Are you the frenemy of your own healing?

In times of challenge, like pain flare-ups, we have a tendency to attack ourselves with "shoulds", which only serves to frustrate and increase a sense of despair. Layering guilt on top of feeling down only undermines the progress you have already made and the ways in which you are investing in feeling your best. But what is more supportive of the healing process is cultivating self-compassion, appreciation and hope.