Really sad about you and Chris splitting up, you guys inspired me a lot as a couple (albeit through the lens of the internet)! I wish both of you nothing but the best and lots of happiness and wisdom.
Midway through my 41st year, still growing, exploring, changing, learning…never stop! And never settle for mediocre if it doesn’t satisfy you. Love your channel, and can’t wait to see the growth to come!
I'll be turning 43 in a few days. Single, still figuring out who I am and what I want. Life is about the journey, not the destination. I don't have everything figured out, and I don't want to. Good friends, good food, good stories, that's what I want out of life.
Turning 30 was stressful! Good news is I grew more as a person from 38-42 than I did from 25-38. As a career person, it was stressful having kids later (have a 4&5yo) but was a great decision to wait. Will not gloss over it is way harder and stressful, but I think my wife and I are very happy with the ultimate timing. 20’s are finding out what’s out there 30’s are figuring out what you can do (what’s possible) with all you’ve found and figured out 40’s so far is finally becoming comfortable with who you are as you are today… it’s my favorite decade so far 🥂 I heard a helpful quote a while ago that effectively said: think about what you’d like to be doing in your 80’s and 90’s and be sure what you’re doing now is serving that person you want to be 😊 Happy almost birthday! 🎉🥂
I don't know who's giving you all of these "stereotypes" and "cliche's" but most people aren't even starting true adulthood/life until they hit their early thirties. Ie having an idea of career direction, STARTING the process of finding a serious partner/spouse, kids, houses, etc etc etc I'm turning 40 a day after PM and I still have friends who are navigating these decisions! Just live your life however you want that makes you happy, there's no such thing as a "traditional way" unless you are talking about 1950's tv shows. And the I wish I would have worked less people are in the catch 22 category of didn't make enough money to experience financial freedom... I wish I could work less but I need to get to the financial freedom part before that's possible!
great comment. as someone who comes from a small town, where people usually “settle down” by 22, it’s refreshing to read. took some traveling for me to understand that life isn’t a race, that we all have our own pace, and no one finishes in first second or last place. much love.
No doubt. I had it in my head early to buy a home. My parents put that in my head young. By the time i was 25 i was a home owner as i thought thats what i was supposed to do lol.
People are busy trying “figure themselves out” and these stereotypes aren’t what is peddled. What is peddled is individualism, self discovery and pursuit of self gratification. Going on a merry go round for 15-20 years trying to figure out the crux of your purpose is nicely buttered up way of going on an aimless self gratifying journey. Fact is, civilisation, commerce and legacy is just as if not more important. Contributing and building grass roots communities, building resilient families, and engaging in wealth building is the basic building blocks of what makes society function. If people stopped bsing around in late teens, and twenties, they’d be much more gratified, instead of wasting a good amount of the most effective and vibrant parts of their life trying to chase a morbidly philosophical question of their purpose, when the tools they are equipped with through their lives are a bunch of subjective ill defined parameters of how to find happiness. The fact that society and general conditioning pokes you that something is wrong with not being conformed to the “traditional” and you’re actively using the very “subjective” tools you’ve been taught all your life to run away from the reality, and embracing an individualist self gratifying outlook on life, you’ve already applied a meta narrative of happiness whilst asserting that meta narratives of traditionalism is what is the problem. Also, life is not long, is short af, you spend most of it sleeping. Be an effective contributor of society, not chasing your purpose in your 40s. Grass is not greener on the other side.
yes, best comment onRUclips in quite a while. I watched this video twice and I swear after the second time it felt more like a bunch of Clickbait this is I don’t know who this person talk to, but this is I can’t even finish the sentence this is crazy not right or not even not right just not.
At 50, I had a couple life changing events. And I realized I was wrong about many things. Doesn’t mean those years were a waste. But I realized over life we restart many times. We change. We grow. We learn. Sometimes we cry and grieve and take a step backwards. And then we try to move forward again. Plus, aging isn’t for wimps because while all the emotional and life events are going on, we’re also dealing with an aging body and it’s challenges. Now I’m getting closer to 60… egads. Someone recently said to me I have 20 good summers left if I’m lucky. I have more planned than I could possible do or afford in 20 years. I’m suddenly sifting through to see which are the things I really want to achieve and what is most important. So that’s why you hear about older folks talking about prioritizing what’s most important… because life’s brevity hits you in the face like a brick when 60 comes crawling around. Nice video. It’s good to assess now and then… just don’t let it overwhelm you. Take it in small chunks. A little ramble… but hopefully this makes sense.
I left my Fiancee at 29 starting my 30's single. In the last 5 years I bought a house and redefined me. It was scary as shit. Now I get to enjoy life. If I don't have kids or get married I'm ok with that.
I appreciated this a lot. As a musician and a 30 yr old. Very encouraging to be reminded of this. Thanks. I’d love more of this content as well! Very genuine.
I am 61 and left my high paying stable job at 59 to become a professional photographer. It doesn't even feel like work anymore. My generation put too much pressure on our children to achieve success and that drives many of the thoughts you are experiencing. For example, we created a system where you can't be successful without college and that is not true at all. We did it out of love and hope for our children's future not realizing that we were making life more difficult. We were the generation who's grandparents went through great hardship so we looked at the world differently. My advice is to make as many memories as possible. That is the secret to a longer life. You past is very compressed and forgettable without those memories so let that be your measure of success and you will have a wonderful life. Oh also......30 is not old, and never be terrified at being older. Many have lost that opportunity. I promise that someday you will realize how young 30 really is. Treasure those birthdays!
I am entering my 70th year and still wonder whats next. Enjoy listeningto your "ranting". Wish I had done more of it myself. Thanks for your inspiration!
Surrounding yourself with like minded people is the best thing you can do, I have never felt any pressure to do anything. My wife and I already traveled for 6 months in our early 20s and just finished a 2.5 year travel adventure where I turned 30, 31 and 32. Best decision ever and like you have said you don't want to look back on your life on your death bed and think you should have chosen differently. You will only regret the things you haven't done. Live life and let 'people' talk.
My mother-in-law is in her 70’s and she says some days she feels like she has everything figured out and other days she’s still flying by the seat of her pants. Every year older you get there’s something new you’ve had to learn about or deal with that you didn’t think about before.
I think having kids is like running into the sea. You're sunbathing on the warn sand and everything is amazing but you see other people in the sea and it feels like they're somehow coping with the cold. You eventually run into the sea, it's a massive shock for a very short moment but you realise the two temperatures are irrelevant, it's not actually cold, it's just different and it takes a second to adjust. Most people are super happy they decided to go in BUT it's also totally cool to stay sunbathing on the sand. Hope you have an amazing birthday.
I'll be turning 71 at the end of the year. You'll never figure it out. Life is not a straight line. At every turn there'll be something new to figure out. Your path will be, should be different from everyone else's. You want to be happy and fulfilled? Be honest with yourself and stay true to that.
I just turned 30 and my 20’s were just full of lesson after lesson. One marriage, one divorce, meeting my lovely partner, now 4 kids between us, financial lessons, spiritual lessons. Going from a steady career of 10 years to jumping into starting a media production company and not knowing if it would work out. Lesson after lesson has crafted me into a more polished version for my 30’s and I look forward to the challenges and lessons my 30’s bring 😁.
actually, after listening to her speech, I would rather say, good for him... no bad judgement about her, but way too much brain storm here... good to plan, but stop thinking, stop trying to understand, just go, do, experiment... E N J O Y 🙂
Don't blink...40 and 50 will be here before you can turn around twice. Enjoy as many moments as you can (from someone who's hit 50)...every decade seems to go by faster.
So well stated Lizzie!! At 40, great career and currently enjoying my passion in creating, maybe it’ll be something else, maybe not, but not letting that be a pressure to hold me back, adventure and doing what I love is what my purpose in life is. Keep crushing it, and I hope to run into you again next year in travels! 👏👏
Where? The part where she decides to go on a trip instead of putting the down payment on a house? No matter what popular RUclipsr say people just respond in the affirmative. "You go girl, I am 75 and living off welfare while the cost of houses is skyrocketing every year, take your time girl it's not like prices are going anywhere, as for a good man we all know they are a dime a dozen too. In fact the older you get the more of them just start showing up at your door. Do you think you have choices now? Just wait until you hit 60?"
I’m 57! I’m so glad I knew none of this! Live your life the way you want, &$#@ expectations!!! I’m sad thinking that you, or anyone else is living by this rule book. Everyone is different and unique and will succeed in their own way! Enjoy the people around you and the experiences that life offers. You will be better off giving yourself a break and creating your own expectations and timelines.
I’m down with the rants haha. I’m turning 29 in a few weeks which is nuts cuz I didn’t imagine it show up so quick but it’s wild to think back on how life has changed. Mad exciting though for sure
Stop trying to figures stuff out. Its a leap of faith. You will never be emotionally ready to have kids... you will never have enough money... It will never be the right time... BUT THAT'S OK. Find a good guy. Jump. And don't look back. Honestly, having a family is awesome.
Time is an illusion, these things that you are "supposed" to do are made up so others can feel better about their own choices. For me the key is happiness. Life is an adventure that didn't come with a timeline or plan. It's your life, live it your way. I met my now wife at 36, and we got married this year. Im 41 and starting new careers. There are no set rules for how you have to be or what you have to do.
Holy sh*t, I’d only gone broke ONCE by the age of 30! Bless the good old days. I didn’t really get my shit together until about 40. No, 45. Okay, 50. Two divorces later, many failures, and two major financial collapses later, I’m finally with the perfect partner, I have my money sorted, and I’m doing what I truly love. Life can begin whenever you decide. And you can do that again and again and again. My dad is still growing and developing at 87. Life is good. Life will get even better. Ignore the stereotypes. They’re full of shit. 💕 PS. Re kids - having one (or more) is the BEST thing I’ve ever done. I’ve had many titles in life, but my favourite remains ‘Dad’.
I think many of us are taught we have to be a certain way or already have it all figured out fresh out of high school but the truth is, we need to break that cycle. We can’t allow ourselves to be pressured into what everyone else thinks we should be. It’s impossible to have it all figured out especially when you are young and still have a whole life ahead to experience. Thats the way you gonna figure things out by experiencing life and going on your own pace. I’m already 41 and still don’t have it all figured out 😂 and that’s ok. You live, continue learning to improve and enjoy life because we only get one.
I agree turning 30 puts a lot of pressure to be “settled and to be making all the right decisions” but that’s a societal myth to distract us. I’m about to turn 62 and I feel healthy and strong and creative as I ever have. Yes certain things are “settled” but I also look at unsettling them too. The only constant is change. Helps to not forget that. Also I reconnected with my teen first love after 32 years and we’re having the time of our lives. Mostly by not having rules of being settled and figured out. Life is about the journey not the destination. And you don’t get to take any of this with you. Love every second, it’s only here once.
I’m 55 and after listening to the first part of this video I’m laughing. “Settling down” is the biggest mistake you could make. You don’t get the time back. Learn the difference between commitment and growth. If you decide to have kids, make the commitment to raise them right. But for your whole life, allow yourself to grow and experience life. Allow yourself to change direction. If you spend your whole life doing something unfulfilling and on your deathbed wish that you had done something else you are screwed. You don’t get a redo. The people making you think these things are expected of you are leading you down the wrong road, so ignore them.
I'm 66, As far as adventures, As I'm watching this, I'm packing my camera gear. Jumping in my Jeep, headed though the state of New York for falls colors. I'll figure out where to sleep when I get tiered. I'm of the belief your body gets older, the mind stays young. Have some fun !!
What you are going through is normal. I’m in my 40s (turning 30 seems like a lifetime ago) . Time speeds up as you get older your 40s will arrive faster than your 30s did etc etc . The one thing I’d say is if you want kids make it a focus. I’ve seen so many of my friends leave it too late. Career matters so much less to most once you hit 40 especially once kids come along. All the best in whichever path you choose.
35 for me this coming October 20th....days are shorter, work can be hard some days, coffee is more often lol, married, etc. After 30, you start to notice it. But adventures are still prevalent and amazing. Getting old but staying young forever, thats the goal.
I’ve spent my whole life figuring it all out and now I’m 44 . . . . I’ve realised I still have 44 years left to keep trying and I’ve only been an adult for 24 years so I’m young. I never thought I would be 44 and starting to dive into RUclips ! If only I had started 20 years ago when it wasn’t what it is today
Everybody needs to stop listening to other peoples judgements on their lives. End of story. Everyone’s situation/journey is unique. Don’t listen to any of it. Be the boss of your own life always.
I felt that way at 24 but next month I will be 25 and I did not enjoy the 9 to 5 job I have been in univeristy for 6 years and worked the 9 to 5 sesaonally for 7 years. So I went on a road trip up and down the east coast of north america including canada and the US. This exerperence has been amazing so far.
First off, why are people so worried about the number. Why does everyone put so much into where you should be at a certain number? Just do what the fu&^ you wanna do. Work hard, play hard. Keep the people around you that are successful and like minded. Being "old' is a feeling that is up to you. Stay healthy and do all the things you wanna do no matter if you are 30, 40 , 50 OR 60+. It's what keeps you feeling good and moving forward. Age should NEVER stop you.
Today is my 35th birthday. I’ve accomplished a lot of my personal goals but I’m still working a job I hate. I’m about to launch a podcast about finding success after 35 because I agree that there’s a lot of pressure to have everything figured out by a certain age. Success means different things to different people so I’ll be taking it down different avenues, but my personal goal is financial freedom and I’m hoping my experience will help other people to realise that age doesn’t matter when chasing your dreams ☺️
no offence, but your perspective of 30 is....older than I am. I'm 53 and I've got nothing figured out, every day is a new adventure and change is the only constant. Happiness is like liquid, Best of luck with this new chapter, but just know that wisdom is experience based. People who've been through it can tell you the same thing until they're blue in the face, but you have to live it, to experience it first hand for those lessons to connect. Young people are so quick to dismiss age and wisdom as "boomers" but there are some cultures who appreciate their elders because of that life experience. The last thing a 20 year knows is how their life is going to pan out before having really left the nest. I wish you well Lizzie, you're a beautiful bright light full of endless potential.
I love that you mention you’re 53 and have nothing figured out because my mother-in-law is 74 and says she’s still flying by the seat of her pants some days. There’s always something new each year that you didn’t think about until you’re living it.
GURL! Wait until you are 55 lol. 30's was the best times of my life. I did SOOO MUCH. I also think women can have kids later now. I got married at 39. First house 50 (although I bought my OWN place at 38; small BUT ON MY OWN). -Love. your older Auntie
Having kids & family > career. If you don’t realize that now. You will when you’re 40-50-60 and it’s too late. You can still do things you want to when you have kids. You can’t always have kids after you’ve done everything on your bucket list. It’s not a “societal construct” it’s mostly a biological construct that we have acknowledged. But, to each their own!
my second "coffee" 😂😂😂 that's milk with coffee taste, that is NOT a coffee 😀 oh, and I'm 52 soon, AND DON'T have ANY of the mentioned 30's Goals. In the contrary: NO car (why should I waste my money in something that stays on a parking space 90% of the time. NO house, my belongings are 7 boxes in a a basement, 2 suitcases (1 Tech, 1 personal items - clothes), 1 backpack for camera and laptop and a sling bag for my 32 SSD drives. NO financial investment (but still working on it) NO Stable income and didn't have in the last 16 years being a freelancers (looooots of ups and downs) NO figured out career, changed about 20 times and still ready to change again NO fix address, been traveling almost full time since june 2016 NO partner, don't need anymore, I finally understood It's totally fine to be on your own if you feel it so NO kids... I guess... NO restrictions in terms of traveling, discovering the world, been in 43 countries so far, learned 8 langues (5 almost fluent) and wouldn't change ANYTHING. ...except if I finally win the lottery, I'd probably do the same in a van for a while :-)... or do my pilot license, or buy a house in Japan, or start a business in Japan... whatever you want, JUST DO IT and don't EVER TRY to fit in any kind of BOX the society/family wants to see you in. It's YOUR life, fugging enjoy it!
Do not listen to others. And do whatever you can not to be in a stereotype cage. The secret is being yourself and listen to your inner voice and your heart. Anything else is bullshit.
Forget all this stereotyp things. I got my best salary at 42 and startend a new career at 58. so what, you can do the most things also when you getting older - except the thing with kids…. Ok, here you have to figure out what you want 😊 But you are on the write track, it will be ok ❤
I would suggest you buy that house instead of that trip because you aren't still in your 20s and lack wisdom. Unless you didn't lack wisdom and just didn't want to invest more in the relationship and use the trip as a side screen to hide the fact you wanted the relationship to end
Don’t wait too late to have a child trying to have too much fun and trying to chase financial freedom. Most people may never be financially free you just live amongst your means. Woman do have a time clock so live life but don’t forget y’all clock is ticking. You wait too late you might be left to be alone. Ijs
You do you Lizzie, I know there was a curve ball thrown you’re way, but that can happen to anyone. Learn something new every day, enjoy what you do. Screw what other people think, at the end of the day if you are happy than that’s all that really matters. I’ve changed careers a couple times. Just turned 40 and some days I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up! 😂
Wait till you hit 40/45 lmao 😄 The titles that come with it. sheesh lol unplug from the Matrix! Free your mind!:) Life is a movie. play any role you want, you're the writer! Keep Slaying!
No one is. Those expectations were from the early 1960s when America was at its strongest economic point and the mentality was the most conservative ever.
I am not sure what makes you entitled to talk about the ideas in heads and the stereotypes you mentioned However I sympathize with you on an end to your marriage But I suppose you need to talk to Therapist rather than have a sad lovers rant ona RUclips channel on which most of us come for your professional part of life and not to be your personal ear to be lent I hope you can move on from your broken marriage and have an adults life rather than being adolescent and have a rant on public platform
Girl, your 20s are the WORST years. Everything is so much better after 30. And NOBODY knows what’s going on. I’m 38 and I’m still trying to figure it out. Just like everyone else. 30 is an amazing place to keep growing.
So, here's a "real life" example: In my 20s, I had my children. In my 30s, I spent time in the corporate world, learning skills. In my 40s, I moved my family, farm, and businesses almost 1,000 miles for a complete lifestyle and career change, and began working for myself. At 55, I planted a vineyard. A 60, I opened a winery. What's left for my 60s, 70s, and beyond? God only knows--but I'll bet it'll be exciting...🫵😉
Really sad about you and Chris splitting up, you guys inspired me a lot as a couple (albeit through the lens of the internet)! I wish both of you nothing but the best and lots of happiness and wisdom.
Yeah, we all saw this coming.
@@devin_starlinghow so?
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Midway through my 41st year, still growing, exploring, changing, learning…never stop! And never settle for mediocre if it doesn’t satisfy you. Love your channel, and can’t wait to see the growth to come!
I'll be turning 43 in a few days. Single, still figuring out who I am and what I want. Life is about the journey, not the destination. I don't have everything figured out, and I don't want to. Good friends, good food, good stories, that's what I want out of life.
same here, enjoy the journey!!!!
Nearing end of my thirty’s at 38. Still growing and learning. Never plan to stop picking up new skills.
Wow, this hit hard. As someone who's turning 29 by the end of the year I couldn't resonate more. Thank you for this 🖤
Turning 30 was stressful! Good news is I grew more as a person from 38-42 than I did from 25-38. As a career person, it was stressful having kids later (have a 4&5yo) but was a great decision to wait. Will not gloss over it is way harder and stressful, but I think my wife and I are very happy with the ultimate timing.
20’s are finding out what’s out there
30’s are figuring out what you can do (what’s possible) with all you’ve found and figured out
40’s so far is finally becoming comfortable with who you are as you are today… it’s my favorite decade so far 🥂
I heard a helpful quote a while ago that effectively said: think about what you’d like to be doing in your 80’s and 90’s and be sure what you’re doing now is serving that person you want to be 😊
Happy almost birthday! 🎉🥂
I just found out that you and chris were done. I'm so sad. Because you guys are one of my inspiration for video stuff. Keep grindin liz!
I don't know who's giving you all of these "stereotypes" and "cliche's" but most people aren't even starting true adulthood/life until they hit their early thirties. Ie having an idea of career direction, STARTING the process of finding a serious partner/spouse, kids, houses, etc etc etc I'm turning 40 a day after PM and I still have friends who are navigating these decisions! Just live your life however you want that makes you happy, there's no such thing as a "traditional way" unless you are talking about 1950's tv shows. And the I wish I would have worked less people are in the catch 22 category of didn't make enough money to experience financial freedom... I wish I could work less but I need to get to the financial freedom part before that's possible!
great comment. as someone who comes from a small town, where people usually “settle down” by 22, it’s refreshing to read. took some traveling for me to understand that life isn’t a race, that we all have our own pace, and no one finishes in first second or last place. much love.
No doubt. I had it in my head early to buy a home. My parents put that in my head young. By the time i was 25 i was a home owner as i thought thats what i was supposed to do lol.
Happy birthday!
People are busy trying “figure themselves out” and these stereotypes aren’t what is peddled. What is peddled is individualism, self discovery and pursuit of self gratification. Going on a merry go round for 15-20 years trying to figure out the crux of your purpose is nicely buttered up way of going on an aimless self gratifying journey.
Fact is, civilisation, commerce and legacy is just as if not more important. Contributing and building grass roots communities, building resilient families, and engaging in wealth building is the basic building blocks of what makes society function.
If people stopped bsing around in late teens, and twenties, they’d be much more gratified, instead of wasting a good amount of the most effective and vibrant parts of their life trying to chase a morbidly philosophical question of their purpose, when the tools they are equipped with through their lives are a bunch of subjective ill defined parameters of how to find happiness.
The fact that society and general conditioning pokes you that something is wrong with not being conformed to the “traditional” and you’re actively using the very “subjective” tools you’ve been taught all your life to run away from the reality, and embracing an individualist self gratifying outlook on life, you’ve already applied a meta narrative of happiness whilst asserting that meta narratives of traditionalism is what is the problem.
Also, life is not long, is short af, you spend most of it sleeping. Be an effective contributor of society, not chasing your purpose in your 40s. Grass is not greener on the other side.
yes, best comment onRUclips in quite a while. I watched this video twice and I swear after the second time it felt more like a bunch of Clickbait this is I don’t know who this person talk to, but this is I can’t even finish the sentence this is crazy not right or not even not right just not.
At 50, I had a couple life changing events. And I realized I was wrong about many things. Doesn’t mean those years were a waste. But I realized over life we restart many times. We change. We grow. We learn. Sometimes we cry and grieve and take a step backwards. And then we try to move forward again. Plus, aging isn’t for wimps because while all the emotional and life events are going on, we’re also dealing with an aging body and it’s challenges. Now I’m getting closer to 60… egads. Someone recently said to me I have 20 good summers left if I’m lucky. I have more planned than I could possible do or afford in 20 years. I’m suddenly sifting through to see which are the things I really want to achieve and what is most important. So that’s why you hear about older folks talking about prioritizing what’s most important… because life’s brevity hits you in the face like a brick when 60 comes crawling around. Nice video. It’s good to assess now and then… just don’t let it overwhelm you. Take it in small chunks. A little ramble… but hopefully this makes sense.
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I left my Fiancee at 29 starting my 30's single. In the last 5 years I bought a house and redefined me.
It was scary as shit. Now I get to enjoy life. If I don't have kids or get married I'm ok with that.
Or she left you?
I appreciated this a lot. As a musician and a 30 yr old. Very encouraging to be reminded of this. Thanks. I’d love more of this content as well! Very genuine.
This is so true on so many levels, like your pace is your pace. The time will come and you will know when you are ready. It just will feel right.
I am 61 and left my high paying stable job at 59 to become a professional photographer. It doesn't even feel like work anymore. My generation put too much pressure on our children to achieve success and that drives many of the thoughts you are experiencing. For example, we created a system where you can't be successful without college and that is not true at all. We did it out of love and hope for our children's future not realizing that we were making life more difficult. We were the generation who's grandparents went through great hardship so we looked at the world differently. My advice is to make as many memories as possible. That is the secret to a longer life. You past is very compressed and forgettable without those memories so let that be your measure of success and you will have a wonderful life. Oh also......30 is not old, and never be terrified at being older. Many have lost that opportunity. I promise that someday you will realize how young 30 really is. Treasure those birthdays!
I am entering my 70th year and still wonder whats next. Enjoy listeningto your "ranting". Wish I had done more of it myself. Thanks for your inspiration!
Surrounding yourself with like minded people is the best thing you can do, I have never felt any pressure to do anything. My wife and I already traveled for 6 months in our early 20s and just finished a 2.5 year travel adventure where I turned 30, 31 and 32. Best decision ever and like you have said you don't want to look back on your life on your death bed and think you should have chosen differently. You will only regret the things you haven't done. Live life and let 'people' talk.
My mother-in-law is in her 70’s and she says some days she feels like she has everything figured out and other days she’s still flying by the seat of her pants. Every year older you get there’s something new you’ve had to learn about or deal with that you didn’t think about before.
Who are these “people “ you are talking too, bro it’s 2023 being 30 is like being 20 all over again
I think having kids is like running into the sea. You're sunbathing on the warn sand and everything is amazing but you see other people in the sea and it feels like they're somehow coping with the cold. You eventually run into the sea, it's a massive shock for a very short moment but you realise the two temperatures are irrelevant, it's not actually cold, it's just different and it takes a second to adjust. Most people are super happy they decided to go in BUT it's also totally cool to stay sunbathing on the sand.
Hope you have an amazing birthday.
That achieve by 30s list was the most anxiety inducing thing I’ve ever watched in my entire life
today's 30's are still KIDS, how do you want to reach all of this, if your ears are still wet!!!
I'll be turning 71 at the end of the year. You'll never figure it out. Life is not a straight line. At every turn there'll be something new to figure out. Your path will be, should be different from everyone else's. You want to be happy and fulfilled? Be honest with yourself and stay true to that.
I just turned 30 and my 20’s were just full of lesson after lesson. One marriage, one divorce, meeting my lovely partner, now 4 kids between us, financial lessons, spiritual lessons. Going from a steady career of 10 years to jumping into starting a media production company and not knowing if it would work out. Lesson after lesson has crafted me into a more polished version for my 30’s and I look forward to the challenges and lessons my 30’s bring 😁.
Did the same thing when I turned 30. And when I turned 40, I moved from North Carolina to LA to keep living and to keep growing.
I'm 55 and still haven't figured it out. For those that have, congrats to you ❤
Dear Chris: ooooof, sorry bro
Right?!😂
actually, after listening to her speech, I would rather say, good for him... no bad judgement about her, but way too much brain storm here... good to plan, but stop thinking, stop trying to understand, just go, do, experiment... E N J O Y 🙂
Don't blink...40 and 50 will be here before you can turn around twice. Enjoy as many moments as you can (from someone who's hit 50)...every decade seems to go by faster.
So well stated Lizzie!! At 40, great career and currently enjoying my passion in creating, maybe it’ll be something else, maybe not, but not letting that be a pressure to hold me back, adventure and doing what I love is what my purpose in life is. Keep crushing it, and I hope to run into you again next year in travels! 👏👏
Where? The part where she decides to go on a trip instead of putting the down payment on a house? No matter what popular RUclipsr say people just respond in the affirmative. "You go girl, I am 75 and living off welfare while the cost of houses is skyrocketing every year, take your time girl it's not like prices are going anywhere, as for a good man we all know they are a dime a dozen too. In fact the older you get the more of them just start showing up at your door. Do you think you have choices now? Just wait until you hit 60?"
30 is just the beginning! There is no mold to fit into, you have all sorts of time to sort it out. Experience is worth so much more than money.
I’m 57! I’m so glad I knew none of this! Live your life the way you want, &$#@ expectations!!! I’m sad thinking that you, or anyone else is living by this rule book. Everyone is different and unique and will succeed in their own way! Enjoy the people around you and the experiences that life offers. You will be better off giving yourself a break and creating your own expectations and timelines.
I’m down with the rants haha. I’m turning 29 in a few weeks which is nuts cuz I didn’t imagine it show up so quick but it’s wild to think back on how life has changed. Mad exciting though for sure
Stop trying to figures stuff out. Its a leap of faith.
You will never be emotionally ready to have kids... you will never have enough money... It will never be the right time... BUT THAT'S OK.
Find a good guy. Jump. And don't look back. Honestly, having a family is awesome.
Time is an illusion, these things that you are "supposed" to do are made up so others can feel better about their own choices. For me the key is happiness. Life is an adventure that didn't come with a timeline or plan. It's your life, live it your way. I met my now wife at 36, and we got married this year. Im 41 and starting new careers. There are no set rules for how you have to be or what you have to do.
YES, GIRL! Can't wait to see what you do in this new chapter of your life.
Holy sh*t, I’d only gone broke ONCE by the age of 30! Bless the good old days. I didn’t really get my shit together until about 40. No, 45. Okay, 50. Two divorces later, many failures, and two major financial collapses later, I’m finally with the perfect partner, I have my money sorted, and I’m doing what I truly love. Life can begin whenever you decide. And you can do that again and again and again. My dad is still growing and developing at 87. Life is good. Life will get even better. Ignore the stereotypes. They’re full of shit. 💕 PS. Re kids - having one (or more) is the BEST thing I’ve ever done. I’ve had many titles in life, but my favourite remains ‘Dad’.
I think many of us are taught we have to be a certain way or already have it all figured out fresh out of high school but the truth is, we need to break that cycle. We can’t allow ourselves to be pressured into what everyone else thinks we should be. It’s impossible to have it all figured out especially when you are young and still have a whole life ahead to experience. Thats the way you gonna figure things out by experiencing life and going on your own pace. I’m already 41 and still don’t have it all figured out 😂 and that’s ok. You live, continue learning to improve and enjoy life because we only get one.
I made a complete 180 career change at 30. Anything is Possible! 🙌
Happiness is a storm that comes and goes sporadically. Meaning is what sustains you through tough times. Search for meaning rather than happiness.
I agree turning 30 puts a lot of pressure to be “settled and to be making all the right decisions” but that’s a societal myth to distract us. I’m about to turn 62 and I feel healthy and strong and creative as I ever have. Yes certain things are “settled” but I also look at unsettling them too. The only constant is change. Helps to not forget that. Also I reconnected with my teen first love after 32 years and we’re having the time of our lives. Mostly by not having rules of being settled and figured out. Life is about the journey not the destination. And you don’t get to take any of this with you. Love every second, it’s only here once.
As a 30 year old who never plans of getting married or having kids, i feel this video. Sorry for chis and you, wish you both all the best
I’m 55 and after listening to the first part of this video I’m laughing. “Settling down” is the biggest mistake you could make. You don’t get the time back. Learn the difference between commitment and growth. If you decide to have kids, make the commitment to raise them right. But for your whole life, allow yourself to grow and experience life. Allow yourself to change direction. If you spend your whole life doing something unfulfilling and on your deathbed wish that you had done something else you are screwed. You don’t get a redo. The people making you think these things are expected of you are leading you down the wrong road, so ignore them.
I'm 66, As far as adventures, As I'm watching this, I'm packing my camera gear. Jumping in my Jeep, headed though the state of New York for falls colors. I'll figure out where to sleep when I get tiered. I'm of the belief your body gets older, the mind stays young. Have some fun !!
Even though I agree with most of what you are saying. At 36 I feel that I started living when I became a father 6 years ago.
What you are going through is normal. I’m in my 40s (turning 30 seems like a lifetime ago) . Time speeds up as you get older your 40s will arrive faster than your 30s did etc etc . The one thing I’d say is if you want kids make it a focus. I’ve seen so many of my friends leave it too late. Career matters so much less to most once you hit 40 especially once kids come along. All the best in whichever path you choose.
35 for me this coming October 20th....days are shorter, work can be hard some days, coffee is more often lol, married, etc. After 30, you start to notice it. But adventures are still prevalent and amazing. Getting old but staying young forever, thats the goal.
I’ve spent my whole life figuring it all out and now I’m 44 . . . . I’ve realised I still have 44 years left to keep trying and I’ve only been an adult for 24 years so I’m young. I never thought I would be 44 and starting to dive into RUclips ! If only I had started 20 years ago when it wasn’t what it is today
yes girl yes!!! I feel the same way, I turned 31 this past August. Love from Colorado Springs :)
30’s is a great period in life
Thank you for sharing. If only someone would have told me that 25 years ago.
That square framed print on extreme right of the frame is distracting me as it’s slightly off aligned 😂
Everybody needs to stop listening to other peoples judgements on their lives. End of story. Everyone’s situation/journey is unique. Don’t listen to any of it. Be the boss of your own life always.
I felt that way at 24 but next month I will be 25 and I did not enjoy the 9 to 5 job I have been in univeristy for 6 years and worked the 9 to 5 sesaonally for 7 years. So I went on a road trip up and down the east coast of north america including canada and the US. This exerperence has been amazing so far.
First off, why are people so worried about the number. Why does everyone put so much into where you should be at a certain number? Just do what the fu&^ you wanna do. Work hard, play hard. Keep the people around you that are successful and like minded. Being "old' is a feeling that is up to you. Stay healthy and do all the things you wanna do no matter if you are 30, 40 , 50 OR 60+. It's what keeps you feeling good and moving forward. Age should NEVER stop you.
I love watching your content 😊
Today is my 35th birthday. I’ve accomplished a lot of my personal goals but I’m still working a job I hate. I’m about to launch a podcast about finding success after 35 because I agree that there’s a lot of pressure to have everything figured out by a certain age. Success means different things to different people so I’ll be taking it down different avenues, but my personal goal is financial freedom and I’m hoping my experience will help other people to realise that age doesn’t matter when chasing your dreams ☺️
I thought she was like 36 or something like that!
As a 26 year old, 30s scare me. But this video gave me a lot of comfort for what’s ahead.
Career and adventure are more meaningful with a partner.
It's crazy to think how much perspective is gained after your twenties. Stay caffeinated.
I am nearly 70 and I still haven't figured it all out now, so I just gave up and don't care about figuring it at any more
no offence, but your perspective of 30 is....older than I am. I'm 53 and I've got nothing figured out, every day is a new adventure and change is the only constant. Happiness is like liquid,
Best of luck with this new chapter, but just know that wisdom is experience based. People who've been through it can tell you the same thing until they're blue in the face, but you have to live it, to experience it first hand for those lessons to connect.
Young people are so quick to dismiss age and wisdom as "boomers" but there are some cultures who appreciate their elders because of that life experience.
The last thing a 20 year knows is how their life is going to pan out before having really left the nest.
I wish you well Lizzie, you're a beautiful bright light full of endless potential.
I love that you mention you’re 53 and have nothing figured out because my mother-in-law is 74 and says she’s still flying by the seat of her pants some days. There’s always something new each year that you didn’t think about until you’re living it.
GURL! Wait until you are 55 lol. 30's was the best times of my life. I did SOOO MUCH. I also think women can have kids later now. I got married at 39. First house 50 (although I bought my OWN place at 38; small BUT ON MY OWN). -Love. your older Auntie
I learned that when I turned 30 its not that bad but now that I only have 6 years and I'm 40 this the scary part
Having kids & family > career. If you don’t realize that now. You will when you’re 40-50-60 and it’s too late. You can still do things you want to when you have kids. You can’t always have kids after you’ve done everything on your bucket list. It’s not a “societal construct” it’s mostly a biological construct that we have acknowledged. But, to each their own!
my second "coffee" 😂😂😂 that's milk with coffee taste, that is NOT a coffee 😀 oh, and I'm 52 soon, AND DON'T have ANY of the mentioned 30's Goals. In the contrary:
NO car (why should I waste my money in something that stays on a parking space 90% of the time.
NO house, my belongings are 7 boxes in a a basement, 2 suitcases (1 Tech, 1 personal items - clothes), 1 backpack for camera and laptop and a sling bag for my 32 SSD drives.
NO financial investment (but still working on it)
NO Stable income and didn't have in the last 16 years being a freelancers (looooots of ups and downs)
NO figured out career, changed about 20 times and still ready to change again
NO fix address, been traveling almost full time since june 2016
NO partner, don't need anymore, I finally understood It's totally fine to be on your own if you feel it so
NO kids... I guess...
NO restrictions in terms of traveling, discovering the world, been in 43 countries so far, learned 8 langues (5 almost fluent) and wouldn't change ANYTHING.
...except if I finally win the lottery, I'd probably do the same in a van for a while :-)... or do my pilot license, or buy a house in Japan, or start a business in Japan... whatever you want, JUST DO IT and don't EVER TRY to fit in any kind of BOX the society/family wants to see you in. It's YOUR life, fugging enjoy it!
Do not listen to others. And do whatever you can not to be in a stereotype cage. The secret is being yourself and listen to your inner voice and your heart. Anything else is bullshit.
I'm 65.... BOY.... The conversation we could have!
Try your list for 40 and you would be more real. I am 63, so I am speaking from experience. You are successful and you will have a great life!
I learned, there is almost no stable thing unless you decide that there is one (or more).
😂😂😂😂😂 Wait till your 50!!
Thanks for sharing!
This is depressing 😢
Hahaha, that rubbish at the beginning was ridiculous.
Also, newsflash, it’s not the most amount of money you’ll ever earn.
Forget all this stereotyp things. I got my best salary at 42 and startend a new career at 58. so what, you can do the most things also when you getting older - except the thing with kids…. Ok, here you have to figure out what you want 😊 But you are on the write track, it will be ok ❤
Dude, I’m 33 and still haven’t got my photo and video business running after 9 years 😂
That was my favorite video I've watched this week! 🔥🔥🔥 I couldn't possibly agree with you more! Turning 31 next Wednesday.
Unless you randomly die early lol..
Personal opinion...40's are the BEST so you have good things to look forward to
I would suggest you buy that house instead of that trip because you aren't still in your 20s and lack wisdom. Unless you didn't lack wisdom and just didn't want to invest more in the relationship and use the trip as a side screen to hide the fact you wanted the relationship to end
What people think these things about being 30? 5 year olds?
So true for all ages
Don’t wait too late to have a child trying to have too much fun and trying to chase financial freedom. Most people may never be financially free you just live amongst your means. Woman do have a time clock so live life but don’t forget y’all clock is ticking. You wait too late you might be left to be alone. Ijs
Whew, I’m turning 35 this year 😅
You do you Lizzie, I know there was a curve ball thrown you’re way, but that can happen to anyone. Learn something new every day, enjoy what you do. Screw what other people think, at the end of the day if you are happy than that’s all that really matters.
I’ve changed careers a couple times. Just turned 40 and some days I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up! 😂
Wait till you hit 40/45 lmao 😄 The titles that come with it. sheesh lol unplug from the Matrix! Free your mind!:) Life is a movie. play any role you want, you're the writer! Keep Slaying!
No worries. In few days I will turn 40’ and my brain is still like
15 years old 🤣
dude f*** "expectations" keep doing you
You, or everyone who have intrest in this subject, should read "The Pathless Path - Paul Millerd " if you haven't already :)
What’s the starbs order tho!
i am 27 and watching this video just has me like :|
Want a summary to this video? Listen to Who Says by John Mayer
I cannot wait until you make a video about the same thing when you're 40 then 50 and 60. I'll be dead by then but girl - perspective.....
I’m at NONE of those 30 markers.
GOOD!
No one is. Those expectations were from the early 1960s when America was at its strongest economic point and the mentality was the most conservative ever.
@@tj2375 makes me feel better. Thank you. My dad died as I turned 18. I feel like I’ve been just trying to get by since then. ❤️
This is super interesting. You’re still not on the correct side of ideology vs reality. Reality will always win. 🤔
🤔 does this appiles if ur in your 40's 😅😅
I am not sure what makes you entitled to talk about the ideas in heads and the stereotypes you mentioned
However I sympathize with you on an end to your marriage
But I suppose you need to talk to Therapist rather than have a sad lovers rant ona RUclips channel on which most of us come for your professional part of life and not to be your personal ear to be lent
I hope you can move on from your broken marriage and have an adults life rather than being adolescent and have a rant on public platform
let's goooooooo
you aint 30 surely
Girl, your 20s are the WORST years. Everything is so much better after 30. And NOBODY knows what’s going on. I’m 38 and I’m still trying to figure it out. Just like everyone else. 30 is an amazing place to keep growing.
I loved everything about this video. I just turned 24 and am so relieved that the growth and happiness doesn't stop. 10/10🤍
So, here's a "real life" example:
In my 20s, I had my children.
In my 30s, I spent time in the corporate world, learning skills.
In my 40s, I moved my family, farm, and businesses almost 1,000 miles for a complete lifestyle and career change, and began working for myself.
At 55, I planted a vineyard.
A 60, I opened a winery. What's left for my 60s, 70s, and beyond? God only knows--but I'll bet it'll be exciting...🫵😉