I’m 40, raising my four small kids on my own, taking care of my elderly parents, and have a small business. I still have no idea what I’m doing. We are all children doing the best we can as we get older. Anyone who tells you different is either lying or doesn’t know any better.
Before asking when or if someone is going to have a baby, PLEASE remember that ONE in FOUR women experience pregnancy and infant loss. There may be a reason someone hasn't had children. Don't assume they just don't want to. So many women struggle to maintain a pregnancy and don't need that added stress of people constantly asking WHEN... Just a thought.
@@ailaoctober I've had six total. I do have four children, my boys, and some have asked if I'm "trying for a girl"... but after six losses, I am happy with the boys I have. No more. It's too painful to lose and then get angry at my body for "failing" at something It did successfully before. It's just not meant to be for MY family. I always try to remember that pain before making ANY assumptions about someone else's parenthood. I am so sorry for your loss and your issues thereafter. Sorry doesn't take the sadness away but there are no other words to say. :(
Thank you. I can't get pregnant because of my history with eating disorders and damage I've done to my body. People always put me in the uncomfortable position of having to respond to being asked when i’m having kids and it's triggering
im turning 32 soon, newly single and happy about it, ive NEVER wanted kids and that won't change and still society makes me feel like there's a ticking clock above my head. I hate it.
Right there with you. I have always known, since a little child, that I didn't want kids. Luckily my parents never gave me too much grief about it, but until recently they hoped I'd change my mind. Im 30 and have been married for 9 years. Never been happier and our lives are perfect just as we are💕 Not everyone should have/be pressured to have kids.
the reason why childhood feels like it lasts forever is bc when we’re kids, we’re learning EVERYTHING for the first time & as we get older, we know what we need to know & basically live the same day over & over. so the key to making time last longer is to be constantly learning something new about life 🥂✨
Wait you have something here!!! Add catastrophizing and overthinking in and wow!! I get exactly what you are saying because I had a tooth pulled and it was horrific and took forever it seemed and I was traumatized- went a week later to have another pulled and piece of cake!! I knew what to expect!! Very good logic here
So much more memorable and cheaper. I’ve got a dress that cost 1200$ in my closet that is useless. I’m still very happily married. Wish I’d spent the money we spent on our wedding on a better home.
I got married for about 300 + / - $. 250$ went to the county clerk to show up on the Fourth of July. About 50ish for the dress It was on a amazing beach, we had my mom and his dad as witnesses. And every year we get fireworks for our anniversary.
I’m going to be 30 soon and I’ve been in a relationship for 9 years now. We’re very happy, we love our life together and have no desire to be married or have kids. Marriage is like whatever but having kids is a non negotiable. It’s completely off the menu for us. The response we’ve received about this is so bizzare. In addition to everyone initial reactions when they hear it, the absolute disrespect people show is insane. Once you’re the couple who doesn’t have a kid, people stop asking things. As a woman I noticed I get treated almost like a teenager still because I’m not a wife and mother. Very bizzare. Also people try to convince us to have kids😕 like what? Why would you want a couple who doesn’t want kids, to have them? Seems toxic.
I'm the same way, except I'm single and choosing to be that way as long as possible. I always get told that i need to at least get married, but I'm actually not too worried about it lol 🤷♀️
Damn guys I'm sorry! I am much like you both in similar ways, although I do have a teenage daughter, I will admit I never wanted children. I absolutely would never wish on not having her. But I believe you don't have to have a partner or family to define you. I commend you both for your decisions. Live your lives and enjoy your decisions based on what YOU want.
OMG thank you for saying this i relate so much 😭 we got married (been together for over 10 years and married for 6) because we wanted to do so but kids? nope never...and people just don’t care about your life anymore once you’ve made it known you won’t have kids. as far as family goes, they treat you like a child constantly even though we’re both 30 with a mortgage. and ask and joke about becoming grandparents etc. why is having children more important than getting a promotion at work or having goals outside of family ones? some of us don’t want the burden of being parents. there’s nothing wrong with that. friends who have kids drift away from you bc you just can’t relate. it definitely sucks.
Wow. Im also 30, married 9 years and no desire for kids. Our life is perfect, fulfilled, and happy just as it is. Im thankful our friends and family understand this, but people always assume we have kids and give weird looks and responses when we say we don't.
My dad taught me from a young age, when it comes to weddings, elope and use the money you would have spent on the wedding for your honeymoon and travel around the world.
I'll be 44 in May and the older you get the more beautiful life becomes!! It's about living from your soul, caring for the forgotten, never letting a soul feel like they are alone in this world, to give hope to those who feel lost and struggle seeing anything bright in their future, its loving all gods creations. Much love to both of you, you are on the right track!! I'm happy to share my experiences with you!! I believe your soul can heal your body partnered with other things.
I don't even want kids but as soon as Kendall started talking about her child choosing her and like the possibilities of who they could be I was WRECKED I'm sobbing that's so sweet, I'm already so happy for you in the future, Kendall
id love an episode on Kendalls medical issues because I have a lot of the same. I have PCOS, Hashimotos, etc. I am currently dealing with something else that drs arent taking very seriously. I have had 13 doctors appoitments in December with NO answers.
At 43 I'm probably the oldest person who watches you, so this episode made me feel really ancient :-) I can relate to what you said about people asking about kids though. I don't have any kids and never wanted them, and some people act surprised or think it's weird, if a woman says she doesn't want kids.
LOAblue, you're are not the oldest. I am 45 and love Kendall, The Sesh, Mile Higher and lights out. I didn't want kids for a long time but when I met my son's father, everything changed. My son is 15 and I can honestly say I can't imagine life without him in it. I don't even remember my life before him but having kids is not for everyone and there's nothing wrong with it.
I can’t even lie, I teared up HARD when Kendall was talking about what it would be like to have your kid see the beach for the first time or touch grass for the first time🥲
@@dorothyariesvlogs So did i hahah, the freaky part is how true it is that you just don't realise you are doing it almost! It's like being possessed hahaha i put shaving cream all over the bathroom and blamed it on a visitor we had in the house!
I would love to hear about Kendall’s health issues, I also suffer from fibromyalgia and people look at me like I’m crazy when I talk about it. Love you guys ❤️❤️❤️
Soo tacky, insensitive and quite frankly disrespectful to ask women when they’re having children! People need to quit asking invasive questions like this. It can be so triggering to some.
I have had one of the worst weeks of my life with a major family emergency and have not been able to get my mind off things. I am about to start the episode, and am so grateful for all your interesting conversations... so thank you for providing me with an hour of distraction :)
I love listening to your podcasts, I know this one is old but somehow I missed it! You guys talking about how time goes so quickly, your mom is right- wait until you have kids. You have a visual representation of how fast a year goes by! It is WILD to the extreme! I have. a ten-year-old and I'm 33. I still have no idea what the heck I'm doing with my life. Whaaaaat.
Janelle..I’m almost 33 and I promise you I am still winging shit 😂 Edit: Years ago I had miscarried and Mother’s Day came around and some random customer had came into my work and didn’t know me and said “Happy Mother’s Day!” And it crushed me. So I never say anything kid/pregnancy related to anyone.
Someone once told me that the reason time feels like it’s going by faster as you get older is because your concept of time changes. When you’re 8 years old, 8 years feels like a lifetime because it literally is your lifetime. But when you’re 40, 8 years doesn’t feel as long in the grand scheme of things. - hope that makes sense :)
Got teary eyed listening to Kendall talk about having kids 🥹🥹 imagine being her daughter one day listening to this podcast and hearing just how excited ur mom was to have you ❤️❤️🥹
I've been with my husband for 6 years, married last fall and we were constantly bombarded with questions about when we were going to get married and have kids. I didn't even want kids until this past year when I turned 26, I'll be 27 in May and the Mom urge gets stronger and stronger every day. Loved hearing your guys' thoughts and plans for your future!!
Listening to Kendall talk about her being a mom made me tear up❤️❤️❤️❤️ PLEASEEEE COME BACK 5YRS FROM NOW to react to this😭❤️❤️💖💖💖💖💖💖 & Yes I want a “birds aren’t real” video!!!!!👏🏼
I totally agree. My hubs and I got married at 21. And now I would totally go get married on a mountain and just bring my parents.. not the 200+ people who came to our huge wedding.
I relate to Janelle so much especially when she was talking about not being the girl who has a big fancy wedding. I feel like im sitting and chatting with friends.
Interesting fact: when you are a child you have slower processing times because you're still learning about the world and its strange idiosyncrasies. As we get older and develop routines, however, we become accustomed to how the world operates and therefore more time passes between our perception of each new mental image (essentially we experience less unfamiliar moments as adults than we did as children). As we no longer need to 'absorb' all of our new daily experiences in order to learn from them, it makes time appear to pass much faster while we're adults.
hearing the way you talked about how excited you are to have kids is literally making me tear up 🥺 putting all the good energy out there for when the time comes y’all do have kids!! ❤️
Janelle and kendalle are true healers !! Seriously!! Your energy is healing xxxx thankyou both x im in the uk London and your energy is global xxx where are you listening from fans ?
The footage from Kendall's wedding was so beautiful. Everyone was so happy that it literally radiated out of them. I was one of those girls that always wanted to grow up and get married and raise a family. But life didn't work out that way for me, and I'm actually happier than I thought I would have been without it. It also really wouldn't have helped the health issues that I've ended up with. Even though my health ruined the career that I thought I was going to have, I've found a new passion, which will hopefully let me help so many more people than I could have in any other line of work. Moral of the story for the younger people out there: don't hang all your hopes and dreams on one thing. You never know what life will throw at you, and you may end up better off than you thought.
I’m so glad y’all made this podcast! So many relatable topics in just this one episode. I’m currently 25 weeks pregnant. I told our close families at 13 weeks but didn’t tell anyone else until just recently. We weren’t going to post it to social media but my sister was low key judging me for not and pressuring me to make a post. Alot of people voiced their concern why I waited so late in my pregnancy to say anything and simply it’s none of their business or concern. The pressure of other people wanting a big gender reveal, a big baby shower and other stuff has really irked my nerve because to me it’s not my concern. I’m just trying to grow a healthy baby and get myself prepared to be a mom. I know I’m not the only one out there that feels this way. I just didn’t feel comfortable gloating about my pregnancy when I know there’s thousands of women that are struggling with infertility.
Congrats! With my first, I waited until I was 7 months to tell anyone. My boyfriend's mom knew the whole time but no one else. With my second I didn't tell anyone except family at 20 weeks. Never posted a pregnancy announcement online just a random hey I had a baby instagram post😂
I would love an ep on Kendalls health issues. Ive been struggling with my health for YEARS and only recently ive been diagnosed with hypothyroidism and lupus. It feels like ive been looking for answers all my life and doctors starting making me think I was crazy. I feel like talking about it more will help so many ppl.
I’m 30 and I wish I felt that motherly instinct Kendall is talking about. My bf wants kids and I have no problem giving him kids, I want kids but I don’t want kids if that makes sense. I don’t wanna have kids JUST because my bf wants kids I want to have that desire as well but I just don’t have it 🙁
I would recommend taking a deeper dive in trying to figure out what might be the core reason(s) as to why you feel like you don’t have that motherly instinct. Many people face those same insecurities because they didn’t grow up with their mom, or maybe their mom wasn’t a good parent, or maybe you associate motherhood with trauma, etc. I would recommend maybe looking into therapy, and trying to see if you don’t feel like you have a motherly instinct because you aren’t familiar with it, or you fear that you won’t be a good mom, etc - it could be a variety of reasons. (Attending therapy, in general, is so beneficial!) If after doing some deep reflecting, and attending therapy, and doing the necessary steps to figure out why you feel the motherly instinct isn’t there -if you still feel the same way - then I would recommend not having children. You may not feel like you have a motherly instinct now, but that could change in a few years. Who knows. But honestly, deciding not to have children doesn’t make you a bad person, and it doesn’t make you broken or damaged, or anything of the sort. If anything, it takes a tremendous amount of courage and maturity to even have that immense amount of self-awareness. Kudos to you for being vulnerable about that! I would also recommend talking to your boyfriend about your feelings as well. Just be honest about some of the concerns, fears, and insecurities you may have. If you don’t want children, I wouldn’t force it. I would hate for you to be pressured or guilt-tripped into having kids, simply to fit into society’s norms or to satisfy your boyfriend. Kids are a huge responsibility. You’re molding a tiny human being to grow into adulthood, and you have to be responsible for them for the rest of your life. If that’s not something you feel prepared for, or have the desire to do, then that’s completely okay! It’s important that your decision not to have children - if you do ultimately decide that - is acknowledged and validated. 🥰 I’m sending lots of love and light way! ✨
all the stuff w claudia is so disturbing, its actually terrifying the videos her mom makes her post & the fact that theyre a powerful political family is my actual nightmare i hope she gets out of that toxic house
Thanks for posting. Just lost my dad to cancer a week ago. He was my best friend. Was feeling à bit lonely and now i feel like being with friends. It's warm and cozy. Much love from Tunisia, Africa.
@Emily Hthank you ! Such a sweet and warm soul ❤️ I love to think that he is in a happier place, no pain, no chemo.. That he's with his parents now. You suddenly realise that life is so short and all that matters is having a pure heart and leaving good memories to people you love. My father was a dedicated pharmacist to his community Always helping People in need. I am a pharmacist myself and all i want to do now is keep doing that and going on a mission to help Kids have access to medication. Thank you and god bless you ❤️❤️
Your wedding was stunning, Kendall, especially that cake with those PURPLE flowers! We did a courthouse ceremony. Really quick and cheap! LOL... but on our twentieth anniversary, we're planning a BIG renewal ceremony/party!
I’m six months pregnant, and Kendall all of those feelings you feel now imagining your children are magnified x1000! It’s amazing! I can’t wait until he’s here! I know this is old, but good luck when you start trying! I’ve wanted to be a mom since I was small, too, and finally being stable enough to have one is a dream come true! 💕
Love how you had the make a disclaimer that watching this isn’t an actual therapy session because there’s some stupid people out there that couldn’t of thought of that out themselves lmao.
I had to comment on this Sesh. I adore all of you and watch every episode of every podcast. 💜 So many things you said in this episode rang bells for me. Invisible illnesses- I suffer from neuropathy, and people don't understand how I can't feel from the knee down except burning fire and how I can walk but had to work at it because my knees do most of the work. Kids- you are so right! They will break your heart, but believe me, they will also burst your heart. Love and pride are just a portion. I had my first at 16, another at 23, and third at 30. The 7 year itch 😊 We married at 30, but my fam is huge (And Catholic) and we heard about marriage and more kids a LOT! We did it our way though. Not to let people down but I have too much anxiety to walk down an isle in front of people and I'm told it's frowned upon to be stoned and/or drunk at the time. LOL I regret very little. I am now 50 and the grands keep coming! My 7th is due in July. I also have 4 step grands. My thought is MY God doesn't reward bad decisions with so many grands. They really are the reward. I'm sure that is far from your minds but it is something to look forward to in the future. You get to help raise them and teach them morals but when the stinky boom booms happen or when they're acting just like the parents in a bratty way, you get to smile and enjoy the show. Childhood Christmas- I miss these most of all. The magic and innocence will be with me forever. I loved my parents with all my being and every holiday was great but Christmas was amazing. The magic died for me when my daddy passed at just 51 of a heart attack just days before Christmas. I wanted to die when I had to unwrap the gifts I made him and purchased for him. I guess I did die a bit. It took all I had to continue tradition with my own kids. I'm glad I did. They have bonds with cousins and now my grands are building bonds too. You have so much to look forward to. Do it your way and enjoy every second! ❤️ (Apologies for the book!}
Kendall, I feel like we are in the same point in life. I also got married in 16, and we are in the stage of “almost” ready to try for a baby. 🤣🤣 get a basal thermometer & ovulation tests on amazon and start tracking your cycles! It’s super easy and if you have fertility issues the data will help so much.
ok stop. this podcast couldn't have come at a more perfect time. I just turned 28 in December and I've been feeling the EXACT same way for months now. When Kendall was talking about holidays and how amazing it is that a soul can choose you... made me cry. ❤️ it made me realize that I'm not alone and other people actually feel the same way. Definitely cures the loneliness I feel about it.
I totally agree asking couples when they are going to have kids can be invasive. My husband and I got married a year ago but have had multiple miscarriages since then due to thyroid issues,so everytime someone asks when we’re having a baby it’s just triggers a lot of emotions for us
I became a mother at 18 so I never had that moment were I wanted to have kids, I always knew I wanted to be a mother, but I never planned it... I’m now 23 and me and my partner ( my child’s step dad) want to have kids with each other but we also wanted to have bought a house by now, and we nearly did this year until our car got written off and all our savings went on that so we are back at the beginning... he’s 25 and I’m 23 we have time but also I just want another baby, my sister in law just had another baby and now the whole family is looking at us...
The idea that the social “norm” is where society tells everyone when they should have kids has to go. My husband and I had our first when I was 17 & he was 20. We had our second at 21 & 24. It isn’t for everyone and no one should be expected to have kids. As long as you’re happy with your life is all the matters! Love you guys & the fur babies. 🤍
I love your show! I'm 63 and listening to you two keeps me young! I'm keepin it fresh! Life races by.. it's hard to keep up. But it 's worth every moment when you can watch your children grow.
There is a parody of the hunger games called “The Starving Games” and that does happen in that one! I just rewatched all the Hunger Games movies and I’m pretty positive it did not happen in those!
I have a 10, 12 & 16 yo. They teach me SO much about being a good person. I find myself making good choices by they influence ME so much. Kids are amazing! Just go for it! The baby years fly by. These teen years are the best by they are just such amazing humans 💛🧡
This is my third comment and I’m not ashamed...BUT I am the SAME as Kendall! Always had a mother intuition and LOVE the idea of birth and babies from a super young age!
Motherhood is joyful, amazing, exhausting, challenging & strengthening. It is truly a transformative experiance for you as a person not only do you give life but you are reborn as a mother ! It makes you stronger than you thought you could be, love to the fullest capacity & resilient. Its a true rebirth of your character in so many ways. Selfishness is squeezed out of your body as a mother 😂 but it makes you all the better for it. Exhausted and drained in those early days but your transformed when you become a mum.
How you guys talk about motherhood is so inspiring! I have 2 kids and often forget about what it’s all really about. You get so lost in the busyness with school and sports and everything else in keeping these kids alive that I truly do not take enough moments to sit back and be amazed by these Two humans that chose me🥺♥️
I wonder if you guys would be interested in covering a spicy topic about Armie Hammer (The actor who played in Call Me by Your Name) and the allegations of cannibalism!
Even just asking “when are you having kids” “are you going to have kids” should not be the first question we constantly ask each other! Get a little more creative please lol
Thank you girls for being so open in this podcast on such a relatable topic. I am 30 in May and being single and wanting children so badly is something playing on my mind constantly. Someone said to me the other day 'I thought you'd given up on that' and it really upset me.. Knowing I'm not alone in feeling societies pressures around pregnancy has really comforted me! Loved this episode, thank you so much, keep up the great work xx
if it’s true that someone hacked KellyAnne- couldn’t someone have seen all these Tik Toks this girl made of her and her mom and someone who has seen these, are worried for this girl and decides to hack the mother and saw the illegal photo, then posted this pic for the mother to in return get sent to jail?..... just thinking out loud.
Oh, no, my dear. You do not have a normal relationship with your mother. She's a narcissist. Being through narcissistic abuse, you start to spot it a mile away.
I want to have a second baby so badly but it's so hard cuz it just doesn't feel like the right time with the pandemic and the way that the world is but I'm also not getting any younger lol
Society gives a lot of pressure to women that doesn’t want the traditional lifestyle of having a family. People judge women that want to be single with have no kids thinking something wrong with them. I struggle with that in my own life with my loved ones pressuring me. It’s ok to be single. It’s ok to not want kids. As long you are happy that’s all that matters❤️
I've followed Kendall for YEARS. I mean back when Mile Higher was first getting started, THAT many years. Anyways, I have LOVED watching her grow over the years. I've loved seeing her confidence grow, see her build her empire with her day ones by her side. Every time I'm in Colorado I'm just hoping I run into her! I LOVE this podcast and love feeling like I'm not alone with different subjects (especially about the kids/marriage stuff). Can't wait to see what 2021 brings yall!
I’m 26yrs old and I don’t think I’ve ever related to a podcast episode like I have with this one! You guys touch on a lot of things I’ve been thinking about lately. It’s refreshing to know I’m not the only one in my age range that has these thoughts. Y’all made me feel a little bit more at ease! Keep doing what you’re doing, you ladies are amazing!
Would love to see an episode about Kendall’s medical history! I think people need to be empowered to take health into their own hands - whether that means visiting multiple doctors or ordering their own tests and doing their own research. I actually had a similar experience to Kendall where for years I knew deep down that I had PCOS. I went to 6 doctors who all told me there was no way I had it. One day, I decided to order my own laboratory tests, and low and behold, I have PCOS. Shortly after, I found a doctor who confirmed it. If you have questions and concerns about your health and something doesn’t sit right, don’t ignore it until you get the right answers! I have a lot of respect for you, Kendall, and it grows with each video/podcast I watch!
You all are the best! I'd love an episode on Kendalls health journey. I've dealt with a lot of the same things and you getting answers and putting in so much effort despite a lot of doctors being unhelpful, is so inspirational to me. Gives me hope that I can get help eventually.
My mom passed recently and she was a spiritual woman who lived a full life but she was always told she would never be able to have kids until she met my dad and one day at age 38 she became pregnant. Everyone thought it would kill her or something bad would happen. But I was born with no health defects and she didn’t even feel a thing. And always called me her miracle. I don’t feel the need to parent myself, I grew up fast and she tried her best. But she was still a great mom. This episode reminded me a lot of her and I thank you for that. I hope you both have a wonderful day
this podcast cures my loneliness you guys are my bffs and this is my safe place plz never stop the podcast
yesss omg me too. it makes me feel like I actually have friends and they're talking with me.
I second this
Agree. I swear they’re my best friends
Me to
We feel like we’re talking to our friends when we film!!! ♥️♥️
“WOW” -30 year old 😁
I turned 30 last August, I manage a team at work, I pay a mortgage, and I’m still waiting to “feel” like an adult!
Lol I hear you. I'm a 39 year old nurse who takes care of vent patients and don't "feel" like an adult.
I’m 40, raising my four small kids on my own, taking care of my elderly parents, and have a small business. I still have no idea what I’m doing. We are all children doing the best we can as we get older. Anyone who tells you different is either lying or doesn’t know any better.
Preach!
Ladies, if you don’t want children, don’t let pressure from anyone change your mind. It’s very obvious at my kids’ school who wasn’t really wanted.
Before asking when or if someone is going to have a baby, PLEASE remember that ONE in FOUR women experience pregnancy and infant loss. There may be a reason someone hasn't had children. Don't assume they just don't want to. So many women struggle to maintain a pregnancy and don't need that added stress of people constantly asking WHEN... Just a thought.
Thank you for saying it. I lost my only pregnancy at 13 weeks, and I lost both ovaries after. I want nothing more than motherhood.
@@ailaoctober I've had six total. I do have four children, my boys, and some have asked if I'm "trying for a girl"... but after six losses, I am happy with the boys I have. No more. It's too painful to lose and then get angry at my body for "failing" at something It did successfully before. It's just not meant to be for MY family. I always try to remember that pain before making ANY assumptions about someone else's parenthood. I am so sorry for your loss and your issues thereafter. Sorry doesn't take the sadness away but there are no other words to say. :(
Thank you. I can't get pregnant because of my history with eating disorders and damage I've done to my body. People always put me in the uncomfortable position of having to respond to being asked when i’m having kids and it's triggering
@@xosecox12 I'm so sorry :(
Thank you.
im turning 32 soon, newly single and happy about it, ive NEVER wanted kids and that won't change and still society makes me feel like there's a ticking clock above my head. I hate it.
Yeah I never wanted kids either only because I never wanted to feel stuck with a stupid guy for the rest of my life..... like I am NOW
Right there with you. I have always known, since a little child, that I didn't want kids. Luckily my parents never gave me too much grief about it, but until recently they hoped I'd change my mind. Im 30 and have been married for 9 years. Never been happier and our lives are perfect just as we are💕
Not everyone should have/be pressured to have kids.
@@kelispell9224 thankful to be a single mom doing it alone for this very reason
the reason why childhood feels like it lasts forever is bc when we’re kids, we’re learning EVERYTHING for the first time & as we get older, we know what we need to know & basically live the same day over & over. so the key to making time last longer is to be constantly learning something new about life 🥂✨
Wait you have something here!!! Add catastrophizing and overthinking in and wow!!
I get exactly what you are saying because I had a tooth pulled and it was horrific and took forever it seemed and I was traumatized- went a week later to have another pulled and piece of cake!! I knew what to expect!! Very good logic here
Wow. Amazing way to describe it!
Spot on!
Well said!!!!
I got married in my living room while wearing yoga pants with maybe 5 people there! It’s been 10 years and I’ve never regretted it 🤗
So much more memorable and cheaper. I’ve got a dress that cost 1200$ in my closet that is useless. I’m still very happily married. Wish I’d spent the money we spent on our wedding on a better home.
ok that's amazing. you are my kinda people.
This is the way. My family gets annoyed that the manbeast and I haven't gotten legally married yet
I got married for about 300 + / - $.
250$ went to the county clerk to show up on the Fourth of July. About 50ish for the dress
It was on a amazing beach, we had my mom and his dad as witnesses.
And every year we get fireworks for our anniversary.
My husband had a cousin who could marry people so we met at McDonald’s and signed the paperwork and then got some food 😂
I’m going to be 30 soon and I’ve been in a relationship for 9 years now. We’re very happy, we love our life together and have no desire to be married or have kids. Marriage is like whatever but having kids is a non negotiable. It’s completely off the menu for us. The response we’ve received about this is so bizzare. In addition to everyone initial reactions when they hear it, the absolute disrespect people show is insane. Once you’re the couple who doesn’t have a kid, people stop asking things. As a woman I noticed I get treated almost like a teenager still because I’m not a wife and mother. Very bizzare. Also people try to convince us to have kids😕 like what? Why would you want a couple who doesn’t want kids, to have them? Seems toxic.
I'm the same way, except I'm single and choosing to be that way as long as possible. I always get told that i need to at least get married, but I'm actually not too worried about it lol 🤷♀️
Damn guys I'm sorry! I am much like you both in similar ways, although I do have a teenage daughter, I will admit I never wanted children. I absolutely would never wish on not having her. But I believe you don't have to have a partner or family to define you. I commend you both for your decisions. Live your lives and enjoy your decisions based on what YOU want.
It’s natural to drift away from people who aren’t going to relate to you on a huge part of your life.
OMG thank you for saying this i relate so much 😭 we got married (been together for over 10 years and married for 6) because we wanted to do so but kids? nope never...and people just don’t care about your life anymore once you’ve made it known you won’t have kids. as far as family goes, they treat you like a child constantly even though we’re both 30 with a mortgage. and ask and joke about becoming grandparents etc. why is having children more important than getting a promotion at work or having goals outside of family ones? some of us don’t want the burden of being parents. there’s nothing wrong with that. friends who have kids drift away from you bc you just can’t relate. it definitely sucks.
Wow. Im also 30, married 9 years and no desire for kids. Our life is perfect, fulfilled, and happy just as it is. Im thankful our friends and family understand this, but people always assume we have kids and give weird looks and responses when we say we don't.
I'm hella down for a "review in Kendall's medical mystery" podcast!
Watching this episode after Kendall’s pregnancy announcement just hits different 🥺❤️❤️❤️
Yesss I just came back too, haha! 😂🥰 I'm so happy that it worked out
Holly’s here now 🥲💘
therapy: expensive
this podcast: free
i'm here for my weekly therapy session friends x
My dad taught me from a young age, when it comes to weddings, elope and use the money you would have spent on the wedding for your honeymoon and travel around the world.
I'll be 44 in May and the older you get the more beautiful life becomes!! It's about living from your soul, caring for the forgotten, never letting a soul feel like they are alone in this world, to give hope to those who feel lost and struggle seeing anything bright in their future, its loving all gods creations. Much love to both of you, you are on the right track!! I'm happy to share my experiences with you!! I believe your soul can heal your body partnered with other things.
I don't even want kids but as soon as Kendall started talking about her child choosing her and like the possibilities of who they could be I was WRECKED I'm sobbing that's so sweet, I'm already so happy for you in the future, Kendall
Needed this ❤️ got my period this morning instead of a positive pregnancy test so I'm kinda sad lol love you guys
We are sending you love Elaine!!♥️
Sending you lots of baby dust your way
I’m so sorry 😞 sending you love and BUCKETS of baby dust sweetie 💕
Sending the good vibes ✨love!
Sending baby dust your way!!
id love an episode on Kendalls medical issues because I have a lot of the same. I have PCOS, Hashimotos, etc. I am currently dealing with something else that drs arent taking very seriously. I have had 13 doctors appoitments in December with NO answers.
At 43 I'm probably the oldest person who watches you, so this episode made me feel really ancient :-) I can relate to what you said about people asking about kids though. I don't have any kids and never wanted them, and some people act surprised or think it's weird, if a woman says she doesn't want kids.
We need to continue to normalize that not all women want kids and that’s perfectly ok!!
@@TheSeshPodcast I agree, and I want to take this opportunity to say I really enjoy the podcast.
LOAblue, you're are not the oldest. I am 45 and love Kendall, The Sesh, Mile Higher and lights out. I didn't want kids for a long time but when I met my son's father, everything changed. My son is 15 and I can honestly say I can't imagine life without him in it. I don't even remember my life before him but having kids is not for everyone and there's nothing wrong with it.
@@danamaupin8318 Nice to see someone from my age group in the comments :-) Hello :-)
Nah, I'm 45 :)
I can’t even lie, I teared up HARD when Kendall was talking about what it would be like to have your kid see the beach for the first time or touch grass for the first time🥲
Me too!!
and she said the exact same about her daughter in her most recent video
The times when your kid destroys their piano teachers bathroom 💀💀
Lmfao
I love that story so much 😂😂 I did things like that as a kid too
@@dorothyariesvlogs So did i hahah, the freaky part is how true it is that you just don't realise you are doing it almost! It's like being possessed hahaha i put shaving cream all over the bathroom and blamed it on a visitor we had in the house!
@@dorothyariesvlogs j
@@dorothyariesvlogs jo
Whenever I get my notification for The Sesh, I scream “OH YEAH ITS SUNDAY!!” 🌞 thank you for being a light in my life.
55:50 the way Kendall talks about her future kid :') actually brought a tear to my eye. Kendall & Josh are gonna be the best parents you just know it
YES RENT THE DRESS. Mine is in the back of my closet with spray tan all over it 🤣🤣🤣 never taken it out.
I would love to hear about Kendall’s health issues, I also suffer from fibromyalgia and people look at me like I’m crazy when I talk about it. Love you guys ❤️❤️❤️
Same!!!!!
Soo tacky, insensitive and quite frankly disrespectful to ask women when they’re having children! People need to quit asking invasive questions like this. It can be so triggering to some.
Watching this knowing you guys have had Holly is so precious 😭😭😭
I have had one of the worst weeks of my life with a major family emergency and have not been able to get my mind off things. I am about to start the episode, and am so grateful for all your interesting conversations... so thank you for providing me with an hour of distraction :)
Awww we’re sorry about your tough week! Thanks for stopping by to hang out with us 💚
That means a lot, thank you for your response ❤️
I love listening to your podcasts, I know this one is old but somehow I missed it! You guys talking about how time goes so quickly, your mom is right- wait until you have kids. You have a visual representation of how fast a year goes by! It is WILD to the extreme! I have. a ten-year-old and I'm 33. I still have no idea what the heck I'm doing with my life. Whaaaaat.
TLC- a baby story 😭💀 ✋🏽 circa 1999
I feel like I just remembered a lost childhood memory
Janelle..I’m almost 33 and I promise you I am still winging shit 😂
Edit: Years ago I had miscarried and Mother’s Day came around and some random customer had came into my work and didn’t know me and said “Happy Mother’s Day!” And it crushed me. So I never say anything kid/pregnancy related to anyone.
This podcast makes me feel like I have friends lol
Someone once told me that the reason time feels like it’s going by faster as you get older is because your concept of time changes. When you’re 8 years old, 8 years feels like a lifetime because it literally is your lifetime. But when you’re 40, 8 years doesn’t feel as long in the grand scheme of things. - hope that makes sense :)
Got teary eyed listening to Kendall talk about having kids 🥹🥹 imagine being her daughter one day listening to this podcast and hearing just how excited ur mom was to have you ❤️❤️🥹
"It's like sand dripping down in the time thing"
-Kendall Rae
Hahaha
I've been with my husband for 6 years, married last fall and we were constantly bombarded with questions about when we were going to get married and have kids. I didn't even want kids until this past year when I turned 26, I'll be 27 in May and the Mom urge gets stronger and stronger every day. Loved hearing your guys' thoughts and plans for your future!!
Listening to Kendall talk about her being a mom made me tear up❤️❤️❤️❤️ PLEASEEEE COME BACK 5YRS FROM NOW to react to this😭❤️❤️💖💖💖💖💖💖
& Yes I want a “birds aren’t real” video!!!!!👏🏼
I totally agree. My hubs and I got married at 21. And now I would totally go get married on a mountain and just bring my parents.. not the 200+ people who came to our huge wedding.
I relate to Janelle so much especially when she was talking about not being the girl who has a big fancy wedding. I feel like im sitting and chatting with friends.
not me eating lunch AND crying at the same time when Kendall started talking about her excitement about having kids (at minute 56 or so)
8 years ago I decided I never want to have children. I'm 29 now and still feel truly liberated with my decision 😌💝
I just opened RUclips.. Perfect timing!🥰 hope y’all have a great Sunday!!! ✨
Anyone else respond and add to the conversation out loud like you’re actually there with them? 😂💛
I listen to this podcast every Sunday when I’m folding & putting away laundry and it’s so therapeutic
Interesting fact: when you are a child you have slower processing times because you're still learning about the world and its strange idiosyncrasies. As we get older and develop routines, however, we become accustomed to how the world operates and therefore more time passes between our perception of each new mental image (essentially we experience less unfamiliar moments as adults than we did as children). As we no longer need to 'absorb' all of our new daily experiences in order to learn from them, it makes time appear to pass much faster while we're adults.
This is my only reason to get up on Sundays💆🏻♀️
hearing the way you talked about how excited you are to have kids is literally making me tear up 🥺 putting all the good energy out there for when the time comes y’all do have kids!! ❤️
Why did the clips from Kendall’s wedding make me tear up tho :’-)
Janelle and kendalle are true healers !! Seriously!! Your energy is healing xxxx thankyou both x im in the uk London and your energy is global xxx where are you listening from fans ?
The footage from Kendall's wedding was so beautiful. Everyone was so happy that it literally radiated out of them. I was one of those girls that always wanted to grow up and get married and raise a family. But life didn't work out that way for me, and I'm actually happier than I thought I would have been without it. It also really wouldn't have helped the health issues that I've ended up with. Even though my health ruined the career that I thought I was going to have, I've found a new passion, which will hopefully let me help so many more people than I could have in any other line of work.
Moral of the story for the younger people out there: don't hang all your hopes and dreams on one thing. You never know what life will throw at you, and you may end up better off than you thought.
I’m so glad y’all made this podcast! So many relatable topics in just this one episode. I’m currently 25 weeks pregnant. I told our close families at 13 weeks but didn’t tell anyone else until just recently. We weren’t going to post it to social media but my sister was low key judging me for not and pressuring me to make a post. Alot of people voiced their concern why I waited so late in my pregnancy to say anything and simply it’s none of their business or concern. The pressure of other people wanting a big gender reveal, a big baby shower and other stuff has really irked my nerve because to me it’s not my concern. I’m just trying to grow a healthy baby and get myself prepared to be a mom. I know I’m not the only one out there that feels this way. I just didn’t feel comfortable gloating about my pregnancy when I know there’s thousands of women that are struggling with infertility.
Congrats! With my first, I waited until I was 7 months to tell anyone. My boyfriend's mom knew the whole time but no one else. With my second I didn't tell anyone except family at 20 weeks. Never posted a pregnancy announcement online just a random hey I had a baby instagram post😂
Oh girls you have so much to look forward to. I am 70 and yes I love this pod cast and your other one as well.
i love that sydney now joins in in the conversation frequently. keep it up guys! great episode btw! 🙌🏼
I would love an ep on Kendalls health issues. Ive been struggling with my health for YEARS and only recently ive been diagnosed with hypothyroidism and lupus. It feels like ive been looking for answers all my life and doctors starting making me think I was crazy. I feel like talking about it more will help so many ppl.
I’m gonna be 32 this year. Idk when I became an adult with a husband kid and person who takes their kid to ballet. Tf I’m still 17
I’m 30 and I wish I felt that motherly instinct Kendall is talking about. My bf wants kids and I have no problem giving him kids, I want kids but I don’t want kids if that makes sense. I don’t wanna have kids JUST because my bf wants kids I want to have that desire as well but I just don’t have it 🙁
Don’t have kids unless you truly want them! Please.
I would recommend taking a deeper dive in trying to figure out what might be the core reason(s) as to why you feel like you don’t have that motherly instinct. Many people face those same insecurities because they didn’t grow up with their mom, or maybe their mom wasn’t a good parent, or maybe you associate motherhood with trauma, etc. I would recommend maybe looking into therapy, and trying to see if you don’t feel like you have a motherly instinct because you aren’t familiar with it, or you fear that you won’t be a good mom, etc - it could be a variety of reasons. (Attending therapy, in general, is so beneficial!)
If after doing some deep reflecting, and attending therapy, and doing the necessary steps to figure out why you feel the motherly instinct isn’t there -if you still feel the same way - then I would recommend not having children. You may not feel like you have a motherly instinct now, but that could change in a few years. Who knows. But honestly, deciding not to have children doesn’t make you a bad person, and it doesn’t make you broken or damaged, or anything of the sort. If anything, it takes a tremendous amount of courage and maturity to even have that immense amount of self-awareness. Kudos to you for being vulnerable about that!
I would also recommend talking to your boyfriend about your feelings as well. Just be honest about some of the concerns, fears, and insecurities you may have. If you don’t want children, I wouldn’t force it. I would hate for you to be pressured or guilt-tripped into having kids, simply to fit into society’s norms or to satisfy your boyfriend. Kids are a huge responsibility. You’re molding a tiny human being to grow into adulthood, and you have to be responsible for them for the rest of your life. If that’s not something you feel prepared for, or have the desire to do, then that’s completely okay! It’s important that your decision not to have children - if you do ultimately decide that - is acknowledged and validated. 🥰
I’m sending lots of love and light way! ✨
@@sabrina.natalie thank you! I’ve never thought about seeking therapy but I’ll most definitely think about it now. 💕
Wow I’m obsessed with how Kendall explained what having children means to her 🥺
all the stuff w claudia is so disturbing, its actually terrifying the videos her mom makes her post & the fact that theyre a powerful political family is my actual nightmare i hope she gets out of that toxic house
Perfect timing!!!! I’m cleaning my house and was SO bored. Time to listen and knock this shit out 🤪
Thank u so much for this podcast, girls. This is literally my favorite show and I feel like I hang out with you while I listen. 🥺💕
Just turned 30. This is soooo relatable. I was just talking about this with my sisters. I still feel like 22 :(
Thanks for posting. Just lost my dad to cancer a week ago. He was my best friend. Was feeling à bit lonely and now i feel like being with friends. It's warm and cozy.
Much love from Tunisia, Africa.
@Emily Hthank you ! Such a sweet and warm soul ❤️
I love to think that he is in a happier place, no pain, no chemo.. That he's with his parents now.
You suddenly realise that life is so short and all that matters is having a pure heart and leaving good memories to people you love.
My father was a dedicated pharmacist to his community Always helping People in need. I am a pharmacist myself and all i want to do now is keep doing that and going on a mission to help Kids have access to medication.
Thank you and god bless you ❤️❤️
Your wedding was stunning, Kendall, especially that cake with those PURPLE flowers! We did a courthouse ceremony. Really quick and cheap! LOL... but on our twentieth anniversary, we're planning a BIG renewal ceremony/party!
I'm 38 and still dont have my shit together 😂
I’m six months pregnant, and Kendall all of those feelings you feel now imagining your children are magnified x1000! It’s amazing! I can’t wait until he’s here! I know this is old, but good luck when you start trying! I’ve wanted to be a mom since I was small, too, and finally being stable enough to have one is a dream come true! 💕
Me being in my senior year of college already having a quarter life crisis and then listening to this podcast is really making reflect lol
Love how you had the make a disclaimer that watching this isn’t an actual therapy session because there’s some stupid people out there that couldn’t of thought of that out themselves lmao.
Thank you for this podcast. I need a therapy sesh today. Love y'all. Keep it freshhh 💚✌
I had to comment on this Sesh. I adore all of you and watch every episode of every podcast. 💜 So many things you said in this episode rang bells for me. Invisible illnesses- I suffer from neuropathy, and people don't understand how I can't feel from the knee down except burning fire and how I can walk but had to work at it because my knees do most of the work. Kids- you are so right! They will break your heart, but believe me, they will also burst your heart. Love and pride are just a portion. I had my first at 16, another at 23, and third at 30. The 7 year itch 😊 We married at 30, but my fam is huge (And Catholic) and we heard about marriage and more kids a LOT! We did it our way though. Not to let people down but I have too much anxiety to walk down an isle in front of people and I'm told it's frowned upon to be stoned and/or drunk at the time. LOL I regret very little. I am now 50 and the grands keep coming! My 7th is due in July. I also have 4 step grands. My thought is MY God doesn't reward bad decisions with so many grands. They really are the reward. I'm sure that is far from your minds but it is something to look forward to in the future. You get to help raise them and teach them morals but when the stinky boom booms happen or when they're acting just like the parents in a bratty way, you get to smile and enjoy the show. Childhood Christmas- I miss these most of all. The magic and innocence will be with me forever. I loved my parents with all my being and every holiday was great but Christmas was amazing. The magic died for me when my daddy passed at just 51 of a heart attack just days before Christmas. I wanted to die when I had to unwrap the gifts I made him and purchased for him. I guess I did die a bit. It took all I had to continue tradition with my own kids. I'm glad I did. They have bonds with cousins and now my grands are building bonds too. You have so much to look forward to. Do it your way and enjoy every second! ❤️ (Apologies for the book!}
that wedding footage is so beautiful!! couldn't stop smiling
Does anyone else feel like Janelle and Kendall are your best friends 🥺
Kendall, I feel like we are in the same point in life. I also got married in 16, and we are in the stage of “almost” ready to try for a baby. 🤣🤣 get a basal thermometer & ovulation tests on amazon and start tracking your cycles! It’s super easy and if you have fertility issues the data will help so much.
Rewatching old content I didn’t see. I appreciate you all so much.
ok stop. this podcast couldn't have come at a more perfect time. I just turned 28 in December and I've been feeling the EXACT same way for months now. When Kendall was talking about holidays and how amazing it is that a soul can choose you... made me cry. ❤️ it made me realize that I'm not alone and other people actually feel the same way. Definitely cures the loneliness I feel about it.
I totally agree asking couples when they are going to have kids can be invasive. My husband and I got married a year ago but have had multiple miscarriages since then due to thyroid issues,so everytime someone asks when we’re having a baby it’s just triggers a lot of emotions for us
Ugh so sorry to hear that!! That must be such a tough spot to be in. Thank you for sharing 💚
@@TheSeshPodcast thank you💕 I love you guys and your podcast so much ❤️
I became a mother at 18 so I never had that moment were I wanted to have kids, I always knew I wanted to be a mother, but I never planned it... I’m now 23 and me and my partner ( my child’s step dad) want to have kids with each other but we also wanted to have bought a house by now, and we nearly did this year until our car got written off and all our savings went on that so we are back at the beginning... he’s 25 and I’m 23 we have time but also I just want another baby, my sister in law just had another baby and now the whole family is looking at us...
The idea that the social “norm” is where society tells everyone when they should have kids has to go. My husband and I had our first when I was 17 & he was 20. We had our second at 21 & 24. It isn’t for everyone and no one should be expected to have kids. As long as you’re happy with your life is all the matters! Love you guys & the fur babies. 🤍
I love your show! I'm 63 and listening to you two keeps me young! I'm keepin it fresh! Life races by.. it's hard to keep up. But it 's worth every moment when you can watch your children grow.
This podcast always makes my day better💛
There is a parody of the hunger games called “The Starving Games” and that does happen in that one! I just rewatched all the Hunger Games movies and I’m pretty positive it did not happen in those!
I got all teary eyes when Kendall’s wedding video started playing 😭😘
I have a 10, 12 & 16 yo. They teach me SO much about being a good person. I find myself making good choices by they influence ME so much. Kids are amazing! Just go for it! The baby years fly by. These teen years are the best by they are just such amazing humans 💛🧡
Here's My obligatory "I'm here so early" comment. Seriously though I ain't ever been this early 😳
This is my third comment and I’m not ashamed...BUT I am the SAME as Kendall! Always had a mother intuition and LOVE the idea of birth and babies from a super young age!
Motherhood is joyful, amazing, exhausting, challenging & strengthening. It is truly a transformative experiance for you as a person not only do you give life but you are reborn as a mother ! It makes you stronger than you thought you could be, love to the fullest capacity & resilient.
Its a true rebirth of your character in so many ways. Selfishness is squeezed out of your body as a mother 😂 but it makes you all the better for it. Exhausted and drained in those early days but your transformed when you become a mum.
How you guys talk about motherhood is so inspiring! I have 2 kids and often forget about what it’s all really about. You get so lost in the busyness with school and sports and everything else in keeping these kids alive that I truly do not take enough moments to sit back and be amazed by these Two humans that chose me🥺♥️
I wonder if you guys would be interested in covering a spicy topic about Armie Hammer (The actor who played in Call Me by Your Name) and the allegations of cannibalism!
Even just asking “when are you having kids” “are you going to have kids” should not be the first question we constantly ask each other! Get a little more creative please lol
I'm so so enjoying this podcast. One day I was young and now I feel so old in such a short amount of time
Thank you girls for being so open in this podcast on such a relatable topic. I am 30 in May and being single and wanting children so badly is something playing on my mind constantly. Someone said to me the other day 'I thought you'd given up on that' and it really upset me.. Knowing I'm not alone in feeling societies pressures around pregnancy has really comforted me! Loved this episode, thank you so much, keep up the great work xx
if it’s true that someone hacked KellyAnne- couldn’t someone have seen all these Tik Toks this girl made of her and her mom and someone who has seen these, are worried for this girl and decides to hack the mother and saw the illegal photo, then posted this pic for the mother to in return get sent to jail?..... just thinking out loud.
Never been this early 😍
Just had my second baby boy last night. You never know how much unconditional love you’re missing out on until you have kids :)
Awww congratulations!!!!! 😍💚
Congrats!
Thank you 🥰
Oh, no, my dear. You do not have a normal relationship with your mother. She's a narcissist. Being through narcissistic abuse, you start to spot it a mile away.
I want to have a second baby so badly but it's so hard cuz it just doesn't feel like the right time with the pandemic and the way that the world is but I'm also not getting any younger lol
those wedding clips got me cryin in the club, everyone looked so good!!
Society gives a lot of pressure to women that doesn’t want the traditional lifestyle of having a family. People judge women that want to be single with have no kids thinking something wrong with them. I struggle with that in my own life with my loved ones pressuring me. It’s ok to be single. It’s ok to not want kids. As long you are happy that’s all that matters❤️
I've followed Kendall for YEARS. I mean back when Mile Higher was first getting started, THAT many years.
Anyways, I have LOVED watching her grow over the years. I've loved seeing her confidence grow, see her build her empire with her day ones by her side. Every time I'm in Colorado I'm just hoping I run into her! I LOVE this podcast and love feeling like I'm not alone with different subjects (especially about the kids/marriage stuff). Can't wait to see what 2021 brings yall!
I’m 26yrs old and I don’t think I’ve ever related to a podcast episode like I have with this one! You guys touch on a lot of things I’ve been thinking about lately. It’s refreshing to know I’m not the only one in my age range that has these thoughts. Y’all made me feel a little bit more at ease! Keep doing what you’re doing, you ladies are amazing!
Would love to see an episode about Kendall’s medical history! I think people need to be empowered to take health into their own hands - whether that means visiting multiple doctors or ordering their own tests and doing their own research. I actually had a similar experience to Kendall where for years I knew deep down that I had PCOS. I went to 6 doctors who all told me there was no way I had it. One day, I decided to order my own laboratory tests, and low and behold, I have PCOS. Shortly after, I found a doctor who confirmed it. If you have questions and concerns about your health and something doesn’t sit right, don’t ignore it until you get the right answers! I have a lot of respect for you, Kendall, and it grows with each video/podcast I watch!
You all are the best! I'd love an episode on Kendalls health journey. I've dealt with a lot of the same things and you getting answers and putting in so much effort despite a lot of doctors being unhelpful, is so inspirational to me. Gives me hope that I can get help eventually.
My mom passed recently and she was a spiritual woman who lived a full life but she was always told she would never be able to have kids until she met my dad and one day at age 38 she became pregnant. Everyone thought it would kill her or something bad would happen. But I was born with no health defects and she didn’t even feel a thing. And always called me her miracle. I don’t feel the need to parent myself, I grew up fast and she tried her best. But she was still a great mom. This episode reminded me a lot of her and I thank you for that. I hope you both have a wonderful day