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Exaaactly

Yall are seriously messed up. Hope you get better.

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Never regretted it but my children never understood. My relationship with them was unique. How grandchildren feel about it is different.

No parent is perfect. If it affects you then you may still not be sure what you did was 100% right. Personally I would rather cut ties with friends than family. Friends marry and go away, family stays forever, even not being perfect or fun as friends.

Brilliant

Walked away from my mother when I was 37, I’m now 68, had a lot of guilt but I knew I had to do it for my soul. She died last November at the age of 95 and I’m ashamed I never shed a tear when I heard, my feelings I had for her disappeared long time ago, I feel bad about that but that’s how it is, Hod bless everyone who reads all these stories and I hope you understand what we all had to do, we had to protect ourselves from a toxic family, a parent that didn’t understand us, thank- you.

I had a professional assessment done this year. They didn’t diagnose me with autism, yet in run around terms said I have autism. Instead she diagnosed me with what I already was (adhd, major depression, anxiety) and added learning disability. In the bottom part, I guess some sort of conclusion of assumptions, she listed a bunch of different things… including prodromal schizophrenia; which I had to look up to find out what it was. That’s definitely not what I have. I don’t see or hear things that aren’t actually real. Out of respect for those that have the condition, I’m not even going to go farther in detail of why I don’t have it nor in beginning stages of it. My mindset is completely different. I do notice details quicker or where others don’t. So maybe that’s where the psyc. got the feel that I might be? Overall I ended up completely upset over the whole thing mainly because they got a lot of the background parts incorrect. Such as I was prescribed medication for adhd in 3rd grade up until high school (which is correct) but quit taking them because they made me feel not myself (which is incorrect). I have always stated that the reason for stopping them is because I thought they might be the reason why I was different than my peers socially. I didn’t talk a lot and had major anxiety when someone came up to ask me small talk questions, basically any questions that required more than one or two words for an answer. I thought the medication might be the reason why. Nope, even though I have learned how to communicate with words a bit better, I still struggle so much socially that I lose capability to speak or avoid situations where it’s expected for people to talk. There’s more of my background they got wrong, but y’all don’t need a list of all that. I’m still so hurt about it. People saying things I’ve said differently than what I’ve said has happened throughout my life. Then when I correct them, they get upset. It’s like, say/words exactly that another says/writes, quit putting in your own words people. Anywho… yeah, doctors of any kind need to listen to their patients. Like they know their body and their tendencies, just maybe not have words or enough words to explain. Then like with me, I can’t do open ended questions, so it would help if doctors can try to find a way to help with that and accommodate by asking very direct questions. And not fast like or in rolling questions, one at a time please 😂 on a positive, yet still social anxiety lurking, note… I recently started going to a peer group. Last week’s session wasn’t good for me because there were food samples and recipe hand outs. This week’s wasn’t bad. We painted rocks. I made mine an alien, because I feel like one myself compared to the rest of the world most of the time. I had to take my rock outside for a bit though, there was too much combined talking from the others that it was hard to think, see, or hear. I don’t want to keep dragging on and I also need sleep. Thanks for letting me ramble here folks 😬 (I shortened quite a bit too because people typically get frustrated or annoyed whenever I actually end up going on talking spells)

I had to go no contact with my Mother for a year in my 20's. She constantly told me I was worthless. I was hardest on my Sister who is a wonderful Sis. When I reconciled with my Mom she treated me better. I ended up moving her in with me and looked after her for many years. So a break can work.

Well you never did say why. So I don't know the severity of what happened. My parents were not perfect and they were hunman beings with problems of their own. I distanced during certain times and went back. I forgive them for all their own problems and love/loved them very much. Miss them too. Parents are human beings also. They make mistakes and suffer greatly for them. Sometimes, children have to be their parents.

Something you said really resonates with me, I too, have a problem identifying the things that are stressing me. Take care of yourself, create a chosen family.

As an autistic I can’t understand why anyone would want this curse

Currently about a 1000 miles away from my mom w/ low contact. One day I will come out to her properly and she'll end it herself. I'm on my fifth year since the move and I get better every day.

I think it's good that in chats, you can't react to reaction emojis, because otherwise I would be compelled to do that 😅

Dad's thankfully dead, and I went no contact with my mother 11 years ago. It saved my sanity, but it has been hard. Thanks so much for this video.

I went no contact in 1973 with multiple family members. Some still alive, some not. Absolutely no regrets.

One day I'm just browsing the why tubes and click on a video where they describe a number of habits/behaviors of autistic people. Wasn't 100% but I left that video feeling personally attacked lol.

It’s been 17 years since I went NC with my mother. Not long ago, it occurred to me that’s she’s a complete stranger to me now and I’m ok with that

This is the video to watch! I will be sharing this with providers, possible autists, and ASD enthusiasts alike. Thank you for creating this-we needed it!

Yes, so relatable 😖😫😩

FYI self diagnosis has a accuracy rating of 75%-80%. Anyways I couldn't care less if someone is self diagnosis purely because of the cost and lack of access. My problem is, there are a number with no test or research. They claim to be autistic, and then push false info. Now this has decreased by a lot over the years. But it's like the "everyone is a little autistic" thing. And you have to watch out for that. This is why even today many of us that seek out info and it can be a bit much. We will flat out ask if they been diagnosed. Luckily I had the ability to be tested when I was a kid. But idk if I would get a full on diagnosis if I had to do it today. There is virtually no benefit

Those who wear glasses are disabled

Love and support to you, Friend

I would love to go no contact but having access to money is honestly worth more than my mental health rn I buy a lotto ticket once a month on the off chance I get lucky and no longer need them for their sole purpose in my life

5+ years of not talking to my "parents" (abusers). I rarely think of them, and feel free without them holding me back ✊

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I went no contact with my dad 8 years ago. I don't even think he cares, if that says anything about why I went no contact in the first place...

I’m in the boat with you buddy. Your have some sad days , but for the most your life gets only better. Keep safe brother know we love you 👍

Mom is on her 4th husband. One of the last times I talked to her she was telling me something about her 4th husband’s 2nd wife. And I said - Mom I don’t care about number 4s number 2. Gasp on the end of the line. Didn’t talk much afterwards.

Well I went "no contact" with my son about 3 years ago. I have no regrets. Tired of the lying, stealing, disrespect, and manipulation. You need to understand that when a parent doesn't want to talk to you either, that you have really crossed a line. A parent, a loving parent, will give you a million chances to be a decent human. I'm not saying that you all have decent parents that really love you, but I'm willing to bet that some of you do, and if they've stopped communication with you as well, then it's maybe something to reflect on.

If you need a show to score a 10/10 in the representation department before offering it praise, then you're not really here for the progress of such underepresented groups. Just the opposite in fact; if studios feel making such shows is like traversing a field of landmines, attracting far too much scrutiny vs making the run-of-the-mill shows/concepts, then there's a chance they'd rather not risk it. Is that the studios fault? Sure, but you're also a contributor. Shows like this aren't even a norm, they're still fringe, because autistic people are still regarded as fringe. Maybe instead of concentrating on the issue, you can make the issue an important caveat. Positive reinforcement and all that.

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I couldn’t choose my parents or siblings. I enlisted in the Navy because it was the only way that I would ever go to college. My parents saw me as a pipe fitter. While in the Navy I was given orders to a Navy SEAL farm command where SEALs got fleet experience with regular Navy at Amphibious Commands. I was NOT a SEAL myself but shared training for certain tasks. I spent a lot of time in the field working with them doing reconnaissance. When I got out of the Navy I was a very different person. My parents and siblings expected me to immediately dive back into my role, allowing them to pass judgment on my life and choices. That didn’t work for me. I got married and they tried to destroy my marriage. I was forced to step away because their expectations were totally unrealistic. They said that my wife and I wouldn’t last 6 months. We celebrated 44 years of marriage yesterday.

I’m coming up on 2 years of no contact with my mother, the narcissist of a brother, and my two oldest siblings that enable him to different degrees. I don’t have any regrets. I’m 62.

This feels targeted at the physical therapist I went to and I was doing some specific exercises she told me to do... I told her they didn't feel comfortable, she checked my posture and just said, "It's supposed to feel that way." McScuse me? How is pain something that's supposed to be there??

I tend to not start something in earnest until I feel like I have a solid plan for how I'll attack it. That said, I am a "SQUIRREL!" moment in action as well. The funny thing is, when I have multiple well thought out plans, I can switch between them like a champ and am seen as a "high performer" 😂. The other end of that spectrum is mental gridlock.

Solitary confinement

Imagine 20+ years of it and where everyone is jealous of you despite having nothing

Thank you for posting. I’m struggling with this right now. I never could have imagined this would happen to me, an only child.

They may have given birth to you, but they're not parents

It took me a long time to go no contact, longer than I’d like to admit. The nervous system thing is so real; for me it’s not so much the anniversary, but the holidays. Every year, when October is over, I completely shut down. It always catches me by surprise, even though I’ve been aware of this pattern for ages and usually things are going okay. I fall apart in November, and just hang on for dear life until January. Then it lets up and things slowly go back to normal. It’s the weirdest thing. I’ve tried everything to mitigate it - trauma work/therapy, vitamin D supplements, exercise, journaling, meditation…doesn’t matter how prepared I am, it just always happens.

That's a lot of fluffy words to rationalize your selfishness and inability to put situations in boxes. Call your parents. If they want to start something negative, just put it in a box and keep it there. You're just weak and weak minded. "My momma and daddy said bad things.". You didn't come with an owner's manual when you were born. They probably winged it the best they could. Grow up and say hi. Stop snivelling like a big baby.

4 years for me

I cut off my aunt and uncle recently (very small close family) when she came out as a terf and stopped having any chance of being safe for me.

Hard as that is,now imagine going 20yrs and having a court say they will be in your kid's life. Yup, it happened in 300th district court in tx where all rights are fuzzy. There's no right to estranged in the law

My mom left my sperm donor when i was a toddler and I decided that i was better without him in my life, it's odd to me that would accept and understand my story but not that of people who have firsthand with the parent(s) in question. It might be hard to fathom not wanting to have your family in your life but instead of condemning count your blessings that you were never forced to make such a heartbreaking decision.

I went no contact with my older sister. She passed away a few years ago and I was a little worried I would regret it but I never did. I loved her and because I went no contact I was able to hold onto the love I still had. She died of alcohol related liver failure. I didn't go to her funeral either. Glad I missed that too. The celebrated her by getting drunk and dumping alcohol on her grave. I have no regrets.

I saw a trailer for this movie a few days ago and it made me feel kinda icky. There was definitely a strong sense of "look, the autistic behaviors go away, we're fixing the autism!". It makes me sad to hear that I was right about that assumption. And it seems like there are a lot of missed opportunities as well. It would have been so great to have a movie about an autism parent, who learns to accept that they are actually an autistic parent. And while really unlikely, I think the dads need for hugs and eye contact could have been an example of unusual sensory needs, I mean if you have met one autistic person, you have met one of us. I for example absolutely to be surrounded by bright colours and intricate patterns. It would have been cool to see father and son navigate those clashing needs and find a middle ground that works for both of them.

Wow! This is really helpful. Is it possible that this relates to physical skills, too? I have recently been diagnosed with FND. I feel like this could be driven by the same thing.

Heartfelt recognition of your choice to show up to yourself! ❤