How To Become A Beast In Your 20's & 30's
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- Опубликовано: 18 окт 2024
- Scott Galloway breaks down his best advice for people entering their 30’s. How important is choosing your partner? Why does Scott Galloway think everyone should train hard? Should you earn as much money as possible in your 30’s?
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What an uncharismatic speaker!!
the best video i saw on the internet in a longtime. subscribed
@joyfuldays596 safest to just never speak to a woman ever: problem solved. Anger and loneliness is the best protection
I'm 32 and rejection is the keyword that took me forever to embrace. In my 20s I didn't take risks because I was too afraid to fail
Same buddy same
im still learning it lol
Wayne Gretzky, the God of hockey, took a total of 5088 shots on net, he scored 894 times. The man missed over 4000 times! But you can't score if you don't try.
@@darex0827but your confidence takes a hit everytime you fail, you just feel mortified....
@@MasterofPlay7 Think politicians, you need to develop thick skin. It can be done psychologically speaking. I had the same problem, now I just have the opinion that it doesn't matter.
1) Develop grit in mental & physical strengh.
2) Be great in a big city, rather than a small city.
3) Develop skills in establishing relationships. Force yourself to talk with strangers, whever you are. Be comfortable with rejection.
4) Find a great partner for life.
5) Reach out to people you admire, take risks in rejection.
Thanks for writing it out so succinctly and in brief.
Edit: 2) be good in a big city rather than great in a small city
Saw the video again as a whole. Was with him until he stated men should just go and talk to women at work. Then he tried to flip it's men who don't know the difference hence run into problems.
Not sure if he's aware but there's literally numerous cases of men being accused of harassing even when doing literally nothing.
Your approaches are only going to work if women are interested in you beforehand whether it's by appearance, status or wealth. One accusation could ruin men's whole life. Take risks but calculated ones.
@@gabbar51ngh That's why you don't mess with co-workers or customers period.
This is the most generic oligarchy hogwash you could hear. If all men go there own way "mr. Professor" might have to get his hands dirty and get a real job. Let's keep up the status quo as the ship is sinking so he can keep his useless job, he and self help people like him are the band on titanic.
#1 tip for all of us. Stop watching these videos and do the things we know we should be doing.
Knowledge.
Facts.
Solid advice 😂
Exactly. I go for periods without watching anything like this. At some point I put David Goggins on the back burner and live this stuff. 🤘🏾
Can do both
At 32 years old (37 now) I moved downtown in a major city, shifted from a marketing position into sales which got me speaking with strangers daily, and I started running marathons. The amount my life has improved in the last 5 years is staggering. Every bit of advice in this video is tangible and incredibly effective. If the idea of executing anything he says here scares you, that's how you know it needs to be done!
Well put sir
I needed to hear this comment. Thank you
Im a big runner and have ran competitively up to the college level. I will never get into marathons and i wouldn't recommend it to anybody else. Your body will regret that when you're older bro. Running is one of the hardest sports on the body.
@@AlexRuns98 I hear that a lot. I’ll tell you my body feels a lot better running marathons at 38 than it did being a dedicated power lifter at 28.
His advice is good advice for extroverts. I'm a pretty big introvert and I've tried in the past to go out a lot but it just irritates me and I start being rude to people and pretty unpleasant. I can't stand people uggghhh! Once and a while is ok.
I worked for an 85 year old guy in college. He pulled out an old photo of himself and said "I used to think I was ugly, and I was so shy because of it. If I had known how handsome I really was my life would be completely different."
Wow... 🤯
If I don't change myself in 3 years I'm definitely going to end it. I don't want to end up like this
Wow
@@Dave_of_Mordor Please don't do that.
@@Dave_of_Mordor shut up and go do dam sports, gym, and so on. that is not an option, i know what i am talkin. its not an option.
Im 35.... This guy is making some great points. I work with teenagers and I look at them and realize... they have the capacity to crush it and they don't even know it. Then I realize the 50 year olds I work with might look at me with that same mindset.
I had the exact same thought the other day. Perspective drives performance. As a 30 yeard old, I've never been so motivated to stay on top of my shit, educate myself in new areas and stay on top of my fitness.
Honestly the problem is how school is set up. Every student should have an independent education plan. I had an IEP and I still fucked up in a rich county. Can’t imagine dumb people in a poor town. That’s how we get trump
@@sirdiealot53 For some reason this comment cracked me up
20 year olds will think you're old at 35 because they're dumb, but you're a kid still at 35
@@sirdiealot53 You think Hillary Clinton & Joe Biden are better options than Trump?
As someone in a trend of further isolation, this was a godsend. I really needed to hear this.
My biggest moment of the last ten years was discovering it's really possible to become good at things I'm bad at, through allowing myself to be a beginner and actually learning. I'm going to do exactly that with this excellent advice. Day one, here we go.
Love it!
How did day 2 go?
@@AdoringAdmirerThe weather was getting me down, so I didn't allow myself to get stuck inside while it rained with heavy wind. I got on my bike, went to town, and soaking wet met a few people in a bookshop and an art store. Turned out to be fun conversations.
I pushed through obstacles this morning to get to an appointment on time instead of making excuses, and started conversations on the train.
Honestly, I can't say how helpful this tiny clip has been. Thank you Chris & Scott!
@@Schwaaaang Keep going, you got this!
Are you willing to wear the white belt?
Thats the only question to consider when you want to learn any new skill.
I’m 37 and thus clicked me when I was 30. I remember being on a plane, not happy with myself and having that moment where I decided I was gonna be different.
After 2 years of never missing a workout, becoming a voracious reader and focusing on self development I looked in the mirror and saw an absolute beast. I’ve never looked back since.
It doesn’t take as long as you think and it’s so worth it fellas
Love this! Thank you.
Thanks for this brother
“Nothing wonderful will happen to you if you don’t take an uncomfortable risk.” I LOVE THAT! That should be posted in every high school and college!
True
I’m almost 30 now and I truly believe my 30s are gonna be amazing.
❤
Same
Hell yeah man. Future's bright! @@jb894
I am 35, and can tell you that your 30s can easily be your golden years!
Oh for sure, big-time.@@csabakeresztes3057
just when you think you can't take anymore, that means you're about a third of your way to your limits as a human, learning that as a man in your 20s and 30s is a blessing
Apparently not to his knees though. Stress is a good teacher but there are definitely lessons in knowing how much stress to apply and when.
Didn't have advice like this when I was in that age group. Today's generation should be very appreciative that stuff like this is at their fingertips now.
Yes, they should, but most don't even know about stuff like this, never mind them actually clicking it, and watching it 'till the end.
Yeah, but why watch a 9 minute video that could spark change in your life when you can watch 9 second tik tok dances and develop mental illnesses? /s
true im 19 and this helps me a lott
Everybody talks about 20s, january I am turning 30 and decided move to city.
Currently bank balance is low, hesitant interacting people, an introvert.
It's time to turn the table.
Most needed video at the right time of my life.
Thanks ❤
Come on Satyam you got this!!💪
Go for it, nothing to lose! I moved to Australia with a few thousand bucks 8 years ago, no skills or idea about the world. Everythings changed by surrounding myself with high quality people - this was the biggest factor, best of luck to you
@@davidpurdie5455 kudos to you for deciding to make such a bold move🙏🏽
Plenty of time!! 30 is nothing, go get it soldier
Go make it happen Satyam! Go be your best self! As a mentor would tell me, “Just go make a mess.” Who cares what people think!
I’m 26 and I feel him on the partner thing. I’m so grateful for the partner I chose it has made my life amazing.
Congratulations bro, you’re already wealthy
Shes probably cheated on you a thousand times
@@moviesynopsis001 I hope you find peace.
@@moviesynopsis001bruh 🤣
@@moviesynopsis001 based
Guys after 10 years of being single. I think i found the one :) im so thankful :) she supports me she encourages me she is with me during tough times she makes me laugh we have simular values. Its amazing when you talk to stranger its the best advice 🎉
Congrats! But 10 years single is so crazy. I've been single for over a year now and I really hope it doesn't last 10 years. But I don't want to be with the wrong person either, I would much rather be single and happy than with the wrong person and miserable.
Just make sure you’re the best man she lays her hands on. Or she will choose better
Don’t do it brother!
More rejection means less waiting. It’s trial and error. This is advice I believe in, but something I don’t live by yet.
congrats @tigsik3128 love to hear that
I’m 35 and feels like I’m just starting but hey, you gotta start somewhere! Gl to you all!
That’s the way man!
Same, 33
Same, 33
I hear. I'm 36. Wasn't financially stable until I was 33-34. Now it's figuring out the social stuff
ditto. 35 in May but feel like im just getting started. late bloomer maybe
I am 30 years old, turning 31 this year and this is one of the best advices I've heard in a long time.
Maybe he gave you the wrong advices.
Just turned 27 and found this. I’ve been on a big journey with my health, confidence, fitness and weight loss. Glad to know that I have really working on a lot of the things mentioned in this video, including my career, sobriety, and getting better at talking to women!
It feels weird watching tips about thriving in your 30s while being in your 20s because I know that many people around my age don’t really gaf about the outcome of the future
Being in my 30s after not gaf in my 20s: do, care about it.
You'll thank yourself for it later and you won't feel like playing catch-up with your own life all the time, like I do now.
People in their 20s don’t seem to realize that everyone over 30 has been in their 20s. However, in some ways you should live to your fullest (responsibly) because there’s a lot you can do in your 20s that that gets super cringe when you’re in your 30s.
You’re not special… people just like to show results, not effort.
Yeah, no I don’t see twenty-somethings doing much about any thing. So no one cares about you gaffing or not. You’re sort of lost.
I'm 31. At 22 I thought I would be young forever. I did not stay young, and I absolutely needed to accept that.
This really resonates with me. My father made me sell magazine subscriptions door to door when I was 16 for 3 summers in a row. And For this he paid my car insurance. I owe these very fiber of my being to that horrible experience.
You were 16 for 3 summers in a row? 😉
@@KaneM It's an ageless tale of a timeless time when everything changed so fast even while time stood still.
@@KaneMno the last summer he became a year younger. 15
As a 6 years old. This really resonates with me. This story reminds my of the long hours I made in the sandbox selling sandcakes to strangers. So glad I did that. Because it all paid of in the long end. Now i have time to drive my Ferrari with to girls I just picked up at the milk store.
This is an underrated comment
You're 6??
Lol 😂
I love this comment 😆
damn good grammar for a 6 year old man
I really resonated with pushing yourself.
I'm getting my masters, have a full-time job, a 4 year old and 7 month old. I'm always doing something, i'm very busy and I feel maxed out. However, whenever I do have a break, I don't feel lazy, but I've realized how much I'm actually capable of doing.
Remember to treat yourself like someone you care deeply for.
Sit & take a break, look at nature, breathe deeply, read a book or just BE...
Namaste 🙏
@@calista1280 100%. In fact, this is built into my weekly rhythm
Doing more doesn't mean one is more efficient. A masters degree is incredibly expensive. The U.S. is obsessed with going into debt for credentials I find people rarely take advantage of.
@@SurpriseMeJT Right, i'm just talking about the ability to take on extra. If you're smart, by taking on more, you'll rearrange what you're currently doing to make it work. Often cutting out the things that don't matter that you don't need to spend so much time on (social media). And yeah, I was asked by my work to get a masters and they're paying for it, but in general, I agree.
Keep getting it brotha! I’m getting my masters, work full-time, have a 5-year-old and I work out religiously. My intuition says our futures are looking bright.
I am 34, psychotherapist, I have another piece of advice - learn how to forgive, it will be the best weapon you got in interpersonal relationships. 😉😉😉
So they cheat on you again?
@@Ximme no, you forgive, but still dump them. The point is that holding grudges is very bad for the holder. Don't let the person who wronged you have enough power over you that you hold on to that anger for a long period of time. The best revenge is moving on.
This is how I maintain my happiness. I’m quick to forgive. Why? Because my sanity and general happiness depends on.
@@bjensen Yes that makes sense. I think I misinterpreted the term 'forgive'.
That is better advice than the lad in the video, anger and hate tend to eat a person up. Forgiveness is a release, but it is tough to master.
Just went through a bad breakup with a girl I thought I would marry. This reversed the way I have been thinking for the past several months. Thank you so much for this, I want to be better at the things I am bad at. I really want to connect to more people and hearing this man say learn how to approach strangers is very comforting. Particularly in an age where people are so standoffish.
Keep working on yourself brother and you’ll eventually meet someone who is on your wave length. This is the perfect time to do the things that only you want to do; travel, meeting new people, do something that is uncomfortable. You got this
Women 'seem' to able to connect easier with others.
Pushing yourself to your limits also has to be balanced with longevity in mind. My brother was a beast, in the military, combat diver and went so far as to try out for special forces . He's now in the navy in his late 30's and his knees, elbows, and lower back are messed up. The doctors told him they don't know how he isn't on more constant pain. He has to be very diligent in how he trains so not to agitate his injuries.
that part -- work hard and think long term from the outset. only get one body.
I’m taking a risk. Chris do you want to grab a coffee?
As a single 24 yr old trying to establish myself and figure out life, this couldn’t have come at a better time! I was already considering a lot of his points but the practicality he ties into them are invaluable. Best practical advice I’ve heard in a long time!
Watch Kevin Samuels for a reminder that you're competing against everyone on everything. From your bedroom, to your aftershave, to washing "yo nuts".
Don't listen to Galloway, he's wrong more than Cramer.
You’re right. I’m 48 and I can tell you right now if you listen to this advice, YOU WILL have a successful, happy life !
Especially the party about stepping out of your comfort zone. SOOOOO crucial.
I moved to a big city and never felt so alone
I really needed to hear this. I’m 29 but feel like I’m in a bit of a rut right now. I ran a marathon earlier this year and was living with my friend in a city and now I barely exercise and I’m back at my parents 😂😂 I grew to dislike the city I lived in but now being back in a town I hardly see anyone while walking the dog etc. I was gonna buy a place in a town but now I’m thinking that I should only do this when I’ve found a partner and want to settle down.
I decided yesterday I’m gonna move back to a city. I like walking past lots of different people and seeing people smiling etc. living here feels like a ghost town.
Good for you, good luck!
@@cameronblack7984 thanks mate :)
Feeling in a rut as well, Man. Working corporate sucks the life out of you. Pretty depressing.
Huh
Suburban lifestyle is fucking shit but have no wife because I'm never getting married and have no kids
I'm 47 years old now. I wish I had someone offering me wise advice back in my 30s and 20s. I was on my own to figure it all out
Can relate. Still trying to figure it out.
@@Daycros yep 🙂
Im at least 40 but feel 30 and want to run thru brick wall listening to this rt now lol, thx for motivation guys!
Someone was always there giving me this type of advice. BUT I HAD TO SEEK THEM OUT. GO FIND YOUR MENTOR.
It’s part of the journey
I’m 28 this year and this is something I definitely needed to hear.
I look back on myself couple years ago regretting not taking even the smallest initiation conversation with someone and telling myself now even if I embarrassed myself then I could have used that experience to do better today.
My issue is my sometimes poor sleep schedule that ruin my mood to have a conversation.
What ifs can pop up in your head for many years to come.
Live a little and take risks. Something I need to do too😅
I'm a fellow recovering night owl. Get a little ritual and some books and light a candle, do some nighttime tea, "look forward" to getting in bed at 10pm and having wind-down reading time. Sleep makes all the difference in each day. Best of luck!
Best thing for sleep is to have a few kids. They keep the house so calm at night it's wonderful😊
Thank you for the advice Mr. Galloway. I just turned 30 and I have the ambition to work hard this year and get out of my comfort zone. I want to see progression in my life this year!
Man, incredible. I’m turning 37 next month, and I followed all of these since my late 20s, despite never having heard it from anybody. On the contrary, I kept hearing I was crazy. I have no regrets, it paid off big time in all senses.
you said you was crazy?
so I listened to this
I went out and told my crush
I got rejected
and f**k it doesn't feel that bad
Let's goooooo!
Now you know you can move on. Start of a new chapter. Go for it.
Amen bro! Keep going.
G!
REJECTION AND TAKING RISKS is your friend and the recipe for massive success! Love you prof! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
I’m 19 and I’m learning all this after I graduated. What he’s saying should be taught in high school
Wow, I often cringe at videos with these kind of titles but.... wow
That was really great advice. No arrogance, no overstating the importance of money over everything else, just an incredibly well balanced answer....
Pay attention young men. In a world of immature masculine icons this dude is spitting some wisdom.
Pushing yourself to your physical limit will give you a sense of self-respect later on. I did this over a couple of years of cycling and going up mountains on a heavy ass bike will give you nightmares but reaching a goal is so fulfilling.
Scott's analysis is 100% right. There are more opportunities in life to be had when running with the pack as opposed to running isolated, as a young person.
I grew up in a rural beach town, left home to go away to college in city of 90,000+, moved to NYC at 24, moved to DC at 27. I still live in DC now. Early on in my time in DC, I remember telling my dad - a retired police chief - that I would rather be living gritty and bar-tending on a Friday night on U Street than running to be the mayor of my home town.
I'm an introvert. Everywhere that I have ever lived, I started small in order to get established. I would go out to bars alone and attempt to strike up conversation with strangers. Sometimes it worked, most times it didn't. I joined organizations which allowed me to meet people, find out my interests, develop new skills, and make great relationships. Doing this opened doors for work; I went from working in a bar, to working in government, to working for a university, to doing contracting, to having my own practice.
Even we introverts need to rub shoulders. It doesn't pay to sit inside all the time, and the pandemic did nothing to help us with that.
What do you do for work?
This is honestly one of the most powerful interviews I've ever seen!!
What Scott said about getting out as much as possible was so enlightening to me.
Going out is something I have NEVER enjoyed or found easy!
But what Scott said about putting yourself in 'uncomfortable' situations really resonated with me!!
That is exactly how I feel going out! I feel very uncomfortable!
So its great to hear that even someone like him, felt the same sometimes!
Thank you so much Scott and Chris, this really was life changing for me! Thank you both so much.
His best advice IMO is "choose wisely who you marry and have children with". A bad spouse can tear you down, a good spouse will build you up.
Damn I needed to hear this. As a video editor who mainly makes a living from working on projects in the comfort of my own place, I find myself isolating more and more. Thanks for sharing your wisdom, Scott and Chris.
Man I bring my work or journals out to a pub and just sit at the bar and have a beer or two and chat with the servers and regulars. It gets me out and around people. It's healthy.
Amazingly true. Being able to talk to strangers and handle rejection exponentially increases your dating and business opportunities. I know it from personal experience. I have 10x more dating options than my friends and I do great at my job because I am able to do those two things well.
When has Scott faced rejection? He's been silver spooned his whole live, convinced rich Uni's that he's the guru, of what?
Damn dude you're so much cooler than your friends 🔥
Some of this I can appreciate: get comfortable with rejection, meet as many people as you can, marvel at your strength. There are some aspects I have pause with: push yourself to your brink, get as ahead as you can in your career field, generally the notion that in your 30’s you should build big. I think its about temperance, planning for your happiness in a long-term way, which opposes the notion that you’ve got to risk a ton. “What you do now is who you’ll be then.” If thats true, pushing your limits leaves you at the end of a rope.
I thought the same, not every guy has to be the top dog going 1000% percent, and if you think you do then maybe something is missing, or some childhood trauma that makes you feel like you're never good enough... or not everyone is different.
I also used to take issue with such narratives but now I'm finding that I didn't really have a great understanding of my own limits. In fact, my self-limiting beliefs were holding me back. It might make more sense to consistently push your boundaries and test your limits so you can expand your capacity over time.
Just turned 27 and found this. I’ve been on a big journey with my health, confidence, fitness and weight loss. Glad to know that I have really working on a lot of the things mentioned in this video, including my career, sobriety, and getting better at talking to women!
The partner thing is so real. Lots of great gems here overall.
The biggest thing I’d add to this list is to realize that ANY of this (aside from getting as big and strong as possible), can be done at ANY age! Not just your 20s and 30s
It's really good advice. You got things you're good at, and you need those. But the biggest improvements come from taking something you're bad at (or just afraid of) and becoming somewhat decent at it, or even good at it eventually. You focus on one at a time, but it compounds and makes everything else easier in the long run. And it doesn't take decades! You can see results in weeks. It's uncomfortable, and you have to be ok with starting small and failing often, but that momentum makes you invincible.
I Love his point. One needs to get used to taking Risks, not being afraid of rejection.
I started Brazilian ju jitsu this year, just hit my 30s. Rolling on the ground with sweaty strangers (majority men) really forces you out of your comfort zone as a woman. Haven’t found a mate yet, but I’m appreciative of the skills and difficult, yet rewarding challenges it has brought me thus far.
I started at 32 (now 37) after a break up. Best thing to ever happen to me. Made new friends, became physically more fit, made me more disciplined at work (so I could get to train more). Just had my first born to a great partner and next month and getting my purple belt. Good luck on your BJJ journey
Brother Chris! So grateful to land on your channel and podcasts from the last 7-8 months! You have been always at the top for me! More power to you
Been waiting to hear honest advice like this for years but i never got it from my father or an uncle. Instead i finally found it on the internet.
He's right on for so many levels. I did lots of risk taking early in life (and still do) to move higher and onward. If something feels uncomfortable to you, it's probably a sign that you should do it. Especially when speaking to a person who you feel is out of your league in some capacity. In many ways, they probably aren't and started out just where you are. And many people appreciate the outreach. It shows confidence and motivation.
Well done. Never stop this mentality. Always do things outside your comfort zone.
Best advice : Move far far away and cut all ties from jealous envious people who compare you and dictate your way of life. Many are jealous and envious of the childfree, of the fit, of the happy.
Rejection is what resonated with me in this video. I’ve never been in a serious relationship before, but I have shot my shot and had a chance to be with some amazing attractive women. I wouldn’t trade it despite none of them becoming my partner and I’m going to continue to push forward and get rejected no matter how many times it is. 27 by the way
33 here, I have everything going for me except for the partner. After spending 2 years on dating apps, I have realized the only way I'm going to make a genuine connection is in a social setting, not on a phone. I feel my best after I leave the gym, I'm my most natural, confident and social state. So I will use that to go engage socially with women, in a bar or wherever I end up. My instincts have been urging me to do this for longer than I care to admit but I have just realized in the last month that if I want a mate worth having, then I have to work for it. And that work is pushing myself socially beyond my comfort zone.
This guy is absolutely right.
just wait for robots and AI to get better its not worth it
Honestly, all this boils down to one thing: Understanding that failing is not a bad, but a *good* thing. Society applauds success and looks down on failure, but one has to understand that a vital prerequisite for success is failure. Why? Because to be truly successful, one has to consistently get better at whatever one does - and to get better at anything, one has to push oneself past one's limits. That inevitably means failing sometimes, and learning from it. If you try to avoid failing because failing makes you feel bad, you'll never try as hard as you can, and you'll never realise your potential. It took me 35 years to gain that insight, and even now, I have to constantly remind myself to not beat myself up when I fail at something, but to learn from it and try again, harder. Being a father now, teaching my son to understand failure as an opportunity rather than a defeat and encouraging effort instead of praising success is the one thing I prioritize above all else - so he can achieve more than I ever did.
I'm 31 and have wasted my entire life so far. I didn't even have morals or a sense of what a direction is until I was 27. Since then it feels like it's taken everything out of me to completely rewire my brain, and I struggle with it to this day. I feel like my life is over because I've wasted most of my best years doing nothing, building nothing, and having no skills. Now it feels like I'm stuck paying bills in a dead end job with no spare money, time, or energy to make headway into anything that can transform my life.
I'm desperate for change. I'm alone, and I can't imagine a better future for myself. I know people say it's in my mind, but how can I get out of my head when all I see is failure and wasted time in my past? I don't even know what success looks like from my position. I read and watch podcasts hoping to find an answer and transform my thinking, but all I see are young men in their 20s figuring life out, and men in their 30s who have followed a path, acquired skills, and leverage it to do something better. It took my too long to even care about my life, and I have little to show for it. It feels like I have to much to catch up on and little time left to do so.
I guess I'm just a bitch. Every day I think about ending it all, and it takes physical energy for me to fight those thoughts. There is no one around me that I can lean on because I'm surrounded by selfish and toxic people who are just looking for their next fix. I want something more for my life, but I'm not sure I have what it takes to get it. I feel hopeless and alone, and I hate that I'm so weak.
I just had to vent.
I fight back tears daily. I feel like this a lot of the time and I'm sorry you do too. It is not easy. But trying to remember that there's no manual for life helps calm me sometimes. Life isn't over and there's plenty to do. Don't give up on the person you are becoming. You're not alone is this painful situation some of us have found ourselves in.
Same boat
How are you thing now? Any changes?
@ashishbhatta5839 yes and no. Still stuck, but some things are looking better. Only time will tell.
Thinking/ruminating about the past is not going to do anything but hurt you more. The last is don! Forget it! What’s valuable is what you’ve apparently learned! We’re all actually in the same situation. We just all arrived there by different paths. Good luck!
Really appreciate this video. Thank god this showed up on my feed. I wish I can give a meaningful and challenging advice when I am older. As an introvert, I definitely won’t surround myself with strangers everyday but his advice is spot on. Let’s get out there!
I don't remember where I heard it, but the person stated that life is lived in chapters, specifically decades. Every chapter has a purpose that will be utilized in the next chapter. For anyone entering their 30's and feeling like they haven't accomplished anything yet, just remember, in your 20's you figured out all the things that you're doing wrong and (hopefully) learned what skills will be necessary to succeed. You have 10 years until this chapter closes and the next opens, so work your ass off and don't close this chapter without truly finding what you're made of. Your 30's are the most wonderful time in life, you made it 30 years, through every hard time life threw at you early. Life was trying to mold you into a person that can attack the day the day with confidence and discipline. Don't be afraid to fail, don't be afraid to say no, and don't be afraid of feeling uncomfortable because with comfort comes complacency and becoming complacent will silently kill your dreams. You'll do just fine and welcome to the best chapter of your life.
I've recently picked up triathlon and joined a few sports societies as part of that - that's a massive help! Having context around your conversation with strangers makes it so much easier. I join social rides with a cycling community and meat a ton of new people every weekend. Started running with another guy I met at the swimming pool, where I chat with triathletes almost every week. Honestly, as not the most social person, joining a COMMUNITY of some sort gives you the ability to socialise with new people pain-free. Walking up to strangers is definitely more intimidating if you lack context..my 5 cents. It doesn't have to be all that scary and painful.
Key Takeaway: Learning to take uncomfortable risks and interacting with new people around me as much as I can. This is extremely valuable.
Just turned 30. Good advice. Thank you very much.
What a sound and grounded advice. Amazing clip, I'm 32 and I definitely can take a lot from it
I wish someone told me this when I graduated high school. In my 40s and looking back, damn this guy is spot on.
Hopefully you got another 40 years to experiment...
"be good in a big city rather than great in a small city"
It's true coming from a complicated city teaches you learn to navigate better than smaller town ppl i noticed it when travelling poorer countries they don't have our skill sets.
It's similar to "no sailor became great in calm seas"
I’m 22 about to 23 years old in a couple of days. I have 7 months left until I graduate from college. I lost both of my parents in 2021. This morning I woke up with with the most empty feeling I can’t explain. It feels like no matter what I accomplish in life I feel like I will never feel fulfilled as a human being. We’re all going to die one day and each day we’re here we have to fight to keep tomorrow from being shitty and feeling even more empty. I want to have a peaceful life but it feels like you have to climb my Everest to really get there. And to say that I was just born one day against my will, that’s asking a lot for something so simple. It’s almost like that now what feeling never leaves. Then regret is one of the most terrible feelings you could ever feel. I’m still young but I can’t imagine being 35 and realizing you wasted your entire youth not developing yourself as a person as much as you wanted to and that handicapping you to achieving your goals.
All the best mate..... you will do it.....
I agree with all points except the "move to a city" advice. I grew up in Americas 5th largest city but moved to a town of around 35k in my late 30's and have never been happier.
I love this guy, he doesn't mince words- lmao he can kill or outrun them, that's exactly how I feel.
You don't know how valuable these advice are for people who grow up fatherless. Great video Looking forward to to listen to the whole podcast. God bless.
7:54 - I just turned 59 and think like this! Love this line. I may have 25% in me, not everyone anymore. But you still have to think this way no matter how old! And train this way too!
i played safe all my life, barely took any risks. got safe engineering degree, got safe, stable engineering job. now im 40+ years old, making 200K, networth 1 mil+. one of my friends is a risk taker, he got business degree, started several businesses and failed. he is my age, early 40s, his networth is close to zero. i played safe all my life, never took risk, always been w2 employee. i can retire right now if i want to. my risk taking friend cant retire. my life may be boring, but i would do it all over again if i had to start over. risk taking is overrated.
I loved this. I’m 28, I agree with all his advice and I love how it applies to both men and women. 👍🏻
I am 63, when I was 24, I was strong and college grad. I took to off Europe alone for a month, I talked to everyone, and it gave me loads of confidence. Every woman I dated was hot. This guy speaks wisdom.
Im on that path right now. Realizing after couple careful steps that Im a lot of stronger than I thought at first. Slow progress but still progress. Thanks for those inspiring words Scott Galloway, and thank you Chris for piking great and interesting people for the show! +1+1+1+1+1
Like Roberto Bolle and Oksana Chusovitina who are still going strong in their 40s. Just the other day saw a 66 year old with metal in his leg from a motorcycle accident learning to do tucked aerial tumbling for the first time in his life and jumping on his restored leg! ✨
Yup as a 22 year old guy who takes care of himself, and looks somewhat decent. i can say that the idea of randomly approaching a woman is alien to me. I've also noticed that it's not just the younger people who struggle with this.
Turning 30 this week.. going to take notes and apply this advices from now on. Thanks for a solid video!
So glad I did wrestling in high school. I never really liked it, and I was never very good at it, but I stuck with it. Definitely the hardest thing I did, especially considering I was the only person on the team who also got good grades so I would actually have to go home and do homework after a 3 hour grueling workout.
Wish I wrestled man. Y’all are some bad ass dudes.
Coming out of the pandemic, and a long relationship my self confidence was in the gutter. I tried a door-to-door sales job over the summer and dealing with rejection day in and day out was the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. - I had the confidence to knock on someone’s door who sure as hell didn’t want to talk to me, and 15 minutes later we’ve gone from complete strangers to having great conversation and them trusting me with their hard earned money. - but hearing no 100 times a day and still having a smile on my face when I knock door 101 was like having a superpower… life is energy, and positivity is hard to wipe away. So keep at it
The 'partner' piece is so true! My wife is my rock and my companion in life, and without her I'd be 0.0001% the man I am today.
Regarding the note about when you can’t take it anymore you’re 1/3 of the way to your max potential, it’s a good mantra to get things off the ground but there is 100% such a thing as overdoing it and the consequences of that can effect you for years into the future. There’s a time for the Monday to Wednesday all-nighter regime and a time to pull back. I would suggest one chooses their moments for both based on workload, opportunity, if there’s a known end to a push in the near-future involving a big payoff, etc.
I also worked at Morgan Stanley and remember the all-nighters that we would pull.... the grit and strength you get from it priceless. Plus I would hit the gym in the basement at least 5 times a week... now makes this entrepreneur grind and going after my goals in music more attainable. Everything this man said is straight on.. as I turn 29 tomorrow :)
Hi Niko, just did a summer internship at Morgan stanley. Got a return offer. Just wondered how many years you did there and what entreprenuership journey you are now taking. Is it true most do max 2-3 years then leave for other exit opportunities? Thanks
That's because you were using 10lb weights
I'm 30 and married - I completely agree with what he said, be willing to put yourself out there and take risks.
You never know what doors open up in life once you're comfortable being uncomfortable.
I've watched and listened to THOUSANDS of motivational, growth and advice videos and I must say, this advice is pure gold. Bravo.
Should be taught in schools.
Completely on board with all of this, except #2. The advantages of living in a city are completely dependent on your life and career goals. I moved from the city to the sea almost 10 years ago and my life is immeasurably better for it 👌
“Force yourself to go out there” (to socialise). Funny to think people used to meet their future partners in their spare time. Now, people just have three jobs: Their dayjob, the gym, and dating. With the “pay(off)” declining from the former to the latter.
36 and it’s like starting over. Wish I heard this 10 years ago
Very true all around. I'm naturally an introvert, but worked at going out and speaking with women in my 20s. You should have high standards and talk to a lot of people. I found my wife 8 years ago and life is great.
he is 100% accurate on a good partner, I'm proud of my life and a big go getter, my wife was and something switched in her during all the lockdowns and I have no support in life now. Having had
both it makes a super big difference in your life and a good partner will make your life 100% easier
I am 47. I have instinctively applied this to my life and it has paid off a million fold. Every parent should lead by example and apply this to their life, so their kids follow in their footsteps
What do you do for a living?
I can take any rejection but getting rejected by women, I got told by lots of people I'm handsome but I just never had the balls to approach women and get rejected. I always have this in mind that girls find me creepy if I try talking to them, especially now that I just turned 30, what would you suggest to me
@@mentoriii3475 talk to women…?
This is so empowering and great to watch b4 signing contract at a new job 💪🏽💪🏽
Thanks fellahs need all the advice I can get working hard at not being crumby.
Absolutely love this. Great motivation and advice. Thank you for having him on your podcast.
Scott is such a classic kook! Love his grumpy takes on modern life... Wish I had nothing but time so I could follow up on them but say la vie. Keep dreaming for the rest of us Scott you'll get there one day!
GET AROUND A LOT OF PEOPLE
i love it how the interviewer didnt interrupt him entire time and let him get his point across, then right at the end he throws in a great and pretty funny comment lol good job
35 years old watching this.
Facts.
I have developed over 10 years of a great skill (getting people out of pain).
I found an incredible wife (at church, on a blind date, saying yes to something I would normally not do)
I have two amazing little boys now.
I got really strong. I was skinny in highschool. Helps in many ways such as being a dad and rough housing with the kids, being great at my job, and wife likes it too.
This is great advice.
Oh and by the way. 20’s and 30’s have been HARD. Like much harder than I thought. But he’s right, if you have a skill you’re good at and your wife is amazing it’s easier to get through the hard.
Lots of selfless investment.
It will pay off when my kids are in school and I can really enjoy them more and more
I’ve gone through every challenging situation i could imagine just to put myself in uncomfortable situations for growth. I talked to different strangers every single day, seminars, schools, fraternities, groups, countries by myself. At some point I realized so many things about myself. And when I got my money settled I met the love of my life, best thing that happened to me. Now, I’m very happy and at peace at the age of 35.
Did you ever get addicted to drugs or go into wars zones?
yeah i can say that i did. but im healed now. no trauma, no addiction.@@RUclipsuser1aa
Any young person watching this, one day you’ll be thinking like I was you had so much time. The next day you’ll wake up and be 30. Life doesn’t give you a break, especially if you are involved in many things. Plan ahead
What the FUCK is so wrong with being 30