We have much in common. I am experiencing the end of my 28 year marriage, having been a stay-at-home/homeshcooling mom for the last 25 of those years We have a teen still living at home, so I will also be a single mother. It has been hard because we are all still in the house together, but I will be the one moving out of the house. It is a beautiful house that we have been for nearly 13 years, and like you, it is the longest I have ever lived in one house. I honestly believed that it would be the last house I ever lived in. NOW, however, I WANT to move out and have a place that is truly mine. It is terrible that women who choose to use their talents, time and energy to create and manage a home are so undervalued in our society. I have been watching you for a very long time and I do recognize your contribution to your home and family. You are an encouragement and inspiration to so many people. Keep being your wonderful self!
Jen - I went through a divorce and it honestly was the lowest part of my life. Let me just say - give yourself a year. You will come out of the fog. It turns out the lowest time in my life led to the best part of my life. I met my wonderful husband of 24 years! I could not imagine my life without him. Just know it’s going to be better! And better than better!
I completely agree... it was the worst time in mine as well. Definitely a year later you realize that it all happened the way it was supposed to. It absolutely gets better!
I’m in awe of you. I am 62 years (young) and you spoke of things I hadn’t even thought of or figured out at this point and you did so with such grace and beauty. Some might say you were able to edit or pre-plan your answers, but even if that were true you still composed those answers at some point in your journey. From my personal experience I’m certain you are feeling anxious and in pain and that’s okay. Wishing you and your children with peace.Thank you for the beautiful video.
I love that you're also going through a period of discovering who you are and honoring your own dreams and desires! I love that! I fell in love with your channel probably 6 years ago. You've always been an inspiration to me because we have similar personal goals (running a 5K, living with some anxiety, wanting to make connections and strengthening existing friendships, liking to organize and plan, big dreams). Your outlook feels so grounded and uplifting recently! Even your skin is glowy 😊 Keep prioritizing yourself 💛 we love you!
You are a truly lovely human being. The world could use so many more people like you. Listening to this Q&A today, brought me so much peace. You are kind, considerate, gentle, thoughtful, compassionate, modest and so many more wonderful qualities, in a very hard, cold, judgemental world. Thank you and bless you!
I can't express how happy I'm for you to be moving place and have your own little place on this earth. I can really feel it bring you lots of positive energy.
Jen I felt your warmth and sincerity through the screen! Your voice is comforting, soothing and so easy to listen to. Viewing your video was such a calming and heartwarming experience. My soul is soothed during this stressful time in my life! Sending virtual hugs and love XOXO PS: My parents were divorced through the worst possible circumstances which caused me trauma. I can tell you without a doubt that your kind and gentle manner with your kids and Don as evidenced in your adorable Easter video as well as making gradual changes is doing so much good for your children’s mental health. Keep up the good work Mama!
Your divorce is your business. You shouldn’t think about sharing information with us. People are too nosy in the guise of wanting to be “helpful”. When you need the help, just trust your therapist, your pastor, and your family. It will save you a world of heartache in the future.
Do you think you'll be decluttering holiday decor and taking a more minimalistic approach to physical items when you move? Additionally, do you think you'll be vlogging if/ when you do start to pack to move?
What a spring is right. Diagnosed with stage 1 endometrial cancer 4/3 total hysterectomy 5/4. COVID hasn’t even really been on my mind. Thankfully the hysterectomy deemed me cancer free. No further treatment needed. Hugs to you my friend!
Jen - Your experiences, emotions, struggles, labels (single Mom) are all 100% yours and I hate that anyone tries to minimize or invalidate them. Only you know what its like to be walking through this specific chapter of your journey. Having been through divorce without having kids, I know how painful and confusing it can feel. I can't imagine throwing kids into the mix on top of that. Live your truth and express what YOU want to express in the way you choose to do it. Those with true empathy and kindness in them will not bring negativity to your life ♥️
Completely understand how you feel about Winnie helping you through a difficult time. I had to do 13 weeks of bed rest with my twin girls twelve years ago....this was before things like social media and Netflix were so popular and readily available. My husband traveled a lot for work, we didn't have any family close by. I felt completely cut off from the rest of the world. The companionship of my black lab, Aggie, who never left my side, was simply invaluable.
I will never regret maintaining my career after marriage and children. I take so much pride in rolemodelling all roles as being equal to my boys each and every day. I hope your feelings regarding your house being Don’s (which I don’t agree with - you were married, it was a completely joint partnership) is a cautionary tale to your children, especially Charlotte. For me, having my own career contributes to such a sense of well-being and lessens anxiety - I know I’m financially assured and can be independent regardless of any issues that may arise in my marriage. As a woman, this is essential to me
Teri, I agree with you. Jennifer worked for that home as well and it goes way beyond decorating. Women should understand that when their partners are out in the world working, the stay-at-home partner is the reason, why they can go out into the world and work successfully. My husband worked hard and provided us with a beautiful home, however, I played a part in that because I raised children, paid bills, made meals, planned vacations, etc... that's work. And yes, it's our house.
I've always said never get comfortable of someone taking care of you,.I think the house she's in is THEIR house.They were in a marriage what is purchase belongs to both.But I don't know what goes/went on in their house.Don could have been saying things like "this is my house,I bought it" (I honestly don't see him saying that) but I don't know...but what I DO know ppl been saying it in the comments for YEARS.That may have started putting thoughts like that in her mind.If starting a new path means moving into a new home then all the best to her...but it's a HARD lesson.
Friends - I want to clarify something. I meant no disrespect in my choice to not say Ahmaud Arbery's name out loud in this video. Yes, it was a conscious decision on my part. I am notoriously terrible at pronouncing people's names. I must admit I have not watched or listened to any recent news lately, choosing just to read the news instead as I find that's a better way for me to process right now with so much going on in the world. I did not want to do him the disservice of mispronouncing his name. In retrospect, I could have searched for a video where someone said his name before filming, but I did not think of that in advance. I ran inside on my treadmill that day because that was the only option available to me when the #runwithmaud initiative was taking place. As I mentioned before, I am the only adult in this house and I cannot leave my kids to go out for a run. I thought doing it inside was better than not doing it at all. I understand I cannot please everyone. I am just trying my best, please give me some grace. May Ahmaud rest in peace ❤️
Miss Wittank it’s on you to learn what you can do. She doesn’t need to take the emotional energy to educate you. Read a book on social justice, follow prominent people in the black community on Instagram. YOU do the work. Don’t put it on someone else’s shoulders.
MsHalprin I am not asking for your life story. I was just wondering if you are a lawyer, finance person, social worker, counsellor etc. You seem to cover a broad spectrum of areas there.
I fully agree that this extra time with my child has been a gift. He turns 1 on June 1, and I only had 8 weeks of maternity leave. These extra 9 weeks at home with him in quarantine have been such a blessing to me!
I can understand your feelings about people taking your personal information and not being kind. I’ve always been a private person, mainly because of the very thing you mentioned. Whenever I opened up to others about a personal situation, they would act all concerned and wanting to be helpful,,However, I eventuality found whatever personal information I confided in them, was actually Entertainment for them. They’d use it as gossip with others..This was hurtful to me and I learned to Never make that mistake again..I also learned, that Every time they would tell me not to repeat something that some else Had Confided to them ..I knew they would do the very same to me and WERE NOT MY FRIENDS. So be wary..
Wow. I didn't know you had so much going on. I have a ton of respect for you. You are a strong person. Now I will binge watch all your older videos. A beautiful soul like yourself will come through a tough situation with grace and sunshine. Take Care!
I always correlate “single” mother as someone who has never been married, nothing related to financial circumstances. To me, you are a divorced mom and perhaps it may be important to draw that distinction for your children when they’re older. Obviously, their dad will be there for them, it just may be confusing since unmarried motherhood is quite common these days.I know single moms, never married and little to no help from the baby daddy. I don’t think that’s an uncommon distinction. You should not be ashamed to identify as a divorced mother. My sister was a young widowed mother and never called herself single.
Cultivating Curiosity she’s also about to be divorced, so there’s that. I have never heard any of my divorced friends refer to themselves as a single mom or single dad. They say I’m a divorced dad. If Don got on YT and referred to himself as a single dad, I would be annoyed. But that’s just me I guess.
I think it is possible that some individuals feel the term "single parent" gives the impression that one is doing it all on their own as if there are not two active parents in the children's lives. I don't oppose anyone using the term - not my life, not my business - but I do see how it could offend anyone who is truly alone in raising their children. In reality it's all just semantics.The only thing that matters is that you're doing a great job and your children are loved, happy, healthy and well taken care of. I wish you well always.
yeah, I'm not taking one side or the other but I think the main point people made was that she is co-parenting and both parents are involved in the sotuation. So they felt the term single mother would be more appropriately used for a mom who is single handedly raising the kids. I think Jen focused here on the financial aspect which is one piece of the criticism but wasn't the sole point in my opinion.
I can’t even imagine what difference it makes what she calls herself. If it really bothers you all so much there is a simple solution....stop watching!
Flip it around. How would Jen feel if Don started branding himself a single dad? It makes him sound like he's doing it alone and she's out of the picture. Now flip it back. There's where people get annoyed. It doesn't matter to me what she says but there's an easy explanation for why it does bother some people.Sometimes words strung together change the meaning of a term.
My parents "separated" as they were never married when I was quite young. I always thought of each of my parents as "single parents" as they did not have each other nor partners for quite some time. Thank you for sharing your reality and what being a single parent looks like for you, as everyone's situation is different from the others, and in that we must all respect and not place judgement on others. 💕
I honestly have never understood the absolute obsession and hatefulness of some of the people over the years and the site they share all of that on. It’s disturbing and confusing to me and I echo the people who say some of the ways you have to address things are so protective bc of how you’ve been treated and it’s so uncomfortable and I feel really bad for you in that. 💔 Thank you for pressing on no matter what is going on and not giving up on your content or engagement. Hope you see enough of the good people following ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I think it’s great that you and Don are so amicable (or mostly it seems) it’s truly best for the kids. I also think it’s great that you can all still vacation together. My sister and her ex had a better relationship after their divorce than while they were married. He’s included at all family holidays and still gets hugs and kisses from everyone. He’s still family even though he’s not married to my sister. Can’t wait to see your new place. How exciting. I bet it will be so cute ❤️
I must confess, my definition of a "single mother" or "single father" meant that they don't co-parent, or have their children's other parent in the picture at all. Primarily since that's the way I grew up with a single mom.... and because of that I always assume when someone says they're a "single parent" -nothing at all to do with financial circumstances
Yeah and Don is very involved it seems from Instagram and here. I wonder if anyone would refer to Don as a single dad? That's the same situation to Jen...
@@WinterWind Yes, I think it's more so Jen can portray herself as a victim and a martyr. Meanwhile Don is a co-parent and supports Jen and the children financially.
Kimberley Paige Using the label “single parent” does evoke a sympathy - I really like Jen and am not sure she understands the common reference of it... because if that’s the case, most all moms are “single mothers” - I’ve single-parented my son ,unless of course his father held him or occasionally fed him-LOL
Co-parenting, sometimes called joint parenting or shared parenting, is the experience of raising children as a single parent when separation or divorce occurs. That’s the first thing to pop up when I googled "are you a single parent if you co-parent?”. The law says the same thing so you can always look to what the laws definition is to be most clear on anything.
@@KimberleyPaige1 WHAAAAT???? is this real? I'm a single mother. There is different circumstances of being a single parent but primarily Jen is raising the kids the majority of the time. Don is a single father. The end....
I don’t comment much as a 66 year old, although I’ve been watching you on and off for years. I truly like the new Jen. 🌻 Motherhood and life experience has changed you, as it does for all of us. Love your honesty and compassion that is coming out of your conversations...
I learned to value the time my child was with their father. It’s a necessary break for self care. Especially as a primary care giver. He hasn’t seen my son in 2 years now, so I really miss that time. And I understand what you say about this time being a blessing. My son is 16 now and our time together would have never happened if life was normal so I actually cherish it.
I am glad to hear that you are okay. Been thinking about you with real concern but hearing this makes me feel better. I hope you trust that all this will pass. The heartache and the pain of loss. One day you will see why all the difficult things had to happen and it will bring you peace and understanding. YOU are a good mom and your babies are so sweet! 😊 Many blessings to you and your family 🙏🏽
Jen, you're so sweet, so authentic and real. We are WITH YOU! You are doing amazing during what is a very stressful time and I applaud you. God bless you and your Family. Stay strong ❤
Jenn - you are a very sweet person. I have followed you for years and have always thought that. I am so glad to hear you are not letting these comments bother you so much and you are standing up for yourself. This pandemic sucks. On so many levels. I think everyone I know is suffering in some way. I worry about everyone’s mental and physical health.
Thank you for sharing so much. I’ve been watching you so long that I feel like I can count on feeling less lonely every time I watch one of your videos. That means so much, especially during these lonelier times right now. 🙏🏼
I hope you share your moving/house hunting journey. I love seeing different kinds of houses! It was a little hard to see you in this video with the lighting.
Just having a chance to catch up on some of your videos, and just wanted to send you some love and positive vibes. You were my first RUclips channel that I subscribed to and I felt (still feel) like I strongly connect with you, your personality, family, etc. In a time where there’s a lot of shifting, unknowns, and vulnerability, I just felt the need to give you a compliment, encouragement, let you know how much I enjoy your content, and that I am wishing the best for you and your loved ones. Stay strong 💪
Jen I have watched you from the beginning.. My youngest Daughter Married her Highschool boyfriend (Never dated another boy) They were married for 11 years and Had one child. They divorced 2 years ago. She Moved out into a nice size Apartment. Did not date until their Divorce was final. She Said moving to an Apartment that Was ALL hers and NO memories was a game changer in how she felt about it all. We could tell she gained confidence and even seemed to hold her head up higher. It gave her something to be excited about after all the crap she went through. I look forward to seeing you blossom after your move!!!!
Indeed these are crazy times. Hang in there! All of you! About the colloquial use of the term “single mom”. I’m going to go out on a limb and say that you’re mistaken that the issue people had with this phrase was regarding your financial privilege. It isn't a money thing specifically; it is the lack of availability of help from the other parent that demonstrates “single” in this context. So when someone says; “I was raised by a single mom”, the clear, unambiguous meaning is that the father (or other responsible party) was absent financially, emotionally, and or physically. I was raised by a single mom. My father abandoned my mother, leaving her high and dry with three kids. Poof. No child support, no alimony, no driving lessons from dad, no co-parenting, no in-laws to babysit. You are a divorced mom. Your marriage ended, but the contact and support from Don to his children did not dissolve. Throwing the phrase around erodes its implicit meaning and thereby its symbolic power. For all of you who would say “it’s just semantics”, all speech is symbolic, but definitions aren’t completely fluid. Divorce implies accord, single implies discord. I suspect that this is the issue people have with the overly simplistic use of this loaded phrase. Although divorce is painful, thankfully, it appears that Don will remain in your children’s lives (and yours) supporting them financially, emotionally, and otherwise. You may discover that continued use of this phrasing will cause confusion or inaccurate assumptions about you or Don’s situation. You may find that people will assume that Don disappeared on you and your kids when that is far from the truth. I believe you will discover that I am correct on this issue, but I can also see how it occurred innocently. I am a divorced mom of two. Thankfully, my children’s father stuck around for them (and for me). Love and light.
All of this! And I think Jen's use of the term is more to garner sympathy than anything else. She has a co-parenting partner and is being supported by that partner, and is very fortunate in that aspect. It is trivializing to those women and men who are truly solo with no support, financial or otherwise, by their child/children's other parent.
@@Paula-xp7ve Paula, this is not the first time you have accused me of being a "baker". I do not work at a bakery, don't bake at home, nor do I smoke marijuana. Your attacks are bizarre. Are you sure you are OK Paula?
Yeah flip it around. How would Jen feel if Don started branding himself a single dad? It makes him sound like he's doing it alone and she's out of the picture. Now flip it back. There's where people get annoyed. It doesn't matter to me what she says but there's an easy explanation for why it does bother some people.Sometimes words strung together change the meaning of a term.
I'm confused why you would find Zoom dating awkward. You've spent years pointing a camera at yourself talking to "friends, " pouring out personal details that are accessible to anyone who has internet. The only difference would be interacting with a live person, and actually engaging in real time. And if either of you aren't interested, you end the call and no worries as to who picks up the check .
I don’t think they mean you can’t be a single mother unless your not doing well financially maybe they mean that your not a single mother if your being supported by the father in all ways it’s plenty of single mothers who truly do it all on their own and do very well for themselves
yeah I think the main point by those who made it was that she is not single handedly raising the kids (financial support or otherwise). I think she focused on the financial aspect here but there was a broader implication from those who were critiquing the use of the term.
Mhm. Flip it around. How would Jen feel if Don started branding himself a single dad? It makes him sound like he's doing it alone and she's out of the picture. Now flip it back. There's where people get annoyed. It doesn't matter to me what she says but there's an easy explanation for why it does bother some people.Sometimes words strung together change the meaning of a term.
jmonta21 well that’s pretty much what I said and you can’t say people was saying she was t a single mom cause she’s not poor cause it’s a lot of single mothers out here doing it 100 on their own with the ex not paying all any bills and doing good
Hi Jen, thank you for this honest video. I loved many things about you in this video, I especially loved how you said underneath all those layers of anxiety, I really am OK... that’s beautiful ❤️ You are a beautiful person and I really am cheering for you. Sending love from Australia xxx
I think maybe some people assumed that a single mother is a woman who is raising her kids by herself and the father is not involved... Don seems very involved in every aspect so I think that's the difference. In your situation I would identify as a divorced mother.. But to each their own.
It’s tough to find someone who really listens nowadays. I also really appreciate a good connection. Love you Jen! I didn’t get to ask a question but I love all the ones that were asked. ❤️
Jen, one of my goals, for the New Year, was to spend very little time on social media. It was becoming way to comfortable to depend on The internet for activity and companionship. It was never my intent to stay away permanently, just take a break. As the social distancing continued, I knew it was time, so over the last week, I have been catching up on everyone’s past RUclipss. I have not felt compelled, up till now, to do anything except like your posts and to pray for you and everyone, during this extraordinary time. Today, however, I feel the need to make a couple comments. As a 67 year old woman, who has been married for 49 years, I am here to tell you that monetary value is defined in so many ways. I did, in fact, work outside of the home and contribute financially, however, I defy anyone to put a monetary value on the meals that I cooked, keeping my home clean and comfortable, the school functions that I attended, the baths I gave and the countless nights I rocked my babies when they were not feeling well. I am not faulting you for feeling the way you do, they are your feelings to have, but the dollars that Don paid for your home does not exceed the value that you “paid” by being a stay at home wife and Mom. As far a single mother vs. single woman, it’s semantics and everyone is going to interpret it in a different way. I recognize, as I’m sure you do that there are always going to be different opinions and we should be able to share them. This, however, does not give anyone the right to judge or criticize you so, if it were me, I would just say my piece and then block them as there is no excuse for rudeness. I will hop down off of my soapbox now. I have followed you since before CC was born and for the nth time I need to Thank you for introducing me to Christopher Allen, I love him!! Please take care, be careful of your privacy and God Bless.
Can I just say (please don't think I'm being judgey!!) you seem soooo much stronger and happier in this video.Making a new start in your new home will help you unbelievably, once you are master of your own destiny, there's no stopping you! Stay strong, you'll get there, promise! x
Thank you, Jen, for emphasizing the importance of being kind to one another. We need kindness more than ever, with all we are going through as a global community. Also, I appreciate the distinction between “caution” and “fear”. It is a helpful rubric to reflect on . . . God Bless, Jen . . . 😊
Happy RUclips anniversary Jen! You were the first RUclipsr I subbed to . I got pulled in by your wonderful organisation videos . I’ve watched you grow and mature . I’m 60 next month and have two marriages behind me 😟 it’s a painful process but I’m much happier now- and so are my kids. I’ve worked hard to stay amicable with my ex’s for my kids’ sake and they benefit so much from that . I’m sending you so much love and many prayers - please come to London sometime and experience some love from your many UK subbies!
I agree with you 100% on many thing you mentioned. Especially, finding yourself enjoying time at home with kids. Sad for everything happening in the world and people who are been very sick. But spending extra time with kids to watch them grow and shape their personalities are the high light of all this. Everyday I am so grateful to have my precious 3 little kids as my own. Mines are 6, 4 and 1! We have a moment and kids make mess but I am ok with kids having bad day. we can talk about it and try to make next day better!
Jen you are doing great! You and your beautiful children are happy and that’s all that matters. Your new home will be such a joy and comfort at this time because change is challenging, but it’s also great for your mind and independence. It’s also good for the soul. Make it yours and your children’s safe and happy, bright home♥️
My mugs are special too. I usually get one as my souvenir from special places I visit. And then gifts. I think, like you, it’s the comfort of the warm beverage. When my oldest daughter moved away for good (her husband is military) she gave me a large cup that says Mug of Coffee and had a matching one. Hers has since been broken (they moved away in early 2011!) but I still use mine almost every day! I also have a shi tzu mix who is 2 years younger than Winnie. She has been a soul saver since I became an empty nester because I am also divorced. I have watched you since 2013 when I found a packing for Europe video. I was going to Germany to meet my granddaughter and have watched you quite regularly ever since. I am sending good thoughts and energy because I know how difficult divorce can be and also being a mom to little ones. Stay safe and be well!
I really appreciate how serious you take quarantine. I'm seeing on Instagram stories, people going back to their normal lives and hanging out with friends and shopping without a care. It's not over, it's not a hoax, everyone is susceptible to this and can infect themselves or someone else without knowing. Stay safe, stay sane. The sunshine is here. :)
I joke with my husband ..... I could use a good two weeks of social isolation. I’m an essential medical worker, so literally life for me has not changed. Still working 5 days a week through all this. I’m such a homebody tho so on the weekend I only go to the grocery and then home. I’d love to self quarantine for awhile
I found you through your paper organization video years ago and have loved your content ever since. You have grown so much through the years and I’m loving your confidence and strength right now. Can’t wait to see what’s in store next for you :)
Hi Jen! Please take this as a constructive criticism, but I have to respectfully disagree with you about your definition of a single mother. I think the term “single mother” means more than what you described it to be. A single mother to me (and to most people) means being the ONLY parent to a child/children. In your case, since you are getting help from your ex-husband and you share the time between you and your husband with your kids, I think that does not qualify your experience as a single mom. Just my thought about it! I hope you are able to consider other points of view on this topic and be open-minded about it.
Wow, Jen! I applaud you for being so honest about the home and the social conditioning around it. So many people will benefit from you sharing your heart. Sending blessings to you and your family.
Yes I too have a connection to my mugs! Most definately!. Thanks for sharing your life and feelings. I feel you are doing fabulous and growing through all of this!. It is great that Don is spending time with both of your children. This is so important to their future. You mentioned that you are coming along well with your "office/craft room" I hope you will share at least once more in your office. Hopefully you will have a comparable space in your next home. Best of luck and good vibes in your home search. Hugs for sure.
I have been following you forever. I’m sorry about your divorce. I hope you have a peaceful transition into your new normal. I respect your position to keep details private. Hope to see you smiling again.💐
So glad I finally got a chance to watch this! Been meaning to, but life has been happening hard here. But you finding YOUR voice has me finding MINE (of course, with all the heart and kindness behind it). 💛🙌🏻
I was laughing at myself being wrong on ur favorite thing to do: I screamed ORGANIZING!!!! didnt even give u a chance to answer...I claimed: I KNOW IKNOW.LOL. then u answered memory keeping and I felt like a cartoon Flipping over on my back w/ my feet up. 😆😅❤
I had a conversation with a friend yesterday about how I love my mug collection and have a different reason for loving each, whereas she just like her mugs in a set. I just created a little coffee station on my counter with a sign that says ‘a yawn is a silent scream for coffee’ :) Totally with you on the joy of making a warm beverage and love your ‘breathe’ mug.
I’m glad you said that the person delivering unsolicited criticism is hurting their soul in the process. This is so true and well done Jen for saying that ! 👍👏❤️
Really appreciate how thoughtful you are with sharing your journey. I hope you are able to share your journey of house hunting and moving because that is so interesting but understand the need for caution. I certainly have enjoyed your videos over the years especially your organizing ones!!
Thank you for answering all the questions. I too love memory keeping. I love looking back on old photos and reliving the moments. I still “scrapbook” some of my photos and also include my favorite photos from the month in my planner.
Cheers-to-your-sanity is so appropriate. This whole lock down is TOUGH! Especially when you’re living with a medically fragile person, and you can’t take the “ chance” to risk exposure.... patience is a hard virtue to learn.
The distinctions of “single mom” are interesting to me. I’ve been, in turns, over the past 31 years of parenting: a single teen mom of 1, a married mom, a divorced mom, a separated mom of many... it’s never occurred to me that the term meant anything more than not having another parent in the same daily life in the same house. Sometimes having an absent co-parent is harder than having none. I generally lean toward people describing their own experiences and identities, though.
I’m so frustrated ..... I have not been able to find yeast for weeks and I’ve been wanting to make bread and cinnamon rolls. I finally just ordered yeast off Amazon. It should be here today 👍
I know you are not asking for advice so I’ll tell you my experience. When I went through my divorce after 30 years of marriage I kept all the reasons to myself so everyone blamed me. I lost every friend except one, my children one in college one in high school were angry at me, lost my beautiful home. I was broken. But I kept going and eventually the truth became known when my x moved his girlfriend in our home. She is our sons age. So the truth always comes out. I’m hurting for you but all will be well. Prayers your way.
Hey Jen, Love when you do a Q&A as I've been watching you for years and enjoy the life updates here and there. I know when people are asking the same questions over and over again, you feel compelled to answer or like you owe your audience answers. You don't. Keep things private if that's what you want - Keep your divorce private, keep your kids offline, keep your move to yourself(although I would love to see the process, minus the private details). If sharing these things makes you uneasy, then don't. Yes, some information is public like home purchases, phone numbers, etc. but the majority of viewers won't seek that out if you don't touch on it. There will always be the complete creeps (I'm looking at you, Gossip Bakery) who dissect everything down to your facial features and the photos of your kids at school - I hope you pay these people no attention during your time when the camera is off. They're a group of bored women who would rather spend more time on the internet trying to analyze you and track down every detail of your life than live their own. It's laughable. I'm sure if they were forced to use their real names instead of usernames and people could openly search every detail of their private life too, they would reconsider their behaviour. I hope you consult with a lawyer to figure out the best possible way to move/restart your life as privately as possible so these people have less information to work with.
Thank you, Jen, for this video and for sharing your life and heart with us. Praying for happiness, peace, and joy beyond all measure for you and your kiddos. Hugs!
Wow! I can't believe Winnie is 10!! I remember when you first got her!! I think that is how I initially found you. I have had 3 Shih Tzus (my current adopted baby, Dixie is blind-she came from a puppy mill and is the same age as Winnie) and they are amazing little dogs! Thanks for another open and honest vlog Jen! Hang in there, You are amazingly strong and a wonderful Mom!!
When people leave negative comments it is a true reflection of their PERSONAL pain. I don't understand why people feel the need to comment on your MONEY, your HOUSE, your DIVORCE, your GROCERIES purchases, etc. The key word is YOUR (meaning Jen's). Jen didn't ask anyone to purchase her house, her travel, her groceries, her jewelry, etc. Channel viewers don't get to judge, comment, and questions what you do. I don't understand Jen's need to JUSTIFY her purchases or lifestyle to anyone. Jen shares a part of her life via RUclips if people connect with Jen continue to watch. If they don't connect with Jen in a POSITIVE way move on to another RUclipsr. If you want a "struggle" channel lifestyle of living, Jen's channel is not it. Jen doesn't struggle that why I love her channel. She enjoys life without financial worries CONGRATS to Don & her for that ability. I wish an ignorant person WOULD try to make me feel bad for having $2 in the bank. That is my $2 and what I do with it is my business. I wish a person WOULD attempt to harass me at the home I pay the bills in. I wish a person WOULD try to make me justify what I buy, when I buy it, and how much I spend. I wish a person WOULD attempt to stalk me at my house. I don't play that shyte. At my age, I have zero tolerance for stalking. What I do in my house is my business EVEN if I post a video on RUclips sharing? Jen needs some tough love on this channel. Her nasty viewer comments are from people who are miserable in their personal lives, financial broke, and angry that Jen enjoys a comfortable life financially. She doesn't struggle to eat, sleep, or vacation. She does all of those thing well and people want her to feel bad that she doesn't struggle. The "curiosity" about Jen divorce is ridiculous. I don't remember Jen having two kids with any of the nasty commentators. I don't remember any viewers being with her at the marriage alter. What goes on between Jen and Don is their business. Life happens people fall out of love. It's wonderful that Jen and Don have remained amicable. Jen, I see you - NICE. All these years Jen has allowed the many haters on her channel to fun her travel, her jewelry, her future house purchases, etc. with a 178K subscribers I am sure those Google checks have paid for a trip or two. Well done Jen! Well Done! Let your haters fund your move, pay your house movers, support a maid coming weekly, a new house down payment, etc. The same people who claim you are such a horrible person, who leave nasty comments are the same people who are the first to watch EVERY video in support of your channel. Well done! What better karma to the haters! Let your move be financed by their hate. Keep doing what you do Jen! Live your life WELL and enjoy!
Everything you said about the divorce, the pandemic, the time with your kids, etc spoke to me. I started going through my divorce in December and I’m experiencing all the same things.
My ex and I are putting our house up for sale this week. It’s breaking my heart but I’m also very excited. Like you...I’ve felt strongly that I need my own house and fresh start.
People just want gossip about your divorce. Don’t feel obligated to say any more about the situation. We all should just cheer you on and pray for an easy transition for everyone.
I totally agree! It's no one's business but the people involved. And I think for the sake of CC and Donnie, the less shared the better. Unfortunately, there are too many disturbed people in this world who have no boundaries. Just wishing you all the best!
I agree, can’t understand the question “ Do you think at some point you will discuss more about your divorce?” Really??? Why do people need to ask questions like that? How were you brought up?
I agree! Sadly, I think more people watch her for the gossip then for genuine connection. It’s like an IRL Bravo Housewife reality show. I hope she pulls back from sharing so much.
I know this is just a crazy theory, but I'm beginning to wonder if some of the gossip or information being spread is by someone she knows/knew? It seems personal somewhat... Am I the only one thinking this?
I really enjoyed this video. I think one of the most important things you are doing with your platform is the empowerment of women. You are, like so many of us, an ordinary woman going through extraordinary circumstances; separation from your partner and a pandemic - at the same time. Really, that's a lot. But there are many of us that are going through stuff paired with a pandemic; that's a lot. So, thank you for sharing your ordinary life with extraordinary circumstances - it's like talking to a girlfriend. Caution, not fear. Blessings to you and your family.
Unhelpful comment. She's trying. This is exactly what she was referring to. Give her a break. I'm part of a minority and I appreciate when people of other races are interested in our struggles. It's a good thing. No need to "over-correct" them or "fact-check" them.
@@paulagonzalez1721 How is it unhelpful? I was giving information relevant to her post on IG and here on RUclips. Jen posted about Ahmaud Arbery on IG and then discussed him in this RUclips video but did not say his name. When discussing these issues we must say people's names or else we risk de-humanizing them. I am half minority as well, but that really has nothing to do with my comment or why I wrote it.
That is one of the bright sides the last few months. I 've gotten to spend more time with my son. SInce I'm a working mom , he has gone to school since he was 2 months old or hanging out my mom over the summer.
Totally agree with you about being a single mother. You definitely are. You are single. You are a mother. Continually praying for you and your family. ❤️
I’m struggling too - I seem to be even more worried since things have begun to open here in Florida - A little helpless maybe? I just don’t see an end in sight - but faith has to stay stronger than fear. 🙏 😊
I’m in Florida too. I’ve been working from the start as an essential medical care worker. I’m so glad everything is opening up finally. I’ve seen more people affected by job loss and financial hardship than I have the virus. Just keep taking your personal precautions and everything will be ok. Hugs from another Florida girl to you 👍
Sending you love 💕 You are very fortunate to be in an amicable situation with navigating the next phase of your lives. I didn’t have that experience, but am very glad that you do. Best wishes to you & yours. One day at a time.
Jen, you seem to be in a strong place right now, with your feet on the ground and your head squarely on your shoulders. Keep on keeping on! Your strength, kindness, gentleness and generosity of spirit will continue to carry you far!
You are amazing Jen! I’ve watched you since Organized like Jen and to have watched your transformation and growth and your journey into motherhood has been beautiful. I love your candor and your vulnerability and your grounded perspective. God bless and and your littles and be safe. 💜
Oh god Jen, I am so so sorry you are going through a divorce. I have been following you for years and I just picked back up after a hiatus. I am happy for you that you have your beautiful children and Winnie. My ex husband did not like being married anymore after we had a son, and we were married for many years before we decided to have kids. I’m glad it seems like you have come through the raw hell of it and are doing ok. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Listening to this I’m going to actually side with you on this one Jen. I have friend from high school she it would seem to me from the outside does well to support herself and her child, her child’s father is also the same but they are not together. This fabulous woman has done an incredible job raising her child, she isn’t solely financially dependent on the father but they are always united when it comes to major matters for their child and she’s supported in this area however she is a single mother. On a day to day basis she deals with things in her home with her child and when the child visits with the father so does the father. They are both single parents. I don’t know why we assume to be a single mother you have no support from anyone emotionally or financially. If I’m carrying the charge primarily by myself I am a single mother. And, single mothers have very similar concerns really because they are making decisions everyday without always having that person immediately there to say “can you bathe so and so while I finish dinner” or “do you think I should do this first or this” just some highly simplified ideas here. I’ve been married and realized I was pretty much carrying the charge by myself as if I were a single parent. I totally get it.
I'm happily married and sometimes I jokingly say I'm a single mother because let's face it, us moms do most of the work where the kids are concerned. At any rate, people take things away too seriously. Don't we have enough to worry about these days than to criticize people?
Haha! I had to laugh when you said get your eyebrows done! That's the ONE thing I am looking forward to when this thing lifts. I am starting to look like a brown muppet, lol!
Jen: I know you're going through a lot. God's blessings through your journey. You will be stronger as each day that goes by. I'm twice your age. Believe me, joy will come...
I can relate to the “only adult in the house” challenge. I have one 8 month old and my husband works on call 12-14 hours a day 6-7 days a week and many times I just barely make it through keeping up with cooking and cleaning. It’s so tough! I applaud any single parent.
Hey Jen, I just wanted to recommend to you the calm app for meditation. They do daily meditations, sleep stories, timed meditations loving kindness practice and so much more. I pay for the yearly subscription and I LOVE it xx
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We have much in common. I am experiencing the end of my 28 year marriage, having been a stay-at-home/homeshcooling mom for the last 25 of those years We have a teen still living at home, so I will also be a single mother. It has been hard because we are all still in the house together, but I will be the one moving out of the house. It is a beautiful house that we have been for nearly 13 years, and like you, it is the longest I have ever lived in one house. I honestly believed that it would be the last house I ever lived in. NOW, however, I WANT to move out and have a place that is truly mine. It is terrible that women who choose to use their talents, time and energy to create and manage a home are so undervalued in our society. I have been watching you for a very long time and I do recognize your contribution to your home and family. You are an encouragement and inspiration to so many people. Keep being your wonderful self!
Jen - I went through a divorce and it honestly was the lowest part of my life. Let me just say - give yourself a year. You will come out of the fog. It turns out the lowest time in my life led to the best part of my life. I met my wonderful husband of 24 years! I could not imagine my life without him. Just know it’s going to be better! And better than better!
Also! Jen don’t let him talk you into taking less than you deserve! Because you deserve it!
Lots of wisdom in this comment!
I completely agree... it was the worst time in mine as well. Definitely a year later you realize that it all happened the way it was supposed to. It absolutely gets better!
I’m in awe of you. I am 62 years (young) and you spoke of things I hadn’t even thought of or figured out at this point and you did so with such grace and beauty. Some might say you were able to edit or pre-plan your answers, but even if that were true you still composed those answers at some point in your journey. From my personal experience I’m certain you are feeling anxious and in pain and that’s okay. Wishing you and your children with peace.Thank you for the beautiful video.
I love that you're also going through a period of discovering who you are and honoring your own dreams and desires! I love that! I fell in love with your channel probably 6 years ago. You've always been an inspiration to me because we have similar personal goals (running a 5K, living with some anxiety, wanting to make connections and strengthening existing friendships, liking to organize and plan, big dreams). Your outlook feels so grounded and uplifting recently! Even your skin is glowy 😊 Keep prioritizing yourself 💛 we love you!
You are a truly lovely human being. The world could use so many more people like you. Listening to this Q&A today, brought me so much peace. You are kind, considerate, gentle, thoughtful, compassionate, modest and so many more wonderful qualities, in a very hard, cold, judgemental world. Thank you and bless you!
I can't express how happy I'm for you to be moving place and have your own little place on this earth. I can really feel it bring you lots of positive energy.
Jen I felt your warmth and sincerity through the screen! Your voice is comforting, soothing and so easy to listen to. Viewing your video was such a calming and heartwarming experience. My soul is soothed during this stressful time in my life! Sending virtual hugs and love XOXO
PS: My parents were divorced through the worst possible circumstances which caused me trauma. I can tell you without a doubt that your kind and gentle manner with your kids and Don as evidenced in your adorable Easter video as well as making gradual changes is doing so much good for your children’s mental health. Keep up the good work Mama!
Your divorce is your business. You shouldn’t think about sharing information with us. People are too nosy in the guise of wanting to be “helpful”. When you need the help, just trust your therapist, your pastor, and your family. It will save you a world of heartache in the future.
Do you think you'll be decluttering holiday decor and taking a more minimalistic approach to physical items when you move? Additionally, do you think you'll be vlogging if/ when you do start to pack to move?
What a spring is right. Diagnosed with stage 1 endometrial cancer 4/3 total hysterectomy 5/4. COVID hasn’t even really been on my mind. Thankfully the hysterectomy deemed me cancer free. No further treatment needed. Hugs to you my friend!
Danielle Budick 🙏🏾 ❤️
Praying for you, Danielle. Happy to hear you are cancer free!!🙏🙏🙏💛🤗
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Thank you guys. 😊
Love and hugs sent too you xx
Jen - Your experiences, emotions, struggles, labels (single Mom) are all 100% yours and I hate that anyone tries to minimize or invalidate them. Only you know what its like to be walking through this specific chapter of your journey. Having been through divorce without having kids, I know how painful and confusing it can feel. I can't imagine throwing kids into the mix on top of that. Live your truth and express what YOU want to express in the way you choose to do it. Those with true empathy and kindness in them will not bring negativity to your life ♥️
Completely understand how you feel about Winnie helping you through a difficult time. I had to do 13 weeks of bed rest with my twin girls twelve years ago....this was before things like social media and Netflix were so popular and readily available. My husband traveled a lot for work, we didn't have any family close by. I felt completely cut off from the rest of the world. The companionship of my black lab, Aggie, who never left my side, was simply invaluable.
I will never regret maintaining my career after marriage and children. I take so much pride in rolemodelling all roles as being equal to my boys each and every day. I hope your feelings regarding your house being Don’s (which I don’t agree with - you were married, it was a completely joint partnership) is a cautionary tale to your children, especially Charlotte. For me, having my own career contributes to such a sense of well-being and lessens anxiety - I know I’m financially assured and can be independent regardless of any issues that may arise in my marriage. As a woman, this is essential to me
Teri Ansell You never know what your future holds. It’s VERY important to know you can support yourself.
Agreed you never know what is in your future. Being able to support yourself is key. Just a pity Jen wasn’t able to start that journey
Teri, I agree with you. Jennifer worked for that home as well and it goes way beyond decorating. Women should understand that when their partners are out in the world working, the stay-at-home partner is the reason, why they can go out into the world and work successfully. My husband worked hard and provided us with a beautiful home, however, I played a part in that because I raised children, paid bills, made meals, planned vacations, etc... that's work. And yes, it's our house.
I've always said never get comfortable of someone taking care of you,.I think the house she's in is THEIR house.They were in a marriage what is purchase belongs to both.But I don't know what goes/went on in their house.Don could have been saying things like "this is my house,I bought it" (I honestly don't see him saying that) but I don't know...but what I DO know ppl been saying it in the comments for YEARS.That may have started putting thoughts like that in her mind.If starting a new path means moving into a new home then all the best to her...but it's a HARD lesson.
Friends - I want to clarify something. I meant no disrespect in my choice to not say Ahmaud Arbery's name out loud in this video. Yes, it was a conscious decision on my part. I am notoriously terrible at pronouncing people's names. I must admit I have not watched or listened to any recent news lately, choosing just to read the news instead as I find that's a better way for me to process right now with so much going on in the world. I did not want to do him the disservice of mispronouncing his name. In retrospect, I could have searched for a video where someone said his name before filming, but I did not think of that in advance. I ran inside on my treadmill that day because that was the only option available to me when the #runwithmaud initiative was taking place. As I mentioned before, I am the only adult in this house and I cannot leave my kids to go out for a run. I thought doing it inside was better than not doing it at all. I understand I cannot please everyone. I am just trying my best, please give me some grace. May Ahmaud rest in peace ❤️
MsHalprin What are you doing to help black people? Perhaps we could all learn from the examples you are going to share with us here.....
MsHalprin What does your work entail?
Miss Wittank it’s on you to learn what you can do. She doesn’t need to take the emotional energy to educate you. Read a book on social justice, follow prominent people in the black community on Instagram. YOU do the work. Don’t put it on someone else’s shoulders.
I beg you to educate yourself on performative wokeness. This response isn’t it.
MsHalprin I am not asking for your life story. I was just wondering if you are a lawyer, finance person, social worker, counsellor etc. You seem to cover a broad spectrum of areas there.
I fully agree that this extra time with my child has been a gift. He turns 1 on June 1, and I only had 8 weeks of maternity leave. These extra 9 weeks at home with him in quarantine have been such a blessing to me!
I can understand your feelings about people taking your personal information and not being kind.
I’ve always been a private person, mainly because of the very thing you mentioned. Whenever I opened up to others about a personal situation, they would act all concerned and wanting to be helpful,,However, I eventuality found whatever personal information I confided in them, was actually Entertainment for them. They’d use it as gossip with others..This was hurtful to me and I learned to Never make that mistake again..I also learned, that Every time they would tell me not to repeat something that some else Had Confided to them ..I knew they would do the very same to me and WERE NOT MY FRIENDS.
So be wary..
Wow. I didn't know you had so much going on. I have a ton of respect for you. You are a strong person. Now I will binge watch all your older videos. A beautiful soul like yourself will come through a tough situation with grace and sunshine. Take Care!
I always correlate “single” mother as someone who has never been married, nothing related to financial circumstances. To me, you are a divorced mom and perhaps it may be important to draw that distinction for your children when they’re older. Obviously, their dad will be there for them, it just may be confusing since unmarried motherhood is quite common these days.I know single moms, never married and little to no help from the baby daddy. I don’t think that’s an uncommon distinction. You should not be ashamed to identify as a divorced mother. My sister was a young widowed mother and never called herself single.
Cultivating Curiosity she’s also about to be divorced, so there’s that. I have never heard any of my divorced friends refer to themselves as a single mom or single dad. They say I’m a divorced dad. If Don got on YT and referred to himself as a single dad, I would be annoyed. But that’s just me I guess.
I think it is possible that some individuals feel the term "single parent" gives the impression that one is doing it all on their own as if there are not two active parents in the children's lives. I don't oppose anyone using the term - not my life, not my business - but I do see how it could offend anyone who is truly alone in raising their children. In reality it's all just semantics.The only thing that matters is that you're doing a great job and your children are loved, happy, healthy and well taken care of. I wish you well always.
What would you suggest a mother who is single would call themself as, if not a single mother?
yeah, I'm not taking one side or the other but I think the main point people made was that she is co-parenting and both parents are involved in the sotuation. So they felt the term single mother would be more appropriately used for a mom who is single handedly raising the kids. I think Jen focused here on the financial aspect which is one piece of the criticism but wasn't the sole point in my opinion.
@@kashhsak6856 Divorced parent? And I agree, to those women and men who are truly parenting solo, I can see where it may be taken a certain way.
I can’t even imagine what difference it makes what she calls herself. If it really bothers you all so much there is a simple solution....stop watching!
Flip it around. How would Jen feel if Don started branding himself a single dad? It makes him sound like he's doing it alone and she's out of the picture. Now flip it back. There's where people get annoyed. It doesn't matter to me what she says but there's an easy explanation for why it does bother some people.Sometimes words strung together change the meaning of a term.
My parents "separated" as they were never married when I was quite young. I always thought of each of my parents as "single parents" as they did not have each other nor partners for quite some time. Thank you for sharing your reality and what being a single parent looks like for you, as everyone's situation is different from the others, and in that we must all respect and not place judgement on others. 💕
I honestly have never understood the absolute obsession and hatefulness of some of the people over the years and the site they share all of that on. It’s disturbing and confusing to me and I echo the people who say some of the ways you have to address things are so protective bc of how you’ve been treated and it’s so uncomfortable and I feel really bad for you in that. 💔 Thank you for pressing on no matter what is going on and not giving up on your content or engagement. Hope you see enough of the good people following ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I think it’s great that you and Don are so amicable (or mostly it seems) it’s truly best for the kids. I also think it’s great that you can all still vacation together. My sister and her ex had a better relationship after their divorce than while they were married. He’s included at all family holidays and still gets hugs and kisses from everyone. He’s still family even though he’s not married to my sister. Can’t wait to see your new place. How exciting. I bet it will be so cute ❤️
I must confess, my definition of a "single mother" or "single father" meant that they don't co-parent, or have their children's other parent in the picture at all. Primarily since that's the way I grew up with a single mom.... and because of that I always assume when someone says they're a "single parent" -nothing at all to do with financial circumstances
Yeah and Don is very involved it seems from Instagram and here. I wonder if anyone would refer to Don as a single dad? That's the same situation to Jen...
@@WinterWind Yes, I think it's more so Jen can portray herself as a victim and a martyr. Meanwhile Don is a co-parent and supports Jen and the children financially.
Kimberley Paige Using the label “single parent” does evoke a sympathy - I really like Jen and am not sure she understands the common reference of it... because if that’s the case, most all moms are “single mothers” - I’ve single-parented my son ,unless of course his father held him or occasionally fed him-LOL
Co-parenting, sometimes called joint parenting or shared parenting, is the experience of raising children as a single parent when separation or divorce occurs. That’s the first thing to pop up when I googled "are you a single parent if you co-parent?”. The law says the same thing so you can always look to what the laws definition is to be most clear on anything.
@@KimberleyPaige1 WHAAAAT???? is this real? I'm a single mother. There is different circumstances of being a single parent but primarily Jen is raising the kids the majority of the time. Don is a single father. The end....
I don’t comment much as a 66 year old, although I’ve been watching you on and off for years. I truly like the new Jen. 🌻 Motherhood and life experience has changed you, as it does for all of us. Love your honesty and compassion that is coming out of your conversations...
I learned to value the time my child was with their father. It’s a necessary break for self care. Especially as a primary care giver. He hasn’t seen my son in 2 years now, so I really miss that time. And I understand what you say about this time being a blessing. My son is 16 now and our time together would have never happened if life was normal so I actually cherish it.
I am glad to hear that you are okay. Been thinking about you with real concern but hearing this makes me feel better. I hope you trust that all this will pass. The heartache and the pain of loss. One day you will see why all the difficult things had to happen and it will bring you peace and understanding. YOU are a good mom and your babies are so sweet! 😊 Many blessings to you and your family 🙏🏽
Jen, you're so sweet, so authentic and real. We are WITH YOU! You are doing amazing during what is a very stressful time and I applaud you. God bless you and your Family. Stay strong ❤
Jenn - you are a very sweet person. I have followed you for years and have always thought that. I am so glad to hear you are not letting these comments bother you so much and you are standing up for yourself.
This pandemic sucks. On so many levels. I think everyone I know is suffering in some way. I worry about everyone’s mental and physical health.
Thank you for sharing so much. I’ve been watching you so long that I feel like I can count on feeling less lonely every time I watch one of your videos. That means so much, especially during these lonelier times right now. 🙏🏼
I hope you share your moving/house hunting journey. I love seeing different kinds of houses! It was a little hard to see you in this video with the lighting.
I agree. Although it is a private thing, I too hope you share your journey.
Just having a chance to catch up on some of your videos, and just wanted to send you some love and positive vibes. You were my first RUclips channel that I subscribed to and I felt (still feel) like I strongly connect with you, your personality, family, etc. In a time where there’s a lot of shifting, unknowns, and vulnerability, I just felt the need to give you a compliment, encouragement, let you know how much I enjoy your content, and that I am wishing the best for you and your loved ones. Stay strong 💪
Love, peace and safety to you and yours Jen. You are such a kind and selfless person. You are and will be stronger than you ever imagined. God bless!
Jen, you're a very thoughtful soul. Sending you lots of sunshine and love. I'm rooting for you.
Jen I have watched you from the beginning.. My youngest Daughter Married her Highschool boyfriend (Never dated another boy) They were married for 11 years and Had one child. They divorced 2 years ago. She Moved out into a nice size Apartment. Did not date until their Divorce was final. She Said moving to an Apartment that Was ALL hers and NO memories was a game changer in how she felt about it all. We could tell she gained confidence and even seemed to hold her head up higher. It gave her something to be excited about after all the crap she went through. I look forward to seeing you blossom after your move!!!!
Indeed these are crazy times. Hang in there! All of you!
About the colloquial use of the term “single mom”. I’m going to go out on a limb and say that you’re mistaken that the issue people had with this phrase was regarding your financial privilege. It isn't a money thing specifically; it is the lack of availability of help from the other parent that demonstrates “single” in this context. So when someone says; “I was raised by a single mom”, the clear, unambiguous meaning is that the father (or other responsible party) was absent financially, emotionally, and or physically. I was raised by a single mom. My father abandoned my mother, leaving her high and dry with three kids. Poof. No child support, no alimony, no driving lessons from dad, no co-parenting, no in-laws to babysit. You are a divorced mom. Your marriage ended, but the contact and support from Don to his children did not dissolve. Throwing the phrase around erodes its implicit meaning and thereby its symbolic power. For all of you who would say “it’s just semantics”, all speech is symbolic, but definitions aren’t completely fluid. Divorce implies accord, single implies discord. I suspect that this is the issue people have with the overly simplistic use of this loaded phrase. Although divorce is painful, thankfully, it appears that Don will remain in your children’s lives (and yours) supporting them financially, emotionally, and otherwise. You may discover that continued use of this phrasing will cause confusion or inaccurate assumptions about you or Don’s situation. You may find that people will assume that Don disappeared on you and your kids when that is far from the truth. I believe you will discover that I am correct on this issue, but I can also see how it occurred innocently. I am a divorced mom of two. Thankfully, my children’s father stuck around for them (and for me). Love and light.
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All of this! And I think Jen's use of the term is more to garner sympathy than anything else. She has a co-parenting partner and is being supported by that partner, and is very fortunate in that aspect. It is trivializing to those women and men who are truly solo with no support, financial or otherwise, by their child/children's other parent.
Kimberley Paige OMG and Paige the baker always has two cents to put in.
@@Paula-xp7ve Paula, this is not the first time you have accused me of being a "baker". I do not work at a bakery, don't bake at home, nor do I smoke marijuana. Your attacks are bizarre. Are you sure you are OK Paula?
Yeah flip it around. How would Jen feel if Don started branding himself a single dad? It makes him sound like he's doing it alone and she's out of the picture. Now flip it back. There's where people get annoyed. It doesn't matter to me what she says but there's an easy explanation for why it does bother some people.Sometimes words strung together change the meaning of a term.
I'm confused why you would find Zoom dating awkward. You've spent years pointing a camera at yourself talking to "friends, " pouring out personal details that are accessible to anyone who has internet. The only difference would be interacting with a live person, and actually engaging in real time. And if either of you aren't interested, you end the call and no worries as to who picks up the check .
I don’t think they mean you can’t be a single mother unless your not doing well financially maybe they mean that your not a single mother if your being supported by the father in all ways it’s plenty of single mothers who truly do it all on their own and do very well for themselves
kristen B yes. You can’t claim single motherhood when you’re still being supported by your spouse.
yeah I think the main point by those who made it was that she is not single handedly raising the kids (financial support or otherwise). I think she focused on the financial aspect here but there was a broader implication from those who were critiquing the use of the term.
Mhm. Flip it around. How would Jen feel if Don started branding himself a single dad? It makes him sound like he's doing it alone and she's out of the picture. Now flip it back. There's where people get annoyed. It doesn't matter to me what she says but there's an easy explanation for why it does bother some people.Sometimes words strung together change the meaning of a term.
jmonta21 well that’s pretty much what I said and you can’t say people was saying she was t a single mom cause she’s not poor cause it’s a lot of single mothers out here doing it 100 on their own with the ex not paying all any bills and doing good
Diane S right and people wasn’t saying can’t claim being a single mother just cause she isn’t poor that’s crazy
Hi Jen, thank you for this honest video. I loved many things about you in this video, I especially loved how you said underneath all those layers of anxiety, I really am OK... that’s beautiful ❤️ You are a beautiful person and I really am cheering for you. Sending love from Australia xxx
I think maybe some people assumed that a single mother is a woman who is raising her kids by herself and the father is not involved... Don seems very involved in every aspect so I think that's the difference. In your situation I would identify as a divorced mother.. But to each their own.
Single woman NOT single mom
It’s tough to find someone who really listens nowadays. I also really appreciate a good connection. Love you Jen! I didn’t get to ask a question but I love all the ones that were asked. ❤️
You are so gracious and have such a gentle spirit. What a role model for CC and Donnie. As always prayers for you and your entire family. Stay safe.
Jen, one of my goals, for the New Year, was to spend very little time on social media. It was becoming way to comfortable to depend on The internet for activity and companionship. It was never my intent to stay away permanently, just take a break. As the social distancing continued, I knew it was time, so over the last week, I have been catching up on everyone’s past RUclipss. I have not felt compelled, up till now, to do anything except like your posts and to pray for you and everyone, during this extraordinary time. Today, however, I feel the need to make a couple comments. As a 67 year old woman, who has been married for 49 years, I am here to tell you that monetary value is defined in so many ways. I did, in fact, work outside of the home and contribute financially, however, I defy anyone to put a monetary value on the meals that I cooked, keeping my home clean and comfortable, the school functions that I attended, the baths I gave and the countless nights I rocked my babies when they were not feeling well. I am not faulting you for feeling the way you do, they are your feelings to have, but the dollars that Don paid for your home does not exceed the value that you “paid” by being a stay at home wife and Mom. As far a single mother vs. single woman, it’s semantics and everyone is going to interpret it in a different way. I recognize, as I’m sure you do that there are always going to be different opinions and we should be able to share them. This, however, does not give anyone the right to judge or criticize you so, if it were me, I would just say my piece and then block them as there is no excuse for rudeness. I will hop down off of my soapbox now. I have followed you since before CC was born and for the nth time I need to Thank you for introducing me to Christopher Allen, I love him!! Please take care, be careful of your privacy and God Bless.
Can I just say (please don't think I'm being judgey!!) you seem soooo much stronger and happier in this video.Making a new start in your new home will help you unbelievably, once you are master of your own destiny, there's no stopping you! Stay strong, you'll get there, promise! x
Thank you, Jen, for emphasizing the importance of being kind to one another. We need kindness more than ever, with all we are going through as a global community. Also, I appreciate the distinction between “caution” and “fear”. It is a helpful rubric to reflect on . . . God Bless, Jen . . . 😊
Happy RUclips anniversary Jen! You were the first RUclipsr I subbed to . I got pulled in by your wonderful organisation videos . I’ve watched you grow and mature . I’m 60 next month and have two marriages behind me 😟 it’s a painful process but I’m much happier now- and so are my kids. I’ve worked hard to stay amicable with my ex’s for my kids’ sake and they benefit so much from that . I’m sending you so much love and many prayers - please come to London sometime and experience some love from your many UK subbies!
Jen, you are such a classy lady and I you are so inspiring. God bless you and stay strong!
I agree with you 100% on many thing you mentioned. Especially, finding yourself enjoying time at home with kids. Sad for everything happening in the world and people who are been very sick. But spending extra time with kids to watch them grow and shape their personalities are the high light of all this. Everyday I am so grateful to have my precious 3 little kids as my own. Mines are 6, 4 and 1! We have a moment and kids make mess but I am ok with kids having bad day. we can talk about it and try to make next day better!
Jen you are doing great! You and your beautiful children are happy and that’s all that matters. Your new home will be such a joy and comfort at this time because change is challenging, but it’s also great for your mind and independence. It’s also good for the soul. Make it yours and your children’s safe and happy, bright home♥️
My mugs are special too. I usually get one as my souvenir from special places I visit. And then gifts. I think, like you, it’s the comfort of the warm beverage. When my oldest daughter moved away for good (her husband is military) she gave me a large cup that says Mug of Coffee and had a matching one. Hers has since been broken (they moved away in early 2011!) but I still use mine almost every day! I also have a shi tzu mix who is 2 years younger than Winnie. She has been a soul saver since I became an empty nester because I am also divorced. I have watched you since 2013 when I found a packing for Europe video. I was going to Germany to meet my granddaughter and have watched you quite regularly ever since. I am sending good thoughts and energy because I know how difficult divorce can be and also being a mom to little ones. Stay safe and be well!
I really appreciate how serious you take quarantine. I'm seeing on Instagram stories, people going back to their normal lives and hanging out with friends and shopping without a care. It's not over, it's not a hoax, everyone is susceptible to this and can infect themselves or someone else without knowing. Stay safe, stay sane. The sunshine is here. :)
I joke with my husband ..... I could use a good two weeks of social isolation. I’m an essential medical worker, so literally life for me has not changed. Still working 5 days a week through all this. I’m such a homebody tho so on the weekend I only go to the grocery and then home. I’d love to self quarantine for awhile
I found you through your paper organization video years ago and have loved your content ever since. You have grown so much through the years and I’m loving your confidence and strength right now. Can’t wait to see what’s in store next for you :)
Hi Jen! Please take this as a constructive criticism, but I have to respectfully disagree with you about your definition of a single mother. I think the term “single mother” means more than what you described it to be. A single mother to me (and to most people) means being the ONLY parent to a child/children. In your case, since you are getting help from your ex-husband and you share the time between you and your husband with your kids, I think that does not qualify your experience as a single mom. Just my thought about it! I hope you are able to consider other points of view on this topic and be open-minded about it.
Wow, Jen! I applaud you for being so honest about the home and the social conditioning around it. So many people will benefit from you sharing your heart. Sending blessings to you and your family.
Yes I too have a connection to my mugs! Most definately!.
Thanks for sharing your life and feelings. I feel you are doing fabulous and growing through all of this!. It is great that Don is spending time with both of your children. This is so important to their future.
You mentioned that you are coming along well with your "office/craft room" I hope you will share at least once more in your office.
Hopefully you will have a comparable space in your next home. Best of luck and good vibes in your home search. Hugs for sure.
I have been following you forever. I’m sorry about your divorce. I hope you have a peaceful transition into your new normal. I respect your position to keep details private. Hope to see you smiling again.💐
So glad I finally got a chance to watch this! Been meaning to, but life has been happening hard here.
But you finding YOUR voice has me finding MINE (of course, with all the heart and kindness behind it). 💛🙌🏻
I was laughing at myself being wrong on ur favorite thing to do: I screamed ORGANIZING!!!! didnt even give u a chance to answer...I claimed: I KNOW IKNOW.LOL. then u answered memory keeping and I felt like a cartoon Flipping over on my back w/ my feet up. 😆😅❤
Me too. I was like of course organizing 😆
I screamed Organizing too😂!!!!
I had a conversation with a friend yesterday about how I love my mug collection and have a different reason for loving each, whereas she just like her mugs in a set. I just created a little coffee station on my counter with a sign that says ‘a yawn is a silent scream for coffee’ :) Totally with you on the joy of making a warm beverage and love your ‘breathe’ mug.
Personally I do not feel you owe it to any viewer the details of your marriage and divorce
I’m glad you said that the person delivering unsolicited criticism is hurting their soul in the process. This is so true and well done Jen for saying that ! 👍👏❤️
Really appreciate how thoughtful you are with sharing your journey. I hope you are able to share your journey of house hunting and moving because that is so interesting but understand the need for caution. I certainly have enjoyed your videos over the years especially your organizing ones!!
Thank you for answering all the questions. I too love memory keeping. I love looking back on old photos and reliving the moments. I still “scrapbook” some of my photos and also include my favorite photos from the month in my planner.
Cheers-to-your-sanity is so appropriate. This whole lock down is TOUGH! Especially when you’re living with a medically fragile person, and you can’t take the “ chance” to risk exposure.... patience is a hard virtue to learn.
The feeling when they come home never goes away. Ever. 😊
Here's hoping for better for all of us. I always really enjoy watching your videos, Jen. ♥️
The distinctions of “single mom” are interesting to me. I’ve been, in turns, over the past 31 years of parenting: a single teen mom of 1, a married mom, a divorced mom, a separated mom of many... it’s never occurred to me that the term meant anything more than not having another parent in the same daily life in the same house. Sometimes having an absent co-parent is harder than having none.
I generally lean toward people describing their own experiences and identities, though.
I've found baking makes me feel all is right in the world for just a moment, even though it isn't. 🎂🍰
Me too 😊 I have mastered my chocolate chip cookie recipe this quarantine.
I’m so frustrated ..... I have not been able to find yeast for weeks and I’ve been wanting to make bread and cinnamon rolls. I finally just ordered yeast off Amazon. It should be here today 👍
I am so proud of seeing how you exercise self care. Thanks
I know you are not asking for advice so I’ll tell you my experience. When I went through my divorce after 30 years of marriage I kept all the reasons to myself so everyone blamed me. I lost every friend except one, my children one in college one in high school were angry at me, lost my beautiful home. I was broken. But I kept going and eventually the truth became known when my x moved his girlfriend in our home. She is our sons age. So the truth always comes out. I’m hurting for you but all will be well. Prayers your way.
Hey Jen,
Love when you do a Q&A as I've been watching you for years and enjoy the life updates here and there. I know when people are asking the same questions over and over again, you feel compelled to answer or like you owe your audience answers. You don't. Keep things private if that's what you want - Keep your divorce private, keep your kids offline, keep your move to yourself(although I would love to see the process, minus the private details). If sharing these things makes you uneasy, then don't. Yes, some information is public like home purchases, phone numbers, etc. but the majority of viewers won't seek that out if you don't touch on it. There will always be the complete creeps (I'm looking at you, Gossip Bakery) who dissect everything down to your facial features and the photos of your kids at school - I hope you pay these people no attention during your time when the camera is off. They're a group of bored women who would rather spend more time on the internet trying to analyze you and track down every detail of your life than live their own. It's laughable. I'm sure if they were forced to use their real names instead of usernames and people could openly search every detail of their private life too, they would reconsider their behaviour. I hope you consult with a lawyer to figure out the best possible way to move/restart your life as privately as possible so these people have less information to work with.
The bakery is nothing more than a bunch of bored mean witches. They think they are oh so cleaver.
"blood relative or somebody I used to be married with" lol the way you said that made me laugh. Anything goes! haha :)
Jen, I like this fun and eccentric side of you. You seem to be more open and free now. Stay safe.
Thank you, Jen, for this video and for sharing your life and heart with us. Praying for happiness, peace, and joy beyond all measure for you and your kiddos. Hugs!
Wow! I can't believe Winnie is 10!! I remember when you first got her!! I think that is how I initially found you. I have had 3 Shih Tzus (my current adopted baby, Dixie is blind-she came from a puppy mill and is the same age as Winnie) and they are amazing little dogs! Thanks for another open and honest vlog Jen! Hang in there, You are amazingly strong and a wonderful Mom!!
When people leave negative comments it is a true reflection of their PERSONAL pain. I don't understand why people feel the need to comment on your MONEY, your HOUSE, your DIVORCE, your GROCERIES purchases, etc. The key word is YOUR (meaning Jen's). Jen didn't ask anyone to purchase her house, her travel, her groceries, her jewelry, etc. Channel viewers don't get to judge, comment, and questions what you do. I don't understand Jen's need to JUSTIFY her purchases or lifestyle to anyone. Jen shares a part of her life via RUclips if people connect with Jen continue to watch. If they don't connect with Jen in a POSITIVE way move on to another RUclipsr. If you want a "struggle" channel lifestyle of living, Jen's channel is not it. Jen doesn't struggle that why I love her channel. She enjoys life without financial worries CONGRATS to Don & her for that ability.
I wish an ignorant person WOULD try to make me feel bad for having $2 in the bank. That is my $2 and what I do with it is my business. I wish a person WOULD attempt to harass me at the home I pay the bills in. I wish a person WOULD try to make me justify what I buy, when I buy it, and how much I spend. I wish a person WOULD attempt to stalk me at my house. I don't play that shyte. At my age, I have zero tolerance for stalking.
What I do in my house is my business EVEN if I post a video on RUclips sharing? Jen needs some tough love on this channel. Her nasty viewer comments are from people who are miserable in their personal lives, financial broke, and angry that Jen enjoys a comfortable life financially. She doesn't struggle to eat, sleep, or vacation. She does all of those thing well and people want her to feel bad that she doesn't struggle.
The "curiosity" about Jen divorce is ridiculous. I don't remember Jen having two kids with any of the nasty commentators. I don't remember any viewers being with her at the marriage alter. What goes on between Jen and Don is their business. Life happens people fall out of love. It's wonderful that Jen and Don have remained amicable.
Jen, I see you - NICE. All these years Jen has allowed the many haters on her channel to fun her travel, her jewelry, her future house purchases, etc. with a 178K subscribers I am sure those Google checks have paid for a trip or two. Well done Jen! Well Done!
Let your haters fund your move, pay your house movers, support a maid coming weekly, a new house down payment, etc. The same people who claim you are such a horrible person, who leave nasty comments are the same people who are the first to watch EVERY video in support of your channel. Well done! What better karma to the haters! Let your move be financed by their hate.
Keep doing what you do Jen! Live your life WELL and enjoy!
Everything you said about the divorce, the pandemic, the time with your kids, etc spoke to me. I started going through my divorce in December and I’m experiencing all the same things.
My ex and I are putting our house up for sale this week. It’s breaking my heart but I’m also very excited. Like you...I’ve felt strongly that I need my own house and fresh start.
People just want gossip about your divorce. Don’t feel obligated to say any more about the situation. We all should just cheer you on and pray for an easy transition for everyone.
I totally agree! It's no one's business but the people involved. And I think for the sake of CC and Donnie, the less shared the better. Unfortunately, there are too many disturbed people in this world who have no boundaries. Just wishing you all the best!
I agree, can’t understand the question “ Do you think at some point you will discuss more about your divorce?” Really??? Why do people need to ask questions like that? How were you brought up?
I agree! Sadly, I think more people watch her for the gossip then for genuine connection. It’s like an IRL Bravo Housewife reality show. I hope she pulls back from sharing so much.
I think because she’s shared literally everything else about her life, it isn’t that far fetched to ask about the next chapter in her life.
I know this is just a crazy theory, but I'm beginning to wonder if some of the gossip or information being spread is by someone she knows/knew? It seems personal somewhat... Am I the only one thinking this?
I really enjoyed this video. I think one of the most important things you are doing with your platform is the empowerment of women. You are, like so many of us, an ordinary woman going through extraordinary circumstances; separation from your partner and a pandemic - at the same time. Really, that's a lot. But there are many of us that are going through stuff paired with a pandemic; that's a lot. So, thank you for sharing your ordinary life with extraordinary circumstances - it's like talking to a girlfriend. Caution, not fear. Blessings to you and your family.
FYI - The "young man's" name is Ahmaud Arbery.
Unhelpful comment. She's trying. This is exactly what she was referring to. Give her a break. I'm part of a minority and I appreciate when people of other races are interested in our struggles. It's a good thing. No need to "over-correct" them or "fact-check" them.
Paula Gonzalez Why so defensive? She didn't attack Jen. Just added pertinent info.
@@watever810 It's not possible to pronounce someone's name correctly during social isolation? That makes zero sense.
@@paulagonzalez1721 How is it unhelpful? I was giving information relevant to her post on IG and here on RUclips. Jen posted about Ahmaud Arbery on IG and then discussed him in this RUclips video but did not say his name. When discussing these issues we must say people's names or else we risk de-humanizing them. I am half minority as well, but that really has nothing to do with my comment or why I wrote it.
Thanks for saying Ahmad Arbery’s name.❤️
That is one of the bright sides the last few months. I 've gotten to spend more time with my son. SInce I'm a working mom , he has gone to school since he was 2 months old or hanging out my mom over the summer.
Totally agree with you about being a single mother. You definitely are. You are single. You are a mother. Continually praying for you and your family. ❤️
I’m struggling too - I seem to be even more worried since things have begun to open here in Florida - A little helpless maybe? I just don’t see an end in sight - but faith has to stay stronger than fear. 🙏 😊
I’m in Florida too. I’ve been working from the start as an essential medical care worker. I’m so glad everything is opening up finally. I’ve seen more people affected by job loss and financial hardship than I have the virus. Just keep taking your personal precautions and everything will be ok. Hugs from another Florida girl to you 👍
A Life on Purpose Thank you for all you are doing .....Stay safe! God bless....❤️🙏😊
Caroline Murray you too Hun 👍
Sending you love 💕 You are very fortunate to be in an amicable situation with navigating the next phase of your lives. I didn’t have that experience, but am very glad that you do. Best wishes to you & yours. One day at a time.
You’re so genuine and a joy to watch, Jen. Thank you for making such cozy videos and being so real and calming. ❤️ Amber
Gosh I wish nothing but good things and happiness for you and your family!
Jen, you seem to be in a strong place right now, with your feet on the ground and your head squarely on your shoulders. Keep on keeping on! Your strength, kindness, gentleness and generosity of spirit will continue to carry you far!
Praying for you, Jen! 💗🙏 You are a wonderful mother. 🌸💕 Hope you and your darlings make it to Disney before long! Hugs from Florida! 🏖☀️
I love these videos from you. I wish the best to you and your family!!
You are amazing Jen! I’ve watched you since Organized like Jen and to have watched your transformation and growth and your journey into motherhood has been beautiful. I love your candor and your vulnerability and your grounded perspective. God bless and and your littles and be safe. 💜
At the end of the day you are a mum. Who cares if it's a single or a divorced one
Jen , this may sound very strange to you but during these challenging times your videos are very soothing to me you're such a wonderful person!
Oh god Jen, I am so so sorry you are going through a divorce. I have been following you for years and I just picked back up after a hiatus. I am happy for you that you have your beautiful children and Winnie. My ex husband did not like being married anymore after we had a son, and we were married for many years before we decided to have kids. I’m glad it seems like you have come through the raw hell of it and are doing ok. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Listening to this I’m going to actually side with you on this one Jen. I have friend from high school she it would seem to me from the outside does well to support herself and her child, her child’s father is also the same but they are not together. This fabulous woman has done an incredible job raising her child, she isn’t solely financially dependent on the father but they are always united when it comes to major matters for their child and she’s supported in this area however she is a single mother. On a day to day basis she deals with things in her home with her child and when the child visits with the father so does the father. They are both single parents. I don’t know why we assume to be a single mother you have no support from anyone emotionally or financially. If I’m carrying the charge primarily by myself I am a single mother. And, single mothers have very similar concerns really because they are making decisions everyday without always having that person immediately there to say “can you bathe so and so while I finish dinner” or “do you think I should do this first or this” just some highly simplified ideas here. I’ve been married and realized I was pretty much carrying the charge by myself as if I were a single parent. I totally get it.
I'm happily married and sometimes I jokingly say I'm a single mother because let's face it, us moms do most of the work where the kids are concerned. At any rate, people take things away too seriously. Don't we have enough to worry about these days than to criticize people?
Haha! I had to laugh when you said get your eyebrows done! That's the ONE thing I am looking forward to when this thing lifts. I am starting to look like a brown muppet, lol!
Jen:
I know you're going through a lot. God's blessings through your journey. You will be stronger as each day that goes by. I'm twice your age. Believe me, joy will come...
I can relate to the “only adult in the house” challenge. I have one 8 month old and my husband works on call 12-14 hours a day 6-7 days a week and many times I just barely make it through keeping up with cooking and cleaning. It’s so tough! I applaud any single parent.
Hey Jen,
I just wanted to recommend to you the calm app for meditation. They do daily meditations, sleep stories, timed meditations loving kindness practice and so much more. I pay for the yearly subscription and I LOVE it xx
Great relaxed chat! All the best to you in this new chapter. 🥰
I have to thank you for the bake along idea! I just did one this week with my first grade class. So much fun and a wonderful way to stay connected ☺️