A Friend She Trusted Took Advantage Of Her Vulnerable Position
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- Опубликовано: 21 июл 2023
- In today's episode of Unfiltered Stories, we have the honor of listening to Amanda Villarini as she bravely shares her personal journey with us. Amanda recounts a college experience where she found herself in a vulnerable situation at a party she attended with a trusted friend. Upon regaining awareness, Amanda realized that her trust had been deeply betrayed and that she had been subjected to a profound violation.
Through her courageous decision to speak out, Amanda sheds light on the importance of consent and the devastating impact of having one's trust and boundaries breached. By sharing her story, Amanda not only takes a powerful step in her own healing process but also advocates for breaking the silence surrounding such experiences. Her message serves as a reminder of the importance of speaking up and supporting one another in order to prevent further harm. Join us as we listen to Amanda's story with empathy and respect, standing in solidarity with survivors everywhere. #UnfilteredStories #SurvivorStories
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When I was 2 I was raped by my mother's roommate. She would make me go down on her, she would try making me hard so I could penetrate.
I still remember that ish to this day.
So why is it this channel is only a voice for women?
Why do you never call out the women who do this?
Why do you never talk about the female teachers who are grooming and raping young boys?
The stories are out there, and they aren't hard to find.
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She's 100% wrong. This doesn't happen to everyone. Not me,
@@jackmassie9517she's wrong about a couple things actually.
@petermcavongton8232 are you the friend? Like you know the story
Name those abusers. If they try to take you to court, you have proof and it would shine light on the truth. This story sickens me and so grateful for your courage in telling it.
this right here! Name them.
What proof? I think the gist of the story is that there isn’t any proof. She showered and washed her clothing afterward. It was essentially her word against everyone else at the party (not just the accused), and they all had a different story or recollection of events, apparently. Also, the rape kit would have showed any kind of date-rape drug or narcotic in her system, and drugging someone against their will is illegal, so I’m guessing there were no unexpected drugs in her system. I’m not defending the “abuser,” but rather analyzing the details of the story as given by the accuser. FWIW, I don’t think she’s making it all up, but without proof or evidence she could be held liable for slander if she named the “abusers.” Note how she is calling them “abusers” and not rapists, that’s likely for legal reasons so she won’t be sued for slander. I don’t want this to happen to anyone. This story should be a strong warning to all young people, and not just young women, that nothing good ever comes from getting blackout drunk. People become very vulnerable or act in unexpected and unpredictable ways when they are drunk or intoxicated. It’s best just to avoid it altogether.
Abusers name is Jair
Unfortunately she doesn't have a case which is why the police told her to let it go. Naming her abusers will give them an opportunity to sue her for libel and slander, and she wouldn't be able to defend against that so it would be double shame. The fact is that she states herself that she doesn't remember what happened. Judicially that's a death blow to the prosecution if she wanted to prosecute. And on a personal level, it's a death blow to the psyche because in the back of your mind you're always wondering if you did consent but just don't remember. Also, she didn't do an immediate toxology test which means she can't prove (or even know) if she was drugged. So from every angle she put herself in a bad situation from the start. Another reason why it would be hard in her case is because unfortunately, because of the abuse of the good elements of the 'metoo' movement by many women who chose to take advantage of that trend in the wrong way, society over all is shifting away from endorsing women's allegations as fast as it did for a short period of time.
Me.... jk but idk could've been
I actually had to sit on the edge of a couch with one of my friends little sister who was passed out drunk at a party. I was a senior and she was a freshman. I had told my friend it wasn't a good idea for her to be there because of her age. Her sister blew it off and laughed because she was drunk and high. She left with her boyfriend, never said where she was going or anything. I was keeping an eye on her little sister trying to make sure she didn't get carried away drinking. I kept seeing this asshole give her drink after drink after drink so I stepped in and told him to knock it the fuck off. She started staggering and fell so I carried her to the living room and let her lay on the couch with a waste basket next to her. Something told me don't leave her there alone. So I sat with her, and the same asshole that was feeding her drinks kept trying to come in the living room and sit by her. I told him go back outside to the party she's will be fine. Either go outside or I will throw you outside. He chose to be difficult so I had to replace a storm door but there was no way in hell I was going to let anyone mess with her. I was so fuckin mad at her sister when she came back. She still left her again. So I put her in my truck and drover home. She didn't smell like booze anymore and I hadn't drank in hours so I told her dad she had bad chinese food! He layed her on the couch and covered her up and thanked me for bringing her home.
You’re a good man! Most of the time people ignore someone in that situation, which usually leads to stories like this.
You were her guardian angel that night. Thank you for being a good man
Amen to you brother .... predators are everywhere and you most likely prevented a lifetime of pain for this youngster.👍
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That is absolutely horrible what happened to her, especially with the police doing nothing and actually blaming her, that's disgraceful 😢🤬
It wasn’t anything for them to do, her story is BS, she didn’t get SA, she got intoxicated and made a bad decision
@@MarieMarie-MarieWhat's WRONG with you.....?
@@denniskeeler5907You're just SICKENING.....
@@rose-maries7131 nothing is wrong with me I just call BS when I see it and she gave that thing up willingly
@@MarieMarie-Marie And exactly how do you know that?
That’s disgusting. I can’t believe the law wasn’t there to protect you and get justice. Ugh.
The police needed evidence, but she took a shower and washed her clothes.
@@irenez7439but some cases have gone through without clothes. She has abrasions and marks on her body. A lot of cases get trialled long after the day.
I don't understand why they didn't do a blood test. If it was roofy. But the police are much better now
The law is a freaking JOKE!!!
Justice seems to be a 50/50 thing in America anymore, don't know what's going on anymore. Too much evil corrupt environment. People don't perform their jobs . ETC.
@@irenez7439 her clothes were off when she had sex. while she cleaned herseelf expternally, that does not mean she totally eliminated all evidence internally.
They probably have links to the police department, possibly a relative as their response is unfathomable.
I know that you are telling the truth, and thank you so much for sharing. Wishing you an abundance of healing! 💖💖
Abusers are not the stranger on the street, they are those in your cycle and in your life.
Ask the right questions and test people out. If I take a chance on a possible friend to my home or car, I may leave money out to see what's u0.
I've tested gf's with set up guys to see if she is loyal to my affection. Stay safe out there ya all.
Hi, I'm so sorry to hear that you went through such an ordeal. I am a male, and I think you have been very brave to speak out about this. Many years ago, my daughter had got herself involved with some people from college who I had an instant dislike to them, so I warned my daughter of my distrust of them. I was, and I still am a very streetwise person. I spoke to a friend of mine about what I was feeling and told him I was going around to this guy's apartment,so he said he would come with me and watch my back. We arrived there just in time. There was my daughter and another nieve girl from college there and five other guys. We recognised one of those guys from a particular nightclub where we worked on the doors, and he was known for slipping GHB into drinks. We got my daughter and the other girl and ushered them out to our car. Unfortunately, these guys started to get abusive. I will not be getting into detail, but what I can tell you is this, they wouldn't be using their tackle for a while after that night. Fortunately, the girls were safe, but I often thought about how many other girls had fallen as victims of these rapist. Maybe what my friend and I left them with will be a deterrent. If I were you, I would be sorting out my revenge on these rapists. They won't report anything to the police because this would probably bring about an investigation, and they would probably be exposing themselves to prosecution. How many other girls have fallen into their trap?
Good job papa 😊 ..unfortunately,nowday with these new drugs ,everyone is in danger,i always keep telling my daighters to not accept any drink from nowone ,even from their friends ...whatever if is water,juice or alchool!! I told thrm trust nowone and always after i pick thrm from school i tell them about different cases ive beard... first rule no talk to strangers or grt close to someone s car if they wanna ask something and second not drink anything from so,eone ev3n if is someone they know very well .... its a crazy world we live now 😢
Your abuser(s) pre-meditatively planned this to happen.
Absolutely
Definitely
God bless you you are better and stronger than all of those depraved people who hurt you you dident NOTHING WRONG 💛🌞🌞🌞
this is what parties are for. nobody wants to deal with all the people and not get anything from it.
did you even watch the interview, she loved going on parties and probably also loved getting hammered
ladies can prevent this from happening very often by not drinking until passing out
It doesn't matter What someone is wearing rape is wrong it's horrible that a sexual assault victim is blamed
If it was a rape??
@@warrior.4895?
Uh what
@@warrior.4895She was drugged. Therefore, she was raped. What part do you not understand?
She was sloppy drunk it was alcohol to blame
Stay strong, you're amazing & no one can take that away from you. ☮💜
OMG. This is why these abusers do this. They get away with this. This is insane. I can't believe this happened. I'm so sorry.
Amanda I'm so sorry that you were sexual assaulted what happened to you was not your fault I hope that you will find a way to heal from what happened to you
To think that those boys are walking around free is abhorrent. They got away with it and will probably go on to rape other girls
@@ceelobrown8606Victimblaming.... 🤢🤮
You are a very strong woman to put this out to the world. I am 55 years old and a Father. my daughter just turned 15. This is an eye opener for me and made me realize that there is an unforgivable gap in what I have been teaching her. It’s my job to prepare her for life on her own and this scared me. We have had the stranger talk and avoiding dark, secluded areas, not getting into cars with people you don’t know...but not about new “friends “. I greatly appreciate this and will use your story to educate her. I am so sorry that this happened to you and will pray for you that you overcome this and that the rest of your life is filled with success and happiness. Thanks again.
when my daughter was 15 she had a horrible life changing experience. i had tried to instill in her a sense of caution and explained unfortunaste occurences that had happened in our town of ~100k. she became certain of her judgement to determine safety and trust... until a boy she liked took her into a room at a party and raped her along with at least two friends. i only became aware of it when she became suicidal 2yrs later and was informed by a "life coach" she had started to see in an effort to overcome her painful memories which i didnt even know she had (she was also in counseling but the counselor couldnt tell me bc of HIPA and confidentiality). when i found out i remembered a time where she was having some difficulties and wanted to get back into karate but she never opened up... out of embarrassment no less. be open with your daughter and talk about things she may not want to talk about and tell her no matter what may happen to her she can always communicate with you without worrying about judgement from you
Stacey, it's not our daughters that we need to "educate". IT'S MEN. Men need to call out predators, including our friends, and stop blaming women for being in the wrong place at the wrong time, and wearing the wrong clothes. And forget the thoughts and prayers; they're not worth a damn.
I don't think your prayers are going to be of any use, Stacey. Where was God when Amanda needed HIM?
2 late, shes on our radar😂😂😂
@@mikejames6664he was fingering the actually pretty girls😂😂
My older sister has always told me: “it’s usually always someone you know.”
When I was 16, I snuck out with some college friends (we went to the same high school and they graduated) and they convinced me to do drugs even though I kept saying no, and I got blasted from one hit. We were in the car and one of the guys immediately left saying “Alright I did my job, she’s wasted.” I faked getting caught sneaking out and they had to take me home. I was GONE though and they kept trying to trick me on the drive home - when I told them to *turn left* they would repeat “turn right? Turn right?” Knowing that I wasn’t all there. I confronted him a few times after he kept trying to get me to hang out again and he apologized yuck and then invited me to his daughter’s baby shower. I told him that I hope him having a daughter makes him realize what he had done to young girls because i knew he had done it to other young girls too with his friends. Disgusting waste of a humans.
ALWAYS BE AWARE OF YOUR SURROUNDINGS AND DIRECTIONS!!!!
Years later, one of my close friends and I went to the concert and drank a lot of wine. He invited me inside his new house that he bought and that was normal since we would always hang out. He kept trying to kiss me knowing that I was really drunk at this point and when I pushed him away, he kept saying “Why not why not?” Etc.
Disgusting. So many more stories but it is true that it’s someone you know.
Be safe y’all. It sucks to be exist knowing that there is always someone who sexualizing you or waiting for a moment to victimize you.
so true. 8/10 men I hung out with did not take no for an answer and continued pushing for it.
I had what I thought was a good friend who I was 2 scared 2 make a move on. I was 19 in the army and had never had a girlfriend and only had a one night stand Long story short She accused me of trying to rape her. I was in the military at the time and made the newspaper her and her friend both claimed I tried 2 rape them. looking back I realize she and her friend They used me a lot always taking advantage of my kindness. Especially the one I had feelings for. She was a narcissist and her friend went along with alot of the stuff she said. I totally get how it's hard to trust someone afterwards I haven't being with anyone for so many years. I know In my heart i would be the best dad and so good to any women it's hard watching all my family with loving wife's and kids while I go backwards in life. And it really pisses me off seeing how many selfish undeserving people are in this 🌎. I hope you find true love everyone with good heart deserves it. Sorry for not being short 😂
Number one, it’s not OK for anyone to sexually abuse you. Unfortunately, we live in a world where someone is just waiting to pounce.
It’s not your fault if someone attacks you. But if you’re sober, you’ve got more of a chance to defend yourself. And at least if you have to file a police report later, they won’t be able to dismiss your complaint due to that.
The sad reality is that police are paid to give the false IMPRESSION they’re fighting crime. They achieve this mirage by scuttling as many cases as possible.
You're ridiculous
You sounded like you had amazing chemistry. Not sure why you didn't marry him.
A boy who lived six houses away, whom I had known and played together since preschool, was my first “me too” experience at 12. My heart goes out to you for what you endured.
I'm sorry & hope you've found mental and emotional peace.
@@myimperfectlife2023 I actually whispered “you’re my first me too” to him at my last reunion. And - I don’t say this often - I looked fantastic.
What was his age back then?
@@zianaqvi3481 We were both about 12. I think he was a month younger than I. He was popular. I’d say I was mid-tier popular.
@@sbalsamo410 You should have told his mother because we don't know how many girls he might have done this to after that or would you have allowed him to do it too?
huge respect for her being so strong and not letting it slide
This happens so often in college and no one warns young girls about it
All those lifetime movies about this kind of stuff, people know
Dad's. Good dads know.
I am dad to two teenage girls. Trust me - I DO warn them.
Every father does…they just don’t listen.
I think part of the problem with today’s otherwise justified “don’t blame the victim” position is the strange offshoot of “don’t teach young girls anything that might help them.”
If locking your front door is not “blaming the victims” of home invasions, then warning college freshmen etc. about the danger of new people & environments is not “blaming the victims” of assault. It’s really that simple
That wasn't their first time and likely not their last.
It's unfortunate that people can't trust anyone and that they can't even get any help. She is lucky to be alive.
You should exposed their names..You're a very strong young lady keep shining. None was that was your fault. They should take blood samples to make sure you weren't drugged..
So sorry this happened. You are so brave for telling your story.
so was jenner😂😂😂😂😂
What an elegant young lady. I hope she finds a good guy and protects her
*The bravery you display is inspiring and WILL help other survivors. You’re innocent. IMO you should consult an attorney regarding civil suit against LE. Especially since you have medical records. It’s unfortunate but the only thing to create change is LARGE financial penalties. It’s a way to hold LE accountable & might help another survivor to be heard. I’m proud of your bravery and compassion to other survivors.*
So many situations I found myself in when I was younger that this easily could of happened. Luckily the people I was friends with were not sociopaths. Sorry this happened to you. Stay strong and hold your head up.
Not one ounce of this is your fault idc if we're wearing shorts with your ass hanging out no one has the right to touch you without ur permission and shame on the cops don't worry karma will get those pieces of shit I'm so sorry that happened to you just know ur a beautiful person and love yourself God bless bless
You need to press charges. Go to the press, go to the DA's office.
My ex girlfriend was kidnapped and raped in a hotel in Houston Texas in 2018, to this day, 5 years later…..
The police department has held nobody accountable or in prison even though they arrested him the same day and released him until they run the rape test. Unfortunately Houston is backlogged several years to process the tests. By then the statute of limitations expire so they are never sent to prison. She ended up trying to take her life and had ptsd, and now lives in a mental hospital. Sad story.
So sorry to hear your story.... Prayers for you and for your innocent girl friend 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I am so sorry that this happened to you. I bet the police would react differently if this happened to one of their own daughters!
The body remembers 😢 I am so sorry this happened to you. This is horrible.....
The fact that they blamed her is fkn foul, just goes to show how men typically view rape on the whole!
You did nothing wrong. No matter how much you drank. No matter if a kiss actually happened or not. This was not your fault.
Exactly!!!
Kissing isn't consent for sex.. gosh this is upsetting
@@justyeeeeeetit right! so frustrating. its like the "tea" video. you can ask them if they want tea, but they can reject it at any time. Even mid drinking tea. And you can't force it down their throats.
Did nothing wrong? How about getting drunk going to parties. That is wrong!
@@DE-vs1xs Yeah. I have some stories about this.
So sorry to hear story Amanda. I am 75 years old and I feared the same for my daughter's university time. I kept praying for her safety all the time. I thank God for helping us. I am not sure how religious you are Amanda. But I would urge you to pray for your healing. It is difficult to deal with your trauma. Please don't blame yourself. From your message I learn you are a good person and you had your decipline. So disappointed with the laws we have. I will pray for your healing and please believe in devine healing. God bless you Amanda. Please cheer up ❤❤
Please get over the fact that it was your fault. I pray you receive all the healing you need. Thank you for being brave enough to share this.
it is her fault. this is what parties are for and she knew it.
@@eotikurac FACT: Only people who think rape should be legal think it is her fault. Prove me wrong.
Amanda, you seem like a great person, soft spoken, eloquent, and good . I wish you only good things from this point forward, i hope you'll find a good man who makes you feel safe and cherished and that you get to have a good life. and hopefully also justice, G-d will avenge you, and i hope you get to see it.
With friends like that you dont need enemies. Disgusting and pathetic and Im sure this isnt the first time they have done this. I hope you find the healing you need to move past this and live a healthy life. Thank you for sharing your story.❤🙏
I have never been drugged so I can’t identify with how that feels like and not remembering what happened to you, that must be awful. Though, I was raped at 16 by a friend as well and not at a party, I was a virgin and he had a huge penis and it totally messed me up both physically and mentally. I didn’t tell anyone for 2 weeks, wasn’t planning to but, my sisters friend knew somehow and encouraged me to tell and go to the police.
I never went to parties, it happened just casually walking down the street around where he lived around 9pm at night.
I also initially was blamed by the police and by friends so I know how that feels but, police eventually saw evidence and he eventually admitted to it in text because I wasn’t talking to him.
Unfortunately in my country we don’t take sexual crime’s seriously and he got 6 months of community work lol, at-least it was something. No idea where he is now, I have probably walked past him and not even known it.
I wanted to say that obviously for anyone drinking isn’t a good idea, what happened to you was not at all your fault. Good men would never put something in your drink, wait until you are out and then rape you. Good men should of been protecting you from that kind of thing.
None of it is your fault and you are brave for speaking about it publicly. I’m also so sorry that you have had to see the person who abused you again.
I'm so very sorry for you too.
@@lisahall1989 Don’t feel sorry for me, I’m okay :)
Drinking is not a big deal I am drinking last 20years problem is inner self the issue is that how to clean innerself we take bath and clean our outerself but it is the responsibility of human parients to teach theirs childrens how to clean innerself we human being are not here of the cause of RAPE but LOVE that's the difference between us and an annimals
So I think parients responsibility is biger than making LOVE so parients before loving thank in their mind that they are doing very responsible JOB of LOVE
So sorry this happened to you, what country is this, if you don't mind sharing? 😔
I drive for Lyft. Last night I p/u 3 college students. 1 was a lil more tipsy than the other 2. She started to apologize to 1 of the girls for not picking her up at the airport. I didn’t hear what was said after but the other girl started to cry & said she wasn’t upset. She kept telling the girl she wasn’t mad at her for not picking her up. She tested positive for Covid. Well, the girl said she was actually raped. Nobody (fam or friends) knew but she did have an attorney. My heart broke for this girl. She kept saying she’s gonna be ok because she’s strong. She also said her case kinda got pushed aside & she didn’t know what was going on.
I tell my son (18 yo) No means No. if he’s laying in bed with his wife at night & she doesn’t want to do it. No means no.
My 5 yo nephew already says no means no. If anyone makes him feel uncomfortable. Scream & runaway.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I feel disgusted the police didn't press charges. Talking about what you wore is so illegal! Im glad you got therapy. You are so strong!
I feel so sad for this girl. I have seen this kind of thing happening more and more. I wish there were more punishment happening to the perpetrators.
Friends are over rated..smh 😢
Those people were NEVER her friends , I also think you should not trust men if you’re a woman.
(NONE , but maybe your father)
Overrated*
Anyone who would do this to you is not your Friend to begin with.
Way over rated. Known that for 25 years. Family too
I’m so sorry girl 😢🙏🏽 Praying for healing.
UNBELIEVABLE!
It’s systemic-protection of abusers - so many workplaces are full of abusive people.
I’m so so so sorry!
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My heart went out for this young woman. She's bright and strong. I hope she will be blessed because i could feel she has a good heart. Be careful out there. 🙏
Institutional victim blaming, so sorry to hear and thank you for explaining it as lucidly as you do. ❤
About 28 years ago now almost the same thing happened to me but it was two men, Iv never told anyone about it not one person in my life knows and it’s something I think about still 2-3 times a week, things trigger me all the time, I scared to tell anyone I don’t want them looking at me in a different way, it kills me even to wright this , thank you for your story hopefully one I can say it out loud and feel no shame 🙏💕💕
😔😔 I'm sorry, hope you find healing.
So proud of you telling you story! I can't imaging my emotions if this happened to my daughter and now grand daughter. My heart goes out to you.
Thank you very much for your immense courage in sharing your trauma experience publicly! So sorry the police did not take your complaint seriously! And those boys could do this again, because they were able to get away with it. Very sad! Congratulations on how you have been dealing with this horrible invasive trauma. Very best.
Amanda... Stay strong! I'm sorry you had to go thru this, especially from a friend... This has definitely changed you... GOD saw what happened and he will take care of certain things in due time... You can heal from your trauma! Take one day at a time... Remember that you did nothing wrong to deserve any of this, especially feeling like you weren't worthy of being treated like you should have been, concerning the police, who should have made you feel protected and safe! You are not alone! Just by speaking up, you are helping someone, somewhere... Thank you! ❤
How can they let these criminals off scot free?? This is insane and crazy. This girl is obviously a victim of a crime and she’s the only one suffering from their actions! The guys who did this NEEDS to do time and pay for what they did to this girl! 😡
So sorry this happened to you. It’s a shame the police didn’t do anything. Look at you now, a strong woman sharing her story and giving amazing advice to others. God bless you
Just listening to her you can tell something happened. She is not forcing it like you have to believe me and she tells the story so naturally. I feel sorry for her and I hope she is doing well today....I know this will be a lifelong trauma that she will never forget. She is a great human being...
I'm sorry this happened to you. I have been through a similar situation. I was sexually assaulted by 3 guys that I trusted and considered friends. And it to happened at a house party. I'm praying for your healing.
It does happen to people of all ages.
I had an encounter that wasn’t trustworthy and I was caught of guard. Not as bad as you, but leaves you feeling like you know something more happened that you have no control over.
The good news is that you probably scared the guys or there is a history of them being questioned.
You were never validated for this wrong by the authorities.
Just sickening and I thank you for sharing your story🩷
I'm so sorry for what you've had to live through. No one should ever have to experience such a horrible thing. Please know that there are good people in the world and you can find safe people.
I'm so sorry that this happened to you. In the most cases it is someone you know, husband, boyfriend, colleague, family, friend etc.. In rare cases (maybe 10 %) it is a total stranger.
You are so brave to go to the police. And so brave to tell your story.
This is not your fault whatsoever. These three waste of skin boys must be charged with that brutal rape. I hope they see this and are ashamed of themselves.
fun fact, i had friends in high school that bragged about abusing a passed out girl, seven of them. and guess what? every single one of them, 20 years later is married with children. that's the sort of guy you horse reward, so it is 1000% definitely her fault.
@@eotikurac FACT: Only people who think having sex with unconscious people isn't rape think it is her fault. Prove me wrong.
You did a Great job sharing this.
I love that you are brave enough to share what you remember AND what is lost from your memory., to share the things that just don’t make sense.
It pains me that you went through the secondary trauma of rape kit and police report that brought no justice for you.
It WILL all come out in the end. Nothing goes unseen.
Keep healing, Little Sister
This is a horrible story. I have heard that this sort of thing happens or has happened quite often. I never heard about anything like this growing up. Some people are horrible. You are an absolutely gorgeous girl and to have your trust be damaged long-term like that is brutal. Those guys are terrible people.
I really wish we could have all their names and pictures. It’s not fair they’re being protected by a broken system.
You are so pretty MamaCat and I wish you so much healing and happiness going forward. Thank you for sharing your story. I’ve been through something very similar myself.
You’re a brave lady. I hope you continue to heal and have an amazing life ahead.
Thank you so much for sharing your story I am so sorry that you went through this awful awful tragedy. I am also sorry so many people let you down. Just know you are an inspiration you are a light and you are a source of strength for so many. Thank you again for sharing your story. Sending you continued prayers of healing
Because of going through this and dealing with it the way you did, your going to be a better person and a great parent one day. God loves you♥️
You and others like you are so courageous to go through this . Things like this wasn't even though of doing to another human being. It's disgusting what some guys think is a joke for a good time.
Thank you for sharing i’m raising three kids in Australia and I don’t want any of them going through that so I will protect them forever.
Oh no shame Amanda! Thanks for sharing your important story... i wish i could help you. I dont know you, but i wish i did, and help you. These guys need to pay. I hope one day someone will be able to make that happen.
You are amazing, keep being that way ❤
What a horrible journey. You are a brave human being. you deserve peace and I hope get justice one day from all of this.
I am saddened to hear your story. Having 2 daughters and your story really touched me. I'm afraid if it had been my girls, I would be in jail today. The boys would have learned there are consequences for their actions. And yes, there are therapies out there that can assist you in your healing. My prayers are with you. ❤
You are helping so many by telling your story. You are a very strong and insightful soul. 💜🕯🙏
Yes, it is wise NOT to get drunk anywheres, but, if a guy got drunk and passed out, I don't think a bunch of girls COULD rape him and probably not even a bunch of guys would not rape him. This is pretty gender specific.
Actually, you would be surprised how many men are also drugged and raped.
We're literally prey to them. They're so opportunistic
Girl with the dragon tattoo. What she did to her rapist should be done to all rapists.
You could have been dancing naked, without consent it is wrong. You seem very strong to be able to talk about this. Stay strong and try not to let it ruin the rest of your life! Unfortunately you really can only trust yourself to a certain extent!
she gave permission just by being there. stop being a clown, this wasn't a nunnery. and she knew it was her fault, which is why she felt ashamed.
I’m so sorry for what happened to you. You are right, it should never of happened to you or any person. Many towns or cities have Crisis Rape Centres where you can get great counselling. I’m pleased you are now moving forward. Thank you for sharing - I had 6 of my daughters watch your story and they realised why I had the rules as a father I had around their dating.
Thank you for sharing this! Your bravery and honesty is such a gift to the ones who have been through this painful journey in silence.
I have never shared my story but to a few trusted friends but i want to share my experience in solidarity with others who has also suffered through this.
It’s been 12 years & it’s still silently affecting me.
Similar situation of a “friend of a friend” that lured me into the situation as a “friend in need”, who turned out to be my worst nightmare.
They said they were depressed and needed someone to talk to & asked me to come by. When i got there her and her 4 sisters, and a few fellas were drinking in the downstairs living room. Not intending to be there too long but wanting to be friendly I had a beer, whereas they were drinking from a bottle labeled 1896. I was offered a shot, stupidly took it, never thinking someone would try to harm me, but what happened that night was horrible.
It wasn’t until after the ordeal ended and I knew was safe, that i came to realize someone must’ve set me up. I wasn’t for sure but learned later that someone spiked my drink when i went to use the bathroom.
Everything seemed fine until the following moments when my worst nightmare began. Almost immediately i was sick and needed to lie down. I don’t know how i got upstairs or how long i was there, but I awoke to atleast 4 men in the room surrounding me. 2 of them were having their way with me, while the other 2 watched and made lewd comment about me.
I couldn’t understand how i got undressed and into a sexual encounter with these strangers, but knew this wasn’t something that i had consented to, then fear set in. I struggled to get up from the multiple mattresses stacked on top of another and fell into an open closet space.
They pulled me back on to the bed laughing at my limp, pitiful state. I was disoriented, confused and humiliated as I didn’t know any of these men.
I remember thinking, where was Tammy and her sisters, & why wasn’t anyone helping me?Instinctively i knew, if i didn’t get out of there it would only get worse, but couldn’t control my body.
By the grace of God, some man came, stopped them, and helped me gather myself and got me out of there.
Unbeknownst to me, while I was being raped, my “friend” & her sisters were out joy riding in my car & had finally returned. Still unable to think clearly, i allowed the same man who helped me, to drive me back to my home state.
In hindsight i see how disoriented i was, instead of going to the police, I just wanted to get out of there and get home.
My shame for being so foolish and not be able to protect myself, kept me from reporting it, even to my husband, but eventually did tell him. It makes me sick to think back of the look on his face. Somewhere between disgust and anger.
It wasn’t until i discovered i was pregnant that i told anyone officially. The only people who knew was my husband, my best friend that drove me to the drs & the nurse who did the intake.
I was already married and had a toddler at home. The shame i brought upon myself and my family was unbearable. I became very withdrawn and depressed as I felt i couldn’t tell anyone for fear of being seen as a loose woman or worse losing my family.
For years the anniversary of the date would cause me to tailspin and relive the trauma and shame.
Those days are seared into my memory & the scars are still healing. Counseling & spiritual healing has been helpful but the issues go deep & finding it can still invade my psyche is still painful.
Although just sharing my truth here is a step of healing that i have denied myself for too long.
It’s been a long journey to
process and heal, especially when it’s such a solitary struggle but I have learned to forgive myself for being so naive.
To say it’s made me a stronger, more perceptive person is an understatement. It’s been a series of hard learned lessons that not everyone that presents themselves as a friend is, and accepting that we aren’t the problem for being kind and trusting. Understanding healing takes time and forgiveness for both those who betrayed our trust, and most importantly for ourselves!
Sorry for the ramble, but thank you for this message
I don't know what to say.. I feel so sorry for You...
Read the Bible..
I really don't know the words to say, but I'm wishing you more healing and channeling love. I'm sorry that happened to you. You sound like a kind soul and your courage to keep going in the face of uncertainty is inspiring. I hope that you continue to find peace and healing and the utmost compassion for yourself, because you don't deserve to live in shame. God bless you and your life ❤
Be careful of who your friends are
I was raped by an older coworker when I was 15. I was nearly unconscious when he assaulted me and did not use a condom. then he had the nerve to say I "took his virginity" as to why he didnt use protection.
I felt so dirty. I did not go to the police. I knew I would be discounted not believed and treated poorly. I should have gotten a rape kit and gone to the police right away.
I wish my parents would have pushed the issue. my mom knew something was wrong because he wrote a letter essentially confessing. I was a child I didn't have the capacity to consent and the adults around me should have taken the next steps regardless. I have years of sexual trauma regarding this.
I feel very bad for this lady. the pigs failed as always.
You are very brave, I am proud you have a voice…thank you for sharing your traumatic experience…these abusers will pay one way or another..I wish you a happy life beautiful young lady.🤗🤗🤗
Your story is powerful. Thank you so much for sharing it. And thank you for sharing your tips at the end. ❤
Thank you for sharing your story ins and outs to give the true real perspective than the assumptions. In a weird way, i kind of realized why i do what i do and got an answer and had a small mini healing session. And you know what, all these things we don’t understand makes us grow for better me if i realize and choose to so you are in my prayer for your greater purpose which you already have accomplished!
it's so sad to hear. why do those people exist
Thank you for being so brave by telling your truth❤️
I’m so sorry that this happened to you. It happened to me too. They will reap their rewards.
You are a brave girl, being able to let the world know and get some training in self-defence!!
If she was unconscious, she can't very well kick box her way out of it.
You are absolutely beautiful, brave and courageous to go through all that and sharing your story. There is so much stuff like this happening out there. Too bad the police like to shame the victim of sexual assault. Abusers should be exposed.
Mental Health Matters. Stand tall speaking out and with your therapists you will get to where you need and want be. Your abusers they have to live with the burden of their guilt everyday. Rise up stay strong brave woman !!!
I went through something similar when I was 14 it was my sister's friend & some of his friends who did this I was drugged. I also got blamed for the what had happened to me it was my fault I tried killing myself and went through not wanting no one to touch me or going anywhere for awhile I was so traumatized. I'm sorry this happened to you I'm glad your able to talk about what happened to you. God bless you I'll keep you in my prayers
I'm so sorry that happened to it was never your fault
You don't know that.
Always 2 sides to a story 🙄
I relate so much to you, really well told
I’m so sooooo sorry that ALL THAT THOSE EVIL SICK MONSTERS DID TO YOU, but I know that they will ONE DAY BE SHARING THEIR STORY LIKE YOU HAVE TO DO TODAY
Thank you for sharing- very, very sorry- this could have happened to nearly every one of us women. 🙏🏼 pray you find peace🤍
Wow, powerful such a strong young lady and it never your fault if someone takes advantage of you in a vunerable state.
I CANNOT believe that the woman is STILL getting the blame. I’m so sorry to you. You deserve to have justice for what happened to you. It wouldn’t have mattered if you were in your bra and underwear, you played no part in your rape. Saying that what you’re wearing is why you were raped, gives the rapists a free pass to continue to rape and not be held accountable for THEIR actions. This world is not safe for many of us and that is beyond wrong. I hope and pray you’re healing. The process can be very long and hard. Please never give up. Many of us hear and validate you. You’re not alone. ❤
You’re a very strong and brave young lady!
God bless you.
Intelligent good communicator so sad this happened and she had no closer of the incident , God bless
Thank you for sharing your story this is how we help others. The so-called friends that did not believe you are as EVIL as the perpetrators.
As a father of 3 daughters I wish you would post the exact LEO who dropped your case. So that we could notify the correct authorities!
So sad that happened to you. You're a very smart woman..im praying for healing upon you.thank u for sharing your story you might save another sister. Those people who abused you will get what's coming for them.
Thank you for sharing ❤. I think that all future college students should listen to stories like this, and be careful, of the
" friends" that come along.
God loves you!
I never knew you wherent supposed to shower or wash your clothes if you suspect something happened. Thats a really good thing to know. And ill def tell my friends, daughters, etc ... So they know as well. Thank you for tell us your story! Youre beautiful, and strong, and very smart. Keep moving forawrd lady. ❤
The way "our" society is shaped...its amazing to me that this tough young woman believes that she needs to (or is willing to) protect the identities (due too some sort of social pressure) of these people. How have we come to believe that the violators, the perpetrators, the criminals (in this kind of crime) need NOT be publicly named, shamed and exposed? Its amazing because, unless I am wrong, she seems to be (as guided by some social norm or rule) to self censor and not offer the identities of these people. Including the detectives and law enforcement. We.Need.Change...
What’s important is to be cautious at all times and being aware of your surroundings which drinking unfortunately doesn’t bring anything good to the table.
She was not raped because she was drinking. She was raped because someone she trusted as a friend put something in her drink. There's a difference!!!