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Same here I feel you wish you can fix my family

You are quite spot on with identifying negative and narcissistic behaviors common with Asian parents and families.

If they are hiding it, it's an affair.

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Thank you so much all great information.

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My "emotional affair"... Background - Been with my wife for 4 years and I love her so very much. We have each two children from our priors. Two years ago my now 22-year-old daughter suffered a severe emotional break while at College and I also learned at that moment she was also addicted to Delta 8 vape drugs. I had no idea. Nonetheless, she was suffering from severe psychosis, suicidal tendencies, etc. I had to have her admitted and she's been in and out of facilities for 2 years trying to get her life together. During that time my mom also passed in my arms. It was extremely hard on me and I found myself emotionally vulnerable. I felt like my current wife wasn't really there supporting me like I needed. In turn, I started talking to my ex about our daughter and her therapy. Mind you, I never once crossed any lines and talked about us, or anything flirtatious, I never paid her any compliments, or discussed our past, etc. Our discussions were 100% about my dying mom or daughter in rehab. Still, my wife got upset and asked me to stop talking to my ex about those things. I did not believe I was doing anything wrong and I certainly wasn't doing anything with ill intent or a malicious behavior or trying to hide it. Eventually I got the message and I stopped talking to my ex about those things. I even put up very strong boundaries and told her I would not talk to her about such things any longer. Sadly, the damage was done and my wife claimed I was having an emotional affair for talking to my ex about those things. Never in a million years did i believe i was doing anything unethical or cheating. I despise cheaters! Nonetheless, we've been to couples therapy almost weekly for about 2 years now and she just will not let it go. Our therapist has said I've gone 'above and beyond'. She threatens me with divorce almost weekly because of it, gives me silent treatment weekly and I don't know what else to do. This is irrelevant but we live in a big, beautiful home, and she has never had to pay a single $1 for anything, we fly anywhere she wants to go for weekend trips, I do all the cooking, I have maids that do the cleaning and landscapers, etc. I try so hard to make her happy and repent, but she threatens me weekly with divorce. This is crushing me.

Everything I am going through 😢

I have tried to learn Mandarin secretly from my Chinese in-laws and shared what I learned. Unfortunately, I had a whole hour of lecture on how bad accent I have is disrespectful and how I should not speak in Mandarin in front of them and others 😢 After 3 grandchildren still disputes me because I am not Chinese. It is very sad and a waste of years, and instead of flowerishing relationships and happiness, we still have conflicts. Therefore, I do not see her anymore. My only advice of almost 20 years of relationship is to meet your in-laws first before marry!!!!!!!! Luckily, my husband and I are in the same team support each other.

Well done

I agree with you, But i my question is, that after so much cheating around us and so much problems and mental unstable about not cheating, Isn't monogamy is just a fake picture? I feel that monogamy is just a fantasy of none active sexual people. Monogamy for me is like forcing all soldiers who come back from the war should not have PTSD, 89% of women's suffered sexual harassments and many men's suffered many things in our past. Living with sex addiction some times i feel its a gift more than a curse, because i gave attention to women's are totally ignored by society because they have kids, or they are over weight or because they are short or tall or any other reasons, I feel that i helped more than hurt women's, except when they fall in love that is a conversation I mention to each one of them but you can see how they are alone and they need attention. I believe society makes so much damage that at the end we blame the cheaters and not the violent partner, I know hundred of women's that they forgive their partner to kick them in the ground every day but never being cheated.

“How to create a problem for your wife and bravely solve it over years” No, you don’t need to tell if you had an emotional affair. It will not make any good.

Therapist's men. Never allow your spouse to talk to a man as shell later start to talk about how good he is...thats the end of your relationship. 💯

Good definition.

Agreed

Questions about affairs. 1 Is it turth that Not every affair involves sex. ARE still affair or do people need sex for affair or cheating to happen ur not 2 can people have affair or Cheat on someone without having no sex 3 .If i was dating Morgan i starting seeing my ex boyfriend Stephen start to make emotional attachment to Stephen i when i know him from school to college by texting him and meeting up and talking to Stephen on phone and thinking about him and watching films with him without never never having no sex ? Is it emotional cheating

Same here in my family

Why do men cheat? First you need to separate the different types of men/guys. This post will describe the 2 main types. 1) So called "Bad Boys" aka conquerors, 2) The True Loyal faithful guys/men aka Lovers. The "Bad boy conqueror" is less likely to be committed to relationship while The "True loyal faithful guys" are all in for committed relationships. The term "Nice guy" is deceptive as both use it, The "bad boy/conqueror" will appear nice to get the female and then use her. The "True loyal Guys/lovers" use it to get the female but seeks deep relationship with her. A "Bad boy" will show his true deceptive nature while The "True Loyal Guys" will show and keep his true nature. Again "Bad boys" will use deception and "Nice Guy" to gain/use while The "True loyal guy" will be a"Nice guy" but will also have some"Bad boy" tendencies in him (Not to cheat, hurt etc....) But to protect his woman/kids. Men are conquerors which is about numbers and gain but not all men, some men/guys are or want to be lovers just as the loving female, they want/seek to become 1 with their partner. The "Bad boy" has messed with the female mind and we see what is happening today, The True loyal Guy seeks to clear the female mind so she can go back to who she truly was made to be. @Lia Huynh, LMFT Therapist

Thank you for this insight. It’s very helpful .

Thank you

Absolutely accurate description of what actually is an emotional affair and what are the steps necessary to take to recover from it. It's the most apt video for someone whose partner is in denial to make their partner understand. It is one of the most difficult and devastating experience for the partner who is cheated on . Thank you 🙏

Healthy communication, empathy, and understanding can help resolve conflicts without damaging the relationship.

Instead of arguing, couples should focus on finding solutions.

Amazing video. Thank you.

Very good video. Thank you

Excellent, excellent content should have seen your site 20 years ago😀

Thank you for the video. Im so desperately looking for a solution. I 100% agree with everything you said but no matter what I do I cannot find a solution for my wife's and my arguing. Its always the small stuff. Like you mentioned it starts out with something like forgetting the eggs but instead of just being annoyed she reacts with this intense anger which I defend. I never ever mean to hurt her in any way but sometimes life happens and I cant just take a time machine back and fix it. I really wish all she did was get annoyed but typically the default is to jump into yelling. I dont know what to do or how to escape the situation. We have been fighting like this for 5 years and just like in your video I try to tell her its not what you say but the tone. Its always just the tone that triggers me. No matter what I cannot talk to her about a solution and she refuses to acknowledge that the tone has anything to do with it. Its always 100% my fault and if I cant handle her tone its ecause Im not "man enough" or Im just "too sensitive". We can never actually get to the real issue because the argument gets turned into how she yelled at me and then she defends that I dont care about her feelings and will never change. Even sometimes in public places she just randomly lashes out about somethig small and yells so loud that people turn around and look at us. Its extremely embarrasing and I am left feeling in a situation like Im stuck between 2 options that are both bad. Either I just let it go and look like a weak little B*$& or I get angry and fight back making me look like a typical angry male monster which she can play victim. Its a lose lose for me no matter what.

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Truly Asian trait. Family first always.

fantastic advice, so helpful!!

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Good content

Thank you! Very informative!❤

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So very good! I continue to be in this situation and your words and suggestions were very helpful.

correctly explained.

This is exactly what I’m going through. Any chance you do virtual therapy sessions? I am desperate for help.

Simple solution: if you can’t stand them then don’t marry him.

The reason why men cheat is because most women are abusive and men become desperate and settle for abusive women. And the sad thing is most of these women don't realize they are abusive because they lack empathy. For example most women think being polite is "if you have nothing nice to say then say nothing at all" but men don't want their but kissed and they don't want the silent treatment either. Also those are forms of abuse called toxic positivity and emotional neglect. And victims of those kinds of abuse often become alcoholics and commit SUlClDE. Also most women don't understand that men have evolved to be providers and aren't happy in the relationship if they aren't allowed to do their job. As a result most women refuse to let their man do anything for them and expect men to be grateful. And as a result men cheat. Your advice is bad. You clearly don't understand that men aren't women.

I really needed that video so bad! I hated when my parents argue all over small things such as: Clothes, food, forget to do things, and other small things. Even my mom yell at me all over I drop a candy wrap, like seriously used your nice words not yell at me to do so. So yeah, if I have a girlfriend/wife, or even kids even though I don't know no kids. I will never argue or yell at them for small things. Rather deal with big things. That's why I take a break to go to my friend's house on the weekend sometime, or even I go on the walk around the neighborhood to help me clam down to get a break from the argument. Also I listened to music and listened to ASMR help me clam down!

I loved my wife and thought she was the most beautiful woman in the world. I still feel this way. I fully intended to spend the rest of my life with her. I never had any trouble getting laid before I met her and could get sex anytime I wanted from any woman I pursued. Her and I had lots of sex while dating and for the first few years of our marriage. Once we had kids, that slowly came to an end. Once or twice a month was all she was up for and I was just supposed to accept that. Well, after about 10 years of little to no sex and not being able to communicate my needs to her, I ran out of patience and I started going to massage parlors to get hand jobs once or twice a week. I loved my wife and didn't want to "cheat" or leave our marriage so this was my solution. I eventually moved on to escorts once or twice a week. I think it's important to say that I never met any of these women that were even close to or even half as beautiful/intelligent/wonderful as my wife. These women met my need for sex and that was it, and they really didn't do a very good job at that, but it was more than I got from my wife. I'm not proud of this but saw it as the only way to stay in my marriage. I'd rather have sex with my wife, but again, she was too busy and didn't see it as a priority. I was good to her, she didn't have to work, I bought her anything and everything she wanted, we traveled the world, I sent her flowers at least once a month, surprised her with random gifts, helped out around the house, flirted with her, complimented her and expressed my appreciation for her every single day- I am genuinely attracted to her and enjoy sex with her. With the exception of the lack of sex, we had an excellent friendship/marriage. We got along great and enjoyed each other's company. We were perfect for each other in every way. I would have done anything to have sex with her, just her, I didn't ever want anyone else. Nothing worked. I don't think women realize how important sex is for men. It's like being hungry and needing to eat. It's easy to say, "You don't need sex" but that is like saying to a hungry person, "You don't need to eat". I would do anything for my wife, I truly love her, but I need sex like any human being needs food. Our kids are in college now and I'm divorcing her after 23 years of marriage. I'm sad for her because she is beautiful to me, but she is in her 40's and will probably have a hard time finding a good man to spend the rest of her life with. Everyone we know is shocked that we are getting divorced because we had the "perfect marriage", the "perfect family". I am in my early 40's, 6'3", in good shape, a multimillionaire and will have no trouble dating women in their 20's, 30's, whatever I want. I'll have no trouble finding women who enjoy sex, but I know I would rather spend the rest of my life with the woman I fell in love with. She just doesn't get how important sex is all because she doesn't need it the same way. I think we both will spend the rest of our lives unhappy, searching for the nearly perfect relationship that we both once had. I know anyone reading this will be quick to condemn me and say I'm a piece of shit for being unfaithful to my wife by going to massage parlors and using escorts, but many, many, many married men do this because they are in the same situation. I'd say 90% of massage parlor and escort clients are married men because where are we supposed to get sex if we can't get it from our wives? Women act like guys cheat because they need variety or something else, but that is not it. We just can't get sex in our marriages and women don't understand how important sex is for men.

My Asian in-law is a bitch!

Definitely need things from under the rug.

There's a difficult MIL and a narcissistic one who disagrees with everything you say just to be disagreeable.

Learn their language- on the other hand I learned mandarin since I was small, however growing up I stopped speaking the language so my accent is a bit off. What happened was my MIL started to make fun of my accent and exaggerated it to the point that sounded so annoying. I stopped speaking chinese with them so they could just speak their broken english 😂

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i always whished to be good with my mother in law, but the problem is i feel she doesn't like me and sometimes she talkes bad about my family and that makes me so hurt and angry, she is an korean mother so i always thought yeah maybe it's her culture, but now i just feel she doesn't accept me and she wants me and my husband to break up, i don't know...i whish my husband to support me more in this case, but everytime he talks to her he gets different...

What about get the mother therapist? She is the problem. Someone need to teach her how not to be a bit*h.

All Asian men are Mama boy. If you can marry foreigners please do it.