Видео

Simple acts of charity or helping others can often be the best key to getting ones mind off of itself. It opens the heart up and can relieve pressure on the mind, and gets the focus off of oneself and by giving your also recieving. It promotes self love in a good way because by taking care of yourself you can provide for others and puts your problems in a true-er light.....🙏🏽🙏🏻🙏🏾

I am 65 and a severe bpd and am having an anxiety attack from this video, because I have never felt so seen.

‘Click on’ “more” above to read the video description. The video is a depiction and the ‘patient’ is an actor.

I cried a bit watching this because I could relate so much to the patient. I'm sick of pretending to be okay all the time. I need to address this.

Narcissists and Borderlines don't have empathy. That's why they don't think others have authentic emotions. And they project their lack of empathy onto others. (Thus, "You're mocking me.")

This therapist has set it up that the therapist is having to explain and “sell” the patient on therapy. These two should just start therapy!

Perfect spot on!!

this doctor is 100% npd , full blown npd

I encountered some people like this. 😂 some you can see through right away, some it's hidden until you close enough that you can see their true nature. I really amaze with therapists who able handle them while maintaining their own sanity 😂

Yeomans is world class

Being a therapist is so tough.

Whenever someone says "evidence based" with no further elaboration is when your alarm bells should start to ring. It doesn't mean anything. It doesn't relay any idea of the actual evidence - most often because there isn't any. This is psychiatry in a nutshell. Transference may be helpful, but be watchful of such basically dogmatic statements. They are akin of snake oil salesmen. Edit: Yeah, seems like snake oil and victim blaming once again. It comes from a well meaning place but is fundamentally flawed in the end.

How about that wig!! and the blubber!! He needs to go to the gym, clean up, he looks smelly.

When he said that he is a failure, I felt it. Yes I would say to myself too, I am a failure

The wig is killing me

Yes but bpd and narcasim are torally different. Bpd sufferers want to gave fruendssustainmartiages vutthere emitions osrinua suspecious besd gets in wsy if relationship, rarely naybe only 1.11/ percent of if people with BPD wiuld hurt soneone Where psyycopaths dont care who they hurt abd why

I have to take breaks to watch this video, thats how cringe it is. Very informative though, never saw a live session. *scratches eyeballs out*

Trying to build barriers every sentence...

Can hear this psychiatrist knows meanwhile the overwhelming frustration of a non receptive loved one is itself an issue of the same intensity

You made this wayyyyy too complicated! They’re unfortunately still children stuck in a world of lies. Giving them an out by validating any of their bullshit is not helpful. CBT and DBT are definitely better than TFP. It really seems like a great way to make money off of adult children who are suffering. I’m sure you’re very successful in your field of psychology and that’s very sad to me.

Interesting. Are you measuring effectiveness in neurodiverse people as well?

Interesting subject, as I watch the horrors of war, the horrific senseless ordeals and deaths of civilians, I can’t help but think about how such experiences affects their mental states, like those survivor of Hitlers death camps, or people who are abused as children in one way or another, who develop various emotional disorders, etc etc…we pass on our pain to others, like a disease, like alcohol is used to forget, only to make then a alcoholic or drug addiction…it’s a mad mad mad world where people pass on their experiences to the next generation….tragically, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, Peace !

I’m hearing: “I want to be aware but I don’t want to go through the discomfort of difficult emotions that being aware we require. I want to see but my defenses keep me from looking.”

Oh, for more human beings like this wise man.

It's incredible that people get married to those with BPD. After living with one for 4 months I can't stand it any longer.

Trained by the master Otto Kernberg,M.D.

Does anyone else agree...that was exhausting to watch.

Thank you Doctor. This is the most concise and clear description I've ever heard of what I have been dealing with in my own marriage for the past thirty eight years. I cannot tell you how much it means to have a framework described that makes sense of the chaos and needless pain.

As a patient I would not be ready to open up to a person who is this detached. Somehow the communication is very much "in the head", I do not feel heart. Even if the therapist is not explicitly judgemental, it feels like he is implicitly judgemental. He has this "I am OK you are not OK" attitude typical of psychiatrists working in closed psychiatric wards.

This was excellent.

A lot of talk and nothing said.

Minimization, defelection, starting to get angry at frank and that will happen. Denial attempting to use projective identification and devaluation of frank. Minimization of harming others. Blameshifting will take a long time to reduce maybe. Nice splitting of therapist is bad frank may be bad. He may never reach all this stuff he projects he owns.patient is bodering on you trying to control everyting and ask for a warantee

Wish it could work doc. But I can not be ok with my current living situation in the western world. And there is no carot in the western world for me any longer not that there ever was not one day from child all my mind and mouth asked was why and how and the reply given never reached any point of unification in my soul. So now what did we see the gays given in our time??? Now what will my people receve so we can just do away with the whole BPD thing cuz major change in my reality would have to physicly change on paper as well so that us sensiteve people have our voices herd in the court of law just like a murderer someone that hurts another human emotionaly beyond reasonable moral huamn decency then ya voices need to be hered feelings destroy minds and lifes like bulets dud you not hear the pin is might like the sward. IDK a smart guy sead that but what do i know i cant spell im bipolar and now looks like a hard hard BPD diagnosis i need no dictor to see that its just the coz of it incan put my finger on like he not willing to do he wants to maintain this condition for who his pocket the church the government the schools ? Obviously a man would fix the hole in the dam replace the dam before building another dam down stream hopping the people in the valley bellow wont die and drown? Smart man cant spell but so smart look at me brain.

This made me cry. Because this is exactly how I feel & what I struggle with. And it sucks. It’s so sad 😞 I hate it

The fact that he likes to have sex with men is a socially acceptable mental illness.

Flaming narcissist.

He's judging the therapist for psychoanalyzing him. But that's the entire purpose of it. To figure out what makes the person's mind tick. If you take a person's words at face value, that's how you become manipulated. If you really want to know why a person does what they do, you have to be able to understand how their mind works. The definition of why you would psychoanalyze someone. His feeling of judgement and criticism is probably a strong indicator of having a personality disorder. Even when it's just pointing out obvious observations in how he conducts himself and interacts with the world around him

Therapist really needs nerves of steel for this.

You,ve give us a very comprehensive picture of TFP . Thank you so much Dr Yeomans !

"I'll take that into account" sent me😂

Obviously, I don't know what had happened before that exact session but am I the only person that felt that although the patient was quite rude about it, he was right that the doctor had jumped all too easily into labelling his substance use and sex behaviours as problematic? I think it's quite hard to establish a productive client-therapist relationship when the latter takes such a strong stance and puts his promiscuity in opposition to having fulfilling emotional connections so easily. Moreover, when Dr Yeomans admits that he's frustrated with the client, wouldn't it be helpful to assure him at the same time that it's therapist's own emotions, not an objective judgement of the situation and it's more about the way the patient has worded his disagreement than the fact that he disagrees itself?

When i was in the full grips of BPD, my emotions WERE ME. They determined hpw i saw myself and others and the world around me. My emotions HAPPENED TO ME. My emotions were bogger than me and controlled me. Now, i have a healthy relationship with my emotions. They still feel bigger than they should at times, but i see how they are something i experience and can manage, rayher than being controlled by. I value my emotions and listen to them now but create space between myself and my emotions. Now, i know who i am and that my emotions are like the varying trees in my inner landscape of self. Or the colours.

My life has became a hell after the state i am in criminalized cluster B. I simply cannot be myself. I am boiling and imploding inside because expressing my anger can get me some serious 30 years jailtime meaning life sentence. I have been warned about it by some cop. I want to express my anger. I can't hold it in anymore. And people think that i am harmless when they intentionally play on my triggers. Oh man, they better watch out. I am the type of person that does not fear death and can't stand humiliation.

Yes, i am 34 yo and i am at extremes in both love and hate. And because i am also histrionic i sometimes have periods of one week or two when my feelings are mild to totally muted.

And you are right about one thing which is Borderline being comorbid with Bipolar more often than people would think.

That is Borderline comorbid to Histrionic not narcissistic.

where is the best schema therapy traiing?

I would personally say, the therapist body lenguage ( I admire this man and his work btw ) but his body posture from what I’ve been studying is a posture that speaks superiority.. I’m not sure if I’m an unconscious level it’s sending some message if I’m better than you or superior in position in this situation… which I guess could be triggering for a person with narcissism on an unconscious level and not help to establish a connection. I’m taking into account also, this is a simulation but just my view..

So grateful to be on the other side of Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome. I THANK MY THERAPIST for telling me that I had been viscously narcissistically abused and didn’t know it…. Get away from these people and get a life worth living

The worst thing about this is that it won't just come alone it causes more mental suffering such as anxiety and depression and other disorders like sleeping disorder or eating disorder. At such level the disorder becomes even more rooted and hard to cure