Great content! I hope your channel grows quickly. I’m a preschool teacher and try to use emotional validation a lot though I have never gotten this particular response. More often I’ll get an emotion/bodily sensation as a reason not to follow a rule (“I’m tired (or sad) [so I’m not cleaning up]. In that situation I’ll validate the emotion but explain that a rule always has to be followed, using myself as the example, that I don’t like to clean up (which is absolutely true) but I still do. I think kids often view armchair psychoanalysis as a power play, and when I was a kid it was probably at least a low key one the way my generation was parented (I’m an early 80s millennial). For example, nobody likes to hear “I think somebody is tired” when you are grouchy/cranky, even if it’s true, because it comes off as condescending. Children need to be respected and communicated with in a way that lets them maintain a reasonable amount of power/autonomy. Great video, I will try this method of framing emotions and see how much traction it gets.
Great content! I hope your channel grows quickly. I’m a preschool teacher and try to use emotional validation a lot though I have never gotten this particular response. More often I’ll get an emotion/bodily sensation as a reason not to follow a rule (“I’m tired (or sad) [so I’m not cleaning up]. In that situation I’ll validate the emotion but explain that a rule always has to be followed, using myself as the example, that I don’t like to clean up (which is absolutely true) but I still do.
I think kids often view armchair psychoanalysis as a power play, and when I was a kid it was probably at least a low key one the way my generation was parented (I’m an early 80s millennial). For example, nobody likes to hear “I think somebody is tired” when you are grouchy/cranky, even if it’s true, because it comes off as condescending. Children need to be respected and communicated with in a way that lets them maintain a reasonable amount of power/autonomy. Great video, I will try this method of framing emotions and see how much traction it gets.