doing the MA and sticking. I'm being complacent and not pushing myself and therefore not reaching the highest level of happiness I could. I understand what your saying but I think you can find happiness in being complacent with the slight depression of what if. It's better than going for true happiness and then finding myself in a state of absolute depression by failing or even achieving but not finding what I expected and then saying "what if I was complacent?". It's hard.
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I never watch any of these hour videos that are in my liked playlist
I hav a shitty father and helples mother. i am still a dependant. i am not sure if happy tips work for me.
A year passed in a flash = didn't learn much new things in that year. Someone's theory.
Awful introduction. Sloppily edited. And then it opens with "I'm happy here, to be here today". Priceless..
Really tried to read the book but I found it so boring and obvious just like this interview with the author!
angelica mimosa maybe you're just unhappy 😔 😜
This is nothing new. These concepts have been talked about for hundreds of years. Rubin is just packaging it in yet another form and of course, selling selling selling her books.
Navel gazing waste of time. Quantified happiness is phony and shallow.