David Pan
David Pan
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Process and Preparation You Need to Know | LGBTQ Couple | Marriage-Based Green Card Application
Since our marriage-based green card application started, I've been tracking every single step of the process in hopes of keeping my own record as well as sharing with those of you who might find useful.
👉 If you are looking for my background story, here is the vlog video that outlines my journey: ruclips.net/video/ojqBeKzAKzI/видео.html
👉 For the biometrics appointment process, here is the video I mentioned: ruclips.net/video/V5txbLhFnIQ/видео.html
[Links in the Video]
➡ Simple Citizen: www.simplecitizen.com/
➡ iVisa Photos: www.ivisa.com/photos
➡ Walgreens Passport and Visa Photos: photo.walgreens.com/store/passport-photos
➡ Printicular (for reprint): www.printicular.com/us/
➡ Check Case Proces...
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Видео

Figuring out life routine and work | November Vlog
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[11.4.2022] A peek into my life after I started working again. I'm trying to balance work life with all the habits that I formed during my 9-month break. It's a challenge because I can get really into work and forget to prioritize myself. I need to make some adjustments mentally so I can do everything that I want to achieve on a day-to-day basis. Do you have that problem? How do you handle it? ...
Life Update, Marriage Green Card, Brugada Syndrome | Life As An Immigrant
Просмотров 1482 года назад
[9.14.2022] It's been a while since I made a video. This is a quick life update. More videos will be coming soon. Like and Subscribe for more. Got questions? Leave a comment below!
A birthday trip to remember | Gay Couple Travel | Lincoln City & Newport, OR
Просмотров 2002 года назад
[February 2022] With us dying for a change of scenery, a trip to Lincoln City and Newport, Oregon, was called for to celebrate Dan's birthday. In this video, you get to see some of Dan's true personalities that I fell in love with, in addition to the incredible drone footage I captured. The trip spanned four days during the week. We stayed at the Starfish Manor, enjoying the beach view, watchin...
My Secret Childhood Boy Crush | The Story I Never Told
Просмотров 4 тыс.2 года назад
[6.23.2022] I filmed this at the one-year mark of my Coming Out Video. Wanting to do something similar, I'm sharing my childhood story of how I had a crush on a boy in my class. The story is inspired by the great Netflix show, Heartstopper, but the difference is I was the boy struggling with my identity and not knowing what to do with my feelings. ▶ Content Chapters: 01:44 Way Back When 04:01 T...
Becoming a Drone Pilot? My Attempt to Pass the Part 107 Test
Просмотров 2082 года назад
[4.12.2022] Dan bought me a drone as a Christmas gift. I absolutely loved it and was thrilled to fly. But after looking into where and how to fly, I realized that I cannot just start flying anywhere. Much like having a vehicle, flying a drone also requires one to know the regulations besides the skill to fly it. This video documents my preparation and attempt to pass the test. I also addressed ...
Rainbow flags were everywhere! | Gay Couple Travel | San Diego, CA
Просмотров 5102 года назад
[12/3-6/2022] Dan's friend, Brent, invited us to travel with him and celebrate his 50th birthday in San Diego. We shared an Airbnb for 3 nights in the Hillcrest area, which had a lot of great restaurants and was super LGBTQ friendly. In the video, I included the footage of our visits to the San Diego Zoo, Mission Beach (Belmont Park), La Jolla Beach, Coronado Hotel, and Balboa Park. I didn't re...
Biometrics Appointment - My Experience, Process & Tips | Green Card Process | US Immigrant Life
Просмотров 4,9 тыс.2 года назад
If you are in the process of getting your green card or citizenship, USCIS will request for your biometrics. This video walks you through the process of the appointment step by step, and gives you a few tips along the way. Got questions? Leave a comment below! And don't forget to Like and Subscribe for more. [My favorite books for immigrants]* ✅ 3 Steps to Your Job in the USA: amzn.to/3OEcnji (...
My Unexpected YouTube Journey | One-Year Lookback
Просмотров 1192 года назад
I can't believe it has been a year since my first video here. It's been a roller coaster in life but also a fun journey on RUclips. This is a video of me looking back and reflecting on what I've learned with some published footage and some unpublished. It's interesting to see the quality of my videos improve but there is still so much to learn. Thank you all for sticking around and growing with...
Rollercoaster Wedding Day | Gay Couple | We are now Husbands!
Просмотров 8612 года назад
[Oct. 24.2021] Within two weeks of our decision to get married, we started the paperwork process and got married by our dear friend, Chip. The unexpected weather condition had us worried about our wedding ceremony but thankfully all went well. Given the short timeframe, we didn't get to invite all the guests we'd like. But with the support of our friends, we were able to pull off a small but sw...
Work or Marriage Green Card? | An important decision to make
Просмотров 3232 года назад
I recorded this video in Oct. 2021 but have not had the time to edit and publish it until now. It was a very stressful time with lots of important conversations and important life decisions to make. I am thankful for the patience, support and trust from Dan, my company and my friends along this journey. My decision for the green card direction was not a light one but I'm happy to have reached a...
The 3 Basics to Know Dating a Foreigner | Cross-Cultural Relationships
Просмотров 5172 года назад
[Links] 👉 Language Difficulty Categories: effectivelanguagelearning.com/language-guide/language-difficulty/ 👉 10-Year Anniversary Trip Part I: ruclips.net/video/8PTpYKnTGps/видео.html Part II: ruclips.net/video/1zqa_GB9lt0/видео.html Dating a foreigner seems exciting to begin with, but there is definitely work to be done! Got questions? In this video, I'm sharing 3 things you need to know about...
Oh my poor sweetie... | Gay Couple Travel | Friday Harbor, WA
Просмотров 3862 года назад
[August 6-7, 2021] After Anacortes, Dan and I continued our adventure on a boat to Friday Harbor. Hearing so many good things about this town, it was amazing to find its beauty matching its fame. We were also very lucky that the weather was in our favor. What a great way to end our anniversary trip. Got questions? Leave a comment below! [Recommended Trip Links] Westcott Bay Shellfish Co.: www.w...
Celebrating Our 10-Year Anniversary | Gay Couple Travel | Anacortes, WA
Просмотров 4582 года назад
[August 4-5, 2021] 10 years ago when I started seeing this guy, I didn’t think I was in for the long-haul. It’s been such a journey together and we decided to make a trip out of it. The trip will be in two parts. Part I of our trip is mainly in Anacortes. Such a cute little town with stunning views. Part II will be in Friday Harbor, another gorgeous island town. Make sure you subscribe to stay ...
Quick Day Trip to Wahclella Falls | Gay Couple Travel | We both needed it
Просмотров 2853 года назад
[July 4, 2021] With fireworks cancelled due to the state's precaution against wildfire, Dan and I decided to go on a day hike to Wahclella Falls recommended by our friend. It was an easy hike but with the sun beaming down on us, we both had a small workout. The falls and the creek did cool us down, and I absolutely loved that. What's better than nature as the air conditioning all the while the ...
Glenwood, Washington | Gay Couple Travel | Getting Away with Boyfriend at Getaway House
Просмотров 6983 года назад
Glenwood, Washington | Gay Couple Travel | Getting Away with Boyfriend at Getaway House
My Coming Out Story | The Journey of a Taiwanese | The discovery, struggles and acceptance.
Просмотров 10 тыс.3 года назад
My Coming Out Story | The Journey of a Taiwanese | The discovery, struggles and acceptance.
Hot Spring, Blue Sky, Waves, Crabs, Seafood, Fun! | Back to Taiwan | Taitung Trip Part 2
Просмотров 1653 года назад
Hot Spring, Blue Sky, Waves, Crabs, Seafood, Fun! | Back to Taiwan | Taitung Trip Part 2
It's Been Years Since I had a Family Trip! | Back to Taiwan | Taitung Trip Part 1
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It's Been Years Since I had a Family Trip! | Back to Taiwan | Taitung Trip Part 1
Paying Respect to My Loved Ones After 10 Years | Back to Taiwan
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Paying Respect to My Loved Ones After 10 Years | Back to Taiwan
My First Take-Out Food After Quarantine | Back to Taiwan
Просмотров 1293 года назад
My First Take-Out Food After Quarantine | Back to Taiwan
Last Day of My 2-Week Quarantine | Back to Taiwan
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Last Day of My 2-Week Quarantine | Back to Taiwan

Комментарии

  • @hopelessblromantic8069
    @hopelessblromantic8069 25 дней назад

    I'm in a cross-cultural relationship as well. I'm Canadian, and he's Filipino. Fortunately for us his English is very good, but I know he struggles at times. It doesn't help that he's still in the Philippines so he hasn't had the chance to be immersed into Canadian use of English, aside from me. When I visit there he's very accommodating around food. He's the adventurous cook, while I cook very few things. We find a balance, or we have different things in a meal from time to time. To be honest, culturally, I feel more at home there than in Canada, even with its more conservative values. A part of me has never felt at home here in Canada, or in the U.S. when I went to university there. Our friendship is fairly strong. We both like to hang out at home, even if we are doing our own thing. Sometimes we plan to go somewhere, and then both decide we'd rather stay home. We are very compatible that way. One big difference is family. He's very close to his family. I've lived away from mine for a very long time. In some ways that makes it easier. I feel closer to his nieces and nephews than my own. We are both very easy going, without overly strong opinions, so I think that helps tremendously. And some of our habits were so similar, even before we met in person. Being in an LDR, communication is our most important connection point. And we seem to do well. We rarely have disagreements, which is likely our weak point, but I attribute that to both being easy going and not overly concerned with our differing opinions.

  • @hopelessblromantic8069
    @hopelessblromantic8069 25 дней назад

    Thanks for sharing your story. I think it helps others to hear stories from others experiences. I hear of more people who don't struggle with accepting themselves, but there's still a long way to go until that struggle is gone completely. And the struggle of coming out will likely be a thing for quite a while because I don't see society changing enough for people to stop assuming everyone is straight. As much as I'd like to see that change, with the percentage of the population who are gay being so small it probably wouldn't make sense for that assumption to change a lot, unfortunately.

  • @God.bless.you..
    @God.bless.you.. 11 месяцев назад

    Thank you, it was a must-have video! Do I have to speak English because I am not good at English? Or do I need to go with someone to translate for me? I'm going to do fingerprinting next week, but I'm so nervous. Then, bye. Have a nice day.. 👀👍

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 11 месяцев назад

      @Smurf77777 I think for a biometrics appointment, your language skill is less of a concern. It also seems that you are able to communicate in English pretty well. All you need to do is follow their instructions when they get your photo and fingerprint. Good luck!

    • @shinylauj5473
      @shinylauj5473 10 месяцев назад

      Do they allow someone to go to translate for you?

  • @angelabagtas5853
    @angelabagtas5853 Год назад

    This is such a detailed run through and just what I need. Thank you so much ❤

  • @joeltvnews3277
    @joeltvnews3277 Год назад

    GOOD DAY I NEED TO KNOW IM GREEN CARTE DV LOTERRY AFTE ARIVE IN USA I PAY MY GREEN CARTE FOR ME AND MY FAMILLY ATTER WAIT I RECIEVED ONLY THE GREEN CARTE FOR MY BABY FOR 1 YS AND FOR ME MY WIFE AND 2 KIDS FOR 7 YS AND 4 YES WE RECIEVED THE BIOMRTRIC APPOITEMENT IS THIS GOOD NO PROBLE AFTER GO TO MY APPOITEMENT DONE I WILL RECIEVE MY GREEN CARTE ?

  • @georgespatio141
    @georgespatio141 Год назад

    veryy helpful thank you!

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan Год назад

      @georgespatio141 Glad it was helpful!

  • @gpsyedibrahim9475
    @gpsyedibrahim9475 Год назад

    Hi can i use my indian passport as a photo ID?

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan Год назад

      Hi! Yes, passports are a valid photo ID source.

    • @gpsyedibrahim9475
      @gpsyedibrahim9475 Год назад

      @@pankuohsuan Thank you very much for your kind information.

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan Год назад

      @@gpsyedibrahim9475 You're very welcome!

  • @vera_nika2
    @vera_nika2 Год назад

    My fingerprints almost never show up only on my terms so I guess that's a no entry for me

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan Год назад

      @Vera Nika I'm not sure what they will do if they can't get your fingerprints but they will let you know what to do if that does happen. Don't make your assumptioms yet and good luck!

  • @blisseferrari9405
    @blisseferrari9405 Год назад

    Thanks for this. #1 view provider "promosm".

  • @faithnguna2897
    @faithnguna2897 Год назад

    Hi I just did my nails could this be a problem

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan Год назад

      Hi Faith, if you can press your fingers for the fingerprints, then you should be fine. They do need all fingers just FYI.

  • @tazman2nj
    @tazman2nj Год назад

    Congrats on your green card! Thanks for sharing. Useful info!

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan Год назад

      @tazman2nj Thank you! And glad to hear! 😉

  • @pankuohsuan
    @pankuohsuan Год назад

    Feel free to skip to 07:29 if you just want to see our timeline. Time stamps and related links are in the descriptions. I’d also like to quickly acknowledge that I’m very thankful for the LGBTQIA members that fought for the rights of same-sex marriage so it is legal for us to stay together as a couple. Our path would not have been the same otherwise. 🙏🙇🏻‍♂️

  • @cherokeedicaprio6401
    @cherokeedicaprio6401 Год назад

    Actually I really wonder how it feels like being Chinese in US cause I wanna go there for further study 😢

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan Год назад

      @Cherokee Dicaprio Thank you for the feedback! I'll plan to share something for that. Let me know if you have other things you are curious about. 😉

    • @cherokeedicaprio6401
      @cherokeedicaprio6401 Год назад

      @@pankuohsuan omg I’m sorry I didn’t reply promptly I am legit thankful for your consideration 🥰

  • @pankuohsuan
    @pankuohsuan Год назад

    Now that I started working again, I've noticed that I can get really into work and forget to prioritize myself. It's a struggle that I yet need to figure out. Do you have that problem? How do you deal with it? Also, some related links in the description! Simply clicking on them could help me.😉

  • @JourneywithGrace8
    @JourneywithGrace8 Год назад

    Death and dying, forever powerful topic to explore.

  • @nancy.duartt
    @nancy.duartt 2 года назад

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @tymurray5703
    @tymurray5703 2 года назад

    I love to see people happy in my home town. The fact I’ve lived here my entire life and never been to convoy lake 😂

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      I can totally relate! I'm the same with my home town... 🤣

  • @wawandrea
    @wawandrea 2 года назад

    看你的影片可以精進會話的能力😂 還好一切的安排都這麼剛好,讓Peter順利渡過難關!

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      涵萱,抱歉啊!字幕剛上完!辛苦你了!聽力不錯喔! 嗯嗯 真的大難不死,希望弟弟有後福。 😁

  • @jasonchou7289
    @jasonchou7289 2 года назад

    What a coincidence !!! Your bro and his gf are definitely meant to be each other!!! Blessing your family!!!🤞🙂

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      I agree that the timing is crazy! And thank you, Jason! ❤️

  • @pankuohsuan
    @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

    Life is a theater. The ups and downs are unpredictable but I intend to live my life to the fullest. I hope you are, too. 😄

  • @蔡麗華-p3y
    @蔡麗華-p3y 2 года назад

    再看一次,還是很好看很懷念!

  • @蔡麗華-p3y
    @蔡麗華-p3y 2 года назад

    社區景物的畫面很美!滿地落葉好詩情畫意喔!

  • @蔡麗華-p3y
    @蔡麗華-p3y 2 года назад

    沒有中文字幕喔?

  • @lucasfavaro2951
    @lucasfavaro2951 2 года назад

    hi ive got a small cut in my index finger do you think that’d be a problem thanks

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      Hi Lusca, I think you can potentially call the reschedule line and inquire, or you show up to the appointment and see what the officer decides to do. At worst, they ask you to go in again.

    • @lucasfavaro2951
      @lucasfavaro2951 2 года назад

      @@pankuohsuan they did ask to see my hands but it didn’t compromise so far at least it’s been two days so idk if they’re still evaluating it somehow and if it’s been this long it means that it’s all good

  • @anden5406
    @anden5406 2 года назад

    Videos keep getting better 👍🏼

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      Thanks, girl! 🙏 Namaste. ❤️😘

  • @JourneywithGrace8
    @JourneywithGrace8 2 года назад

    You two are so sweet together. Definitely one of the most spontaneous moments like the hot tub was the highlights. The drone footage was great. 🤘

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      ❤️ Thanks, Grace! I cracked up at our interactions when I was editing the video. And so glad to hear you enjoyed the drone footage. 😁

  • @pankuohsuan
    @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

    My first travel video using my own drone footage. I'm very excited about that! Also, it was funny to see my own reaction after I shot the water out of the jet tub. That was definitely one of the highlights of the trip. What's your favorite part?

  • @tabiataskin2589
    @tabiataskin2589 2 года назад

    Hello sir, I missed my biometric appointment for us citizenship because of being out of my state. Is it already denied or I need to wait? What should I do please tell me…

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      Hi @Tabia Taskin, I'm sorry that you missed your appointment. I'd encourage you to see if there is contact info on the appointment notice and get in touch with them during their work hours as soon as possible to see if there is something you can do. I'm sorry I don't have the answer for this but I would not just wait. Good luck!

  • @superluccas
    @superluccas 2 года назад

    Hello David, how are you? Thank you so much for your content, it was super helpful!! Quick question: I'm putting together all docs to send to USCIS. Where am I supposed to pay the biometric services fee of $85? Do I have to send a separate check together with my package, or do I pay this fee when I go to the application support center in person to collect my biometrics?

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      @Lucas Melo Glad to hear that you find it helpful! For your question, I'd be happy to share my experience. In my case of marriage green card, we sent in two checks to the US Department of Homeland Security: 1. $1,225 - This includes both the Green Card Application Form (I-485 | Cost: $1,140) and the Biometrics Appointment (Cost: $85) 2. $535 - Family Sponsorship (Form I-130 | Cost: $535) I hope this helps and good luck on your application!

  • @T-41
    @T-41 2 года назад

    Very nice .

  • @johniii8147
    @johniii8147 2 года назад

    Congrats guys. I would grab that big too. The only thing that sucks here is biological family didn't seem to show up. But you have found your person so screw them

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      @John lii Thanks, John! And the reason why our family members weren't with us was because it was meant to be small, and also because of the pandemic. I only had my mom and brothers online because I wanted someone on my side. And Dan's parents were no longer with us unfortunately. I know where you are coming from though and appreciate the support! 😁

    • @johniii8147
      @johniii8147 2 года назад

      @@pankuohsuan That sounds weird and controlling

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      Hey John, how so? And sorry, I probably wasn't being very clear. The context was that we wanted to have a small wedding first due to time constraints, and a bigger one later which we will have more official invites. We wanted only immediate family members and a couple of friends for the small one. Maybe this helps clarify?

    • @johniii8147
      @johniii8147 2 года назад

      @@pankuohsuan I get it. My husband and I just the city hall thing. It wasn't about anyone else other than us. Your situation as just a bit different that you had to do it for legal reasons on your citizenson so you don't get deported. It's one of the reasons we fought so hard for marriage since it brings so many legal benefits most take for granted.

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      Totally! Imagine what the couples had to go through and were forced to break up before same-sex marriage was federally legalized...☹️

  • @joeseeking3572
    @joeseeking3572 2 года назад

    Interesting, though having had 15+ years of relationships with Asian guys (10 years for the relationship I thought would be forever, sniff), and none born or raised in the US, I've experienced these things to a varying degree, but what's more important I think is the varying personalities of all involved. Fortunately the food thing came easy (credit a Cambodian lover who was accomplished in both Chinese and Vietnamese food, plus a multiculti metro area). Later, sometimes I actually preferred eating more Asian than my partner. Though I also adjusted my cooking style, which was especially tough in the early cohabitation years when money was tight and my budget repertoire leaned heavily toward milk/butter/cream based casserole's. Internal communication was never really a problem, externally I had to stop being a translator - eventually I realized that was demeaning. In moments of great emotion I also had to learn to pull back; it's not fair to steamroll over someone who isn't finding the words, or worse (rage) when English totally deserts them. But I do think you're right and we (the native speaker) tend to forget all the inborn advantages. Not to mention that, with the 'right' ethnicity and education, we're often given a free pass or at least lots of favorable assumptions that others are not. (Oddly, that even seems to carry over in the maybe 3 months I've spent in SE Asia over the years - you might be treated like a rube, but you're still an American - discussion for another day lol) Oh, finally language: with a little bit of English, I can work with any accent and derive meaning. But, aside from a smattering for French and much much less Spanish - I am the product of US schools and a frozen brain: no foreign language capability at all, let alone anything tonal!

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      @joe seeking Wow, thanks for sharing, Joe! So glad to hear that the content resonated somehow. And eating more Asian than your partner? That's interesting! I also loved hearing about your communication side of experiences. English does desert us non-native speakers sometimes (heck even Chinese desert me now), haha. And I think it's a learning process for both the native and foreigner speakers. A lot of times certain langauge use is a habit, as in things come out automatically without thought, and it doesn't always come out right. As a foreign speaker, I do personally find that I have to be more intentional at times to make sure what I'm communicating is getting across correctly. And for the native speaker, it also takes a certain level of patience and understanding, which I always appreciate it. 😉

  • @davidcortes8120
    @davidcortes8120 2 года назад

    David I had a similar except that mine was one that lasted and still is with me. I like your story even though you are way younger than me. but thanks for sharing it and giving me some, late, but helpful overcoming to the inner experience.

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      @David Cortes Thank you for watching, and glad to hear that you liked it! 😀

  • @jaquesdupain9301
    @jaquesdupain9301 2 года назад

    I literally felt the same way as you do the moment I found myself more attracted to boys than girls at that age. I tried so hard to suppress it because of the pressure surrounding me. Yet years later, I found myself in Senior high, this time I grew up a lot and found a place where my prejudices started to go away. I've never been a romantic in the past years of high school until I met this guy. We were assigned to be teammates in a contest. He is charming, outgoing and confident. Though I find his confidence overbearing and his little dances annoys me during our first meeting. Fast forward, our team get to win the preliminaries and we started to see each other more to practice for the finals. Weeks of practices later, on the day of the finals, as we wait for the time of the contest, I discovered that he likes drawing, and he has all of my dream drawing materials at that time. Sparkly-eyed, he let me draw in his sketchbook, admiring how the graphite feels, I assume he sensed I really wanted the pencils so bad. A few hours later, just before the contest started, I returned the pencils to him yet, to my surprise, he willingly gave it to me. The contest ended celebrating our victory, and there, we started to become strangers to each other again. A few months have passed, it was October, I entered another contest in the hopes of winning again (all the while subconsciously hoping to see him again). I indeed saw him, but this time, we're on separate teams. I remember one twilight, after we finished our practice, I can feel him repeatedly staring at me. Turns out he is a close friend with one of my teammates. I ran back and forth from the area he is sitting because I was busy at that time. But there was this magnetizing energy I feel every time I pass by him. I was about to go home when he suddenly approached me. He talked to me first and we smoothly drifted to having to catch up with each other for a little bit. He pulled something out of his bag. He gave me the rest of his pencils. Surprised, I found myself speechless. To make things less awkward, he thought of a way to politely end the conversation, and I thanked him a lot for his generosity. I held the pencils tightly with my hands as I walked and felt the cold air with my smile facing the purple sky. My heart started to rapidly beat, my knees weakening, and I found myself overwhelmed with gratitude. Songs have started playing in my head, and in that moment, I knew I have feelings for him.

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      @Jaques Dupain What a story. Thank you for sharing! Totally get the "magnetizing energy" you are referring to. And it sounded like he really liked you, too. 😄

    • @jaquesdupain9301
      @jaquesdupain9301 2 года назад

      @@pankuohsuan awhhh thank you so much for reading it! It's actually my first time sharing this story to anyone and it's kinda freeing knowing that I was able to do it. I don't really know what he actually feels and our fate is telling me that I won't be able to. Prom night came and I saw him hugging a girl he was with all night. They both seem to be so romantic and looks good together. It was two years ago when that happened, then the pandemic came and we parted schools. I tried to keep the connection going by reaching out but as usual, it didn't worked that long. It was the first time I acknowledged and accepted my feelings towards someone of the same sex and it's also the first time I discovered how painful it can be.

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      @Jaques Dupain Of course. I'm SO glad that you are able to share the story. And it must have been hard and painful for you back then. Feelings and emotions are tricky. I totally feel you. My experience with Zach was when I started to know to differentiate my feelings, specifically towards the same sex. "Fun" times!

    • @jaquesdupain9301
      @jaquesdupain9301 2 года назад

      @@pankuohsuan "Fun" times, indeed 😂. And yes, feelings and emotions are tricky, especially when adolescent hormones ain't being cooperative. I hope I'll be able to go through it someday. ✨We can do this✨

  • @johniii8147
    @johniii8147 2 года назад

    Don't blog and dive. Even more dangerous than texting. Not really excited about this marriage thing for you (all though i understand the legal necessity). There is just too much doubt there in your words and voice. You're not really feeling it. That rarely ends well.

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      @John Iii Thank you for sharing your concerns. I was very careful with the camera fixed on the dashboard while it recorded but I totally see where you are coming from. I'll keep it in mind! In terms of how I was feeling, it's a bit concerning if that's how I come across in the video. But if it helps, Dan and I made the mutual decision, and we are happy about it. Hopefully, that will somehow show in videos of us! 😉

    • @johniii8147
      @johniii8147 2 года назад

      @@pankuohsuan No worries dude but you could see you taking your eyes off the road to look at the camera. I will rarely even talk on the phone anymore driving after a couple of experiences where I didn't even remember the drive since i was so involved in the conservation. On autopilot.

  • @johniii8147
    @johniii8147 2 года назад

    I'm loving your videos. Your obviously a very smart guy that's very thoughtful. I'm shaking my head in agreement as your talking in most cases. That's rare for me. You know what your talking about so that's what's I appreciate. It's just also obvious to me you're a good dude. Dan is a lucky guy. Not Asian, but my Husband is Columbian and we definitely had to figure out issues since I'm the typical US white guy. Had to learn his native spanish, family culture etc as he was integrating into both the country and our relationship. The fun part for me was learning the new language and foods. The hard part was the family situation them being very catholic, relgious anti gay etc. We almost broke up over that since I don't deal well with the closet. But we ended up working all that out with some time. Now his mama won't stop calling me lol. Multi culture is definitely a challenge but I love it. It's a lot less boring and your constantly learning something new.

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      @John Iii So glad to hear that you are enjoying the videos! Comments like these are very encouraging for me, so thank you! ❤️ And I loved hearing your story. I can totally see how the religious beliefs and having to hide your sexuality must have posed serious challenges for you. Very happy to hear that you were able to work things out and integrate with your husband's culture! Dan is open to learning new things as well. We are both lucky to be able to share our cultures with each other. I also have heard stories about people not being as flexible to their partner's culture, so I wanted to touch on that in the video and provide a solution/alternative/perspective. 😉

  • @joeseeking3572
    @joeseeking3572 2 года назад

    Even though I've gotten my AARP card now, I can totally relate. I'd say self-awareness began to dawn around 11, fully aware in all its manifestations by 13. The best friends, the cool kids, the people I just wanted to BE. That was the feeling / I wanted to merge my being - physically, emotionally - with theirs. I could literally vibrate to their mood. But expressed only in daredevil feats (stupid kid shit, but sometimes dangerous), dreams of sacrificing myself to save my friend (at least this was honorable I thought) and half completed sentences across twin beds at sleepovers or maybe venturing just a little more truth camping in a pup tent. But never would I ever say, let alone DO anything. By 14 I knew the score, I knew the game and I knew the politics: so I just fit in. And for the next 3-4 years I either dated girls I really liked and would not hurt - or when the need arose, became strategically caught in intimate situations with those I didn't really care about. (Not so proud of that). But I always knew college would come, in the big city (5 major Universities, and some smaller schools) and then I'd rethink the whole thing on my own terms. Plus, honestly, it wasn't such a bad deal - the HS years were the only time I was in the A list crowd, both grades and parties :) So, yeah, I'm kind of glad I was able to make a choice, and not unhappy with the one I chose.

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      @joe seeking Hi, Joe, thank you for sharing your story. To me, it is very brave of you to reflect on your past choices and be self-aware, and what really counts is that you eventually were able to make ones that you can later be proud of. Very happy that you were able to find your way. It's worth celebrating! 😁 P.S. Just a fun fact if you don't know, people don't need to be over 50 to get their AARP card! So for all I know, you are 21. 😂

  • @johniii8147
    @johniii8147 2 года назад

    I just rewatched in detail ( last night it quick run thru) and this is actually great material on what your thinking etc at that stage of life. And also the cultural aspect. But you're doing great so you seem to have navigated it well. And as you describe it, "Zack" dude seems like a pretty good guy so I get why it's still in your mind. From how you tell it, it treated you with respect and wasn't a bully to you. That's often the most important thing when you are younger.

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      @John Iii Interesting to hear that you watched it twice. It's so intriguing to me how people consume content! And yes, the video did allow me to reflect on the past. Zach was a good friend for sure but I only really thought about it when I thought about that confusing time period. Being treated with respect is so basic, yet sometimes neglected and replaced by unnecessary ridicule. Hopefully, by sharing such stories, there is more awareness of the struggles that LGBTQIA members can have. 🙂

  • @johniii8147
    @johniii8147 2 года назад

    3 six grade asian kids trying to MJ. that was funny how you put it.

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      I entertained myself a bit, too, when I was reminiscing. 😆

  • @kevincook8888
    @kevincook8888 2 года назад

    You really think the people from you grade school aren't going to figure out who you are talking about? That they won't remember who else was in your dance group? Seriously??

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      Haha My mom asked me the same thing. And same answer, my attitude was, "if they do, they do. If they don't, don't ask me." 🤣 And for clarity, we weren't a "dance group." It was a group project out of many. The story of the past struggle is really what I wanted to share to connect with people. Hopefully, that is something people take away from.

  • @chrunchhouston6229
    @chrunchhouston6229 2 года назад

    That Zach was certainly no Nick.

  • @ClaireSara
    @ClaireSara 2 года назад

    Oh my goodness I loooooooved Heartstopper!! Thank you so much for sharing your story! ❤❤❤

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      @Claire Sara Who's your favorite character, Claire? And thank you so much for watching! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @蔡麗華-p3y
    @蔡麗華-p3y 2 года назад

    如果讓我每天只能在一個小小空間繞來繞去,我可能會瘋掉。

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      嗯,我也是這麼想的。希望他們是一出生就這樣,所以習慣了?但還是覺得動物們有點可憐... 😟

  • @JourneywithGrace8
    @JourneywithGrace8 2 года назад

    You are a good storyteller, a skill I am yet to master. I like hearing people's stories and how a seemingly small past event might have lasting imprint on us. I was REALLY curios about why Zack seemed disappointed after hearing your answer though :-)

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      Oh, it's so great to hear you say that. I was unsure how the video would come across. And I'm sure you can do it! I do find that having visuals helps a lot to complement narration. 😁 And I can't remember what I said back to Zach, but the reaction and the feeling from him. It's been more than 20 years ago. I'm surprised that I was even able to put this together. 🤣

  • @JourneywithGrace8
    @JourneywithGrace8 2 года назад

    Congrats on getting a drone and your license. I can see that you put in a lot of work in creating this video, lots of small details (that only someone who has tried to create a video would tell) 😅

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      Thank you, Grace! Appreciate the kind words! I'm definitely trying to get better. 1% better each time, right? 😉

  • @jasonchou7289
    @jasonchou7289 2 года назад

    Hey! Jay 最後會不喜歡你應該是因為看你跟女生相處很好,他很吃味...我有類似經驗... 你跟Zach 是美好的遺憾,不敢讓他知道性向怕破壞關係,選擇遠離... bittersweet...那段時間一定很難過! But you have family ,enjoy every moment and now. 🙂 Heartstopper is an awesome series!!!👍❤️ It's all about LGBT. 它是漫畫改編的,你可以去看! Nick(bi)❤️ Charlie(gay) Tao❤️Elle(transgender) Tara❤️Darcy(lesbian)

    • @pankuohsuan
      @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

      @Jason Chou 對於Jay, 我倒是沒這麼想過!🤔🤯😭 呵呵,謝謝分享! Zach那段,怕破壞關係選擇遠離的確也是原因之一。Jason 很厲害,感覺是過來人在分享! Love it! And yes, enjoy every moment is right! Also, I did look up the comics for Heart stopper after watching the show but I didn't get it. Have you read the actual comic books, too?

  • @alihave1
    @alihave1 2 года назад

    your amazing

  • @alihave1
    @alihave1 2 года назад

    wow

  • @pankuohsuan
    @pankuohsuan 2 года назад

    A few things: 1. I put the "Windows" answer in the description if you are interested. Showing my age there! 😆 2. The video was filmed before the Roe v. Wade 2022 ruling so it seemed a bit ironic to hear what I said about being in a "fairly safe environment." I guess safety is a relative term anyway. 😬 3. Have you watched Heartsopper? ❤

  • @tazman2nj
    @tazman2nj 2 года назад

    加油!