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If he cheats while he a bf he gone cheat in marriage. The habits don't disappear just cause there a ring now
just a dog, not cheating
when did she say to marry him after he cheats? she's saying there's no legitimacy to any romantic situation that lacks commitment.
@@freppy06 she is making the argument that it's not that big a deal if they aren't married
@@HighlyProductive_ exactly.
@@HighlyProductive_ well its not as big a deal as being married
This is distasteful. If someone is officially with you they are saying they are committed to you and if they are not then you should question their values. Married men cheat the most 😅
Not a very conservative thought 🤔
Nah, gotta push back on this one. Cheating by definition is breaking the rules. It is inherent that some type of boundary was crossed. Traditional dating is simply vetting for a long term relationship and marriage. Period.
Yup if he cheats during the dating period he’s not worth a lick.
@@theimprovedmama3288 I don't know about that one. Yes cheating is wrong for both parties. But leaving a good guy because he cheated once is a stupid thing to do. If he chronically cheats and doesn't care, than that's different. It's too hard to replace a good guy.
@@BRlGADE_KINGPIN If he’s a good guy he won’t cheat. Not even once. Everyone has control over themselves and what they do, serial cheating is a sign of lack of self control. Lack of impulse control. Which is not a good quality in a partner, even if they are a good person it shows a lack of maturity which is not something you want in a long term relationship. If he doesn’t normally cheat it shows he does have self control. If a man possess any amount of self control he will think before he acts, if his reasoning has concluded that his actions will hurt someone he supposedly loves, has done everything for him, he knows he risks loosing her, it means he doesn’t care. If he doesn’t care to intentionally hurt someone then he’s not a good person. 🤷🏻♀️
You mean fornication?
@@BRlGADE_KINGPIN It's really not hard at all. There are plenty of people out there.
This is stupid. What happens first before someone becomes your husband? He’s your boyfriend first. You have to start somewhere and build trust and love to the marriage stage, right? If exclusivity is agreed on or implied by both people it’s cheating.
This ain't it. If he cheats as a boyfriend, he'll cheat as a husband. And the act is the same. If you specified exclusivity at the beginning of a relationship, cheating is cheating.
@@RealFemSapien I completely agree with that. I just think the "who cares" sentiment is a bit much. Cheating hurts no matter when it happens.
If he's single, you're single. Its not your fault he's not husband material hun ☺️
@g.allen08 you're just being a hater and not being realistic. FACT is that most people aren't dating people they want to marry. They are just hooking up. Why was that so hard for you to process is the real issue.
@@TheFeminineLinguist most women aren't out here picking men they want long term so what are you talking about. You think the marriage rates are this low by accident lol? Fact is if people were out here honestly looking for husband's and wife's there would be way less cheating and much more families.
@@g.allen0888 of course. You didn't take the time to even try to understand where she's coming from before you jumped on and made a negative comment. You really couldn't process what she meant?
So what are you saying? Non married couples shouldn’t get emotional when they’re cheated on? lol
I think you're overlooking integrity. If both parties give their word that they'll be exclusive, then let that bind you.
It’s okay her entire logic is based off of skewed statistics and a very narrow perspective. We don’t really have to worry about what comes out of this one’s mouth , just let her talk and think she’s moving mountains.
You can look at the marriage rates, birth rates and think people are out here dating with a purpose? Most people aren't in serious relationships to get married these days, that's fact. So if you're dating someone you don't intend to marry then you are single because you never wanted to be fully committed in the first place.
@@TheChocolateChamp I agree that most people these days aren't dating with purpose. It took me a long time to figure out why I should marry, but eventually I found my own way to it; the reasons I have are religious. Now, I haven't had time to listen to her podcast, so I'm sure there's stuff I'm missing, but from what has been said it seems like she's saying even if you both gave your word to be exclusive, don't be surprised if the guy cheats.
Generally, I stay away from blanket statements when defending my stance on a subject. In this clip, Ally has used a blanket statement. Ally is generally a levelheaded thinker, but I don't think she thought about people who care about integrity. Maybe she is just referring to a certain type of person, but I haven't seen that in this clip.
Personally, I appreciate the logic she used to get to her conclusion; bringing up cohabitation and typically the female in the relationship will initiate the marriage discussion. I also don't think it's a good idea for people to live together before they get married (for good reason). I just don't think her logic is sound because of the whole integrity thing. Who knows? Maybe she'd agree with me on this and amend her statement.
Do you think, in the dating stage with your husband, if you went off to go sleep with another man, he would’ve asked for your hand in marriage? If we can’t commit to each other when we’re not legally bound, how can we expect each other to be committed when we are? Commitment is not, “sign here”, commitment is dedication to one another, through and through, no betrayals. You do not need a signed document, or even a ring, to determine that. I’m genuinely curious what you think and how you came to this conclusion.
My idea exactly! These women are becoming more ridiculous.
Gal im more conservative than you easily but i dont stand by this, i sense sometimes y'all just like to make shocking statements but dont fully think through the statement. Courtship is a legit process and yes just because modern dating is pathetic doesnt mean that a relationship before engagement that is committed towards marriage doesnt mean it was a single person. My husband and i started dating with full intentions towards getting engaged someday but i was 19 and my family especially wasnt up for me to jump into engagement or marriage. But yes we were very committed and my heart would have been totally crushed had he cheated. That would have been a total betrayal absolutely as not everyone can just be engaged immediately nor should people either. This perspective is rushing into engagement like thats the only legitimate form of a relationship. Thats wrong and very foolish and lacking in Godly wisdom. If you date around yes ill group you separately and probably not feel badly but a couple dating in a fully committed relationship gearing towards engagement at the appropriate time is respectable and id feel badly for either person. You're grouping idiots who date around with respectful courtships and that's not right
Great perspective🎉
It’s the first stage to securing marriage. You kind of want to know that your partner isn’t abusive and a good fit before diving into marriage, while still committing to exclusivity. If you cheat while in that exclusivity, of course it’s not as severe as marriage, but it still leaves the other partner hurt and that IS cheating
It’s like saying if you’re counting cards while gambling outside of a casino, it’s not cheating
Oh, God. How is counting cards cheating? I count cards all the time and it infuriates me when people view it as cheating. All it is is memorising cards that are out. Why should I be punished for having great memory and using it to my advantage? Perhaps, having a high IQ should be considered cheating as well?
WELL SAID!
she didn't say it isn't cheating. she said it's not the end of the world.
boyfriend/girlfriend is a modern day concept. after a while it's not courting, it's a relationship limbo. courting is supposed to last for months not years.
people will assimilate their whole lives with someone who's made no legitimate commitment to them, so when something goes wrong it feels as heartbreaking as a divorce. but without commitment you're just playing out a domestic fantasy. women need to stop doing that to themselves.
@@freppy06 you make a fair point
@@Cute__Noob thank you.😊
Her boyfriend must have cheated on her before she was married, and now she's trying to justify it.
Been with my partner 10 years you've been married twice you failed the 1st one don't throw stones at glass houses
Completely wrong. You don't need a signed piece of paper to make a commitment. You make your husband sign and notarize a letter saying he will get milk on the way home from work?
I’m disappointed in the direction you’re taking. It’s definitely not helpful to spout opinions like this. Would you say this to your daughter?
Aly, I love a lot of your content, but do not tell women this advice saying they are single if not married. Women who often say that they are single until they are married, I tell them to get a dog. If you aren't going to behave like you are committed until you are married, then I'll never marry you. You need to show me WHY I should even bother marrying you, and if you are displaying traits to mimic being single, then I'll dump her so she can complete the look. That not married=single mindset to pass to women is dangerous.
I see your point, 🤔... I think what Aly is referring to more is the way that some men, not all, but some men already have that mindset (not married = single). So it's almost like she is simply warning women that they shouldn't complain about being cheated on if HE the guy hasn't decided to commit to her yet.
I also understand your point because it does sounds like she's drawing a bold line in the sand, but I think she's trying to get woman to understand the importance of commitment even in the initial stages of dating and understand that if a guy cheats he could use "not being married" as an excuse to cheat, so they should be careful, be women do want security and commitment.
I totally doubt Aly was encouraging women to act single even while dating.😅 That behavior from a woman would disgust me too!😅
@@tulsibloom That makes sense as well. I'm just wary of the wording. If you are just dating and not courting with intention, then really you're just sleeping around.
I see your point though. I've never dated casually or without intent, and therefore that statement has never made sense to say. I've only heard women say that line to justify behaving like a ho while in a relationship, so I've always hated the line. It's as if it's okay to cheat because a man hasn't proposed. A man would never propose if that's the way she behaves. Hey, I cheated on you because we've been dating for 2 weeks and there's no ring on my finger. No intelligent man is going to marry a woman that fast, when women break the contracts the majority of the time and are the sole beneficiaries when it goes wrong.
I've always only dated exclusive, with intent of marriage as the goal if we can touch and agree on enough of the core values. If I couldn't see myself marrying a woman, I wouldn't sleep with her. Shouldn't have slept with anyone UNTIL marriage though. Fast forward to today, my wife is only the second woman I've slept with, and I've been married for over 7 years, married with 3 kids from that marriage and they are all DNA confirmed. I set that standard that all kids will be tested before birth certificate will be signed. I caved on my first born because he was spitting image of my baby pictures, but the rest were tested. If she didn't agree to that, then don't say, "I do," at the altar later. Dump me.
Come on man stop being emotional and listen to what she's saying. Bf/gf is new age bs made up for people who don't want to commit. That's why you can date multiple people at one time because you don't have to be exclusive. It's only real when you make legit promises and put skin in the game.
No! Do Not cohabitate! Ever. It is the worst thing anyone can do wanting a relationship.
If your cheating regardless, it’s wrong. How do you become husband and wife…you have to date first.
yes, date. not spend years in some marriage substitute with no real commitment.
boyfriend/girlfriend is social construct of playing house. it's not a legitimate relationship that can be legally recorded. you're either single or married.
You'd get it if you stopped to actually think about it. Majority of people aren't out here looking for husband's and wife's. They are just hooking up and want nothing more.
@@TheChocolateChamp i understand what you are saying 100% . I still think if you are in a committed relationship, cheating should not be an excuse just because you aren’t married. That’s all I am saying.
Yes, there are MANY women out here not looking for husbands. However the ones that are, aren’t going to accept cheating while dating.
But you’re right. I’m married and had the expectations that cheating is not acceptable as we are both working towards marriage.
Married a dude double her age
I wonder how she'll feel in 20 years when he's an elderly man and she's in her prime. Or 30 yrs and she has to change his depends.
Her advice is horrible and negative
Eh. This is a miss for me. It’s still a betrayal… let people have feelings.
You can tell Aly started going to church in her late 20’s because nobody raised Catholic thinks like this.
what do you mean? how can you tell?
@Tank Girl source?
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@@tanyarawat9700 That is well known.
nah i think people should secure that commitmeant when they first start dating
Well said and no body should be cheating for any reason relationship or marriage.
@@nolanbaptiste358 yeah, i mean how do you even get married to a person if you’re not both loyal from the beginning of a romantic relationship as a boyfriend/girlfriend is. LOL
@@Godspeace4u
Well said and I support the host of this video because she comes from a Conservative lifestyle but what she is saying is very careless and relationships is what makes marriages happen and people always forget that.
Boyfriend isn't even in the Bible. What you are talking about is fornication. If someone is wanting commitment on that level, man up and propose in marriage. No need to leave a wreckage of a woman behind because a fake marriage called boyfriend girlfriend didn't work out (what a surprise 🙄)
@Tank Girl
No she is still married to her husband and relationships turn into marriages don't forget that.
Weird ass take honestly
If you were in love with your non-committed boyfriend would you have cared he if cheated on you?
You can say this but if cheating is to be expected whilst unmarried you can expect most men to stay single, because women don't want that.
Commitment is commitment. If you need the government to tell you if you're committed or not, I don't know what to tell you.
So true, like saying i need the gov to let me know i can drive lol
Exactly.
@@RealFemSapien It can, but that's the thing. People can make it what they want. People choose to commit in relationships and cheat in marriages all the time.
@@RealFemSapien 5 days or 5 minutes, once the title is accepted, it is a commitment to trying out the monogamous romantic relationship. If he can't be monogamous then, why would you believe he would be faithful later, after the trials every relationship endures? He who can't be trusted with little can't be trusted with much.
I am genuinely concerned how then you would view a girlfriend who does the same. Isn't she the kind of woman you say shouldn't expect to land a "high-value man"?
@@RealFemSapien like marriage too 👍🏾
What if I said... even if you're married you're single... It explains relationship dynamics perfectly imo.
"Oh if they cheated on you who cares if you're not married you're single" what a horrible message to tell someone its basically normalizing someone betraying your trust and telling them you shouldn't care cus you're not married to them Huh??? Smh
This the first thing I’ve heard from her that k have to disagree with. Commitment is still a commitment and should be taken seriously
It’s not a commitment if you’re not married.
@@The_Scouts_Code that’s your opinion
@@SemiEverything the correct one
@@The_Scouts_Code you really should look up the definition of opinion…
@@SemiEverything that’s just your opinion of what i should do
Then why people even date ? You first date so you can see if that person is worth too keep your entire life,is step by step : you guys are friends , then bf or gf and then get married . Lady bc of this type of comments people dont want to date bc they see they dont value that and they go for just hook ups .
Maybe she thinks you should meet someone and marry them right away so they don't cheat? 😂
@@TwinLakesRealEstate but don’t u think a person should know who they would married, and by knowing I mean on every way before giving them that type of treatment, specially if u are girl.
To most people, the bf/gf title entails a commitment to exclusivity. There's a conversation about what that means. Marriage is ultimately for children.
This literally makes no sense.
Trust me, as a conservative woman I made sure my husband was well aware I was single until we got married, but nonetheless cheating was not allowed as the best indicator of the future is the past. So you know if your husband can keep it in his pants if he did before you were married. My husband made sure to buy my engagement ring 3 months after we met, didn’t propose for another 2 months bc it was custom made. But he didn’t want me to be single so he was motivated 😂
She did mention engagement which your story seems to fall under
Sounds like a sucker. If it were me, I’ll probably keep you around for company while still looking for other girls for me to f**k. If you ain’t going to be loyal without the ring, how can you expect me to believe you will with one?
Cheating has nothing to do with whether you’re married or not. Cheating means breaking the trust. Men know what girlfriend means , they know exactly what it means , they’re not in their 90’s. They know girlfriend doesn’t mean a girl “friend”, they know they are supposed to be loyal when they have a girlfriend. Bye.
I love your channel, but, even as a married woman, I disagree. If a couple isn't married, it doesn't mean that they don't love each other or aren't committed to each other.
In fact, I was strictly against getting married until I was 25 and had to do it. My husband and I are from Ukraine and I have a disability. Ukrainian men were only allowed to leave the country if they were married to a disabled woman, so we quickly got married and moved to Canada.
If it wasn't for that, I would never want to get married because I was wealthy. As a wealthy woman, it would be completely unreasonable to get married and risk losing it all.
I love my husband very much and I loved him when he was my boyfriend. I would be devastated if he cheated on me then, just as much as I would be if he cheated on me now.
There is no excuse for cheating and a piece of paper doesn't determine the value of a relationship.
So callous, insensitive, and rude from someone claiming to be a Christian. If you’re dating someone, it’s to see if that person is someone you’d want to marry. If there’s no commitment why would you want to get married? Have you heard of courtship? You’re not “just telling the truth.” You’re uncaring and dismissive.
Nope, if they cheat on their boyfriend they belong to the streets. They don’t want to be cheated on either.
You practice faithfulness in courtship and it is a picture what your marriage will be like in the future. Be glad you found out now.
The devastation comes from living as husband and wife (cohabitating or sleeping together)
Women we would be much happier and less damaged if we didn’t give up the Milk for free
Tell me you are a cheater without saying you are a cheater 😂
But if he doesn't understand the importance of fidelity while still dating, it's a major red flag. Cheating is always morally wrong. Doesn't matter what stage (exclusively dating, engaged, married), doesn't matter who cheats, the man or the woman, it is always wrong to cheat. Dating period is the training period for marriage.
Yeah, usually I agree with what you have to say, but not here
Do not cohabitate. What is this?
I've been with the same man for 21 years. We have a 17 year old together. I have never pressured him about marriage. Why? Tell me.... WHY do people get married? Why did they ask you to marry them? Is it because they wanted you to be faithful or because you already are? Is it because they want to trust you? Or do they already trust you? Love, trust, faithfulness, commitment, etc. None of those START with marriage. You get married BECAUSE you already feel those things.
Why do I NEED to get married? I don't. He doesn't. Period. This chick has OBVIOUSLY never been truly in love.
THANK YOU! My girlfriend refuses to understand this premise- there are two states. Single, or married. Period, there's no real middle ground. Now, out of respect for her, obviously I'm not going to pursue other women. But that is a matter of respect for her, not out of commitment to an arbitrary relationship that we placed ourselves in.
@@nadiaoak5123 You don't know who you're talking to. Shut up. I see things in black and white and am a loyal kind of person in general. That, and I won't take stupid talk off of strangers. I stated my reasons, you claim im a liar. And I won't tolerate being called a liar.
Ah now I see why you get hate.
I feel exactly the same way. If you don't have kids, aren't living together, etc, then you're single
i think she means don't be sad and crying about a boyfriend that did you wrong...just move on. If they ask you to marry them and are engaged then obviously they want commitment
Lol you can tell the iq of the chat and it's not very high. Thank you for giving me a little faith for the human race.
This is ignorant, immature, and shows a lack of empathy.
As someone who is married, it’s not for everyone. That said, people shouldn’t home-wreck relationships regardless of whether those relationships have been validated by a marriage license or not. Some people literally can’t marry (due to disability benefits, or living someplace where they’re not legally allowed to marry their partner). Others don’t want to marry, or are waiting for the right time.
There's also LTR. I'm 59, GF is 57. Been together 2 years. No Marriage, No Religion, No Cheating.
Zero filter about important topics. That's why i watch. Good convo.
I understand this because really it’s a bullet dodged if he cheated and he was just your bf… I get there’s feelings involved but cheating and breaking up costs a whole lot less than cheating and getting a divorce. When my boyfriends cheated, I’m like ok BYE. Wasn’t hard because I left with a sense of integrity and didn’t give myself sexually to them, didn’t move in, all the things I would do with my husband.
Arbitrary state statuses do not defy commitment.
I think a lot of people don’t understand the difference between casual dating and getting to know someone with the intent of marriage. When I was dating my husband, we both stated outright that we were talking to each other and getting to know each other to pursue marriage. If he wasn’t feeling it, I would’ve expected him to be upfront with me, and just end it instead of trying to do some stupid side business. I think if he’s cheating, then I guess be glad you didn’t try to get him to put a ring on it.
@realfemsapien I'm not sure what good relationships your trying to teach other people by saying go ahead and do whatever you want while your dating someone. Why as a man or woman would you want to commit to marriage someone that just in the dating phase could not show the ability to respect your relationship. All of a sudden when your married they're just going to change?
Absolutely not. This has I'll change him/her written all over it which is a toxic mind set.
I love your take most times, but not this one.
The line, if youre not married, youre single.. nope..
That implies that i should be able to sleep with anyone up until i propose.. no..
Girl bye that’s all the energy I’m giving this and be blessed 🤷♀️
Her husband brags to his other retiree friends that she's 27, but then they meet her and see how hard she is and they are disappointed she's not softer.
This is so mean. Why would you want someone to treat and hurt another human being so badly regardless of marriage status.
Bro i just want a women with moral. Thats all but sadly thats hard to find in this day and age
I understand what you mean.
If its not a courtship, your dating.
This aint it.
If you thought you were preparing to make the commitment of marriage while dating, you can still be hurt if you get cheated on lol. The great thing about dating is there’s no reason to cheat, he could just break up with you and start sleeping around if that’s what he wants 🤷🏻♀️
How about the GF getting serious and leading with a prenup that guarantees 50/50 custody, $0 maintenance/alimony, and 100% paternity tests at birth… you gotta do different to get different
For real it's not cheating unless you're married
Huh then just don't be in a relationship. How are you supposed to lead to marriage without a relationship 1st?...
Dating should still be a loyal committed relationship. I've never seen anyone else suggest heartbreak shouldn't exist while dating. If you've been dating someone for 5 years, you're really going to call yourself "single"? Or really any significant amount of time for that matter
You have a ring on your finger or you don’t.
isn't it crazy how people are so upset for what she said...then they add additional comments that she never said...it's like people only hear what they want and then make the rest of it up.
Dating or courtship is trial marriage. If you can’t keep it in your pants while trying to show a good woman that you’re worthy of being a good husband, I’m sorry but you’re just a POS and don’t deserve a wife at all. Be honest and open and say hey I’m not your boyfriend, I don’t plan to be monogamous, and I’m going to sleep around. Because honestly less just shows basic disrespect for your partner and how little you respect their time. Imagine wasting years of your life thinking your dating a guy you think is going to be your husband and he wastes valuable time of your life and youth. Such a bad take here girl.
Boyfriends should be loyal too. Otherwise, they're not really a boyfriend, are they?
Those betrayals hurt, especially if you trust someone with your heart a good bit.
There's no reason to belittle women for expecting someone they have come to adore, to be faithful. If you're not going to be loyal, end the relationship or at the very least, change it's definition.
No marriage. Been there 2x never again.
So you think it’s ok to sleep with other ppl while dating someone? That’s messed up. Wtf is commitment to a relationship if you’re sleeping with other ppl. We’re you ok with your man screaming other women before you married? I highly doubt it.
I usually like things that you talk about, but this doesn’t make sense. When you in a relationship you supposed to be practicing marriage that’s how people get married.
I’ve been saying that my whole adult life. There’s only married, single, widowed, or divorced on government forms. That’s all that matters.
And as.....s too!
It’s her boyfriend, they were in a relationship wtf is this a joke???
sounds like she defending guys, but she's not, she's defending her cheating
I've said that same thing to younger male friends who live with their girlfriends. They would complain that their girlfriends would call and ask their whereabouts. I would tell them that the only woman that can call me and ask me where I am is my wife. We didnt move in with each other until we returned from our honeymoon. We fought over dishes and laundry for a year or so, had three children along the way and are going on 17 years now.
Totally Agree with you
Heres a quick timeline fo you.
I risked it all and im glad I did😅
Initially, year 2017 my boyfriend wasn't ready to commit. I was 21 and he was 28 years old. It wasnt until 5 years later when I said, please lets get married 😅 he was afraid, so was I; Afraid of being hurt. However, we got married last year. Now we need to start building a family....
Do you have, like, really tiny hands?
What a skewed view on commitment.. Marriage & engagement aren't the only relationships worthy of commitment, loyalty, honesty, respect etc.. Just because there is "no ring on the finger" so to speak does not mean the man has a pass to cheat or fool around or the woman has no right to feel betrayed and hurt. Do you even have friends? Or??!?
Yes.
Some people don’t need or want the government involved in their marriage. Tying knots in the woods is preferable. I totally see the sentiment here though.
I have never dated anyone but when I do I intent to date to marry. So if my boyfriend cheated on me I would be pretty upset. Especially since it’s hard to find someone with my views, Christian and conservative. That would definitely hurt. But at the same time I don’t think God would let me date someone who would cheat on me. But this is just a what if sort of scenario.
Im sorry but I dont need the government to give a stamp of approval on my relationship with my partner. The government ruins everything, including relationships.
Lmao 🤣 umm if he’s your boyfriend he committed that status only for you as is significant other. If you want to gaslight yourself because you have zero self esteem or respect, that’s on you. But many of us would not stick around for someone that shows lack of respect and loyalty prior to marriage, that’s a huge red flag and deal breaker.
Nope. Being boyfriend/girlfriend is the first step to getting married, if someone is cheating during that period there is an issue. You don’t become someone’s boyfriend/girlfriend without having expectations of a future.
Wow really ?
I bet there is some excelent head going on at Hilton Island!
I get it but it hurts them alot more being single vs being married here's why being single if you're trying to get married to the right one then it's not easy to come by finding a woman who isn't for the streets which makes it harder to find and maintain. Being married I mean the only thing that really hurting is your wallet even if she cheats the divorce ain't cheap. So in marriage it's either deal with it or cheat back.
I disagree with this I think that if she was on the other foot and her boyfriend cheated on her, she would feel bad about it.
It's not that hard to get people. Most people are out here dating just to pass the time and are not picking partners they intend to marry. So they just waste each other's time. Don't be that person who has a bf/gf for 12 years knowing damn well none of you want to take the next step in the relationship.
The boyfriends/girlfriend thing is for children. It only leads to practice breaking up. A terrible invention of the modern age.
Exactly, who cares boyfriend....NEXT!
But you don’t go straight from being single to being married. There is boyfriend/ girlfriend period or am I not getting something?
Imma show this to my bf as proof that i can act single until im married, because according to this logic, im single.
WTF is this logic lmao
You have a ring on your finger or you dont.
@@vestland3877 or or just hear me out. You act with good intentions if you want to settle down with that person. This is all games.
@@ManKan510 Kevin Samuels would say we dont play these games. You have a ring or you dont.
Never ne a boyfriend or girlfriend. Date. Stop dating them if they are dating multiples.
is this for real? lol how do you reach the engagement stage without dating? men don’t suddenly become faithful because they’re married.
Disagree, there are different levels of relationships. It's not so black and white.
Wonder if she would feel the same if she found out her Man cheated before they were married. She has a rock on her finger and feels superior, at least that is the vibe. I like much of her content but this seems like looking down her nose at others.
BF-GF used to be a commitment till a few yrs ago. What happened ladies⁉️⁉️ Chad and Tyrone too much of a temptation⁉️⁉️😉👉