Txiv Koob Hmoov Tso Rau Ntxhais Tag Lawm. 8/14/2023
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my in-laws live and died in my house but left my husband and I nothing. It's the one that they don't live with that gets everything. My point is that it really depends on the parents because some of them aren't fair and they don't give their love equally to each and every one of their children. Now that I think about it I wish I had nothing to do with the in-laws....they just wasted half of my life, my precious time with my children and in return I get nothing except high blood pressure, depression, and funeral debts.
Exactly. Some parents have favorites that is why their kids fight about who will take care of them. Sorry you went through that. May your good deeds bring you luck and blessings.
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Your siblings didn’t want your parents but they want your parents’ money. Shame on them. Don’t worry how much your brothers cause trouble for you, you have your parents blessings and protection.
As an outsider, I’m thankful for your good husband to take your parents in. I love and had learned something important about the part that when your father told you to prepare a place outside for him to die, your husband said no and said, “Cia txiv nyob twj ywm hauv tsev es thaum txiv txoj sia plam kiag es peb txhob quaj thiaj tsis ua rau kuv tej dab qhuas ceeb thiab ntshai”. So inspiring.
God bless you both.
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I agreed. I learned that too. Great story.
Now this is a sister that can talk the talk and walk the walk. Every other story, all we hear is a sister complaining about how much her brothers and their wife mistreat her parents, but she won’t dare to put her foot down to stand up to her brothers and take her parents in to live with her. I applaud this sister so much! 👏
I agree that your husband has the biggest heart. I respect someone like him who loves your parents unconditionally. Both of you deserve the best and all the luck from your parents.
Agree. The husband is very accepting and loving. Most hmong husband would not allow his wife's parents to move in. 🙄
Your husband has the biggest heart. You owe him the same love, understanding and respect when it's his parents turn.
I agree. Not all hmong husband will allow this. They say it's against their dab quav. However you spell that. 😢
Kudos to your husband for accepting your dad. I been there in this situation. their wive are their puppet master. so they gotta pick one. I chose to take care of my dad even when my wife threatened in divorce. Me and my little children helped and all my brothers didn't really do crap, but act like guest when they come over. showing good examples for my kids and not one guilt when he pass away.
Your Parents will continue to bless you & your family. They know who truly loves them.
My husband and I are 38 and his parents live with us. I know his siblings (especially the sisters) think that they give my husband the most but really that’s not the case. They don’t give us nothing, we dont expect nothing. My in laws still work, but choose to stay with us. I don’t like the stereotype people think they give the one living with them everything when it’s not the case! If anything the one the parents live with is expected to give the most and do the most.
Agreed!! The one they live with do so much for the parents!! The others have no idea.
I agree. My husband's family thought the same too when his grandma came to live with us. My fil always says that we're responsible for her funeral but at the end the family told him that it's his step mom that took care of him since he was 5 years old that he is responsible.
Cov tub ko tsi hlub niam thiab txiv os lawv tsua nyiaj xwb thaum kawg lawv thiaj Tsi tau kub twj Kum lawv ce thaum kawg yuav Ua yoov ntxuav muag Xwb ma
Agreed! It should be whomever they live with get the most, if not all! My in laws does not live with us since we all live in different states. We do not expect anything when they reach 120 years. Some people are just full of greed! We should just love them as much as we can and not add stress to their lives.
I agreed.
I’m only going to give my assets and money to the person that takes care of me and loves me the most. So hopefully they all love me!!
Nej yog ntxhais ces nej niam nej txiv yeej hlub nej tshaj. Txawm ciaj los lawv yeej hlub nej dua hos tuag los yeej yuav pov hwm nej dua os. Thiab depend rau tej tug niam tej tug txiv xwb os. Muaj ib txhia laus yeej tsis nyiam nrog cov nyab hlub lawv nyob os. Lawv yeej nyiam xaiv tus lawv nyiam xwb os. Xav hnov cov nyab thiab tub cov side of the story thiab. Vim nyab los peb yog hos muam los peb yog.
Yog Mas. Ib co niam pog txiv yawg yeej tsis nyiam lawv cov nyab. Lawv yeej hlub cov ntxhais dua. Yog li no tej nyab yuav lawv los lawv yeej tsis nyiam nrog tej nyab nyob.
Koj niam ces tsis nyiam koj cov nyab es noj lawv tej khoom thiaj daig daig cej dab os.
Sister, what you did was not wrong! I would've done the same! May your life continue to live Peacefully!
I can’t believe the brothers had the nerve to throw “old traditions vs new traditions.” If they want to claim so much about old traditions, they should’ve taken the parents in a long time ago, rather than send the parents to a nursing facility. Also, every adult in this story seem to make enough for their own living. Why depend on the parents’ money for anything?
Zoo siab you took care of your parents Sister. I am glad I have four daughters.
Everyone cannot do what you do. Forgive your siblings and just be thankful that your parents have you to honor them. God bless you for your lovingkindess towards your parents.❤
Every story, every case is different. It depends especially if your the nyab. If your the nyab that they like then they are not stubborn but if your the nyab that they don't like no matter how much you love them they hate you to death.
Agree
Good thing your parents were willing to live with you and left everything behind for you. Most parents are very stubborn and unfair to their daughters. You deserve their blessings. You should also be grateful that your husband did not follow the Hmong tradition of not allowing the wife’s parents live with them. He has a good heart.
It sucks that her brothers have to be so petty, they didn’t want to help the parents yet they demand for everything the parents have just because they argue over birthrights of being a son. It’s so hard to be a Hmong women due to the entitlement of sons. Not all sons are like this but most are.
Come back and brag about it when you can do the same thing for your in law. These days “ntxhais” can love and bury their own parents…nowadays “nyab” can’t do the same. Women these days can only be a good “ntxhais” but not a good “nyab” so 🛑 bc as much as you are complaining about your nyab and bro your sil is complaining about you too. Same cycle bs!
I agreed with you 100%. She probably don’t love her in laws..
Sister, don't worry about your siblings hatreds today, tomorrow they will know.
My in law lived with me but all their money goes to other siblings and help us $0 but want to used us for free service and rent. The old people only choose to love some of their children only. You are lucky to be one of them. I have been used but not received any things! Tej laus hais tias ua zoo tau zoo tab sis ua cas kuv ho tsis tau ces kuv tsis believe people lawm😢
When you love someone, do not expect koob hmoov(blessed) from the person. Do it from your heart, and then you will start to see their blessing.
Another self pride story... i understand you love your parents 210% but do you care for your in laws ?? Probably 50%😢😢
I am sure.
I give you props. At least you dont sit there and nag about what your brothers and nyabs are not doing for your parents and actually took your parents in. It makes me ill when some sil nag and complain but cant even take their parents in. Smh
Most Hmong parents are still traditional in their ways of thinking. Learn to accept changes. I will not be a burden to my kids and guilt trip them about not taking me in. When im gone i dont want to cause such conflict between my kids and have them hate each other. My purpose of having kids is to see them grow up to be productive members of society and simply be happy, not to take care of me at old age.
You didn’t do anything wrong, that’s what’s wrong with The Hmong society, the boys feels entitled to everything. Us daughters are just as important. If not we are the loving and caring ones who don’t ask for anything in return. We do it out of love.
You and your husband have such a big heart. After everything you been through.
Wow. Thank you for caring for your elderly parents so that they lived 10yrs more with you. They would've died in the nursing home within a yr. Your bros should thank you and wash your feet. Not everyone can do the caring you can. Your parents are right to leave you what ypu earned. Your bros are just greedy. I hope your sisters, if you have some, support you. Stay strong and focus on your life with your kids. If your bros exclude you bc of greed, they don't deserve a loving sister like you anyway. Good luck and don't give up that rhino horn. You earned it. Pass it on to a child who also earns it.
You and your husband have a good and understanding heart. Whatever you do will come back in 10 folds.
Koj siab zoo tsim nyog tau koob hmoov mog.
Sister, you just have good parents. Not all parents are like that. You're very lucky.
You did the right thing by taking care of your parents. Don't care about your brothers and sil. They are just about money, so just continue to take care of your family, and your parents will continue to bless you they know who loves them and who don't.
Always two side of the story. Yus hais yus qhov zoo xwb. You want everyone to think you're the good person right now. I hope your inlaws think the same on you too and you do love your inlaws that much too.
But there are a lot of sons who no longer can care for their parents. There is a lot of truth to this story as we see a lot of our older generation parents and grandparents suffer the same way. Sons can't and won't because their wives won't allow them to and they choose their wife over their parents.
According to hmong culture, the mom and Dad wants the seed to continue. It is impossible the Daughter has the right to keep the parents fortune. That means the sons are really evil, get to the point of their parents chose the daughter.
Xab maim nos cov tub yeej tsis hlub niam hlub txiv lawm
What you did is right. Glad you stood up and took in your parents. Bless your husband's heart for taking in your parents and helping you take care of them.
What your brothers do to your parents, their kids will do unto them.
I believe if mom and dad chooses their daughter to hold/keep all their money and pca then yes she should take all the good, bad , and ugly. She should not brag about it and be content with it. Seems like the lady here only wants her mom/parents during the good times. She did not want to be the one to bury her parents cause then she would have to use the funds her parents left her. Stop blaming your brothers/nyab and be happy that your parents chose you
But she did buried her parents, not her brothers. So many of these stories and its always the same, the sons don't want to take care of their parents because their wives are not willing to. This is a very true fact for many Hmong families. In this cases, all these sons are not man enough to make decision to love their parents and they have the audacity to be upset at the parents for giving their luck and money to the sibling that was willing to step up for them. shame on the sons!
I agree with you. If you don’t have in laws in your life you will not understand. Some in law are so evil too.
cov niag tub kom yuav npam tas tug mas. thaum niam ,txiv yug nej log yog tub lawm zoo siab npaum cas. nej tsw tas yug ib niag pab raub li. yuav npam nej2 yuav txom nyem tshaj nej niam nej txiv os mog
Thanks for sharing sister.... Your parents will always be with you and protecting you and ur family.
You did the right thing. May god bless you sister.
Nej cov uas Yog Nus. Nej yuav tau mus Ua Nej tus Muam thiab tus Yawm Yij tsaug vim Nej muaj tus Muam thiab Yawm Yij uas zoo2 kawg nkaus los Ris Nej Niam thiab Nej Txiv lub Cawv Xeeb Cawv Lav tiav2 tag lawm Yog ib qhov uas zoo tshaj plaws li os mog
This story makes me think about my siblings and how we will also be when my parents pass away. I know my two sisters and I promise each other that we will NOT bicker over money, and if the brother want it, let the have it. I love my parents so very much, and thank GOD for them. Knowing our Hmong culture, it IS unfortunate that daughters are treated differently and unfairly. God bless you tug vivncaug kws koj muaj lub sab dlawb paug paab koj nam koj txiv thaum 2 tug tsi taug. Thanks to your husband too. I KNOW it must have been hard on him, but he deserves respect for allowing your parents to lie with you both. I truly believe you will be the same to his parents as well. God bless you! Do not worry about your siblings - they knew what they were doing - greed change people and your brothers showed their true colors.
Sychology have proved daughter always remained a dady little girl even she grown old .son is dady little boy until the day he is married xwb .then he followed his wife even the bible said the same .tsuas yog 3 hmong muab turned opposite lawm xwb .very proud of you and specially your wide big heart husband
Xaj maim no cov ntxhais thiaj hlub niam hlub txiv lawm xwb os....cov tub ces txhob suav txog
Love her message at the end and I practice and preach it. Treat them well bc I don't want my kids doing it to me - good karma.
Sister you are so correct. We human beings learn from experience and seeing what is around us. Caring for our parents is not about money, but it's a teaching tool for our own kids so that they will care for us when our time come. Your brothers and nyabs did not understand that, but they will when they are older and their own kids toss them between each other.
Vuag, Cov Tub Los Sib Cov Nus Mas Cov Tsis Zoo Kiag Li Os! Yog Nrog Lawm Nyob Es Muag Txhua Yam Rau Koj Mas, Mas Chim Pob! Tu Siab Kawg Li Os Tu Sister! Pab Koj Tu Siab Os! Yog Kuv Muag Li Koj No, Kuv Mas Pab Heev2 Li Koj Tiaj Os Tiamsi Tsis Muag Tu Hlub Thiab Tus Pab Mas Hlub Tsis Tau Leeg Twg Li Os!! 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢 Ua Siab Loj Os, Koj Uas Zoo Kawg Li Os! Qhuav Koj Os, Strong Sister!! 😢😢❤❤
I Have 2 Daughters But You Never Know What The Future Holds! But, All I Know Is I Don’t Want To Be A Burden To Anyone Too!! 😢❤😢❤😢❤😢❤😢
Don’t worry sister, that how Hmong people are
Nplooj loj hlob yoog nraim tus kav, hos tej mi nyuam yug los yoog nraim ces neej tsav. Nplooj ncau mos yoog li lub hauv paus, hos tej mi nyuam yug loj hlob yeej coj yoog nraim li tus neeg laus. Yog li ntawv koj tsis hlub koj niam thiab txiv 2 tug laus ces ntev mus koj cov mi nyuam yuav ua yoog nraim rau koj tib yam nkaus.
Yeej yog Tim koj thiab os yog yus niam yus txiv yus yeej hlub tab sis hais kiag hais tias nyob teb chaws no yog nyiaj xwb Tim nyiaj xwb yog kuv no kuv tsis yuav los nrog kuv nyob nawb tsev laus ntau ntau li tsis tas koj yuav xa kiag rau cov tsev laus ua meskas tu naj cia nkawv mus nyob cov tsev laus uas yus nyob yus ntawv xwb naj cia nkawv nyob nkawv yus mam nyiaj hnub mus saib mus ua rau noj xwb thiaj tsis tub qaug leej twg os . Koj txhob xav tias koj hais tawm li ko es peb yuav qhuas quas koj no txawm peb muaj 10 leej qhuas koj los yeej muaj 1 .2. Leej hais koj thiab os
I have 4 brothers but I plan to take care of my parents whether my parents agree or not. My poor parents are already so stressed out that they might not have any sons that will care for them with their situations right now. My doors are always open for them!
Kj Yeej ua yog tshaj plaws yus Niam yus Txiv kawg cov Niam tsis k lawm ces kj yuav tau ua txhob tham nawb ntawv yog kj thiab kj tus Txiv li koob hmoob os Tua sitee kj ua tsis txhaum kiag li os
Shames on the brothers. They're just jealous that you're living better than they do. That's their fault that they are so greedy. Let them be and live your life. You don't need them to live. Just focus on ur husband and kids. God bless u sis.
Thank you for sharing very sad story I will keep this story in my heart
My second brother stepped up while my other brothers act like the don't know better. Between the sisters we all helped my second brother. We all love our parents and want to keep loving them until they are gone. It was never about the money. It was always about love and supporting each other.
Txhob care about your brothers. You've done your job for caring for your parents.
Those brothers should be happy the sister took the parents in. Their madness will take away their peace.
Don’t leave anything to those who don’t respect and care for the elder.
Tus vicaus zoo siab koj thiaj yog tus hlub koj niam koj txiv mus txog thaum laus tiag txawm tias cov nus dev liam ntawv tsis hlub koj niam koj txiv los koj twb hlub lawm ces zoo kawg mog . Mam saib lawv cov mesnyuam ua rau lawv tom ntej
So true sister! Your parents had 10 kids. They cleaned poop and pee for over 13-15 years and feed their kids for over 25 years. Yet these 9 out of 10 won’t even take care of them in their old age. So sad.
Yes
Me ntxhais aw koj hl6b koj niam koj txiv yeej yog 8b qho zoo tab sis koj hlub hlub koj niam koj txiv, ua rau koj niam koj txiv zoo siab tshaj rab sis koj niam pog thiab txiv yawg tu siab rau koj npaum li cas, yus hu yus kwj tse du lug xwb tab sis niam pog txiv yawg tu siab rau koj tshaj
So proud of you and your husband sister.❤God bless 🙌
she can talk the talk and walk the walk for her parents but will see if she can do the same for her parent-in-laws.
I hope you have that same big heart when it comes time to take care of your in laws.
Good morning may !.
Ua cas yuav pab nrog koj tu siab Ua luaj li os tus sister aws. Sim neej no kuv los ib pab nus phem phem tsis txawj xav lis thiab mas kuv tu tu tu siab tshuav tuag niaj hnub noj tshuaj nyuaj siab xwb os
I know how you feel sorry that you had to go through this
Vim Koj muab tau kev Kaj siab rau koj Niam Koj Txiv es nkawv tus mob thiaj zoo zuj zus thiab nkawv txoj Koob Hmoov thiaj ntws los rau koj ib leeg
Tim koj cov nyab siab me yuav tsis taus koj niam koj txiv nkawv xwb...koj tus txiv siab loj siab zoo kawg li koj yuav tau hlub nws niam nws txiv thiab nawb
Xob tu siab mog Koj tsi txhaum ab tsi os. Koj Ua Yog lawm. Koj Niam Koj Txiv los Ua Yog2 lawm thiab. Vim Koj pab nus tsi muaj ib tus los txais Koj Niam Koj Txiv txoj Koob Hmoov. Yuav li no lawm xwb Xob muab do2 nyob tsam haj yam Puas Loj os mog cov me phooj Ywg
Zoo heev li os ..zaum no koj yuav tauv mus cov niam pog thiab txiv ywj losnrog koj nyob thiab .. koj tus txiv thiaj zoo siab os
Sister , you do the right thing ! Forget about your brothers ! They are bad news and will corrupt you ! May God bless you and your family abundantly
Xoeyui❤
Koj niam twb tsis hlub koj tus nyab lis koj yog nw tus txhais nes. Yog koj niam hlub koj tus nyab lis koj ces koj tus nyab yeej hlub koj niam
Txhob tu siab os mi niam tsev, txoj Kev laus thiab muaj mob ib leeg yuav tau ib hnub tom ntej xwb.
Ho hais txog Kev sib tu siab ces koj txhob tu mog koj ua yog lawm , yog ua zoo xwb mas sib txeeb ua xwb tiam sis yog twb ua zoo sib tham tag es lawm
Koj co mus twb tsis kam ua ces yog hmoob tag lawm, tej koob hmoov no twb tsis zoo li txoj Kev kawm tom tsev kawm ntawv tej yam xyaum coj zoo no
mas kawm tiag txog hnub laus xov puas tseem Tau txais os. Es koj thiab koj tus hlub txhob ntxov siab txog lawv.
Zoo kawg li os ntxawm tias yus Yog ib tug ntxhai xwb los yeej hlub tau niam tau txiv lawm zoo heave li os
43:48 lwm hnub lawv txog koj niam koj txiv txoj kev laus lawv mam paub nawb
Nej teb chaw me ka yu tu niam yu txiv tseem tau nyiaj tib si ca ca tsi kam tu peb teb chaw nplog no yu nyob tu ob tug lau lawm yu tsi tau kev khwv ma yu yeej txom nyem heev li o
As of today daughter love their parent more! They make sure their parents get the love they deserve.
There is always two sides to the story. If your story is real and you are that innocent such as taking in and caring for your parents from the good of your heart, you will always be blessed. Otherwise, your karma will come when you least expect it.
I know a greedy siab phem daughter who fought with her siblings to win her mother. She disliked all her siblings and when her mom finally moved in with her, she brainwashed her mom, turned her mom against all her siblings, at the end the mom died and she ended up with all of her mom's money and belongings, just as she wanted. Her brothers didnt attend the mom's funeral. Other daughters paid a respectful visit only. The funeral was very sad. Was it worth it?
Sometimes a sibling is so evil they have no compassion for other siblings. They only want their parents to brag and care about them only. Some parents have favorites too, in the end, other children dont want to take care of them. There is always two sides to every story.
I disagree with your massage.
U must be related and a jealous relative 😂
@gigisong81 hell no, and there is no such thing of two side of the story. We all know, nowadays hmong son only go after the money and there is no space for love.
Never chose a women over your parent. She has parent too and should understand. One day her kids going to do the same how would she feel. Marriage is only a contract.
Txhob tu siab lawv muab koj txiav tag lawm lo kav liam vim thaum koj yug lo koj yeej lo ib leeg xwb hnub twg yus tuag lo yus yeej yuav mu yus ib leeg thiab xwb txhob txhawj 2
I gotta be honest some in laws are so toxic, my mother in law included. I usually know many muam who complain about how the nyabs don't want their parents but they don't realize how toxic, verbal and mental abusive their parents are.
You did the right thing and all brothers favor their wives. All brothers and sister in laws wants money.
You are a super daughter and sister. Your brothers are wrong. The fact that they refused to do their parents' funerals and let all the expenses and responsibilities to u, and the fact that they refused to show up to their own mother's funeral say everything about them and how selfish, greedy, petty, and immature they are.
This is sad😢. I’m so grateful that I have such a loving, caring and understandable siblings. Please don’t let money 💴 tear your family away. Niam txiv tuag twb mob2 siab, es txos ua li no os. Sib hlub sib pab thiaj li zoo.
Unless those brothers becomes aware of their mistakes, they can never truly love unconditionally. Loving ur parents should never be about money, but know that they are ur parents and all the sacrifices they did so that the kids will have a better life is more than enough. Karma will surely catch up to them.
yog kawg li koj hais os sisters
Txhob nyuab siab tu siab os viv ncaus aws... nyob teb chaw no tsis kk 1 cov nus siab phem2 es ntshaw2 nyiaj li koj pab no. Nus kwv nus tij muaj coob, vaj tsab xeem lis muaj ntau os mog. Tus twg hlub koj ces koj hlub tus ntaw xwb. Tsis li ces mus ntseeg Vajtswv kiag kwv tij neej ntsa tom church coob2 li os. Leej twg ua zoo ces leej twg tau koob hmoov xwb.
You did the right thing. Daughter or son, whoever cares for the parents should get the hmoov. I've seen/heard too many of these stories. Dont be sad and think mich about it.
You shouldn't boast. You need to understand that all your brothers each has a cop watching their every move. But in your case, you are the cop so your husband has to do whatever you say or it's divorce... just like one of your brothers. At this time and place, when a man marries a woman, he gets neutered. The man's parents pay the bride price but it's the woman's parents who gain a son and the man's parents losing a son because the wife will make the man love her parents and h a t e his parents... or it's bye-bye no sugar tonight and child support and no home tomorrow. This is why a lot of American men never marry.
Sister so proud of you for doing the right thing. And not once did you blame your nyabs for your brothers lack of responsibility, unlike those other stories.
Kav liam koj cov nus… muab koj txoj kev xav thiab kev hlub coj los mus rau koj tus txiv, niam pog txiv yawg thiab cov kwv tij nawb. Vim koj tus txiv ua tiav ib txoj haujlwm rau koj lawm, ziag no koj yuav tau hlub lawv pauj nawb. Hlub kom sib npaug thiaj li ntsim nyog.
Xav tau Xav muaj nyiaj rau siab khwv rau siab mus kawm ntawv es thiaj muaj nyiaj yuav tos cov laus li nyiaj xwb puas yog ma
Tus niam tsev nploog koj zaj no lawm tim koj xwb vim koj twb muaj nua coob coob lo tseem coj koj nian nkawv lo nrog koj nyib ces yog tim koj xwb vim koj tau nkawv pob nyiaj tag ne txua yam no koj yuav tau lav txua yam tim koj xwb txhob kom cov nus pab vim lawv tsis tau pob nyiaj
It's ok, that's her problem not yours. If you butt hurt go file a butt hurt report. Lmao
Yog Mas. Thaum tus tub yuav ces Cia tub ua dab ua qhua. Yog ntxhais yuav ces Cia ntxhais ua dab ua qhua.
Shame on these brothers! Your parents will continue to bless you for taking care of them when they’re old and and vulnerable.
Uacas Niam NtsuabTeev yuav muab seeeeevvvvvvvvvvvvv ntev ualuaj ib lolus xwb na.
There's always two side to a story. Im not sure if I believe this sister. She said she is so sad her brothers didnt help her with her parents funeral. But she also said the clan leader force the brothers to hand over $15k from each life policy to her, that mean they help 30k which is alot already.
Niam txiv siab zoo
Wow do they not relized that even they was to get that horn luck isnt gona come to them. Nyaig lug tug los ua lawm li will not work. Im happy you got both your parents blessing!!!! You and your husband did not do anything wrong.....
The one the parents live with takes the most burden but they also get hamsome rewards too.
Would love a BIL like your husband! I totally understand what you’re going through!
Kv xav kom koj hai kv lis thb
The question is, yes, all daughters will take their parents in but why not the inlaws. Mostly the husband's are scared of loosing their wives and family so they will take the wives family in. So it's the hmong men can't be a real man. Not all hmong women are like that.