Of course the emotionally stunted Sharran of all people is the one to see through Astarion’s facade and help navigate through Tav’s ridiculous spiderweb love life to get him Tav-style romance-therapy.
I think it also might have something to do with the fact that his romance storyline was progressing faster than hers, so she thinks it would be a dick move to leave him at this point. I think in these "make a choice" scenes the one initiating the dialogue is the character whose romance is less progressed. They speak up when the other character had some sort of important scene because they recognize that now the relationship with the other character is more advanced. But anyway, yeah, when I heard this dialogue from Shadowheart I thought wow, she is an angel, she cares about him so much.
Yes, Shadowheart being oddly protective of Astarion and outright stating it that there's "something fragile beneath his facade" nails it. One emotionally damaged person recognizing the other. But Shadowheart still has a family, even if she doesn't remember them. Astarion literally has nothing, nobody. Of course when stay with him he's secretly delighted but also confused why you did, as he was taught by Cazador that he's worthless. And in true Astarion fashion he proceeds to nearly shoot himself in the knee by falling into his usual routine of mocking his own feelings. Acting blasé and arrogant to test out if you honestly mean it, on the logic that if you stay with him even though he acts like a bit of an ass, it must be true, simply because at that point he'd rather bite off his own tongue that openly show that fragility.
@@TF2CrunchyFrog Astarion romance is really the best and so gratifying in the good ending. Just as you said he has nothing, nobody to lean on. He truly needs your character to show him he deserves love. Making him the Ascendant would only make sense if you didn't romance him and in turn didn't care what becomes of him. Even with that choice he'd be alone, surrounded by brainwashed spawn but still alone nonetheless. There was one dialogue which I didn't manage to get where he explains how he refused to bring a boy to Cazador for which he had to suffer. Cazador stripped him off any self-worth and empathy. Helping him heal emotionally was the most beautiful in-game experience I've had since Dragon Age and Mass Effect.
I had a scene with Lae'zel as well after I had the post-Araj confession scene with Astarion, she was super chill about it and made me want to properly pursue her in a future playthrough
I fucking love how supportive she is and how much she understands Astarion's true needs. The only thing that I don't like about the relationship system in the game is the lack of platonic content after rejecting a character, like, sure they're still in the party and you can progress their quests, but you get basically no new lines for the rest of the game
Yeah, same. Thats how I felt with Lae'zel after breaking things off with her in Act 2 and fully committing to Shadowheart. Didnt say anything for the rest of the game relationship wise, which is a bummer. Could have been room for more interesting dialogue, or even given a chance to reignite something later on, but alas
I wish you could have platonic moments with everyone; I'd love to be able to share a bottle of wine with Shadowheart at the party, I'd love to stay up late talking with Karlach, I'd love to be able to have a friendly dance with Wyll. Hell, I'll even let Gale show me the pretty stars and duel or watch the sunrise with Lae'zel, or even just hang out in a graveyard with Astarion. I just wanna be FRIENDS with whoever I'm not romancing at the time.
@@iSaiiriThat I agree with although I don't know what I did but I managed to drink wine with Shadowheart while also having the freak on with Astarion 😂 Also I have three boyfriends 😂 Halsin, Gale and Astarion. I have no idea how that even happened 😂
@@iSaiiriThere is still a chance to sit with Gale under the stars and the lines you can choose have good platonic options. But that's honestly it for the game with him, which is sad. He "broke up" with my durge after the Wyll dance (which is funny because my durge flirted with him a grand total of once at the goblin party and never triggered anything else with him until the breakup) and the scene under the stars changed to just a friendly talk.
I love Astarion and he's my favorite, but she's such a sweetheart. She could see through Tav and through Astarion too. It would be amazing to have a friend like this, who gives you your personal space, who doesn't judge you and might not be the most positive or stable emotionally, but sometimes these are the people who have more understanding of others' feelings.
Okay, well I like Shadowheart now, not only does she understand Astarion but that’s really cool of her to put their happiness above her own, and still stay in the party.
On our first playthroughs, my wife romanced Shadowheart and I romanced Astarion. I was in awe at how sweet Shadowheart is, how wonderful of a life partner she must be. I'm really glad she has good instincts about Astarion where the others are quick to ignore his theatrics.
0:26 Yep, right there is why I didn't buy it when Astarion said he was okay with sharing Tav with Halsin. Something just sounded off in his voice, like he was slipping back into 200 years of ignoring his own needs and boundaries to placate. I don't even think Astarion was pretending to approve, more like he himself didn't fully understand how he felt about it and just said "go ahead" without sorting through his feelings on it first, but I don't believe he's actually okay with sharing Tav.
I agree. I know people desperately want him to be poly, but he's clearly not. He refuses to do it with everyone but Halsin, even with characters ok with being open otherwise. He's only sort of OK with it being Halsin because he knows Halsin is 100% poly and won't try to steal you. He definitely wants a monogamous relationship, but he doesn't know how to ask for it. Shadowheart actually seems pretty down with being poly, but I haven't watched all her scenes.
He absolutely is okay with it and it's because he knows Halsin isn't going to try to keep you to himself. He's also okay with you sleeping with Mizora. Yes he's been traumatized SH picks up on that but she also doesn't get to speak for him. I gets so tired of people talking about being poly like it's a bad thing. Astarion knows what he's getting into every time, he's not saying go ahead because he's too afraid to say no. If that were the case he would be that way with everyone not just Halsin and Shadowheart.
@Mellie non ascended astarion has no mizora dialogue or it's glitched, so we don't actually know how he feels about it, but it's probably still a "well, as long as you dont leave me...." Every other poly or open option he just tolerates, probably because he himself admits he struggles to say no, and he has a deep feeling of being unworthy of anyone. His first thought, whether you bring up halsin or the twins, is that you're doing it because he hasn't had sex with you lately (pre quest being finished). With halsin, he has no option to say no, and you can't even back out after bringing it up. He can also get upset if you try to proposition a single twin telling you it's embarrassing you're into elven prostitutes. After his quest line being finished, he disassociates during the group sex act after assuring you he'd leave if he was uncomfortable, and Tav is written as a POS who doesn't do anything about it or check in on him. Shadowheart isn't speaking for him, but she's picking up on what everyone else can see: astarion isn't a carefree hedonist. He's not enthusiasticly into sharing, and he should probably heal more before even trying an open relationship.
@@UnseenOct👏👏👏👏 Definitely to all of the above 👆 I’m not sure why some ppl are so insistent that he’s perfectly fine (I’ve even seen one person wrote “joyful” or “excited” and I was like 😮) with a poly relationship when it’s pretty clear he isn’t in any scenario. He hates it if you guys participate in an orgy with the drow and it shows if you talk to him in any circumstance outside the scene, and only “happily” gives it a try after killing Cazador because Tav asked him to give it a shot. But it’s pretty clear that he wouldn’t have ever thought of it himself, and him sticking through with it and dissociating at the end despite putting it like he’d “run away faster than running from the sun” makes it all the more glaring that he’d still try to go along and support whatever Tav wants whether out of fear or love, ascended or not. He’s not happy if you want an open relationship with any companion, and companions such as Shadowheart (and I heard Karlach too, bless her infernal soul) would even point out this to you. Sure they can’t speak for him, but to be honest? At this point it should be glaringly obvious that you’re all he has and he’s extremely insecure of losing you because he never thinks he will be enough (again, both ascended and not). I’ve seen so many say “well in devs notes it says he’s okay with Halsin at least”, but even by acknowledging that you have to admit he’s okay with only him bc everybody knows Halsin is only in it for casual fun. But just like what I said with the drow, it’s not something he would ever take the initiative to request himself, is it? Does that sound like a healthy mindset someone who is poly/happy to be in an open relationship would have? It’s really not about pushing a narrative that poly relationships are bad, just that it doesn’t seem good for *him.* Nobody is judging that Shadowheart *does* do poly relationships or that Halsin *only does* casual open ones. It’s not just respect only if you believe that every single character is poly… 😩😭
@16_shiliu EXACTLY!!! perfectly said. Asterion straight up says youre the only person he has. And, of course, that means he's more likely to be pushed out of his comfort zone by you. Like compare halsin and astarion, and it's easy to see which one is actually poly. Halsin is extremely healthy about himself and sex. He is very comfortable telling you no if you try to proposition him before completing moonrise. He enthusiastically consents to group sex and being poly. He had a very rich social life and was confident long before you came along. He's even had sexual trauma that he overcame long ago (the drow keeping him as a sex slave for 3 years). It's a stark contrast to how asterion behaves. Asterion, bless his heart, is traumatized and emotionally stunted from all the abuse he dealt with. Could he be poly eventually? Maybe. But he needs healing
think this insight/dialogue about the real astarion was the first time i actually liked shadowheart. i also absolutely melt when he's so shocked that anyone would choose him over anyone else. my heart! 🥰 & he's soo overjoyed when he realizes you really do want him "if you insist on adoring me, who am i to stop you" - Astarion to his entire fanbase 😂
It's in Act 2. (Of course you have to pursue a romance with both since act 1.) Basically in Act 2 you need to advance the romance further with one of them. (In this case with Astarion.) As far as I understand if Shadowheart's romance had advanced faster then it would have been the other way around. Astarion would have initiated the conversation and not Shadowheart. Astarion's hug scene/confession happened right before this. And that progresses the relationship to something more serious. Right after that scene, the next time I clicked on Shadowheart, she had this talk with me. Of course it's still possible to ditch the character who had more romance progression, but it's kinder to stay with them. And the character who initiated the conversation (in this case Shadowheart) will be more understanding that they aren't chosen in this situation.
@@MGamingVideos I did the first scene with Shadow where we drank wine and kissed, but do you know if I need to have gone farther than that in the relationship to trigger the scene? I've already done Astarion's first 'romance' sequence as well.
@@aimeerobidoux7635 No, that is all you need to/can do in act 1 with them. If they have romance specific greetings when you click on them, then you are good. When the party happens, shadowheart won't hit on you but don't worry, the romance still continues with her. Astarion will hit on you. When you go to bed, you will have a choice between the two. I think it doesn't matter which one you pick. And there isn't actually a scene with either of them. In Act 2 you will have to either talk to Araj Oblodra in Moonrise towers or nearly max out Astarion's approval. A conversation will trigger in the evening. If you are supportive and you don't say you only want to be friends, you advance his romance. In the morning, Shadowheart will want to talk to you. that's it.
Yes this used to be bugged on launch when I recorded it. They fixed it now. After he says "nothing that compares to you" he follows up with "But you are serious about this? About us?" That's the question we are replying to.
How do you get to this point? I'm trying to trigger it on my Bard run and about to enter Act II, do you need to have the Shadowheart confession first? or the Astarion confession? Or does it not matter?
for this specific conversation, you need to trigger the astarion confession first. so you could go to moonrise and speak to araj oblodra with astarion in the party. that's the fastest way to trigger his confession scene and if you don't end his romance, next morning shadowheart will have this dialogue.
How do you manage to trigger this scene? I've only gotten Wyll to ask me to dance and in the morning Astarion asks me if I have a new love, but not this dialogue. Thank you
that's because you progressed wyll's romance with the dance scene so the game considered you mainly in a relationship with wyll and the other character (in your case astarion) initiates the conversation. In my version I progressed Astarion's romance first (his hug/confession scene happened) so the game considered us a couple and therefore Shadowheart (the other character I romanced in act 1 but her act 2 romance hasn't progressed yet) initiated the "make a choice" convo. The character whose romance is less progressed is always the one who wants to talk, they usually offer to end the relationship and they are surprised if you instead choose to break up with the character whose act 2 romance scene already happened.
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Of course the emotionally stunted Sharran of all people is the one to see through Astarion’s facade and help navigate through Tav’s ridiculous spiderweb love life to get him Tav-style romance-therapy.
I think it also might have something to do with the fact that his romance storyline was progressing faster than hers, so she thinks it would be a dick move to leave him at this point. I think in these "make a choice" scenes the one initiating the dialogue is the character whose romance is less progressed. They speak up when the other character had some sort of important scene because they recognize that now the relationship with the other character is more advanced. But anyway, yeah, when I heard this dialogue from Shadowheart I thought wow, she is an angel, she cares about him so much.
Yes, Shadowheart being oddly protective of Astarion and outright stating it that there's "something fragile beneath his facade" nails it. One emotionally damaged person recognizing the other. But Shadowheart still has a family, even if she doesn't remember them. Astarion literally has nothing, nobody. Of course when stay with him he's secretly delighted but also confused why you did, as he was taught by Cazador that he's worthless. And in true Astarion fashion he proceeds to nearly shoot himself in the knee by falling into his usual routine of mocking his own feelings. Acting blasé and arrogant to test out if you honestly mean it, on the logic that if you stay with him even though he acts like a bit of an ass, it must be true, simply because at that point he'd rather bite off his own tongue that openly show that fragility.
@@TF2CrunchyFrog Astarion romance is really the best and so gratifying in the good ending. Just as you said he has nothing, nobody to lean on. He truly needs your character to show him he deserves love. Making him the Ascendant would only make sense if you didn't romance him and in turn didn't care what becomes of him. Even with that choice he'd be alone, surrounded by brainwashed spawn but still alone nonetheless.
There was one dialogue which I didn't manage to get where he explains how he refused to bring a boy to Cazador for which he had to suffer. Cazador stripped him off any self-worth and empathy. Helping him heal emotionally was the most beautiful in-game experience I've had since Dragon Age and Mass Effect.
I had a scene with Lae'zel as well after I had the post-Araj confession scene with Astarion, she was super chill about it and made me want to properly pursue her in a future playthrough
Shadowheart is so sweet and understanding here. And I love how much she picks up on Astarion's true personality.
I fucking love how supportive she is and how much she understands Astarion's true needs. The only thing that I don't like about the relationship system in the game is the lack of platonic content after rejecting a character, like, sure they're still in the party and you can progress their quests, but you get basically no new lines for the rest of the game
Yeah, same. Thats how I felt with Lae'zel after breaking things off with her in Act 2 and fully committing to Shadowheart. Didnt say anything for the rest of the game relationship wise, which is a bummer. Could have been room for more interesting dialogue, or even given a chance to reignite something later on, but alas
I wish you could have platonic moments with everyone; I'd love to be able to share a bottle of wine with Shadowheart at the party, I'd love to stay up late talking with Karlach, I'd love to be able to have a friendly dance with Wyll. Hell, I'll even let Gale show me the pretty stars and duel or watch the sunrise with Lae'zel, or even just hang out in a graveyard with Astarion. I just wanna be FRIENDS with whoever I'm not romancing at the time.
@@iSaiiriThat I agree with although I don't know what I did but I managed to drink wine with Shadowheart while also having the freak on with Astarion 😂 Also I have three boyfriends 😂 Halsin, Gale and Astarion. I have no idea how that even happened 😂
@@iSaiiriThere is still a chance to sit with Gale under the stars and the lines you can choose have good platonic options. But that's honestly it for the game with him, which is sad. He "broke up" with my durge after the Wyll dance (which is funny because my durge flirted with him a grand total of once at the goblin party and never triggered anything else with him until the breakup) and the scene under the stars changed to just a friendly talk.
Late, but yeah I shared a glass with her the night of the party because she knew I had promised my night to Astarion already.
I love Astarion and he's my favorite, but she's such a sweetheart. She could see through Tav and through Astarion too.
It would be amazing to have a friend like this, who gives you your personal space, who doesn't judge you and might not be the most positive or stable emotionally, but sometimes these are the people who have more understanding of others' feelings.
Shadowheart? More like sweetheart
Shadowheart is my Tav's bestie - I love her.
It's my headcannon that Shadowheart and Astarion become really good friends if not besties.
he's got a great response if you tell him you're *dead* serious about being in a relationship
yeah. that was my first choice and that's the save I kept xD
Awww :) What does he say?
@@Sattva468 he jokingly says '5 mins into this relationship and I already want to break up w u'
@@Sattva468 you can hear it at 1:58
Okay, well I like Shadowheart now, not only does she understand Astarion but that’s really cool of her to put their happiness above her own, and still stay in the party.
I’m convinced Shadow and Astarion are besties
On our first playthroughs, my wife romanced Shadowheart and I romanced Astarion. I was in awe at how sweet Shadowheart is, how wonderful of a life partner she must be. I'm really glad she has good instincts about Astarion where the others are quick to ignore his theatrics.
0:26 Yep, right there is why I didn't buy it when Astarion said he was okay with sharing Tav with Halsin. Something just sounded off in his voice, like he was slipping back into 200 years of ignoring his own needs and boundaries to placate. I don't even think Astarion was pretending to approve, more like he himself didn't fully understand how he felt about it and just said "go ahead" without sorting through his feelings on it first, but I don't believe he's actually okay with sharing Tav.
I agree. I know people desperately want him to be poly, but he's clearly not. He refuses to do it with everyone but Halsin, even with characters ok with being open otherwise. He's only sort of OK with it being Halsin because he knows Halsin is 100% poly and won't try to steal you. He definitely wants a monogamous relationship, but he doesn't know how to ask for it. Shadowheart actually seems pretty down with being poly, but I haven't watched all her scenes.
He absolutely is okay with it and it's because he knows Halsin isn't going to try to keep you to himself. He's also okay with you sleeping with Mizora.
Yes he's been traumatized SH picks up on that but she also doesn't get to speak for him.
I gets so tired of people talking about being poly like it's a bad thing. Astarion knows what he's getting into every time, he's not saying go ahead because he's too afraid to say no. If that were the case he would be that way with everyone not just Halsin and Shadowheart.
@Mellie non ascended astarion has no mizora dialogue or it's glitched, so we don't actually know how he feels about it, but it's probably still a "well, as long as you dont leave me...." Every other poly or open option he just tolerates, probably because he himself admits he struggles to say no, and he has a deep feeling of being unworthy of anyone.
His first thought, whether you bring up halsin or the twins, is that you're doing it because he hasn't had sex with you lately (pre quest being finished). With halsin, he has no option to say no, and you can't even back out after bringing it up. He can also get upset if you try to proposition a single twin telling you it's embarrassing you're into elven prostitutes. After his quest line being finished, he disassociates during the group sex act after assuring you he'd leave if he was uncomfortable, and Tav is written as a POS who doesn't do anything about it or check in on him.
Shadowheart isn't speaking for him, but she's picking up on what everyone else can see: astarion isn't a carefree hedonist. He's not enthusiasticly into sharing, and he should probably heal more before even trying an open relationship.
@@UnseenOct👏👏👏👏
Definitely to all of the above 👆 I’m not sure why some ppl are so insistent that he’s perfectly fine (I’ve even seen one person wrote “joyful” or “excited” and I was like 😮) with a poly relationship when it’s pretty clear he isn’t in any scenario.
He hates it if you guys participate in an orgy with the drow and it shows if you talk to him in any circumstance outside the scene, and only “happily” gives it a try after killing Cazador because Tav asked him to give it a shot. But it’s pretty clear that he wouldn’t have ever thought of it himself, and him sticking through with it and dissociating at the end despite putting it like he’d “run away faster than running from the sun” makes it all the more glaring that he’d still try to go along and support whatever Tav wants whether out of fear or love, ascended or not.
He’s not happy if you want an open relationship with any companion, and companions such as Shadowheart (and I heard Karlach too, bless her infernal soul) would even point out this to you. Sure they can’t speak for him, but to be honest? At this point it should be glaringly obvious that you’re all he has and he’s extremely insecure of losing you because he never thinks he will be enough (again, both ascended and not).
I’ve seen so many say “well in devs notes it says he’s okay with Halsin at least”, but even by acknowledging that you have to admit he’s okay with only him bc everybody knows Halsin is only in it for casual fun. But just like what I said with the drow, it’s not something he would ever take the initiative to request himself, is it? Does that sound like a healthy mindset someone who is poly/happy to be in an open relationship would have? It’s really not about pushing a narrative that poly relationships are bad, just that it doesn’t seem good for *him.*
Nobody is judging that Shadowheart *does* do poly relationships or that Halsin *only does* casual open ones. It’s not just respect only if you believe that every single character is poly… 😩😭
@16_shiliu EXACTLY!!! perfectly said. Asterion straight up says youre the only person he has. And, of course, that means he's more likely to be pushed out of his comfort zone by you. Like compare halsin and astarion, and it's easy to see which one is actually poly. Halsin is extremely healthy about himself and sex. He is very comfortable telling you no if you try to proposition him before completing moonrise. He enthusiastically consents to group sex and being poly. He had a very rich social life and was confident long before you came along. He's even had sexual trauma that he overcame long ago (the drow keeping him as a sex slave for 3 years). It's a stark contrast to how asterion behaves. Asterion, bless his heart, is traumatized and emotionally stunted from all the abuse he dealt with. Could he be poly eventually? Maybe. But he needs healing
I imagine Shadowheart quietly observing in camp and doing insight checks so she can learn everyone's weaknesses and deepest secrets
Even shadowheart can tell astarion is only reluctantly poly
So basically "Yeah, dude's a wreck, he needs you more than I do" 😂
think this insight/dialogue about the real astarion was the first time i actually liked shadowheart. i also absolutely melt when he's so shocked that anyone would choose him over anyone else. my heart! 🥰 & he's soo overjoyed when he realizes you really do want him
"if you insist on adoring me, who am i to stop you" - Astarion to his entire fanbase 😂
he's such a cutie I love him little baby boy I will give him all the kisses and hugs he needs.
Not sure if intentional but your PC reminds me a ton of Rosamund Pike's portrayal of Moiraine, love it!
hmm. no. I haven't thought of that. but now that you said it, in this outfit, I suppose she looks a little similar.
Thank you for the video! Could you upload the opposite of this, where astarion steps back for show hearts sake? I’d really appreciate it❤
Shadowhearts chainmail looks amazing! What dye is that?
There was no dye used on it. this is the default appearance of the rippling force mail rare heavy armour.
If you kiss Shadowheart will Astarion romance you? How did this happen?
I want to get this scene but I'm not sure how. How far do you need to go with Shadowheart and Astarion to trigger it?
It's in Act 2. (Of course you have to pursue a romance with both since act 1.) Basically in Act 2 you need to advance the romance further with one of them. (In this case with Astarion.) As far as I understand if Shadowheart's romance had advanced faster then it would have been the other way around. Astarion would have initiated the conversation and not Shadowheart.
Astarion's hug scene/confession happened right before this. And that progresses the relationship to something more serious. Right after that scene, the next time I clicked on Shadowheart, she had this talk with me.
Of course it's still possible to ditch the character who had more romance progression, but it's kinder to stay with them. And the character who initiated the conversation (in this case Shadowheart) will be more understanding that they aren't chosen in this situation.
@@MGamingVideos I did the first scene with Shadow where we drank wine and kissed, but do you know if I need to have gone farther than that in the relationship to trigger the scene? I've already done Astarion's first 'romance' sequence as well.
@@aimeerobidoux7635 No, that is all you need to/can do in act 1 with them. If they have romance specific greetings when you click on them, then you are good.
When the party happens, shadowheart won't hit on you but don't worry, the romance still continues with her. Astarion will hit on you. When you go to bed, you will have a choice between the two. I think it doesn't matter which one you pick. And there isn't actually a scene with either of them.
In Act 2 you will have to either talk to Araj Oblodra in Moonrise towers or nearly max out Astarion's approval. A conversation will trigger in the evening. If you are supportive and you don't say you only want to be friends, you advance his romance. In the morning, Shadowheart will want to talk to you. that's it.
I don't get what you're replying to at 1:58. There was no question?
Yes this used to be bugged on launch when I recorded it. They fixed it now. After he says "nothing that compares to you" he follows up with "But you are serious about this? About us?" That's the question we are replying to.
@@MGamingVideos Thank you that cleared it up
How do you get to this point? I'm trying to trigger it on my Bard run and about to enter Act II, do you need to have the Shadowheart confession first? or the Astarion confession? Or does it not matter?
for this specific conversation, you need to trigger the astarion confession first. so you could go to moonrise and speak to araj oblodra with astarion in the party. that's the fastest way to trigger his confession scene and if you don't end his romance, next morning shadowheart will have this dialogue.
@@MGamingVideos awesome, thanks!
love your tav. She looks very wise and reminds me of Cate Blanchett? Is there mod I can use?
Thank you. It's completely vanilla appearance. Half-elf head preset 4 with half-drow ash skin tone 1 and blue eyes.
@@MGamingVideos thank you! I'm going to try that🥰
bit of black smokey makeup should do the trick ;) you are welcome
How do you manage to trigger this scene? I've only gotten Wyll to ask me to dance and in the morning Astarion asks me if I have a new love, but not this dialogue. Thank you
that's because you progressed wyll's romance with the dance scene so the game considered you mainly in a relationship with wyll and the other character (in your case astarion) initiates the conversation.
In my version I progressed Astarion's romance first (his hug/confession scene happened) so the game considered us a couple and therefore Shadowheart (the other character I romanced in act 1 but her act 2 romance hasn't progressed yet) initiated the "make a choice" convo.
The character whose romance is less progressed is always the one who wants to talk, they usually offer to end the relationship and they are surprised if you instead choose to break up with the character whose act 2 romance scene already happened.