Great video guys! I was born in Europe and currently live in Canada, but looking to retire in Europe so this is very helpful. And way to go with the grey hair! I want to do this too, but don't have the courage yet 🙂
The English guy being rude only shows that rude and ignorant assholes come in all ages, all shapes and sizes and they know no borders as every country has them. i think its universal though that most people appreciate others trying to speak their native language, its not the level of ability that matters its the fact that your at least trying to speak the language and overwhelmingly people appreciate that effort.
I'm 48 years old single mother living in France. I'm hoping to retire at 50 if things keep going well for me. Bought my first house last month and I can't be more proud than I am right now. I'm so glad made great decisions about my finances that changed me forever.
Congratulations. You're really doing well at your age. I'm 43 and my finances are in a mess right now. Any great tips would really go a long way in shaping my life. I want to buy my own house, that's really really.
@@josephtownley7839 The first step to successful investing is figuring out your goals and risk tolerance either on your own or with the help of a financial professional but is very advisable you make use of a professional like I did. If you get the facts about saving and investing and follow through with an intelligent plan, you should be able to gain financial security over the years and enjoy the benefits of managing your money.
If you are not conversant with the markets, I'd advise you to get some kind of advise or assistance from a financial/investing coach. It might sound basic or generic, but getting in touch with an investment broker was how I was able to outperform the market and raise a profit of $300,000 For me, its the most ideal way to jump into the market these days
On the topic of cold weather: Remember that temperatures are relative. For you, coming to Northern France from Florida, it feels very cold. For us who live in France, it has been a really mild winter (until the last week, when temperatures have been closer to the norm). Taking Nice as an example: Nice can be very hot in summer, but when the winter comes, it can feel really cold by _comparison_ , and it can actually be bitterly cold, especially when the wind blows from the mountains. Suggestion: type in Nice Weather, and right now, it reads: Month High / Low(°C) Rain December 13° / 9° 5 days January 12° / 8° 5 days February 12° / 7° 4 days _But_ we need to remember that these are averages, and with the current trend in global warming, in Europe, temperatures are trending upwards in summer (last year, we had 8 months of drought and historically long-held record temperatures were smashed) and doing weird things in winter - like the unusually mild weather and then suddenly fierce winds, storms and snow. "In Nice, the summers are short, warm, humid, dry, and mostly clear and the winters are long, cold, and partly cloudy. Over the course of the year, the temperature typically varies from 5°C to 28°C and is rarely below 2°C or above 30°C." "The weather in Nice in January is very cold, so make sure to pack a warm coat and a hat, gloves, and scarf. It’s the coldest month of the year with the lowest temperatures arriving in the evening. There’s less sunshine than usual, but you can still have a good time exploring the city." (Thomas Cook site) A good example from personal experience: In Hong Kong, people will be wearing winter clothes in winter months, while tourists are walking around in jeans and t-shirts, because they've come from winter weather in their country. And another: we'd been to Southern Spain in September / October, and it was still pleasantly warm. Then I took my grandmother-in-law out towards the end of January, and by jiminy, we were _cold_ !!!!! Grandmother felt it the most, obviously, and thankfully, we had flown out wearing UK winter wear, but even so ... we were soo cold! For you, coming to Northern France from Florida, it feels very cold. For us who live in France, it has been a really mild winter (until the last week, when temperatures have been closer to the norm). Remember, too, when choosing somewhere, to think of the tourist impact on everyday life. EG Nice and St Tropez are both cruise ship ports of call and there's the aspect of masses (thousands) of people crowding into the place as well as the land-based tourists. (Remember the crowds of you leaving your cruise ship when it called into St Tropez or Nice? It'll be the other way round for you now. Living there, you'll see how much it affects everyday life. I saw a video recently where the programme is set around visiting Americans who lived in / close to the tourist areas in the South of France, and the recurring advice was, "Don't live south of the A8". ie, draw a line across the A8 west to east and then extend it at either end to curve it round and keep it equidistant all along the Med coast would be a good guide. Ok, to another topic: Hair: my vote is that you'll let it grow out, and probably cut it short(er) while the process is on-going. Once it's all grown out, I think you will probably have realised the benefits (financial as well as practicality and time), and may well leave it the new colour. I guess we all have to wait and see... Oops - another long post, it's now way past bedtime (00.20) and I have a demanding day facing me... I need to be more disciplined, but I never begin with t e intention of these posts being long. Like Topsy, they just grow! G'night! Sweet dreams. 😊
I love your long posts, Barney ❤️ Keep them coming! I appreciate all the feedback, advice, support and encouragement you provide. I agree that Nice nor St. Tropez will be the place we will want to be, due to what you described relative to tourism. It will, however, give us a proximity to other towns we may want to explore further. We are also finding that south of the A8 is more expensive. Another reason, not to necessarily settle south of the A8. Thanks, Barney!
I’ve been spending a lot of time in France, focusing on the countryside. Our experience is the prices here in the country is much less than the numbers you’re seeing. Even the chain stores have the same items at a lower price away from the city.
You are both very bright and yet humble / gracious It is so lovely listening to you Not only about your experience in France But also your approach to life The way you share , your sensitivity , your appreciation of little signs and smiles You have no wall judgement But rather you leave doors open Ready to learn , observe and eventually fall in love when you recognize the place and the place recognizes you ❤️ Thank you 😊🌱☘️🌸
I was in Paris for 3 weeks last year. My credit card categories made it easy to look at food (groceries, restaurants) expenses. There were a few times where I used cash Euros with friends, so that was more difficult to track. At home, I compared my cost of food for three weeks here (North Carolina) compared to my trip. Interestingly, I spent only $200 more in France. BUT-- in France, I ate out at least once a day. I've gone enough times to Paris to know where to dine solo, so I'm not talking about Michelin star level. I drank wine, usually a glass at lunch, in France. At home, I never drink. In France, I also had two French friends spend four nights in my apartment, so I stocked food for them. I also entertained two other French friends one time. So, I wasn't buying food for myself alone for those times. I'm going back for a full month this year. It's less expensive to rent an apartment for a month, than by the week.
I think that it can be less expensive, especially with the markets that are available in France. It does depend on what you're used to and your lifestyle. What I find interesting is that it's actually cheaper to drink wine than to order soda. The soft drinks are very expensive here at restaurants. And yes, it is definitely cheaper to rent by theh month, than by the week. I'm sure you are going to have a great time. Bon Voyage and thanks for watching!
9 months after leaving Australia for France we opened some of our boxes of belongings this week including one that contained my 'blanket' - there's nothing quite as comforting as snuggling into a woollen blanket on the sofa with a hot chocolate during a cold Winter! 🙂 I completely understand, Maria
I’m in rural Brittany, our doctors, dentists, pharmacy, notaire, hair dresser, beautician, local shops, local businesses, neighbors, friends don’t speak English so it’s forcing us to work in our French. Like you said, Paris is very cosmopolitan and many people speak English but it’s not like that everywhere. It’s also very cheap to live in rural France. We chose NW after being in the south mid summer as the heat really didn’t suit us at all. The south is cheaper though.
Hello KJ & Tony! Regarding the 'hair' challenge, you are in the perfect country for acceptance of an 'au natural' preference. The attitude regarding beauty tends to be, 'less is more,' and a bonus is that older people are more respected and/or appreciated for their wisdom, than say, in the US. My fingers are crossed that you will love the look and be free of the tasks required for regular dates with color. Gooo, KJ!!
I’m only 47 and have a head full of silver hair! I grew my roots out during the beginning of the pandemic and although I hated it at first, now that it’s all grown out, I absolutely love it! I get so many compliments on it and people stop me all the time to chat about it. I have never regretted it once-you are so pretty and I’m sure your hair will be stunning! You got this! ❤
Thank you so much for sharing this, and for your support and encouragement. It really helps. I'm looking forward to the experience and embracing the fact that I'm going to have to go through some uncomfortability to get to that point where I'm really loving it.
When I first moved to France (many, many years ago) - It took only 5 months to be conversational and that was with no french courses (it seems the norm for full immersion). Indeed- better not to be with any ex-pats...but if you immerse yourself, it comes very quickly. First the comprehension- then the ability to speak. Writing is the last piece. Nevertheless, that was my experience. I have lived and worked in Paris, Marseille (I looooved living in Marseille, lived there for 4 years), Aix en Provence, La Ciotat, Toulouse....but the countryside in south-west France is truly paradise and gives an extraordinary quality of life. I enjoyed city life, but the goal was always to find a way to escape to the country. Finally my husband and I were able to do so, and it is certainly much better for raising children ;). Yes, when I first moved over, I was on my own...after all these years, I am now a French citizen ;)
Hi! Your experience sounds amazing! I would love to move to the south of France (Marseille will be considered), and I am not sure what job I can secure if I don’t speak any French. Do you have any advice? Congratulations on becoming a French citizen!!! 🇫🇷
I was watching you on the smart TV and felt compelled to go on my computer to comment that I thoroughly enjoy the loving banter and humor between the the two of you! KJ, I think you will succeed in keeping the natural look of your hair and know that it matters if it turns all gray. I have stopped dyeing my hair since the pandemic and consider that part of my self-care routine. Guess what? It's created space in my head to explore new hobbies. I can imagine how that freedom can bring more adventure into your life in France. Thank you for sharing your experiences!
Thank you, Marissa. We are so glad to know you enjoyed the video. I (KJ) also appreciate your support of my hair adventure. I'm looking forward to seeing how it unfolds and the freedom I think it is going to bring. Now if I could only do my own nails...lol. I think I'll be a slave to that for awhile yet. One thing at a time. 🥰
If you need a break from Paris, go to Mont Saint-Michel, aiguille du midi, cité de Carcassonne, Châteaux de la Loire, all cathedrals in north of France (which very often can compare to Notre dame), skiing in the alps, Viaduc de Millau, Pont du Gard, gorges du Verdon. Each area can have so much to provide and to explore. If you still have the motivation, rent a car and try to follow some green scenic routes on Michelin maps or Michelin online (best site seeing itineraries), and not only highways. Because it's sad to skip so much content in between the destinations. Food is usually excellent and inexpensive in the country side with local specialties.
When you decide to "settle" somewhere, because your intent is to stay here in your retirement, you have to consider that you will be getting older, less mobile, and in need of medical care. Some of the most lovely villages are not well served in terms of transportation. Many are medical deserts. So, check where the nearest university hospitals are and how can you get there.
I chose this for myself and noticed that my face looks brighter and the whole look more modern with natural hair. You can find a product for gray hair that will color the gray and give a natural shade to the hair without a visit stylist, it is easy to do by yourself. To make the transition in color now more comfortable, you can dye your hair in a color close to your natural. ⭐
You can do it! I let my hair grow out last year. After 8 months, I used a box to match my roots without having to cut it short. I started growing it out over the summer, so the sun and chlorine helped lighted it on its own. I used Loreal 8S and love the results.
Here is the trick to letting yr hair grow out. Cut yr hair every four weeks in a chic short layered Bob while u r growing out the color. Then what I did is put in baby highlights to blend in w grey if color is not silver. Just very tiny ash blonde highlights mixed in w grey or white color. I am now thinking of making that more ash and eventually silver baby highlights.
Hair bet: if the House says she’s going natural, she’s going natural! I totally support you!!!! I decided to go natural about 3 years ago. My hair has never been so healthy! I’m 64 and embracing being my best self which includes loving myself however I look. You got this, sister!!!❤
KJ, I'm with you on "aging gracefully." I, too, let my natural color grow out when I retired. I had been coloring/highlighting my hair for my entire working career and decided that I wanted to live the rest of life being genuinely me---gray hair included. I know you can do it, too! I'm quite happy with my mixed ash brown/silver gray hair which is becoming more silver by the months. I'm behind you 100%. As you said the hairdresser visits, the cost, etc---no more!!!
Good point about letting one's color grow out AFTER retirement. There is such age discrimination against women that one feels compelled to look as young as possible, despite the natural aging process, for as long as possible.
Congratulations again for your détermination and excellent attitude towards life in another country. I am about your ages and admire your openness as your learning curve is still steep. Wherever you finally settle, I wish you the best for the future!
Tres bien. C'estait tres INTERESSANT. I lived in France 🇫🇷 with my air force father, as a child. My children speak French, very well. You, BOTH, communicate very well. Merci beaucoup.
KJ, i am so embarrassed for the comment on your earlier post. That message was intended for another vlogger who isn't very kind. (I've since unfollowed). I got my vlogs mixed up. I am terribly sorry; I love your channel! You and Tony are such a calming presence. Diane
Lol … same with me letting my hair grow out. I have A LOT of silver tinsel. It is so expensive now a days. I started my hair project in the summer. I want to see what I look like all natural, I may dye it again, but I at least wanna see.
Thanks, Jody. It is so comforting to know I am not alone in this and so many others have done or are doing the same. I may ultimately dye again as well, but not until I let it fully gow out so I can see what it looks like.
On the topic of gray hair: Yes, yes, yes - go for it! As long as you wear a hat, this will be very easy to do. I let my natural hair color grow back after visiting Paris many year ago, seeing so many women of all ages with gray hair that doesn't look old. My friend's daughter lives in Paris, she is a hairdresser, she advised me PHYTO shampoo, Phytoargent No Yellow Shampoo. Made in France. Sold in almost all pharmacies, markets Monoprix or check on Amazon. This is the best shampoo I have ever used! My grey-white with purple undertones just shines.
Thank you, AGUSHKA! I am going to try it. Appreciate your support and encouragement. It's nice to know i'm not alone and there are so many other women who have done this and are happy with the results!
There’s a Lady that moved about a year ago to Fontainebleau close to Paris , She has a RUclips by :Janice in France you may want to check her out and she is retired and moved by her self.
I did it 9 years ago. Best thing I ever did!! No stress, cost savings!! It’s silver ”blonde” and people actually stop me and compliment the color. I chopped into a pixie and let it grow out. All so easy. I’m pulling for you!!
The part of dropping the dye that is hard is when you have multiple colors on your head. So winter is a good time to try this out and just wear hats. I will take Tony's bet and bet KJ can do it.
I let my hair go grey 10 years ago and during Covid also started cutting my own hair....still doing it. Your hair may not come in white but over time will get whiter. YOU CAN DO IT!
As always we are a bit slow seeing vids and (surprise!) me commenting. First off, the hair! Grow it out girl!!!! Do it now, You'll be so happy you did it. No more worrying about getting a great color stylist. No more worrying about roots. Since you are mostly blonde, you should be able to find a person who can do a glaze. The glaze kinda blends your current blonde with the natural roots to make it blend. It only needs to be done every 6-8 weeks depending on how fast your hair grows. Mine is a weed and even now I can go 6-8 weeks without freaking out. It's amazing. (I colored my hair for over 30 years every 4 weeks. So this is so relaxing now). Anyhow, you are beautiful no matter what color hair so you can rock this! I need to go back and at least like all the vids we have seen. We have seen all the longer ones but since it's Apple TV it's annoying that I need to go back separately to like things. So thank you and Tony for your amazing and engaging videos.. They are so fun even or those of us not looking to move to France.
Thank you, Teresa. Really appreciate all your encouragement and support. Especially glad to know you are enjoying the videos and that you would take the time to actually go back and "like" the ones you've seen. That's very kind of you and much appreciated. I hope you have a beautiful day!
KJ you are looking great, let your hair grow out, in fact, you are both looking much better, more relaxed, healthier as well! Bravo, Cotignac is lovely!
Thank you, Natasha. Appreciate your kind comments and support. We are looking forward to checking out Cotignac. We have heard wonderful things about it.
Housing is the biggest single expense so I look at apartment rental listings to estimate how much it costs in each city. Prices on sites like Numbeo, Expatica, International Living, etc…are usually far lower than what it really costs. At some point, you might want to meet with a rental agent to understand how rentals work in France as there are some important contractual differences from renting in the US.
I like you guys. I have found that what you say is true, if you are kind and gracious people are very kind towards you. Works most places, but the French are kind gracious people. Humility goes a long way. You are living my dream. I can’t wait to get back to France myself.
I really identify with your desire to stay in a town/region for an extended period of time rather than “traveling from place to place” as if on vacation or holiday. I’d prefer that myself. Not sure my husband would agree - his idea of retirement does not include living outside the US. Regarding the hair question: I got tired of coloring my hair to cover the graying areas about 7 years ago. I stopped cold turkey, have considered going back at times, but am fully committed now. I’m thankful I stuck with it. Even with encroaching gray, I think my wrinkles and other age related skin changes tell my age more than my hair color. Many people comment that I appear younger than my real age. It’s all relative - my assessment - you’ll stick with it with no regret. Enjoy you sharing your experiences and perspectives!
Thank you. Yes, i am getting antsy to settle in one place for awhile and not feel like I am on a never-ending vacation. Thanks also for the support and encouragement regardins my hair.
I have only just seen this vlog, so I almost missed the hair thing. The ladies at my church in France used to use that ghastly henna colouring on their sparse hair. I returned after the pandemic was over and lo and behold the same ladies had beautiful thick hair and it was silvert grey! Their hair is so much more healthy now. I noticed that colouring my hair made it much thinner so I gave that up last year. I didn't like the 'pepper and salt' but now it is much more uniform and silver. Good for you , take no notice of the guys, they probably have no idea about your hair colour anyway!
I'm preparing now to move to France, at least initially, in the next 5 years. I already speak decent French so I wanted to start out there. I just retired and am looking for a better quality of life than here in the US. I'm looking at Pau right now because I hate the cold too, lol. It's interesting to me as I just moved out of Manhattan so everything seems cheap to me now lol.
Thanks, Linda. We don't even know where we're staying yet. It's on my to-do list. But unfortunately, we are only going to be there over night. Not really enough time to do much of anything I'm afraid.
@@kjandtonylovefrance If you’re only there for a night, I suggest staying in the center - look at 69002 (Presqu’ile), 69005 (Old Town), 69003 (Part-Dieu). My favorite area is around Cordeliers metro as there are lots of cafes and shops on Rue de la Republique pedestrian street. Walk across the bridge to the east along Cours Lafayette (69006) to reach Brotteaux, one of the nicest neighborhoods in Lyon.
@kjandtonymovetofrance then, you must go back to Lyon sometime to spend more days. There is the new part and the old part, which is so very charming, and you feel like you're on a movie set! I can't remember the name of the street or the area that is like a restaurant row, where we had dinner almost every night we were there. Our hotel was right near in the center of town and we could walk everywhere!!
I let my hair go gray recently. It took a while and it is tuff to tolerate, but it is worth it in the long run. My hair is so much more healthy. I have a lot of hair, but no dyes has helped it so much.
Hi guys. I'm so happy to have found your channel. I watch a number of expats and it's so interesting to see these places through your eyes. I started watching a number of them during the lockdown and it's something that I've continued to do. Great to add you to my little expat escape happy list! KJ, I grew my hair out last year. It's an interesting journey and my hair did thank me!
Hi Patricia! Welcome to the channel. So glad you enjoyed the video. And, I greatly appreciate your support and encouragement relative to my grow-out adventure!!
KJ you are pretty so no matter what your hair color you will remain pretty! Another RUclipsr went gray many years ago and used loreals gray spray for transitioning, it was really pretty. I don’t know if it’s still on Amazon but that’s where she got it.
Thanks, Liza. I am so appreciative of all the tips I am getting that will certainly help me through the transition. I also am so grateful for all the support, encouragement and kind words 🥰
Thank you for your video chat. I totally agree with Tony's take on transportation. So easy and affordable to hop on the trains and get to Paris. See a big ticket concert, go to eat a fabulous meal and crash at a hotel. Sleep in a bit, go for a coffee and the world's best pastries then hop a train back to your town. Safe and sound. If you're able please share your favor cheeses cheeses with us. I look forward to your new videos. ✨️ much love ❤️ to you.
Let your hair grow out. I did, even when my hairdresser said don’t do it, and I love it! I have gotten more compliments on its silver color than I ever did when I was coloring it. You will be so happy that you did it….it’s very freeing….and adventurous which clearly you don’t shy away from. By the way, even my hairdresser agrees it is pretty. My husband and I are in early conversations about making the move to France from the US. Your channel has been a helpful part of those discussions.
Definitely go natural. A short cut will get you there quicker. We thought of moving to France or Portugal and spent some time there over a five year period prior to retiring from work. My husband speaks French however, the language barrier was a deal breaker for me, I love to communicate with people too much to feel restricted. It’s certainly a process to finding your place. We ended up moving to Ireland in 2021 and love it.
KJ, I totally understand your blanket. I have many literal and figurative blankets, some good, some not. I really appreciate how you looped in attachment v detachment. Very interesting to explore what’s what why etc. 😊
Really enjoying your journey and all the information you're sharing with us❣️ First, I couldn't get the Cost of Living Link to work. Please respond with a proper Link. ... Would you perhaps do a video on Wise and explain exactly how that works for you traveling or moving to France. Is it safe, can the account to be hacked, are there any fees involved, why is using Wise the best option. Thank you very much 🙏🏼
You can find the information on our website kjandtony.com under the Travel Essentials link. Thanks for the suggestion on doing a video on Wise. We will add it to our list.
Thank you both very much for this most helpful video. You two people are so well matched it's a joy to watch and listen to the back and forth banter between you both and all the invaluable advice . Merci. Best wishes going forward on you quest.
We agree, but that should not discourage those who want to do it on their own. It's such a wonderful adventure to experience a different culture and different areas of the world.
A real gem of a city that is well worth a visit is Lille. Only 55 mins on the TGV from the Gare du Nord. It very near to Belgium and as you stroll about you will notice the locals are great Beer drinkers. It has wonderful shopping and Pâtisserie Meert which is well just out of this world. The main square and the old quarter are fab also well worth a visit on the tram is the Museum of Art and Industrie at Roubaix Its in an Art Déco swimming pool. In September Lille has the largest Braderie in the world and people come from all over to buy collectables even as far away as the USA.
Yes, you must report foreign accounts on a Foreign Bank Account Report (FBAR) to the US Treasury on the FINCEN 114 form of the total of each accounts' maximum balance during the year is $10000 or more.
Great info ty. Watching your vids are the highlight of my day. I can’t wait to go to Paris. Silver Sisters is a great group to follow for growing the silver out.
Please don’t settle in Geneva. I was there for 4.5 years. It’s quite conservative and boring although a cosmopolitan city. France is more disorganized but with far more spirits, better food and a rich history and culture 😊
You don't have to worry about that. Between the cold and how expensive we hear it is in Geneva, I doubt that is where we will wind up. Thanks for watching and for the advice 🥰
I went natural during Covid. I was fortunate to have beautiful silver hair under all the dye. It’s freeing to not worry about dye or roots. I would never go back.
I just wanted to add some encouragement about growing out your hair. I did the same transition about 5-6 years ago. I have very fine hair, and it was in poor shape because of close to two decades of dyeing it. My hair was chin length when I started the transformation, and more pepper than salt (my natural color was mostly medium brown). I'm now more salt than pepper. My only issue is that I got impatient and couldn't wait to see it all changed, so I cut it short, which made the change happen very quickly. In my defense, I am not someone who looks great with longer hair. The very best things about growing it out are that my hair is in very good shape now, it's healthy and feels wonderful. Also, the salt and pepper color is much more flattering to me than the medium brown which was my previous natural color. I'm 65 now, and will never go back to coloring it.
Thank you! I plan on cutting it when we get to Nice, so that's going to be a step in the right direction and help with the grow-out. I appreciate your encouragement and support!
I'm voting on your growing out your natural hair👍🏻I stopped dying mine at the beginning of the pandemic and it's so freeing. My hair is much healthier for it too. After I had the last bit of die chopped off I started getting compliments with people stopping me to ask about it. I think (like me) many think about it for years and want that little push and encouragement to go for it. Just try to go long enough to see what your color actually looks like. You might love it
Oh gosh I’m commenting again! Your hair! Yes! See what happens and go from there but I let mine be about 6 years ago and as a curly redhead, my hair is my hallmark! Eek! But I’m embracing my buttercream temples. It’s kind of a new version of hair fun. Give it some time, I’ve found it freeing. You can always change your mind! 💃
1:14 Ease/difficulty for non-French speakers 10:02 Do you have to live in country to learn the language? 16:57 Do you feel like you're being led to a particular place? 18:28 Attachment vs. detachment 22:52 Would you live in France if single? 26:05 Availability of ride sharing services 27:50 Reporting financial transactions to IRS 29:41 Cost of living
I’m am referring to your hair going natural,I have been doing the same thing for about four months and showing some gray grey. Right now I’m okay with it because I’m in Chicago and since it’s cold I wear a hat but when warm weather comes I just don’t know I still want to go a little further to really see how I look, so I know what you mean it’s not easy.
I agree, Elizabeth. It's easy now because I'm wearing hats a lot because of the cold weather. We'll see how well I do in the warmer weather when it's multiple colors...lol. It won't be easy, but I think it will be worth it!
Happy to have found your channel. My goal is to go to La Rochelle France, as my descendants are from there, prior to coming to Canada in 1665. I can trace back to the 1500's so far! I have been researching cost on Nubeo, but since there isn't any comparison for La Rochelle (no info), if you could let you know which town I could compare it to would be so helpful, as all the information that I am collecting from you both! I'm pretty much done with the US myself. And, I'm a minimalist, so it will be me, my cat Lola and a suitcase!
Yes it is not difficult to go to shops and restaurants with limited language skills. Dealing with government or building trades people can be very difficult.
It’s so true what you said about not being surrounded by English speakers to learn the language. It will take time to get fully conversant but you’ll be surprised how soon you’ll start being able to hold basic conversations. You’re right about the cost of clothing; it’s cheaper in the UK too but the cost of food and other essentials always seems cheaper than the UK. Doesn’t surprise me that Paris is cheaper than London. London is becoming ridiculously expensive! That was a really informative video. Thanks guys ! 🙏
Thank you for your thoughtful, informative video.s. I am learning some great things from your experience. I am visiting France in April, 2024 and I plan to actually move to France in October, 2024. You said you were there with a retirement visa. My research says that you have to show proof of a year's lease somewhere in France in order to obtain a retirement visa. Yet, you are moving around from month to month. Did you sign a years lease somewhere in France in order to get your Visa?
Hello, I’ve just discovered your blog which I find it very informative. I can relate to what you say. Living in London right now, thinking to move back to France. After living in few anglophone countries, it’s somehow daunting to go back to your roots, when , everything is different now. Looking forward to hearing from you both. Laurence
I say go for it KJ! You' won't be dependent on hairdressers or cursing those wretched hairs that sprout like grey whiskers 2 weeks after a color. You won't look back. Grey hair is graceful and fashionable - on you it will look chic!
KJ - I am rooting for you allowing your hair to return to is natural state. I have seen several women on IG that have gone natural and I think that it looks beautiful. I mostly see women though with thick hair go natural and I have fine hair. I think you may also have fine hair as well so not only am I rooting for you and will be using you as a guide as to what it might mean to me if I went natural. Good luck!
Thanks, Izzy. I appreciate your support and encouragement. I, too, have seen mostly women with thick hair, so I am very interested to see how it goes with mine. I won't be very surprised if I wind up cutting it. I typically wear it short but enjoy the versatility, even though I generally will always wear it up. Thanks again and I hope you have a beautiful day!
Thanks , Tony and KJ for an interesting and entertaining almost 45 minutes. Your openness and honesty are refreshing. I am fairly confident I’ll never do what you are doing but it is fun to day dream about it just a little. Your real life commentary about your experiences and adventures are interesting and compare with some of the ones I’ve had in France. Like you, I only knew just a smidgeon of French but if you put forth any effort to use a few words and phrases, the French people we encountered were more than willing to help out. I tried to remember their cultural expectations (like being sure to greet the shop owner as you enter and saying good bye as you exit). Familiarizing yourself with that information can help you avoid insulting someone or being misunderstood. Please keep your content coming because even if I never live in France, there is a good chance I’ll get to visit there again in the next year or two. P.S. Tony’s wisecrack asides just crack me up. KJ, it is pretty clear this guy loves you to bits! He seems like a keeper. 😉
Hi Marcia! Yes, he certainly is a keeper. We are both very lucky. Glad to hear you'll be visiting France again It's so beautiful. Thanks for your kindness 🥰
You remind me of my parents, they are also young spirits and they also love traveling a lot. keep it up!! I really love watching your videos and your adventures 😊
I think KJ can go without coloring her hair! I have been coloring my hair for years and got tired of the cost and just made the decision to go natural. I don’t have a lot for gray but my hair dresser said the gray blends in well with my color. It is rather a freeing feeling of not having to keep up with the coloring.
KJ, you go girl with your natural beauty. As I write this, I’m getting ready to go to my stylist to get my color done lol can’t wait to see if you will like it natural or not. Right now I am older than you, but I really do think I might do that one day myself, hope you have a great week. Sending hugs, love, prayers and kindness to you both! ❤️🙏🏼👍🏼😊
Waw. I just started watching you guys. I love learning about your journey thus far and the future plans you have. The way you break things down is very realistic and not sensationalist. This is the very country I would like to visit in the very near future. Needless to say, happy I've found you guys, I have subscribed and will definitely be keeping up with your journey
Re Hair. Just do it. Mine was long and I wore hats until it grew out enough to cut short and be grey. Now I have to wear more eyebrows and eye liner. You save your neck not to mention money and precious time.
A few questions: if one of you became seriously ill, would you remain in France or return to the US? Can Tony access his Medicare benefits in France, or does the renewable "senior visa" grant inexpensive health coverage? In any event, I'm sure your plans are contingent on whether both of you remain "physically mobile" and healthy. A final question, can you safely invest in property with a senior visa, or do you plan on indefinitely renting?
Thanks for sharing your experiences! About reporting currency stuff to the US, you do need to report foreign financial accounts on your tax returns if you have a balance of 10,000 US dollars at any time during the tax year. Penalties can be large, so check with your tax person! I believe the Wise account is reportable as it is run through a foreign bank. But should be easy to avoid if you keep the balance below that threshold.
It's really interesting to hear bout your experience so far. My husband and I just moved to Zurich (super expensive) in August and are adjusting. We spent 4 years in Uzbekistan and 2 years in Dubai...having moved from Sesttle. All different experiences I look forward to hearing more! Prost! (Cheers! I'm taking German lessons).
Oh wow! That sounds like an exciting experience. I need French lessons...lol. My self-paced lessons on RUclips are not cutting it. I think I'll have more time to dedicate to it once our son goes back to college on Friday.
You are already a beautiful woman; however, you will be even more beautiful with your natural color with silver highlights. I began that journey a few years ago and my only regret is not having done it sooner. Regarding the comforts of home and nesting, I can so relate to that, KJ. You and Tony are so brave, and once you're both done with your adventures and decide where you want to live for the rest of your lives, you'll be so happy that you persevered through the discomforts. I am living vicariously through you. I currently live in Utah, and at age 67, I have decided to go back to school to finish what I started a long time ago. After I graduate, I'm hoping to get a remote job in cybersecurity that might allow me to live in France in the future as well. It's nice to have goals and look forward to the future.
How exciting Margo! Congrats on your brave decision to go back to school. Many people allow age to hold them back. I almost didn't go back to school because I was already in my 50's at the time I went back to school for my PhD. I'm so glad I didn't allow my age to hold me back. Also, cybersecurity sounds like something that is in very high demand. Much good luck to you and hope you are able to live in France in the future!
Thank you for sharing. One question I have. Is the first apartment you moved it, is it a rental or did you purchase it? What you you recommend to do in terms of the first property in Frace? To rent and looking to buy at a later time or have your own place from day one?
When fully exposed, with no access to others speaking your language, basically in a couple of months day-to-day understanding (passive acquisition) starts to click. Key words, key phrases, key intonation, the music of the language. After a six-month period, then basic expression, based on more confidence, starts to bloom (active acquisition). Acquisition works where it becomes a necessity. We're social animals and need company. It's sometimes easier to approach others when the default configuration is doing it alone. In a year or two, you should be fine. Being together is a well-being asset, much less so for language - not suggesting you don't stay together =) ! As for the weather, this year we have had one of the mildest winters ever!
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Great video guys! I was born in Europe and currently live in Canada, but looking to retire in Europe so this is very helpful. And way to go with the grey hair! I want to do this too, but don't have the courage yet 🙂
The English guy being rude only shows that rude and ignorant assholes come in all ages, all shapes and sizes and they know no borders as every country has them. i think its universal though that most people appreciate others trying to speak their native language, its not the level of ability that matters its the fact that your at least trying to speak the language and overwhelmingly people appreciate that effort.
I’ve lost track of your blogs. Are you still creating contact in Paris?
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On the topic of cold weather: Remember that temperatures are relative. For you, coming to Northern France from Florida, it feels very cold. For us who live in France, it has been a really mild winter (until the last week, when temperatures have been closer to the norm).
Taking Nice as an example:
Nice can be very hot in summer, but when the winter comes, it can feel really cold by _comparison_ , and it can actually be bitterly cold, especially when the wind blows from the mountains.
Suggestion: type in Nice Weather, and right now, it reads:
Month High / Low(°C) Rain
December 13° / 9° 5 days
January 12° / 8° 5 days
February 12° / 7° 4 days
_But_ we need to remember that these are averages, and with the current trend in global warming, in Europe, temperatures are trending upwards in summer (last year, we had 8 months of drought and historically long-held record temperatures were smashed) and doing weird things in winter - like the unusually mild weather and then suddenly fierce winds, storms and snow.
"In Nice, the summers are short, warm, humid, dry, and mostly clear and the winters are long, cold, and partly cloudy. Over the course of the year, the temperature typically varies from 5°C to 28°C and is rarely below 2°C or above 30°C."
"The weather in Nice in January is very cold, so make sure to pack a warm coat and a hat, gloves, and scarf. It’s the coldest month of the year with the lowest temperatures arriving in the evening. There’s less sunshine than usual, but you can still have a good time exploring the city." (Thomas Cook site)
A good example from personal experience: In Hong Kong, people will be wearing winter clothes in winter months, while tourists are walking around in jeans and t-shirts, because they've come from winter weather in their country.
And another: we'd been to Southern Spain in September / October, and it was still pleasantly warm. Then I took my grandmother-in-law out towards the end of January, and by jiminy, we were _cold_ !!!!! Grandmother felt it the most, obviously, and thankfully, we had flown out wearing UK winter wear, but even so ... we were soo cold!
For you, coming to Northern France from Florida, it feels very cold. For us who live in France, it has been a really mild winter (until the last week, when temperatures have been closer to the norm).
Remember, too, when choosing somewhere, to think of the tourist impact on everyday life.
EG Nice and St Tropez are both cruise ship ports of call and there's the aspect of masses (thousands) of people crowding into the place as well as the land-based tourists. (Remember the crowds of you leaving your cruise ship when it called into St Tropez or Nice? It'll be the other way round for you now. Living there, you'll see how much it affects everyday life.
I saw a video recently where the programme is set around visiting Americans who lived in / close to the tourist areas in the South of France, and the recurring advice was, "Don't live south of the A8". ie, draw a line across the A8 west to east and then extend it at either end to curve it round and keep it equidistant all along the Med coast would be a good guide.
Ok, to another topic: Hair: my vote is that you'll let it grow out, and probably cut it short(er) while the process is on-going. Once it's all grown out, I think you will probably have realised the benefits (financial as well as practicality and time), and may well leave it the new colour. I guess we all have to wait and see...
Oops - another long post, it's now way past bedtime (00.20) and I have a demanding day facing me... I need to be more disciplined, but I never begin with t e intention of these posts being long. Like Topsy, they just grow!
G'night! Sweet dreams. 😊
You will do it with your hair
You will let it grow out
Yes 💯
I love your long posts, Barney ❤️ Keep them coming! I appreciate all the feedback, advice, support and encouragement you provide. I agree that Nice nor St. Tropez will be the place we will want to be, due to what you described relative to tourism. It will, however, give us a proximity to other towns we may want to explore further. We are also finding that south of the A8 is more expensive. Another reason, not to necessarily settle south of the A8. Thanks, Barney!
I’ve been spending a lot of time in France, focusing on the countryside. Our experience is the prices here in the country is much less than the numbers you’re seeing. Even the chain stores have the same items at a lower price away from the city.
Yes, that is what we expected as well. That it would be much cheaper in the country.
You are both very bright and yet humble / gracious
It is so lovely listening to you
Not only about your experience in France
But also your approach to life
The way you share , your sensitivity , your appreciation of little signs and smiles
You have no wall judgement
But rather you leave doors open
Ready to learn , observe and eventually fall in love when you recognize the place and the place recognizes you ❤️
Thank you 😊🌱☘️🌸
Perhaps Tony secretly loves your blond hair 😍
And he doesn’t wish for you to change 🤗
You have such a wonderful way with words, Michele. I can feel your kindness coming through. Thank you 🥰
Perhaps, but I have no doubt he will love me either way ❤️
Thank you 😊✨
Michel, you are right about the primary reasons why their RUclips Paris series is much loved and successful.
I was in Paris for 3 weeks last year. My credit card categories made it easy to look at food (groceries, restaurants) expenses. There were a few times where I used cash Euros with friends, so that was more difficult to track. At home, I compared my cost of food for three weeks here (North Carolina) compared to my trip. Interestingly, I spent only $200 more in France. BUT-- in France, I ate out at least once a day. I've gone enough times to Paris to know where to dine solo, so I'm not talking about Michelin star level. I drank wine, usually a glass at lunch, in France. At home, I never drink. In France, I also had two French friends spend four nights in my apartment, so I stocked food for them. I also entertained two other French friends one time. So, I wasn't buying food for myself alone for those times. I'm going back for a full month this year. It's less expensive to rent an apartment for a month, than by the week.
I think that it can be less expensive, especially with the markets that are available in France. It does depend on what you're used to and your lifestyle. What I find interesting is that it's actually cheaper to drink wine than to order soda. The soft drinks are very expensive here at restaurants. And yes, it is definitely cheaper to rent by theh month, than by the week. I'm sure you are going to have a great time. Bon Voyage and thanks for watching!
9 months after leaving Australia for France we opened some of our boxes of belongings this week including one that contained my 'blanket' - there's nothing quite as comforting as snuggling into a woollen blanket on the sofa with a hot chocolate during a cold Winter! 🙂 I completely understand, Maria
Thanks, Maria 🥰
I’m in rural Brittany, our doctors, dentists, pharmacy, notaire, hair dresser, beautician, local shops, local businesses, neighbors, friends don’t speak English so it’s forcing us to work in our French. Like you said, Paris is very cosmopolitan and many people speak English but it’s not like that everywhere. It’s also very cheap to live in rural France. We chose NW after being in the south mid summer as the heat really didn’t suit us at all. The south is cheaper though.
Thank you for sharing your experience.
Hello KJ & Tony!
Regarding the 'hair' challenge, you are in the perfect country for acceptance of an 'au natural' preference. The attitude regarding beauty tends to be, 'less is more,' and a bonus is that older people are more respected and/or appreciated for their wisdom, than say, in the US. My fingers are crossed that you will love the look and be free of the tasks required for regular dates with color. Gooo, KJ!!
Thank you, Theresa. Yes, from what I understand, France is much more into natural beauty. My fingers are crossed as well. Appreciate your support!
I’m only 47 and have a head full of silver hair! I grew my roots out during the beginning of the pandemic and although I hated it at first, now that it’s all grown out, I absolutely love it! I get so many compliments on it and people stop me all the time to chat about it. I have never regretted it once-you are so pretty and I’m sure your hair will be stunning! You got this! ❤
Thank you so much for sharing this, and for your support and encouragement. It really helps. I'm looking forward to the experience and embracing the fact that I'm going to have to go through some uncomfortability to get to that point where I'm really loving it.
When I first moved to France (many, many years ago) - It took only 5 months to be conversational and that was with no french courses (it seems the norm for full immersion). Indeed- better not to be with any ex-pats...but if you immerse yourself, it comes very quickly. First the comprehension- then the ability to speak. Writing is the last piece. Nevertheless, that was my experience. I have lived and worked in Paris, Marseille (I looooved living in Marseille, lived there for 4 years), Aix en Provence, La Ciotat, Toulouse....but the countryside in south-west France is truly paradise and gives an extraordinary quality of life. I enjoyed city life, but the goal was always to find a way to escape to the country. Finally my husband and I were able to do so, and it is certainly much better for raising children ;). Yes, when I first moved over, I was on my own...after all these years, I am now a French citizen ;)
It sounds like you have had a wonderful experience living in France. Congratulations on becoming a French citizen!!
Hi! Your experience sounds amazing! I would love to move to the south of France (Marseille will be considered), and I am not sure what job I can secure if I don’t speak any French. Do you have any advice? Congratulations on becoming a French citizen!!! 🇫🇷
I was watching you on the smart TV and felt compelled to go on my computer to comment that I thoroughly enjoy the loving banter and humor between the the two of you! KJ, I think you will succeed in keeping the natural look of your hair and know that it matters if it turns all gray. I have stopped dyeing my hair since the pandemic and consider that part of my self-care routine. Guess what? It's created space in my head to explore new hobbies. I can imagine how that freedom can bring more adventure into your life in France. Thank you for sharing your experiences!
Thank you, Marissa. We are so glad to know you enjoyed the video. I (KJ) also appreciate your support of my hair adventure. I'm looking forward to seeing how it unfolds and the freedom I think it is going to bring. Now if I could only do my own nails...lol. I think I'll be a slave to that for awhile yet. One thing at a time. 🥰
If you need a break from Paris, go to Mont Saint-Michel, aiguille du midi, cité de Carcassonne, Châteaux de la Loire, all cathedrals in north of France (which very often can compare to Notre dame), skiing in the alps, Viaduc de Millau, Pont du Gard, gorges du Verdon. Each area can have so much to provide and to explore. If you still have the motivation, rent a car and try to follow some green scenic routes on Michelin maps or Michelin online (best site seeing itineraries), and not only highways. Because it's sad to skip so much content in between the destinations. Food is usually excellent and inexpensive in the country side with local specialties.
Thank you for the recommendations!
When you decide to "settle" somewhere, because your intent is to stay here in your retirement, you have to consider that you will be getting older, less mobile, and in need of medical care. Some of the most lovely villages are not well served in terms of transportation. Many are medical deserts. So, check where the nearest university hospitals are and how can you get there.
Thanks, Ellen. We have been advised of this before and do believe it's important to take into consideration.
I stopped dying my hair 3 years ago and it was the best decision ever. You won’t regret it.
Thanks for your encouragement and support!
I chose this for myself and noticed that my face looks brighter and the whole look more modern with natural hair. You can find a product for gray hair that will color the gray and give a natural shade to the hair without a visit stylist, it is easy to do by yourself. To make the transition in color now more comfortable, you can dye your hair in a color close to your natural.
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Thank you, Margarita 🥰
You can do it! I let my hair grow out last year. After 8 months, I used a box to match my roots without having to cut it short. I started growing it out over the summer, so the sun and chlorine helped lighted it on its own. I used Loreal 8S and love the results.
Thanks, Kathy. I am so appreciate for all the support and encouragement. It will be an interesting adventure.
Here is the trick to letting yr hair grow out. Cut yr hair every four weeks in a chic short layered Bob while u r growing out the color. Then what I did is put in baby highlights to blend in w grey if color is not silver. Just very tiny ash blonde highlights mixed in w grey or white color. I am now thinking of making that more ash and eventually silver baby highlights.
Thanks for the recommendation and the support. I'm excited to see how it looks!
Hair bet: if the House says she’s going natural, she’s going natural! I totally support you!!!! I decided to go natural about 3 years ago. My hair has never been so healthy! I’m 64 and embracing being my best self which includes loving myself however I look. You got this, sister!!!❤
Thank you 😊
I support you, KJ, in going natural with your hair too. You are radiant and you will be an elegant gray, white or silver haired lady.
Growing old graysfully. :)
Go for it- I let my hair grow out during the pandemic and it was very dark. Once you go through a certain level, you will be committed. Embrace it.
Yes, yes, and yes! Appreciate your support and encouragement 🥰
KJ, I'm with you on "aging gracefully." I, too, let my natural color grow out when I retired. I had been coloring/highlighting my hair for my entire working career and decided that I wanted to live the rest of life being genuinely me---gray hair included. I know you can do it, too! I'm quite happy with my mixed ash brown/silver gray hair which is becoming more silver by the months. I'm behind you 100%. As you said the hairdresser visits, the cost, etc---no more!!!
Thanks, MaryAnn. I appreciate your support and encouragement 🥰
Good point about letting one's color grow out AFTER retirement. There is such age discrimination against women that one feels compelled to look as young as possible, despite the natural aging process, for as long as possible.
I quit coloring my hair about 5 years ago. It's not totally silver but it's curlier and boucier and very healthy now!
Congratulations again for your détermination and excellent attitude towards life in another country. I am about your ages and admire your openness as your learning curve is still steep. Wherever you finally settle, I wish you the best for the future!
Thank you so much, Francois 🥰
Tres bien. C'estait tres INTERESSANT. I lived in France 🇫🇷 with my air force father, as a child. My children speak French, very well. You, BOTH, communicate very well. Merci beaucoup.
KJ, i am so embarrassed for the comment on your earlier post. That message was intended for another vlogger who isn't very kind. (I've since unfollowed). I got my vlogs mixed up. I am terribly sorry; I love your channel! You and Tony are such a calming presence.
Diane
Hi Diane! Oh, now it makes sense. We were so confused. Thank you for clarifying and we are so glad you are enjoying the channel 🥰
Lol … same with me letting my hair grow out. I have A LOT of silver tinsel. It is so expensive now a days. I started my hair project in the summer. I want to see what I look like all natural, I may dye it again, but I at least wanna see.
Thanks, Jody. It is so comforting to know I am not alone in this and so many others have done or are doing the same. I may ultimately dye again as well, but not until I let it fully gow out so I can see what it looks like.
On the topic of gray hair: Yes, yes, yes - go for it!
As long as you wear a hat, this will be very easy to do.
I let my natural hair color grow back after visiting Paris many year ago, seeing so many women of all ages with gray hair that doesn't look old. My friend's daughter lives in Paris, she is a hairdresser, she advised me PHYTO shampoo, Phytoargent No Yellow Shampoo. Made in France. Sold in almost all pharmacies, markets Monoprix or check on Amazon. This is the best shampoo I have ever used! My grey-white with purple undertones just shines.
Thank you, AGUSHKA! I am going to try it. Appreciate your support and encouragement. It's nice to know i'm not alone and there are so many other women who have done this and are happy with the results!
There’s a Lady that moved about a year ago to Fontainebleau close to Paris , She has a RUclips by :Janice in France you may want to check her out and she is retired and moved by her self.
Thanks, Elizabeth. Yes, I've watched Janice's channel.
San Francisco California is noted to be the most expensive city. Life in Paris (cost of food, activities etc) is so much more affordable in Paris.
Thanks, Jenny. Yes, San Francisco is incredibly expensive.
I did it 9 years ago. Best thing I ever did!! No stress, cost savings!! It’s silver ”blonde” and people actually stop me and compliment the color.
I chopped into a pixie and let it grow out. All so easy.
I’m pulling for you!!
Thanks, Julia.
The part of dropping the dye that is hard is when you have multiple colors on your head. So winter is a good time to try this out and just wear hats. I will take Tony's bet and bet KJ can do it.
Thank you, Judi 🥰
I let my hair go grey 10 years ago and during Covid also started cutting my own hair....still doing it. Your hair may not come in white but over time will get whiter. YOU CAN DO IT!
Thanks for the support and encouragement 🥰
As always we are a bit slow seeing vids and (surprise!) me commenting. First off, the hair! Grow it out girl!!!! Do it now, You'll be so happy you did it. No more worrying about getting a great color stylist. No more worrying about roots. Since you are mostly blonde, you should be able to find a person who can do a glaze. The glaze kinda blends your current blonde with the natural roots to make it blend. It only needs to be done every 6-8 weeks depending on how fast your hair grows. Mine is a weed and even now I can go 6-8 weeks without freaking out. It's amazing. (I colored my hair for over 30 years every 4 weeks. So this is so relaxing now). Anyhow, you are beautiful no matter what color hair so you can rock this!
I need to go back and at least like all the vids we have seen. We have seen all the longer ones but since it's Apple TV it's annoying that I need to go back separately to like things. So thank you and Tony for your amazing and engaging videos.. They are so fun even or those of us not looking to move to France.
Thank you, Teresa. Really appreciate all your encouragement and support. Especially glad to know you are enjoying the videos and that you would take the time to actually go back and "like" the ones you've seen. That's very kind of you and much appreciated. I hope you have a beautiful day!
KJ you are looking great, let your hair grow out, in fact, you are both looking much better, more relaxed, healthier as well! Bravo, Cotignac is lovely!
Thank you, Natasha. Appreciate your kind comments and support. We are looking forward to checking out Cotignac. We have heard wonderful things about it.
You two are so gracious and entertaining. I love your videos. You have so much information and really appreciate your sharing. Merci!
da rien, Terry. We are so glad you are enjoying the videos 🥰
Housing is the biggest single expense so I look at apartment rental listings to estimate how much it costs in each city. Prices on sites like Numbeo, Expatica, International Living, etc…are usually far lower than what it really costs. At some point, you might want to meet with a rental agent to understand how rentals work in France as there are some important contractual differences from renting in the US.
Thank you, Linda. I believe that's true, that prices are generally (on average) higher than they list on those sites.
I like you guys. I have found that what you say is true, if you are kind and gracious people are very kind towards you. Works most places, but the French are kind gracious people. Humility goes a long way. You are living my dream. I can’t wait to get back to France myself.
Thanks, Bryan. Appreciate your kind comments and hope you are able to get back to France soon.
Thank you for all the work you’re doing to share this experience. Well done!
Thank you, Gina. Glad you are enjoying it.
I really identify with your desire to stay in a town/region for an extended period of time rather than “traveling from place to place” as if on vacation or holiday. I’d prefer that myself. Not sure my husband would agree - his idea of retirement does not include living outside the US.
Regarding the hair question: I got tired of coloring my hair to cover the graying areas about 7 years ago. I stopped cold turkey, have considered going back at times, but am fully committed now. I’m thankful I stuck with it. Even with encroaching gray, I think my wrinkles and other age related skin changes tell my age more than my hair color. Many people comment that I appear younger than my real age. It’s all relative - my assessment - you’ll stick with it with no regret. Enjoy you sharing your experiences and perspectives!
Thank you. Yes, i am getting antsy to settle in one place for awhile and not feel like I am on a never-ending vacation. Thanks also for the support and encouragement regardins my hair.
I have only just seen this vlog, so I almost missed the hair thing. The ladies at my church in France used to use that ghastly henna colouring on their sparse hair. I returned after the pandemic was over and lo and behold the same ladies had beautiful thick hair and it was silvert grey! Their hair is so much more healthy now. I noticed that colouring my hair made it much thinner so I gave that up last year. I didn't like the 'pepper and salt' but now it is much more uniform and silver. Good for you , take no notice of the guys, they probably have no idea about your hair colour anyway!
I definitely prefer healthy ❤️
I'm preparing now to move to France, at least initially, in the next 5 years. I already speak decent French so I wanted to start out there. I just retired and am looking for a better quality of life than here in the US. I'm looking at Pau right now because I hate the cold too, lol. It's interesting to me as I just moved out of Manhattan so everything seems cheap to me now lol.
Congratulations on your retirement 👏 You must be so excited 🎉 Yes, Paris is an expensive city, but less expensive that Manhatten 😉
Thank you so much for this information. My husband and I have been talking about moving to France for years.
Glad it was helpful! We hope you make it there one day!!
Glad to hear you've added Lyon to your itinerary! I think you'll really enjoy it. Let me know if I can suggest places to go.
Thanks, Linda. We don't even know where we're staying yet. It's on my to-do list. But unfortunately, we are only going to be there over night. Not really enough time to do much of anything I'm afraid.
@@kjandtonylovefrance If you’re only there for a night, I suggest staying in the center - look at 69002 (Presqu’ile), 69005 (Old Town), 69003 (Part-Dieu). My favorite area is around Cordeliers metro as there are lots of cafes and shops on Rue de la Republique pedestrian street. Walk across the bridge to the east along Cours Lafayette (69006) to reach Brotteaux, one of the nicest neighborhoods in Lyon.
@@lindadorman2869 Thank you!!
@kjandtonymovetofrance then, you must go back to Lyon sometime to spend more days. There is the new part and the old part, which is so very charming, and you feel like you're on a movie set! I can't remember the name of the street or the area that is like a restaurant row, where we had dinner almost every night we were there. Our hotel was right near in the center of town and we could walk everywhere!!
I let my hair go gray recently. It took a while and it is tuff to tolerate, but it is worth it in the long run. My hair is so much more healthy. I have a lot of hair, but no dyes has helped it so much.
Thanks. That's great to hear. I do think my hair is going to be much healthier.
Hi guys. I'm so happy to have found your channel. I watch a number of expats and it's so interesting to see these places through your eyes. I started watching a number of them during the lockdown and it's something that I've continued to do. Great to add you to my little expat escape happy list! KJ, I grew my hair out last year. It's an interesting journey and my hair did thank me!
Hi Patricia! Welcome to the channel. So glad you enjoyed the video. And, I greatly appreciate your support and encouragement relative to my grow-out adventure!!
KJ you are pretty so no matter what your hair color you will remain pretty! Another RUclipsr went gray many years ago and used loreals gray spray for transitioning, it was really pretty. I don’t know if it’s still on Amazon but that’s where she got it.
Thanks, Liza. I am so appreciative of all the tips I am getting that will certainly help me through the transition. I also am so grateful for all the support, encouragement and kind words 🥰
Thank you for your video chat. I totally agree with Tony's take on transportation. So easy and affordable to hop on the trains and get to Paris. See a big ticket concert, go to eat a fabulous meal and crash at a hotel. Sleep in a bit, go for a coffee and the world's best pastries then hop a train back to your town. Safe and sound. If you're able please
share your favor cheeses
cheeses with us. I look forward to your new videos. ✨️ much love ❤️ to you.
Favorite cheeses it is!! Thanks, Leslie.
Some great tips and thank you I will certainly be doing lots of homework before making a move. Your tips will certainly help. ❤
Glad it was helpful!
Absolutely JK will do it. I let mine go natural and I love it!
Thanks, Marianne. Definitely doing it!!
I did the hair thing during Covid,no more dye. My stylist highlights it for now to brighten it up, but not for ever.helps as it grows in. DO IT
Thanks, Terry. I am definitely doing it!!
Let your hair grow out. I did, even when my hairdresser said don’t do it, and I love it! I have gotten more compliments on its silver color than I ever did when I was coloring it. You will be so happy that you did it….it’s very freeing….and adventurous which clearly you don’t shy away from. By the way, even my hairdresser agrees it is pretty. My husband and I are in early conversations about making the move to France from the US. Your channel has been a helpful part of those discussions.
Thanks, Judy. I'm glad to know our channel has been helpful to you.
Definitely go natural. A short cut will get you there quicker. We thought of moving to France or Portugal and spent some time there over a five year period prior to retiring from work. My husband speaks French however, the language barrier was a deal breaker for me, I love to communicate with people too much to feel restricted. It’s certainly a process to finding your place. We ended up moving to Ireland in 2021 and love it.
Thank you, Marian. Glad you are enjoying Ireland. I have never been, but hear it is beautiful.
KJ, I totally understand your blanket. I have many literal and figurative blankets, some good, some not. I really appreciate how you looped in attachment v detachment. Very interesting to explore what’s what why etc. 😊
Thank you, Carol. It feels good to know I'm not alone in how I feel.
Really enjoying your journey and all the information you're sharing with us❣️ First, I couldn't get the Cost of Living Link to work. Please respond with a proper Link. ... Would you perhaps do a video on Wise and explain exactly how that works for you traveling or moving to France. Is it safe, can the account to be hacked, are there any fees involved, why is using Wise the best option. Thank you very much 🙏🏼
You can find the information on our website kjandtony.com under the Travel Essentials link. Thanks for the suggestion on doing a video on Wise. We will add it to our list.
Merci 🙏🏼 you two are just wonderful, and in this video you are so relaxed. RUclips professionals 💖
Thank you both very much for this most helpful video. You two people are so well matched it's a joy to watch and listen to the back and forth banter between you both and all the invaluable advice . Merci. Best wishes going forward on you quest.
Merci. Glad you enjoyed it!
I agree with you Tony. It is best to be with a significant other when you are exploring and living life in another country! It is more enjoyable too!
We agree, but that should not discourage those who want to do it on their own. It's such a wonderful adventure to experience a different culture and different areas of the world.
I’m voting that KJ will stick with her plan to explore her hair journey. 🤞
Thanks for your support!
A real gem of a city that is well worth a visit is Lille. Only 55 mins on the TGV from the Gare du Nord. It very near to Belgium and as you stroll about you will notice the locals are great Beer drinkers. It has wonderful shopping and Pâtisserie Meert which is well just out of this world. The main square and the old quarter are fab also well worth a visit on the tram is the Museum of Art and Industrie at Roubaix Its in an Art Déco swimming pool. In September Lille has the largest Braderie in the world and people come from all over to buy collectables even as far away as the USA.
Thanks for the recommendation 😀
Yes, you must report foreign accounts on a Foreign Bank Account Report (FBAR) to the US Treasury on the FINCEN 114 form of the total of each accounts' maximum balance during the year is $10000 or more.
Thank you, Ellen.
That's IF the total is $10K or more.
Great info ty. Watching your vids are the highlight of my day. I can’t wait to go to Paris. Silver Sisters is a great group to follow for growing the silver out.
Hi Sharon! We are so glad you are enjoying our videos. And thank you for the Silver Sisters recommendation. Where do I find them? Facebook?
Please don’t settle in Geneva. I was there for 4.5 years. It’s quite conservative and boring although a cosmopolitan city. France is more disorganized but with far more spirits, better food and a rich history and culture 😊
You don't have to worry about that. Between the cold and how expensive we hear it is in Geneva, I doubt that is where we will wind up. Thanks for watching and for the advice 🥰
I did it! It's white not grey and it looks nice. It's scary at first but you just might like it even better!
Congrats Debora. It's definitely scary.
Thank You for sharing. Happy Travels.
Da Rien and Merci!
I went natural during Covid. I was fortunate to have beautiful silver hair under all the dye. It’s freeing to not worry about dye or roots. I would never go back.
Love your interaction with each other. Enjoying your journey.
Thank you so much! Glad you are enjoying the journey 🥰
I just wanted to add some encouragement about growing out your hair. I did the same transition about 5-6 years ago. I have very fine hair, and it was in poor shape because of close to two decades of dyeing it. My hair was chin length when I started the transformation, and more pepper than salt (my natural color was mostly medium brown). I'm now more salt than pepper. My only issue is that I got impatient and couldn't wait to see it all changed, so I cut it short, which made the change happen very quickly. In my defense, I am not someone who looks great with longer hair.
The very best things about growing it out are that my hair is in very good shape now, it's healthy and feels wonderful. Also, the salt and pepper color is much more flattering to me than the medium brown which was my previous natural color. I'm 65 now, and will never go back to coloring it.
Thank you! I plan on cutting it when we get to Nice, so that's going to be a step in the right direction and help with the grow-out. I appreciate your encouragement and support!
I'm voting on your growing out your natural hair👍🏻I stopped dying mine at the beginning of the pandemic and it's so freeing. My hair is much healthier for it too. After I had the last bit of die chopped off I started getting compliments with people stopping me to ask about it. I think (like me) many think about it for years and want that little push and encouragement to go for it. Just try to go long enough to see what your color actually looks like. You might love it
Thanks for the encouragement, Jenise. Yes, I think I might just love it 🥰
Oh gosh I’m commenting again! Your hair! Yes! See what happens and go from there but I let mine be about 6 years ago and as a curly redhead, my hair is my hallmark! Eek! But I’m embracing my buttercream temples. It’s kind of a new version of hair fun. Give it some time, I’ve found it freeing. You can always change your mind! 💃
Exactly, Carol! I can always change my mind!! Thanks for your support ❤️
1:14 Ease/difficulty for non-French speakers
10:02 Do you have to live in country to learn the language?
16:57 Do you feel like you're being led to a particular place?
18:28 Attachment vs. detachment
22:52 Would you live in France if single?
26:05 Availability of ride sharing services
27:50 Reporting financial transactions to IRS
29:41 Cost of living
Thank you!
@@kjandtonylovefrance It's better when the video authors add chapters themselves--search for "How to Add Chapters to Your RUclips Videos"
I’m single, 52 and am hoping to move to France solo.
Congratulations and Bon Voyage to you. Very exciting!!
Good for you. Please be careful.
We should be roomate as a fellow American
I’m am referring to your hair going natural,I have been doing the same thing for about four months and showing some gray grey. Right now I’m okay with it because I’m in Chicago and since it’s cold I wear a hat but when warm weather comes I just don’t know I still want to go a little further to really see how I look, so I know what you mean it’s not easy.
I agree, Elizabeth. It's easy now because I'm wearing hats a lot because of the cold weather. We'll see how well I do in the warmer weather when it's multiple colors...lol. It won't be easy, but I think it will be worth it!
Happy to have found your channel. My goal is to go to La Rochelle France, as my descendants are from there, prior to coming to Canada in 1665. I can trace back to the 1500's so far! I have been researching cost on Nubeo, but since there isn't any comparison for La Rochelle (no info), if you could let you know which town I could compare it to would be so helpful, as all the information that I am collecting from you both! I'm pretty much done with the US myself. And, I'm a minimalist, so it will be me, my cat Lola and a suitcase!
Yes it is not difficult to go to shops and restaurants with limited language skills. Dealing with government or building trades people can be very difficult.
We haven't had to deal with that yet, so it will be interesting to see 🥰
Agree. It's easy to purchase items.
Great hearing about your approach and experience .
Hello Susan, how are you doing,
where are you from?
It’s so true what you said about not being surrounded by English speakers to learn the language. It will take time to get fully conversant but you’ll be surprised how soon you’ll start being able to hold basic conversations. You’re right about the cost of clothing; it’s cheaper in the UK too but the cost of food and other essentials always seems cheaper than the UK. Doesn’t surprise me that Paris is cheaper than London. London is becoming ridiculously expensive! That was a really informative video. Thanks guys ! 🙏
Thanks, Andy. Glad you liked the video and found it information!
KJ will do it for sure!! KJ your hair will be beautiful! Do it and own it!!❤ Bev in Colorado
Thanks, Bev. Appreciate the support and encouragement 🥰
Ouais
We are kindred
So ur conversation is really resonating
Thank you for your thoughtful, informative video.s. I am learning some great things from your experience. I am visiting France in April, 2024 and I plan to actually move to France in October, 2024. You said you were there with a retirement visa. My research says that you have to show proof of a year's lease somewhere in France in order to obtain a retirement visa. Yet, you are moving around from month to month. Did you sign a years lease somewhere in France in order to get your Visa?
Thanks for your sincerity and informations.
Always welcome! Thanks for watching 🥰
I’m loving these Q&A videos. Thank you for answering questions from your viewers. 🥰
You are so welcome! Glad you like them.
Hello, I’ve just discovered your blog which I find it very informative. I can relate to what you say. Living in London right now, thinking to move back to France. After living in few anglophone countries, it’s somehow daunting to go back to your roots, when , everything is different now. Looking forward to hearing from you both. Laurence
Glad you are enjoying the blog.
I say go for it KJ! You' won't be dependent on hairdressers or cursing those wretched hairs that sprout like grey whiskers 2 weeks after a color. You won't look back. Grey hair is graceful and fashionable - on you it will look chic!
Thank you, Angela. I appreciate the encouragement and support 🥰
KJ - I am rooting for you allowing your hair to return to is natural state. I have seen several women on IG that have gone natural and I think that it looks beautiful. I mostly see women though with thick hair go natural and I have fine hair. I think you may also have fine hair as well so not only am I rooting for you and will be using you as a guide as to what it might mean to me if I went natural. Good luck!
Thanks, Izzy. I appreciate your support and encouragement. I, too, have seen mostly women with thick hair, so I am very interested to see how it goes with mine. I won't be very surprised if I wind up cutting it. I typically wear it short but enjoy the versatility, even though I generally will always wear it up. Thanks again and I hope you have a beautiful day!
Rooting for KJ to grow out her roots!
Ive loved experiencing your journey to france
I'm so glad!
Thanks , Tony and KJ for an interesting and entertaining almost 45 minutes. Your openness and honesty are refreshing. I am fairly confident I’ll never do what you are doing but it is fun to day dream about it just a little. Your real life commentary about your experiences and adventures are interesting and compare with some of the ones I’ve had in France. Like you, I only knew just a smidgeon of French but if you put forth any effort to use a few words and phrases, the French people we encountered were more than willing to help out. I tried to remember their cultural expectations (like being sure to greet the shop owner as you enter and saying good bye as you exit). Familiarizing yourself with that information can help you avoid insulting someone or being misunderstood. Please keep your content coming because even if I never live in France, there is a good chance I’ll get to visit there again in the next year or two. P.S. Tony’s wisecrack asides just crack me up. KJ, it is pretty clear this guy loves you to bits! He seems like a keeper. 😉
Hi Marcia! Yes, he certainly is a keeper. We are both very lucky. Glad to hear you'll be visiting France again It's so beautiful. Thanks for your kindness 🥰
I was mistaken. You only need a month or two for the address on the Visa application. As I learned from you and Adrienne Leeds. Loved that interview.
Another well done video! I love how you use humor in your conversations with one another.
Thank you. We are so glad you enjoyed it!
I am behind you. Let it go gray!
Yay! Thank you, Cheryl!!
You remind me of my parents, they are also young spirits and they also love traveling a lot. keep it up!! I really love watching your videos and your adventures 😊
Thank you. We plan to.
I think KJ can go without coloring her hair! I have been coloring my hair for years and got tired of the cost and just made the decision to go natural. I don’t have a lot for gray but my hair dresser said the gray blends in well with my color. It is rather a freeing feeling of not having to keep up with the coloring.
Thanks for the support, Norma. I'm looking forward to it.
I stopped coloring my hair and I am so happy
And it saves lots of money
KJ, you go girl with your natural beauty. As I write this, I’m getting ready to go to my stylist to get my color done lol can’t wait to see if you will like it natural or not. Right now I am older than you, but I really do think I might do that one day myself, hope you have a great week. Sending hugs, love, prayers and kindness to you both! ❤️🙏🏼👍🏼😊
Thanks for the encouragement and support, Kaye. And, of course, all the hugs, love, prayers and kindness. Sending it back to you too ❤️🙏👍😊
Waw. I just started watching you guys. I love learning about your journey thus far and the future plans you have. The way you break things down is very realistic and not sensationalist. This is the very country I would like to visit in the very near future. Needless to say, happy I've found you guys, I have subscribed and will definitely be keeping up with your journey
Welcome! Thank you so much. We are glad you are enjoying the videos.
I think KJ would be also very beautiful with very short hair , easier way to stop colouring hair.
Thanks, Boba. I have had short hair for a long time and just recently started growing it out. We'll see how long that lasts.
Re Hair. Just do it. Mine was long and I wore hats until it grew out enough to cut short and be grey. Now I have to wear more eyebrows and eye liner. You save your neck not to mention money and precious time.
Thank you so much. I really appreciate the encouragement and support!
A few questions: if one of you became seriously ill, would you remain in France or return to the US?
Can Tony access his Medicare benefits in France, or does the renewable "senior visa" grant inexpensive health coverage? In any event, I'm sure your plans are contingent on whether both of you remain "physically mobile" and healthy.
A final question, can you safely invest in property with a senior visa, or do you plan on indefinitely renting?
Thanks, Charlotte! Appreciate the questions and have added them to our list for next week!
This raises another question with regard to language skills and dealing with health care.
Thanks for sharing your experiences! About reporting currency stuff to the US, you do need to report foreign financial accounts on your tax returns if you have a balance of 10,000 US dollars at any time during the tax year. Penalties can be large, so check with your tax person! I believe the Wise account is reportable as it is run through a foreign bank. But should be easy to avoid if you keep the balance below that threshold.
Hi Julie, thanks for expanding on this information. Yes, that is the way we understand it as well..
It's really interesting to hear bout your experience so far. My husband and I just moved to Zurich (super expensive) in August and are adjusting. We spent 4 years in Uzbekistan and 2 years in Dubai...having moved from Sesttle. All different experiences I look forward to hearing more! Prost! (Cheers! I'm taking German lessons).
Oh wow! That sounds like an exciting experience. I need French lessons...lol. My self-paced lessons on RUclips are not cutting it. I think I'll have more time to dedicate to it once our son goes back to college on Friday.
I did it, I have faith in you KJ, grey hair is a second blond
YES!! Thank you, Catherine 🥰
Someone else who thinks like me! I always referred to my grey hairs as "blonde highlights."
P. S. Wearing hats is a wonderful way of transitioning into our SILVER HIGHLIGHTS - not gray. 🙂 Enjoy the journey.
Thank you, Margo!
You are already a beautiful woman; however, you will be even more beautiful with your natural color with silver highlights. I began that journey a few years ago and my only regret is not having done it sooner. Regarding the comforts of home and nesting, I can so relate to that, KJ. You and Tony are so brave, and once you're both done with your adventures and decide where you want to live for the rest of your lives, you'll be so happy that you persevered through the discomforts. I am living vicariously through you. I currently live in Utah, and at age 67, I have decided to go back to school to finish what I started a long time ago. After I graduate, I'm hoping to get a remote job in cybersecurity that might allow me to live in France in the future as well. It's nice to have goals and look forward to the future.
How exciting Margo! Congrats on your brave decision to go back to school. Many people allow age to hold them back. I almost didn't go back to school because I was already in my 50's at the time I went back to school for my PhD. I'm so glad I didn't allow my age to hold me back. Also, cybersecurity sounds like something that is in very high demand. Much good luck to you and hope you are able to live in France in the future!
Thank you for sharing. One question I have. Is the first apartment you moved it, is it a rental or did you purchase it? What you you recommend to do in terms of the first property in Frace? To rent and looking to buy at a later time or have your own place from day one?
We rented our first apartment and yes, we would recommend renting before you buy.
Thank you
When fully exposed, with no access to others speaking your language, basically in a couple of months day-to-day understanding (passive acquisition) starts to click. Key words, key phrases, key intonation, the music of the language. After a six-month period, then basic expression, based on more confidence, starts to bloom (active acquisition). Acquisition works where it becomes a necessity. We're social animals and need company. It's sometimes easier to approach others when the default configuration is doing it alone. In a year or two, you should be fine. Being together is a well-being asset, much less so for language - not suggesting you don't stay together =) !
As for the weather, this year we have had one of the mildest winters ever!
I'm so looking forward to that! Thanks, Nikki.