I’ve heard when u go down on a girl for the first time you can ask her to hold your hand and when it feels good she can press it so you can find the good spots😊
can i just mention how fantastic it is that there are good subtitles? Im HOH so I usually watch videos hella loud so I can understand, but these subtitles saved my life. Thank you, QUEEN!
About the smelling "bad": I would also encourage ppl to drink. Drink enough water daily. The smell of your huha is going to be stronger if you drink too little.
@War Dog Start writing intelligent comments instead of being hateful for absolutely no reason. Oh wait you can't do that cause you have the thinking capacities of a dead oyster and you re so unhappy that you feel the need to bring other people down right?
@@KearaGraves People with Vulvas is a disrespectful Term to use for a Woman. People with Vulva is an offensive Thing to call a Woman. Its objecting Women and reduces Women to our reproductive Organs.
@@tobumuzzer9490 that's actually the opposite, using this term shows that being a woman is more than having a vulva. You can have a vulva and be socially seen as a man. And you can not have a vulva and still be a woman.
For hat person wondering if they had an orgasm: - no, you don't necessarily know if you had one. Some people struggle to know even if they had plenty - Masturbation orgasms can feel very different to partner-sex-orgasms It would have helped me to know these things earlier, so maybe it helps someone who reads this
Hi, that's great what you wrote. Btw you look fantastic, anybody will be privileged to have u as a partner and/or lover :) being a straight guy, I always loved going down, female orgasms and those are my things. What advice for speaking more about this? Do you find it easy? And I'd love to ask more about your orgasms
I recently came out as bisexual and this is my first pride month out of the closet. Thank you Keara for being such a good role model for me and all the other queers in the closet and out of the closet ❤️🏳️🌈
Im asexual, but, my gay asf friend has no idea how this stuff works and is too embarrassed to look anything up or see anything- So now it’s my job… It’s nice how not awkward you are about this- It makes it easier to watch and understand. So on my friends behalf, thanks.
I’m glad people are more open talking about sex now, especially with same sex couples etc rather than just straight sex and abstinence. I’m glad that I didn’t listen to my parents when they told me that I had to wait until marriage (with a guy who is Christian) to have sex. I’ve found out that I hate having sex with a guy so I’m glad I discovered that before getting married (I’m not thinking about marriage at all but was good to find that out). Thanks for this video. Also I’m low key attracted to you haha
these videos help me so much. i’m bi and i’m coming out to my parents soon (maybe today)! wish me luck! update- i came out and my parents both supported me! i wrote a note to them and left it outside their door after they went to bed. the next day they both hugged me and told me how proud of me they were and that they love me
I ain’t homosexual, but I’m just a citizen who wants to be educated. 👌 Edit: It’s been a year, and guess what? As some may’ve suspected, I may be a bit gay.
I'm going on 20 years as an innocent loner who was raised Mormon, so until a few months ago I knew basically nothing. This was so freaking helpful I can't even tell you; the more I learn the more confident I get with thinking about things I was taught was a sin to think about. Thank you so much!
"I'm not a sex educator, I'm just going from personal experience." IMHO this is the best kind of advice. Yes, the 'sex educators' have education and training, etc but there is such a thing as too much education. I would rather speak with (and have a new experience) a 'normal person' than some 'expert.'
Got it in my requests for 3 years now even before I knew about my sexuality. I ignored it through different phases of my life exploring me and my sexuality knowing I'm queer for 2,5y now. I'm giving in and watching it now, it's okay algorithm, you got me
As a straight male, these tips are not just for the LGBTQ community. This is a great, to the point, simplistic explanation of just being with your significant other. 👍
@@minceraftfornite4334 they went from from 👩->👨 so they have no penis but they can get it from this medicine thing or surgery but I'm not trans I just know a bit but not a lot
@@minceraftfornite4334 it means that at birth, the doctor assigned them as "female." But now they are male. And what he also means that he has no 🍆 down there since they have not medical transition their genitals. And it is also fine to not medical transition If people are a trans male, or female! Ps: not trans but im still learning.
My girlfriend and I were just having a conversation about how we need to look for lesbian sex Ed videos because we’re sad they’re aren’t enough, like, yesterday, and this is the vidoe I thought of, low and behold, here it appears on my recommendation. This is great
i love the bush i just trim it so less chance of hairs sticking in my teeth. can be a sexy time but don't lick it after the cutting .wait until the loose hair is washed down the drain.
I went to Catholic school, and we did not get any sex ed, let alone queer sex ed (and my family, as far as I can remember, never talked with me about it). I'm 21, have never had sex with anyone, and only just realized I'm sapphic, so resources like this are so so helpful! Thank you so much! You've got yourself a new subscriber! :)
I love the queer evolution of Keara the mullet, the muscle shirt, the metal straw...plus this was a really honest and validating look at sexual health. Ty!
Phew. I recently discovered I was asexual so I was super nervous about watching this video lol. I questioned my entire existence because I was curious. Thanks for answering a lot of them lol
@Phantom Quest what the actual fuck is going on. who they are then? chairs or who. maybe you should stop your misogyny and finally call women women. we were fighting so long so word “woman” become not a bad shameful word, but y’all bringing us back to where we started.
Also in my experience, "tasting bad" doesn't really matter. If it's a little bitter, it'll go away within about a minute. After that it's smooth sailing and delicious.
When you were talking abt your partner judging your body, I remembered something my partner said the day after. They just GUSHED about how amazing they thought I looked. They literally used the word "immaculate" (it was our first time together. I was so worried abt if they'd be happy with how I looked, but them going on and on abt how happy they word killed all my nerves
I’m actually glad yt recommended this to me. My one and only relationship in the 20+ years I’ve been alive was extremely traumatic, especially around sex. It ended two years ago, and then I figured out months later I had severe sex-related trauma. Since then I’ve never wanted to date anyone again or get intimate w anyone, which…for a long long time included just me on my own. I’m still healing and pondering if I might actually be ace or just traumatized, but this was a nice stop on the path to getting better :) I love your attitude and how you present things as natural as if you were talking about the weather. The main issue we had was definitely communication, which is both my fault and my ex’s. They also made me feel unsafe and self conscious many times, but I’m gay and fucking stupid lol I pushed past it (don’t do that)
If your sex-related issues are due to trauma or because you are ace, healing from your trauma won't do anything bad anyways And after that, you won't have any doubts about anything. I hope you get okay soon 🫶 (English is not my first language sorry for any mistakes)
I still haven’t had my first time bc I literally hate my body. I feel ugly and I get so much anxiety bc of that. Is there any way to overcome this insecurity? :(
I think the only way to stop being so anxious and feeling ugly is pretty much to start loving yourself!! I know basic advice but there’s literally no other way! Either you loose weight or love yourself the way you are. I guarantee you, you’ll find someone that likes you just the way you are someday. Just be patient and try to love yourself or just stop caring!
Take time everyday, whether it's before bed, in the shower, in nature, or other, to just be with yourself. There is no remedy or sure way to just change the way you feel about yourself- not truly, anyway,- but by just spending time and actually looking at yourself, thinking, and getting used to being around yourself, maybe you can come to a place of acceptance or peace. You don't have to look a certain way to be beautiful. And if you want to be better for yourself, there are always ways to improve your health, but before you do anything with someone new, you have to be at peace with yourself. I hope things work out for you; idk how helpful this was. But best of luck
I’d rather be ‘ugly’ and orgasming than pretty and dry! Haha but for real, I remind myself that I am never thinking about my partners body in the same way I think about mine. When I’m having sex with a girl I think every part of their body is the sexiest thing I’ve ever seen. I try to remind myself this and keep my focus outward on them. Be gentil with yourself.
You just have to remember loving yourself is a mindset. A real friend, gf or bf won’t care how you look (unclothed or clothed) because they’ll love you. I was so insecure until I got the confident mindset ❤️❤️❤️
i may not be fully confident in my own body yet but i've come a long way. my one advice would be, fake it till u make it. seriously, when you start saying stuff like "oh i'm so hot/beautiful, anyone else who hates me is just jealous" and more, you start FEELING good. this is something that helped me a LOT. i hope this helps u too
ok but like i actually appreciate this so much keara, thank you!! i love how you don't treat it as a weird thing and how open you are about this topic. (also, i love your hair omg)
I once tried scissoring with a girl cause it was something we both wanted to try but no matter how much we kept trying and changing positions, we never got it right and I was just kind of disappointed. I was kinda like "wow, porn lied to me" 😹
I have taken exactly 3 s3x ed classes in my life (parents made me) and none of them gave me as much LGBTQIA+ s3x information as this video, even when I asked. You are a godsenddd 😭😭😭
@@Mendoxs_ They're not harmful but meant for use on the vulva, or the outside part, not recommend for use inside the vagina or penetration. They're generally not viscous enough and I've gotten yeast infections when using flavored lube for penetrative sex. You should try it out if you're a bit iffy about taste.
watching this vid was one of the safest, happiest and most accepted I’ve felt since i came out. it’s so amazing to get the answers to questions that I’ve been so curious about, but just accepted I’d never know. thank you so much
As a straight male, I stumbled on this video simply based on the title, lol. My wife and I have been together for almost 18 years and I'm still just always looking for ways to make it better. You have some really good advice for the oral part that I either didn't know or had forgotten. Thank you! (PS with kids in the house it's easy to get rusty in the bedroom due to lack of opportunity)
Okay quick note, yes, go do it and get it over with to get rid of the nerves, but still be picky with who it’s with. I chose the wrong person and ended up getting SA-d during my first time. Make sure it’s still with someone you trust, be safe out there!
I'm a gay man but i was always curious about wlw sex. I don't want to escape to watching lesbian porn because I'm almost 100% sure more than half of the things potrayed there are not used in the real world of lesbian sex. This is really helpful, thanks!
Keara, thank you so much for such an informative video! I really appreciate that you didn't sound awkward or anything like that. You discussed it just like any other topic. I have never had a sexual encounter with women before, but your video definitely helped me and gave some tips for the future. Have a nice day!
This is very tied into the whole communication theme, but if all participants are OK with it then laughter can be a wonderful thing during sex. Some people are sensitive emotionally to laughter during times like this, so please communicate about it first, but a genuine full laugh at a dumb joke or some awkward moment can make the vulva do some muscle movements that are super fun for all concerned.
im ace and im just watching this cause i watch basically anything lgbtq+ that gets recommended to me, im a curious person and i want to know anything and everything gay :)
I'm straight but a lot of this is still helpful! My ex boyfriend was quite awful in a lot of ways which has made me scared of the prospect of possibly having a sexual relationship again. He was incredibly selfish and clearly did not give a shit about my experience (I have never experienced good or even decent sex). Even when I tried to bring up issues he was dismissive, he didn't change anything, and I just ended up feeling bad for being "demanding" even though I basically only asked for the bare minimum - HE had the audacity to keep asking for more though! He also did things without asking under the assumption that I'd be into it despite me NEVER having given any indication that I was, such as choking, spanking and biting. I have a very low pain tolerance so these things were highly unpleasant, and even though I told him to be careful, asked him to be more gentle, he didn't. Idk if he somehow took it as a joke because I said it in a cheerful tone as to not ruin the mood. At one point I did outright tell him that he was hurting me and he acted really offended as if this was news to him and he was like "you make me sound like an abuser!" and I just???? Dude I've literally been telling you every single time to be careful and that it hurts??? And even after that, even though he made a scene about how bad he supposedly felt, he didn't stop. All of these things (as well as many more but this is getting long) have made me really really worried about what would happen if ever I find myself in a sexual situation again. I don't know how to deal with it.
I'm sorry you had to experience this! I really wish you the best for the future and that you will find somebody who is willing to communicate with you, respect your boundaries and cares about the way you feel! 💕 Also, please don't listen to this other comment above. 🙄 You did what you could, you told him every single time. There wasn't really more you could do except leaving the situation and the relationship. It was NOT your fault! Wishing you all the best!💖
I love your advice but personally I do have to disagree with one thing you said, being the “make a schedule to compromise” with different sex drives. I think that, in a couple, if one of you wants to have sex less than the other one, then THATS the amount you have sex. No one should have to ever have sex when they don’t want to just to please someone else. If it’s a huge issue for the other person, then they can explore masturbation or even an open relationship - but in my opinion if your party is happy having sex with you to get their jollies when they know you don’t want to be doing it and you’re not feeling it but are doing it out of ‘compromise’…. That’s a bit weird.
I think it's more like, "make a schedule that both parties are okay with, *both*, but can change if life requires a change" kinda thing. But also depending on the people that way it's not just a set thing but case by case with couples but I dunno
Definitely agree with making sure you have robust consent. But sexuality is a little more nuanced. We tend to think a person is either horny or they're not, but arousal is something that can absolutely be "turned on". It's why many of us will not be thinking of sex, watch something sexy, then get hot and bothered, rather than seeking out sexy material because we're already turned on. And there's some evidence to suggest that when couples schedule (some) sex, they have higher anticipation, more sex, and often more satisfying sex because they are mentally prepared, commit sufficient time, and have open communication on it. Often, if we wait until both folks are "organically" in the mood, the couple is having less sex than either of them want because they're not randomly horny at the same times. This is not to say that you should coerce your partner into having sex EVER, just that our sexual desire can be fluid and these conversations can be productive.
i don’t really see the problem with scheduling, cause personally i’m not someone who will randomly or regularly get horny. sex leads to wanting more sex and sometimes a busy life means you dont even think about it.
I disagree. In my experience, having a lower sex drive just means you’re not as horny as the other person. Doesn’t mean you’re not open and willing to enjoy sex sex when you’re not horny. It doesn’t have to be a chore for the other person. You needing it less than the other person doesn’t mean you can’t consent and and enjoy it more often than you’re naturally inclined to.
I know I'm kinda young to be watching this, but it is about the time for me to start learning about sex. It's a completely natural thing and I feel comfortable talking about it if someone doesn't make it sexual. (I know you're talking about sex but you don't have to make anything sexual) and that's exactly what you did, thank you Keara! I've also had a few questions like if sex-spread infections can spread with the same sex too, so this was helpful. I'm questioning both my sexuality and my gender, I've been trying out she/they pronouns and I'm thinking I'm pansexual, but I don't necessarily know because i think maybe I'm faking being attracted to men because I have internalized homophobia (I actually do have internalized homophobia so that's a thing) but I do know that I definitely like girls, I'm gonna see (When I'm older!) What kind of things happen with the same sex, what normal questions about sex is in the first place, etc. So this helped too. Thank you once again, I want to be educated on lgbtq+ sex but my parents are kinda homophobic in a way so I don't wanna talk to them about it (Especially about sex, like why??) And of course the only sex you get taught in schools is purely straight sex. So I wouldn't learn there. Thank you once again! This has helped me a lot!
Our society/education has stigmatized sex as this bad and inappropriate thing and it's really messed with my perception of sex to the point where I thought I might be asexual.
Good luck on your journey, you'll get there!! Don't be afraid to try things out to see if they work, and don't feel ashamed if it doesn't. Whoever you are is the best you, whoever that is. You got this :)
Idk if you've got resources already that you're looking into, but sexplinations is a great channel for sex education - she talks about SO many things, from specific kinks to queer sex to anatomy, and she's really great at making comfortable, informational content!
You are extremely needed! And besides being an easy video in every way, I'm not fluent in English, but I know it, and it was the first video in English that I understood in its entirety.
0:25 XCX!??? Surely she meant the wonderful experimental pop artist Charli XCX, who just released her latest album brat which may be the best album of 2024!! 😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃
Really inspiring seeing someone who doesn’t care about getting monetized No but in all seriousness this is a really helpful video. As a trans woman this video isn’t 1:1 for what my sexual experiences are like, but it’s definitely still helpful. I struggle with sex because of dysphoria and because a lot of people who I pursue romantically are interested in having sex with someone with a vagina, but I like, don’t have one.
If you don’t mind me asking, what’s your sexuality? I love learning about a wide range of experiences, but definitely don’t answer that question if you aren’t comfortable. :)
@@esanalgona1160 I usually self identify as bisexual, but I guess that isn’t entirely accurate. I usually struggle to be sexually attracted to non-binary people, because I want to take care of them and help them be cozy, but sexually I like partners that can overpower me and take control. But there are a few non-binary people I’m attracted to. Though if your question was just whether I was interested in men at all, I am! I can say with a great degree of confidence that I’m attracted to men and women. I only hesitate to say bisexual because I am attracted to some people that would make pansexual a more accurate label, but like I said, those people are typically exceptions, and I find binary gender more sexually attractive.
@@JyujinPlus how interesting, I am a cisgirl and bi as well!! Twins lmaoo 😏. That’s so cool tho that u know who you are attracted to or at least an idea. Anywho, I do have a question for you, and I really hope it’s not offensive, if it is you don’t have to answer. I just want to know if you feel if it is transphobic to not be attracted to trans people, bc of the mismatching of genitalia. I think you answered this in your OG comment, but I just wanted to outright ask. Again I’m so sorry if this is crossing the line, I just want to know your opinion as a trans woman based on your perception of sexuality and experiences.😄
@@esanalgona1160 I personally don’t think it’s transphobic to not be attracted to trans people, mostly because it’s really hard to control what you are attracted to. Even as someone who is attracted to trans people, I kind of approach sex differently with vaginas in mind than I do penises, so expecting one and finding the other would throw off the stuff I get excited about. I definitely think it sucks when people aren’t attracted to trans people, it’s a bummer. But I wouldn’t say it’s transphobic. It’s not too different from a cis woman being straight: it’s a bummer that they aren’t interested but it’s not something they chose.
Soo... I guess I'm late to this vid and all, but I have to ask, is it pan to like trans people? Cause I thought I'm bi, but then imagined a cute girl AND the boy parts and... it's kinda hot, so- idk am I bi, or pan now-? Just asking :'>
I am so happy this was recommended! They don’t give much info at school and since I’m ✨maturing✨ I am a little more curious about this so thank you so much :)
I have adhd and almost never get through a whole video unless I search it or it’s really short, so the fact that I stumbled across this and watched the whole thing is impressive. Maybe it’s the raging homosexual in me wanting to know, maybe it’s your personality but I stayed till the replay button came up
You did a great job -- relaxed, mature but fun discussion. One thing I think ithink we overlook is that our brain is our primary sexual organ-- so, your suggestion to relax and enjoy and not worry is pivotal , for any sexual experience. If your head isn’t into it, your body won’t be.
surprisingly, I didn't search for this BUT youtube never let's me down with the recommendations
Same
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Nothing, me just being a casual asexual and listening to this knowing I'll never use this wonderful knowledge
Edit: oh no I'm questioning
same i literally just understood what oral is and idk if i find it disguisting or not
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useful for fanfic ig
bro get tf out of my dresser
Here my dude the aces are here
I’ve heard when u go down on a girl for the first time you can ask her to hold your hand and when it feels good she can press it so you can find the good spots😊
That's really smart, actually!
I took a screen shot for this knowing I'll never have sex 😽🤘
Lunz, very good advice
I LOVE this then even if she's shy she can tell you
I know I’ll probably never do *it* with someone but if I do, then I might try this method.
The fact that this showed up in my recommended after WEEKS of me searching up this very thing in incognito mode ✋🏽😀
LMAOOOO
LMAO SAME
Same-
this shouldn’t be this relatable... but it is
Oof maybe incognito mode betrayed you
RUclips has blessed me with this video 3 years later - thank you x
RUclips said : “this is a video you need” 😭
UPDATE: I DO ACTUALLY NEED THIS NOW
Update 2.0: i dont need this anymore, she broke up with me 🧍🏼♀️
OMG SAAAAAMMEE
Same 😭
Lmao youtube is all knowing
Real dawg
Sameeee, I got curious-
Me, an asexual
"Welp, there's some interesting knowledge I'm never gonna use"
Same.
i’m asexual too lol i’m just here for curiosity
Same dude, I’m a lesbian but I’m pretty sure I’m ace
Exactly! I just want the knowledge haha
I’m going to be single forever so little pointless to watch but I am also an author *wheeze* that’s why I’m here
“Especially in Catholic schools”
Sweats in queer catholic.
sameeeeeee🧚🏻♂️🧚🏻♂️
Oh lord same-
Omggg sameee
SAME
pLEASE SAME 💀🏃♀️
When you said „people with vulvas” it made me so unreasonably happy 😭 I’m a t4t trans man and that made me feel so included.. thanks dude!!!
MY CHEESECAKE
NOT MY CHEESECAKE NOT MY CHEESSSEEEE CAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA--
NOT MY CHEESECAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAKE
Rip cheesecake
Sorry but the pfp just made me go "MISTA PHOONEEE"
If a video screams HOW TO GO DOWN ON A WOMAN in my face, I of course gonna click on it
SAME LMFAO
Same
SAME
EXACTLY
Yep
Keara: "It shouldn't be silent"
Me: "AAAAAA SUPERCALIFRAGILISTICEXPIALIDOCIOUS."
Her: "What the-"
Me: "sorry it was a little quiet."
stahp i'm wheezing
LMFAOOOOOOO!!!
I have a new safe word lol
if someone would say this to me during doing it, I would marry them.
@@Rawijntje me too
can i just mention how fantastic it is that there are good subtitles? Im HOH so I usually watch videos hella loud so I can understand, but these subtitles saved my life. Thank you, QUEEN!
About the smelling "bad": I would also encourage ppl to drink. Drink enough water daily. The smell of your huha is going to be stronger if you drink too little.
Wash with clean water daily; possibly more often during your period
That’s great advice!
damn the huha got me
A health vulva has an earthy scent.
@@brandy3198 no one wants to eat dirt boo...
This video is amazing! As a non-binary, afab person, I really appreciate when you said "people with vulvas" - It made me feel so happy, so thank you!
of course :)) trying to use inclusive language whenever possible!
@War Dog uhm.. what?
@War Dog Start writing intelligent comments instead of being hateful for absolutely no reason. Oh wait you can't do that cause you have the thinking capacities of a dead oyster and you re so unhappy that you feel the need to bring other people down right?
@@KearaGraves People with Vulvas is a disrespectful Term to use for a Woman. People with Vulva is an offensive Thing to call a Woman. Its objecting Women and reduces Women to our reproductive Organs.
@@tobumuzzer9490 that's actually the opposite, using this term shows that being a woman is more than having a vulva. You can have a vulva and be socially seen as a man. And you can not have a vulva and still be a woman.
For hat person wondering if they had an orgasm:
- no, you don't necessarily know if you had one. Some people struggle to know even if they had plenty
- Masturbation orgasms can feel very different to partner-sex-orgasms
It would have helped me to know these things earlier, so maybe it helps someone who reads this
Hi, that's great what you wrote. Btw you look fantastic, anybody will be privileged to have u as a partner and/or lover :) being a straight guy, I always loved going down, female orgasms and those are my things. What advice for speaking more about this? Do you find it easy? And I'd love to ask more about your orgasms
I recently came out as bisexual and this is my first pride month out of the closet. Thank you Keara for being such a good role model for me and all the other queers in the closet and out of the closet ❤️🏳️🌈
OMG CONGRATS! So proud of you. Happy pride!!! 🏳️🌈💓 i am still closeted and pride brings me so much joy 🤩
This is my first pride since coming out too :)) 🌈💗
Omg bestie same 🏳️🌈
wow so brave 😂well done on coming out and happy pride!! 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
Congratulations!!!! I came out to my friends today also as bisexual but I am scared/idk how to come out to my mom! Any tips? 🏳️🌈
commenting for the algorithm, love ya keara
Love ya queera ❤️
I hereby second this comment
I third it, LOVE YOU
i’ll reply for the algorithm
i 4th it 🏳️🌈💖
Im asexual, but, my gay asf friend has no idea how this stuff works and is too embarrassed to look anything up or see anything-
So now it’s my job…
It’s nice how not awkward you are about this- It makes it easier to watch and understand.
So on my friends behalf, thanks.
Your a true life saver your friend is so lucky 🫡🫡
I’m glad people are more open talking about sex now, especially with same sex couples etc rather than just straight sex and abstinence. I’m glad that I didn’t listen to my parents when they told me that I had to wait until marriage (with a guy who is Christian) to have sex. I’ve found out that I hate having sex with a guy so I’m glad I discovered that before getting married (I’m not thinking about marriage at all but was good to find that out). Thanks for this video. Also I’m low key attracted to you haha
It’s great that you figured that out :)
I found that out too lol
Omg I’m super happy for you!! It’s amazing when anyone finds out about themselves 💗
Amen
Great for you :)
these videos help me so much. i’m bi and i’m coming out to my parents soon (maybe today)! wish me luck!
update- i came out and my parents both supported me! i wrote a note to them and left it outside their door after they went to bed. the next day they both hugged me and told me how proud of me they were and that they love me
💗 You got this
goodluck reese, you can do it!!
Good luck!
Good luck!
Good luck!!
as a bisexual girl who just spent a day with the girl she has a crush on i am taking this video as a sign.
I need an update omg its been half a year did anything new happen
@@Marsfart unfortunately no 😭
@@ada.miller NOOOOOOO
@@ada.millerAHHHHHHHHHHH NOOOOOOOOOOOO
@@ada.milleryep its not easy to get a woman 😂 Im bi too 😂
I ain’t homosexual, but I’m just a citizen who wants to be educated. 👌
Edit: It’s been a year, and guess what? As some may’ve suspected, I may be a bit gay.
Same
we need more ppl liek you
Thank you.
We need more people like you, sadly they don’t really teach us these things. 🥲
It's fine to be curious as long as it's not fetishsized
them: *going down on me*
me: so you like sports or what?
just gross noises followed by "sooo... what's your favorite supernatural-episode?"
Honestly the urge to just talk when someone's going down on you... Been there
@@abandonedacc.5488 oh I see, you have good taste
So have you heard of the owl house *says sensually as they go down on me*
@@ArtemisFox01NO I CANT LMFAO 😭
I'm going on 20 years as an innocent loner who was raised Mormon, so until a few months ago I knew basically nothing. This was so freaking helpful I can't even tell you; the more I learn the more confident I get with thinking about things I was taught was a sin to think about. Thank you so much!
Way to break the stigma. Fellow exmo here so I get it !!
@@ailsafaust7415 I was a bishop's daughter! 🤯🫡 It's nice to meet other exmos lol
i like how the answers to like 60% of these are literally just 'communicate with your partner'
👍🏻
"I'm not a sex educator, I'm just going from personal experience."
IMHO this is the best kind of advice. Yes, the 'sex educators' have education and training, etc but there is such a thing as too much education. I would rather speak with (and have a new experience) a 'normal person' than some 'expert.'
I'm the 1k like :3
Got it in my requests for 3 years now even before I knew about my sexuality. I ignored it through different phases of my life exploring me and my sexuality knowing I'm queer for 2,5y now. I'm giving in and watching it now, it's okay algorithm, you got me
As a straight male, these tips are not just for the LGBTQ community. This is a great, to the point, simplistic explanation of just being with your significant other. 👍
idek why i clicked this video
agreed. As a cishet woman, it's still interesting to hear and ... idk compare experiences?
@@excessivelyfangirlingbookw3339 same! idk i just thought itd be interesting to know
i also am a cishet woman and i thought it was a fantastic video with some really great info!
ok
As a trans man who unfortunately has no peanut down there, thank you
Lol I like how u said no peanut 😂
What does that mean
@@minceraftfornite4334 they went from from 👩->👨 so they have no penis but they can get it from this medicine thing or surgery but I'm not trans I just know a bit but not a lot
@@minceraftfornite4334 it means that at birth, the doctor assigned them as "female." But now they are male. And what he also means that he has no 🍆 down there since they have not medical transition their genitals. And it is also fine to not medical transition If people are a trans male, or female!
Ps: not trans but im still learning.
@@theforgetfulnugget8971 wait if they didn’t transition wouldn’t they just have a clit
My girlfriend and I were just having a conversation about how we need to look for lesbian sex Ed videos because we’re sad they’re aren’t enough, like, yesterday, and this is the vidoe I thought of, low and behold, here it appears on my recommendation. This is great
4:48 “I don’t care, I’m just happy to be there” MEEEE LIKE HOLY SH!t
I READ THIS RIGHT AS SHE SAID IT LMAO
REAL
THIS! is exactly what we need! Thank you so much for the candid, no beating around the bush, no pun intended, answers!
Same appreciation. ^^
i love the bush i just trim it so less chance of hairs sticking in my teeth. can be a sexy time but don't lick it after the cutting .wait until the loose hair is washed down the drain.
I went to Catholic school, and we did not get any sex ed, let alone queer sex ed (and my family, as far as I can remember, never talked with me about it). I'm 21, have never had sex with anyone, and only just realized I'm sapphic, so resources like this are so so helpful! Thank you so much! You've got yourself a new subscriber! :)
“its abawt the jerney, nawt the dehstinayshun, hunny” KEARA ARE YOU SUDDENLY TEXAN
LOL IDK WHAT CAME OVER ME😂
LOL
"I don't care, I'm just happy to be there." Amen to that😄
I love the queer evolution of Keara the mullet, the muscle shirt, the metal straw...plus this was a really honest and validating look at sexual health. Ty!
I'm asexual, but if i ever fall in love with a person with vulva who isn't ace too, i'm ready
Lmaooo I feel this! I do my research for both men & women just incase, Idk who I'll end with afterall💀
This is exactly me
That's really sweet, remember not to push your boundaries!
glad to see i am not the only asexual with that thought process here haha
Phew. I recently discovered I was asexual so I was super nervous about watching this video lol. I questioned my entire existence because I was curious. Thanks for answering a lot of them lol
Me a non-binary: “people with vulvas”
* excited enby noises *
OMG me tooo
To be acknowledged by some random on the internet seems to be the most excitable and happy moment in your life yet, right? Lmao.
Calling women "people with vulvas" is deeply misogynistic and it's insane that you don't seem to understand that
@Phantom Quest what the actual fuck is going on. who they are then? chairs or who. maybe you should stop your misogyny and finally call women women. we were fighting so long so word “woman” become not a bad shameful word, but y’all bringing us back to where we started.
@@kam-lw4ez ok but
not everyone with vulvas are women
so shush
as a trans girl looking for more sapphic interactions and wlw love this is perfect!!! Thanks Keara
Lol you didn't have to tell us you're a transwoman, you're clockable through the damn comment
p.s leave us alone troon
Your pfp is the cutest thing I have seen all day 💕
Also in my experience, "tasting bad" doesn't really matter. If it's a little bitter, it'll go away within about a minute. After that it's smooth sailing and delicious.
or after a night out drinkin .maybe a slight pee taste also goes away quickly . don't let it stop you enjoy .
Lots of saliva helps until the better nectar starts flowing.
I was doing fine until now,bur I just can't take this comment seriously for some reason😭💀🤭😂
When you were talking abt your partner judging your body, I remembered something my partner said the day after. They just GUSHED about how amazing they thought I looked. They literally used the word "immaculate" (it was our first time together. I was so worried abt if they'd be happy with how I looked, but them going on and on abt how happy they word killed all my nerves
My partner does the same, and my partner also used the word “immaculate” so I know how you feel, I was so worried she wouldn’t like my body😂
I’m actually glad yt recommended this to me. My one and only relationship in the 20+ years I’ve been alive was extremely traumatic, especially around sex. It ended two years ago, and then I figured out months later I had severe sex-related trauma. Since then I’ve never wanted to date anyone again or get intimate w anyone, which…for a long long time included just me on my own. I’m still healing and pondering if I might actually be ace or just traumatized, but this was a nice stop on the path to getting better :) I love your attitude and how you present things as natural as if you were talking about the weather. The main issue we had was definitely communication, which is both my fault and my ex’s. They also made me feel unsafe and self conscious many times, but I’m gay and fucking stupid lol I pushed past it (don’t do that)
If your sex-related issues are due to trauma or because you are ace, healing from your trauma won't do anything bad anyways
And after that, you won't have any doubts about anything.
I hope you get okay soon 🫶
(English is not my first language sorry for any mistakes)
*Me, an asexual trying to explain why I'm here:* uh, I'm here - I'm here for the plot?
I am also an ace here for the... plot?
I'm just here for the character development
the number of us aces in the comments is hilarious
I am also here for.. the plot.. yep,
Tbf, asexuality is a spectrum and asexual people can still have and enjoy sex
I still haven’t had my first time bc I literally hate my body. I feel ugly and I get so much anxiety bc of that. Is there any way to overcome this insecurity? :(
I think the only way to stop being so anxious and feeling ugly is pretty much to start loving yourself!! I know basic advice but there’s literally no other way! Either you loose weight or love yourself the way you are. I guarantee you, you’ll find someone that likes you just the way you are someday. Just be patient and try to love yourself or just stop caring!
Take time everyday, whether it's before bed, in the shower, in nature, or other, to just be with yourself. There is no remedy or sure way to just change the way you feel about yourself- not truly, anyway,- but by just spending time and actually looking at yourself, thinking, and getting used to being around yourself, maybe you can come to a place of acceptance or peace. You don't have to look a certain way to be beautiful. And if you want to be better for yourself, there are always ways to improve your health, but before you do anything with someone new, you have to be at peace with yourself. I hope things work out for you; idk how helpful this was. But best of luck
I’d rather be ‘ugly’ and orgasming than pretty and dry! Haha but for real, I remind myself that I am never thinking about my partners body in the same way I think about mine. When I’m having sex with a girl I think every part of their body is the sexiest thing I’ve ever seen. I try to remind myself this and keep my focus outward on them. Be gentil with yourself.
You just have to remember loving yourself is a mindset. A real friend, gf or bf won’t care how you look (unclothed or clothed) because they’ll love you. I was so insecure until I got the confident mindset ❤️❤️❤️
i may not be fully confident in my own body yet but i've come a long way. my one advice would be, fake it till u make it. seriously, when you start saying stuff like "oh i'm so hot/beautiful, anyone else who hates me is just jealous" and more, you start FEELING good. this is something that helped me a LOT. i hope this helps u too
UR HAIR LOOKS SO GOOD!!!! I LOVE IT
ok but like i actually appreciate this so much keara, thank you!! i love how you don't treat it as a weird thing and how open you are about this topic. (also, i love your hair omg)
I once tried scissoring with a girl cause it was something we both wanted to try but no matter how much we kept trying and changing positions, we never got it right and I was just kind of disappointed. I was kinda like "wow, porn lied to me" 😹
What is that I is confused
@@Cheesegromit786 uhhh do u really wanna know?
@@Melanin_Queen06 never mind I knwo now why wouldn't I want to knwo
@@Cheesegromit786 😂
@@Cheesegromit786 its where the cats rub against each other
I CAN NOT STOP STARING AT YOUR MOUTH YOU HAVE SUCH GOOD TEETH😭
"I'm just happy to be there" XD
YOURE AN ANGEL!!! sex ed never taught us about this and i don’t have any wlw friends or family to ask for help so thank you so much!
Exactly and it’s not like you can ask
I have taken exactly 3 s3x ed classes in my life (parents made me) and none of them gave me as much LGBTQIA+ s3x information as this video, even when I asked. You are a godsenddd 😭😭😭
One more thing about taste - oral lubes. They are made specifically for that. Don't use them as actual lubricant, they are literally just for taste.
I had literally never heard of this before. Thank you so much, your comment has just given me INCREDIBLY useful information.
are they harmful? like those vagina soaps? or is it literally *just* for the taste?
@@Mendoxs_ They're not harmful but meant for use on the vulva, or the outside part, not recommend for use inside the vagina or penetration. They're generally not viscous enough and I've gotten yeast infections when using flavored lube for penetrative sex. You should try it out if you're a bit iffy about taste.
@@dunnotck1I was gonna say they sound like yeast infection city if used beyond the vulva.
watching this vid was one of the safest, happiest and most accepted I’ve felt since i came out. it’s so amazing to get the answers to questions that I’ve been so curious about, but just accepted I’d never know. thank you so much
Need uuuhh
As a straight male, I stumbled on this video simply based on the title, lol. My wife and I have been together for almost 18 years and I'm still just always looking for ways to make it better. You have some really good advice for the oral part that I either didn't know or had forgotten. Thank you! (PS with kids in the house it's easy to get rusty in the bedroom due to lack of opportunity)
Okay quick note, yes, go do it and get it over with to get rid of the nerves, but still be picky with who it’s with. I chose the wrong person and ended up getting SA-d during my first time. Make sure it’s still with someone you trust, be safe out there!
as a trans guy in a mlm t4t relationship this is really really helpful,, thank you so much for using inclusive language :]
I'm a gay man but i was always curious about wlw sex. I don't want to escape to watching lesbian porn because I'm almost 100% sure more than half of the things potrayed there are not used in the real world of lesbian sex. This is really helpful, thanks!
Keara, thank you so much for such an informative video! I really appreciate that you didn't sound awkward or anything like that. You discussed it just like any other topic. I have never had a sexual encounter with women before, but your video definitely helped me and gave some tips for the future. Have a nice day!
Hey. Shay. My. Name. Is. Chris. What's. Your. Cell. Phone. Number
This is very tied into the whole communication theme, but if all participants are OK with it then laughter can be a wonderful thing during sex. Some people are sensitive emotionally to laughter during times like this, so please communicate about it first, but a genuine full laugh at a dumb joke or some awkward moment can make the vulva do some muscle movements that are super fun for all concerned.
Honestly me discovering I am bisexual this year has led me on a rollercoaster of emotions and her videos have helped me alot
I’m literally a sex repulsed asexual what am I doing here 😭
can i give you my cat?
omgg i mean an actual cat, just remembered what video this is lmao
@@wyattandreslong 😂😂😂
I'm straight wut am I doing here😂
@@wyattandreslong i didn't saw their name & the first thing that popped into my mind was THAT 💃💃
as an asexual person idk why i am watching this. but i love keara so here i am!!!
im ace and im just watching this cause i watch basically anything lgbtq+ that gets recommended to me, im a curious person and i want to know anything and everything gay :)
@@oghenbread3330 me too lmfao, I’m gay asf
You said "RUclips will probably demonitise this" guess what, they didn't! And I find your tips helpful!
I'm straight but a lot of this is still helpful! My ex boyfriend was quite awful in a lot of ways which has made me scared of the prospect of possibly having a sexual relationship again. He was incredibly selfish and clearly did not give a shit about my experience (I have never experienced good or even decent sex). Even when I tried to bring up issues he was dismissive, he didn't change anything, and I just ended up feeling bad for being "demanding" even though I basically only asked for the bare minimum - HE had the audacity to keep asking for more though!
He also did things without asking under the assumption that I'd be into it despite me NEVER having given any indication that I was, such as choking, spanking and biting. I have a very low pain tolerance so these things were highly unpleasant, and even though I told him to be careful, asked him to be more gentle, he didn't. Idk if he somehow took it as a joke because I said it in a cheerful tone as to not ruin the mood. At one point I did outright tell him that he was hurting me and he acted really offended as if this was news to him and he was like "you make me sound like an abuser!" and I just???? Dude I've literally been telling you every single time to be careful and that it hurts??? And even after that, even though he made a scene about how bad he supposedly felt, he didn't stop.
All of these things (as well as many more but this is getting long) have made me really really worried about what would happen if ever I find myself in a sexual situation again. I don't know how to deal with it.
Guys are not mind readers... Tell him what you want
Keep telling him if not than do not have sexual relations until he agrees to stop...
I'm sorry you had to experience this! I really wish you the best for the future and that you will find somebody who is willing to communicate with you, respect your boundaries and cares about the way you feel! 💕
Also, please don't listen to this other comment above. 🙄 You did what you could, you told him every single time. There wasn't really more you could do except leaving the situation and the relationship.
It was NOT your fault! Wishing you all the best!💖
@@devonmatthews6443 I did tell him. Repeatedly. Didn't help.
@@devonmatthews6443 bro,, did u not read? They clearly said they told him alot???
I cried over this out of happiness because I felt so comfortable as a lesbian myself.
I've been meaning to watch this for so long and I'm really glad I did because it's given me a lot of extra knowledge as virgin.
I love your advice but personally I do have to disagree with one thing you said, being the “make a schedule to compromise” with different sex drives. I think that, in a couple, if one of you wants to have sex less than the other one, then THATS the amount you have sex. No one should have to ever have sex when they don’t want to just to please someone else. If it’s a huge issue for the other person, then they can explore masturbation or even an open relationship - but in my opinion if your party is happy having sex with you to get their jollies when they know you don’t want to be doing it and you’re not feeling it but are doing it out of ‘compromise’…. That’s a bit weird.
i really agree with this
I think it's more like, "make a schedule that both parties are okay with, *both*, but can change if life requires a change" kinda thing. But also depending on the people that way it's not just a set thing but case by case with couples but I dunno
Definitely agree with making sure you have robust consent. But sexuality is a little more nuanced. We tend to think a person is either horny or they're not, but arousal is something that can absolutely be "turned on". It's why many of us will not be thinking of sex, watch something sexy, then get hot and bothered, rather than seeking out sexy material because we're already turned on. And there's some evidence to suggest that when couples schedule (some) sex, they have higher anticipation, more sex, and often more satisfying sex because they are mentally prepared, commit sufficient time, and have open communication on it. Often, if we wait until both folks are "organically" in the mood, the couple is having less sex than either of them want because they're not randomly horny at the same times. This is not to say that you should coerce your partner into having sex EVER, just that our sexual desire can be fluid and these conversations can be productive.
i don’t really see the problem with scheduling, cause personally i’m not someone who will randomly or regularly get horny. sex leads to wanting more sex and sometimes a busy life means you dont even think about it.
I disagree. In my experience, having a lower sex drive just means you’re not as horny as the other person. Doesn’t mean you’re not open and willing to enjoy sex sex when you’re not horny. It doesn’t have to be a chore for the other person. You needing it less than the other person doesn’t mean you can’t consent and and enjoy it more often than you’re naturally inclined to.
I know I'm kinda young to be watching this, but it is about the time for me to start learning about sex. It's a completely natural thing and I feel comfortable talking about it if someone doesn't make it sexual. (I know you're talking about sex but you don't have to make anything sexual) and that's exactly what you did, thank you Keara!
I've also had a few questions like if sex-spread infections can spread with the same sex too, so this was helpful.
I'm questioning both my sexuality and my gender, I've been trying out she/they pronouns and I'm thinking I'm pansexual, but I don't necessarily know because i think maybe I'm faking being attracted to men because I have internalized homophobia (I actually do have internalized homophobia so that's a thing) but I do know that I definitely like girls, I'm gonna see (When I'm older!) What kind of things happen with the same sex, what normal questions about sex is in the first place, etc. So this helped too. Thank you once again, I want to be educated on lgbtq+ sex but my parents are kinda homophobic in a way so I don't wanna talk to them about it (Especially about sex, like why??) And of course the only sex you get taught in schools is purely straight sex. So I wouldn't learn there.
Thank you once again! This has helped me a lot!
Our society/education has stigmatized sex as this bad and inappropriate thing and it's really messed with my perception of sex to the point where I thought I might be asexual.
Good luck on your journey, you'll get there!! Don't be afraid to try things out to see if they work, and don't feel ashamed if it doesn't. Whoever you are is the best you, whoever that is. You got this :)
Idk if you've got resources already that you're looking into, but sexplinations is a great channel for sex education - she talks about SO many things, from specific kinks to queer sex to anatomy, and she's really great at making comfortable, informational content!
Same :]
how old are you?
You are extremely needed! And besides being an easy video in every way, I'm not fluent in English, but I know it, and it was the first video in English that I understood in its entirety.
i love how mature, informational, and inclusive you are when talking about it
I'm not planning to hook up with anyone in the near future but that's good advice for eventually 😂
I like your harry pfp
Samee
0:25 XCX!??? Surely she meant the wonderful experimental pop artist Charli XCX, who just released her latest album brat which may be the best album of 2024!! 😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃
I know this content isn't "for" me as a straight cis man, but it is great stuff and i'm so glad you are out here doing this.
Men got 🖐️ and 👅 to.
Really inspiring seeing someone who doesn’t care about getting monetized
No but in all seriousness this is a really helpful video. As a trans woman this video isn’t 1:1 for what my sexual experiences are like, but it’s definitely still helpful. I struggle with sex because of dysphoria and because a lot of people who I pursue romantically are interested in having sex with someone with a vagina, but I like, don’t have one.
If you don’t mind me asking, what’s your sexuality? I love learning about a wide range of experiences, but definitely don’t answer that question if you aren’t comfortable. :)
@@esanalgona1160 I usually self identify as bisexual, but I guess that isn’t entirely accurate. I usually struggle to be sexually attracted to non-binary people, because I want to take care of them and help them be cozy, but sexually I like partners that can overpower me and take control. But there are a few non-binary people I’m attracted to.
Though if your question was just whether I was interested in men at all, I am! I can say with a great degree of confidence that I’m attracted to men and women.
I only hesitate to say bisexual because I am attracted to some people that would make pansexual a more accurate label, but like I said, those people are typically exceptions, and I find binary gender more sexually attractive.
@@JyujinPlus how interesting, I am a cisgirl and bi as well!! Twins lmaoo 😏. That’s so cool tho that u know who you are attracted to or at least an idea. Anywho, I do have a question for you, and I really hope it’s not offensive, if it is you don’t have to answer. I just want to know if you feel if it is transphobic to not be attracted to trans people, bc of the mismatching of genitalia. I think you answered this in your OG comment, but I just wanted to outright ask. Again I’m so sorry if this is crossing the line, I just want to know your opinion as a trans woman based on your perception of sexuality and experiences.😄
@@esanalgona1160 I personally don’t think it’s transphobic to not be attracted to trans people, mostly because it’s really hard to control what you are attracted to. Even as someone who is attracted to trans people, I kind of approach sex differently with vaginas in mind than I do penises, so expecting one and finding the other would throw off the stuff I get excited about.
I definitely think it sucks when people aren’t attracted to trans people, it’s a bummer. But I wouldn’t say it’s transphobic. It’s not too different from a cis woman being straight: it’s a bummer that they aren’t interested but it’s not something they chose.
Soo... I guess I'm late to this vid and all, but I have to ask, is it pan to like trans people? Cause I thought I'm bi, but then imagined a cute girl AND the boy parts and... it's kinda hot, so- idk am I bi, or pan now-?
Just asking :'>
I always felt so out of touch with the part of me that likes women because no one answered those questions for me before… this was really helpful!
this was actually so helpful. ALSO, scissoring is one form of tribbing so for folks interested look up tribbing. not in public tho.
*Please Keara make another video of this content, I know there are many questions, a longer and explanatory video would be excellent too* 🥺
This was the best video I’ve seen so far. It didn’t feel embarrassing listening about it and the music made it way better.
as a queer teen these are so helpfull and a good way to answer my questions!! thank u for doing these for us keara💓
the scissoring thing was actually super helpful bc ive heard sm different things about it and u cleared alot of it up so thank u
Why did this appear on my for you feed two years later 😭😭 (this was actually very helpful ty)
the one dislike is from a super straight cis white rich man
edit: ugh, there's more of 'em
Nope, cis white men are the number one consume of lesbian porn so why would they dislike a woman talking about sex with women?
@@JungleEddie they’re most likely talking about the homophobic ones
yes because this needs to be discussed. not me watching this as a straight person
but I love how you don't make it a taboo
U r straight woman lol
@@santoshjain2311 and?
@@meanmuggin0384 u r lesbian me too
@@santoshjain2311 i'm not :/
@@santoshjain2311 hey, maybe _don’t_ tell someone what their own sexuality is? they’re the only person who can know for sure.
« I don’t care I’m just happy to be there » is one of my new favorite quotes
Me, ace and demi, who'll be using this info for my stories: nice *sips tea*
I am so happy this was recommended! They don’t give much info at school and since I’m ✨maturing✨ I am a little more curious about this so thank you so much :)
8:34 “or people with vaginas” made me so happy as a transman
I’m straight but the advice on dealing with low self-confidence helped to reassure me. Thank you for doing this!
Great job! For all the baby gays you really make a difference.
this is literally the most entertaining 'how to' video ive ever watched i my life
This talk is interesting and helpful as a young single lesbian. Also now I'm in love with her
Me: *In a relationship with a guy that I'm happy with, gets a notif of Keara and is like ima watch it*
the algorithm brought me here and I’m so grateful!! Great video, thanks for the advice!
The teacher we always wanted but never had
As a 16 year old, I literally get no education on this. Thanks for being there
samee esp as a queer teen this is so informative
I have adhd and almost never get through a whole video unless I search it or it’s really short, so the fact that I stumbled across this and watched the whole thing is impressive. Maybe it’s the raging homosexual in me wanting to know, maybe it’s your personality but I stayed till the replay button came up
Dear RUclips algorithm,
do your thing and recommend this to more people
THANK YOU FOR TALKING AB THIS WITH NO AWKWARDNESS WTF!! THIS FELT SO NORMAL AS IT SHOULD BE!!!!!
You did a great job -- relaxed, mature but fun discussion. One thing I think ithink we overlook is that our brain is our primary sexual organ-- so, your suggestion to relax and enjoy and not worry is pivotal , for any sexual experience. If your head isn’t into it, your body won’t be.
I truly appreciate how spontaneously you talked about this "delicate" topic, thanks for this video, it was really useful♡