I'm so tired of people claiming harassment whenever another approaches them about something they owe. Just because you'd rather not hear about it, doesn't make it harassment!
Some people come into money and conveniently forget that they owe others money. My sister in law owed us over a grand and when she got a blessing she started flexing on social media and when she got called out on it she claimed she spent it all. We were never given a dime. Shameful when situations like these have to come to litigation but it’s the only way some people will learn 😢
@@teeshadixon2232he explained at the beginning that he spent his savings doing up their Mum's house so that when she sold it she got a good price. That is why they have that estate to begin with. They only lived together for a relatively short time, so although he was dating their Mum a long time he wasn't there 24/7 like a step father. It seems the Mum kept things separate until her youngest reached 18 and then decided it was her time now and sold her home to live with him. He carried on paying the daughters living expenses until he could no longer afford it financially, people his age don't have many years left in work to pay off debts like that. The estate is what is meant to pay for your funeral, unless you have a separate policy.
You are so right . She's a very shallow person and ungrateful. There's a lot of other questions we could ask about this situation such as why didn't her mother have a life insurance policy? Even though her mother had a relationship with this man he was not her husband and she is not her daughter. And after all is said and done she comes into $50,000 does not think that she needs to compensate this man for his kindness? How DESPICABLE and EVIL 😡
Contract or not if someone paying for my mama’s funeral I’m definitely paying that person back and will hold them in high respect for giving my mama a proper burial
Exactly. It’s the right thing to do, even if he never asked her for the money. He was there when she needed the money and is so ungrateful. He lost her mother, too. Disrespectful behavior!
JM is so tactful in being sympathetic, when in all honesty she wanted to tell them to grow up and stop playing victim: "I'm only 20 and he's harassing me" The defendants have to be responsible and realize there's a debt to pay especially after receiving a 50k estate.
But, that’s not like anything she said. I wouldn’t lay around with a man for 15 yrs that didn’t want to marry me and be responsible for me I responsible for him. I don’t understand why ppl play like that. I’m all of nothing. No matter what age I wouldn’t play. Especially if I am a women raising two girls. I do feel for the girls. I blame the mom for picking a guy who wouldn’t go the whole way with her and leaving the young girl to clean it all up.
@@aprilpinketon2567it sounded to me as though the Mum kept things separate until her youngest reached 18, rather than moving him in with them. I have a lot of respect for her for putting her children first like that.
The estate absolutely should pay for funeral costs, it's not your inheritance until all the final costs and expenses are dealt with. After that use the remainder however you want.
this is sad. this man paid for her mother’s funeral out of pocket and housed her completely for free despite being an adult and she can’t pay him back without being dragged to court? smh.
Is it just me or does she sound like she is talking in a softer voice to seem sweet, fair, and innocent, but probably in real life she doesnt sound like that?
The daughters should have given him the money out of the mother’s estate. That is what her estate was there for, to cover her final resting costs. I don’t think the mother would’ve wanted him to be burdened for all those years paying a credit card bill because of her. It sounds like the daughters were just being selfish and wanted the $50k for themselves.
There should have been a separate burial plan or life insurance policy to cover the funeral. If he had ever married her (after 2 decades of being a couple), it would be expected that he, as her husband, paid for the funeral. Period.
@@chevysmith6723I think you’re missing that if he had married her, the estate would have gone to him and not the children. He would have obviously used the estate to pay for the funeral costs. That’s what usually happens; as the judge said, funeral expenses usually come out of the estate.
@@chevysmith6723burial costs come out of the estate. That’s the purpose of a will and absent one, the estate may go through probate to first ensure all remaining debts are settled and then distributed as appropriate by law
He explained at the beginning that when they decided to live together he put his savings into doing up her home so that she would get a good price for it. That is the only reason they have that estate. He carried on paying for the 19 year old until he literally couldn't afford to anymore. The estate is meant to cover any expenses owed first and then what is left is the inheritance.
She is being irresponsible. She lived for free and she did not like his tone. Entitled. Good for him for not allowing himself to be taken advantage of. Daughter disrespected her own mothers memory by being selfish. He was obviously a good enough man for her mom for ~20 yeras. This daughter inherets part of $50k and does not want to give this good man a dime. He is grieving too. She has her whole life to live- he is likely retired and every dime counts. Shameful on her part. Over the years he likely gave her much more too- treated her like a daughter. She is very cold towards him.
whats sickening to me is he was enaggaed to their mother for 3 yrs and had been her man for 15 years and yet he Contributed ZERO TO HER FUNERAL..NIOTHING. yes he loaned them money but he wanted every dime back. that man has no morals. most people if its your loved one or partner in life you would poay something. he could have said yal paid me back almost 4,000 so i'll let the 2,000 go as my contribution to the woman i loved funeral instead of taking her teenagers to ciurt. judge million said morally he should have paid something its horrible that he wont but i cant make him. you call him a good man..geez he couldnt even help bury hsi woman
@@luv4ever101 If what you say is true- you have a point but it sounds like she was freeloading and the funeral was just the tip of her entitled iceberg. I bet he raised and paid for her since she was 5- like she said. Neither of us really knows. I say good for him- too many men are suckers. She wanted to live for free and not pay a dime for anything. I have a problem with that. He is likely retired and broke and she is sitting on $50k. Do you rely on a man to fund your life too? You seem to be projecting just a bit.
@@luv4ever101in all reality I would just be very Frank with this statement just because he was engaged to her doesn't mean he has to put down a dime of his money he still loan the money it doesn't matter if he got that money back that still shows the kindness of his heart if someone still loves you money that shows a lot including if you don't know if that person still needs their money back regardless to pay bills or whatever that's another thing third of all she still has family and her family is supposed to pay if she is not married to nobody she was not married to that man yet therefore her family pays for her stuff they did not do that he did he made donations he been raising that girl she wasn't getting no rent to him and you want to come after him no I'm not having that because in my head that that's a bad image of your personality
@@MOAB-UT sounded like her mom was the person who paid for everything in their relationship. when he did do something for the mom he made an itemized list for even minor stuff like putting 420 gas in the car. yes he made the list cuz the daughter knew he was freeloading so he actually made a list. IF IN 15 YRS U CAN RECALL EACHG TIME U PUT 2 bucks in the car and it fits in one paragraph that tells u who had the money. so th emom raised and paid for her kids. but the fact that he was there for 15 yrs and then suddenly wants to charge the teens is horrific. who does that? . hes a loser and jerk thats what the judge basically said so but then told her legally he can be a jerk. judge was saying that and looking at him cuz she wanted to see if he had a heart or would donate at least something to the funeral of the women he was with for 15 yrs. judge does that sometimes and the person wud sometimes say "im gonna drop that part of the suit". not this guy. if u noticed the man kept saying i helped her by getting her to sell her house etc. it was all about her money. he made the mom move in cuz he knew there wud be a payout but she ended up dying. i cant imagine being with someone like him who wudnt help my teens i mean at least donate a few hundred. if it were the other way around i wud help his kids pay, not loan but help pay.
@@luv4ever101 I picked up on that too- her money but if he was really that bad, why did she stick around him all that time? There are usually 3 sides to every story- his, the mothers and the daughters. They all seem like mostly decent people but these two both seem cheap. Daughter was trying to freeload- sorry. She is not his daughter- he does not owe her anything technically. No- he is not a generous type but that is not a crime which is why the judge had to technically side with him- even if she did not like him. He is not very likeable but she also needs to grow up and pay her own way in life. Over the years I am sure he paid for a lot of her stuff. In 15 years he only wants costs for a funeral that she promised at the time to pay for...and she is sitting on $50k. I am more on his side- sorry. You probably relate more to her. Do you have people pay for you- is that what love means to you? Learn to pay your own way- over time, he will get tired of it, trust me. It never ends well. You need to develop your own skills and earn a living as a strong, independant woman...or not. It's your life but I am older and know how things go.
The defendants need to realize that they were an extension of their mother and now that she is gone that man has no obligation to take care of them regardless of 15 days or years men prefer to start their own families
I’ve been married to my husband 13 and together 15yrs. I had a daughter in a prior relationship. I was very young. The difference here is I married and my husband has raised (my) our daughter with me as his daughter and with our children together all as one. Women need to stop laying with men for 15 yrs with no real commitment. Especially a mother raising two daughters! I think it’s shitty all around, but the mom let this happen.
The mum was lucky that the guy took her on with her illness, then he took on her kids. Here is a case where neither the mum nor kids brought anything to the table. This is how good guys get treated all over the world. I am not interested in any woman, unless she can reciprocate with things of equal value.
In other words, the daughter saw the inheritance money and got greedy. Decided she wanted all the money for herself and stuck the funeral costs on someone else.
First at 19 she us an adult and absolutely has a choice where to live. It is disgustingly entitled to think a child should not have to pay partly for a parent's funeral and discustingly entitled to think she doesn't have to re-pay him
They didn't want to pay for the funeral expenses, nor did they want to pay RENT! They wanted to keep all the money which is fine but you'd still have to pay for the funeral expenses! They should have relocation after her passing if they didn't like him.
Getting sick of these 19 year olds these days who are too young to be financially responsible yet old enough to have an abortion, smoke, have tattoos, have a sex change operation, etc. Being an adult works BOTH ways. Talking like a baby does not make you one in the eyes of the court.
Why would she still want to live with him after her mother died?! Furthermore why would you not pay that man back out of her mothers estate?! What a brat.
@@amal8631if you listen to 5:13 it sounds like her mother moved in with him when she was 19, not that she lived with him her whole life. At the beginning of the video he also mentions that she moved in with him and it sounds more recent than that they were cohabitating since the girl was 5.
I love these types of cases. I always take them as an educational practice for myself and others. Let's really take a second to think things through. I saw a lot of comments about the girls being selfish or that the plaintiff (fiancee) was in the wrong to sue the girls. What we need to focus on is that the deceased and the plaintiff were together for 15 years engaged for 3 years. BUT NOT MARRIED! This was the biggest issue. The plaintiff probably already took financial hits due to his partner being on dialysis and unable to work. Yes there is an estate but it was never clarified to the young girls what it should be used for. They think it should be used to start their life. I actually can see how they think that since in movies and TV shows that's how it is viewed, however the debt that the deceased does incur the estate should pay for. This is why conversations, paperwork etc need to be in place at all times. The girls should have been aware prior too what happens if anything were to happen to her mom. You really never know when it's your time. We can say it's a moral right but he may have kids of his own and bills for them. If we play house, these types of things will happen. I don't care if you have $1000k in the bank. A simple conversation with your kids and proper paperwork will help your loved ones deal with expenses and drama that may incur.
It's crazy how the daughters don't think it's their responsibility to cover funeral costs for their mother. It's not unreasonable for him to want at least 1/2 after getting $50,000. It's embarrassing how she wants to act like an adult bc she's getting an estate but for certain things she wants to act like a kid. Buying a guy with the $$$ is a dumb idea. She could have put down on an apartment and go live alone.
They were not married. It is the family's responsibility to bury their loved ones. This defendant needs to learn a few important lessons in life and stop being so greedy!
Whether she agreed to pay or not doesn’t make a difference . The deceased funeral expenses comes out of that estate - and it is not right for anyone to steal from it an use it for themselves . Even if a person is in desperate circumstances.
Exactly!! I just don’t understand how people can “ date “ that long . If they were married the daughter wouldn’t have got a dime . That marriage license carries A LOT of weight !!! I’ve saw people that have built a life together then when one dies they walk away with nothing !!
It seems to me that the mum likely kept things separate until her youngest hit 18 as that was when they decided to live together. He said he used his savings to do up her house so that she could get a good price when it was sold. So it seems he was the patient one waiting for her children to be grown so they could be together.
She full of crap! It’s giving selfish. If anyone helped me with my d3ad mother stuff I’m thankful…. Girl y’all got 50K pay that man back his 6K in full that’s nothing. She’s a little entitled also that’s not your Dad him letting your grown self stay in his house was enough then you think you gone stay rent & bill free girl you can’t even do that with your dad or his side of the family! What ever this man do for you is a blessing you and him share no blood relation.
I agree with the ruling. Maybe if there wasnt an estate involved to pay final expenses and he seems like he is in a deep financial hole that's why he is asking, plus they already paid half.
Not to make light of the Mom's death at all, but by that age, if you're working at all & living in someone else's home, you should be helping with bills. My brothers & I were paying a little with each paycheck we got through our summer jobs during our high school years. Our Parents weren't rich, & were trying their best to make ends meet while the 4 of us were growing up. And we didn't see any harm in helping. I believe that is part of good life/work ethics.
When me and my sister were teenagers and we both got jobs in a fast food place, we gave my parents 10% of our paychecks. Our parents just wanted to teach us responsibilities, and now that I look back on it, I am thankful. Not to say that parents who don’t do that are bad parents, every families dynamic are different.
Her age is no excuse for not being a responsible adult. Someone should not have to bring you to court to settle your mom's estate smh that's just so tacky
Young generation thinks everyone else are obligated to pay for everything for them, and everything demanded of them is harassment. Usually the children have to pay for the funeral of the estate money. He was not married to her mother. Living rent free, grow up girl
She is young. That’s how they act. No sense of responsibility yet. But daughter said something that caught my attention. She said they are together. So the burden should be on him and not the kids. So I wonder if she feels that way about her moms belongings. Since they are together should he be the one who receives what she left behind. Of course daughter would say no.
She wrong. You live in his house rent free recieved money from your mother and feel you shouldn't have to give the money back. She made out and said F you.
Facts him and her mom dated not married, she got 50k and still had outstanding bills out here and she didn’t want to pay him because she feel she didnt had to it’s sad but the real thing is he want his money back just pay the man and leave it as that
I’m only 19? I’m surprised the judge thinks he may morally have to pay for the funeral surprised me. I don’t think he harassed her, she just didn’t like the message. He kept her living there for free and there’s zero gratitude or care for him who loved her mother for over 15 years
Remember when 19 year olds were storming the beaches at Normandy. This one can't seem to wash her own arse, even if provided with a wash cloth, soap, and a map.
Marriage is more than just a piece of paper. Had they legalized their relationship in matrimony this would not be an issue. People really need to think about these things when they decide to partner up for life, be engaged forever, and not marry… especially with children involved.
Imagine how hard it was for him to have to sue the daughters of his fiancé. Surely, he cared about not only their mother but also them, considering he let the younger daughter live with him for free. If he put these expenses on his credit card and let it accumulate interest, it’s because he obviously couldn’t afford to pay out of pocket any more than the daughters could. Help the man out like he helped you!
The defendant is manipulative, and entitled. The estate is responsible for funeral expenses. He was never married to the defendant’s mother. What a terrible young woman for treating a man who has been in her life for so long in this way. What goes around definitely comes around. Shame on her.
I’d think the inheritance should go towards the funeral. He’s hurting financially and probably wouldn’t hound her like he did if she wasn’t getting an inheritance. He should’ve married the lady instead of playing house then he would’ve gotten some of her inheritance. I probably would’ve given him some
You're with someone for 15 years, engaged for 3 and living together... I understand there's no legal obligation but geez, seems reasonable he'd cover some of the funeral costs.
You do understand that the estate funds should be covering all funeral cost and whatever is left over should be split between the family…so technically no one had to pay for the funeral and he should’ve gotten some of that 50K for being with that woman for so long but they weren’t married so he gets nothing
He made the gesture to pay for the funeral with the agreement that he would get paid back when the estate settled. He was under no obligationan to do so. The daughter received $50K from the estate, and feels no obligation to pay the balance. That's pure entitlement.
Deplorable?! What?! I think the fact that the judge called him deplorable because he was trying to get his money back is a little triggering for me. if the man is not rich and he needs the money to make ends meet, what is so deplorable about that? It's her own mother's funeral, and she believes she should pay absolutely nothing towards it? but be able to pocket all the money that was left behind? Is it me, or is the judge showing bias in this case?
Every time I have paid for a funeral for a family menber, it took years to get them to pay back their portion of the cost. I usually get critizism the funeral was "too cheap", not enough flowers, I did not rent a limo for the family. None of the dead persons friends showed up because "the funeral was out of their way". I was told to NOT handle the funeral arrangement by several family menbers who did not like the way I did it. When those people died, I had to arrange for the funeral and pay for their burial. They died broke.
I don’t agree with the judge being sympathetic to the girls but the man who’ve been with this lady for even longer than they were born even as friends lost his partner. So to completely disregard his feelings is distasteful.
Was there not some investment from the mother selling the house? Seems like he should have paid something for the funeral services. 15 years is a long time to be with someone and not feel responsible for some part of their life.
That wasn't his children or was he married their mother to be legally responsible so for them two adult girls to not pay for their own mothers funeral with the estate after is just unappreciative and selfish.
Its always harrassmemt when you have to pay someone back but what is it called when you coming to that same person for some help. People will give the saddest story that they need x y and z but when its time to pay....stop harassing me!!! Makes me sick. That would be the first thing i do if i had the money to pay that person back. Its called appreciation!
Wow!!! What a crappy cold hearted daughter to say she don't feel contributing to her Mothers funeral services!! Once she seen that money she wanted to Peace Out! This man is absolutely NO RELATION to her and owes her NOTHING!!
I believe the defendant is a manipulative liar. The soft voice is questionable too. The judge was out of line for how she sided with the defendant's based on emotions.
He may be their father but not married to the mother. The grandmother may not have wanted the girls to live with her, especially if she didn't get any money.
I think she is using the estate $ to pay for the apartment that she now has. Which is sad because if she just gave the $ she would have been there rent free at least for a couple more months
Young generations feel they are entitled. This is why it is so important to have insurance plus a WILL or Trust So sad for these young ladies. The information about her mother's demise was heartbreaking but could happen to any of us. Blood thinners are not always good. If you get insurance or inherited money at least pay the funeral expenses. many families get duped thinking there is insurance or savings or cash. The mother probably didn't think her boyfriend would have to help with expenses. so many things can happen to insurance money. People really should educate themselves on executors of their assets If a family can't pay for a funeral the state will pay. Social security pays a stipen. Why did it take so long for the mother and. Boy friend to plan to get married. it does seem strange the mother passed after she sold her home.
I have had to pay funeral expenses for many relatives who had insurance but not enough. Family members do not help or pay back so always get a contract or promissory note and have it notarized. The funeral directors are notary republics. Cremation is also expensive. I am not having a funeral just a grave side brief service. Too much drama and expenses for the family. I just have a realistic approach to death. These young ladies were hit with an unexpected bolder. The plantif knew every detail about the death and the daughters said very little. Strange. They were both old enough not to live with their mother and should have gone with the grandparents. 19 years the plantif was in the life of the defendant's mother then when they decided to live together the mother dies. I believe the defendant. They could have had a funeral for the exact amount of insurance, or less. The embalming and casket and burial site are the most expensive. It is all the extras that cost. Now there are laws that protect families so funeral directors can't charge outrageous prices the average BASIC funeral is$10,000.00 AND THAT IS NO EXTRA FRILLS. FAMILY AND RELATIVES COME TO SEE WHAT THEY ARE GOING TO GET. I DARE SAY THE PLANTIF HAD HIS OWN POLICY AND PROBABLY HAS ONE ON EACH GIRL. WAS HE THEIR FATHER I do believe he harassed the defendant, but he didn't have to volunteer to pay expenses they could have had a basic funeral. I dare say the mother felt she had adequate coverage and wanted her daughters to have something. She may have also felt the daughters would help the grandmother Love dies quickly when money is involved and family can be leeches. Writing from experience
Most 19 year olds are not mature enough to handle planning a funeral and if they get any money. Rarely know how to handle or invest it. They will go through money so fast If they had. $50k insurance policy no excuse not to pay funeral expenses.
Or a different way u could look at it is, she didn’t love him enough to put him in her will to leave him any money from her estate, yet her daughter who got it was so selfish that she couldn’t even pay a little towards her own mothers funeral cost.
Does her greedy entitled attitude surprise anyone? Come on judge, stop being so nice to her. He has every right to bug the crap out of you until he gets what he's owed. Grow up and pay the man.
I'm so tired of people claiming harassment whenever another approaches them about something they owe. Just because you'd rather not hear about it, doesn't make it harassment!
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Exactly!!! It’s so irritating hearing defendants cry… about being harassed!
Absolutely!
I would be pissed too.
Shes an adult not a child.
I think he would've called her out on it.
Yes you are absolutely right
Am I the only one who thinks it's selfish that she received $50k from the estate and didn't feel that she should even pay half of the funeral costs?
i do think they could have gone at least half on his credit card bill
Some people come into money and conveniently forget that they owe others money. My sister in law owed us over a grand and when she got a blessing she started flexing on social media and when she got called out on it she claimed she spent it all. We were never given a dime. Shameful when situations like these have to come to litigation but it’s the only way some people will learn 😢
I mean technically she did give him half of the funeral costs when she gave him the $3500.
No, you’re not
Where did they say she got that much at
She is delusional. You're living with the man for free you cant give $6,000 for your mothers funeral. Thats pitiful
She is! Let’s be clear, he’s not your father
He was with her mother for years!!! He was like their stepfather!!! He couldn’t pay $3100?? I call BS
@@teeshadixon2232he explained at the beginning that he spent his savings doing up their Mum's house so that when she sold it she got a good price. That is why they have that estate to begin with. They only lived together for a relatively short time, so although he was dating their Mum a long time he wasn't there 24/7 like a step father. It seems the Mum kept things separate until her youngest reached 18 and then decided it was her time now and sold her home to live with him. He carried on paying the daughters living expenses until he could no longer afford it financially, people his age don't have many years left in work to pay off debts like that. The estate is what is meant to pay for your funeral, unless you have a separate policy.
The defendant is such a liar. Out of $50,000 she couldn't pay back $6,000....?
She knows she agreed to pay him back. She lacks character. Youth is no excuse for lying and refusing to own up to what you promised.
You nailed it. Poor character.
100%
Especially since she basically admitted afterwards
You are so right . She's a very shallow person and ungrateful. There's a lot of other questions we could ask about this situation such as why didn't her mother have a life insurance policy?
Even though her mother had a relationship with this man he was not her husband and she is not her daughter.
And after all is said and done she comes into $50,000 does not think that she needs to compensate this man for his kindness?
How DESPICABLE and EVIL 😡
I Agree
Contract or not if someone paying for my mama’s funeral I’m definitely paying that person back and will hold them in high respect for giving my mama a proper burial
Exactly. It’s the right thing to do, even if he never asked her for the money. He was there when she needed the money and is so ungrateful. He lost her mother, too. Disrespectful behavior!
@@daynasafranek7807 facts
“My mom would want me to use the inheritance? to build my life” Girl pay your bill.
Her mom would be ashamed how selfish the daughter is.... When she ain't anything special.
Yes building your life is paying your debts, getting a job and starting living your life stop living off that guy mom was engaged to!
Your mother. Your mother's funeral
There's money in the inheritance...
Everyone is watching this ...
And know that you have no morals
JM is so tactful in being sympathetic, when in all honesty she wanted to tell them to grow up and stop playing victim: "I'm only 20 and he's harassing me" The defendants have to be responsible and realize there's a debt to pay especially after receiving a 50k estate.
But, that’s not like anything she said. I wouldn’t lay around with a man for 15 yrs that didn’t want to marry me and be responsible for me I responsible for him. I don’t understand why ppl play like that. I’m all of nothing. No matter what age I wouldn’t play. Especially if I am a women raising two girls. I do feel for the girls. I blame the mom for picking a guy who wouldn’t go the whole way with her and leaving the young girl to clean it all up.
@@aprilpinketon2567it sounded to me as though the Mum kept things separate until her youngest reached 18, rather than moving him in with them. I have a lot of respect for her for putting her children first like that.
The estate absolutely should pay for funeral costs, it's not your inheritance until all the final costs and expenses are dealt with. After that use the remainder however you want.
The vultures come out when there's a dead person.
Her, fake voice.😊Doesn't fool me. She wants that money.
I’m sorry, but you can’t say “I didn’t choose to live with him. I was 19”. You’re an adult at 18. No one forced you to live with him & your mom.
this is sad. this man paid for her mother’s funeral out of pocket and housed her completely for free despite being an adult and she can’t pay him back without being dragged to court? smh.
Is it just me or does she sound like she is talking in a softer voice to seem sweet, fair, and innocent, but probably in real life she doesnt sound like that?
I don’t think so because her voice didn’t change when she spoke to Doug
I agree !!!!!
Right!!!
Is it because she's fat or because she's black that you don't think her sweet voice is real? Your statement says more about you than her.
Omg I was thinking the same thing!!! Talking soft for sympathy...
The daughters should have given him the money out of the mother’s estate. That is what her estate was there for, to cover her final resting costs. I don’t think the mother would’ve wanted him to be burdened for all those years paying a credit card bill because of her. It sounds like the daughters were just being selfish and wanted the $50k for themselves.
yes
There should have been a separate burial plan or life insurance policy to cover the funeral. If he had ever married her (after 2 decades of being a couple), it would be expected that he, as her husband, paid for the funeral. Period.
@@chevysmith6723I think you’re missing that if he had married her, the estate would have gone to him and not the children. He would have obviously used the estate to pay for the funeral costs. That’s what usually happens; as the judge said, funeral expenses usually come out of the estate.
@@chevysmith6723burial costs come out of the estate. That’s the purpose of a will and absent one, the estate may go through probate to first ensure all remaining debts are settled and then distributed as appropriate by law
He explained at the beginning that when they decided to live together he put his savings into doing up her home so that she would get a good price for it. That is the only reason they have that estate. He carried on paying for the 19 year old until he literally couldn't afford to anymore. The estate is meant to cover any expenses owed first and then what is left is the inheritance.
This is another reason why you can’t help people out…
He is not her father. Why does she think he should support her.
She is being irresponsible. She lived for free and she did not like his tone. Entitled. Good for him for not allowing himself to be taken advantage of. Daughter disrespected her own mothers memory by being selfish. He was obviously a good enough man for her mom for ~20 yeras. This daughter inherets part of $50k and does not want to give this good man a dime. He is grieving too. She has her whole life to live- he is likely retired and every dime counts. Shameful on her part. Over the years he likely gave her much more too- treated her like a daughter. She is very cold towards him.
whats sickening to me is he was enaggaed to their mother for 3 yrs and had been her man for 15 years and yet he Contributed ZERO TO HER FUNERAL..NIOTHING. yes he loaned them money but he wanted every dime back. that man has no morals. most people if its your loved one or partner in life you would poay something. he could have said yal paid me back almost 4,000 so i'll let the 2,000 go as my contribution to the woman i loved funeral instead of taking her teenagers to ciurt. judge million said morally he should have paid something its horrible that he wont but i cant make him. you call him a good man..geez he couldnt even help bury hsi woman
@@luv4ever101 If what you say is true- you have a point but it sounds like she was freeloading and the funeral was just the tip of her entitled iceberg. I bet he raised and paid for her since she was 5- like she said. Neither of us really knows. I say good for him- too many men are suckers. She wanted to live for free and not pay a dime for anything. I have a problem with that. He is likely retired and broke and she is sitting on $50k. Do you rely on a man to fund your life too? You seem to be projecting just a bit.
@@luv4ever101in all reality I would just be very Frank with this statement just because he was engaged to her doesn't mean he has to put down a dime of his money he still loan the money it doesn't matter if he got that money back that still shows the kindness of his heart if someone still loves you money that shows a lot including if you don't know if that person still needs their money back regardless to pay bills or whatever that's another thing third of all she still has family and her family is supposed to pay if she is not married to nobody she was not married to that man yet therefore her family pays for her stuff they did not do that he did he made donations he been raising that girl she wasn't getting no rent to him and you want to come after him no I'm not having that because in my head that that's a bad image of your personality
@@MOAB-UT sounded like her mom was the person who paid for everything in their relationship. when he did do something for the mom he made an itemized list for even minor stuff like putting 420 gas in the car. yes he made the list cuz the daughter knew he was freeloading so he actually made a list. IF IN 15 YRS U CAN RECALL EACHG TIME U PUT 2 bucks in the car and it fits in one paragraph that tells u who had the money. so th emom raised and paid for her kids. but the fact that he was there for 15 yrs and then suddenly wants to charge the teens is horrific. who does that? . hes a loser and jerk thats what the judge basically said so but then told her legally he can be a jerk. judge was saying that and looking at him cuz she wanted to see if he had a heart or would donate at least something to the funeral of the women he was with for 15 yrs. judge does that sometimes and the person wud sometimes say "im gonna drop that part of the suit". not this guy. if u noticed the man kept saying i helped her by getting her to sell her house etc. it was all about her money. he made the mom move in cuz he knew there wud be a payout but she ended up dying. i cant imagine being with someone like him who wudnt help my teens i mean at least donate a few hundred. if it were the other way around i wud help his kids pay, not loan but help pay.
@@luv4ever101 I picked up on that too- her money but if he was really that bad, why did she stick around him all that time? There are usually 3 sides to every story- his, the mothers and the daughters. They all seem like mostly decent people but these two both seem cheap. Daughter was trying to freeload- sorry. She is not his daughter- he does not owe her anything technically. No- he is not a generous type but that is not a crime which is why the judge had to technically side with him- even if she did not like him. He is not very likeable but she also needs to grow up and pay her own way in life. Over the years I am sure he paid for a lot of her stuff. In 15 years he only wants costs for a funeral that she promised at the time to pay for...and she is sitting on $50k. I am more on his side- sorry.
You probably relate more to her. Do you have people pay for you- is that what love means to you? Learn to pay your own way- over time, he will get tired of it, trust me. It never ends well. You need to develop your own skills and earn a living as a strong, independant woman...or not. It's your life but I am older and know how things go.
I really hate the fact that this gentleman was made to feel guilty for wanting his money back! You got 50k and didn’t even care to pay him back. SMH
The defendants need to realize that they were an extension of their mother and now that she is gone that man has no obligation to take care of them regardless of 15 days or years men prefer to start their own families
I’ve been married to my husband 13 and together 15yrs. I had a daughter in a prior relationship. I was very young. The difference here is I married and my husband has raised (my) our daughter with me as his daughter and with our children together all as one. Women need to stop laying with men for 15 yrs with no real commitment. Especially a mother raising two daughters! I think it’s shitty all around, but the mom let this happen.
The mum was lucky that the guy took her on with her illness, then he took on her kids. Here is a case where neither the mum nor kids brought anything to the table. This is how good guys get treated all over the world. I am not interested in any woman, unless she can reciprocate with things of equal value.
@@naturalanimals8902 I’m sure you can find a good man
The Defendant thinks if she talks in that little voice she’ll receive sympathy
The audacity of the defendant. Nothing in life is free. Her mom should have had everything legally written up. She was 19, not a baby.
This one hits home and brings up fresh, painful memories. Family members lose their moral compass when it comes to death and inheritance.
Unfortunately, you are 100% correct.
Exactly!!!
So true and so sad and disappointing
Thankfully not in my family, I have seen it in others though and it is very sad to have people arguing instead of mourning.
In other words, the daughter saw the inheritance money and got greedy. Decided she wanted all the money for herself and stuck the funeral costs on someone else.
First at 19 she us an adult and absolutely has a choice where to live. It is disgustingly entitled to think a child should not have to pay partly for a parent's funeral and discustingly entitled to think she doesn't have to re-pay him
Defendant -- "I want to be treated like an adult except when it benefits me to claim that I am only 19."
That girl needs to grow up, especially now that her mother is gone.
They didn't want to pay for the funeral expenses, nor did they want to pay RENT! They wanted to keep all the money which is fine but you'd still have to pay for the funeral expenses! They should have relocation after her passing if they didn't like him.
It’s her tryna baby talk for me .. CHILE PLEASE !! 🙄🙄 this is a good example of people using what they going thru for sympathy to get by
They were so lucky that he helped sell their mother's home right before she died. I'm sure he paid for closing cost, etc.... They used him.
Getting sick of these 19 year olds these days who are too young to be financially responsible yet old enough to have an abortion, smoke, have tattoos, have a sex change operation, etc. Being an adult works BOTH ways. Talking like a baby does not make you one in the eyes of the court.
Good Comment
Why would she still want to live with him after her mother died?! Furthermore why would you not pay that man back out of her mothers estate?! What a brat.
Because she lived with him since she 5 years old and he pretty much raised her, maybe that’s why.
@@amal8631ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm that doesn’t excuse you from your debts…I would never skip out on a loan to my mom or dad “because they raised me” 🤦
Because she wasn't paying rent.
@@amal8631if you listen to 5:13 it sounds like her mother moved in with him when she was 19, not that she lived with him her whole life. At the beginning of the video he also mentions that she moved in with him and it sounds more recent than that they were cohabitating since the girl was 5.
Step dad basically dad HELLLOOO
She has to learn to grow up . That’s all and this is a reality check that she needed .
I love these types of cases. I always take them as an educational practice for myself and others. Let's really take a second to think things through. I saw a lot of comments about the girls being selfish or that the plaintiff (fiancee) was in the wrong to sue the girls.
What we need to focus on is that the deceased and the plaintiff were together for 15 years engaged for 3 years. BUT NOT MARRIED! This was the biggest issue. The plaintiff probably already took financial hits due to his partner being on dialysis and unable to work. Yes there is an estate but it was never clarified to the young girls what it should be used for. They think it should be used to start their life. I actually can see how they think that since in movies and TV shows that's how it is viewed, however the debt that the deceased does incur the estate should pay for. This is why conversations, paperwork etc need to be in place at all times. The girls should have been aware prior too what happens if anything were to happen to her mom. You really never know when it's your time. We can say it's a moral right but he may have kids of his own and bills for them.
If we play house, these types of things will happen. I don't care if you have $1000k in the bank. A simple conversation with your kids and proper paperwork will help your loved ones deal with expenses and drama that may incur.
It's crazy how the daughters don't think it's their responsibility to cover funeral costs for their mother. It's not unreasonable for him to want at least 1/2 after getting $50,000. It's embarrassing how she wants to act like an adult bc she's getting an estate but for certain things she wants to act like a kid. Buying a guy with the $$$ is a dumb idea. She could have put down on an apartment and go live alone.
They were not married. It is the family's responsibility to bury their loved ones. This defendant needs to learn a few important lessons in life and stop being so greedy!
Whether she agreed to pay or not doesn’t make a difference . The deceased funeral expenses comes out of that estate - and it is not right for anyone to steal from it an use it for themselves . Even if a person is in desperate circumstances.
$20 says they spent that money already LOL
“Dating” for *FIFTEEN* years? That’s not dating. Engaged for a THREE years? Wild.
Exactly!!
I just don’t understand how people can “ date “ that long .
If they were married the daughter wouldn’t have got a dime . That marriage license carries A LOT of weight !!! I’ve saw people that have built a life together then when one dies they walk away with nothing !!
It seems to me that the mum likely kept things separate until her youngest hit 18 as that was when they decided to live together. He said he used his savings to do up her house so that she could get a good price when it was sold. So it seems he was the patient one waiting for her children to be grown so they could be together.
She full of crap! It’s giving selfish. If anyone helped me with my d3ad mother stuff I’m thankful…. Girl y’all got 50K pay that man back his 6K in full that’s nothing. She’s a little entitled also that’s not your Dad him letting your grown self stay in his house was enough then you think you gone stay rent & bill free girl you can’t even do that with your dad or his side of the family! What ever this man do for you is a blessing you and him share no blood relation.
I agree with the ruling. Maybe if there wasnt an estate involved to pay final expenses and he seems like he is in a deep financial hole that's why he is asking, plus they already paid half.
Very selfish!! That is mother!!
Not to make light of the Mom's death at all, but by that age, if you're working at all & living in someone else's home, you should be helping with bills. My brothers & I were paying a little with each paycheck we got through our summer jobs during our high school years. Our Parents weren't rich, & were trying their best to make ends meet while the 4 of us were growing up. And we didn't see any harm in helping. I believe that is part of good life/work ethics.
Never let a woman move into your house and never lend a woman money.
That's up to the parents/homeowners if they want to charge their kids rent.
Right I live with my mom I pay 250 in rent plus the internet
When me and my sister were teenagers and we both got jobs in a fast food place, we gave my parents 10% of our paychecks. Our parents just wanted to teach us responsibilities, and now that I look back on it, I am thankful. Not to say that parents who don’t do that are bad parents, every families dynamic are different.
Wow my mom died at age 52 and I was 19 and had a step father - such a similar situation minus the lawsuit
Her age is no excuse for not being a responsible adult. Someone should not have to bring you to court to settle your mom's estate smh that's just so tacky
Money and love shouldn't mix but sometimes we hope the person that truly loves us would be willing to pay whatever it takes on our behalf.
Young generation thinks everyone else are obligated to pay for everything for them, and everything demanded of them is harassment. Usually the children have to pay for the funeral of the estate money. He was not married to her mother. Living rent free, grow up girl
She is young. That’s how they act. No sense of responsibility yet. But daughter said something that caught my attention. She said they are together. So the burden should be on him and not the kids. So I wonder if she feels that way about her moms belongings. Since they are together should he be the one who receives what she left behind. Of course daughter would say no.
She wrong. You live in his house rent free recieved money from your mother and feel you shouldn't have to give the money back. She made out and said F you.
15 year relationship, then a three year “engagement”. Now there’s a strong commitment. Not.
He has such a nice calm voice
Facts him and her mom dated not married, she got 50k and still had outstanding bills out here and she didn’t want to pay him because she feel she didnt had to it’s sad but the real thing is he want his money back just pay the man and leave it as that
I’m only 19? I’m surprised the judge thinks he may morally have to pay for the funeral surprised me. I don’t think he harassed her, she just didn’t like the message. He kept her living there for free and there’s zero gratitude or care for him who loved her mother for over 15 years
This kids will end up on welfare system
Remember when 19 year olds were storming the beaches at Normandy.
This one can't seem to wash her own arse, even if provided with a wash cloth, soap, and a map.
Exactly!!!
Defendant looks tacky… with that tattoo across her chest! 🤷♀️
And those 19 yr olds shouldn’t have stormed beaches
This younger generation are a bunch of entitled cream puffs
"Remember when 19 year olds were storming the beaches at Normandy" ...now they're storming the buffet at Golden Corral.
Think it's disrespectful that they didn't pay for funeral out of estate. They are not even grateful, he helped them out. Very sad 😔
She should've paid for everything. The mother had a estate.
Marriage is more than just a piece of paper. Had they legalized their relationship in matrimony this would not be an issue. People really need to think about these things when they decide to partner up for life, be engaged forever, and not marry… especially with children involved.
Lol that is not her real voice. She's doing her best to sound innocent and child-like to get sympathy.
Exactly…. And, the judge is falling for it!
This is precisely all I could focus on and it is infuriating! 😡
Us women can see it & know better. That’s exactly what I thought listening to her pity plea.
Imagine how hard it was for him to have to sue the daughters of his fiancé. Surely, he cared about not only their mother but also them, considering he let the younger daughter live with him for free. If he put these expenses on his credit card and let it accumulate interest, it’s because he obviously couldn’t afford to pay out of pocket any more than the daughters could. Help the man out like he helped you!
He was with the mother for 15 years and engaged for 3. They basically common law married.
There are no common law marriages anymore.
The defendant is manipulative, and entitled. The estate is responsible for funeral expenses. He was never married to the defendant’s mother. What a terrible young woman for treating a man who has been in her life for so long in this way. What goes around definitely comes around. Shame on her.
I’d think the inheritance should go towards the funeral. He’s hurting financially and probably wouldn’t hound her like he did if she wasn’t getting an inheritance. He should’ve married the lady instead of playing house then he would’ve gotten some of her inheritance. I probably would’ve given him some
She is not a child get out that man house and pay that man back for your Mothers funeral
😂😂😂
Hell no!! Thats was supposed to be his wife!!! He needs to take care of that
@@VLou-tw4ee supposed to be doesn't make it be.
You're with someone for 15 years, engaged for 3 and living together... I understand there's no legal obligation but geez, seems reasonable he'd cover some of the funeral costs.
He allowed her daughter to continue to live with him. That's good for something. Besides, her insurance and estate is for funeral expenses.
@@clwilson7318 exactly!
Precisely
You do understand that the estate funds should be covering all funeral cost and whatever is left over should be split between the family…so technically no one had to pay for the funeral and he should’ve gotten some of that 50K for being with that woman for so long but they weren’t married so he gets nothing
He owes that girl nothing he didn't marry the mother he didn't adopt her so pay him
He made the gesture to pay for the funeral with the agreement that he would get paid back when the estate settled. He was under no obligationan to do so. The daughter received $50K from the estate, and feels no obligation to pay the balance. That's pure entitlement.
This girl is a piece of work for her entitment
Deplorable?! What?! I think the fact that the judge called him deplorable because he was trying to get his money back is a little triggering for me. if the man is not rich and he needs the money to make ends meet, what is so deplorable about that? It's her own mother's funeral, and she believes she should pay absolutely nothing towards it? but be able to pocket all the money that was left behind? Is it me, or is the judge showing bias in this case?
Crazy thing is...she went on a TV show that will end up paying what she owed...so she still wins 😂
I think it was inappropriate that the judge was shaming the plaintiff for wanting his money back. Wishing he'd go away? That was unnecessary.
50k…. Pay the guy and move oN if you don’t want to be harass
Every time I have paid for a funeral for a family menber, it took years to get them to pay back their portion of the cost.
I usually get critizism the funeral was "too cheap", not enough flowers, I did not rent a limo for the family. None
of the dead persons friends showed up because "the funeral was out of their way".
I was told to NOT handle the funeral arrangement by several family menbers who did not like the way I did it.
When those people died, I had to arrange for the funeral and pay for their burial. They died broke.
Why do you keep doing it?
I don’t agree with the judge being sympathetic to the girls but the man who’ve been with this lady for even longer than they were born even as friends lost his partner. So to completely disregard his feelings is distasteful.
Plea bullying when you owe money.
Her baby talk I can just tell how unbearable it’s been for him. 19 is an adult, pay rent weirdo.
She was your mom before she was his wife and the estate is suppose to pay for burial.
Was there not some investment from the mother selling the house? Seems like he should have paid something for the funeral services. 15 years is a long time to be with someone and not feel responsible for some part of their life.
@12:54 thats why they keep Doug around. He has a way of getting the truth out of the litigants without them suspecting a thing.
They're young and truly didn't yet understand financial responsibilities.
"I'm 19". You're an adult at 19 🙄.
That’s only when they want to do something they want to do
That wasn't his children or was he married their mother to be legally responsible so for them two adult girls to not pay for their own mothers funeral with the estate after is just unappreciative and selfish.
I hate how they make it seem like they have to actually pay it when the show pays it
Aww the mother😢
Couple = 2
Few = 3
Yes, they were a couple, but she was also your mother. If you had the means to help him cover the cost I don't know why you wouldn't help him.
Her mother wasn’t his wife & mom knew that. Her estate is there to pay for her expenses. That’s not harassment it’s the truth. 🙏🏿🙌🏾
Its always harrassmemt when you have to pay someone back but what is it called when you coming to that same person for some help. People will give the saddest story that they need x y and z but when its time to pay....stop harassing me!!! Makes me sick. That would be the first thing i do if i had the money to pay that person back. Its called appreciation!
Wow!!! What a crappy cold hearted daughter to say she don't feel contributing to her Mothers funeral services!! Once she seen that money she wanted to Peace Out! This man is absolutely NO RELATION to her and owes her NOTHING!!
How much did the mother get for selling her home? Did he have access to that account?
If your mother has an estate then they should pay for 100% of it PERIOD. And you living in his apartment rent free...... tf
What happened to the proceeds from the sale of the mom's house??
That's where she got the $50.000 from.
Must have been one cheap house to only bring 50K
As soon as I saw that chest tattoo, I suspected the defendant was gonna be shady.
I believe the defendant is a manipulative liar. The soft voice is questionable too. The judge was out of line for how she sided with the defendant's based on emotions.
You got the money and don’t want to pay to bury your mother???????????? Entitled and spoiled.
He may be their father but not married to the mother.
The grandmother may not have wanted the girls to live with her, especially if she didn't get any money.
I think she is using the estate $ to pay for the apartment that she now has. Which is sad because if she just gave the $ she would have been there rent free at least for a couple more months
He's not their father.
Lesson: If you make a deal with someone, keep your word, and if someone wants you out of their home, just leave!
Young generations feel they are entitled.
This is why it is so important to have insurance plus a WILL or Trust
So sad for these young ladies.
The information about her mother's demise was heartbreaking but could happen to any of us.
Blood thinners are not always good.
If you get insurance or inherited money at least pay the funeral expenses.
many families get duped thinking there is insurance or savings or cash.
The mother probably didn't think her boyfriend would have to help with expenses.
so many things can happen to insurance money.
People really should educate themselves on executors of their assets
If a family can't pay for a funeral the state will pay. Social security pays a stipen.
Why did it take so long for the mother and. Boy friend to plan to get married.
it does seem strange the mother passed after she sold her home.
I have had to pay funeral expenses for many relatives who had insurance but not enough.
Family members do not help or pay back so always get a contract or promissory note and have it notarized.
The funeral directors are notary republics.
Cremation is also expensive.
I am not having a funeral just a grave side brief service.
Too much drama and expenses for the family.
I just have a realistic approach to death.
These young ladies were hit with an unexpected bolder.
The plantif knew every detail about the death and the daughters said very little. Strange.
They were both old enough not to live with their mother and should have gone with the grandparents.
19 years the plantif was in the life of the defendant's mother then when they decided to live together the mother dies.
I believe the defendant.
They could have had a funeral for the exact amount of insurance, or less.
The embalming and casket and burial site are the most expensive.
It is all the extras that cost.
Now there are laws that protect families so funeral directors can't charge outrageous prices the average BASIC funeral is$10,000.00 AND THAT IS NO EXTRA FRILLS.
FAMILY AND RELATIVES COME TO SEE WHAT THEY ARE GOING TO GET.
I DARE SAY THE PLANTIF HAD HIS OWN POLICY AND PROBABLY HAS ONE ON EACH GIRL.
WAS HE THEIR FATHER
I do believe he harassed the defendant, but he didn't have to volunteer to pay expenses they could have had a basic funeral.
I dare say the mother felt she had adequate coverage and wanted her daughters to have something.
She may have also felt the daughters would help the grandmother
Love dies quickly when money is involved and family can be leeches. Writing from experience
Please excuse errors. I could only edit twice
Most 19 year olds are not mature enough to handle planning a funeral and if they get any money. Rarely
know how to handle or invest it.
They will go through money so fast
If they had. $50k insurance policy no excuse not to pay funeral expenses.
This case was so sad in general.
SHOULD HAVE MARRIED HER AFTER 15 YEARS!!! THEN IT WOULD NOT BE A PROBLEM FOR EITHER OF THEM!!!
But Judge I’m just a sweet wittle girl and he’s a big meanie 🤦🏾♂️
Wow people are so mean, he claimed he knew the woman 15 years but has no respect for her to even pay half the funeral bills, that love?
Or a different way u could look at it is, she didn’t love him enough to put him in her will to leave him any money from her estate, yet her daughter who got it was so selfish that she couldn’t even pay a little towards her own mothers funeral cost.
@@Angela-qq6kq True, but people are so strange when it comes to money right?
@@Angela-qq6kq Technically she did pay half, right?
The estate got 50k so it would make sense for the estate to pay it especially when the dude is going broke.
Does her greedy entitled attitude surprise anyone? Come on judge, stop being so nice to her. He has every right to bug the crap out of you until he gets what he's owed. Grow up and pay the man.