If You Have Toxic Parents, Watch This | Mufti Menk
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Mental Absue is also the worst thing that parents do
And physical abuse are also worst🙂
True
@@Kruszieeno bro you can bear something physically but it's much difficult to bear something mentally.
@@Kruszieeboth is just as bad
What to do when physical abuse become mental abuse
Every child deserves a parent but every parent doesn't deserve a child
yes exactly my word.. I am suffering everyday
Well said
Fr
Not every child deserves a parent, some are scum of the Earth.
My parent r also toxic u r not alone 😅 but I don't CARE 😘
Mother and siblings are extremely toxic.Allah please give me the money to leave this horrible house and reality
Same situation here too, may Allah guide us, inshallah
Inshallah
Aameen
Praying for you sister
Ameen Ameen to all of us going through the same thing
Those who have been through this only understand, others will always judge us
True. In conservative eastern & middle east families, where parents are put before Gods - Society will laugh at you if you mention the idea / concept of toxic parents.
real brother.
True true
Are u younger in ur family
@@Pihu2121 yh
my mother is super toxic always cursing im losing patience .... 😭
Sister never lose hope because till we are in this earth, Allah always has faith in all of us😊 there’s always a reward at the end of the tunnel
I can relate. I came a long way in wealth, career, etc all due to my wife. But my mother berates me and acts like im trash
I front of my mother there is no value of me😂 ..
She always do comparison of me by my siblings😢
Why can't she understand she is so muvh toxic to me
@runjhun3105 yeah i sort of relate my parents compare me to many of their friend's kids.
@@medico3105xactly I can feel u....even I too have same problem from which u r going through...🥺
Please pray for me, I get mentally and emotionally abused every day
May Allah make it easy for all of us. May Allah forgive us for all of our sins. Aameen
Pray and consult someone. A friend, therapist, even legal authorities if necessary. Please, do this for your sake or even others
me too
Same 😢
@@berryronin6882 no he shouldn’t do that he should pray to and talk to god
Toxic parents cause the biggest damage in a person & yet it's rarely discussed in legal system. Legal system puts parents on a high pedestal.
Our parents with their attitude towards us teach the world how to treat us. It's simple, the world treats us well if our parents love and treat us good but if they don't then the world too becomes difficult to us.
This just shows how seriously lacking our schoalrs are with guiding and protecting victims of child abuse.
All they talk about is Parents rights, but they’re too scared to talk about children’s rights. It’s come to the point where parents think it’s their right to torture and abuse a child, treat them like a toy all because they gave birth to them. How wrong and twisted.
In islam we’re not allowed to torture an animal, kill an ant, or hurt our neighbour. Do they really think they can torture their own CHILD and get away with it?!
exactly
Facts. So tired of it.
Tired of hearing “ohh parents have all authority” like stfu 😂
All facts.
Ikr. Just because parents gave birth. They think they can do and say what they want, but it's just like you chose to have me as well.
So true
I am so happy to hear that cutting off a toxic parent
He didn't say to cut off.. It is totally against ALLAH! He said to taper down, just take a few steps back
What if your dad says in the supermarket to your husband: tell her she dont have to come ??
@@hannahfarooq4471Like What Few Steps, And If We Step Back, Our Mental Health Gonna Stop Damaging? And We Will Be Able To Escape From Their Slavery?
my parents and family is hell toxic...
I just want to leave this hell 😭
Same here may allah grnt us ease
@@upscwithmissmysterysame
Same
I feel like not wanting to live and just die cause of them cause they made me end up into the hospital like 5 times...
May Allah make things easy for all, Aameen 🤲🤲🤲
My mom literally broke my heart into pieces, she keeps lying and being hypocritical to protect my mentally suck Narcissistic older sister.
They have severely attacked me my whole life. I had to battle tough mental health and physiical health issues due to that.
For years I have been told I had to be patient and that taking distance was haram.
I am cutting contact slowly and since I healed a lot !
Do what is best for YOU ! Allah knows, some people are just abusers and don’t want to deal with their issues so they’ll use you as a punching bag, Allah wants ease for you. Never ever stay in a situation in which you are abused.
May Allah mend your heart and make it easy on you ❤
i moved out from my home, leaving something i really love for 26 years, my heart broke , i cried everynight in my new empty house cause i missed them but i dont want to go back there living with them is damaging me, i'll visit them every now and then,😢
Soon I'll do it too...
@@Fleabaggggg 🫂 may all your problems will be ease my friend💪🏻
May Allah be with you every step of the way brother/sister. May Allah give you strength to overcome your situation and become the one you want to be according to the Sunnah!!!
Ameen
🫂
Good
Mental harrasment is worst thing i have ever received from my parents 😢 ٱلْحَمْدُ لِلَّٰه for everything ٱللَّٰه❤😭
Parents and siblings are extremely toxic.May Allah help me to built my career as a Doctor.inshaAllah😢 and give me money to help to leave this horrible family.😢Ameen!
My Moms biggest Hobby is yelling, always shouting
So relatable I know exactly what you mean, mine is the same way, pray so that Allah Swt makes it easy for us 🤲
@@coolkapri😢😢😢my mom tooo
My mothers biggest hobby is starting unnecessary arguments over small thing, verbal abuse, put words in my mouth that I didn’t verbally say , never kept our medical condition confidential, always in competition with me to make yourself valid and superior than
other Muslim family relatives, making up excuses to avoid accountability for her actions. Not to mention my mother’s
Favorite thing she tells me all the time is you’ll never get a Mann you’ll never get a husband. You’ll never satisfy him sexually. Another thing I forgot to mention. She would have every female relative gang up towards me and against me like I am their enemy. Your telling us to give our parents a break?! Respectfully how about we need a break.
@@annmarie388 Your mother sounds like a Covert Narcissist. Go and look into it. Learn how to deal with it.
@@annmarie388 omg same to same my mom is like this .I cut off my mother last year after trying hard and hard .now I'm happy in my small little world with my hubby and child
PLS get out of this as soon as possible..U know what I mean.takecre
I'm from a lower middle class family. My parents couldn’t pay my tuition bill. Once in my school, a teacher insulted me for fees in front of the whole class. I came home and cried to my mother. Then she sold my earrings and paid the bills. It’s been almost 10 years. Still my mother taunts me that I deserved that insult. The teacher did the right thing. Although they didn’t pay my fees. I really feel like a piece of trash that my mother bullies me in the cruelest way. It hurts me terribly and it’s just only one example. Numerous times she physically abused me that I still have bruises. I'm still unmarried. I cannot take it anymore. I think I also became toxic like them. I cannot even move out from them.
Shhhh! Dont ever think of becoming like her.... Even my so called mother is also like her, even more cruel..... I hated her all life for what she did to me.... Every time i see her , i say to myself and pray to Allah to not make me like her... I don't want to bw witch to my kids..... Have hope in Allah and keep praying! She will surely face the tight slap of Allah for all the abuse and bad she did! Ignore her and focus on ur well being.... Pray to Allah to get u married to a good guy in a good family
@@TutorialsandDIYs I don’t want anything bad for her. All I want is her to realize how pathetic and disgusting she was towards me. I want her to realize and feel guilty and I want her to try to becoming a better person which she is not right now.
@@saymasultana339 in sha Allah
@@saymasultana339Im really sorry for you. May Allah make it easy for us all.
May Allah guide us and guide our Parents. May Allah grant them understanding. May Allah clean our hearts and clean our parents hearts. May Allah grant us truthful tongue and grant them truthful tongue. May Allah save us from the sins of the tongue and guide our parents to abstain from the sin of their tongues. May Allah grant all of us loving, caring, truthful, trustworthy, merciful, helping, righteous, pious and Peaceful Spouse who holds our hands throughout life and in Jannah as well. May Allah grant us peaceful home and loving in-laws. May our in laws home be full of mercy for us. May our in-laws treat us far more better than our imagination and our own house members. May Allah bless all of us immensely and grant us unimaginable rewards for our patience in this life and in the hereafter. May Allah forgive us for all of our sins and forgive our parents and guide us and parents onto the straight path. May Allah heal all of us. Aameen
My dad harassed me as a child now I hate when anyone touches me and it still triggers me until now.
May Allah give rewards for ur patience and give a best husband.
@@akhtarshaheen9508 ameen 🌺
don’t hate on no one
Is he your own father or step father
@@IslamicimanIs he your own father or step father
My mom abuse all of us under this sentence that she's out mother and always hold the "I won't forgive you and you'll go to hell even if you pray" threat whenever we say no.. She chooses everything for us including our major in college my sisters' husbands and if something doesn't work out we get blamed for it even if it was her choice .. Although She was never there for us emotionally I literally don't remember one time we sat and had a talk together.. In my eyes she's a monster I want to avoid
please pray for me and that I get peace
May you get peace, happiness and a hope🥰🥰🌸Love yourself,talk to God daily tell him your problems you will be healed and get mental peace instantly ❤️😇 Sending lots of love and blessings towards you🥰🙏🦋🦋🦋God bless you dear🙏🙏🙏May you get everything you ever wanted🌸😊😊😊
May Allah SWT Give You Peace & All The Happiness Sister.
Ameen✨
Ameen
May Allah grant you peace and happiness. May Allah forgive all of us. Aameen
Read surah ad duha all the time.
Allah tests those whom he loves 🤍
Indeed
May Allah make our tests easy for us, grant us sabr and ease. Aameen
@@kehfilwara1692 Ameen
I have heard this in many religions, albeit slightly different versions.
The best thing you can do is realize you are amana to Allah and protect yourself from even the closes people to you. Choose yourself and distant yourself. May Allah protect and love us all ameen ❤
Victim to a toxic mother struggling to sleep , how can a mother wish death upon her kid
As a Christian watching this I cannot agree more with his point of view.
Praise God 🙌❤
Sweet u say so bcoz u don't know wat a toxic parent is,it's safer to stay away or else make u commit suicide & they never care.😢😢😢
Exactly, finally someone said it.
Yes
A companion of Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) says, Before embracing Islam I saw a handsome man continuously preaching to the people from the morning (but people were ignoring him). At noon one young man slapped him, another tore his shirt (garment). The third spat on his face and the fourth threw dust on his head. (After the four young men left) a girl came out running and crying with a bowl of water. When that handsome man saw his daughter crying, he said with tears in his eyes, "Do not worry about your father, for Allah protects him. And a day will come whenCome the time when Allah's message will reach every household in the world." I asked a person who they were, he said, "That handsome man is Muhammad () and that girl is his daughter Zainab (ra)
Im bot muslim, but this person is speaking facts that everyone should take to heart, religious or not
I hate my father so much, when I get a job I will move out
All the best for your journey
Same me too
Will we go to Jahannam when we dont speak to a very abusive father?
@@Sueki_ I don’t know
I will pray for all my sisters and brothers...we all are one...In sha Allah Allah will forgive us all don't worry I have trust on him..will pray for all my loving brothers and sisters who all are suffering please remember me in dua too☺️
I have toxic parents they don't love me they even remind me that I ate and drank 🥺
Same here dear, those words hurt
And my mother says that I don't even pay her for she is feeding me isn't it funny
@@ayeshakaleem7299 tell her that Allah will pay for her deeds! understood?
@@TutorialsandDIYs 🙃🙃
But do I really have to pay her in cash I mean I m quite obedient I know I m not able to pay her for everything she has done but why is she toxic with me only and always comparing me with the daughters of her colleagues and not letting me be myself
@@ayeshakaleem7299 same is my condition dear. But I started to ignore her and her words and focus more on my deen. I will even try me best to be not like her to my future kids
Let’s not rule out emotional/psychological abuse.
tap on newest comment, and read it brother ❤
Jazaak Allah Khair ✋
My mother does evil things to other people and wants me to stop speaking to other relatives….I have just learned to respect and distance myself from her 😔
So do u stay with her, mine is the same condition, can I leave the house... I'm an unmarried girl
May Allah make it easy for all of Us. May Allah forgive us and Our Parents. May Allah grant us and them Understanding. May Allah guide us and Guide them. May Allah make us Pass our trials and test and make our tests easy for us and grant us beautiful patience. Aameen
My mother was caught having sex with my brother in 2022. I disowned her and my half brother. Dont want nothing to do with them.
My mother demonized my relatives and even my own 2 siblings because she didn't approve of the way they're living. Now when I see and judge reality with my own mind, I realize that those people are amazing and my mother exploited my untrained baby brain for her advantage
@@TutorialsandDIYsdon't leave the house if you're unmarried that will only give your mom more ammunition against you. Instead, assert yourself. Make her believe that if she tries to bend you to her will, she'll be at disadvantage and she won't even try. She would even start to defend you 😅
I was recently mentally abused by my mother Thursday morning over food. when it comes to relationships, she would always be in competition with me to make herself feel valid, she would always blame the fact that I didn’t cook her food when she simply didn’t ask that’s called boundaries, and every time I told her I do not want to argue with her. She continues to proceed with the process of her toxic behavior.
THIS SOUNDS EXACTLY LIKE MY MOM. Your not Alone ❤️🩹
Same here..
Allah has blessed me with a wonderful family 😊❤❤
My mom always disrespect me curse me make my brother don't talk to me
Always say bad things about me to her siblings
I am in depression
My dad died many years ago
I literally want to die
I can't even say allah will take my revenge bcoz she is my mother
My mom tries to make me happy with materialistic stuff like me favorite game but materialistic things don't bring happiness
My mom is very toxic,my parents never support me to do something, never said "do it you can do , we're with you "always poked my insecurities, never talked nicely,she never hered me
The issue is that my father is very good to me and I couldn’t ask for a better dad but my mother is the complete opposite I’ve tried fixing her for years and I just get gaslighted in the process and hear the most gut wrenching unholy insults from her, I have no choice but to distance myself for my sake.
Alhamdulillah, we can't back answer or argue with our mom, it's a sin, so it's better to block them for our own peace.
@@sabihunt3382
Sometimes you can't hold it back..sometimes the mental torture becomes so prominent that you self doubt yourself and become anxious..have panic attacks..even the thought of going against them makes you so stressed out....I know it's a sin talking back to your parents...and your mother is door to Jannah ...please guide us..on..how to have sabr😢😢😢in such situations....
@@eliking8813 We can't back answer our parents, dads r usually good but moms r usually torturous. When my mom says something hurtful or insensitive, I stop talking to her, I can't help it, it's been going on and on since childhood. I can't absorb negativity anymore. May ALLAH forgive me! Today is my dad's 4th death anniversary, she invited everyone except me, even her relatives don't invite me in their marriages. They know I don't have kids so they boycott me with such audacity.
For me, it's the opposite. My father is the hypocrite and bad mouthed one, who yells at us alot and is incredibly selfish. Meanwhile, my mother is kind and my respect for her is endless.
There are also parents and family who will then spend decades trying to hide such info. May Allah keep us safe, ameen.
My mother nearly beaten me to death! May Allah deal with her!
Either run away from the house, or call the authorities. Physical abuse isn't something that should be endured. If u are starting to feel like ur mentality is getting worse and worse as the time passes, please do something about the situation and not just endure! At this point, ur whole life might be ruined.
My mom is also super toxic to me all the time 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Me too
❤❤😢😢
Its so difficult to deal with parents who fight verbally or physically. Giving jump scares and anxiety and depression. I hope no parents ever fight and emotionally and psychologically harm their own kids ameen
Why does Allah give you a bad parent like it doesn’t matter how hard I try to be understanding and make excuses up for the bad behaviour, the emotional strain and physical stress she continues to remind me why I can’t rely on her for anything
You don't have to make up excuses for your parent(s) bad behaviour. They are a test to you from Allah s.w.t. It pains me just how much I relate to all the comments in this video because I have gone through the same thing all my life too. However, almost reaching 34 years of age, I think I am much wiser now. I don't question Allah about this because I let him control whatever happens from now on. If I have questions, I ask Him and if I get the answers, good. If not, I take it as it's because He knows better and that I probably wouldn't be able to understand it so I submit everything to Him. I just stay away from my mother and I set my nawaitu/niat/intention as to protect myself and be healthy and happy so I can serve Him better. Allah comes before anything, even my mother - so basically, what I am saying is, try to change your mindset. If your parent(s) hurt you, try to put focus back on yourself and strive to not be like them. When they hurt you, complain and run to Allah like you would to your mom/friends etc. Love yourself so that you could love Allah more. May Allah s.w.t. forgive all of us for our sins and may He bless us with success, happiness and protection in this life and the hereafter. Aamiinn....
Finally 😭. I am diagnosed with depression and CPTSD as I have suffered severe narcissist abuse from my mother. It's been more than 24 years and I don't know what to do.
my parents constant fight is killing me now.
Emotional abuse time and again is so torturous! It's better to block such negative people.
Finally somebody making some sense...thank u so much Mufti menk 🥺
I can't even tell anybody what I've been through bcz of my father
@@asmask4809tap in newest comment
Most mothers favour their sons over their daughters and think it’s right
Same to me😢
Not true it’s not majority
I must say.. this guy has the cleanest beard I have ever seen.. NH
I wanted to present to my mother someone I wished to marry. She did not even considered meeting that person because she wasnt same nationality yet she was muslim. She openly said and wished for us not to be together. Shortly after we broke in unconprehensible sudden way. I got hurt alot so I didnt talk to my mom for several months. When I finally succeded to forgive her she cursed me by : " may God sadden you as you saddened me ". I feel this unfair coz Islam dont emphasize race countries but instead the heart. Since she cursed me 2 months after I totally lost everything in my life, career, private business, health, and 1 year after my next relationship same thing in a way I can never retrieve back. I got diagnosed with cancer, multiple sclerosis, pulmonary embolism and infection, mortal blood virus, cancer risk in liver and pancreas coz parasite, cognitive loss and retina damage with risk of blindness in future. In brief my life is almost destroyed without any coming back Iam only 31 years old. Now is this fair ? Was I wrong ? or was she wrong ? How should I behave with her coz I just got no patience left for her anymore. Please give me honest advice.
Ur mom is beyong wrong here! And u didn't deserve the curse.... U can marry against her will too, just leave everything upon Allah.... And undeserved curses hit back
You’re gonna get it all back. When Allah takes away something, he returns it in abundance! Ask Allah for forgiveness and remain patient. Everything will settle
I'll be honest here .....no one can understand your heart and what you went through except Allah ...and if you do anything good or make any sacrifice always do it for one reason only "to please my lord Allah swt " ! .... your life will be easier i pray for that ...and yeah as unfair as it may seem parents curses does have effect on children but do realize that above parents there is a Creator who is Ar-Rahman , the most merciful and Al-Haqh , the most Just so yes we live in this world as a test and we going to be tested in various ways but tawaakkul Allah swt is the only thing you should never even think of letting go not even for a sec ....
I won't be able to understand your pain but i can just tell you what i tell myself to keep my sanity intact and heart & mind at peace .....and if you want to cry to anyone or share ...then share with Allah swt even though your lord knows but you calling out to your lord using his blessed names and sharing your problems and asking for guidance , peace & tranquility.
My mom is always saying bad thing about people which are not even true at all
What should I do my mom don't love me and she always favours my siblings over me I don't mind that but its getting to much may allah gives me sabr pray for me pls
May Allah give us sabar and heal us ❤ Ameen
As salamu alaikum everyone this is a message to myself firstly and hopefully a beneficial reminder for us all .
The prophet peace be upon him said speak good or remain silent
The best thing would be too remain silent and keep your head down and keep it pushing, and also answer simply if questioned yes, no and hold tight to Allah and his rasool sallahualaiyhiwasallam and state that I am keeping my information berween me and Allah and do so insha Allah no need to tell anyone everydatik of our lives. Jazak Allahu khairan as salaamu alaikum
How can a person be truly happy when he literally has to go
through mental abuse all the time.
Facts. People speak too soon about other people’s parents as if they know every parent and it’s disgusting. Just because your own parents and those around you are good doesn’t mean everyone else got decent parents. People should keep their opinions to themselves and not assume, because there are some horror stories they would never have survived if they had to go through them.
My dad has been the most negative person in my life..may Allah give me sabr 🤲
Lahaulawalaquwwata illabillh ilaliyilazeem.... Alhamdulillahi rabbil alameen Lasharikala❤
I don't want to talk about my parents, I don't want to represent them toxic.
I just want Dowa so that I can overcome and Allah make them realise.
My mom is pathetically toxic..... she always abuses me and i am only 13 years old student i am slowly losing patience😢😢 i am really tired.....
It gets better trust me! Hang in there, work on developing yourself and building your future. It might not seem like it but in a few years you’ll be in your career, creating your own family and living away from her. In the meantime be respectful and don’t do anything that you’ll have to answer for in front of Allah.
Subhaanah Allah Maa Shaa Allah it's true 🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲
Me I take my space after my Mom tell me she doesn't love me she love my siblings but she act differently when I'm too far from her and I live in peace when we are far from each other she can call me and help me with something when I need some help 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Allahu Akbar
Alhamdulilah
May Allah make it easy for you and give your mother hidaya
Abusing mentally and also denying the fact is just terrible.I really try to control my anger and not to argue with them.
Ya Allah give me sabr
I am not very often on the same side as Islamic teachers -
Here I am. Wise words. If you think you have to, you have to.
Pls help me 😢 I wanted to get some advice
Like my mother always forces me to do the things she likes, she wants me to like the things which she likes, it is not correct right?? Everyone have their own choices, own passion, own interests. But she forces me to like the things she wants and if I don't do this, she emotionally blackmails Me and behaves in a bad way like I have done a crime!! It isn't good right???😢😢
I needed this. I am a revert. I’m just starting on the path. I was raped by my father abused physically and mentally by my mother and shamed for not talking to them. Thank Allah for this message.Allah blessed me today with the gift of financial stability, focus in my faith, and now peace within my heart.
Is that true that he r....ped you ?
same situation, want escape due to toxic mother
My parents are really very toxic i am losing may mental health due to them but they cant understand yr why 😭😭😭😭
Toxic parents or guardians can destroy our identity or personality
I wish I never do that to my child never ever. Can't even imagine what I have been through. 😢😢
My mother is super like super toxic to even make me think of killing myself sometimes what do I do I am not independent enough to cut her off but I m dying slowly . Her behavior her words are killing me every day little by little
same
Same here. I feel killing myslf evryday. May Allah kp us away frm haram and especially from abusive parents
Im 22 y/o female, started to earn in my first job..my parents were never there for me and never bought me anything beyond the most needed basic items but bought all the sorts of expensive shits like branded watch,shirts and shoes for my younger brother..so now with my money i started to do skincare, haircare and got myself a couple of dresses...my mom wants all of my money now and whenever im buying anything she gets pissed off and yells at me and calls ne the ungrateful child
Don't cry everyone Allah is with you ❤️❤️❤️❤️ Allah love you when you are a Muslim
Assalamualeikum so Beautiful Lesson Love you all for the sake of Allah
SPEACAILY NARCISSISTIC PARENTS 😓💯💅🏽🤦🏽♀️✨✨
Is there any verse of Quran that Warn Parents not to be toxic with their Children?
I thought I was alpne but we all are same May Allah bless us in future and in next life in return of this
I want to control my anger and have patience among my hot tempered parents.. They are really getting angry over every silly thing.. I want to Control but I yell at them every time too.. What should I do
Same problem bro its always my mother who keeps shouting and then blanes me to my father i want to end my life
@@mridstaid414no matter how bad the situation is, do not kill yourself. Always remember that there are billions of people out there who would love you and never do that to you. They would take your side.
Yes, I figured it out this happens because you're raised in a family where everyone is yelling at each other because that's the only language they know..
Now, you need to set your boundaries.
Do not involved in every talk they do.
Do not talk to them either.
Mind your business and make your own Space where you can live. In the home or outside anywhere.
Everyday praying on time, doing adhkar Sabah and masa everyday. Reading Quran everyday. Istighfar, sadaqah. Sometimes healthy distance is good, when your parents are yelling and you feel hurt/angry do not utter a word and leave the room, tell how you feel to Allah, complain to him. Just like ya3qub alayhi salam did. Try to read the stories of Prophets and what kind of difficulties they faced to find strenght
Self check time I won't be having kids for a long time...
It's so difficult to leave them when you're really young and are dependent on them just for your education and nothing more
I am trying to heal from so many traumas in life, is God even there?
Please even when i take a step back they just come back and just mentally exhaust me until I break and lose my patience im trying my best 💔
Im sorry for everyone who is living this rn…
best option is to have sabr meaning patience, tawakkul meaning leaving it to Allah, Have respect no matter what.. don’t argue with them, Don’t show any negativity towards them. But don’t cut ties fully, it’s better and at least to have a boundary between your parents whether they are emotionally/mentally/physically abusive, Or even all at once. Let’s keep it simple your on the right path towards Allah while they are in the wrong. So don’t worry that’s exactly why I mentioned tawakkul. Having patience will slowly bring you to light. Respect by doing it for the Sake for Allah, he will reward you in this dunya and the hereafter. Don’t make things rough and tough for yourself. Just read the Quran, everything is there for you to hear and know. The Quran is your guidance by Allah so don’t expect to get guided by anyone besides Allah. So once you do this you’re not violating or taking advantage over Allah’s sayings in the Quran. But your parents are so abusive, But that to Allah won’t accept that, And you focus on getting closer to Allah. Yes Dunya is meant to be unfair and hated, But remember life is a test, so expect the unexpected. I know some parents can be negative from a scale from 1-10. Maybe be a 10. I know it’s hard to deal with most of the time of what happens inside of a family depending from a scale 1-10. Easy with Allah. Family has a meaning, but people don’t realize they break the definition of family and makes the individual think it’s actually them that’s violating the family, It’s because Shaytan has entered if not one, then more. But parents says they know what’s right and what’s wrong they why do it over and over again. I know their brain stops them but they still end up continuing it. One thing you must have is pure intentions for yourself and others. Don’t doubt the power of Allah’s plan, and never lose hope from Allah. What you can try doing is giving them a straight up advice at the best time about what’s halal and haram. Theres times where they don’t even care or want to listen and knows but doesn’t wanna hear or care and have a negative response towards childrens daughter or son. And remember this isn’t for the kids only but including adults, teens, the old, and the infant. I have been doing so much research in youtube and google about these common or very common situations that takes place without anyone knowing other than the person going through it or more and Allah. Fine, if they avoid the Quran and Hadice, You didn’t do anything wrong or haram you had the right intention of looking for a solution but ended up up getting rejected or avoided.Your father is the middle gates of heaven, though he can be but not by violating. You are under your mom’s foot and gate to heaven. Same thing applies for them. They are parents think in a way of “dominance” the “elderly” because it’s a parent. This is how they take advantage of the rulings in Islam, and then they abuse the rulings by Allah that has been prohibited (haram). I hope I was specific enough. And remember don’t cut them off, keep a distance if you know bad will occur if you know it’s coming because of them. Never fight your parents nor disrespect nor break the rulings of Islam nor bring any sort negativity, nor cut ties. But have sabr, tawakkul, respect, do it for the sake of Allah at your best because he loves who tries. Parents and childrens must have riyaa. Do pray for them at home or masjid with pure intentions. But here I’ll also talk about the other side of the parents now, They might be going through this for short time and a while. But continuously isn’t permissible. Assalamoalikum.
What I recommend everyone reading this comment and also doing research like me. And look I’m trying to be on topic and correct about the information I provide at a young teenage age. But remember before doing any research THE QURAN IS WHAT YOU FOLLOW.
Remember to Pray 5 times a day, make dua, do zikr, etc.
Jazaak Allah Khair ✋
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@@P0ST1NGBMW Wa feek Baarak Allah.
Peace, mercy and blessings of God ,
I am Bashayer, 20 years old. I want to marry a man who worked with me a year ago. But he changed his job and came to me. I found a suitable man, but my family rejected him because of his nationality. And other illogical reasons. They threatened to kill me and brought someone with a second Emirati nationality and wanted me to agree to him and marry him.
They are greedy for his money, land, and passport.
I want to file a case against them, and I am afraid that they will find out, and may harm me. I work from home, and I leave the house very rarely.
This house has its problems. Who has a deceased father or a divorced mother 3. Brother in prison. My second brother is not employed. My older sister is divorced because she also married out of greed.
Living with them is very toxic. As my mother and older sister keep on cursing me. My mother took my passport from me and hid it away. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm scared of physical abuse.
Thank you
Save up money secretly and leave
Daily zikhir reminder 💚💮❤️bismillah
1.SubhanAllah 2.Alhamdullillah
3.La illaha ilAllah 4.Allahu akbar
I know why all of you are here at this video so open your heart and write ur experience and just know nobody here will geer at you and I will always be there for you ❤I am going through something related to parents too……
Finally, as I’m sick of hearing to not lose the ties with these toxic, abusive and rapist parents or relatives. So haram. More needs to be said about this especially at this time I believe many children are coming out from the long term toxicity and abuse they endured “in the name of Allah” Astaghfirullah you must I plead! Discuss this further @muftimenk
everyone has moms, it was my two elder sisters i feel that's even worse but most people dont understand, only the recipient will know, the victim
I have been abused by my father from the childhood for 26 years. I'm so tired now. I really need help.
Find supportive friends.
Cry out to Allah.
Focus your mind on Jannah.
Make a huge vision of your life so large that and rush to actualization that vision.
Mine r beyond toxic, can I just leave the house and cut the ties off.... I am unmarried girl and in my 20's.... So can I leave the house and live separate?
I completely understand you. You can leave for your mental health. Life is short. You don’t want to regret that you didn’t make yourself happy
@@AminataKargbo-949 oh! JazakAllahu khair.... I will leave their house surely
Keep distance, practice more silence. If get a job, good marriage or quality education opportunity then go for that. If there are siblings that parents prefer then, let them stay with their preffered child. You can drop off once in a while.
@@akhilspillai_inyes I'm minding my own peace now
Ask Allah to bless you with a husband
I’m the youngest I stay away from my mum fighting with my older 2 sibling but Allah had confirmed that it is bad to have a favourite child and I’m that favourite child I try to take care of my sisters but it’s like they hate me.
O Allah solving you my family lover issue BECOUSE toxic...why never accepted in my problem is sulotion
#LY B
Im really tired of facing abuse every day from parents. I cnt evn leave home n go alone😢😢
Patience then patience
@@mehdibenamara8379 thats what ive been doin. May Allah help me to stay with non abusive people pls pray
The only 44 years old son who is still not married . The father never gave him any importance rather always being harsh and nonsupportive. Insult in front of others. Now at this age the son has developed so much anger after demanding for his rights through different ways but the father at a very old age is like a worst enemy towards his son.
The very good and fun loving son has now turned to an angry person. His precious time is wasted. Still struggling while facing the society also which only know that they are parents.
It's not too late.
Increase in prayer.
Increase in lifting.
Increase in knowledge seeking.
Look up Muslim Alpha by Sh Gabriel Romaani.
@ashrafi7337 Thank you for your input. I do pray a lot. Things can hardly change as we can’t change the people related to us and the resulting circumstances.
My dad uses Khat and smokes and he is very depressed and getting his money stolen by someone he trusts..i’m trying to talk to him about it but he separated me from my mother and we are stuck in the opposite side of the world without my mom and i miss her so much guys please make dua for my dad to return back to normal 😢❤
Brutality has no answer just leave it to Allah.
step out for get support from outside muslim(other family member that u trust or authority).. if u see their face and mental abuse will ongoing until when we dont know.. in this case high punishment such in syarak means something we cannot forgive like that too easy and we dont know it will repeated again...
ASTAGHFIRULLAH
Stay blessed
I lose 3 person this year 2023 there are my baby angel (2nd miscarriage) January, my dad in law April, n my dad September, but the toxic person still here with me that’s my mom.
Thank You Sooo Much A Great Mentally Even As A Big Scholar Of Islam & You Have Said Logically Otherwise There Is No Hope Or Anything
My sister is extremely toxic for me and for my parents as well. But my parents would never cut her off. Now if i want to cut her off i would have to cut off my parents as well. What do i do?
I will answer your question when I get time. InshAllah 👌
Cut both
@@angelgrace1431 but my parents are my responsibility
Just do what you think is right okay
Ask Allah for help always. He's always there to help us and for us !
Maintain a distance don’t cut them off completely
I m slowly losing my Faith in god why my parents are so selfish i dont deserve this suffering i never done something wrong in my life 😊 but still my life is getting wrost
Patience because this is a test from God that He will reward you with in the afterlife
I needed to hear this❤
My father is way more abusive and deeming. I hate him to the core . Good Lord that we don't have to live with him. But he comes occasionally to stay with us and those r the most horrifying times of my life. I dread him emotionally 😩 and mental abuse. I am a grown ass of 26 year of age. Still I have not gathered myself and suffer from many illnesses . I have zero confidence and I hate him.
ASA,
There's a channel called Muslim Mastery and Believers confidence. It might help. It's a bit pricey but if you put effort it well help you transform into a confident person