This is a great example of the world not owing you anything. We may think we deserve things and probably do but realistically, people don’t even have parents who love them. Appreciate the loving people in your life because it’s not guaranteed.
OP in no way owed an apology to anyone. When someone treats you like shit they do not get to dictate how you respond or even in the tone in which you respond. And sometimes being rude is the only thing that gets through to people.
Huge NTA. Op's mom was dating a gold digger. That part was painfully obvious within the first two minutes of this story. I think she ignored the red flags because she met someone more manipulative than herself. Op's mom created this situation putting everything into a bad gamble. Op's mom would have never reached out if her relationship was going great instead of the nightmare it became. Screw her. She only reached out because she has no one in her corner and that's karma.
You are not the ah. She needed to hear it from you. You needed to get that out it good you did it. It's good for you and that's that. Love you're family.
"some of them were insecure" errr i doubt it, she was a 304 and was hanging out with other men while in a relationship. The boyfriends having an issue with that isn't just them being insecure.
Hi- I have a story from my childhood that is almost identical to yours. I’m 39 now, and I can tell you for sure, this is definitely a narcissistic man and a covertly narcissistic/codependent woman, so I commend you for valuing and protecting your peace. I wish I had learned this lesson much earlier in my life, but I have finally figured it out. I really appreciate your story. If it might ever help to talk to someone who has experienced a very very similar thing, you are welcome to reach out. Peace and love to you ❤
Really old?!? She's 50!!!!😮 Yep, she got Exactly what she wanted!! The reason she was so quick to back the boyfriend is because she was desperate she was at the end of her ability to attract a young suitor.
Op shouldn’t feel bad, her mother is clearly gaslighting and guilt ripping her to earn some sympathy points. She deserves every hate-filled word you sent her
The issue with narcissists is that in extreme cases like her, she doesn't work like us so she might not even cared about the mean Email she just saw a window to manipulate and play the victim to get what she wanted. I would just ignore her, extreme narcissists often end up alone and miserable like they should.
Some of these stories are "AITA for being an asshole with a good reason for being an asshole?" Well yes, you were being an asshole, but you indeed had a good reason to be an asshole.
Not abandoning OP, but if you tried to tell her, she most likely would’ve not listen to the OP and gotten mad and then when things do blow up in her face get angry claiming OP should’ve told her. Getting the vibe she does she please without the consideration of others and then when they don’t want anything to do with her she all shocked and try’s to lay the emotional manipulation and tantrum on thick.
as someone in a very similar boat.... ops mom shouldve apologised. she cant just abandon her kid and then demand a happy family without work. It's called consequences.
I wonder if her husband usually rings the doorbell to his own house? Also, she has no other family but the Uncle so was it him that gave up the address to the sister he dislikes and avoids? Think AI, think,
It's always best to contact someone one last time to let them know how you feel about them. Especially when they don't apologize for how they behaved in the past. The mother thought that if she was caring and loving to her granddaughter it would make up for her abysmal actions to her daughter? That's not absolving yourself of guilt or acknowledging your guilt. That's trying to turn back time and thinking history can be changed. If she's old and alone it's through her own actions and no one is going to feel sorry for it. The mother is the jerk or whatever but the OP isn't.
Find it so funny that all these stories the op feels like a bad person for feeling the way anyone would feel if treated that way. Like why the hell you feel bad for letting someone who clearly doesn’t give a shit about you know that way??
15:02 she is blowing smoke up your @$$. She never apologized in the first place and is now mad that you didn't give in. She is being defensive, she wants something otherwise she would have internalized the message and said nothing. She isn't accepting blame but choosing to blame.
5:28 - (and again at 8:46) There it is, the AI confirmation; "We didn't have that sort of _equation_ ". For whatever reason the AI used to create stories keeps misusing the word "equation" when it really means "relationship" or in some contexts "situation". Once you realize this is a common theme you will start noticing this exact same f*ckup in dozens upon dozens of stories. I'm sure at some point the devs/programmers of the AI will fix this glitch, but for now it's an unmistakable AI blunder.
The language is very natural, I’d be surprised if it were AI. Such misuse of words is common in real people; “equation” in this context is actually a lot more personal and unexpected than words like “relationship” or even “chemistry”. Look up “idiolect”: ‘Idiolect is an individual's unique use of language, including speech. This unique usage encompasses vocabulary, grammar, and pronunciation’ (Wikipedia)
The over explanation is how I know it’s fake. Also, the repetition of the same information over and over before the story move on. No one talks like that. I also doubt that a Reddit post can contain 15 minutes worth of information in one post.
That whole lying about your age thing… Sex and the City had a character who celebrated her 39th birthday every year. And everybody just rolled with it, and now that’s in the culture. I’m not blaming the show… they prolly wrote the joke because it was already in the culture. But it’s been normalized. I’m 50, this year. My whole life, 50 was the line in the sand. 50 is “old”. But at the same time, I felt like there should have been a time when I had a handle on being an adult… but I have never quite felt it. I’ve worked in leadership positions. I’ve owned multiple homes (not at the same time). I’ve been married. Been divorced, too. Spent a couple years teaching at the local community college. Got a graduate degree. I was officially a mentor for a couple of undergrad guys. So, for sure some day soon, I’ll start to feel like I’m not just a child prodigy pretending to be an adult. It’s messing with my head. Because both things cannot be true: that I’m a kid fighting above my weight class, AND that I’m now old.
@nekorei2023 Yes. I understand that, but it isn't a common way to say relationship, and this channel had no problem using the word "relationship" before.
Ironically women tend to outlive men but time always works against women the most. Another words the power of being a beautiful woman is very temporary.
Im quote vass here you were way up in the fucking sky but hermano you hit the ground the world does not revolve around you ops mom needs a much needed reality check
Who is the guy in the video: "my parents abandoned me and now want me to give my house to my brother" Not the correct title but most of it Also the girl from: "kicked out as a teen for false rumors spread by my brother"
Nah ngl idk if it’s me but I’d forgive and never forget. But she didn’t need to say those mean things to her moms even if she’s stupid. It broke my heart hearing that tbh
You are partially the AH ..You know what kinda person she is still u stayed with her until u were 20 and only left after kicked u out , OP she is not responsible for u now and u should now had to move out but u didn't but still complaints about her behaviours if u have hated that much then u should have moved out after 18..I am not supporting her but saying if u done that earlier u wouldn't wasted 2 yrs of ur life anymore in that toxic and hateful unwelcoming atmosphere and would have started ur new adult life ...Such a dumbo 🙄
5 years no contact just keep it that way she’s alone for a reason no friends no family just a walking radioactive red flag.
"She is old and lonely". Translation: she was able to piss off so much people during her lifetime no one wants to be near her in her old age.
Sounds like my narc mil
Right
That's what all narcissists deserve: to be alone and forgotten.
And what they can't stand the most!
I'm alone and forgotten, does that make me a narcissist?
@@ryvulet8639no, it made you sad
@@ryvulet8639 no just makes you alone and forgotten
@@ryvulet8639 Hello there Alone and Forgotten, nice to meet you
No family and friends and with a RO.
Best ending. What a clown. For sure, she is going to be the gossip topic for months.
whats an RO?
It’s short for Restraining Order.
This is a great example of the world not owing you anything. We may think we deserve things and probably do but realistically, people don’t even have parents who love them. Appreciate the loving people in your life because it’s not guaranteed.
If u don't want kids don't have them..
She doesn't have the right to be angry. Tell her she deserved each and every word because she had the gall to beg and cry without even apologizing.
OP in no way owed an apology to anyone. When someone treats you like shit they do not get to dictate how you respond or even in the tone in which you respond. And sometimes being rude is the only thing that gets through to people.
Huge NTA. Op's mom was dating a gold digger. That part was painfully obvious within the first two minutes of this story. I think she ignored the red flags because she met someone more manipulative than herself. Op's mom created this situation putting everything into a bad gamble. Op's mom would have never reached out if her relationship was going great instead of the nightmare it became. Screw her. She only reached out because she has no one in her corner and that's karma.
I kinda find it comical how actively tormenting parents immediately fall back to the word 'ungrateful' to describe their kids standing up to them
Manipulation and guilt trip.
Narcissists acting dumbstruck when karma finally hits them like a freight train is peak comedy 😂
“She bust the windows out your house” lol y’all remember that one song?
I WAS THINKING THAT TOO
Props to the uncle for taking care for his niece
You are not the ah. She needed to hear it from you. You needed to get that out it good you did it. It's good for you and that's that. Love you're family.
NTA!!!
You don't owe her SHXT!!!🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️
You have your OWN family now!!!
#BloodDoesNotMakeYouFamily
#ProtectYourEnergy
#ProtectYourPeace
"she needed me to accept he back into the family" WOMP WOMP!
All kids deserve parents.
Not all parents deserve kids.
"some of them were insecure" errr i doubt it, she was a 304 and was hanging out with other men while in a relationship. The boyfriends having an issue with that isn't just them being insecure.
yeah😂 that threw me off too...she sounds like an absolute nightmare... they were probably just cautious and not "insecure"
Hi- I have a story from my childhood that is almost identical to yours. I’m 39 now, and I can tell you for sure, this is definitely a narcissistic man and a covertly narcissistic/codependent woman, so I commend you for valuing and protecting your peace. I wish I had learned this lesson much earlier in my life, but I have finally figured it out. I really appreciate your story. If it might ever help to talk to someone who has experienced a very very similar thing, you are welcome to reach out. Peace and love to you ❤
YT Title: abandoned as a teen
op: i was 20 when my mom kicked me out of the house
Exactly. Not all of these stories are fake but this one is most likely
Really old?!? She's 50!!!!😮 Yep, she got Exactly what she wanted!! The reason she was so quick to back the boyfriend is because she was desperate she was at the end of her ability to attract a young suitor.
People don’t understand that not reuniting with a parent isn’t about hate or revenge. It is about wanting a peaceful life without drama.
title: "mom abandoned me when i was a teen"
first couple sentences into the story: "she kicked me out when i was twenty"
hmmmm
Conning a wannabe boss babe is childs play.
rest in peace Window
Op shouldn’t feel bad, her mother is clearly gaslighting and guilt ripping her to earn some sympathy points. She deserves every hate-filled word you sent her
The issue with narcissists is that in extreme cases like her, she doesn't work like us so she might not even cared about the mean Email she just saw a window to manipulate and play the victim to get what she wanted. I would just ignore her, extreme narcissists often end up alone and miserable like they should.
Some of these stories are "AITA for being an asshole with a good reason for being an asshole?"
Well yes, you were being an asshole, but you indeed had a good reason to be an asshole.
Not abandoning OP, but if you tried to tell her, she most likely would’ve not listen to the OP and gotten mad and then when things do blow up in her face get angry claiming OP should’ve told her. Getting the vibe she does she please without the consideration of others and then when they don’t want anything to do with her she all shocked and try’s to lay the emotional manipulation and tantrum on thick.
as someone in a very similar boat.... ops mom shouldve apologised. she cant just abandon her kid and then demand a happy family without work. It's called consequences.
Being nice doesn't mean you have to allow people to emotionally manipulate you.
Not only did she not apologise, she tried to change the story from OP getting kicked out to OP leaving.
Well lets face it she would have been rude and you know it
As the old saying goes lady "You reap what you sow."
After the email, I'd just respond "sorry, who is this?"
Sounds exactly like my mom
I wonder if her husband usually rings the doorbell to his own house? Also, she has no other family but the Uncle so was it him that gave up the address to the sister he dislikes and avoids? Think AI, think,
She didn't want to be a mother when it was hard. She doesn't get to be a mother when the work's all done.
Writing something and then just getting offended the obvious reply is just wow
The poor window 😔
TWENTY??!!!! you needed to be kicked out at that age! LOL
It's always best to contact someone one last time to let them know how you feel about them. Especially when they don't apologize for how they behaved in the past. The mother thought that if she was caring and loving to her granddaughter it would make up for her abysmal actions to her daughter? That's not absolving yourself of guilt or acknowledging your guilt. That's trying to turn back time and thinking history can be changed. If she's old and alone it's through her own actions and no one is going to feel sorry for it. The mother is the jerk or whatever but the OP isn't.
Find it so funny that all these stories the op feels like a bad person for feeling the way anyone would feel if treated that way. Like why the hell you feel bad for letting someone who clearly doesn’t give a shit about you know that way??
It and everything that came her way was her own fault.
Finally one where the op’s mom is toxic and not the mil
15:02 she is blowing smoke up your @$$. She never apologized in the first place and is now mad that you didn't give in. She is being defensive, she wants something otherwise she would have internalized the message and said nothing. She isn't accepting blame but choosing to blame.
Despite what the OP said was probably unnecessary, she's not in the wrong
5:28 - (and again at 8:46) There it is, the AI confirmation; "We didn't have that sort of _equation_ ". For whatever reason the AI used to create stories keeps misusing the word "equation" when it really means "relationship" or in some contexts "situation". Once you realize this is a common theme you will start noticing this exact same f*ckup in dozens upon dozens of stories. I'm sure at some point the devs/programmers of the AI will fix this glitch, but for now it's an unmistakable AI blunder.
The language is very natural, I’d be surprised if it were AI. Such misuse of words is common in real people; “equation” in this context is actually a lot more personal and unexpected than words like “relationship” or even “chemistry”.
Look up “idiolect”: ‘Idiolect is an individual's unique use of language, including speech. This unique usage encompasses vocabulary, grammar, and pronunciation’ (Wikipedia)
Or it's just autocorrect, not everything Is FUCKING AI
The over explanation is how I know it’s fake. Also, the repetition of the same information over and over before the story move on. No one talks like that. I also doubt that a Reddit post can contain 15 minutes worth of information in one post.
@@89wolfcub No one talks like that? My, my, I envy you. I wish no one had ever wilted my ears from talking in circles.
@@leamubiu preach
I’m calling BS on this story…… mum would only be 50 ish so not really old, 6 month community service for a broken window where no one was hurt…..
That whole lying about your age thing… Sex and the City had a character who celebrated her 39th birthday every year. And everybody just rolled with it, and now that’s in the culture. I’m not blaming the show… they prolly wrote the joke because it was already in the culture. But it’s been normalized. I’m 50, this year. My whole life, 50 was the line in the sand. 50 is “old”. But at the same time, I felt like there should have been a time when I had a handle on being an adult… but I have never quite felt it. I’ve worked in leadership positions. I’ve owned multiple homes (not at the same time). I’ve been married. Been divorced, too. Spent a couple years teaching at the local community college. Got a graduate degree. I was officially a mentor for a couple of undergrad guys. So, for sure some day soon, I’ll start to feel like I’m not just a child prodigy pretending to be an adult.
It’s messing with my head. Because both things cannot be true: that I’m a kid fighting above my weight class, AND that I’m now old.
Pretty sure you don't go to prison for breaking a window. How money could one have received for one broke window? Also tf is an equation?
Probably like relationship
but you can always go to to jail for minor offenses
@@phillipschwoerke8374 truth, but "imprisonment" is a bit melodramatic.
@nekorei2023 Yes. I understand that, but it isn't a common way to say relationship, and this channel had no problem using the word "relationship" before.
ok Telltales you need to learn the difference between teen (minor) and an adult. OP wasn't kicked out as a Teen(minor) so update your AI.
Ironically women tend to outlive men but time always works against women the most. Another words the power of being a beautiful woman is very temporary.
Theres no need to apologize to her if she never apologized for being a dirtbag mom who chose some gross boyfriend over her own daughter🤷♀️
felt.
No
The only wrong thing op did was saying she was a teen when she’s 20. A teen is someone who’s 13-19
Errrmm actuawwy he said something 1 year off🤓👆
I am the 1ST video like 😂😂😂😂
what's up with all these "equations"?
im here 11 seconds after uploaded
me nine minutes
Im quote vass here you were way up in the fucking sky but hermano you hit the ground the world does not revolve around you ops mom needs a much needed reality check
Who is the guy in the video: "my parents abandoned me and now want me to give my house to my brother"
Not the correct title but most of it
Also the girl from: "kicked out as a teen for false rumors spread by my brother"
Are you talking about the whole "Do it for Dan" saga XD ?
@@renadu30 yes
@@renadu30 yes
Hi
Nah ngl idk if it’s me but I’d forgive and never forget. But she didn’t need to say those mean things to her moms even if she’s stupid. It broke my heart hearing that tbh
You are partially the AH ..You know what kinda person she is still u stayed with her until u were 20 and only left after kicked u out , OP she is not responsible for u now and u should now had to move out but u didn't but still complaints about her behaviours if u have hated that much then u should have moved out after 18..I am not supporting her but saying if u done that earlier u wouldn't wasted 2 yrs of ur life anymore in that toxic and hateful unwelcoming atmosphere and would have started ur new adult life ...Such a dumbo 🙄
Lazy AI story, needs new material
I like the stories but the background with all the jumping around sucks