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Perhaps that is why bdsm resistance is appealing.

Men outgrowing porn.

Yeah I went to a tantra weekend and there was some blokes who felt very unsafe.

Yeah, I found that jiu jitsu solved inner wounds of male rejection and previous wounds and trauma.

Do many years PMO develop OCD

This is an awesome video! God designed us to be a gift to others. Jason's story and others' stories of transformation are gifts to the world.

relate to this quite a bit even though I'm a woman

Chris, you really inspire me. Thank you very much.

I was just looking at another of your posts but comments weren't allowed for some reason. The one about appropriate nudity between men. I was utterly dumbfounded after hearing your self righteous opinions that after about ten minutes l had to close it down. What a load of hypocritical, homophobic, god bothering nonsense you come out with. You really don't live in the real world at all & it's so deflating to see people like yourself still preaching your outdated, holier than thow, stupid garbage dressed up like a bunch of beautiful roses. Haven't you got anything better to do than churn out show after show of your offensive egotistical bile? You're so perfect aren't you? Straight, married, christian, white man living a 'normal' life so pure. Don't go near the gays, don't live a single life, don't look at naked bodies, just repent & tell others where they're going wrong. Really? You are so see through. You only fill your channel up with more & more posts because you know other idiots who believe what you preach will click on them ultimately making you more money. Repeating what the church does with every collection bucket. I bet you voted for Trump too. Cos he's so truthful & pure..... Unbelievable!!

How is a sail boat an alternative to sexual pleasure? Its an impossible message. Orgasm might be a narrow pleasure but its a huge one... Also, being single doesn't mean someone has an extra capacity to be mindful and enjoy other pleasures: you can 'get creative' with pleasure even if you're having sex...

I would not say absolutely addiction to rainwear however I cannot lie; it is exciting to me. It is a long story just as you have described to us about your love of teeth and braces. I actually have a subscriber to my channel that is completely consumed by his braces: is is all he writes about. All that said I have found several things about myself: 1) spending time in the word of God reading practically ways to lessen the "love" for shiny clothing. 2) talking to my spouse about the way I am. She does fall one way or the other on the subject. 3) guide my life into a constructive place. What I mean by that is stay away from fetish clubs and organizations in the city that specialize in this. 4) finally stay away from porn as much as I can. You will go to Walmart and turn the corner and see a pretty young women on a rain coat. I just caught myself and just move on. You cannot dwell on place you stumble. I really enjoyed you video. You truly understand how the mind works.

Today has been a though day with tentation but hearing you has been so helpful and reliefeable, gracias

I have been married 40 years. The wife is just too tied to do anything. I on the other hand am very active. I am unhappy i am living two different lives now. I am cheating on my wife with another person which is me. I suspect this is just as sinful as if i had a real women on the side.

If only the ex-gay movement had taught "own your identity" instead of "become someone God didn't design you to be"!

I’m glad to be taking his course. He’s a wonderful coach and mentor. Super blessed to have met Jason Mellard.

I know from experience that you never find your true identity until you can identify with Christ. Since I got saved in '07, I have retired so many "masks" and I have never been more content being my SELF.

Wonderful discussion! Yes, we are masculine men now; we need to own our own masculinity.

Came back to this 4 years later to relisten. This is great! ❤❤

Great video btw

OMG just come out Jesus Christ. you use God and your bible as a shield to comer up your sexuality. Also, you always get married have kids so you can cover up your homosexuality, point blank!!!

I shared so much with your story Trent! From finding porn early to dealing with my mother’s imperfections! Thanks for sharing and you earned my subscription!

Your testimony was very impactful, Trent. Hard story to tell but you have so much strength. Thank you!

Good topic. I think it's important to note that he was almost forced into being vulnerable. So many messages tell us to do stuff but never take into consideration the journey it took for them to get to where they could do it. I could be wrong though. Maybe I misunderstand.

Thanks for sharing Trent, that must've been very scary 👏🏼

I get a lot of what she says

The Bible is pornographic... if most of the stories were made in film, XXX and NC-17 would be the rating

I’m in no way attracted to myself. In fact, if I saw “me” on the street I wouldn’t give me a second glance 🤷‍♂️

The interviewer is weak and overly focused on his image.

You have wives who understand......many of us don't and we live in fear.

I had a relapse last night feeling like crap I hate this roller coaster 😫😣

You did a very good job and hearing this from a predominant straight guy is affirming

This is honestly THE BEST MESSAGE IVE HEARD ON THIS STUFF!!!! It’s said in live but it’s said !!!!! Thank you so so much!!!!! This needs to go to EVERY couple in need ❤🙌🙏🏻

This is incredible well done 💯👌🏽🎯

Remarkably detailed and honest. A lot of good-hearted men get pulled in. You've learned a lot in this business and thanks for sharing it.

Great video, very much appreciated. Sobering reminder that the vagus nerve is the same regardless of sex or trauma.

I've been longing to ask this question for quite a while. How do you tell the difference between unwanted sexual attractions and OCD?

Beautiful sermon Drew, God bless you

Love this episode!! what a blessing for me 👏👏👏

There is a difference between being bullied routinely as many men are when they are younger than the bully and being BULLIED that never ceases because you don't outgrow what makes you a target like being gay, different ethnicity or race, different religion, handicap, personality trait, etc. it's disingenuous for a lot of men to say they were bullied as if it meant anything compared to what others have gone through.

One of the best I've ever heard on this subject. Well done Drew! God worked through you powerfully . I visited Kush/Sudan last year.. beautiful place and people let's pray for them

I have quit porn a long time ago. But I have never told them about my struggles.

As a "person" lol who struggles with SSA, what I really like is how HM apply the same concepts many of us use to heal to people who don't have SSA. It provides amazing insight. I've learned from doing men's work with both men with SSA and straight men that it is amazing how they express their fears and hurts deeply and similarly--although in different directions. Similar wounds with straight men are extremely varied. CAUTION: I do caution that this video could be misleading in that i think it is flawed to think that SSA is the same as OSA just a different gender. And while men with SSA dont' have a monopoly on childhood wounds, initiation, or father wounds. Obviously many more men with SSA experience these and have a deep wound in their gender identity. And obviously being wounded and sexualizing the wound is another thing as well. (Think you guys recognize this but I just think the caution is necessary.) I liked the way Drew Boa brought up the nudity video. It seemed as if men with SSA were being a tad bit shamed on that topic. there is nothing wrong with reliving an experience. It is just that with everything there is a limitation and the solution is not always found in the way we think. Body image wounds may be healed in other affirmative ways--no need to just lament as if there is no other way to heal it. Sometimes we do need to just surrender. Nothing will fix our deepest wounds on this side of God's Kingdom.

I'm calling these guys out. What a stinking heap of hot garbage. It's the same tripe being served up by other 'Christian' predators who project their self-hatred onto other men. These aren't 'bad' men, but they're wounded men who try to take on other men's work because it's easier than doing their own. DON'T BUY INTO IT! In one way or another EVERY kid is bullied or preyed upon. Kids are ruthless and those who are the most insecure and shame ridden often lash out whenever they sense vulnerability in others. The guys who torment other guys do so to project their self-loathing outward. There were two notable mean bastards in my class at school who were known to 'hang out'. One day after school one of their football teammates stopped by for a visit. He walked inside through the unlocked door (oops) and found them barely in their underwear and all over each other. Big surprise. NOT! Well into my 60s now I've heard more than a few similar stories. To these 'Husband Material' guys; there's nothing wrong with you! There's nothing wrong with US! There's nothing wrong with guys at any age letting off some steam and having some fun and bonding with other guys! It isn't 'gay'. It's just 'guy'! Consuming pornography is normal! Solo or buddy masturbation is normal and healthy! What isn't healthy is guilt tripping ourselves and others. Can we just get over ourselves and move on? We have critical work to do right now (like defending our democracy).

I love you Drew Boa. What an amazing message. You are an amazing placeholder for so many men seeking healing and freedom from sexual brokenness, because although you truly sit with/walk with/run up beside them, you always make it about Jesus!

This was excellent, well put together, and encouraging. Thank you!

This was so good Drew. Praise the Lord.

LOVE this sermon! For all who are eunuchs, Jesus sees you and acknowledges your presence, and your struggle. Matthew 19:11-12

🥹🥹🥹 Sooooo good!!!! 🔥🔥🔥

Such a great sermon, D! 26:20 "Some of you know what it's like when the place you hoped would heal you only deepens your shame." Sadly, the ex-gay movement was that place for many SSA guys.

Very powerful message, Drew