Harvey saying "technically, you're not his real mom" is such a slap in the face after all you’ve done. I’d be devastated too. Stay strong, you deserve better.
Reddit needs to start a support group for stepparents who do all the work and then get kicked aside when the bio parent decides to reappear. You’re not alone in this!
What’s most frustrating is how Harvey completely failed to protect the family stability you built. Instead, he catered to Sarah, who abandoned them. It’s like your years of love and sacrifice meant nothing to him.
The fact that Harvey let Sarah stay in the house while you were gone is a huge red flag. He needs to learn boundaries ASAP if you’re ever going to co-parent successfully.
It’s hard to believe Harvey had the nerve to tell you that you're not the "real mom" after all the love and effort you put into raising Mike. He should be ashamed of himself for treating you this way.
Harvey’s behavior screams red flags. Letting Sarah back in and then pushing you out is absolutely unbelievable. He clearly doesn't deserve you or the family you’ve worked so hard to build.
Your bond with Mike is real, and no one can take that away from you. Harvey and Sarah are both in the wrong here. You did the right thing by stepping back.
Challenges in relationships are a normal part of life, but there’s always a path forward. My marriage encountered major difficulties, but with proper guidance, my wife and I managed to resolve our issues and deepen our connection. If you’re willing to put in the work and collaborate, solutions are always within reach. Keep hope alive; there are answers out there.
....I’m struggling with serious issues in my relationship and can’t bear the thought of losing her. My love and desire to have her back in my life are immense. I’m willing to do whatever it takes and would be very grateful for any guidance or suggestions...
Learning to let someone you love go is always a tough journey, but in my case, I had the wisdom of a spiritual mentor who kept my marriage from crumbling. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
The fact that Harvey was willing to replace you so easily is deeply disturbing. He’s clearly emotionally immature and lacks the strength needed to be a good partner or father.
The way Harvey let Sarah just waltz back in like nothing happened is infuriating. been there the whole time?Where’s his loyalty to you, the person who’s
NTA. You were his mom for six years, doing all the hard work. It's sickening that Harvey would throw that away for someone who abandoned her child. You're better off without him.
Sarah's just using Mike as an emotional safety net. She doesn't care about him-she cares about having a backup plan in case her life goes sideways again.
This is the reason why you don’t date people who already have kids and if you do, you maintain a certain fixed relationship with your partner’s kids. ALWAYS KEEP YOUR STEP KIDS AT ARMS LENGTH!!! THEY ARE NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY!!!
OP was nothing more than a full-time babysitter and a temporary placeholder. Chances are, if OP hadn't come back at that time, Harvey and Sarah would've slept together. Harvey is damn lucky the ex-husband came when he did; Sarah would've drained him dry and then abandoned him and Mike again when there was nothing else she wanted.
Repeating the story is obnoxious. This wouldn’t have been so long if you had not added the filler of Sarah coming back. It added nothing. I am glad OP finally realized Harvey really didn’t care about her. She better be careful when he finds another woman and tries to make that woman “family”.
Harvey allowed and enabled all of this ... He had 6 years of financial support emotional support and an unpaid nanny . How can you ever trust him again . He just threw you aside . That poor little boy has been through this twice now
Harvey is a coward, plain and simple. Instead of standing up for you, he chose to cater to someone who abandoned him and his son. His weak, spineless behavior shows he doesn't value loyalty.
I know you’re hurting, but I hope you see how strong you’ve been through all of this. You gave Mike stability when he needed it most. That’s what matters.
It’s shocking how Harvey dismissed everything you've done for Mike, as if six years of parenting and love meant nothing. He completely disregarded your role in the family, and that’s disgusting.
That's the not fully developed frontal lobe right there. Lets hope she will break up with the crap boyfriend because before you know Sahara will come back and she gets trown away again.
That boyfriend is discussing, one of the first rules you Lear of dating is to never get back with a ex because they are your ex for a reason. Why even trow the woman that helped you raise your son away for the woman that left you with a baby, did you even love this woman or did you just look for someone who would raise your child until the one who got away would come back to you. She is smart to not marry him, but it may be better to break up with him. He had threw you away the moment his ex came back.
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Harvey saying "technically, you're not his real mom" is such a slap in the face after all you’ve done. I’d be devastated too. Stay strong, you deserve better.
And he knows that he meant it when he said it. It was already in his heart, it else he wouldn't have said it so easily😅
Yeah, that why I'm glad when she decided to leave. That guy has no backbone.
You’re a saint for sticking it out for six years. Sarah only wants back in because she sees that Mike’s well-raised now, thanks to you.
Reddit needs to start a support group for stepparents who do all the work and then get kicked aside when the bio parent decides to reappear. You’re not alone in this!
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What’s most frustrating is how Harvey completely failed to protect the family stability you built. Instead, he catered to Sarah, who abandoned them. It’s like your years of love and sacrifice meant nothing to him.
Sarah trying to take over your family after doing nothing for six years? Nope. You don’t owe her or Harvey anything after this betrayal.
The fact that Harvey let Sarah stay in the house while you were gone is a huge red flag. He needs to learn boundaries ASAP if you’re ever going to co-parent successfully.
Mike calling you "Mom" after the adoption melted my heart. That bond is real. It doesn't matter what anyone says-you'll always be his mother.
I’m proud of you for standing up for yourself. You deserve more than being second fiddle to someone who abandoned her son for six years.
Harvey’s actions are unforgivable, IMO. I’d be questioning everything if I were you. He clearly didn’t value your role in Mike’s life.
You’re doing the right thing by putting Mike’s well-being first, but don’t forget to prioritize yourself too. You deserve to heal from this betrayal.
This story is a reminder that sometimes the greatest love stories don't involve romance. Your love for Mike is beautiful.
It’s hard to believe Harvey had the nerve to tell you that you're not the "real mom" after all the love and effort you put into raising Mike. He should be ashamed of himself for treating you this way.
I'm so proud of you for putting Mike first. He's lucky to have you as his mom.
It will take time for Mike to accept this change. But you did a great job reassuring him!
OP, you're not alone. There are so many of us cheering you on.
OP, you're a warrior. You're fighting for your son and for yourself. Keep going.
Harvey’s behavior screams red flags. Letting Sarah back in and then pushing you out is absolutely unbelievable. He clearly doesn't deserve you or the family you’ve worked so hard to build.
Your bond with Mike is real, and no one can take that away from you. Harvey and Sarah are both in the wrong here. You did the right thing by stepping back.
The most important thing is Mikes safety and happiness. You are doing great!
I'm so glad you're prioritizing Mike's well-being. He's lucky to have such a loving mom.
I'm so proud of you for standing up for yourself and Mike. You're a true mama bear.
OP, you're an inspiration. You're showing strength and resilience in the face of adversity.
Challenges in relationships are a normal part of life, but there’s always a path forward. My marriage encountered major difficulties, but with proper guidance, my wife and I managed to resolve our issues and deepen our connection. If you’re willing to put in the work and collaborate, solutions are always within reach. Keep hope alive; there are answers out there.
....I’m struggling with serious issues in my relationship and can’t bear the thought of losing her. My love and desire to have her back in my life are immense. I’m willing to do whatever it takes and would be very grateful for any guidance or suggestions...
Learning to let someone you love go is always a tough journey, but in my case, I had the wisdom of a spiritual mentor who kept my marriage from crumbling. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
@@LeonardEarnshaw Thanks a lot. i will look her up on-line
NO, THIS IS WHY YOU DON'T ADOPT ANYONE'S KID(S) ESPECIALLY IF YOU'RE NOT MARRIED!
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Just do not date single parents, with any intent of a ltr, period.
The fact that Harvey was willing to replace you so easily is deeply disturbing. He’s clearly emotionally immature and lacks the strength needed to be a good partner or father.
This story is a testament to the power of a mother's love. You're amazing, OP.
OP, you're a hero. You've shown Mike what unconditional love truly is.
You're handling this situation with grace and dignity. I admire your strength.
The way Harvey let Sarah just waltz back in like nothing happened is infuriating. been there the whole time?Where’s his loyalty to you, the person who’s
Finding a new place to live and starting over is a very powerful thing! I hope you find happiness!
Sometimes you just need to run away from the past to find yourself. Good luck!
You’re not wrong for needing space. You’ve been a mom in every sense of the word. Sarah can’t just undo that with a few visits and some fake smiles.
You're a true survivor, OP. You're going to come out of this stronger than ever.
This story is a reminder that even in the darkest of times, there's always hope.
Ive been in a similar situation. Its hard to regain trust, especially with someone who betrays you.
I can't believe Harvey would even consider going back to Sarah. He's clearly lost his mind.
All this unnecessary drama can be avoided with one simple thing: NEVER EVER date single parents.
I'm in awe of your strength and resilience. You're an amazing woman, OP.
NTA. You were his mom for six years, doing all the hard work. It's sickening that Harvey would throw that away for someone who abandoned her child. You're better off without him.
I'm in tears. OP, you're an amazing mom. Mike is lucky to have you.
Sarah sounds like the type of person who only comes around when it’s convenient for her. Once things get tough again, she’ll probably disappear.
I'm sending you all the love and support in the world. You've got this, OP.
Sarah's just using Mike as an emotional safety net. She doesn't care about him-she cares about having a backup plan in case her life goes sideways again.
I can’t believe Harvey even entertained the idea of letting Sarah come back into your lives after she disappeared for so long. What was he thinking?
This story is a reminder that love isn't always enough. Sometimes you have to walk away to protect yourself.
I'm so glad you stood up to Sarah. She doesn't deserve to be in Mike's life.
I'm so impressed by your maturity and grace in handling this situation. You're a true role model.
I hope this story reaches other women who are struggling with similar situations. You're giving them hope.
I'm so glad you're taking care of yourself. Therapy is a great step towards healing.
Mike’s mom is amazing! There will be challenges, but you will get through it!
This is a powerful story about love, loss, and finding your own strength. Thank you for sharing it with us.
I'm so glad you met David. That information must have been invaluable.
Divorce Harvey and sue for 50/50 custody of Mike. Harvey can go pound sand. Oops I forgot they never got married. But he can still pound sand.
OP, you're strong for walking away. You deserve so much better than Harvey.
This is the reason why you don’t date people who already have kids and if you do, you maintain a certain fixed relationship with your partner’s kids. ALWAYS KEEP YOUR STEP KIDS AT ARMS LENGTH!!! THEY ARE NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY!!!
I'm so glad you have a supportive family. They'll help you get through this.
OP, you're a queen. You're going to conquer this and come out even stronger.
This story is a testament to the resilience of the human heart. You're an inspiration to us all.
I'm sending you all the positive vibes. You'll get through this, OP.
I'm so glad you have a supportive network of friends and family. They'll help you through this.
I'm so glad you have a strong support system. Lean on them during this difficult time.
Nah you can tell Harvey was getting ready to get back with Sarah. He messed up BAD!!!! move on.
This story is a testament to the strength of the human spirit. You're an inspiration.
I'm so glad you found out about Sarah's true motives. That must have been a huge relief.
This story is a rollercoaster of emotions. I'm rooting for you, OP!
This story is a rollercoaster of emotions, but I'm glad it has a somewhat happy ending.
I'm sending you all the virtual hugs. You're not alone in this.
OP was nothing more than a full-time babysitter and a temporary placeholder. Chances are, if OP hadn't come back at that time, Harvey and Sarah would've slept together. Harvey is damn lucky the ex-husband came when he did; Sarah would've drained him dry and then abandoned him and Mike again when there was nothing else she wanted.
Repeating the story is obnoxious. This wouldn’t have been so long if you had not added the filler of Sarah coming back. It added nothing.
I am glad OP finally realized Harvey really didn’t care about her. She better be careful when he finds another woman and tries to make that woman “family”.
You're a warrior, OP. You're fighting for what's right, even when it's hard.
Harvey allowed and enabled all of this ... He had 6 years of financial support emotional support and an unpaid nanny . How can you ever trust him again . He just threw you aside . That poor little boy has been through this twice now
Trust can be incredibly hard to rebuild after someone has let you down repeatedly, especially when it affects a child.
This is why I'll never understand people who abandon their kids. It's unforgivable.
You're doing an incredible job, OP. Keep your head up and keep moving forward.
You're doing the right thing by putting Mike first. Co-parenting is hard, but it's worth it for him.
I hope Harvey realizes what he's lost. You're a treasure, OP.
This story is a reminder that family isn't always about blood. It's about the people who choose to love and support you.
This story is a reminder that sometimes the hardest decisions are the right ones. You're doing what's best for you and Mike.
Harvey is a coward, plain and simple. Instead of standing up for you, he chose to cater to someone who abandoned him and his son. His weak, spineless behavior shows he doesn't value loyalty.
I'm cheering you on from afar, OP. You're doing amazing things.
This story is a beautiful reminder that family is about love, not blood.
Honestly, Harvey sounds like he’s still in love with Sarah and doesn’t even realize it. He let her get way too close, way too fast.
Dont be afraid to ask for help from the community. Sometimes, you will need more than you think.
I totally support your decision! You deserve a man who appreciates you.
I know you’re hurting, but I hope you see how strong you’ve been through all of this. You gave Mike stability when he needed it most. That’s what matters.
This is a reminder that blood doesn't always make a family. Love does.
Basically, your decision is logical. You can’t live in a relationship without trust.
I'm heartbroken for you, OP. But I'm also hopeful that you'll find happiness again.
It’s shocking how Harvey dismissed everything you've done for Mike, as if six years of parenting and love meant nothing. He completely disregarded your role in the family, and that’s disgusting.
Damn. This is heartbreaking. OP, you are Mike's real mom. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
I hope you find peace and happiness in your new chapter. You deserve it.
Oh my god, I can't believe Sarah thought she could just waltz back into Mike's life and act like nothing happened. The audacity is unreal.
I'm sending you all the positive energy. You're going to overcome this.
I'm rooting for you to find love again. Someone who appreciates you for the amazing woman you are.
OP, you're a badass. You're showing everyone what a real mom looks like.
I'm speechless. This is just awful. Sending you all the hugs, OP.
Mike saying you're not his real mom probably wasn’t even his own words. Kids absorb what they hear. I bet Sarah or even Harvey put that in his head.
Its funny how young people under 25 think life is a fairy tale. And pick a single mom or single dad, then wonder why it all didn't work out.
That's the not fully developed frontal lobe right there. Lets hope she will break up with the crap boyfriend because before you know Sahara will come back and she gets trown away again.
@@juliaboskamp9666not only the son but even dad spending weekend with ex wife. When she felt them both. Singed away her parental rights too
I'm so angry at Harvey for letting Sarah back into your lives. He needs to grow a backbone.
I hope Mike understands someday how much you love him. You're his real mom, no matter what anyone says.
That boyfriend is discussing, one of the first rules you Lear of dating is to never get back with a ex because they are your ex for a reason. Why even trow the woman that helped you raise your son away for the woman that left you with a baby, did you even love this woman or did you just look for someone who would raise your child until the one who got away would come back to you.
She is smart to not marry him, but it may be better to break up with him. He had threw you away the moment his ex came back.