Unfortunately, this entire situation is what happens when two selfish people come together. They make each other worse because they feed off the other person's bad attitude.
Well said 💯 Not only that, but some people do not deserve to be parents. Having a child is not just legally raising them until they are 18, it's looking after their mental and physical well-being. Raising them to be the best version of themselves, and teaching them that we all mistakes as it's human nature but we learn from them. And giving them genuine unconditional love. Teaching them right from wring and knowing when a situation is dangerous or could potentially be dangerous along woth teaching them life skills.
Parents realized they're getting older, after that major health scare they probably run out of money. Now they want to play nice because theyll need a carer.
Why did you even give them a chance at reconciliation?! The second I saw them at the wedding, I would have grabbed my girl and left. And why the hell was your father there? I though your mother exsplained that he moved on with his mistress and left your mother. Plus your mother tried to tarnish your reputation, and I want to know how she got all of your personal lifes details.
This is the prime example of why in this day and age of social media when somebody comes back into your life and makes all kinds of requests or demands you got to get ahead of it and cut it off before it bites you in the butt
So after being emotionally abusive, abandoning his son and then harassing said son, she thinks she gets a say or even to apologize? OP was too good to her. Mommy dearest wants a place to stay, jail is a place, how about that
Anyone saying to OP he’s cruel, should be ashamed of himself, abandoning his own mother should be reminded that’s what she did and since they’re the one’s that raised him then why are they surprised when the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree😂
@@tstoriesusa OP will probably forgive easier when he has a family of his own and maybe that’ll help the situation stop being solely about him but of his kids having grandparents. If he’s the focus he’ll always remember that pain but involving children will allow him to see his parents in a new light, possibly the emotional connection he never got he’ll see shown to his kids and that may lead to some trust & appreciation.
Not really. Mine broke into my property and trashed it including firing a few bullets through the front door when I wasn't there. Women are nothing but emotions; there is no logic in them.
@@WyomingGuy82201 There are guys who do this, there are women who dont, why do you say such nonsensical and sexist things? Perhaps you need to use more logic rather than letting your emotions think for you.
Why would he marry a woman who put his abusers' feelings over his? And is still doing it to this day just so she can have a surrogate mom and dad through him?
I think I will adopt you as an honorary member of "Generation X". This was MY life -- with the addition of 7 other siblings. Come on over and join us anytime. We cool. But, yeah, this was our lives, too. Same crap, same excuses, same neglect. You are welcome at my campfire any time no questions asked.
That's just it -- I don't have ONE, I have ONE THOUSAND. Like. playing "freeze tag" with the neighbor kids after dinner in the summertime - those hours right before and right after sunset. But having that be a regular thing for 8 or 9 years before we turned 12 and puberty set in. Or, all those years camping every summer at all the lakes and mountain campgrounds with my family and exploring the state> Or, summers at the beach (yeah, we lived near the beach) when we were not camping. or turning 19 years old and having a driver's license and keeping up with the tradition of an annual camping trip to the lake after my father died of cancer that year ( and we STILL go ever since) Or crazy dances hosted by my CHURCH and the dj was actually a major radio dj who....liked our church group because we weren't rowdy alcohol-infused partiers...?! Or, $5 cheap student seats at major venues for national sports teams and being rowdy in the cheap seats, but, being able to afford to be fans! I could go on and on, but, I will tell you, the biggest take-away from our childhood was really having the FREEDOM. For US it was FREEDOM to have our parents neglect us! We lived in California, so we recycled cans and glass bottles for cash. We rode our bicycles all over the place because we had the FREEdom to JUST GO. We could ride our bikes to the beach, so we did! We could ride our bikes to the mall, so, we DID. Yeah, it DID hurt to have our parents neglect and abuse us the way they did, but, today I live m and I really appreciate my life in FREEDOM. My Hope for YOU is to find the GOOD in the Circumstances. I had it TOUGH, but today I really use my creativity to solve problems. I use the skills I learned -- like how to use power tools and skills like how to sew and cook to live well. But, even more so, My hope for you is to BREAK FREE from the chains of the resentment, BREAK FREE from the chains of the chain, and find HOPE to move forward. I did, and I am OKAY, and I HOPE YOU WILL FIND HOPE AND BREAK FREE. HOPE IS THERE! GOOD LUCK!!
If the mom is genuinely sorry, she should have made a public apology, confessing everything online on how she and her husband abandon op from childhood until they left him at 18. And not just think about reconciliation when her husband cheat and dump her.
It can be really upsetting to see situations where children aren’t cared for properly, especially when it feels like the parent has the ability to do better
The mom act like a victim when she twisted the story to make them out to be the bad guy. Thats not something you do to someone your trying to apologize to.
You don't have to let them back in per se, but baby steps with boundaries. Let them in on your terms. For instance meet for coffee with your girl a couple of times a month to test the waters. Only do what you're comfortable doing, only answer phone calls when you're comfortable doing it, only meet with them when you're comfortable, You pick the place, you pick the time and you pick when it's time to leave.
I don’t understand why you’d reconnect with parents who never supported you after you turned 18. If you keep letting them treat you like a doormat, that’s on you. They weren’t real parents, so why should it matter if they’re in your life or not?
Reconciliation is the biggest joke in these stories. I mean if you're gonna do it because you feel bad about them. Put a price on it, 180000, then we can try to build a relationship other than that GTFO
OP's mother deserves no sympathy. She knew for over 20 years what kind of man her husband was because she and him are cut from the same cloth. Neither one of them batted an eye at neglecting their son for 18 years, but as soon as mommy gets cheated on, then all of a sudden she's the victim who deserves sympathy? Nah, B.
How did he look at the key in his hand in the car and think about her apartment and going there for the first time ehen Lily said she would leave the key at the apartment and to get it there. ? Story is so fake.
The most messed up part of this entire situation is not how OP's parents treated him like an inconvenience his entire life, but how they deliberately isolated him from everyone else in the family. I guarantee they pulled this stunt so that they did not have to receive righteous judgment for their neglect from their families.
Ok... Please try to keep your story together when you post fake stories 9:18 Lily was at her night class 10:48 the next day... Lily overheard part of the conversation with my mom Come on... You're not even trying 🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️
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Unfortunately, this entire situation is what happens when two selfish people come together. They make each other worse because they feed off the other person's bad attitude.
Parenting isn't a right it's a privilege.
Well said 💯
Not only that, but some people do not deserve to be parents.
Having a child is not just legally raising them until they are 18, it's looking after their mental and physical well-being. Raising them to be the best version of themselves, and teaching them that we all mistakes as it's human nature but we learn from them. And giving them genuine unconditional love. Teaching them right from wring and knowing when a situation is dangerous or could potentially be dangerous along woth teaching them life skills.
Sounds ai bs... first the parents split up and then they are together at the wedding out of nowhere without any explanation
Yeah
Mom goes on social campaign against him then he forgets about it.
Just realized at the wedding part. Ya this is bull
I'm glad you didn't let your mom guilt-trip you into letting her move in. Boundaries are important!
I'm so glad you found Lily. She sounds like an angel. You two are lucky to have each other.
Parents realized they're getting older, after that major health scare they probably run out of money. Now they want to play nice because theyll need a carer.
It’s tough when parents recognize their vulnerabilities and start to reach out, especially after a health scare.
It takes incredible strength to build a life for yourself after being kicked out at 18. You should be proud of how far you've come.
Why did you even give them a chance at reconciliation?! The second I saw them at the wedding, I would have grabbed my girl and left. And why the hell was your father there? I though your mother exsplained that he moved on with his mistress and left your mother. Plus your mother tried to tarnish your reputation, and I want to know how she got all of your personal lifes details.
This is the prime example of why in this day and age of social media when somebody comes back into your life and makes all kinds of requests or demands you got to get ahead of it and cut it off before it bites you in the butt
It’s all about protecting your peace and being proactive about your relationships
I'm glad you're setting boundaries with your parents. You deserve to prioritize your own well-being.
Your dad's heart attack was probably just his body's way of saying "I can't take any more of this family drama!"
So after being emotionally abusive, abandoning his son and then harassing said son, she thinks she gets a say or even to apologize? OP was too good to her.
Mommy dearest wants a place to stay, jail is a place, how about that
How do you think OP should navigate this situation?
Some people really don't understand the responsibility that comes with being a parent.
It's a tough situation with no easy answers. I admire your willingness to try and rebuild those relationships, even if it's slow and painful.
It's brave of you to share your story. Thank you for opening up.
It's okay to be angry. It's okay to not forgive them yet. Take all the time you need.
Anyone saying to OP he’s cruel, should be ashamed of himself, abandoning his own mother should be reminded that’s what she did and since they’re the one’s that raised him then why are they surprised when the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree😂
What do you think should be the focus in situations like this?
@@tstoriesusa OP will probably forgive easier when he has a family of his own and maybe that’ll help the situation stop being solely about him but of his kids having grandparents. If he’s the focus he’ll always remember that pain but involving children will allow him to see his parents in a new light, possibly the emotional connection he never got he’ll see shown to his kids and that may lead to some trust & appreciation.
Ops parents was never emotionally available to him as a child, so why should he have to reciprocate as an adult?
OP should have changed family name/ phone no/ town. Mom found him because he didn't change anything
Your story is a testament to the human spirit's ability to overcome adversity.
14:55 i call BS if she really felt that way she wouldn't be trying to ruin his mental health and reputation with all that online sh!t
Not really. Mine broke into my property and trashed it including firing a few bullets through the front door when I wasn't there. Women are nothing but emotions; there is no logic in them.
@@WyomingGuy82201 There are guys who do this, there are women who dont, why do you say such nonsensical and sexist things? Perhaps you need to use more logic rather than letting your emotions think for you.
Your story is a powerful reminder that love and support can come from unexpected places.
I can't imagine how hard it must have been to sleep in your car. You're so resilient.
I hope you find peace and healing, OP. You deserve it.
I'm surprised your dad didn't diagnose himself with a sudden case of "heartbreak" after you told him off at the wedding.
Lily is a keeper. Marry that woman!
Why would he marry a woman who put his abusers' feelings over his? And is still doing it to this day just so she can have a surrogate mom and dad through him?
That absolute loneliness as a child can really mess you up.
No explanation of why they were so evil.
Can I help you?
Your story is a reminder that even the most dysfunctional families can have moments of redemption.
OP will regret this reconnection eventually. He was swept up by Lily's need of parents she never experienced.
I'm just here for the popcorn. This is better than any reality TV show!
Your story touched my heart. I'll be thinking of you and Lily.
Your mom's social media stunt was absolutely disgusting. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.
Family is complicated, but you don't owe them anything. Do what feels right for you, even if it's hard.
It's great that you're trying to reconcile, but don't let it consume you. Focus on your own happiness with Lily.
I think I will adopt you as an honorary member of "Generation X".
This was MY life -- with the addition of 7 other siblings.
Come on over and join us anytime. We cool.
But, yeah, this was our lives, too. Same crap, same excuses, same neglect.
You are welcome at my campfire any time no questions asked.
What’s your favorite memory from those days?
That's just it -- I don't have ONE, I have ONE THOUSAND.
Like. playing "freeze tag" with the neighbor kids after dinner in the summertime - those hours right before and right after sunset. But having that be a regular thing for 8 or 9 years before we turned 12 and puberty set in.
Or, all those years camping every summer at all the lakes and mountain campgrounds with my family and exploring the state>
Or, summers at the beach (yeah, we lived near the beach) when we were not camping.
or turning 19 years old and having a driver's license and keeping up with the tradition of an annual camping trip to the lake after my father died of cancer that year ( and we STILL go ever since)
Or crazy dances hosted by my CHURCH and the dj was actually a major radio dj who....liked our church group because we weren't rowdy alcohol-infused partiers...?!
Or, $5 cheap student seats at major venues for national sports teams and being rowdy in the cheap seats, but, being able to afford to be fans!
I could go on and on, but, I will tell you, the biggest take-away from our childhood was really having the FREEDOM. For US it was FREEDOM to have our parents neglect us! We lived in California, so we recycled cans and glass bottles for cash. We rode our bicycles all over the place because we had the FREEdom to JUST GO. We could ride our bikes to the beach, so we did! We could ride our bikes to the mall, so, we DID. Yeah, it DID hurt to have our parents neglect and abuse us the way they did, but, today I live m and I really appreciate my life in FREEDOM.
My Hope for YOU is to find the GOOD in the Circumstances. I had it TOUGH, but today I really use my creativity to solve problems. I use the skills I learned -- like how to use power tools and skills like how to sew and cook to live well.
But, even more so, My hope for you is to BREAK FREE from the chains of the resentment, BREAK FREE from the chains of the chain, and find HOPE to move forward. I did, and I am OKAY, and I HOPE YOU WILL FIND HOPE AND BREAK FREE. HOPE IS THERE! GOOD LUCK!!
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How could a mother not love her child like that?
It really is a profound bond, isn’t it?
Lily sounds like an amazing partner. I'm so happy you found each other.
She isn't real. This is either AI or someone's creative writing project.
Your mom's Facebook meltdown sounds like a scene from a bad soap opera.
If the mom is genuinely sorry, she should have made a public apology, confessing everything online on how she and her husband abandon op from childhood until they left him at 18. And not just think about reconciliation when her husband cheat and dump her.
It would show that she recognizes the impact of her actions on OP and is willing to take responsibility for the hurt caused.
Well the mother sure knew how to take care of other children so the excuse of "not knowing to be a parent" is just bullshit
It can be really upsetting to see situations where children aren’t cared for properly, especially when it feels like the parent has the ability to do better
I'm sending you all the positive vibes. Keep fighting the good fight.
The mom act like a victim when she twisted the story to make them out to be the bad guy. Thats not something you do to someone your trying to apologize to.
I'm rooting for you, OP. But seriously, maybe consider therapy for everyone involved.
You don't have to let them back in per se, but baby steps with boundaries. Let them in on your terms. For instance meet for coffee with your girl a couple of times a month to test the waters. Only do what you're comfortable doing, only answer phone calls when you're comfortable doing it, only meet with them when you're comfortable, You pick the place, you pick the time and you pick when it's time to leave.
Your parents sound like they need a crash course in Parenting 101.
I don’t understand why you’d reconnect with parents who never supported you after you turned 18. If you keep letting them treat you like a doormat, that’s on you. They weren’t real parents, so why should it matter if they’re in your life or not?
Everyone has their own journey and reasons for wanting or not wanting those relationships in their lives
Reconciliation is the biggest joke in these stories. I mean if you're gonna do it because you feel bad about them. Put a price on it, 180000, then we can try to build a relationship other than that GTFO
Do you ever worry about repeating your parents' mistakes with your own children?
Your parents' behavior is inexcusable. No child should ever feel unwanted or unloved.
It's okay to grieve the childhood you never had.
Didn't the father dump the mother for a younger woman?
OP, your story broke my heart. Sending you virtual hugs. You deserve so much better.
Im litraly wrighting this in tears
I'd be telling them they need to learn independence and tell them I don't help strangers.
tough love is the best way to motivate someone to step up and figure things out on their own.
Your parents missed out on so much by not being present in your life.
Why did these people decide to have a kid if they planned to ignore them?
You're an adult now. It's time to move on and stop blaming your parents for everything.
What are your plans for the future? Are you and Lily thinking about getting married or having kids?
How has this experience shaped your own views on parenting?
What did Lily say after your mom showed up at your door?
Have you ever tried talking to your parents about why they were so distant when you were growing up?
Do you think you'll ever fully forgive your parents?
awfull story. he is just a doormat. how can he sccept to talk with his parents after the party. they did nothing to pay him back.
Do you think your parents' attempts at reconciliation are genuine, or are they just trying to ease their own guilt?
OP's mother deserves no sympathy. She knew for over 20 years what kind of man her husband was because she and him are cut from the same cloth. Neither one of them batted an eye at neglecting their son for 18 years, but as soon as mommy gets cheated on, then all of a sudden she's the victim who deserves sympathy? Nah, B.
What advice would you give to someone else in a similar situation?
Do you have any siblings? If so, how did they handle the situation with your parents?
I'm sorry the social media post and her words later doesn't add up. OP should be cautious
What's the one thing you wish your parents understood about how their actions affected you?
Sounds like the juice isn’t worth the squeeze. Move on.
What a SIMP. He deserves everything he's getting
What are you disappointed about?
How did he look at the key in his hand in the car and think about her apartment and going there for the first time ehen Lily said she would leave the key at the apartment and to get it there. ? Story is so fake.
What a doormat.
Yung tatay di namatay???? Aysusmaryosep. Totoo nga ang kasabihang: ang masamang damo, mahirap mamatay...
I look forward to the day when AI stories are actually good…
The most messed up part of this entire situation is not how OP's parents treated him like an inconvenience his entire life, but how they deliberately isolated him from everyone else in the family. I guarantee they pulled this stunt so that they did not have to receive righteous judgment for their neglect from their families.
How do you think OP can start to heal from this?
Jesus this AI built out of Lego?
Can I help you?
You're lucky they're even trying to rebuild a relationship. Some parents would just walk away.
While your parents' behavior was wrong, you seem to be holding onto a lot of anger. Forgiveness can be freeing.
This is so dumb.
You're 23, not 13. Grow up and stop acting like a victim.
He's the victim 🤫
Ok... Please try to keep your story together when you post fake stories
9:18 Lily was at her night class
10:48 the next day... Lily overheard part of the conversation with my mom
Come on... You're not even trying 🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️
Lmao so dumb
Your parents' behavior was unacceptable, but they're still your family. Blood is thicker than water.
Your mom made a mistake, but she's clearly trying to make amends. Maybe you should give her another chance.
Maybe your parents weren't perfect, but they did provide for you for 18 years. You owe them some gratitude.
They were no parents. They did the bare minimum that they were required to do
It sounds like you're using your past as an excuse to avoid taking responsibility for your own life.
You were a bit harsh on your dad at the wedding. He's trying, and you need to cut him some slack.
thanks for the interesting story