The 'Selfish' Years: Finding Yourself, Dealing With Fear & Building Intimate Relationships

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  • Опубликовано: 20 окт 2024

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  • @lizd6886
    @lizd6886 2 года назад +138

    I have a dream to see a TMS talk show + have Courtney and Renée on Forbes 30 under 30

    • @bangibabs
      @bangibabs 2 года назад +1

      Me too🥰🙏🏾🙌🏾 they are amazing

    • @zezezanotti9165
      @zezezanotti9165 2 года назад +4

      I was literally thinking the same thing before reading the comments❤️✨They Deserve it✨

    • @neema_
      @neema_ 2 года назад

      Ikr 🙌🏽

    • @bitchdontplaywitme4798
      @bitchdontplaywitme4798 2 года назад

      Same they deserve everything ❤️💕🫶🏾

    • @destnyluxurie
      @destnyluxurie 2 года назад +4

      Wow that’s amazing! See visions for others!

  • @sweetandsimple.
    @sweetandsimple. 2 года назад +82

    Courtney: You need to be willing to give parts of your heart to other people. You have to be vulnerable.
    Me: no. No. NO. NOOOOO!

    • @kianalaboriel6595
      @kianalaboriel6595 2 года назад +2

      LMAOOOOOOOOO felt this

    • @phathuasante
      @phathuasante 2 года назад

      😂😂😂

    • @miyane447
      @miyane447 2 года назад +1

      No cuz being vulnerable is something i’ll do with 1 person on 1.000.000 people and i STAY BY THAT

  • @lakynshaw4857
    @lakynshaw4857 2 года назад +26

    When she said, “I’m going to consider my own emotions and desires before I make a decision.” I had to stop what I was doing and write that down because I don’t think I’ve ever checked in with myself first. Pouring from an empty cup was normalized since childhood. Sending love to anyone else that is going through their selfishness journey! 😘❤️❤️

  • @ChimangoMwandira
    @ChimangoMwandira 2 года назад +17

    i struggle with giving from an empty pot 😢 .. i feel guilty when i don't help out sometimes , then i find myself in a deficit . but lately I've been trying to put myself first , for once bought something for myself and it helped boost my esteem . i was so proud of myself

  • @kuki1053
    @kuki1053 2 года назад +18

    I am unshackling myself from the bondage of perfectionism in Jesus name!!! LOL

    • @AudAkos
      @AudAkos 2 года назад

      Amen 🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @CandaceJDunkley
    @CandaceJDunkley 2 года назад +10

    "While. It's a good thing to give it's even better when you give with intention." I love the part about self-trust. It's such an important part of the moves we make in many areas of life. Great question from the sister and love the insight ladies!
    ~Candace

  • @deebestest100
    @deebestest100 2 года назад +5

    Commenting as I go! I haven’t been here for a while, hey guys!

  • @bangibabs
    @bangibabs 2 года назад +6

    Your discussions are always encouraging 💝🙏🏾 thank you ladies

  • @333pinacolada
    @333pinacolada 2 года назад +2

    Sooo true - what do I desire?
    Idk I’ve been living for and protecting my siblings for so long idk what my dreams are without considering someone else in that decision

  • @_Jarima_
    @_Jarima_ 2 года назад +4

    Clock work and it’s always a topic I need! I love it here!🤩♥️

  • @llorzz
    @llorzz 2 года назад +4

    this podcast has honestly become one of my Sunday staples🙌🏿🙌🏿
    Always look forward to getting that notif!

  • @EmaniMone
    @EmaniMone 2 года назад +1

    This episode was so hard to watch and listen to because I am the giver who continues to give until I have nothing. It’s something I have been actively working on and it’s so hard. Building boundaries and keeping them is so difficult. But thank you for the confirmation of what I already knew was true and the reassurance to keep going.

  • @billiont.1857
    @billiont.1857 Год назад

    I love every single one of your podcasts but I tell you this read me for absolute filth. WHEWWW chilayyyy! Like I am so afraid to confront these things about myself that I genuinely wanted to turn this off. Thank y’all for this work, thank y’all for opening something inside of me, I’m ready to change no matter how uncomfortable. 🪷

  • @Marvelous_M
    @Marvelous_M 2 года назад +6

    This came at the best time. ♥️

  • @Thatsjustkendra
    @Thatsjustkendra 2 года назад +1

    The TMS podcast is always exactly what I need ❤️

  • @xongilemasungwini2882
    @xongilemasungwini2882 2 года назад +1

    I literally just checked if there was an upload and then you uploaded immediately after!

  • @PaigeForbes242
    @PaigeForbes242 2 года назад +1

    This topic was so necessary and timely. Wow.

  • @queenkgr4413
    @queenkgr4413 2 года назад

    My new favorite podcast and RUclips channel! You’re killing it ladies and your videos are like a warm hug!! I love it here !!!

  • @ANa-qt7tt
    @ANa-qt7tt 2 года назад +1

    this was the best thing i've EVER watched in my life. you guys are so articulate, i aspire to be like you!

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters  2 года назад

      Made our day! Thank you so much ❤️

  • @kianalaboriel6595
    @kianalaboriel6595 2 года назад +5

    I am a new subscriber to your channel hi ❤
    Thank you for discussing about this topic and giving good advice on it Lmao this was something I needed to hear because right now this is the year where I have decided to put myself first and get rid of those that weren't beneficial for me. At first it was very difficult to make that big move because I thought that was a selfish move :( However, I realized that it is important to set boundaries and get rid of those that are not making you happy. Once I finally put my foot down, it really felt good to get rid of that big rock off my shoulders Lmao if that makes sense 😂
    Right now I am currently still trying to figure myself out and trying to get out my comfort zone (getting to know new people) but its hard because I still have some type of trust issues and some type of fear cause of the past traumatic events I have dealt with.

  • @cosmic_user
    @cosmic_user 2 года назад

    happy to be here. thank you, ladies.

  • @michellemolefi5191
    @michellemolefi5191 2 года назад +1

    Literally after work I'm here🥺❤

  • @sydney.josieee
    @sydney.josieee 2 года назад

    You guys are too good👏🏽👏🏽

  • @___Neona
    @___Neona 2 года назад +4

    Ooouuu Renee? Those curls sis 😍👌

  • @evdokiaam
    @evdokiaam Год назад

    wow, this video is a great help. some real enlightening and confronting shit right here. thank you.

  • @nomnesti
    @nomnesti 2 года назад

    Thank you for sharing this

  • @faithmzk
    @faithmzk 2 года назад +1

    Powerful

  • @audiannichealing
    @audiannichealing 2 года назад

    Wonderful

  • @krysiepredeoux
    @krysiepredeoux 2 года назад

    I feel guilty for expressing myself when I feel a way about things I am very self conscious. How do I stop this form of low self esteem

  • @HealASista
    @HealASista 2 года назад +2

    Whewwwwwwwwwwww If you don’t allow yourself to feel scared you’ll never do anything revolutionary WOOOOOWWWWWWW AW WORDDDDD HUNTY!

  • @xongilemasungwini2882
    @xongilemasungwini2882 2 года назад

    Just like that I am first!

  • @tandiweabigail1214
    @tandiweabigail1214 Год назад

    What won't fade is your regret😂

  • @leboganglebane8893
    @leboganglebane8893 2 года назад +2

    @33:25 Courtney why were you speaking directly to me 🥲