Gin & Juice Podcast | Melissa is Having an Existential Crisis
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I really do pray that Melissa finds a way to practice showing herself more compassion and grace. I wish she understood the impact she has on so many of OUR lives and I see her be so critical of something that I feel like God sent her to speak to me.
Agreed!
So well said! I completely agree ❤❤.
Righttt!!! Halfway through I was like men the two sisters I never knew I needed in my life😍😍
The way Mel stopped Liss from talking in that accent about the voicemail 🤣🤣🤣💀💀💀💀💀
It was so cute though 😂
So quickkkkk. Aht aht.
My daughter does that to me. She says “it ain’t right mom”😂
The way Mel and Josh supported Melissa was amazing..I can't wait to see her as a guest on podcasts like Lewis Howes and Jay Shetty.
Its always a pleasure hearing Josh speak, he is very wise for his age. He should do more podcast with either you guys or even the others on the team other than being behind the camera speaking and we not really seeing him. Great podcast as always thanks again Josh for being all in on this podcast.
finally they gave Josh mic 😭, we wanna be able to hear him if yall gonna talk to him lol
Melissa was speaking my whole life!!! I feel like I JUST got to the realization that your purpose in life doesn’t have to be something that’s monetized. I feel like our society programs us to feel like everything we do should be attached to a check and it doesn’t. It’s also comforting to know that this is a relatable convo across ages
People pleasing is the killer of all joy. Choose yourself.
So is comparison.
This is SUCH a good episode!! Fellow Church Girl here. And while I appreciate that growing up that way has protected me from so many things, I HAVE TO unlearn so many things. Healing and understanding is definitely needed.
Josh on the podcast every now again adds another layer. I love when he adds to the conversation. It’s poetic.
No y'all didn't have group therapy on Gin and Juice! Ha, I love it!
We need a JOSH Podcast 💜 Great Episode everyone!!!!
Yes!
No
No, i love josh but he pauses every 3 words. It kills me
What I like about this podcast is that it is two Black women. While I don’t think it’s prudent to have full fledged conversations with Josh off the mic (because it sounds awful when you’re just listening, not watching) I do not need him to join this podcast.
@@jendee5566 fair, that’s why he should get his own 😊
I resonate with Melissa. As someone who excelled in school my whole life and is currently finishing up medical school, I do like the structure that traditional jobs bring. It’s clear and predictable, which can make one feel safe or as though he or she is doing the “right thing” by following the rules. Entrepreneurship isn’t for everyone, and that’s OKAY. I personally would have anxiety by the lack of structure or ambiguous direction. I don’t mind doing something on the SIDE, but making it my source/everyday wouldn’t work for me. People give those of us who prefer translational jobs so much hate, but the entrepreneurship lifestyle isn’t for everyone. 🤷🏿♀️
Not sure if I’m off here but around the topic of success/fulfillment/pursuing goals, does the world of social media complicate these questions? It almost seems these days that the view of success is now being measured by followers or having a mass appeal. Why does every talent or pursuit have to involve being a public face to some degree? So for example, let’s say you like to teach about relationships. Would it not be enough to get a license as a marriage/family therapist and open your own practice for example? You could still make a decent living while doing what you love. I think Melissa hit the nail on the head when she said it is in fact about defining success. Because if your success has a threshold of being a millionaire, then that does complicate things because it is really hard to make that kind of $, especially if you’re not Ok with a slow build.
This episode was PERFECTION!!!
The HEALING and COMFORT that it brought so many of us in the Live Chat was PRICELESS!
"The Big Leap" 📖 - HERE I COME (back cuz I never finished you the first time)!!!
“The bar that I set for myself always seems that much further.” Joshy spoke a word. I am learning to have more compassion for myself.
Melissa... as a person who never comments I feel like it must be said that you are amazing and your voice should be heard! While the get ready with me's are cute... you appear to thrive when you are using your voice. Perhaps your RUclips channel could be content podcasts and show... At the begining you could do a quick "get ready with me for the podcast" type of thing. I know you were tired of The Love Hour, but maybe do it in seasons, that way you have a minute to regroup and come back to it, you also don't have to do it with Kevin if he doesnt have the time, you can do it with guests, friends, family, etc.... idk I have a lot of thoughts but these are just a few. Good luck to you both!
I felt like Melissa was speaking to me in this episode. Always wanting that gold star and seal of approval smh I would've never thought we could relate in that way. I appreciate her vulnerability and transparency. Keep doing the work Melissa you will get there!
Joy, purpose, Gods alignment, and being fulfilled is what I’m seeking constantly!
Yes. Something definitely shifts in you when you turn 40. I will be 42 soon and I feel so unsettled, as if I’m supposed to me doing more, I definitely get it. But Melissa you are such a blessing and have blessed many by just being you. I had on my “Main character energy” hoodie the other day, and someone ask me what it meant, after explaining it, they were like “I receive that”. So you are blessing many!
Just wanted to jump in during this FANTASTIC convo, um, did y’all plan this black and white moment?! Becaaaaaause it’s GIVING, you hear me?! 😂🎉 I didn’t watch the Patreon version yet, so I don’t know if y’all mentioned it there. Buuuut, all of this!!! ✨🎊🤗
@mrskevonstage you are me and I am you! The good girl, semi-perfectionism, working on getting ugly, the longing for God to speak audibly, the desire to make an impact…ALL OF IT RESONATES! Thanks for sharing. Let your good sis come and be a part of the group therapy session next time! 🙋🏾♀️
What I am learning at 53 is that we have learned for so long to think of things in life as either/ or, when really it should be and/and both. I agree with Mel, we are all multifaceted. There are parts of all of us that can reach different parts of others. No all of us can counsel everybody on everything, but here is something specific all of us can reach in another person. It is not so black and white, there is a lot of gray. I am learning in the gray, is where the joy and peace is. Just my two cents. 💜
Melissa you joke sometimes about going back to a regular 9-5 and I want you to know THATS OK TO DO.
And related to that, I truly believe more people should leave influencing/social media and go back to “normal jobs”and more specifically public service jobs. I work in an emergency management agency in the largest section of the largest office in that agency. We are responsible for helping people recover after disasters. The people in my office are so passionate about the mission and feel so fulfilled by the impactful work that we do. And there are all kinds of positions - teaching/training, writing, graphic design, photography, personnel management, policy, media management, etc etc.
Just something to think about. Public service jobs are what keeps society running. Helping people/society/humanity is the ultimate fulfillment …and we need people to do this work!
Choosing yourself is a life upgrade. It allows you to operate in a flow and give (time and resources) without resentment building up.
I definitely felt Josh about not going to family stuff and doing my own thing. As i became an adult i felt like it was time to enjoy my life and not feel guilty to enjoy family. It was actually refreshing and i loved it
Same! I've found that it makes me feel better to not dedicate every holiday to family. I can create my own habits/traditions and that doesn't mean I love them any less. I now spend every other holiday w/ family and sometimes I spend the time before and after the holiday w/ them.
This has been one of the greatest podcasts I’ve listened to all week. When I tell you this resonated with me TO THE 🧬 DNA!!!! Your brain really makes you feel like you and only you experience or feel certain emotions but in all actuality we all have the same thoughts.
I really needed this conversation. Sometimes we go through life thinking we're alone and our thoughts aren't normal. I've been struggling with finding my purpose in a world that seems to have it all together. It's a silent struggle and I found so much comfort in this episode. We all out here trying to figure it out!
It's the Black and white Fits for Me!!!💜💜💃🏾💃🏾 Hey Gin and Juice, trunk poppin Queens ❣️👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Mel's breakdown of Liss's need for perfection, which is NOT a thing we as humans can attain, because ONLY Jesus is perfect, was FIRE!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🔥
Loved this episode. For the ones who didn’t care for hearing Josh talk, I think many don’t realize they he was trying to be careful in his words because he didn’t want people to come at him for his views, but from what I can see, still didn’t matter. His point of views were valid and made the conversation flow well. It is still a Gin and Juice podcast, but having his point of view, especially a hound male point of view was refreshing. It just seems that Josh has observed so many people coming after his friends, he chooses to be careful with his words. Keep doing you Josh! Loved your point of views in this episode.
Ooof, yes! Me watching this now, has to be divine timing. Liss felt so affirming when talking ab allowing yourself to get ugly and just the "want" is enough of a reason! Whew, amazing episode! Thank you!
Yes!!!!! 2020 was life changing for me because it showed me to step into my own and do what pleases me, not others!!! Unbothered by the opinions of others!!
I agree with y’all that the way we are taught some things in church growing up was traumatic!! That’s why it’s important to develop a relationship with God for yourself
Books Ive read to support Purpose: --
+The Bible
+The Dream Giver
+The Go-Giver+Kingdom Man (for men)
+The Accountability circle or Making Accountable Decisions
+Start with Why
I'll be 30 in 3 months, and I'm feeling all these feelings ya'll...thank you for that group therapy session lol
Melissa, just say 2 good Cuss words and you will be free. Lol.
This is what I be telling myself sometimes. 🥴🤦🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤔😂
Melanie & Josh are my fellow Geminis...YAY!!! I turn 40 with Melissa and Kev this year & I'm claiming this year as my "Year of Abundance" in ALL things! All positive abundance such as safety, good health, romance with hubby, financial success, AND ALL WONDERFUL ENJOYMENT to include travel this year!!! I'm determined to make this year of 40 a great year! 2022 was a rough year so I NEED 2023 to continue being good to me. I'm determined to make 2023 AMAZING! Melissa it's ok to make mistakes and we will all fall however we are our worst critics! Perfection is what you say it is, no one else! Give yourself that grace you offer to others!
I never ring my grocery. I tell them, I'm not paying and working.
I am listening to this episode for a second time as I am writing in my journal and talking to God because there is verbiage that was spoken that hit the nail on the head for me. Every time I am close to turning the next decade (@2-3 prior), I experience this. This started about 27-28, and now I am approaching 50... these feelings are more intense than ever before, I literally only want to walk in what God created me to do and be fulfilled. Speak Lord
Very good episode. Mel did an excellent job pointing out how the church has affected how we strive for perfection in our lives and how it can be unhealthy. We put serious demands on ourselves and sometimes we just need to give ourselves a break. It was a real eye opener for me and something I never really put together until now.
That is why reading the Bible for yourself is so important!!!!!!
I really needed this today! I feel each person so strongly but honestly what i get from this is to recognize when life changing seasons. And with each season change find what works for u in that season. Since all things work together for the good, I believe that in our walk with God all the things are good and all the gifts hes given us can be used. This is a great self examining episode. Really makes u want to dig deeper into self... Thank yall for this vulnerability!
It’s the fact that Melissa lied about not telling anyone about Isaiah’s gf, meanwhile she’s told the whole world 😂😂😂
As someone who worked retail I lve been saying this! I do not want to bag my own groceries unless you pay. Now we have to more for food and I have to bag my own groceries!?! Unacceptable!!!
I’m so in my me season and I will do anything that doesn’t serve me! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 I can not show up for anyone this season and I’m being vocal about it!
Mel had a "The Menu" experience lol
I have been saying since The Love Hour Melissa should partner with a school and become a licensed Marriage & Family therapist.
The words I didn’t know I needed! Getting my toy in 2023! Thank you ladies!!
As I sip from my "Some Grace" mug, I can't stand the fact that this is me, I am in this moment, I am so confused about where I should land, or even where I should fly/hover over.
This episode really resonated with me. I also suffer from 'Good Girl Syndrome' and I've been wrestling with the concept of coming into my own purpose lately. When Melissa talked about perfectionism, I knew this episode was for me. Ladies your podcast looks like a blast. Thank you so much for sharing your lives with us!♥
I love the growth of this podcast! It’s always been fun, but I love the versatility of the topics and vibe. Keep it up ladies. ❤️
I so feel Melissa and Josh!! Try being 50 and going through this. I have so many gifts and talents….I’m so confused and desperately need God to show me the way He wants me to go and do it all His way to be successful.
This episode was so good! I mean, they all be good but this was that conversation I needed. I love that y’all are amazing but are also real people going through real life things. I love that Mel said Eff that, go and get your toy! It’s only so many times I can turn the other cheek, is all I’m saying. God didn’t make me a doormat. I can be sweet and kind and still have boundaries! It was also good to hear Josh’s perspectives on the topics!
That's my issue with a lot of places on social media. Owners but more time into building the aesthetic and vibe, but forget about the quality of the food
I avoid self check out like the plague and I refuse to do air bnb ever again. Hotel me please.
Also, I struggle with this in nursing. Am I in my purpose? What makes me feel fulfilled? I have a great job but I’m only in this role because my kids are young. What I think I want to do also comes with a lot of liability that I’m not sure I want to take on. It is nice to know it’s not just me that feels stuck at times.
When Mel said, “the church”… instant tears. Cuz yep.
This felt like the therapy session i needed.. Thank you guys for your amazing content... May God bless you all...
This episode is probably one of my favorite ones so far. It was great hearing Josh’s perspective on things!
Very inspirational talk. Do you first, contemplating your God given gifts, then consider others 👏🏽🙏🏽
I get what Liss is saying, finding something she can do where she feels useful & helpful to others
That was a great conversation 👏🏾 Melissa, you were operating in your purpose of being transparent.
I grew up in a similar church, def struggle with anxiety, good girl syndrome and perfectionism. It’s low key traumatizing to be exposed to that level of black/white thinking at a young age. Hard to shake that core belief
Come thru, Black and white!!!
Listening to joshy I heard “the perception of perfection” I’m not sure what or why I got that but I def wrote it down because I know it’s gonna make sense at some point. This whole episode was so therapeutic thank you 😊
Lord this blessed me so much. I absolutely learned in the church to be of service to everyone but Miata! Yeah, babe, not this year.
Y’all all color coordinated ❤❤ loving it.
This conversation is a part of your purpose
I love this discussion! I think it’s important to note that it’s OK to call someone out. That doesn’t mean you’re bad, mean, or effing it up. And when we talk about being meek, that doesn’t mean that you’re a pushover. Right is still right, and sometimes you have to call a spade a spade, and that’s OK. I think as church girls, that’s hard for us to do.
I just landed on this one today and the fulfillment conversation resonates with me. I too need God to talk to me audibly… joy vs making money…. I’m overwhelmed and in the bed today
The last 30 minutes was a whole message for me. Very similar to Melissa I have to be the “good girl” and seek validation in that. Additionally, I make my self small and sacrifice my wants often
But also sidenote. I am a firm believer in the quote my friend told me. "The thing im passionate in or purpose driven in doesn't have to be the thing I make money with."
As Mark Cuban says if you find a way to get the money out of the way and buy your time back you then can pursue anything you want without any friction.
So please diversify.
Books on finance to start out with:
Rich Dad Poor Dad
The Magic of Thinking Big
Entrepreneur Roller Coaster
Mel and Liss switching seats confused me for a sec lol
Yess, Mel. Thank you! I enjoyed your perspective.
THIS RIGHT HERE 🙌🏾 this was a word on today! I've really grown the love Melissa as she's fumbling thru to find her path in life because my struggles and logic so closely mirrors hers! Melissa makes me feel seen and understood and that I'm not alone. Great episode and dialogue ladies (and Josh lol) ❤️❤️❤️
This was such a great episode! I love how passionate Melissa is about everything 😊
Mel looks like Tia & Tamera’s long lost sister
Y'all both look so cute in your black and white outfits!
To your point Mel, if we preach the Holy Spirit, we live in freedom with personal inner restricts. Live with the Holy Spirit and you will not have to be the one watching yourself but God. I am learning this too. Our sanctification is not our work but God’s. This gives you freedom
Love the conversation.
This episode has blessed my soul. Melanie braking it down resonated heavy & also God is the ultimate algorithm!
Such a great episode!!! 👌👌
This episode is spot on!! I’ve been feeling this way for some time and it sucks. I know a couple of personal things that I want but it hasn’t come and career after being laid off in lost because God position me in a place and now it’s gone so I’m like now what 🤷🏾♀️
I resonate so much with the purpose/calling/am i doing what I’m supposed to be doing questions. I thought I was crazy
Mel hit the nail on the head as far as when you learn what you are supposed to do and not do in church as a young person, it kind of becomes generalized for you in all the things as you grow into adulthood. And it may be a lot bigger for some than others as Mel stated in comparison for her to Melissa.
And Melissa, you are asking yourself all of the right questions. I think that it is good that you care about what you want to do and how you want to impact the world around you. And for sure give yourself more grace because what may make you feel fulfilled and bless others around you at the same time may more so become more and more clear to you as you continue to walk this life out and try and maybe not succeed at certain things. I think it is good that you are making room for the thought that what may be meaningful to you and the paycheck may not align. Ideally that would be the goal or the outcome, but it may not be the reality.
Melissa your awesome. You may not need to be affirmed in that, but you really are. Your vulnerability in which you share every day/week is so impactful and it gives voice to so many of us out here. I pray you find a way to experience and express what truly makes you fulfilled and helps others around you because it seems like helping others around you is a passion of yours too.
Thank you Mel and Melissa for another great episode!
Yes, Melissa is so educational
33:00- This is such a good conversation. I can definitely relate.
I thoroughly enjoyed this episode. I can relate in so many ways.
I just love to hear you all talk. I feel you all on giving ourselves permission to put ourselves first. See you all next week.
Such a rich powerful and interesting conversation!
Go girls (and josh today)
Loved this episode. Your feelings are valid. We have to listen to our bodies. Pray for guidance down the right paths toward fulfilment and peace of mind. Listen for the answers. Then give ourselves Grace.
Lord God above!!!!!!!😭😭😭😭😭This one hit DIFFERENT today y'all!!!! Why am I on the 9-5 job ready to collapse in a fit of tears?!?!?!?! I want to hear the Lord audibly too Liss! I've always been fascinated (and a lotta bit jealous 😝) of folks that have a clear & obvious talent or calling. When you at least KNOW what you're excellent at, you're already sooooo far ahead of the game. Now it's just a matter of figuring out how to monetize it. I and also me, am STILL trying to figure that out at this big grown age.🤦🏾♀️
Omg!!! Loved this episode. It really was questions I've thought about and struggled too with figuring out my purpose and if going after it will benefit. Thanks for this 👏🏾👏🏾
Melissa need a talk show. They are a variety of things in one. Relationships, fashion, education, social issues, and hot topics. Interview people she's interested in. Ion know chile
WOW, this was a great episode I understand what everyone was saying. but turning 40 I did a deep dive of reflection and everything became so clear I had went from working in corporate IT to working county IT still in my lane but feeling unsatisfied and stuck. Prayed told GOD was turning over to HIM I work for HIM. I wanted to be used, use me where I was if that was where I was meant to be. HE did and blessed me tremendously in the process. I didn't know but there was someone who was going to come along that was going to need me and I would help them change their life in a profound and needed way. Stay encouraged Melissa ☺️ even in this midst there is a ram in the bush 😉
Omg I just looked at their menu. YAMs is not meant to be burnt
Read the title and said, “Me too Melissa, me too.” Last week I had a panic attack for two days. I kept crying literally out of no where, all while still going to work. It was tough and I still don’t have any answers but I feel a lot better. For now anyway 😃😂 And I’ll take the good feeling for as long as the good feeling lasts 🥰 Also, I’m going to get my toy damn it!
It is a very individual experience. Just like our DNA's are different "fulfillment" and "purpose" is unique to us all. For me now in my early 60's I am experiencing a new set of feelings. i.e. age discrimination in the workplace etc. to name a few....... I also believe that Social Medial is a "false" since of reality.
Thanks ladies and Josh. This was what I didn't need but everything that I didn't know I needed to hear. I will keep coming back. Long story long is what I needed. Conformation yall didn't know you were giving me.
Foe Melissa: Think of it as, in so many ways you can teach others! The way you put fits together, or the way you do your make up and also the way you articulate your points can all be so impactful to so many people in so many different ways all at the same time! Let me tell you, when God blesses you He does it in a way that in our narrow view of the world and the things around us and literally our life, that we can only see a glimps of the blessings. You almost have to hover above and view all the things in motion to be able to see how impactful you are! You are TEACHING so many women, young and and seasoned, to be confident and bold and so many other things that you exude in the social media realm alone. Fly above your life, hone in on your eagle eye and see the impact!
that Josh and M&M conversation..🔥ya'll need an advice section ...i loved the outfit coordination
I just wanna hear Gin and Juice.😊
Fantastic episode & I don’t feel so alone in my feelings anymore. Josh, hitting 30 does lite a little fire under your butt. You got this! & Lis, you are “the brand” so create the content that feels good to you that day. We’re all supposed to be working to please Him & then reap the rewards as we go along. Having the patience is what always trips us up. I think you’re all doing a wonderful job & it’s an honor to watch everyone’s growth! 💜 Blessings 😊