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Emotional Intelligence with Stephanie Pinto
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Award-winning Coach/Consultant, Best-selling Author, International Speaker in Emotional Intelligence.
Emotional Intelligence is now being recognised by experts and educators as one of the top skills needed for people's success. Particularly for kids it relates to their success in relationships, the classroom, playground and beyond. I'm passionate about helping parents develop their emotional self-awareness, confidence, resilience, and ability to truly understand their child's emotions and behaviour. I'm hoping my channel will act as a platform to spread awareness of the power of emotionally intelligent parenting.
Emotional Intelligence is now being recognised by experts and educators as one of the top skills needed for people's success. Particularly for kids it relates to their success in relationships, the classroom, playground and beyond. I'm passionate about helping parents develop their emotional self-awareness, confidence, resilience, and ability to truly understand their child's emotions and behaviour. I'm hoping my channel will act as a platform to spread awareness of the power of emotionally intelligent parenting.
Ep 60: How We Failed As New Parents with Steph and Alex.
Today, we're pulling back the curtain on our parenting - and let’s just say, it wasn’t all sunshine and Instagram-worthy moments.
With Alex's childhood blueprint and programming the *polar opposite* of mine, we had a lot to unlearn (and re-learn) when it came to navigating the chaos of parenthood together.
We talk about:
- How giving each other space saved us from spiralling arguments.
- Why you should never take your kids’ words, or your partner’s emotions, personally.
- Alex’s journey to taking accountability and breaking the cycle of reactive behaviour.
- My struggle to ask for help and express my feelings (spoiler: it wasn’t pretty).
- The power of understanding emotional hijacks and ...
With Alex's childhood blueprint and programming the *polar opposite* of mine, we had a lot to unlearn (and re-learn) when it came to navigating the chaos of parenthood together.
We talk about:
- How giving each other space saved us from spiralling arguments.
- Why you should never take your kids’ words, or your partner’s emotions, personally.
- Alex’s journey to taking accountability and breaking the cycle of reactive behaviour.
- My struggle to ask for help and express my feelings (spoiler: it wasn’t pretty).
- The power of understanding emotional hijacks and ...
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Ep 59: How to Get The Happier, Calmer and Connected Family You Want With Emotional Intelligence.
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Today I’m sharing an episode where I was the guest - being interviewed by JoAnn Crohn and Brie Tucker on the No Guilt Mom podcast. So, you’ve decided you want a happier, calmer, and more connected family, eh? Well, friend, welcome to the rollercoaster ride known as “parenting with emotional intelligence.” Parenting often involves navigating different styles, which, being 100% honest, can someti...
Ep 58: Anxiety and Emotional Intelligence: From Overthinking to Overcoming.
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Today I’m pulling back the curtain on my own experience with anxiety and how I overcame it with Emotional Intelligence. From my early years as a shy, anxious kid to the struggles it brought me as a teen and adult - especially when it came to school, confidence, and building my career - I’m sharing it all. Why? Because I know so many of you, whether as parents or individuals, are grappling with ...
Ep 57: The Art of Letting Go (Without Actually Letting Go) with Amy Sargent
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Have you ever wondered how to transition from managing your kids to supporting them as they grow into adults? In this episode of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast, I chat with Amy Sargent, SEI Coach and Executive Director of the Institute for Social and Emotional Intelligence. Amy shares how she used emotional intelligence with her older kids-owning her own feelings, creating space ...
Ep 56: How We Keep Our Kids Safe Online Without Banning Everything!
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Alex (the husband!) and I are getting real about the rollercoaster of raising kids in a world full of online games, social media, and RUclips. We know the internet isn’t going anywhere, so instead of banning it all, we talk about finding that balance between letting our kids enjoy the digital world and keeping them safe. We did make the decision to remove RUclips from our home, and we share why...
Ep 55: Emotional Intelligence in the Classroom (and Beyond)!
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In this video, I’m sharing how you can bring emotional intelligence (EI) into your classroom, creating a warm, supportive, and resilient space for learning. I’ll cover 5 simple yet powerful ways to connect with students, build emotional awareness, and cultivate a positive classroom culture where everyone feels seen and valued. By weaving EI into your teaching, you can help students develop esse...
Ep 54: Parenting on the Same Page: My Husband’s Journey into Emotional Intelligence.
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In this video, my husband joins me on the channel again... 😬 A few years ago, we started off with completely different views on parenting - he was skeptical of emotional intelligence, thinking it was “soft” and a waste of time. (Might sound familiar!) Buuuut he’s had a huge change of heart, and we dive into what shifted his perspective. We chat about how we discipline our kids, handle big emoti...
Ep 53: What Really Is Emotional Intelligence and What Does It Really Look Like in Parenting?
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Welcome to Season 2 of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast!! I’m kicking off this new season by diving into the powerful and transformative impact of emotional intelligence (EI) in ALL areas of life - not just in the parent-child relationship. There are still many myths, misconceptions, and confusion about what emotional intelligence truly is, so today I break down 10 essential compon...
Ep 52: Our Husband-Wife Duo on Emotional Intelligence, Boundaries, and Protecting Our Kids.
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🤩🤩🤩 My husband's first time on the podcast you guys!! Ever wondered what happens when two very different upbringings collide in a parenting moment? In this special episode, I’m thrilled to welcome my husband onto the podcast for the very first time. We dive deep into our journey dealing with a neighborhood influence that wasn’t so positive for our kids and reveal why my husband’s protective ins...
Ep 51: How Emotional Intelligence Helped Us Navigate Our Kids’ Unhealthy Friendship.
Просмотров 60Месяц назад
In this episode of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast, I’m sharing a personal story from my own home - a REALLY challenging situation with my kids and a new “friend” in our neighbourhood who hasn’t been the best influence. It started out innocently but went from dishonesty and aggressive behaviour to stealing... eek! So we recently faced some difficult moments as a family and had to ...
Ep 50: How to Protect Your Kids Online with Fareedah Shaheed.
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In today’s episode, I dive deep into the world of online safety with Fareedah Shaheed, an award-winning Internet Safety Expert and Forbes 30 Under 30 Honoree. Fareedah, whose work has been featured in NBC, CNN, The Wall Street Journal, and more, brings her expertise in cybersecurity awareness, threat intelligence, and online gaming to help parents keep their kids safe online - without needing t...
Ep 49: Kids and Big Emotions: How to Dial Up Your Emotional Intelligence and Respond Calmly.
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In this solo episode, I’m talking about Kids and Big Emotions: How to Dial Up Your Emotional Intelligence and Respond Calmly. Here’s the thing-before we can help our kids manage their emotions, we have to accept that they HAVE emotions. Emotions that are normal. Healthy. Natural. Supposed to be. Remember when your child was learning to walk, read, or ride a bike? Did you step in and do it for t...
Ep 48: Stop Avoiding "The Talk": Navigating the Sex Conversation with Your Kids, Vanessa Hamilton.
Просмотров 47Месяц назад
Talking to our kids about sex and sexuality can feel really uncomfortable, but it’s a conversation we need to have (especially in this age of the INTERNET). Eek! In this episode of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast, I’m joined by Vanessa Hamilton, a sexuality educator with over 25 years of experience and founder of Talking the Talk Sexuality Education. We dive into all the tricky to...
Ep 47: Breakages and Mistakes: Raising Kids in a Punishment-Free Home.
Просмотров 962 месяца назад
What would you do if your child accidentally damaged something precious to you?? 😵💫 In this solo episode of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting podcast, I share a recent incident where one of my kids messed up big time - and my unexpected response. Spoiler: there was no yelling, arguing or punishment. I reveal how I turned this moment into an opportunity for teaching life-long skills like ho...
Parent Tug-of-War? Say Bye-Bye to Battles and Get on the Same Page with Kyle and Sarah Wester.
Просмотров 452 месяца назад
In this episode, I sit down with Sarah and Kyle from The Art of Raising Humans to dive into one of the biggest challenges parents face - being on the same page with your partner. Do you and your partner ever disagree about how to handle situations with the kids? Ever feel undermined or unsure how to stay aligned? We explore real solutions to these struggles and share practical steps to create a...
Ep 46: ADHD, Aggression and Big Emotions with Rebecca Challoner
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Ep 46: ADHD, Aggression and Big Emotions with Rebecca Challoner
Ep 44: Let's Be Attachment Nerds Together with Eli Harwood.
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Ep 44: Let's Be Attachment Nerds Together with Eli Harwood.
Ep 43: Time to Stop Yelling: Secrets to Calmer, Happier Parenting with Kristina Manning.
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Ep 43: Time to Stop Yelling: Secrets to Calmer, Happier Parenting with Kristina Manning.
Ep 42: Bedtime Meltdown: How I Turned Chaos into Calm with Co-regulation.
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Ep 42: Bedtime Meltdown: How I Turned Chaos into Calm with Co-regulation.
Ep 41: What You Do Speaks Volumes: Emotionally Intelligent Parenting with Noble Gibbens.
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Ep 41: What You Do Speaks Volumes: Emotionally Intelligent Parenting with Noble Gibbens.
Ep 38: Respond Not React: Mastering Your Emotional Reactions.
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Ep 38: Respond Not React: Mastering Your Emotional Reactions.
Ep 39: The Emotional Intelligence "Brain Hack" for Parents.
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Ep 39: The Emotional Intelligence "Brain Hack" for Parents.
Ep 40: Why Can't My Kid Just DO THE THING? Seth Perler Talks Executive Function Skills.
Просмотров 1553 месяца назад
Ep 40: Why Can't My Kid Just DO THE THING? Seth Perler Talks Executive Function Skills.
Ep: 37 When Validating Your Kids' Emotions Backfires
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Ep: 37 When Validating Your Kids' Emotions Backfires
My Child Won’t Listen! Advice For A Parent Who Wrote In.
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My Child Won’t Listen! Advice For A Parent Who Wrote In.
Better Communication = More Cooperation: Because YOU Are Probably Creating Power Struggles.
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Better Communication = More Cooperation: Because YOU Are Probably Creating Power Struggles.
Parenting Teens: Stay Connected Amid Risky Behaviour, Vaping, Phones and TikTok, with Kirsten Cobabe
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Parenting Teens: Stay Connected Amid Risky Behaviour, Vaping, Phones and TikTok, with Kirsten Cobabe
Podcast Ep 33: Parental Burnout with The Therapist Parent: Krysten Taprell.
Просмотров 265 месяцев назад
Podcast Ep 33: Parental Burnout with The Therapist Parent: Krysten Taprell.
Part 2 of Redefining Fatherhood: Emotional Intelligence and Gentle Parenting with Daniel Franco.
Просмотров 195 месяцев назад
Part 2 of Redefining Fatherhood: Emotional Intelligence and Gentle Parenting with Daniel Franco.
Tapping for Kids ("Emotional Freedom Techniques") with Steph and Eve.
Просмотров 655 месяцев назад
Tapping for Kids ("Emotional Freedom Techniques") with Steph and Eve.
I have beautiful thoughtful 5 years old daughter Only problem is when she is focusing something, find very hard to transition She gets physically angry and start hitting people near to her specially me
This is so common, esp for little ones. Their ability to regulate their emotions is so small, so they get overwhelmed by emotions like anger quickly and often. I hope it's okay that I discussed this issue with my husband on another recording and it will come out on the podcast in a week or so! :) Keep an eye out for it. We discussed our own kids' meltdowns and anger etc too which I hope is really helpful.
its so terrifying...ugh! my kids are 4, 6 and i'm dreading this so much
I feel you. We're in the thick of it right now. 😫
This resonates so much! We really love your transparency guys!
This was such a powerful conversation and helpful! Massive thank you to Rebecca for validating DSR and how RRE also impacts our ADHD kids. I really got a lot out of this, thank you so much x
Aw I am so glad it was helpful. I will pass on your kind words to Rebecca! She's a powerhouse right?!
I just saw some of the comments under the post… wow!😮
I love how positive you present this. It feels defeating as a parent to know that what we have done previously was not helpful when we so want to be helpful. Thanks for saying it with kindness! Good Info. I’m sharing with my clients!
Thank you so much! I’m still a work in progress myself. Just doing a bit better each day.
Thank you so much for having me! This was one of my favorite conversations ever! I appreciate you 💗
So pleased you were able to find time to chat with me - this was a powerful conversation. Thank you for all you do!!
Omg😂! That was gr8!!!! More plz!
Haha thank you! That means a lot. I was nervous 😆
This is a really important episode. Fareedah's story is terrifying. Parents need to learn how to approach this as it is a huge issue now, you can't keep your head in the sand. We are aware of predators outside and sometimes forget that most of them are online now. And yes it is important to remember that teenagers get caught up in the Romeo and Juliet end of the world nonsense with all those hormones etc so the way you manage these discussions is really important. I remember what I was like as a teenager!
Thank you! I agree wholeheartedly with you!
You raise a great point Fiona! We really need to be having this conversation again and again - it’s so important.
Ha ha, this is so cute! Your hubby is right, safety is more important than feelings. This is a major problem in our society now, suicidal empathy! Also consider that hurting someones feelings (even though that is not the intention) can actually be beneficial. Some of the best lessons I have learned in my life came from people who were prepared to hurt my feelings to tell me the truth.
I am learning this more and more - the hard lessons are the most powerful ones. And I haven't heard the term suicidal empathy but WOW that resonates with me!
i just recommended this video and some of Laura's resources and had to re-watch while I'm here. I love this talk so much!
You cant raise them... not possible. Every action has reaction. How would you react on kid dominating younger kid or weaker kid...? You talk to them try to touch his soul?
Wow! This is such a great conversation. Thanks for sharing! This is making me excited to possibly raise my own children some day. I feel like what would enhance this a lot is more anecdotes of what this looks like in action and especially what kind of verbiage to use to talk to your kids about emotional regulation and such. Conceptually i totally am on the same page of the different things you guys are after but for example when they say it's important to have " the same vision" , I feel like I want to know the details of what kinds of visions or goals a parent or parents could have . Is the vision to raise an emotionally intelligent child? Is the vision to raise a well adjusted child? Is the vision to help a child to achieve academic success? And then further for example, if the goal is to raise an emotionally intelligent child, what are the specific c omponents/ qualities that constitute that specific vision? What kinds of statements/questions does a parent use to foster emotional intelligence in a child? Thanks! Keep up the great work. I'll be tuning in in the future
Do you offer sessions for grandparents?
Hi @mperlou, EI is for all ages so I would love for you to look at my program Evolve. Here's the link: www.stephaniepinto.com/evolve . See the details and let me know if you find it interesting! I love to chat more about it so if you are keen, please let me know :)
Hello mam, Your videos are great! I can optimize your content for better search visibility. Let's discuss how to rank higher on RUclips. I’m waiting for your reply.
I looooove Eli! Already pre-ordered the book and can't wait to dive in!
Yay! I'm glad this video resonated with you! She's so lovely too.
Hello Mam. Your videos are great! I can optimize your content for better search visibility. Let's discuss how to rank higher on RUclips. I’m waiting for your reply.
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Thanks for watching Mel 🥰
Awesome to hear about the punishment free home..I am hoping to create this environment in my home with my son and wife, but unfortunately there's been a ton of damage done already from having been conditionally/traditionally parented. It's a long fight and a ton of course correction for future generations, but I think it is absolutely worth it. Thanks again for posting these videos!
Ah I know what you mean. It's a journey and it takes time but wow the effort is so so worth it. 🙂
it was an awesome podcast!!
thank you!
can you give some examples of 'family cultures'? im not really sure like what thats supposed to mean
Good question - so this is like your set of values, routines, etc that are specific to your family. I found this great article that explains lots about family cultures... hopefully this link works! www.lovetoknow.com/life/relationships/what-is-family-culture-definition-examples
Great content! I hope your channel grows quickly. I’m a preschool teacher and try to use emotional validation a lot though I have never gotten this particular response. More often I’ll get an emotion/bodily sensation as a reason not to follow a rule (“I’m tired (or sad) [so I’m not cleaning up]. In that situation I’ll validate the emotion but explain that a rule always has to be followed, using myself as the example, that I don’t like to clean up (which is absolutely true) but I still do. I think kids often view armchair psychoanalysis as a power play, and when I was a kid it was probably at least a low key one the way my generation was parented (I’m an early 80s millennial). For example, nobody likes to hear “I think somebody is tired” when you are grouchy/cranky, even if it’s true, because it comes off as condescending. Children need to be respected and communicated with in a way that lets them maintain a reasonable amount of power/autonomy. Great video, I will try this method of framing emotions and see how much traction it gets.
This is excellent and this explains literally all of my childhood...wow...and including how I act today. This includes all of our systems, businesses, etc. This controlling conditionality is everywhere. And thank you for saying that 'discipline' and 'punishment' are the same understandings today!!! I have said this to a bunch of people, and no one seems to understand me when I say that. I have no idea when those words became synonyms, but they are today sadly.
Thank you for sharing this!! I'm glad you found it interesting and it validates your approach... and yes x 100 to the discipline/punishment confusion! So frustrating.
@@StephaniePinto the pleasure is truly mine. I’ve recently stumbled across Mr kohns works and some of his other videos and I can’t express my gratitude for his work! It validates my human experience at a very deep level and this has so many more applications to others areas of life. I’m interested in how this has been received among others you’ve spoken to about it or if you’ve gotten the chance to try various alternatives. Would be happy to chat any time! Thanks again for posting this content.
Only 303 views Pity You have a very important point. Yet, raised in the 50-60's validation was uneard of. I've grown up great, strong, tough, persevering, ne er giving up, etc. Wondering what all this validation will do..... turn them into sooks....?? Weaklings? Validation sure, but a no nonsense raising of a child also has a place in society..... Life is tough.... we'd better prepare them rright??
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Thank you there I have one question about bed time My daughter turned 5 on May recently she is going bed only @ 8 pm . Prior she always gone 6 pm Now she goes to bedroom @ 1830 as part of her evening routine . She plays there and reads books Problem is she always coming down at least 4-5 times downstairs asking for hugs, toilet, water , sometimes she says she is frightened etc How can I help her remain in bedroom and not to comedown stairs a lot I m greatful for all your support and good work
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This episode of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast is a must-listen for anyone raising teens or tweens! Thanks for such a heartfelt and informative discussion! 🌟
This episode sounds incredibly insightful and timely! Understanding the difference between parental burnout and everyday stress is so important.
This is indeed very heartwarming and very wonderful and very adorable and very beautiful and this brings back such great memories of when I use to be a 90s kid and an early 2000s kid anyway Stephanie Pinto you and your daughter are indeed very wonderful and very adorable and funny anyway I am also a new subscriber as well:).
This is such a wonderful and practical technique!
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This article is a valuable resource for parents navigating the challenges of raising boys with intense emotions. Tosha Schore's insights are enlightening, emphasizing the importance of understanding the underlying fear behind aggression.
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Such an interesting story and useful lesson. I'm new to watching your videos, looking forward to watching your existing videos, from a quick glance there's already lots of interesting titles jumping out at me.
Thank you! I hope you find them useful :) If you're a podcast lover you can listen to episode there too 💐
Speaking as an elementary teacher, a number of our programs over the decades I have taught have focused on rewards and consequences (punishment) systems. Teachers and parents are often thinking or saying, “How do I make them _____.” Our American culture often focuses on control. As a teacher, it has taken many years to shift my thinking from controlling the discipline in my classes, to building discipline within the students that I work with. Keep spreading the word!
Thank you! I’m so glad there’s teachers like you being open to evolving and changing practices. It’s taken me a while to shift my parenting… work in progress!
Hey Stephanie! Great video 👏🏼 I like how you’ve taken the time to reflect and share on the daily challenges that arise. Wonderful example of acknowledging our kids feelings and honoring them. Enjoying your content! Wish you and your family a great Christmas 🎄 P.S. I think you’re good for a giggle! 😉😆
Hehehe thank you!!! Have a great Christmas!
Thank you for sharing this 💞 Cycle breaking is incredibly challenging but infinitely important!!
It really is! 🩷🩷🩷
Really well done and put together. Very articulate and clear. I loved this video.❤😀👏👏👏
Thank you so much!
I love Alfie and his optimistic nature, love of children and seeing the good side of people, but I see no harm in rewards that enhance the environment. Instead of chasing a rabbit for food, I may offer ice cream for a great sprinting performance. That's healthy and fun! It is not pet training. It is modern effort to return some value of the ancient healthy world :)
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This video is absolutely amazing!❤
I am glad it resonated with you.
I like everything that was said in this video. I would like to add the idea that I read from both Jane Nelsen and Laura Markham ( as far as I remember) about apologising. They suggest that if your child hurts his sibling' feelings or does something that she/he should apologise for, you can say something like: What could you do to help her feel better? I'm sure you can find a way. Do you think there is something you could say to help him feel better?/When you are ready, an apology would help me feel better/ I'm going to leave the room for a few minutes to calm down and then maybe it would make me feel better to hear an apology. I tried this and it helped a lot. It's clear and suggests to apologise but it's not forceful. The emphasis is placed on making amends and helping the person hurt feel better. It promotes problem solving because it doesn't say what to say and how to say it but empowers the child to find a way. It is also assertive as the person hurt makes a request on what would make her/him feel better.
Ok. U said not to take things away, in the one video, and now ur saying to??
Hi! In this video one of the logical consequences I mention is “If a child is banging a toy/using it dangerously, then taking away the toy and trying again later or the next day”. This is a respectful, relevant, compassionate consequence that stops the child from further damaging or breaking the toy. It’s very different to taking a toy/belonging off a child because they’ve been rude (not related or logical). So I do not at all advocate taking things way from kids for the sake of making them suffer when they do something wrong (this is punishment) but when it is due to say a child throwing or banging the item, it’s a disservice to the child not to remove it as they will likely end up breaking it or hurting something and then we’re not doing our job as parents - to teach kids the impact of their actions. Hope that helps bring some clarity ☺️
Awesome! Thanks!
Fantastic!🥰👍
I would love to learn more about the different ages and stages in childhood and what is developmentally appropriate /what would you suggest be taught around emotions (Identifying them, learning what to do with them etc) I have a 2.5& a 4.5 year old and they need different things. Trying to balance and be prepared for what they need on a daily isn getting harder more recently...the 2.5 year old showing more frustration with his 1 year old cousin...everyone upset with him, expecting him to not be mad when his building gets destroyed from her....doesn't feel fair to me at all and want to know what to practice in my own home and when family comes.over
Oh I feel you! The two ages keeps you on your toes in terms of dealing with their big emotions and tricky behaviours. I actually lean away from giving developmental stages/ages to parents as I find it often brings stress, feelings of disappointment or like 'what's wrong with my child that they haven't mastered XYZ' etc. So I encourage parents to meet their child where they're at, and support them where they need it. I will do a video on your question soon! :) Thank you xx Steph.
Thanks, looking forward to that video. If this helps to clarify a little, I was curious more around impulse control...some questions I've gotten from well meaning family is "how many times do you have to tell him not to...." and I say as long as I need to, or he'll get there with time/age...so just wanted to have something along the lines of "developmentally speaking...kids around 3.5 don't develop what's needed for impulse control...so we're going to keep practicing with him..." (just an example) it's hard when I know in my early childhood education heart and mind, but don't always have the most eloquently way of putting it