We need to be nicer to our younger selves. Even as someone who got diagnosed with ADHD quite young childhood was still a struggle. But here we are as adults and we have our younger selves to thank for who we are today. Congrats on the diagnosis.
This is a MAJOR win for you both ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ 🥳 Another step to being who you are and accepting yourself. I hope this news opens up floodgates that will help with your mental health. Congratulations Claudia 😌
As someone with BPD looking into an ADHD diagnosis I found myself nodding constantly during this video because we have SO many experiences in common. I'm also academic and heavily related to hyperfocusing on the parts of my subject that intensely interested me, while really struggling with subjects that required lots of working memory and wondering why those things felt so difficult. I'm really happy for you and honestly found listening to someone with very similar experiences on the other end of the diagnosis journey so encouraging. x
huge congrats!! I think the part that hit me hard was right at the beginning of the video when you said you're proud of your younger self. that's something I should be telling myself more as well, being proud of having come this far and having also managed over two decades without even knowing I had ADHD. and of course I can relate to the relief and joy of getting a diagnosis -- having the self-validation of knowing there's reasons and explanations for the way you are, and being able to get specific help and support for dealing with ADHD. again, congrats, and hopefully this helps you on your journey ♥
Congratulations on getting diagnosed! I know for a lot of people, it probably seems weird to congratulate someone on getting diagnosed with a disability, but having been through it myself, it can truly feel like such a relieve to finally have your experience validated and to know you’re not mad or lazy or difficult, just different. It also feels very encouraging to hear you talk about asking for accommodations at uni, it seems so silly but I’ve been putting it off for quite a while how because it seems so scary to ask for something I genuinely need. I know that they’ll probably be nice about it and even if they weren’t they’d be in the wrong, but it’s still such a daunting step to start standing up for yourself after years and years of denial and people pleasing. Mad respect to you for taking that step and thank you for inspiring me to do the same. I suppose these kind of things can seem silly or easy to neurotypical people, but when you do have disabilities or mental illnesses even just acknowledging that and asking for acceptance and accommodation can be such a huge step and you should feel proud for making it this far.
Beautiful ♥️ what a wonderful video to see. I’m glad you have more answers. It’s a great feeling when things start fitting together and you understand yourself more. I have been watching your channel for years. I have a diagnosis of MPD/DID, BPD traits, Emetophobia, Autism and ADHD. I agree with what was said about ADHD and Autism. For me it can contribute to and make the emetophobia and trauma worse because of the focus issue and emotional sensitivity. I have spent years wondering why I could not deal with things when I did not realise my autism and ADHD were making it difficult to deal with things. I also like languages, music, theatre and I dislike things that people not on the spectrum like. It can be lonely at times but once you accept yourself you feel free. I hope now you have answers you can move forward in a way you wish to move forward. Lots of love. Xxx
I got diagnosed last year, at 27 years old. It was a relief being able to frame some problems in a way that made it possible to work toward solutions and better coping.
So happy for you! Its amazing to see you seeming so cheerful in this video 😊 your little self is incredibly strong and she would be proud of you too! I'm hoping to get an autism diagnosis and everything you said about the self doubt and misunderstanding of the condition rang so true for me. It's sometimes hard to think about who i could have been if it had been identified at any of the many times I've had psychological treatment in the time since i was 7. My little self deserved that help and might have never reached the point of suicide attempts/ hospitalisation if anyone had spotted the signs. I think it's really helpful to love empathise with the young version of ourselves as a step to being able to love our current selves. I definitely see how getting your official diagnosis can be a huge step in that direction. I hope it will be for me too! Sending huge love to big and little Claudia x
I am not surprised. I have related to a lot of the things that you have posted over the years, and I am glad that you have this confirmation for something it sounds like you have suspected for a longtime.
It's so interesting hearing you describe your experience of school. I have ADHD and I loved the humanities in school, but it was very painful in a way because the only subjects I could do were maths and science because I didn't have to remember specific details. My only A* was in maths even though I never revised for it because my brain was just good at it. However the subject I could never pass even though I loved it the most was history. Simply because I could not focus enough to remember the key facts, nor could I focus in an exam on constructing a well developed answer
Congrats on the diagnosis! I got mine earlier this year and will be having my first titration meeting next week and cannot wait! This year really seems to be the year of adult women getting their ADHD diagnoses! I hope the diagnosis is as validating and freeing for you as mine has been for me 💚💜💙
I relate to so much of what you're saying and I was diagnosed with Inattentive ADHD in January - and I already have ASD and Quiet BPD! So I definitely relate (also really feeling the ableism at the moment!). The exhaustion, the trying so hard and it never being enough, the school stuff (although I loved Maths so that wasn't one of the difficult subjects for me), the relief in having an explanation for what feels like an internal flaw... And totally agree with you about the societal gaslighting around getting diagnoses and having a diagnosis of something. I'm so glad that you've got this answer and that it's so clarifying for you. And that you can be so proud of your younger self. I wish I could do that; it's something I definitely need to work on. I just find it so hard, thinking of all of the struggles and time wasted.
My journey with anxiety/depression has been so similar to yours, it's not even funny 🤯🤯🤯 I just discovered I have ADHD too and once you become aware of it and treat that, it helps so much with other mental health issues, because a lot of it may be deriving from that itself. Proud of you, Claudia.
Thank you so much for commenting! How mad is that? I know so many people who are on a similar journey! Maybe we were in that last generation where it was missed, and hopefully things will improve for kids now. I appreciate your kindness so much! It's also great to hear from other people with similar experiences or who have the same diagnosis. It makes me feel much stronger! All the best xxx
@@ClaudiaBoleyn and thank you for replying! I totally agree, there's so much support to be felt just hearing from others that you're not alone dealing with any of this. So seeing this video from you made me feel good like my comment did for you 😊 Really lets us both know we're on the right track. In our case, when you get this diagnosis, it seriously makes so much sense why things have been the way they have, and also why psychologists say you should treat ADHD before anxiety/depression (if you're diagnosed with both). With ADHD, the hyperfocusing on all the stuff that feels dysfunctional can be extra overwhelming, and that's exactly what brings you down to start dealing with heavy anxiety/depression/etc. It's genuinely a game changer just becoming aware of that. So thankful you're here and talking about all this! Turning notifs on so I can be here with the support throughout the progression of your journey, whenever you feel like discussing it. Keep being your real/wonderful self, and take care, Claudia 😊🤙
omg, I didn't realize! I myself haven't been officially diagnosed but when Noah Finance came out with his diagnosis and explained what ADHD actually was I voiced my concerns to my psychiatrists who recommended another specialist, and now I'm actually late to pick up my first meds :P It's so important to talk about what having a mental illness actually entails
I have bpd and have been diagnosed with anxiety and depression from a young age.. I’ve only just realised bpd and adhd can often go hand in hand and I am honestly floored at how much I relate with this video and adhd in general. I hope this isn’t too intrusive, how did you “bring up” the conversation with a doctor? I always feel scared to “suggest” something to them (I think I might have adhd, I seem to relate to adhd etc etc..) because I don’t want them to think I’m trying to diagnose myself? Hope this makes sense. I’m so happy you’ve got a diagnosis and had a lovely doctor to talk to! 🥰
honestly, knowing you grew up and worked through something without medication is a win. (this isn't dissing medication, just something to feel proud of IMO!) bpd and adhd really are a double whammy for your attention span and i think we get more crap than we deserve, even from ourselves.
I think a diagnosis is extremely important, especially for things like ADHD, because it gives you something to focus on rather than feeling like youre stumbling in the dark being like "i have this issue and that one and oop that one too" you can be like no, these arent individual things i have to come to terms with but just one thing, its kind of poetic that one of the biggest things that will improve the life of someone with ADHD is just, confirming that they have it because actually knowing it plays into the functions and workings of ADHD itself, idk if im wording this very well😅😂 what im trying to say is very clear in my mind i just cant put it into words as clearly
That's exactly how it felt getting my autism diagnosis. I'm also proud of how I coped despite everything. I'm happy for you :) My family was the same way 'you're smart, you have no excuse to be getting 6s or 7s'. 'If you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all'. 'Just do it'. I was also a textbook case, hit every single symptom, my assessor also said I was 'pretty obvious', and my family was also convinced I didn't have autism. Having an official diagnosis really helped me to stop blaming myself for failing at social things and for being depressed and struggling all the time. Since my diagnosis, my family has been convinced that I do have autism now too. I told them it's a genetic thing, so either my mom or my dad had to have it too. So my dad looked into it and he was like 'well shit, guess it's me'. Both of my siblings are textbook cases too, especially my brother. So yeah I guess it really helped my entire family understand themselves better and forgive themselves for the things they can't do and the ways they're different from the norm. It's helped us be more open, even with each other, about what we find difficult and what we need. For example, my brother struggles with empathy (not all autistic people do! Important!), which obviously isn't a socially acceptable thing to admit, but yeah no he just doesn't get people on that level. He's still the sweetest most attentive person I know, and he does absolutely care about the people around him, but he just has to work from sets of rules, rather than supporting people intuitively.
I was diagnosed with bpd at first.Your videos on bpd and the asmr one you did for suicidal thoughts really helped me.I then found out I have adhd and the doctor also said I could be autistic aswell which I later found out that he was right about. Also found out I have dyspraxia lol.But what I'm trying to say it's its interesting how all of these conditions can overlap with each other.
I think we may actually be the same person! 😂 I'm not sure if I've ever commented before, but I've been subscribed for quite a while (a couple years, I think?), and there have been SO many times where I've been like "whoa... am I you? are you me?" akhlkjsadf. from our shared ~hyperfixation~ on Anne Boleyn and Wanda Maximoff to thinking we were straight for most of our lives despite having crushes on girls (lmao) to similar diagnoses (I think I have a super anxious attachment style due to PTSD rather than BPD, but there's a ton of symptom overlap) AND I'm hoping/pretty sure I'm finally being formally diagnosed with ADHD one week from today after a LIFETIME of suffering with symptoms I had absolutely no idea could even be ADHD... just wow akjhkjsadf :') anyway, congratulations on your diagnosis, I'm so happy and excited for you!! 💜💜💜
Right? It feels so rude as well! I really really love my friends and family, but when my brain is somewhere else, I find it hard to remember that there's anything external at all. xxx
It’s also genuinely so strange, like, as a woman born in the 90s I have at least 3 friends who were recently diagnosed with neurodivergence as well as myself and there’s many more people that I follow online like yourself who seem to be going through the same thing. I guess some people will say it’s overdiagnosed but I genuinely think it’s just people who didn’t fit the stereotype of what neurodivergence looks like finally getting diagnosed and getting the help they need. I do think it’s quite funny that a lot of these people often found each other. Like, being autistic as well as ADHD, my therapist was quite surprised I have friends and she’s like “are you friends with a lot of neurodivergent people?” And I’m like yes, yes I suppose I am. Come to think of it I’m not sure if I have any friends without mental health issues 😂
I just got diagnosed as having ADHD too after years of being diagnosed as BPD. Did you find it difficult to get an ADHD diagnosis while having BPD? I just didn't tell the ADHD doctors that I was previously diagnosed with BPD cause you know how the stigma can be. Regarding your worries about meds. Meds have already changed my life and given me so much hope. They make me completely functional, I can just do the things I need to do and even though cleaning the kitchen isn't fun. I can just do it. It's amazing. I'm not less creative at all. I'm more creative because now I don't constantly drop interests.
Hearing all your symptoms makes me wonder if I should ask my therapist about this. I’ll have to figure out if I still have a therapist tho since I accidentally missed my last meeting and haven’t gotten around to rescheduling. On the topic of not wanting to accept potential diagnosis: my husband and I ran into this with my son. We always had some inclination that something was “off” but when we’d bring it up with each of our parents, they’d dismiss it and say he was fine or would “grow out of it.” After, when we were told he was Autistic, they still felt as if the therapist were just saying things to give him a diagnosis. My husband and I talked about it and we agreed that being in denial would help no one, least of all my son, who desperately needed the support, all for what? Pretending my kid is neurotypical doesn’t reduce his challenges, it would actually exacerbated the issues and would be cruel to him. Anyway, both sets of grandparents have now accepted things and are supportive, even if they don’t fully understand. And a positive thing of my child getting diagnosed is it helped his cousin, who had such a had time in school for a long time, was also diagnosed and now is finally getting the support he needs
Does this change any of your previous diagnosis? In the sense that instead of something you've been diagnosed with previously being the explanation for your symptoms now doctors have realised it's actually ADHD?
It actually co-exists with my BPD, which is apparently quite common. I think I was misdiagnosed with depression and anxiety as a child - or perhaps not misdiagnosed so much as that they were the products of other things? A lot of ppl with ADHD are apparently diagnosed with anxiety or depression as kids. The BPD definitely masked things though, because it meant that really glaringly obvious ADHD symptoms were just presumed to be part of the BPD. xxx
@@Ben-vf5gk I've heard a lot of people say that. ADHD often co-exists with autism, doesn't it? Sometimes I think one thing gets lost within the other. I hope you're doing all right currently xxx
I got diagnosed on the NHS. So I believe I asked for the assessment at some point last year? I can't be completely sure, but there was this massive gap where I assumed it had just been forgotten about, then out of nowhere they got in touch. I think the waiting list is pretty long. From other people I've heard they've had to wait a whole year. Mine wasn't as long as that, but maybe because of the covid situation they've got a backlog? I get the impression they're trying to catch up and I just got lucky with the timings. In terms of specifics, I just spoke to my GP and he asked me some things, and then I had to fill out a form some time ago - then I think I must have scored a certain amount of 'points' and that was when he referred me to the ADHD specialists xxx
@@ClaudiaBoleyn thank you so much for your advice lovely, I appreciate it, I’ve got BPD diagnosed myself as well as a few other mental health conditions however like your family mine to rejected teachers comments in my younger years due to my English grades. Your video spoke volumes. I am starting to feel that a severe portion of my issues are ADHD, not just BPD as I once thought, since moving into my own flat I’ve noticed things that just fall so in place with the symptoms I’ve researched almost like a Eureka type moment. Now I’m thinking maybe this is why every medication I’ve tried has been wrong, because to say I’ve gone through most of the antidepressant and antipsychotic and sedative medication my mental health team psychiatrists suggests none have drastically improved anything, I’m just worried GPS will turn around and say well it’s BPD or anxiety, rather than looking into it further, I’m so afraid of not being heard. I’m 26 and feel utterly hopeless and honestly knowing I’ve not been alone and understanding and empathising 100% with your last few videos has been helpful. I lost my best friend to suicide in April & was so scared I’d lose someone I’ve watched for years to the same result. I am so proud of you & I hope this new diagnosis will help in your path to the future you want. Thank you again ❤️🥰
It's Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. If you search ADHD here on RUclips there are some really great and accessible videos that explain it. They'll be better than me because I tend to ramble xxx
Claudia, I think that instead of having ADHD you may be gifted. You are smart and very sensitive. You used to do great at school. I am gifted and we often function by bursts of energy and creativity. We experience hyperexcitability, often confused with ADHD. Our brain works a bit differently and sometimes we just know things, though it is difficult for us to recall how or why. "Hyper focus" is an expression that describes us, as well. We find difficult to pay attention when something does not interests us. You may check it out, just in case. I have been following you for years and have always felt identified with you. I admire your honesty and bravery, your ability to make beatiful art, your profound sensibility. Thank you for your company during all this time and for letting us see a glimpse of the marvelous person you are. With love xxx
We need to be nicer to our younger selves. Even as someone who got diagnosed with ADHD quite young childhood was still a struggle. But here we are as adults and we have our younger selves to thank for who we are today. Congrats on the diagnosis.
This is a MAJOR win for you both ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ 🥳 Another step to being who you are and accepting yourself. I hope this news opens up floodgates that will help with your mental health. Congratulations Claudia 😌
Thank you so much! I'm really really happy! I appreciate your kindness and your support. It means the world xxx
So proud of you Claudia! I'm glad your on the mend now ❤️
I'm glad that you know about yourself with this new diagnosis and I wish you all the best in continuing your self discovery journey!
As someone with BPD looking into an ADHD diagnosis I found myself nodding constantly during this video because we have SO many experiences in common. I'm also academic and heavily related to hyperfocusing on the parts of my subject that intensely interested me, while really struggling with subjects that required lots of working memory and wondering why those things felt so difficult. I'm really happy for you and honestly found listening to someone with very similar experiences on the other end of the diagnosis journey so encouraging. x
You burst out of that thearapy room like vanya, you were empowered and ready to take on the world, I'm so happy for you..
huge congrats!! I think the part that hit me hard was right at the beginning of the video when you said you're proud of your younger self. that's something I should be telling myself more as well, being proud of having come this far and having also managed over two decades without even knowing I had ADHD. and of course I can relate to the relief and joy of getting a diagnosis -- having the self-validation of knowing there's reasons and explanations for the way you are, and being able to get specific help and support for dealing with ADHD. again, congrats, and hopefully this helps you on your journey ♥
Congratulations on getting diagnosed! I know for a lot of people, it probably seems weird to congratulate someone on getting diagnosed with a disability, but having been through it myself, it can truly feel like such a relieve to finally have your experience validated and to know you’re not mad or lazy or difficult, just different. It also feels very encouraging to hear you talk about asking for accommodations at uni, it seems so silly but I’ve been putting it off for quite a while how because it seems so scary to ask for something I genuinely need. I know that they’ll probably be nice about it and even if they weren’t they’d be in the wrong, but it’s still such a daunting step to start standing up for yourself after years and years of denial and people pleasing. Mad respect to you for taking that step and thank you for inspiring me to do the same. I suppose these kind of things can seem silly or easy to neurotypical people, but when you do have disabilities or mental illnesses even just acknowledging that and asking for acceptance and accommodation can be such a huge step and you should feel proud for making it this far.
Beautiful ♥️ what a wonderful video to see.
I’m glad you have more answers. It’s a great feeling when things start fitting together and you understand yourself more.
I have been watching your channel for years. I have a diagnosis of MPD/DID, BPD traits, Emetophobia, Autism and ADHD.
I agree with what was said about ADHD and Autism.
For me it can contribute to and make the emetophobia and trauma worse because of the focus issue and emotional sensitivity. I have spent years wondering why I could not deal with things when I did not realise my autism and ADHD were making it difficult to deal with things.
I also like languages, music, theatre and I dislike things that people not on the spectrum like.
It can be lonely at times but once you accept yourself you feel free.
I hope now you have answers you can move forward in a way you wish to move forward.
Lots of love.
Xxx
im so so happy for you claudia ❤️❤️ congratulations :)
i am so proud of you
I got diagnosed last year, at 27 years old. It was a relief being able to frame some problems in a way that made it possible to work toward solutions and better coping.
So happy for you! Its amazing to see you seeming so cheerful in this video 😊 your little self is incredibly strong and she would be proud of you too! I'm hoping to get an autism diagnosis and everything you said about the self doubt and misunderstanding of the condition rang so true for me. It's sometimes hard to think about who i could have been if it had been identified at any of the many times I've had psychological treatment in the time since i was 7. My little self deserved that help and might have never reached the point of suicide attempts/ hospitalisation if anyone had spotted the signs. I think it's really helpful to love empathise with the young version of ourselves as a step to being able to love our current selves. I definitely see how getting your official diagnosis can be a huge step in that direction. I hope it will be for me too! Sending huge love to big and little Claudia x
I am not surprised. I have related to a lot of the things that you have posted over the years, and I am glad that you have this confirmation for something it sounds like you have suspected for a longtime.
I'm really happy for you
So relieved there is a new diagnosis and conclusion! You are going to do so brilliantly well in life, Claudia. I relate to all of this so much. 💜
It's so interesting hearing you describe your experience of school. I have ADHD and I loved the humanities in school, but it was very painful in a way because the only subjects I could do were maths and science because I didn't have to remember specific details. My only A* was in maths even though I never revised for it because my brain was just good at it. However the subject I could never pass even though I loved it the most was history. Simply because I could not focus enough to remember the key facts, nor could I focus in an exam on constructing a well developed answer
I AM SO PROUD OF YOU! Congratulations. Love seeing you becoming more animated again. Sending love
Congrats on the diagnosis! I got mine earlier this year and will be having my first titration meeting next week and cannot wait! This year really seems to be the year of adult women getting their ADHD diagnoses!
I hope the diagnosis is as validating and freeing for you as mine has been for me 💚💜💙
I relate to so much of what you're saying and I was diagnosed with Inattentive ADHD in January - and I already have ASD and Quiet BPD! So I definitely relate (also really feeling the ableism at the moment!). The exhaustion, the trying so hard and it never being enough, the school stuff (although I loved Maths so that wasn't one of the difficult subjects for me), the relief in having an explanation for what feels like an internal flaw... And totally agree with you about the societal gaslighting around getting diagnoses and having a diagnosis of something. I'm so glad that you've got this answer and that it's so clarifying for you. And that you can be so proud of your younger self. I wish I could do that; it's something I definitely need to work on. I just find it so hard, thinking of all of the struggles and time wasted.
My journey with anxiety/depression has been so similar to yours, it's not even funny 🤯🤯🤯 I just discovered I have ADHD too and once you become aware of it and treat that, it helps so much with other mental health issues, because a lot of it may be deriving from that itself. Proud of you, Claudia.
Thank you so much for commenting! How mad is that? I know so many people who are on a similar journey! Maybe we were in that last generation where it was missed, and hopefully things will improve for kids now. I appreciate your kindness so much! It's also great to hear from other people with similar experiences or who have the same diagnosis. It makes me feel much stronger! All the best xxx
@@ClaudiaBoleyn and thank you for replying! I totally agree, there's so much support to be felt just hearing from others that you're not alone dealing with any of this. So seeing this video from you made me feel good like my comment did for you 😊 Really lets us both know we're on the right track. In our case, when you get this diagnosis, it seriously makes so much sense why things have been the way they have, and also why psychologists say you should treat ADHD before anxiety/depression (if you're diagnosed with both). With ADHD, the hyperfocusing on all the stuff that feels dysfunctional can be extra overwhelming, and that's exactly what brings you down to start dealing with heavy anxiety/depression/etc. It's genuinely a game changer just becoming aware of that.
So thankful you're here and talking about all this! Turning notifs on so I can be here with the support throughout the progression of your journey, whenever you feel like discussing it. Keep being your real/wonderful self, and take care, Claudia 😊🤙
Congratulations on getting your diagnosis! ❤️
this recovery journey💕💕💕
omg, I didn't realize! I myself haven't been officially diagnosed but when Noah Finance came out with his diagnosis and explained what ADHD actually was I voiced my concerns to my psychiatrists who recommended another specialist, and now I'm actually late to pick up my first meds :P It's so important to talk about what having a mental illness actually entails
I have bpd and have been diagnosed with anxiety and depression from a young age.. I’ve only just realised bpd and adhd can often go hand in hand and I am honestly floored at how much I relate with this video and adhd in general. I hope this isn’t too intrusive, how did you “bring up” the conversation with a doctor? I always feel scared to “suggest” something to them (I think I might have adhd, I seem to relate to adhd etc etc..) because I don’t want them to think I’m trying to diagnose myself? Hope this makes sense. I’m so happy you’ve got a diagnosis and had a lovely doctor to talk to! 🥰
honestly, knowing you grew up and worked through something without medication is a win. (this isn't dissing medication, just something to feel proud of IMO!)
bpd and adhd really are a double whammy for your attention span and i think we get more crap than we deserve, even from ourselves.
I think a diagnosis is extremely important, especially for things like ADHD, because it gives you something to focus on rather than feeling like youre stumbling in the dark being like "i have this issue and that one and oop that one too" you can be like no, these arent individual things i have to come to terms with but just one thing, its kind of poetic that one of the biggest things that will improve the life of someone with ADHD is just, confirming that they have it because actually knowing it plays into the functions and workings of ADHD itself, idk if im wording this very well😅😂 what im trying to say is very clear in my mind i just cant put it into words as clearly
That's exactly how it felt getting my autism diagnosis. I'm also proud of how I coped despite everything.
I'm happy for you :)
My family was the same way 'you're smart, you have no excuse to be getting 6s or 7s'. 'If you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all'. 'Just do it'.
I was also a textbook case, hit every single symptom, my assessor also said I was 'pretty obvious', and my family was also convinced I didn't have autism. Having an official diagnosis really helped me to stop blaming myself for failing at social things and for being depressed and struggling all the time.
Since my diagnosis, my family has been convinced that I do have autism now too. I told them it's a genetic thing, so either my mom or my dad had to have it too. So my dad looked into it and he was like 'well shit, guess it's me'. Both of my siblings are textbook cases too, especially my brother.
So yeah I guess it really helped my entire family understand themselves better and forgive themselves for the things they can't do and the ways they're different from the norm. It's helped us be more open, even with each other, about what we find difficult and what we need.
For example, my brother struggles with empathy (not all autistic people do! Important!), which obviously isn't a socially acceptable thing to admit, but yeah no he just doesn't get people on that level. He's still the sweetest most attentive person I know, and he does absolutely care about the people around him, but he just has to work from sets of rules, rather than supporting people intuitively.
I was diagnosed with bpd at first.Your videos on bpd and the asmr one you did for suicidal thoughts really helped me.I then found out I have adhd and the doctor also said I could be autistic aswell which I later found out that he was right about. Also found out I have dyspraxia lol.But what I'm trying to say it's its interesting how all of these conditions can overlap with each other.
I think we may actually be the same person! 😂 I'm not sure if I've ever commented before, but I've been subscribed for quite a while (a couple years, I think?), and there have been SO many times where I've been like "whoa... am I you? are you me?" akhlkjsadf. from our shared ~hyperfixation~ on Anne Boleyn and Wanda Maximoff to thinking we were straight for most of our lives despite having crushes on girls (lmao) to similar diagnoses (I think I have a super anxious attachment style due to PTSD rather than BPD, but there's a ton of symptom overlap) AND I'm hoping/pretty sure I'm finally being formally diagnosed with ADHD one week from today after a LIFETIME of suffering with symptoms I had absolutely no idea could even be ADHD... just wow akjhkjsadf :') anyway, congratulations on your diagnosis, I'm so happy and excited for you!! 💜💜💜
Forgetting things is so annoying sometimes 😂 forever saying sorry to people who I don't reply to because I forget their existence lol
Right? It feels so rude as well! I really really love my friends and family, but when my brain is somewhere else, I find it hard to remember that there's anything external at all. xxx
It’s also genuinely so strange, like, as a woman born in the 90s I have at least 3 friends who were recently diagnosed with neurodivergence as well as myself and there’s many more people that I follow online like yourself who seem to be going through the same thing. I guess some people will say it’s overdiagnosed but I genuinely think it’s just people who didn’t fit the stereotype of what neurodivergence looks like finally getting diagnosed and getting the help they need. I do think it’s quite funny that a lot of these people often found each other. Like, being autistic as well as ADHD, my therapist was quite surprised I have friends and she’s like “are you friends with a lot of neurodivergent people?” And I’m like yes, yes I suppose I am. Come to think of it I’m not sure if I have any friends without mental health issues 😂
I just got diagnosed as having ADHD too after years of being diagnosed as BPD. Did you find it difficult to get an ADHD diagnosis while having BPD? I just didn't tell the ADHD doctors that I was previously diagnosed with BPD cause you know how the stigma can be.
Regarding your worries about meds. Meds have already changed my life and given me so much hope. They make me completely functional, I can just do the things I need to do and even though cleaning the kitchen isn't fun. I can just do it. It's amazing. I'm not less creative at all. I'm more creative because now I don't constantly drop interests.
Hearing all your symptoms makes me wonder if I should ask my therapist about this. I’ll have to figure out if I still have a therapist tho since I accidentally missed my last meeting and haven’t gotten around to rescheduling.
On the topic of not wanting to accept potential diagnosis: my husband and I ran into this with my son. We always had some inclination that something was “off” but when we’d bring it up with each of our parents, they’d dismiss it and say he was fine or would “grow out of it.” After, when we were told he was Autistic, they still felt as if the therapist were just saying things to give him a diagnosis. My husband and I talked about it and we agreed that being in denial would help no one, least of all my son, who desperately needed the support, all for what? Pretending my kid is neurotypical doesn’t reduce his challenges, it would actually exacerbated the issues and would be cruel to him.
Anyway, both sets of grandparents have now accepted things and are supportive, even if they don’t fully understand. And a positive thing of my child getting diagnosed is it helped his cousin, who had such a had time in school for a long time, was also diagnosed and now is finally getting the support he needs
ADHD gang ♥️
i have the inattentive type
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Does this change any of your previous diagnosis? In the sense that instead of something you've been diagnosed with previously being the explanation for your symptoms now doctors have realised it's actually ADHD?
It actually co-exists with my BPD, which is apparently quite common. I think I was misdiagnosed with depression and anxiety as a child - or perhaps not misdiagnosed so much as that they were the products of other things? A lot of ppl with ADHD are apparently diagnosed with anxiety or depression as kids. The BPD definitely masked things though, because it meant that really glaringly obvious ADHD symptoms were just presumed to be part of the BPD. xxx
@@ClaudiaBoleyn Because I also have mild autism/Asperger's some of my ADHD symptoms manifest somewhat atypically
@@Ben-vf5gk I've heard a lot of people say that. ADHD often co-exists with autism, doesn't it? Sometimes I think one thing gets lost within the other. I hope you're doing all right currently xxx
@@ClaudiaBoleyn Yeah, I've heard there's a correlation there.
I'm doing pretty good. Thank you!
how do you get assessed? is it through the nhs or private?
Can I ask how and where you got diagnosed I’m worried about the waiting now. Did you go privately?
I got diagnosed on the NHS. So I believe I asked for the assessment at some point last year? I can't be completely sure, but there was this massive gap where I assumed it had just been forgotten about, then out of nowhere they got in touch. I think the waiting list is pretty long. From other people I've heard they've had to wait a whole year. Mine wasn't as long as that, but maybe because of the covid situation they've got a backlog? I get the impression they're trying to catch up and I just got lucky with the timings. In terms of specifics, I just spoke to my GP and he asked me some things, and then I had to fill out a form some time ago - then I think I must have scored a certain amount of 'points' and that was when he referred me to the ADHD specialists xxx
@@ClaudiaBoleyn thank you so much for your advice lovely, I appreciate it, I’ve got BPD diagnosed myself as well as a few other mental health conditions however like your family mine to rejected teachers comments in my younger years due to my English grades. Your video spoke volumes. I am starting to feel that a severe portion of my issues are ADHD, not just BPD as I once thought, since moving into my own flat I’ve noticed things that just fall so in place with the symptoms I’ve researched almost like a Eureka type moment. Now I’m thinking maybe this is why every medication I’ve tried has been wrong, because to say I’ve gone through most of the antidepressant and antipsychotic and sedative medication my mental health team psychiatrists suggests none have drastically improved anything, I’m just worried GPS will turn around and say well it’s BPD or anxiety, rather than looking into it further, I’m so afraid of not being heard. I’m 26 and feel utterly hopeless and honestly knowing I’ve not been alone and understanding and empathising 100% with your last few videos has been helpful. I lost my best friend to suicide in April & was so scared I’d lose someone I’ve watched for years to the same result. I am so proud of you & I hope this new diagnosis will help in your path to the future you want. Thank you again ❤️🥰
excuse me what is adhd
It's Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. If you search ADHD here on RUclips there are some really great and accessible videos that explain it. They'll be better than me because I tend to ramble xxx
@@ClaudiaBoleyn Thankyou as ADHD comorbid with autism spectrum disorder. I Think impulsive behaviour where you cant slow down i think
Claudia, I think that instead of having ADHD you may be gifted.
You are smart and very sensitive. You used to do great at school. I am gifted and we often function by bursts of energy and creativity. We experience hyperexcitability, often confused with ADHD. Our brain works a bit differently and sometimes we just know things, though it is difficult for us to recall how or why. "Hyper focus" is an expression that describes us, as well. We find difficult to pay attention when something does not interests us. You may check it out, just in case.
I have been following you for years and have always felt identified with you. I admire your honesty and bravery, your ability to make beatiful art, your profound sensibility. Thank you for your company during all this time and for letting us see a glimpse of the marvelous person you are.
With love xxx