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Confessions of a Blusher
Добавлен 28 апр 2015
When I was 14 years old I had my first blushing event. Now, at the age of 40, I've had enough of blushing - an awful social phobia.
The last two years of my life have been a roller coaster! First losing my nest egg of a couple of million pounds (but please don't shed a tear as it was all my fault), then being diagnosed with a tumour in my neck. I'm now back, but my dream of becoming a success is being hampered by my social anxiety. I've suffered with this "problem" for nearly 30 years, doing my very best to avoid interviews, meetings & pretty much any social situation where I don't feel in control. Well in fact I was in control, but it was the wrong control.
So today, 28th April 2015, I decided to visit my local doctor and speak with her about what I need to do to rid myself of this.
Thanks:
Best surgeon ever Mr David Baldwin in Bristol;
Dr Sue Beckers GP Charmouth Medical;
Cognitive therapy with Steps2Wellbeing in Dorchester;
Casterbridge Speakers in Dorchester.
The last two years of my life have been a roller coaster! First losing my nest egg of a couple of million pounds (but please don't shed a tear as it was all my fault), then being diagnosed with a tumour in my neck. I'm now back, but my dream of becoming a success is being hampered by my social anxiety. I've suffered with this "problem" for nearly 30 years, doing my very best to avoid interviews, meetings & pretty much any social situation where I don't feel in control. Well in fact I was in control, but it was the wrong control.
So today, 28th April 2015, I decided to visit my local doctor and speak with her about what I need to do to rid myself of this.
Thanks:
Best surgeon ever Mr David Baldwin in Bristol;
Dr Sue Beckers GP Charmouth Medical;
Cognitive therapy with Steps2Wellbeing in Dorchester;
Casterbridge Speakers in Dorchester.
#9 Panik attack on toastmasters stage, plus confrontation phobia
The woes continue BUT progress is being made
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#6 Blushing anxiety panic attack, my progress
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I'm getting there, as a public speaker, competent communicator, fully functioning member of society. If you were suffering how I suffered, for 26 or so years, there is hope.
#2 Blushing and cognitive therapy CBT, first steps
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I've been a little busy the past few months with the beginning of my CBT, just started out at Toastmasters in Dorchester, about to make a more conscious attempt to update this RUclips channel. Please don't translate my lack of videos as laziness...lots of work is going on in the background with me trying to understand this condition more and more. Otherwise I'm going to be in no fit position to...
#1 Blushing - Coming out
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Aftermath of my first visit to my local doctor regarding my blushing problem.
Your videos are really inspiring. I really hope you continue to make these. I think socially anxiety is a super long commitment to fix. With each victory there is a new lesson. I'm sure the more you work with these things the more the answers will come to you. Please keep making more videos. You are helping hundreds of people.
I think you could try taking 40mg of Propranolol, its the only medication that really helped calm down my nerves and adrenaline response (which causes flushing). It’s pretty safe to take long term so your doctor will prescribe it without too much questioning. I would also recommend you to start a decent skincare regime (look into stuff which Rosacea sufferers use because symptoms are similar), and use SPF 50 everyday, because the sun can cause inflammation etc. I totally empathise with what you are going through, it’s made my life hell and i’ve got constant anxiety about talking to people. Please try Propranolol I want you to get some relief!
You didn’t look nearly as bad as you felt brother. Keep facing that dragon 👊🏻
Do more vids !
hey, how are you doing my man
how you doing buddy?
Something I learned to do when I am feeling anxious is to breathe into my balls. You probably heard of people telling you to take deep breaths into your stomach. But instead try to take deep breaths into your balls. Trust me it works
You are THE MAN. Sir you got balls I look up to you. Just remember you will overcome this anxiety and fear and you overcoming your fear will help many people like me overcome our fears. You're a hero
Very brave. I hate the awkwardness that comes with it. Look up iblush on fb.
i felt that. i hope you are doing better now :)
I’m in the exact same boat too !,
I can only sympathise with you Jennifer, I went over to turtle neck tops and it was a great psychological start. I then became more forward in meetings, a little like acting the part but inside as nervous as hell, and slowly moving forward.
Please join "iblush" facebook group...great group!...everyone in there shares this struggle. Very supportive family for blushers!
Fucking good on you for getting up there. I know I couldn’t do it again. Seriously some of the most traumatic times I’ve had in recent months dealing with this constant panic
Good for you man. You have real balls to put yourself up there and to put this on RUclips. I've also used Toastmasters to help with my SAD. All power to you brother, keep going!
Mate if it’s any consolation If you hadn’t of said you were blushing you would never know ... you are absolutely normal buddy Wish you nothing but happiness
How r things nowadays mate? I’m really struggling at the moment and don’t know what to do. Excessive blushing is seriously affecting my career and I completely dread work.
Matt sorry to hear that, sounds familiar. At the moment I'm trying to keep my head up and re-brand myself, so I've moved country. I started to wear turtle neck tops and that helped immensely because it took attention away from my neck so maybe try that. I'm trying to stop fighting this, learning to adapt to it, accept that it's a part of me. Maybe start with that, along with becoming a new you? For example I fidget less now, when I speak with people I try to be more composed. Change comes slowly.
Please join "iblush" facebook group...great group...everyone in there shares this struggle.
Hope you post more videos, it's a long journey that I struggle with myself. However, I do see some progress in you compared to the first video. keep it up and don't give up!
Cheers Gabriel and all the best to you!
The anxiety may be strong, but so is the bravery! (Sorry that sounded less cheesy in my head)
could you please make some new videos?
damn, I wasn't gonna go to toastmasters because I thought it was all professionals, adults, normal people without anxiety, but now I think I need to go if you can do it.
I really appreciate your videos. I can relate to practically everything you discuss (social anxiety, fear of speaking, blushing, etc). They have helped me feel less alone in my own struggles. Hope you keep sharing!
Hope it's going well for you Marie :-)
omg literally me today at the class presentation . but it was 10 times worse . thank you for posting this now I know Im not alone
You're not alone I have the same problem, it didn't start for me till later in life, early 20's. I just started a new job and if anyone approaches me I turn red and I can sense they notice it so it makes me more red. No one says anything but I feel like people socialize with me less because of it. I'm trying to learn to embrace it, I really need to join a group to practice combating it.
Sorry to hear that Joanne, it's a tough thing to battle as we can't take a pill for it :-(
Join "iblush" fb group
yeah im 38 had it since i was 13 it fuckin sucks!!!! i feel ya dude
ETS surgery cures blushing completely
Is it dangerous
I've been there...and I feel the pain.
I'm still going through it, still going through this nightmare, but still hopeful that one day I'll be a confident person!
You are a legend! Honestly buddy, I admire your persistence!
Thank you Hassani!
I know the feeling. Even if you are correct about everything you are talking about, the blushing still comes out and you feel stupid, which makes it even worse. Keep it up sir, thanks for the videos.
face your problem, head on, and turn it into a positive experience. It's a lot of work, hard work, but you'll get there if you don't give up.
thank you for posting this. This helps me to go back and stick with it seeing how you combated your fear even after some really trying times.
it's a pleasure :-)
I have started back at University. I am a 39 year old female. I am scared to death of group work and presenting. I started toastmasters but it was very painful for me to do it. I did some table topics and totally blushed my face off and bombed. I guess I am just going to have to go through it.
It is extremely painful, exposing this "weakness" to other people. You made the step to visit Toastmasters and that's great, however whatever you do DO NOT stop otherwise it's a continual cycle, a self-fulfilling prophecy. In fact if you have more clubs in your area, join two.
I have the same thing
sorry to hear that buddy. are you doing anything to combat it?
Please join "iblush" facebook group...great group...everyone in there shares this struggle.
Good effort mate! Your videos are brilliant and really help! Glad you are getting on with your life.
Thank you Tom! Slowly getting there, videos are there to help and encourage because it's a terrible thing to suffer from.
Great story !!!!!!!!!!!!!!