Why Some Couples Last, and Others Don't
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What is the SECRET to TRUE LOVE? Let's discuss👇
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The secret is not abandoning your relationship when things get a little tough/ boring
Sadly some men, and most women, check out at this stage because it actually requires effort to make a relationship work for many years. Talking upwards of 10 years. 80% of divorce rates are initiated by women too
That’s just this generation now sadly. I feel like there’s a very small group of men and women who want monogamy and commitment but will rarely cross paths. Most people base relationships now on what the other person can do for THEM. When you should be basing it on that person’s character, personality and core values and beliefs. These are the things that will carry you long term. And don’t be afraid to have differences too
@@CrazyPanda688Great input
For the solution of this video, u need to interview @MahdiTidjani about it
My husband and I were happily married for over 50 years, which does give me some qualifications to speak on the subject of lasting marriages. I think most people are too selfish to be half of a loving, lasting marriage. Instead of wondering what they bring to the table themselves, all they think about is "what can this person do for MEEEEE!". Also, if you select a life partner on looks or what kind of job they have, you are building a house on quicksand. Their character is much more important, because all the externals change over time. Maybe character doesn't give you that immediate "in love" feeling like instant physical attraction does, but it creates a lasting love, and makes you proud to share your life with someone. If you think I'm wrong about this, come back and state your case when you have completed 50 happy years with someone.
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This advice is GOLD....thanks for sharing!
Lady, congratulations on your long innings. However I’m sorry to burst your bubble. I have seen many couples with long lasting marriages around me. It’s not really something uncommon either. Most of those couples are not ‘in love’ and never have been actually. They just know how to make a marriage last on paper for which they don’t really have to do anything if you think about it. Most people have limited options to start a new life past a certain age so all they need to do is just hang in there lol They are about as selfish or sometimes even more than some of the lifelong singles that I’ve met. That’s because they aren’t really able to be real and vulnerable with themselves or their partner but too much of a chicken to leave. It’s more of an arrangement for easy access to sex, companionship, security and social status. They just get used to that life and then romanticize to feel better about it. You’re lucky that yours was different as you say.. but most of the time it’s ‘love’ without true intimacy. I’d rather be single than have that.
@@rpaafourever7908There is truth to both what she said and what you said.
Both of u r right. In the end, there's only one concrete way to stay married no matter the circumstances...and that's to not file for divorce.
My husband and I are happily married for 43 years. First marriage.
If I could be so bold as to give advice:
Marry someone that you truly like as a person. If you wake up one day and he’s broke or disfigured, does what’s inside him still make you feel warm?
Life will bring so many ups and downs.
But, one thing I can say with all honesty is he’s the best person I’ve ever met, and he brings out the best of me.
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Good Lord, I'm so happy for you 🥲 i want this 💓
You are both lucky to have found each other. I wish i was in your place. ❤
This is a reqlly good advise
Best advice!
Marrying the wrong person is the worst experience ever. Kudos to those with the courage to walk away.
I agree. It was the most lonely place to be. I'm still friends, but we weren't a good match for marriage. I hope to find someone, but I may be single the rest of my life.
Why marry them in the first place if they’re the “wrong person”? Take some self accountability
@@jaythemartiannsometimes, people only show their true colours after you’re “trapped”. the side they hide from the rest of the world.
I can't tell how much I appreciate this channel and the work you do. The contrast to the 'mainstream' tiktok and instagram accounts is just staggering - and in this case, it's about real life, not the facade people want to create for the public. Your work is much, much appreciated.
You're awesome. Thank you for your kind words!
@@Sprouht Just keep doing what you're doing. In the world of today's fake media, your content is like a breath of fresh air. First time I met a channel like this, and I'm very excited about it.
My mom and dad were married 50 yrs Mom a immigrant from Italy ...beautiful, modeled for DIOR in the 1950's Father Irish educated business man. Madison ave. Mom was a virgin and only went on 2 dates prior to meeting my dad. Growing up was a dream, they never really argued...always were together there never was any curse words spoken ...ever in my house by anyone. They were faithful catholics...I couldn't eat at the dinner table unless I had a proper shirt on... I was blessed...I promised them I would always be for them when they were sick...I prayed to God to let me fulfill that promise. I was bedside for both of them when they took their last breaths...God is indeed Great.
You and them were great humans. Bless them ❤
@@vladonutueu And you as well for making such a comment...All the best to you!
Amen, keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers. I believe that you mentioned an important point that often is not mentioned in these videos - the importance of faith. Its made all the difference in our marriage.
What a beautiful marriage they must have had
He is indeed great, thank you for sharing your beautiful family story.
I’m fifty five and have been married 32 years but met when we were 19 and have been together ever since. I wouldn’t say love is physical attraction as much as mutual respect and trust. Allow the other person to continue to grow and expand. Marriage isn’t easy. It requires work. And, remember, if you have a loving partner - the grass on the other side of the fence isn’t greener - it’s just different grass. I always think about this. I’m not sure if it means anything to anyone else but it just reminds me of the value of what I have right in front of me.
Was married for 25 years. Gave it my best shot. After divorcing 20 years ago I have had my best life, with not a single day’s regret. Found the right person? Great. If not, don’t romanticize the status. Get out of it, the sooner the better and make the right life for you.
Selfish
@@trueblueclue everyone is selfish. What’s your point?
@@trueblueclue You don't even know what he's gone through in his marriage and just made that comment, sigh...
Why these 25years became so bad? And when exactly had you understood it’s over?
20 years¿why did u even divorce uncle
I knew a couple who were married for 55 years. The man was 15 years older than his wife and they were an interracial couple of color. Some people were against their marriage but they outlasted the marriages of their critics.
My Mom always spoke about my Dad like he was a knight in gleamingly shining armor, riding on a valiant horse. I was shocked as an adult when I realized my Dad was in fact very human. 😊
Socrates reportedly said, "By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you'll become happy; if you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher."
Bravo. I was in the US Army and my first duty assignment was to Korea. I was befriended by a Korean man who showed me and some other soldiers - Korea. We would go out in a group together to restaurants and bars. On one outing, there was a pretty girl who joined us and that was in October. I had approached her several times and she finally agreed to date me in December and all of our dates were chaperoned (no kissing, hand holding, nothing). I asked her to marry me in February and we were married in May which was over 37 years ago.
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God bless Former US Army here....
I have been married for 8 years but I haven't been happily married for the entirety of these 8 years. I am learning with time that happiness is a choice within a marriage as much as it is outside a marriage.
“Happiness” is a Hollywood and a Disney thing.
@@tacorevenge87happiness didn't exist before the 1920s? Lol the lies we tell ourselves 😂
Happiness comes from within. No one can make you happy. As the Dalaï Lama said when asked about the meaning of life: « the Meaning of life is easy question to answer: Happiness ».He then added, “ the real hard question is What makes YOU happy? “
Most people don’t even know what would make them happy ever after. How could someone else? Been 30 years married and found that my happiness comes from simple things.
@@tacorevenge87bs. I met my old high school crush and was extremely happy with him for the last 3.5 years of his life.
I’ve been married twice, the first marriage was made for the wrong reasons, I then had a 15year relationship with another chap who was too immature to really create an honest relationship , my second marriage was good but he passed away too soon, and now I’ve been in a relationship with a man with whom I dont live, and we’ve been together for 10+ years and I would say that this is my most successful relationship as we do really talk, open our hearts and at our ages (75 & 81) we just go with the flow. BTW - we met online!
Thank you for sharing! Wishing you love and happiness! 🖖
I quit online dating apps years ago and I have no regrets. I go through spells of not meeting people, and I’ll go through spells of meeting a lot of people, but everyone I do meet has a certain specialness that I never felt with people I met online cause the sense of the universe placing us in the same place and the same time and allowed us to meet is quite something when you think about it.
Trust the process ❤
Same
You are right but less and less men approach women in the real world. Plus dating apps are terrible, matching mostly based on picture, its just dumb. There is no matching based on interests and common stuff
It's God, not the universe, love❤ God bless❤
The lady in black on the bench was 101% right 👌
I met my husband online 13 years ago, best relationship and decision I’ve ever made, it doesn’t matter where you meet..
Same here. Just celebrated our 13th wedding anniversary. Grateful for him every day.
Met my husband online 20 years ago. But it wasn't like it is now with the ability to "Swipe Right." There was a picture and a profile and then they emailed you. His first email was really short: "Getting to know each other online isn't ideal. Want to go out?"
Love is an involuntary response to virtue, so to be in love you need to be virtuous. I've known my wife for 51 years and we've been together since she was 19. (34 years) My advice is....
1. Don't have sex until you have established you are right for each other. Sex can create a false bond and you are then involved before you really know the person.
2. Discuss your values and what you want from life ahead of time - Kids (How you are going to parent - peacefully hopefully) etc.
3. Don't ignore any red flags. Address them immediately they come up and before you commit.
4. Take your vows 100% seriously. Once you are in it, it's forever, no matter what.
5. Keep fit and don't let yourself get overweight. You owe it to your partner to remain attractive.
6. Never stop working on self-knowledge and talk about everything.
7. Read the book (or listen to the audio book) 'Real Time Relationships - The logic of love.'
8. Don't be promiscuous before finding the right person. The higher your body count, the less likely your marriage will succeed.
9. Have kids young. Female fertility declines very rapidly.
10. Defend your partner in every situation, no matter what.
Those who do these things have a very high chance of a successful marriage. Hope that helps.
So true. I wanted to add that all these lead to a happy (!) marriage. Not just remaining together without honest and open communication. Love is enough in marriage, because love is not lust, it is tender feelings, care and respect towards a person.
How can you defend your partner during times when you don't agree with him or you think he's wrong?
@@MarchVargas Can you give an example of what you mean in your relationship? I would suggest you both read (or listen to the audiobook) 'Real time relationships' (it's free) and use that framework to resolve your disagreements.
@@MarchVargas it doesn't mean that you never disagree, but you never make your partner seem less in front of other people. Also, if someone says something inappropriate or insulting for your partner you should defend him like you would defend a close and beloved friend.
5 and 8 are ridiculous, but everything else makes sense yes.
I love people for who they are inside, physical appearance is ridiculous and changes with time. The body count thing, its not really an issue, its may be a sign of a red flag early in relationships but if you reach the point of marriage, having already built that commitment, trust and loyalty etc it shouldn’t matter. I have a massive body count because when single I don’t hesitate to hook up, but i’m still a very compassionate, honest and loyal person who has no issues being wholesome. What matters isn’t the body count before a relationship, what matters is the individual’s ability to control themselves and commit.
I stoped hoeing around just because, while I could commit and be loyal and a proper wife, The world never saw me that way or gave me a chance. Until one man did and all of a sudden everyone was shocked that I’m actually a good loyal partner - when everyone thought I would be disloyal and cheat. Someone who liked me but didn’t pursue me because “im a hoe” - someone I liked too - even tried to get with me after seeing how I change when dating someone and i found it hilarious because, no chances were given to him, I already found my love and am committed to him.
When it comes to high body count, people need to let go of their hang ups and look past their misconceptions and biases
For what you said about approaching an attractive woman, I have a story:
When I was young, around 12-13, there was a girl that I liked that, after having known, at least "of", her for years I finally worked up the nerve to approach her and tell her that I liked her. She ripped me apart. It was as if she took my heart, threw it on the ground, and stomped on it like it was a cockroach. She told me things like how to her it's ridiculous that anyone could love me at all. In the end, another kid in our class walked up to her and said, "Is this guy bothering you? Let me steal you for a second. Sorry, some guys just don't get it." I went home, and I cried. I cried my eyes out. This was back in the year 2000. It was years before I could ever be that vulnerable with anyone again, and in some ways, let's just say I always prefer to tiptoe into swimming pools now rather than just cannonballing into them.
That said though, I am married now. Our marriage isn't perfect and certainly has its issues, but we manage. There isn't anyone else in the whole world I'd rather spend the rest of my life with. When we first got together, I remember many people my age hinting that I could probably do better. I never responded as I probably ought to have, but if I could go back, I would tell them, "She's human. I'm human. She makes me happy, and I her. She isn't crazy, or superficial, or vane. She's smart. In a lot of ways, she's smarter than me. Even if I could, there's no point in finding someone better. She's as close to perfect as I want her to be."
Here's a big secret besides being compatible, you both have to WANT it. There will be time where you may feel uneasy or maybe unhappy but if you can both grow and help each other walk the path of life, you win. Want to make it work, want to share. When one person carries the load and desire it will eventually fail.
This was an interesting segment. I grew up in an age of no internet. You had to approach women and get rejected. You had to get out of your comfort zone. But you found love in the most unexpected places. People need to get off their phones are socialize with strangers. There is also a lost art of conversation today. I remember when people would have three hour conversations and spend more time with each other. Today people are less social than before and seem to be more self-centered.
Exactly, you’re so right.
And what if people want to know foreigners from the different corner of the world? Yes, traveling.
What about some issue e.g. covid?) online is bad in this case?
@@user-td6ws4it3jCovid was done.
Let's gather again😁😁
This generation is crooked. We can't just go on dates to meet people. Some men will be like pay for your food and then will expect sex. Some manipulate and coerce and take girls to rooms. This generation and your generation there's a huge difference. Best is keep yourself safe by knowing the person through chats and calls and after knowing their intentions meet the person.
@@akshatakorgaonkar6895 understand you, you just have to can say “no” or “you’re re fckng kidding me, idi@t, bye” and keep trying))
Women should also be initiating more themselves. The concept of men being the one to make the first move is archaic at best. If you see someone you find yourself interested in let them know regardless of gender.
“Don’t be afraid of rejection “ ❤
Easier said than done
If you are a man expect to be rejected and take it with good grace ?
@@johnballard6725 Women need to start asking out men too. Enough of this men must make the first move exclusively bs.
Love this! I have been married before for the wrong reasons. Now Im with my husband that is the one. In my forties and happier than ever. And love is about sacrifice and resilience and trust. Its a decision and not butterflies like we have been told. Butterflies= run😬
Real love& commitment is calm nervous system and feeling of home❤
Baby don’t hurt me, don’t hurt me, no more. WHAT IS LOVE?
🤣🤣🤣 It's on my spotify list, bro....
Got me laughing 😂
I can see you have a beautiful soul through your eyes!! There's lots of life and good intentions in them :) Thanks for the meaningful content you provide and for giving people aged 50+ a chance to share their wisdom with all of us. More or more, it seems that we live in a world where older people are being forgotten and it's sad because we can learn a lot from them!
Wow, thank you. You're so awesome - I believe that everyone has something to offer in this world!
I've been married for 22 years and all I can tell you is that life has been a roller-coaster for me, but someone has constantly been sitting on the next seat, sometimes not fully understanding what was going on or not fully agreeing on how to raise our children, but neither has ever wanted to throw the other person out of the carriage knowing that that option would have had a much worse result! Life isn't perfect, I'm not perfect and my husband isn't either, but we stick it out together and mostly enjoy our ride! Sorry, but I've always believed that the very notion of romantic love is a trap!
This channel is always a refreshing break from the fatalism of so many others spearheaded by "kids today" (I jest; I'm much older than this enterprising young man). I have to say, though, after plenty of dating in the pre-internet age, I met my wife online and we've been happily married for over a decade. Meeting that way CAN be done--it's not necessarily how you meet, but everything that comes after that's important. I have to agree with the stylish woman in the sunglasses: A successful marriage is, in part, about caring for the other person while giving them space to be themselves and getting the same in return. Well before she met me, my wife knew exactly who she was; she was and is the queen of her universe. I can add to that. I can be supportive of that. But there's no expectation to "make" her happy, because she already did that for herself a long time ago. On the other hand, it took me nearly 30 of my 46 years to find myself, changing my career, health goals, etc., and finally arriving at a happy place that keeps evolving. She's been very helpful with that, and yet, it's not her job to make me a whole person. That's what I would add to this conversation: For a good marriage, love. Live. Don't try to "fix" your partner, they're not a project. And regard them not as someone who's there to complete you, but rather as a guide on the journey that you're both taking together.
What you say about "don't fix their partner" is easy when your partner is not crazy like in having an erratic behavior or doesn't deny physical intimacy regularly. There are some compatibilites needed in order for a relationship to work. And it can work if people willingly solve out their differences and accept them and try to be better for the other one. Nowone can be human, imperfect, not give a damn and still be in a relationship.
I loved the woman dressed in black. Her whole posture and demeanor says “I am a strong, confident woman”.
She’s just acting like a douchey guy.and Referring to her husband as “This guy”. That’s not strong and confident.
Oh yeah.. like we need more boss girls.
I liked her too, I think she’s cool
It has nothing about being bossy.. She’s a WHOLE person.. She isn’t looking for acceptance from anyone.. WHOLE people see and understand that their journey may end coupled off or single, but no matter what their journey is THEIRS and no one else’s..❤️
I met my husband of 15yrs at the grocery store. I absolutely agree that it's great to meet people in real life.
There was a lot of really good advice in this segment, but those two ladies who took the time to sit down on the bench with you had fantastic words of wisdom! The one dressed all in black had amazingly positive body language, by the way. She communicated with her whole body that she was open to conversation, friendly and comfortable with sharing what life has taught her.
Great set of interviews!
love that 61 yrs old woman, yes, make yourself whole before you can love others....
"To find love in a world that is increasingly complex, turn to the basics. Find things that you love to do and do them. Hang out with people that you like to hang out with and cherish them. Travel to places that you've always wanted to travel to and enjoy them. Fall in love with who you are and never stop. And throughout all of this, keep your eyes peeled. Start conversations, and don't be afraid of rejection. If you do all of these things, you won't find love; love will find you." ❤️ I believe this
"love will find you "that's so beautiful 😊
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My parent married for 55 years..both of them passed away last years 3 months apart.
I will always remember her advise..stay with one men.coz it should be like that.
Maybe stay with the man you love. For some, it could be the second, third, etc.
If morals matter to you, then you need to find a person where morals matter to them. My first husband did not have a good example of long lasting love shown to him by his parents, but my parents were as much in love on the day my mother died as they were when they met, when my mum was just 14 (married at 19). Morals = trust I have found and trust, love and respect are the three most important ingredients. Also it is very important that you both want roughly the same things out of life. My first husband had no drive and he resented me wanting anything. My husband now of 38 years is my best friend, soul mate and lover.
You see a lot of people who are “together”…
However, you see very few relationships.
Remember opposites attract but being similar keeps you together. It’s like night and day
Met my husband at church. He was bestfriends with a guy I dated. Ahahaha. Been together for 10 years.
Number one advice: nevel let family and friends be involved with your issues. Never tell them the flaws of your spouse. You have to be their number one protector.
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The key to a lasting marriage is the acceptance of your partner. It's equally important to view yourself and your signifikant other as a unit, as " us".Without the willingness to sacrifice what is necessary to sacrifice for the relationship on both parts there's no marriage, therefore no future. It's not your money, it's our money. Their 're not your children, they're our children, and so on. You have to give to receive. There's no equality. The power- balance is shifting, and if you're not ready to accept that love is a battelfield, stay single.Then, there's peace and harmony. That won't last. But it comes back.😊
Idk I am a millennial and I don’t do social media and dating apps I prefer meeting people the old way. My dating history is horrible because all the guys I have dated cheated on me and left me high and dry for no reason. People today don’t understand what it is to be honest, faithful and disciplined. I look pass people’s flaws but others don’t do that.
I understand you, the amount of times I looked past the flaws of an other to see the person inside….. just to get burned in the end… 😢
Don't despair. With age, even just a few years, you will learn how to judge someone's character quickly. I can do it now, almost instantly, and I'm neve wrong. After that you will meet your person.
I think love is when you have a person where you can be urself in all the weird ways and be that for the other Person too
This video validated my feelings so much
I was married for 55 years, 9-1/4 weeks.
Met my husband 24 years ago, married for 19 years. Met doing something we each loved to do!
I hate the concept of meeting people online. That is why I personally stay away from many online platforms. I rather meet someone organically and spontaneously in the present and in the moment.
Do whatever you like. Both ways produce good and not so good results.
My parents stayed married even though they were both miserable, us kids could tell, until they both passed away. They were Christian and did not believe in divorce so they stayed married. I always felt for my Dad because my Mom put on aires that she was a nice person. It wasn't until he married her when he saw her real side and then said it was too late and stayed married to her.
I have been married for 30 years now and I don't like it. But divorce is not an option. So we just tolerate each other. I really wish we had not married. It is so lonely! 😢
why isn’t it an option? have you tried marriage counselling
I met my wife in a Store on Dec 26th 2012 it was a store called price right i lived alone for 31 years she lived alone for 46 years we got married on April 28th 2013 she was a God send to me i was so unhappy in life back then we are 10 years now it was blessing when we got married! ❤
And the price was right on that day on Dec 26th 2012
Your 31...she's 46?
@@misutasutanto6312 10 years ago i was 31 years old an my wife was 46 i am 42 years old now an my wife is 57 years old 10 years later
This is such a blessing. You gave me hope. Thank you
It's not marriages falling apart...it's close relationships...even friendships, siblings etc because of our self absorbed nature
Yes, I tried online twice each time for more than a year. Had multiple first and 2nd dates. The one guy I met online that I stayed with for 8 years was one of the worst experiences I ever had.
I've been following you for months now and it's amazing to see your channel gaining more and more subscribers. You've definitely found your way of creating great, meaningful content and you're a very good interviewer. You know how to connect with people and how to listen to them.
Much love from France
Thank you so much
It's not difficult to Find love, to fall in love... What IS very difficult, and rare, is Mutual love.
Thank you for your channel. Im already 60yo but still learning a lot from people who have lived life already and shared their most valuable lessons in living. Hope the YOUNG would watch and learn from your videos, too. These are lessons not usually taught in classrooms or online, but REAL LIFE EDUCATION they could apply in their own.
More blessings❤️💕🙏
We have been married 50 yrs. I think the secret is to overcome the obstacles and not bail at the first hurdle you encounter. We met at a USO dance in1973.
Each day is a learning day to me via this channel. I love what you do sprouht. Sending love from Kenya ,Africa ❤
Thanks Pauline!
I always do what I love, some activities are with people like being with a band, running, hiking, and swing dancing. I have never met anyone I wanted to build a life with. It’s been decades. I am retired, quite content to be single tbh.
Maybe you have too high standards and don't initiate
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Thank you for this great video! The lady sitting on the bench in the black outfit is right. Don't expect someone else to complete you. You need to be complete yourself. Know your values...this is the key. What are deal breakers in a relationship. Ex. I would never date a smoker or an alcoholic.
It's easier for me to understand all of this now since I have some life experiences but I was not aware of all of this when I was in my 20s.
I read that fantasy isn't the reality. My vision was indeed different from what unfolded. Tough!!!
It is scientifically demonstrated that too many options makes any choice impossible.
bingo!
If I'm honest, go to therapy early, so you can have the life and relationship you want. Deal with any trauma you had as a kid, so you are capable of love and being loved. Not doing so can stunt/ stop emotional growth as we get older, causing roadblocks to happiness. I'm a man who never knew he had attachment issues as a result of my own trauma. They are ghosts, and live with you whether you realize it or not. So, go discover the real you,as soon as possible.
3:25 She's the OG. Down to way she's sitting. Respect.
Thank you for doing what you do. Your videos are like a mini therapy session for me.
I agree meeting people in person is way better than meeting people online. Could you do a video on the best ways of expanding your circle? Especially for someone who's more of an introvert?
Looking forward to your future videos.
Thank you so much! I can, and I will. Great suggestion.
I had an argument with my beloved and I asked him to forgive me. He said yes because one day he’d need me to forgive him for something
I always say that when my wife and I are in this situation, my take will be that it mostly luck.
People are very good at post hoc rationalisations about why they did something, but if we look at it on a base level- we are simply the kinds of people that can stay in a marriage long term.
We are this kind of people because of nature and nurture, but that we didn't have control over.
It's lucky that we are who we are.
I disagree that it's just luck. Yes, a big part of it is luck, but there's also a lot of work from both sides to make it work.
People assume that everyone who is married is in love or married for love. That's not always the case. However, it's GREAT to see two people married and together like this for so long.
@@vitalman6111 yea but go deeper to the base level.
Nature and nurture makes people who are likely to do a lot of work to make their marriages last a long time.
They didn't control that. So it's luck.
I promise you, this is inevitable no matter what aspect of marriage or life in general that you bring up.
@@vitalman6111 maybe we're just suffering from the narcissism of small differences. Im saying it's mostly luck and you're saying a big part is luck.
I don't think we disagree that much
This has quickly become one of my favourite youtube channels. I love hearing peoples stories
This is a FanTAStic video! Well done!!!
LOVE YOUR CONTENT BRO
Great video-full of wisdom!
Love the whole video ❤
Love is not money not big car lots of yearly holidays two homes lots of wealth. love is when two people join together become one its knowing there with you through those bad days and good days always helping each other
feeling affection an inner happiness that makes you both feel happy as long as you are both together always.
Love is giving more and more to the one you adore Forever. .Love is me and you its a wonderful life
Great interview
will, good videos! nice mindset.
Wonderful topic and video😊
Now please ask to those who choose to live a single or unmarried life. Do they regret or are they happy?
They’ll just lie and say they’re happy. Humans were not meant to be single and alone into old age
@@CrazyPanda688 ow..that's sad😔
I'm single and senior, been married four times. I enjoyed being single for seven years straight in my fifties, then sort of fell for the idea that a man would add to my life. Seven years later I looked back on some disappointing and disastrous relationships, I've realized being alone isn't all sweetness and light, but being with someone 24/7 in retirement can be pure misery and also more lonely than being peacefully alone. If had had to choose the main reason my relationships failed, it's that I rushed into them. They were never the most important aspect of my life. I vaguely assumed life would improve as part of a couple, but never invested my whole self in holding out for the right person. It's complicated, but maybe it comes down to preferring to be alone, but caving to societal pressure to be paired. Now I get that.
@@CrazyPanda688soo just like the married people?
Good work man! 👌🏻
We have been married for 35 years. Some have been hard (we have a Son with a severe physical disability) but the majority have been wonderful. I have learned that as the Bible saying goes, “love covers a multitude of sins”. Just love that person and forgive as soon as you can. No one is perfect. Show each other respect but also don’t smother them with constant neediness. Become resourceful. Of course if something is too physicality taxing for you to do if you are a woman, ask them sweetly for help. Do not demand your own way all the time. Respect is the biggest lesson to learn. And cover all of it with love.✨💕💖🙌
If you understand marriage isn't just about love, but duty, understanding and having similar interests, marriages can last.
Good job man, bravo!
I like what that lady said, people think the wedding is a marriage that's just a party.
I like this topic. Thanks
This channel reminds of that those kind of thought are still existing. Love it
Total mismatched! 29 years together…
Still I need to continue because of my daughters!
That's hard.
What an excellent excellent video❤
This is really beautiful and eye-opening.
Loving your channel. Raw, authentic and meaningful. Keep up the good work. May your channel reach great heights.
Love all the experiences from the olders share
Pretty good advice.
Thank you for creating “this kind” of channel❤
Binge watching all ur videos at work, im soooo glad I found you, I can tell we’re gonna go far
Bravo!!! So nicely done! We need a whole series on this!! Please consider it ❤
As always, I enjoyed your post. Thank you.😊❤️
Love this. I agree 100% with our guy’s closing statement.
I appreciated this video. Real life and real people ❤
I love this! Thank you so much❤️🩹
Man, your content is different
This hold value ❤
Thank you for bringing in this topic. It's enriching to listen these matured people. 🙏👍
brilliant. thanks for bringing your family into the picture. ))
Maravilloso contenido! gracias por este video
Think about all the love in-between ". Great statement..