Even us who r still happily married, we find maps and mirrors here. Ive learned frm these episodes nt to say it will never happen to me, contracts are easy to sign wen u r still happy, the pain of these women wud be invein if we do not learn frm thm.
Madam Speaker,you should do a podcast on marriage contracts.(If you haven't) Honestly marriage isn't a scam if people knew the different types of marriage contracts I believe people will at least be protected financially.Mara emotionally can't promise nothing,there 😅
😂😂😂😂You are right. I'm solid. I'd rather have money to pay for a psychologist than be both broke and heartbroken. He contributed to my development and so did I, to his. We have been cruising nicely for 29 years, but I'm ready for rainy days. Been ready since day dot. Our sisters just go in blindly, being religious with their feelings. We can support each other without neglecting ourselves. My parents taught me well 😂😂.
She needs to pretend that she has forgiven the partner and willing to proceed with the partnership, while finding a way to "steal" her money back from the businesses, essentially bankrupting the businesses and then dumbing him. Eye for an eye.
The life partner must stop being delusional, the fact that he is now married means the married woman now has 50% legal rights over the man's assets, if the husband dies the new woman will have full rights on his assets including the business that she build. This lady must check ownership of the business and change it as soon as possible because she will loose. There is no way that a man can marry another woman behind your back and claim to love you. Girl must open her eyes and protect her assets, fact is she is nobody in that triangle because SA law doesn't recognise partnership as form of marriage. Currently she is just a business partner who gave birth to kids with the other business partner.
If she is the one who was strongly against marriage, she actually had nothing to lose by marrying him because they're already doing business together. Assuming a lot of the assets and liabilities are 50/50. All this to say many people are afraid of losing it all when the marriage breaks down because they have worked hard for it separately/individually. They're more afraid of this than being cheated on and other issues. Marriage was gonna secure her more than what this partnership has. Limpopo wife has won😢
What i have taken away from this is that never ever do anything that is concerning your money with a man. If push come to shove then let it me 50/50 or you spend less. Cause my concern now is how did he get access to the money. What was his explanation when he took the money, what did he say he needs the money for. Or he took the money without her knowledge.
It would be interesting to know who initiated the whole “marriage is not important” chat between the two of them. This lady has been played kabuhlungu futhi. I believe if the man was feeling pressured to get married, he should have approached his partner first and asked her if they can just get married to appease his family, not go and get another woman, who also happens to be his childhood sweetheart. I don’t believe a word he’s saying. Worse, he used her money to marry this other woman, why disrespect his partner whom he claims to love like that?
Childhood sweetheart? Moes those people have been together for years and am sure they even have a house. She is not a second wife, she is the only wife.
This is a complete betrayal of trust. If the guy does not BELIEVE in marriage, why then did he GET MARRIED. There is nothing like people do not believe in marriage. It's when a man is fooling you that they'll say they don't believe in marriage. As women we must wake up to realize that we need to do anything and everything with a men based on legal contract. She must sue the guy for the return of her 25% and then recover everything that is hers.
Haa Madan speaker, I helped a boyfriend build a double story I never lived in, in fact at the final stages I was not even allowed to go check the house 😂 nje.
The marriage certificate brings the wife to the business, depends on their marriage regime. Brother is a scammed nje. That lady is about to loose a lot
While with my ex boyfriend, I bought a property. After I found out about his unfaithfulness, I broke up with him. He wanted to possess half of my property. I laughed so hard. I don't know where these guys come from. They are another breed shame.
Madam Speaker, according to the law ,r they not saying if u stay with someone more than 3 or 6 months tht is your wife, ? If im right contact legal advice ppl , and put this life partner thing aside…..
Stay away from Limpopo man. If you do it be ready for any surprises . They are controlled by families and tribal rules and you will always come 2nd best
I would love to know her reasons for not wanting marriage considering they have kids together? I don't believe in marriage either, but my stance would be different if I wanted or ever planned on having children. The first caller was absolutely right, if you're intertwining finances absolutely have contracts and agreements in place detailing everything including the dissolution of the partnership. We have to look out for ourselves, ladies. These men will always prioritize themselves.
Marriage is a contract! Period! That is why when it ends, people fight over ASSETS AND NOT MEMORIES!!! Tsoga mosadi!! If you can disappoint yourself, why would you think others are infallible? Get your money right, protect your assets, and be ready for a rainy day. Do not be religious with your feelings! If you want to help him, do so, but do not relinquish your power! Do not marry "potential" thinking you'll turn them into the "ideal partner" you wanted". Especially if you are already established. When you hit a certain age, potential should never be the reason for being with someone. Unless you are patient. "He has potential"...Some sacrifices are not worth it. They can be costly in many ways, not just financially.
Is their life partnership registered? Because you can do that just as you do with civil marriage, however the legalities are a bit different. Otherwise half of that empire belongs to the Limpopo wife. My sister has been played
She is screwed because if he paid lobola the village wife is married in community of property. If the guy dies, that wife gets everything of his, even half of that business they own together. There's no saving the situation unfortunately, she is just screwed.
Madam speaker, you might find that this man is the one who put the life partnership inside this woman's head and went home to marry his childhood sweetheart. I feel like this business is the life partner's not the guy's because it's her money that built that business. I would ask him to pay my money back and move on with my businesses.
Madam speaker the first speaker is right it might work and he might be sincere in terms of not caring g for her but Der r legal consequences should she decide to walk away she going to get half of dat guy's assets which are part of the business which da lady is part of. Life is not regulated by feelings but by da law . And in terms of the law da "second wife" is actually da legal wife
At the end of the day, she dug her grave without knowing. I feel for her. Now we all know better I hope ladies. How do we recover? That 25% money must come back because he stole money, she must leave the relationship and tough decisions must be made about the business if they continue just as business partners or agree on the share % because now, she still invested another 75% pension. If she leaves she loses half of that 75% and every other money she put in. Mina I would fight it legally and he walks away with less than 50% and she will get someone else to help her but on a business level only. Now that he is married, she is downgraded to side chick committing adultery. Sleeping with another woman's husband. If she doesn't care about that she can continue ke in the situationship but this is not going to birth anything good
But she didn't want to marry him mus "coz she doesn't believe in marriage" it's like dating a divorced woman with kids she wants you to marry her but she done having babies 😢
This guy was never honest about marriage from day 1. I don't believe he ever stop dating his high school sweet heart but, life was just easier with the corporate lady in the city. Men are able to pull this off for many years, because he always clearly goes home alone and the boss lady wanted to remain in the city while his home. She may stay in the village but what happens when the kids start popping up. Realistically you can't be a life partner to a married person. The other lady is the wife now. It even changes the title of your kids to be step children. What if this man had been planning his exit all along and you are just the cash cow and for the fect that he disrespected your pension and went behind your back is very loaded. Plus his family will not respect her because she is just the baby mommy /business partner. I'd be worried about my money because clearly this man can even push you out of the company and continue with his actual family which he shares his last name with. If he was honest he could have asked her and told her about this. You can't build an empire with a man that isn't your family, this man is umgulukudu wakudala and he knew exactly what he was doing. Life partner my foot, this isn't Hollywood we have villages here which require cows and a Makoto to carry on the family name. At this stage I don't believe you wanted to be just a life partner with 2 kids and businesses surrounding 1 man. Men have a way of making us think we want something which you yourself, know deep down doesn't make any kind of sense especially if they are benefiting from you😢. Ke sono. And you don't just wake up 1 day and decide to get married to any person. Everyone knew back home, they all knew. How dare He just waits for your money to go pay a bride price for another woman. He couldn't even wait to take from his own share of the profit. I'm praying at this stage his not the one that told you to quit your job to fund his marital dream it's very selfish of him. At this point being a mokoti now and again at the village is a very small price to pay compared to the damage control you must do at.
Madam speaker that guy got into the contract knowing very well that he is frm a royal family that requires dadadaa..so he lied to this lady bcoz he is selfish...nd even the fact that why was he not transparent about the fact that he is going to take someone fr whtever reasons..he will continue lying unfortunately this is a disaster
The other lady is gonna continue benefiting from her hard earned money also they could have changed the contract to open relationship...its not hard to realize that he fooled her..in this day in age we r still dealing wth this
is it really a betrayal? she didnt want to get married. and this man will use his 50% of the profit of the business to maintain his money, its his money also, they are business partners
It is betrayal because he deceived her. Said he didn’t want to get married but went and married someone else. On top of that, he used his partner’s money to do that and he wasn’t honest with her. It is a betrayal.
Let's all consider that this lady can't really sell the business cause already she has resigned from her job, she is now unemployed this business is now her only job
😂😂😂😂this your madam speaker, her voice is giving don't care. I wonder what people who share their problems on her podcast expect. People must just learn to give themselves the sorry they never got from people who hurt them. Nothing arrogant than a mozalwane who's hungry for her own personal progress in life. Trust me. She dnt give a damn about your sad stories. Learn to listen to how people speak to and about others. Haii. By the way
Madam Speaker you did well by starting this channel. Women really needed this.
I swear! And what I love about her is that her space is unapologetically for women. It's OUR safe space. Her channel is so refreshing
@ my heart breaks for my fellow South African women. Something has got to give.
Even us who r still happily married, we find maps and mirrors here. Ive learned frm these episodes nt to say it will never happen to me, contracts are easy to sign wen u r still happy, the pain of these women wud be invein if we do not learn frm thm.
Thank you so much 🙏🏿🥺🤍
@@ntombigazi-mbeleni2583Yep. Signing without even reading first😂😂😂.
Madam Speaker,you should do a podcast on marriage contracts.(If you haven't) Honestly marriage isn't a scam if people knew the different types of marriage contracts I believe people will at least be protected financially.Mara emotionally can't promise nothing,there 😅
😂😂😂😂You are right. I'm solid. I'd rather have money to pay for a psychologist than be both broke and heartbroken. He contributed to my development and so did I, to his. We have been cruising nicely for 29 years, but I'm ready for rainy days. Been ready since day dot. Our sisters just go in blindly, being religious with their feelings. We can support each other without neglecting ourselves. My parents taught me well 😂😂.
The Limpopo village girls are the luckiest chicks angifuni ukungasho. 😂😂😂
She needs to pretend that she has forgiven the partner and willing to proceed with the partnership, while finding a way to "steal" her money back from the businesses, essentially bankrupting the businesses and then dumbing him. Eye for an eye.
No pretences, she needs to act right now and find legal advice ASAP
Not stealing, she must take what's hers. It's her money that suit the business.
I'm thankful for you and your platform,I'm more wiser now😊
The way I have trust issues, when I'm reversing my car I don't look at the screen I use my head to reverse 🙂😄😄
Keep turning your head sis!!!! Rather be safe than sorry😂😂😂
You are the big sister I never knew I needed😢❤
Hi, madam speaker. I love you so much. May beloved God give you more strength 💪 to do the great job you're doing.
Thank you so much ☺️ ❤❤❤
The life partner must stop being delusional, the fact that he is now married means the married woman now has 50% legal rights over the man's assets, if the husband dies the new woman will have full rights on his assets including the business that she build. This lady must check ownership of the business and change it as soon as possible because she will loose. There is no way that a man can marry another woman behind your back and claim to love you. Girl must open her eyes and protect her assets, fact is she is nobody in that triangle because SA law doesn't recognise partnership as form of marriage. Currently she is just a business partner who gave birth to kids with the other business partner.
If she is the one who was strongly against marriage, she actually had nothing to lose by marrying him because they're already doing business together. Assuming a lot of the assets and liabilities are 50/50.
All this to say many people are afraid of losing it all when the marriage breaks down because they have worked hard for it separately/individually. They're more afraid of this than being cheated on and other issues. Marriage was gonna secure her more than what this partnership has. Limpopo wife has won😢
Yhoo guys amadoda!!!!asikhubaza ingqondo🤞🏻imagine this woman is also the mother of his kids, I’m done shame!
I married at 36 for a reason. I was wise enough
What i have taken away from this is that never ever do anything that is concerning your money with a man. If push come to shove then let it me 50/50 or you spend less. Cause my concern now is how did he get access to the money. What was his explanation when he took the money, what did he say he needs the money for. Or he took the money without her knowledge.
hey madam speaker you are helping us so much and we are leaning a lot
It would be interesting to know who initiated the whole “marriage is not important” chat between the two of them. This lady has been played kabuhlungu futhi. I believe if the man was feeling pressured to get married, he should have approached his partner first and asked her if they can just get married to appease his family, not go and get another woman, who also happens to be his childhood sweetheart. I don’t believe a word he’s saying. Worse, he used her money to marry this other woman, why disrespect his partner whom he claims to love like that?
Childhood sweetheart? Moes those people have been together for years and am sure they even have a house. She is not a second wife, she is the only wife.
😢😢😢neehhh
This is a complete betrayal of trust. If the guy does not BELIEVE in marriage, why then did he GET MARRIED. There is nothing like people do not believe in marriage. It's when a man is fooling you that they'll say they don't believe in marriage. As women we must wake up to realize that we need to do anything and everything with a men based on legal contract. She must sue the guy for the return of her 25% and then recover everything that is hers.
Akunzima Thixo!
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Haa Madan speaker, I helped a boyfriend build a double story I never lived in, in fact at the final stages I was not even allowed to go check the house 😂 nje.
Man don't love us
😮😮😮 my sister why????😢😢😢
Re bitse ro go thusha go ithibuba Ausi
Bophelo sisters
Bathong😢😢
Hello from cape town
The marriage certificate brings the wife to the business, depends on their marriage regime. Brother is a scammed nje. That lady is about to loose a lot
This thing of partnership is also a scam especially when kids are involved..have a contract in place that protects you.
Watching from Namibia 🇳🇦 ❤
My lovely 🥰 ❤. Thank you
The “mmmmmhhhhh” is sending me 😅😅😂
Please be serious tu 😅😅😅❤❤
While with my ex boyfriend, I bought a property. After I found out about his unfaithfulness, I broke up with him. He wanted to possess half of my property. I laughed so hard. I don't know where these guys come from. They are another breed shame.
😂😂😂 Aibo wena crc
@@yaneliswakhoza5901 True story. I even forgot about it because it was unbelievable 😅
He was crazy. It shows he came to the relationship with ulterior motives,and was ill advised😂😂
Wayegula ngekhanda lowomhlola.
Let go and let God. Focus on rebuilding your life, wish them well and God will do the rest🙏🏾
The guy just didnt wana get married to her
Madam Speaker, according to the law ,r they not saying if u stay with someone more than 3 or 6 months tht is your wife, ? If im right contact legal advice ppl , and put this life partner thing aside…..
The first lady who joined the live her voice is like that of Dr Thema/Thema that’s why you think it’s familiar and you know her
Legal advice pls👏🏽he mst pay back the money
Welcome 2025 with the new yooh 😳
happy new year madam speaker🎉
Stay away from Limpopo man. If you do it be ready for any surprises . They are controlled by families and tribal rules and you will always come 2nd best
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Kuningi mosd 😂😂😂
Hello from Pretoria
The problem is not the new wife, yes the guy went to marry another one using our money 25% of our money not his money.
I would love to know her reasons for not wanting marriage considering they have kids together?
I don't believe in marriage either, but my stance would be different if I wanted or ever planned on having children. The first caller was absolutely right, if you're intertwining finances absolutely have contracts and agreements in place detailing everything including the dissolution of the partnership.
We have to look out for ourselves, ladies. These men will always prioritize themselves.
I hear everything ne, mara why take my money?
Hi Madam speaker, I'm watching from KZN
My beautiful thank you ❤
My beautiful thank you ❤
Im lizzy from protea glen hallo ma'dam speaker
Marriage is a contract! Period! That is why when it ends, people fight over ASSETS AND NOT MEMORIES!!! Tsoga mosadi!! If you can disappoint yourself, why would you think others are infallible?
Get your money right, protect your assets, and be ready for a rainy day. Do not be religious with your feelings! If you want to help him, do so, but do not relinquish your power! Do not marry "potential" thinking you'll turn them into the "ideal partner" you wanted". Especially if you are already established. When you hit a certain age, potential should never be the reason for being with someone. Unless you are patient. "He has potential"...Some sacrifices are not worth it. They can be costly in many ways, not just financially.
Is their life partnership registered? Because you can do that just as you do with civil marriage, however the legalities are a bit different. Otherwise half of that empire belongs to the Limpopo wife. My sister has been played
My sister your skin ❤❤❤
She is screwed because if he paid lobola the village wife is married in community of property. If the guy dies, that wife gets everything of his, even half of that business they own together. There's no saving the situation unfortunately, she is just screwed.
Madam speaker, you might find that this man is the one who put the life partnership inside this woman's head and went home to marry his childhood sweetheart.
I feel like this business is the life partner's not the guy's because it's her money that built that business.
I would ask him to pay my money back and move on with my businesses.
Watching from bloemfontein
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Madam speaker the first speaker is right it might work and he might be sincere in terms of not caring g for her but Der r legal consequences should she decide to walk away she going to get half of dat guy's assets which are part of the business which da lady is part of. Life is not regulated by feelings but by da law
. And in terms of the law da "second wife" is actually da legal wife
❤Hello from Limpopo
Hello fellow Limpopian 😊❤
Hey from germiston
Limpopo guys are evil 😈, A Venda guy almost finished me Yeses i jus t get angry thinking about how stupid I was..
Im shocked. Men
At the end of the day, she dug her grave without knowing. I feel for her. Now we all know better I hope ladies. How do we recover? That 25% money must come back because he stole money, she must leave the relationship and tough decisions must be made about the business if they continue just as business partners or agree on the share % because now, she still invested another 75% pension. If she leaves she loses half of that 75% and every other money she put in. Mina I would fight it legally and he walks away with less than 50% and she will get someone else to help her but on a business level only. Now that he is married, she is downgraded to side chick committing adultery. Sleeping with another woman's husband. If she doesn't care about that she can continue ke in the situationship but this is not going to birth anything good
Why do we still trust men with our money in this day and age???!!!! Yhooo this guy betrayed played Anon big time and she fell for it😢
This one need legal advice nothing more, betrayal was there
Limpopo man
No one must do background check honestly before u enter marriage yoh what is this eh 45:57
She is going to loose everything even the house that they are staying in
But she didn't want to marry him mus "coz she doesn't believe in marriage" it's like dating a divorced woman with kids she wants you to marry her but she done having babies 😢
This is shocking really 😮
This guy was never honest about marriage from day 1. I don't believe he ever stop dating his high school sweet heart but, life was just easier with the corporate lady in the city. Men are able to pull this off for many years, because he always clearly goes home alone and the boss lady wanted to remain in the city while his home. She may stay in the village but what happens when the kids start popping up. Realistically you can't be a life partner to a married person. The other lady is the wife now. It even changes the title of your kids to be step children. What if this man had been planning his exit all along and you are just the cash cow and for the fect that he disrespected your pension and went behind your back is very loaded. Plus his family will not respect her because she is just the baby mommy /business partner. I'd be worried about my money because clearly this man can even push you out of the company and continue with his actual family which he shares his last name with. If he was honest he could have asked her and told her about this. You can't build an empire with a man that isn't your family, this man is umgulukudu wakudala and he knew exactly what he was doing. Life partner my foot, this isn't Hollywood we have villages here which require cows and a Makoto to carry on the family name. At this stage I don't believe you wanted to be just a life partner with 2 kids and businesses surrounding 1 man. Men have a way of making us think we want something which you yourself, know deep down doesn't make any kind of sense especially if they are benefiting from you😢. Ke sono. And you don't just wake up 1 day and decide to get married to any person. Everyone knew back home, they all knew. How dare He just waits for your money to go pay a bride price for another woman. He couldn't even wait to take from his own share of the profit. I'm praying at this stage his not the one that told you to quit your job to fund his marital dream it's very selfish of him. At this point being a mokoti now and again at the village is a very small price to pay compared to the damage control you must do at.
Try requesting a prenuptial agreement to be drawn by yourself and your own lawyer then you will see the truth.
Hi madam of the country
Why not marry when you do everything that's done in marriage?
Madam speaker that guy got into the contract knowing very well that he is frm a royal family that requires dadadaa..so he lied to this lady bcoz he is selfish...nd even the fact that why was he not transparent about the fact that he is going to take someone fr whtever reasons..he will continue lying unfortunately this is a disaster
The other lady is gonna continue benefiting from her hard earned money also they could have changed the contract to open relationship...its not hard to realize that he fooled her..in this day in age we r still dealing wth this
Cape Town
is it really a betrayal? she didnt want to get married. and this man will use his 50% of the profit of the business to maintain his money, its his money also, they are business partners
It is betrayal because he deceived her. Said he didn’t want to get married but went and married someone else. On top of that, he used his partner’s money to do that and he wasn’t honest with her. It is a betrayal.
Man dont love us😢
Let's all consider that this lady can't really sell the business cause already she has resigned from her job, she is now unemployed this business is now her only job
😂😂😂😂this your madam speaker, her voice is giving don't care. I wonder what people who share their problems on her podcast expect. People must just learn to give themselves the sorry they never got from people who hurt them. Nothing arrogant than a mozalwane who's hungry for her own personal progress in life. Trust me. She dnt give a damn about your sad stories. Learn to listen to how people speak to and about others. Haii. By the way
The problem is not the new wife, yes the guy went to marry another one using our money 25% of our money not his money.