When Should You Say You Have A Boyfriend?
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"Can I get you anything?"
"I have a boyfriend!"
"I'm the bartender."
lmao, best part!!
When.
Mrs Uzumaki XDD
@@peachy_ness1958 Same here. I would have missed the "post credits scene" if not for that comment lol
LMAOOO
usually I just say something like "oh can my boyfriend come?" and things get reallyyyyyyyyy awkward
I normally add them on Facebook super quickly and it says dead center that im engaged haha but yeah that too
my friend says tht 24/7 her bf actually came with her when it was supposed to be a girls day
That's actually smug and cruel. Not well played.
maya duncan y’all still together?
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when he said "give me back my keys" my mouth dropped lol.
Mine to
Betty-Alexandria Pri
😂😂😂
It's been two months
Two months, they have obviously not kissed yet but he still already gave her his keys??
"Oh yeah!... Steve's real..." that was perfect :P
I didn't get that part I had to rewatch it lol
but he called her 'dude', if you call someone 'dude', 'mate', 'buddy' etc. that's like the signal for "we're just friends"
I know right! Lol
+Jozzarozzer Dude. I call everyone dude. Even the girls I sleep with.
+Jozzarozzer Right???????????????????
(someone who gets my logic)
+Hulda Adriyannah. i know right
+Jozzarozzer
Is that a thing? Whoops.
My friend thought he and this girl were dating, and when he told her she was like "oh.....I thought we were just role playing." So he replied "....for a year and a half??"
😱😐😮
😂😯😰😱😲😵😓
Same😁 he was like 'I don't even like you, I just see you as a time wasting distraction'
Beth McGuire you just made that up based off of this video
So no one tried using the big L word in 18 months? Sounds like it wasn't a relationship, someone got led on though.
Eeeeeeasy. You can just mention it casually when you can. For example; when he asked her to play tennis, could have said "My boyfriend doesn't ever want to play it with me so it's nice to find someone to play with finally" or something.
thank you
Ikr there's plenty of times to mention it
exactly
That's smart
i say your boyfriend will get mad so goodbye
Anytime he offers to hang out, ask if your boyfriend can come alone. Simple as that.
Along*
What if I wanna hang with someone without my boyfriend??
Nice tip.
lol it's like "Hey dude who's been hitting on me for weeks, instead of me going, hang out with my boyfriend who you didn't even know existed." XD
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(yeah, but I know what you meant, it just sounds funny without the corrections) ^.^
Gergana Hristova Because hanging out with a person of the opposite sex will result in feelings being developed, and that is natural.
When you should say you have a boyfriend?
Answer: When you actually have one...
Lol
Lol
Lol
+CavScoutTrooper Good Observation
I wish 😂😂
Instead of saying "I have a boyfriend". Rephrase it, try to say "oh my boyfriend would love that" or "sorry I need to text my boyfriend really quickly". Just make mention of him, don't address it.
+eric zhou yeah I agree.. Although it always sounds like you are saying it on purpose to let them know or even lying to let them down easily and make sure they know you aren't interested...
+ConcreteAngelx3 yeah, all I'm saying is it's way better than blurting out "I have a boyfriend!" of course the person on the receiving end would question your intentions but at least you'll look like less of a shallow person in their eyes if you're being subtle with this information, my girlfriend agrees with me too. :P
eric zhou
LOL.... that actually worked. I was like "oh great another cute taken guy" and was about to Ex out and then realized what you were doing. It sounded normal and not forced so good job lol
+ConcreteAngelx3 Haha you're pretty cute too but it's to bad you live in California and already have a master. She looks like a nice person :P I'm from Toronto/Canada and no, I recently broke up with a girl a few months ago, in case if you're wondering.
eric zhou lol very funny. that dog actually lives in NY lol (It's my parents' dog) I do live in CA though. I love Canadians
Has this ever happened to someone else?
When some guy is obviously flirting with you and you tell him that you have a boyfriend and he's like "no haha i'm not flirting with you i just think you're a cool friend :)" and then you never hear from him again :DDD
I can relate😂😂
Marabonbon hahaha yes
So true😂😂💯
Marabonbon It's really weird when you have a lot of guys that like you then you start dating and it's like 😅 sorry...
That’s soooo true!!😂😂
that moment when she's not wearing pastels... maybe I'm blind
aerynxbeauty 03 I'm colorblind so I get it
nope.she wasnt wearing a pastel
SHE WASNTTT
Alsooo her rhair was totally coverin her pearl earrings soo he couldn't have noticed 🤦🏻♀️
is it me or she looks like Ana from 50 shades of Grey?
Agreed
+Trung Quân well :3 (hehehehhe life ruined my that movie) yeah
A life ruined your movie oh my god!
Totally agree
Trung Quân Finally this comment 😁 same thinking 😝
I don't need to say it cuz no one hits on meh
same
(insert words of encouragement here)
Shamadah FG same
Shamadah FG You're lucky.
Pocket Eevee lol you think 😅
I literally spit out my drink when he said "give me back my keys"
glamourgirl22
I don't have a boyfriend, but I have this debacle like every day. I need to wear a t shirt that says, "Hey if you are hitting on me, you have to tell me or I will think you are gay and we are friends"
You probably just need to study human behavior a little bit and learn social cues
badmonkey91 She and I both. I'm not totally horrible at social cues, but I am often more clueless than anything else.
Maggie E: here let me help you out. There isn't that many gay guys out there in the world. Around 10% most likely. If a guy comes up to you and says hi, just act natural and see where he is going with it. Important clues that he likes you as a gf is if he mentions some kind of sports event, dinner plans, movies etc... And clues that the guy is gay is if the events he brings up are kinda stereotypically gay things like going clothing shopping, watching certain tv shows, or anything not related to sports!
Hope this helps! You have no excuse to say you don't know whether a guy is attracted to you or is just gay and being friendly, now!
so every man that wants to befriend you must be gay? thats why i dont have female friends.
notaras1985 jesus christ you dudes need to take the stick out of your ass. I was being facetious. The reason you don't have female friends is because you get pissed off at them for making innocent comments.
your supposed to say it randomly and casually like oh ya my boyfriend likes/hates that .
exaclty. so simple.
haha wow. I'm actually a guy though lol
Camille Shelly lol didnt know it was a neutral name. I was hoping you were a girl and would reply 'i already have a boyfriend'
+Eddie 2P
HAHA Yes that would've been perfect. whoops sorry.
(also, I'm a trans guy and "Camille" is just my birth name. I actually go by "Cam" or "Cameron")
Camille Shelly i see. Im just glad neither of us got offended. ;)
It's been over a year, and I'm still uncomfortable referring to my boyfriend as my boyfriend in casual conversations. It's really weird.
It took me 2 years to be completely comfortable with it.
try saying "partner"? I think it works better...
mysticalmidnightmask I just say "friend" because I feel like the relationship part might be irrelevant,
I say "my sweetheart", "my better half", that kind of thing.
I say his name and if someone asks who he is I just say the guy I'm currently seeing
That girl is so me. I just assume that unless the guy makes a move with excessive touching or obvious flirting like saying, "You're sexy" I just think "Oh he's friendly. We're friends!"
Same here 😂 And my bf hates me for that😑
literally me!!!
I have a solution that'll blow your mind. You don't even need the boyfriend excuse:
guy - "let's hang out"
girl - "just as friends or as something more?"
at this point there are two responses:
(response #1)
guy - "just as friends"
girl - "ok sounds cool"
(response #2)
guy - "I wanna see where this goes ;)" or "maybe something more ;)"
girl - "I'm not really interested in a relationship at the moment, but I'm down to hang out though"
Problem solved. If he still gets angry, who tf cares? bye Felicia
Bah Felicia
Arielle Macuch I am in the process of testing this theory. I'm realizing that men hear "just as friends" as an open door towards "and perhaps sex" lol I will refine my theory with more real life applications and see what I come up with
Sabrina Genesis I swear, the assumptions women make about men... smh. No, if we're interested in a girl genuinely when we hear "just as friends" we interpret that to mean "Hey, I don't know you well enough to consider you for a romantic partner or I'm just not in a place right now to handle a relationship (and mean this, not use at some kind of a stalling tactic like you used in your earlier example) but yeah, I'd at least like to hang out as it seems like we have common interests." Over time and from painful experience, guys that aren't dumb/bitter/angry/misogynists/MRAs will learn to interpret if a girl means "just friends" as exactly that or "just friends" as in what he's hoping will eventually turn out.
Most dudes looking to hook up aren't waiting around for a friend to come with benefits.
Shihab Patwary this is what I said in my initial comment lol
Shihab Patwary but I've recently discovered that even when you agree to hang out as "just friends" some guys still have it in their minds that you're interested in them and will still make a move
I don't have a boyfriend, but I am complete shit at knowing whether or not a guy is trying to date me or just wants to be friends. I have no clue and I just wish they would make it clear from the beginning so after weeks or months of talking and being friendly he finally comes out and says he is interested and I'm in an awkward position where I am not because I thought for sure he wanted only friendship. Then I have to tell him the classic "I think we're just better off as friends" and then I hurt his feelings and in return I feel horrible. And then I lose a friend also because it's just too awkward after that. Please guys, make it clear from the start what you are looking for. It would make things so much easier.
Agreed. Lost 2 good friends because of this!! I enjoyed their company, and chilling with them, but just as friends. :/ And eventually I had to just tell them off when I felt they were way too interested in everything and got a weird vibe...so I straight out told them I'm not interested and can't help it and just wanna be friends, and both of them of course left and thus I lost two close male friends..... :(
happens to me too :') now I'm super awkward with him. I wish we can be friends like we used to be.
Girls should be more forward likewise.
Here's advice, don't sweet talk guys... Lol I know how you girls get along.... If a guy wants to hang out with you, basically he wants you lol
Close friend ships between guys and girls don't exist..
After learning the hard way, I ask guys straight up what their intentions are/what they are looking for. No time to waste over here 🤷🏾♀️
The real problem is you only tried kissing her after 2 months ?
yeah i woulda been on those lips 2nd day
@@sweetjello_7057 tf
When should i try to kiss her then ...!?
@Anna Elena Well if my boyfriend tried to kiss me I would give him big slap 🌚💕
@Anna Elena noooo
Has this ever happened to you?
Nope lol
Nope, I'm a boy, sorry.
Never had one... So nope
I usually ask if my Bf could come to events I'm invited to (like this one). Chances are he'd like to play some tennis and hang out with new ppl as well. I've dodged a ton of awkwardness like this that way haha. Good vid though! super funny xD
Can't wait to see you do a "I have a girlfriend."
say it say it!!!!! let it slip like "oh my bf just texted me" idk, SAY IT
YES OR LIKE, "Yeah my boyfriend loves tennis aswell." JUST BRING HIM UP IN A CONVO 😂😂😂
+haruno21 or you wanna come over for a movie? "oh sorry! i'm hanging with my boyfriends!"
if she asked if he could come to the movie night it would've been perfect
omg that's what i was thinking!! or during the movie night she should have said "can by bf come?"
I dunno man, itd probably be *veerry annoyyinngg* if someone just says "oh my bf just texted me" like mbruh=_= no one likes a show off
I once told a boy I was a lesbian because he was obviously in love with me and I wasn't interested at all.
+Vulcany Long been there girl lollll
Last summer i had to mention an (imaginary) engagemant to get rid of a really creepy guy xD
+Gwenny Grausamt goals
That was from the movie 'Angus, thongs and perfect snogging!'
SLAYYYY XD!!!!
Wow what a gentleman to wait 2 months just to kiss her.
... I was gunna take offence, then I thought, and then it made sense...
Hey I rhymed!
annabelle manele You are a natural born poet :')
(Show the comment) and he doesn't even know it :))))
+explosivecake1
So many chins...
Or are they several grins?
:)))))))))))))))))))))))) The chins be infanite
This was great :D
Thanks!
agree
+Emily Snell ikr
Yes
Emily Snell 😂😂 Yes
He was so cute tho...
i'll take him 🤣
He's an Indian. Super good-looking. 🤩 His left wrist has the religious thread bracelet thing that Hindus wear.
Eww but okay
@@AR-pd2it anythin
I once friendzonned a guy. he asked me out and I was like " I thought we where... just friends." Ught. I felt bad for a week. but I really wasn't intrested
Amaélys Tyelcala no reason to feel bad. you should only go out with people you actually like, not forced or out of pity. you did the right thing
dont feel bad, you have a right to feel just fine
Guys don't befriend girls lol... You should know that by now.... Guys have enough friends already....so if a guy ever wants to hang out with you..... He wants you.
Guy friend told me he liked me then ran off. I was stunned and just kept cycling home. It never came up again but it was hella awkward for a while. That same month I started dating someone, which I never told him directly but one time I think he saw us together because he looked a bit hurt.. Or maybe that was just my guilt manifesting itself in my mind, idk. Anyway at least I never had to reject him directly...
Omfg this happens to me. I am shitty at deciphering if a dude is flirting or hitting on me so I don't ever fucking know. Personally I don't think I am attractive. So I will talk to dudes and they are super nice and I'm like oh hey he's just being a friend. Of course I don't wait freaking weeks or months jesus. I would know the obvious too like dinner, movies, house key etc, but if it's like little things I just can't tell. Then they say that they like me even if it's only been a couple days and I'm like ummm I have a bf. Or if I talk to a guy and just to prevent them from flirting with me I just wanna be like I have a bf! I get scared though because I have done that before and I was yelled at for it. Dude said he wasn't even flirting with me and that I am conceited for thinking that even though most of the time they are apparently. I am so lost with this shit lmao. I give up it is a no win either way. Any other girls have this problem?
Have had that problem. It sucks because they sometimes turn it into " It's your fault" type of thing.
Ive lost multiply awesome guys friends, just cause I couldn't get the hints.
I feelz yhu ;-;
Right! I am the same way! I can't have any guy friends because they somehow fall in love with me even if I tell them I have a bf right of the bat. They either want a relationship or sex. It's really annoying. I guess I should stick to female friends only. The only guy friends I have are my bf's friends. I can't get any on my own. :l
Misty M Meh, i have like 1 close female friend, and then like 2 guy bestfriends, and thensome of not so close friends of both; it seems to me when you have that problem, have a really tiny circle, haha.
That works lol.
***** Too true! It's pathetic.
Please, please, please girls if you have a boyfriend. Fake a call, a text, say it out loud to a friend (find an excuse) say I don´t know, I´m going to my boyfriend parents house that day, whatever. It hurts when we ask you out you accept and during of after it we find out.
lol if you read the comments though you should see why girls often don't say it...So many guys complain that girls seem full of themselves if they come out and make a statement about their boyfriend and "assume" they are interested in them. However, if you don't say it then you're the bitch that leads guys on.
Damned if you do, damned if you don't. :\
You mention it casually. You don't say I have a boyfriend when a guy just says hi or holds the door for you. That's prepotent
Elit Gunz Did you read my comment though and then actually glance at this page? I saw plenty of guys commenting on girls just slipping it into conversation. And that is my point. Regardless of how they do it, some guys are gonna get mad at how they handle it. (obviously this video was intended to be funny and they take it to an extreme where it was obvious he liked her and she should have spoken up but again this is just exaggerated for humor)
There was someone who was talking about how when girls casually mention it in conversation guys know what they're doing and spoke about it like it was something we shouldn't do. lol so like I said...damned if you do, damned if you don't. I might agree overall I rather just be upfront about something, but the reason girls sometimes don't mention it is cause they're giving a guy the benefit of the doubt because guys call us stuck-up bitches if we "assume" they want sex. And some girls just don't even think that way, like if a guy is being friendly not every girl thinks they need to make it clear that she's "taken"(there's not always a friend next to you trying to point out he was flirting so if you think he's just being friendly...etc blahblahblah)
Didn't read too long.
Let's say you win. yeeiiii!!!
Other way this will be a never ending duscussion as all of the above ones. My sincere congrats
Elit Gunz It's sad that it seems more and more often 2 paragraphs is "too long" for people who have plenty of time to do anything on the internet but have a conversation. Or maybe it just seems cooler than to ever actually think about a different perspective. Whatever.
This double standard blowssss. A guy will never have to say I have a girlfriend because he will never get approached.
That's not true
Absolutely isn't true, I've had to do it several times
I really must not know when a girl is hitting on me then
Daniel Estrada Guess so
Daniel Estrada That's what happened to me... She had to tell me that she was in love with me and told my how i could overlook that she was approaching me. So yeah, she knew I had a girlfriend from the beginning, but even after telling her i'm not interested in a relationship she was totally freaking out trying to convince me.. She sure was crazy...
I know the struggle, I usually just assume guys are joking around, even when they're flirty, soon as you become interested in them, they change their tune and suddenly aren't into you anymore. Never take a guy seriously unless he actually tells you he's for real trying to date you.
I gently mention my guy when I'm around other people just enough to put it out there that I'm happily taken, so there's never any confusion.
"Gimme back my keys!!" gloriously funny
Happened to me. A girl I knew for multiple years led me on for 5 months (December to April). I got her Christmas gifts, Valentines Day presents, random day presents, invited her to a ball, took dance classes with her for the ball, bought the dress for her, took her to the ball, had multiple dinners and lunches, all that jazz. One day we get into an argument, and don't talk for 2 months. A friend informs me that she had been dating her on-and-off boyfriend since before Valentine's Day (they broke up after Christmas). I spent so much money...
Met another girl at the end of summer anyway.
Dang, I feel bad for you, and all that money you can't spend on your new girl :(
I would say that she wasn't leading you on, but with all the things you done for her and everything, I wonder why she didn't tell you sooner. At least now you have someone that might appreciate you.
Saiana101 Because she is a player.
Him Chan Yeah, my new girl is actually the other way. She doesn't want me to pay for anything. She's wonderful. :D
Mary W There is a word for them, but I don't say such words.
but she wasn't wearing pastels
That blouse is a pastel color.
Connor Bolton
is not.
I think it is. Like I'm 70% sure.
Connor Bolton
it's pink and way too bright to be a pastel
Connor Bolton No that wasn't pastel, it was a slightly washed down red/pink colour but it would still never go down as a pastel. I do art so colour and shade is something I'm aware of and I'm 100% sure it's not a pastel because pastel is the softest and lightest shade of a colour and that top certainly wasn't soft or light coloured. Sorry for the mini lecture btw.
"Do you know Steve? You two should get together." "Haha, I have a boyfriend though."
Boom. Next question.
"It's been two months! Give me back my key!" 'I thought you just wanted me to have it for emergencies!' oh dear
To be fair, he didn't even kiss her until then... It's bizarre she had the key.
Just say:
"Hey did you ever go to that shop?"
"No why?"
"Me and my boyfriend went there, good shop!"
*I and my boyfriend. Sorry, had to.
Thanks, I'm not so very good with English xD
BluePixie55 Actually I make many mistakes as well, and since it helps me improve when someone points them out, I tend to do the same :)
9Kualalumpur Oh yes me too! Thankyou btw^^
me and my boyfriend
my boyfriend and I
The right things to do is to mention your boyfriend/girlfriend in your conversation. Like,"Yes, I love tennis. My boyfriend and I usually play tennis on Friday night" or just simply, "My boyfriend is picking me up". If he is your boyfriend, you must have quite some life experience together. Unless you are ready to cheat, Why hiding him? Same for guys with girlfriend.
This does seem like it is a problem with girls. As a guy, I would say it is good to mention it sooner than later. If you're asked to hangout by saying like "My boyfriend and I were actually planning on hanging out" or "Talking for a bit tonight" Or in conversation somehow... I don't exactly know how you can do it first meeting... One solution is don't hangout until you've seen them more than once or twice! That might just help solidify comfortablity or trustworthiness with the topic.
It seems like no one wants platonic friendships anymore :c It's like, if you make friends with someone of the opposite sex, they just assume that eventually you'll become a couple. /LESIGH!
*whispers*. Gaayyyy fffrrrriiieeeennndddsss
ExplosiveCake1 True, but Lena does have a point.
Platonic relationship between just two people of the opposite sex is a myth.
"MOST women," ..yes, perhaps that is the truth about them... But there are also, most certainly, lots of women out there who don't care for discussion revolving around romantic interests. Some women have the same interests as men, but since so many people are trained to be searching for their "true love," they screw up countless friendships because of their own misconceptions. It's so bad that young children in kindergarten and first grade are already concerned with crushes!
I don't think the problem is just men being stereotyped (though I agree with you, it happens all the time!) and I acknowledge that the same thing could definitely occur in reverse order: a man wanting to be nothing more than friends with a woman, while she assumes he has taken interest in her. The problem seems to be mostly that both men and women enter into friendships with some sort of expectation before they even know what sort of person they're involved with. My personal opinion is that both men AND women should try to restrain themselves from expecting anything extra from a friendship, and just enjoy a person for whom he or she is.
Yes I agree with you. We shouldn´t expect anything from other people, male or female and just try to enjoy life with them, but we are not perfect and human beings are full of expectations and stereotypes.
And if I would have a female friend, that is so special and intelligent and beautiful, it´d be very hard, not to fall in love with her... Somehow it´s just the natural order. It´s not that easy to be friends with the opposite gender...
'Steves' real! yeah! 😂😂
I hate flirting; it's the biggest waste of time and pretty annoying, in my opinion. Communication is crucial in a relationship, so if you're planning on starting one with somebody, start from when you first meet. Straight up state your intentions: "Can I take you on a date?" or "Are you single?" or "Want to be my friend?" (seriously, kids use it and it still works for adults). It will save both parties a lot of grief and wasted time.
RaeBriar I agree it's a personal preference. I will never find it fun; it's just not my personality. I'm a very practical, non-nonsense kind of person. I've had way too many awkward situations where I was just being friendly with someone and they were being friendly to me and then it turned out they were actually flirting with me and got the wrong idea. Here I thought I made a friend, and then I have to awkwardly turn them down in the end. Disappointment from both sides, for sure. I think it would just be easier to state your intentions outright; that way you're on the same page and can both flirt, or not flirt, to your heart's content.
+chapachuu You ever heard that about 80% of communication is body language? People say things all the time both conciously and subconciously with their bodies alone. Even if you are "straight forward" you can still flirt. It's kind of fun and really attractive. "The way" you say things says a lot more than just what you say. Besides, you don't just walk up to a complete stranger and say "hey let me date you, wanna go back to my place, or even let's be friends without getting to know them a bit first. Flirting is a way of testing if they are even worth the question. Understanding the purpose and why it is done rather than just completely writing it off may be worth while. Definitely opens doors for more oppurnities given girls love to chase and tend to flirt rather than be "straight forward." (cultural thing) Helped me alot anyway. ;) Hope you'll consider it yourself, or at least understand why it happens and is perfectly logical given the context we live in culturally speaking. (Assuming you live in USA.) Other countries I can't speak for.
+chapachuu After re-reading your OP. I agree, at some point it should be stated the first go around. Flirting isn't a waste. based off what I ssid earlier though.
The wanna be my friend one is the best option if you dont wanna flirt
It's not that hard to notice social cues. Yes, guys can be nice without the intentions of wanting to sleep with you or wanting to be with you, but if you're at a party/bar/club/etc., it's safe to say a guy offering to get you a drink *and then* asking for your number is interested in you. He's not there thinking "Man, this girl is going to become my new bff."
hahahaha this is hillarious but true...
It doesn't happpppen. Even in the odd case that a guy is your friend and has a girlfriend, the girl is a backup girlfriend -- not a friend.
I think if she or any other woman really loved their boyfriend they wouldn't have any trouble letting the guy know. It doesn't have to come across as arrogant or conceited, you can casually let it out, for example "oh, my boyfriend likes/does that too!" which would save a lot of time. Now for the guys, if you're not 100% sure, please just ask, again, can be done casually.
Am I the only person who believes in sex after marriage?
Yes, you've got to take the car for a test drive before you buy it :P
That's a good saying. And your right. It's basically saying you have to see what the women/man is like before you marry them. Is that right?
Yeah pretty much. It's saying that sexual compatibility is a part of any successful relationship and it would be better to find out that one does not mesh with their partner sexually before they decide to spend the rest of their life together than after.
No. My boyfriend and I follow that, and we COMPLETELY trust and love one another a lot. : )
That's good. I hope you and your boyfriend stay together forever :)
The moment a guy I don't like approaches me in any way I just pull the "I have a BF"-card fast as heck. Smooth transition to getting them to run the other direction
Why make it hard with actions that lead to assumptions? Whenever a guy ask you "do you want to be my girlfriend?" If you say "yes" then he's officially your boyfriend. They have to SAY it if not then regardless of how much time or affection he gave you he's just your friend.
You don't want indulge your fantasy in to thinking that someone is your boyfriend and someday when you make it apparent that you both are in romantic relationship he said "but I never ask you go be my girlfriend, or I thought we're just friend" Additionally, even though you've slept with him if he never asked you the question then he's still not your boyfriend but perhaps... friend-with-benefits.
The thing is to not assume that every guy only wants to get into your pants.
Because you know, they could be gay or they have a girlfriend or whatever.
But bring it up in normal unassuming conversation:
-"Oh wow the weather is so nice today."
-"Haha, omg yeah I know, my boyfriend loves nice weather."
Aaaand bam! Continue with conversation and platonic friendship, like a goddamn pro.
if a dude gets you a drink then invites you out, he wants to get into your pants. I swear girls are so naive.
I knew a dude that wanted to hang out all the time. I would turn him down because I had a boyfriend and I thought it was weird. Turns out he was gay and just wanted to be friends.
But if a dude wants to get into your pants, he should be direct and say so.
***** Lol, well, maybe she's just a little salty about her crush being unavailable. If she was mature, she wouldnt be.
If a straight guy is being nice to you it's because he wants to fuck you. If he has a girlfriend, he either wants to cheat with you or you're backup girlfriend material.
This is a huge generalization. Is this every guy, ever? In the history of the human race? Are you no exception to the rule? Assuming you are a man. Your father, grandfather? Your sons and grandsons? Was Mahatma Gandhi no exception? Or Pope Francis?
Its a stupid and lazy point of view.
I have when girls blast "I HAVE A BOYFRIEND" the very first moment you say hi. Like, "That's great, good for you, I'm gay, so calm the hell down"
You need a shirt that says that or "I'm gay, I don't need to know about you're boyfriend"
I'd rather they be upfront than waste my time. At least when they're upfront, you know how to proceed from there: you can either break off the conversation, or you can pursue a platonic relationship; also, as you said, you can save face by claiming you were never interested.
"That's great, good for you, I think you're totally unattractive so... calm down"
_Not interested, straight guy edition_
I think it's cause girls get a lot of shit for "leading guys on". I personally I don't mention my status until someone outright asks me. I think I make my intentions with someone clear, and if they still get "led on" by signs that aren't there, I'm not going to worry about it.
Two MONTHS?! Oh man not even I am that naive and I elevate gullibility to an art form.
I can relate to Allison so much in just about every video.
What I usually do is, whether I think a person is flirting with me or not, when I'm invited to something, I'll ask, "can I bring my boyfriend with me?" Boom, no more assumptions.
nailed it
This guy is so unbelievably handsome oh my goddddddd
"Can I get you anything?" Girl: "I HAVE A BF." "I'm the bar tender." I DIED 😂😂
I was waiting til the priest said 'Do you take him to be your husband?'XD
I can relate. Even if I have no bf I can't seem to tell them i dont like them like that, it seems mean, i just randomly stop talking to them and they usually get bored but some get even more intense and then i have to tell them straight up I don't like them. Am I wrong by doing this?
Tania Reza Ignoring someone *is* bad, don't do that. It makes the man wonder what he did wrong, it's confusing. From the male point of view it would be vastly preferrable if you just said you're not attracted to him. But I get that it's difficult to find the right moment to say that. Basically continue to talk to the guy until you're sure he is into you, then you can be fairly blunt.
Field of View you'd be amazed how often men won't take no for an answer and just keep on and on and on pressuring you once you say i'm not interested, i'm not attracted to you, thanks anyway, etc. almost every woman i know does the ignoring thing because it is excruciatingly uncomfortable to deal with guys when you reject them directly. me, i always took the direct approach, and had to suffer the consequences of an infinite variety of guys reacting poorly from aggression to tears to relentless pursuit, i've been stalked, too. that's why a lot of women just do not reply. i'm married now and thankfully never have to deal with this. except for the guys who try anyway, even knowing i'm married.
beccahday That's exactly how i feel. You are never prepared to what their reaction might be, it's better just to steer clear and give no explanation.
I've been in a situation where a guy just wouldn't accept that I didn't like him and was seeing someone else and kept bugging me about it. Like I wasn't rude or anything, I straight up said ya know I'm sorta seeing someone right now, and I would like to be friends, if you don't want to I understand. I was nice about it, but he kept saying he liked me and wanted to take me out and then say but no you're seeing someone and trying to play the guilt card. So I sorta have ignored someone for the fact that they wouldn't take the time to just be friends and instead was so hung up about me liking them back that everything else went out the window. It's not the best but in my opinion if it gets them to think, then maybe they might realise what they said wasn't okay. In my case though I don't think they did learn, but they did apologise for the stuff they said and we're friends now. Hopefully he doesn't still like me, and that's the only reason we're friends.
Tania Reza I'm also the same way.
I prefer to not say anything rather then be blunt.....the problem with me is that I'm so afraid of hurting their feelings.
Recently one of my old classmates started messaging me one day and I didn't think anything of it. Then he asked if I would go out with him & I said "I'm not sure."
2 weeks later he sent some strange guy to deliver a rose & a card saying 'thinking of you.' I texted him and said, "thank you but I prefer not to accept those kinds of gifts from certain ppl." and after that, everytime he called, I never answered...........................because I didn't know how to reject him.
One day he passed by the pharmacy, where I work and he looked all depressed. He just bought those Listerine gum strips, said hello and walked out........I think he was just looking for some reason to see me in person (OR he was hoping I would explain to him why I never msge or called him).......... but I had no time to speak to him because the pharmacy was really busy and I didn't feel comfortable being in his presence (and vice versa) ...........but I knew I ended up hurting his feelings and I do feel bad about it.
Ok guys be clear with your intentions and girls be clear with yours. All this beating around the bush is too much. There's always a chance that somebody's taken, so have that in your mind before you approach them.
"it's been 2 months" 😂😂😂
"Can I get you anything?"
"I have a boyfriend!"
"I'm the bartender."
😂😂 laugh my but off
'That's harmless and considerate'
"its been 2 months" JESUS CHRIST😂
Omg please don't be that girl :( If a guy randomly starts talking to you and you have a boyfriend, make an effort to bring it up! "Oh that's so cool! My boyfriend's totally into that too, you guys should meet!" That's literally all you have to say to avoid making everyone look like a fool!
Just MENTIONING a boyfriend during conversation is much less awkward, it comes off as less conceited and it clears everything right away. Easiest thing ever.
Whether I say I have a boyfriend or not makes no difference. They play the "I can be better than him" game
This is one of those "damned if you do, damned if you don't" situations lol
I can never figure out if someone is flirting with me. Please tell me that I'm not the only one!
Same here 🙄😭🤣
Hehe... Funny but I can't relate.
***** been wondering where you were. I'm not famous, you do know this right?
***** I'm more like a band that had one big hit but all their other songs are terrible. I was in the spotlight for awhile, sure. But my time is up for the most part.
***** no time soon if at all. If you want more there's always the comics.
High 5 high 5...
Gimmr five
after 2 months he didn't even tried to kiss her
suspicious
you know what are suspicious too? Pandas
that's right you know what I'm talking about.
ikr, they aren't designed well for a plant based diet yet they only eat bamboo? Riiiiiight...Somethings up.
.....????
Girl: i have a boyfriend
me: don't worry he won't know
She kinda looks like Anne Hathaway
The best time to say it is when you're exchanging contact info. If they say "Hey, do you want to hang out sometime? What's your number?" Just say "Yeah, I could always use a new friend" or something like that. And letting the guy pay is definitely a sign that it's a date, so don't do that with a new friend who's not clear about your status.
I don't mind ads....i don't mind buffering...when when the ads buffer, i suffer...
Problem was, the guy never expressed his intentions.
This guy was being nice to my friend but like after 2 seconds she said I have a boyfriend. He said well I have a girlfriend it is called being nice.... My friend was so embarrassed
You say it when he's at your place, eating your food, and using your Netflix
"I'm the bartender."
One of the greatest lines as a response in a BuzzFeed vid. ever!
Ahh I want that purple hair... Does anyone know what hair dye she used?
Yes
Maybe Manic Panic, that's the only one I can think of that's vibrant as that.
I've been trying to figure which colour it is of manic panic... Lie locks, Electric Amethyst, Purple haze or Ultra Violet... Also have been trying to find if purple haze was too pink.
It looks like Electric Amethyst, but you have to remember that maybe she lighten her hair to a point where the color can catch on to it. What ends up happening is that if you don't lighten your hair enough it'll combine with the under tone color and mixes into a different tone then that purple. Hopefully that helps.
Alrighty, thank you!!
"IT'S BEEN TWO MONTHS! GIVE ME BACK MY KEY!"
She should of mentioned she had a bf after he asked her to tennis. Tommorow? Hmmm... my boy friend and I are going doing something at 4 but I'm free before that! Just casually find a way to mention it
This is what happens when men make up "Steve" instead of using blunt language and asking us out on a date.
when I'm flirted with 'Wait. That was flirting?'
Never because I'll never have one, WHY IS THIS IN MY RECOMMENDED?!
Why am I watching this? I am single like a Pringle.
Maybe that was how girls got to saying that they have a boyfriend...
WHO KNOWS
The type of friend she told me not to worry about.
Can't you just friend zone them? You don't have to tell them now.
I'm early for once!
This is a magical time
But yeees new video! :)
Yay you!
Gud 4 u
Do you look like Daria's friend Jane Lane in real life?
This is what he gets for beating around the bush for 2 months.
I don’t even have a boyfriend but I’m watching this 😂
"It's been two months!!"
'Leaves the room in anger'
" Are we still up for tennis next week?"
1:52 *“I HAVE A BOYFRIEND!”*
I’m dead. 😂😂😂😂
This is impossible for Guys too. Even if you talk to a girl who you don't find particularly attractive and you try arrange to get together completely innocent she will slip in that she has a boyfriend and when you confirm your intentions then she will get offended that you don't find her attractive or just not believe you. As deflating as it can be when a girl tells you she has a boyfriend after you've spent some time talking to her cause you are not entirely sure, it is always better that she tells you within the first few hours of meeting you save you wasting anymore time and getting wired crossed. But I find more often than not that 'Good Looking Young Women' = has a boyfriend and I'm not surprised when they confirm it. It's more a surprise when they don't, but then you start to wonder why... i.e. is she a commitment-phobe, does she hate guys right now, is she not mentally healthy hence why guys won't stay with her that long.
You'll never get a guy feeling 'genuinely' sorry for a girl who gets guys approaching her all the time for dating not friendship, because a) you will always have more friends than partners so why is it a big deal to get 'more' plus you can always have friends who are girls anyway and b) guys would love that to happen to them and it rarely does in the same way. If it were magically to change overnight women would want it changed back SOOOO FAST I guarantee. If a guy wants to be your friend and seems to have no issue with doing so then he clearly doesn't find you attractive, but that is rare as there are a lot of attractive women these days. So I guy has to stick to his bros because it is the only way it is clear.
Why do you have to find a girl attractive in order to talk to them or want to date them? Or maybe I'm just thinking attractive in the physical way...instead of using a much broader sense.
***** there is always 'attraction' involved otherwise why would you seek out any kind of relationship. Only things that separate friendship and relationship is the kissing and sex, but a lot of the qualities that exist in friendships also exist in relationship so it can always evolve. But is unlikely too if you don't find the person physically attractive even in the slightest. Why would I want to be friends with any girl that has no attractive qualities physical or personality wise. Do women talk to guys they don't find attractive in some way. NO so why should guys have to do the opposite.
Cash Back What is baffling is the fact that you can't see how narrow and sick your comment is...
***** what is truly baffling is your in-ability to comprehend a simple and true notion that happens every single day and abject fail to address the subject matter in any meaningful way. Preferring instead to go for some vacuous token response which adds no value whatsoever.
The other disadvantage with having a good female-friend (like a deep and sincere friendship) is that when she will get a "boyfriend" you will automatically have to disappear from her life... or have a really minor role... which is kinda sad.
So I keep it light with female-friends now... it ain't really worth it.
Boy: hi, whats the nearest Shop?
Girl: *i have a boyfriend*
Here's an easy rule to understand:
Attractive girls always have a boyfriend. I've never met a pretty (18+) girl in my life that's single. And most of my friends are girls. How about that?!
That is so not true, I am a female, 18+ and I am still single. I am not saying I am gorgeous, but neither ugly. Most people assume I have a boyfriend.
zoey sou Do you want one?
***** aww. im sorry. i know how u feel.
Maybe they're lying about having a boyfriend to keep people from hitting on them. Your whole world could be a lie.
Nerd girls are usually single..
"I have a boyfriend!"
"I'm the bar tender" 😂😂😂
I posted on fb that I wanted to go hiking at a popular local trail, & an old coworker who I haven't seen in 3 yrs & haven't "talked" to (texted casually) in over year messaged me asking if I wanted to go hiking-
"sure! I'm bringing my bf & my roommate, did you have anyone you wanted to bring? I'm getting a group together"
"you probably should've told me you had a bf BEFORE I got up the guts to ask you out"
"sorry, I assumed you were asking to hang out as friends..."
(since we hadn't spoken in a year & I haven't seen him in 3) & then he deleted me off his fb😐
thtktgrl oooppppssssss!!
I think Allison looks a lot like Lea Michele :)
.. not really
I don't say I have a boyfriend until my boyfriend and I both say that we're officially in a relationship.
WHO CARES!!!
AmazingPotatoGAMING I do.
That means your the only person who cares, no one else does!!!
AmazingPotatoGAMING Well, David and Donald and Eric also care so you're wrong on that point too.
I don't think they do