Ariana take care of yourself too. I was a caregiver for my mother and I understand how you feel. You must take time for yourself and restore your body so you can continue to be there for Ephraim. Prayers for both of you.
Serious serious blessing to his wife for sticking by his side & taking care of him. & bless him for seeming to have a positive attitude & getting right back out there to work & getting on with life even though hes got those obstacles that try to block his way. Both amazing people, good on them. I really hope it all works out for you 2 & you're able to stay happy & keep your love strong through all the struggles. Sending Good vibes to you
Oh man i really feel for his wife and all her emotions that she goes through everyday. its a rollercoaster and buffet of emotions - happiness, pride, loneliness, guilt, love, anger, bitterness, joy. thats the kind of stuff we don't see - good day or bad. They're both equally inspiring!!
I thank God for my wife. This year was our 6 year anniversary and our first with me as a paraplegic. Been paralyzed now for 7 months. I'm highly motivated but I hate being in a chair lol. But all in all I'm happy I have my wife and my kids. Yous are awesome, Kia kaha korua. Hopefully I can pop in to your gym one day ephraim, mean bruv.
This was probably filmed a while ago so I wonder how they are doing now. They are both amazing people, but I really felt for her when she was speaking. 99% of the time, we congratulate the person who has become disabled for how far they've come, forgetting all the people who have played a part but especially their primary carers. On another note, I think it's really great when people look into fostering and adoption which may be cheaper than ivf. Finally, I hope she gets to see her family more often and makes more close friends where they live, and that she gets some breaks eg carer respite. I also hope people give her more respect and she doesn't have to feel like she has to become a martyr. It's okay to acknowledge you need a break and you have needs. It doesn't mean you love him any less. Also they've been through trauma and they obviously will be dealing with the after effects for a long time to come, therapy would be a good thing to do both individual and joint sessions. You don't have to be really unhappy to go, rather I think it stops you becoming unhappy (but theyre probably already doing this). Ps watching the video and it not being a reenactment was unsettling. It must be so hard to have that to watch and think what ifs over. Everyone needs to forgive themselves.
Beautiful and inspirational Ari and E ❤ I attend the Anytime Fitness gym they co manage and they make it the best experience for all their members, they really are beautiful people inside and out, all the blessings and love to you both on your journey, nga mihi ❤
So much love, honesty, transparency and respect they have for one another. Though clearly their life together isn't easy, you can easily see why and how they make it work. Beautiful couple for sure.
Yes TEAMWORK people. I don't know how it must be for her, that's loyalty and dedication to the one you love. I hope everything she does comes back in HAPPINESS!
He said that his wife is making his breakfast and I watched her fold laundry. Both those tasks seem resonable for him to do, no? Nothing wrong with his arms. Pitch in, mate.
I’m so blessed that my husband and I stayed together after I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis 17 years ago. I hope that this beautiful couple will continue to grow and find their way together. It might be helpful to encourage Ari to spend time with friends or hobby away from her husband. Always remind one another how much you love snd appreciate them. It’s easy to begin to feel taken for granted and exhausted from the daily challenges that we face.
When he said he had been married 6 months when the trauma occurred my heart dropped. Being married young can be a real challenge since you are committed to someone else before you really even know who YOU are. Major changes are happening - your brain isnt even fully mature until you are 26. To add an incident like this, Wow! My hat is off to both of you, but utmost respect to Ariana. Being a carer is a Very Difficult job. I know a little of just How Much Harder when that person is your spouse. I pray that both have realized how vital it is for Ariana to have time to herself Every Day, even if it is just 30 minutes to go for a walk, and that they are making sure she gets it. It is equally necessary to have outside interests of her own, be that photography, taking Italian cooking classes or joining a book club. It would/will allow her to come back refreshed. Much live my dear - and dont forget there is support there for you as well. It is Not all about him.
The real respect and inspiration is when a person, says that he made a mistake but he s taking the most of it.. When you are saying that you prefered your life to be in another way, but life is strange and you have to live with at.. And you are doing OK, my man!! Congrats...
i dont know how to put this in a good way but i am going to try: he said somthing about "all of a sudden i had my accident" like it was not his fault. well he made a choise to jump of a freaking waterfall. It felt werid in a way cuz there was not one time that they kissed or held hands, I am speaking up beacuse i myself am in a wheelchair and i have been all my life, my husband of 2 years has been with me for almost 6 years and he said whilst watching this that" ppl make it out to be so hard helping someone you love i get it it is hard but i mean i choose to take care of you beacuse i love you with all my heart its almost an honor for me and some ppl seem to forget the love" he also went on to say "them 2 seem to have forgotten the wife and husband relationship if so YES THAN IT IS VERY VERY VERY HARD, + she says she is happy but her face, her face says something diffrent"
Now, how is your life? Wishing you a lot of happiness, Everyone in life has difficult times, some people go through hardships and then overcome and life will smile at them, you have gone through that road together. I take my hat off to you, You guys are great.
Ari, you are the true inspiration ... And you have a very good marriage.. And on those situations, I always put myself in the opposite site.. If I had an accident will I want the help from my husband (or wife, )?? And I know that Ephraim would do the same for you..😍.. That's called true love (and team effort as you said) .. Congrats..
I thought your story showed tremendous love for each other. Arianna, you are doing an amazing job staying in their for your husband and life partner. We'll done to you both, best of luck in your future together, love NZ.
He does seem really selfish ,which annoys me to no end . It was his stupid decision to jump from the freakin rock ,so he needs to take full responsibility over his life now cuz Ari has her own goals and dreams too .She is a really beautiful soul and she deservs only the best . This doesn't mean they shouldn't try to help each other and push each other as much as possible ,but he must sacrifice a lot more for her too .
Hey i understand that life becomes more difficult and sometimes its that hard that it makes you angry. But togheter you are doing fine. And the feelings of anger and sadness will be there sometimes. I get that people think youre a inspiration and you feel it maybe not the same. But i think that when you love someone that its normal you stand by youre partner and help them. And i know that can be hard and difficult sometimes. You seems a very nice couple. And i hope for you that you someday maybe be able to walk again. And if its not in the cards for you that you will be happy again with each other and possible youre future kids. Nothing is impossible and you will be work it out toghetter so have fun and try to be happy. You guys deserve it. Love sabrina
I don/t understand this, I'm a T1 para and I thing he can take care of him self, I have for 47 years. My wife works , I work and take care of myself Thats 65 years ago now/
People who are saying he should cook for himself and fold the laundry lost the part that he is still at the beginning of his rehab after the injury when this was filmed - 1 year. He is using his upper body to do what able bodied people do with their legs and that takes a toll, takes getting used to, and doesnt leave much for folding laundry. Its the little muscles that are at issue with me, a high functioning partial quad. Folding a load of laundry, or washing a load of dishe in addition to 15 to 20 transfers per day can and does cause injury. This means we cannot do anything on our own. So yes in the beginning those simple household chores get done by someone else while you get to the point you can use the toilet and dress yourself independently. Then you start working on doing chores independently. Note he is helping with the cooking. Im 24 years from my accident and dishes still are not something i can do independently but i can cook by myself and usually do my own laundry. Still folding it is hard and frustrating. Just because you see a task as easy, doesnt actually mean it is for everyone at all times in all situations.
There are some tasks that he can do too like making his breakfast.. He can move his arms so why not? Sorry if I am rude but it is what I think about him. I am sorry for her.
You are both doing great ,,Spinal injuries are still so much an unexplored area Please look up Wings For Life UK & the book Penguin Bloom written by an Australian couple in the same situation ...----Good luck , you two will make it :) * means thumbs up
Might be a good thing for his wife to get into counseling. Just someone neutral to be able to talk about her stress and grief and loss. Im praying for you ma'm. You are very strong and carrying a great deal. How tough it must have been to give up everything and move. You are very caring and a great wife.
It bothered me that when he was being tooken up in the helicopter by emergency, that people were still recording... Like wouldn't you be in the moment fucking worried? Not focused on recording for your crappy Snapchat?
Thanks for sharing your story. Both of you are living and are as happy as any married young couple...your struggles relationship wise seem similar to what I experienced as a young married woman. Just saying your honey is a handsome guy to some people may be checking him out as well 😉
The wife must return with her family then. It seems that she thinks that she made a mistake, she is with him because she feels it is her responsibility as a wife but the love changed since the accident, she needs to admit that she does not want to be with him anymore .. she is not happy, sacrifice for someone because you have feelings of guilt is a mistake, That is my impression when I see it 😢
The wife is the best really. And the guy I don't understand... he is complaining all the time about the consequences of his action (jumping), and he says he doesn't regret having jumped. What kind of contradictory reasoning is that?
She must get caregiver support so she can have time out like a holiday weekend away he must drop his ego and let support come in or she will burn out and crumble and might leave him
Super, my wife looks after me but she doesn't want to train with me. We have children who also require attention. My wife is really busy and tired. I'm a walking quadriplegic.
His wife seems pretty exhausted from caring for him already. How will she finds the time to take care of her babies? Taking care of her husband is already full time job. It will only get harder when they are in their 40's and older.
are they still together? the wife seemed quite depressed, but of course it is hard to say from a few minutes of video. i wish them both the best, togeteher or apart. i think Ari deserves so much respect for everything she‘s doing.
They won’t make the long haul, she’s doing everything...in and out of the home. He obviously thinks household chores aren’t “men’s chores” or part of his job.
@feliceluvzya1 I think he does more to take care of himself when the cameras are off. They just say she does everything so she can get paid. Can't really blame them, everyone need money.
Because of being young! The brain doesnt finish maturing until age 26! Most people feel like they are "Bulletproof" - ie It Cant Happen to Me! Teens/YA even more so - they dont even see/feel/know that Bullets even exist!!!
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Ariana take care of yourself too. I was a caregiver for my mother and I understand how you feel. You must take time for yourself and restore your body so you can continue to be there for Ephraim. Prayers for both of you.
The wife is a very honorable woman. Blessings on her. Not all partners would stay...😢. My husband was not an honorable man. However, my son is.
Bless her heart. I’m a caregiver for my mom and it is not an easy job at all. God bless her, and I hope she gets some support of her own.
Serious serious blessing to his wife for sticking by his side & taking care of him. & bless him for seeming to have a positive attitude & getting right back out there to work & getting on with life even though hes got those obstacles that try to block his way. Both amazing people, good on them. I really hope it all works out for you 2 & you're able to stay happy & keep your love strong through all the struggles. Sending Good vibes to you
Oh man i really feel for his wife and all her emotions that she goes through everyday. its a rollercoaster and buffet of emotions - happiness, pride, loneliness, guilt, love, anger, bitterness, joy. thats the kind of stuff we don't see - good day or bad. They're both equally inspiring!!
The real inspiration in this video is Ari. Blessings to you from back home. 🇦🇺❤️
I thank God for my wife. This year was our 6 year anniversary and our first with me as a paraplegic. Been paralyzed now for 7 months. I'm highly motivated but I hate being in a chair lol. But all in all I'm happy I have my wife and my kids. Yous are awesome, Kia kaha korua. Hopefully I can pop in to your gym one day ephraim, mean bruv.
This was probably filmed a while ago so I wonder how they are doing now. They are both amazing people, but I really felt for her when she was speaking. 99% of the time, we congratulate the person who has become disabled for how far they've come, forgetting all the people who have played a part but especially their primary carers. On another note, I think it's really great when people look into fostering and adoption which may be cheaper than ivf. Finally, I hope she gets to see her family more often and makes more close friends where they live, and that she gets some breaks eg carer respite. I also hope people give her more respect and she doesn't have to feel like she has to become a martyr. It's okay to acknowledge you need a break and you have needs. It doesn't mean you love him any less. Also they've been through trauma and they obviously will be dealing with the after effects for a long time to come, therapy would be a good thing to do both individual and joint sessions. You don't have to be really unhappy to go, rather I think it stops you becoming unhappy (but theyre probably already doing this). Ps watching the video and it not being a reenactment was unsettling. It must be so hard to have that to watch and think what ifs over. Everyone needs to forgive themselves.
Beautiful and inspirational Ari and E ❤ I attend the Anytime Fitness gym they co manage and they make it the best experience for all their members, they really are beautiful people inside and out, all the blessings and love to you both on your journey, nga mihi ❤
So much love, honesty, transparency and respect they have for one another. Though clearly their life together isn't easy, you can easily see why and how they make it work. Beautiful couple for sure.
Yes TEAMWORK people. I don't know how it must be for her, that's loyalty and dedication to the one you love. I hope everything she does comes back in HAPPINESS!
He said that his wife is making his breakfast and I watched her fold laundry. Both those tasks seem resonable for him to do, no? Nothing wrong with his arms. Pitch in, mate.
Disabled RN - my thoughts Exactly!!! From both sides of the coin!
I’m so blessed that my husband and I stayed together after I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis 17 years ago. I hope that this beautiful couple will continue to grow and find their way together. It might be helpful to encourage Ari to spend time with friends or hobby away from her husband. Always remind one another how much you love snd appreciate them. It’s easy to begin to feel taken for granted and exhausted from the daily challenges that we face.
When he said he had been married 6 months when the trauma occurred my heart dropped. Being married young can be a real challenge since you are committed to someone else before you really even know who YOU are. Major changes are happening - your brain isnt even fully mature until you are 26.
To add an incident like this, Wow! My hat is off to both of you, but utmost respect to Ariana. Being a carer is a Very Difficult job. I know a little of just How Much Harder when that person is your spouse. I pray that both have realized how vital it is for Ariana to have time to herself Every Day, even if it is just 30 minutes to go for a walk, and that they are making sure she gets it. It is equally necessary to have outside interests of her own, be that photography, taking Italian cooking classes or joining a book club. It would/will allow her to come back refreshed. Much live my dear - and dont forget there is support there for you as well. It is Not all about him.
That guy has an awesome wife, definitely a keeper. Hats off to her for all the hard work. Hopefully now he can at least fold that washing lol
He has it pretty rough too. You can just compliment Ari and move on :)
The real respect and inspiration is when a person, says that he made a mistake but he s taking the most of it.. When you are saying that you prefered your life to be in another way, but life is strange and you have to live with at.. And you are doing OK, my man!! Congrats...
i dont know how to put this in a good way but i am going to try: he said somthing about "all of a sudden i had my accident" like it was not his fault. well he made a choise to jump of a freaking waterfall.
It felt werid in a way cuz there was not one time that they kissed or held hands, I am speaking up beacuse i myself am in a wheelchair and i have been all my life, my husband of 2 years has been with me for almost 6 years and he said whilst watching this that" ppl make it out to be so hard helping someone you love i get it it is hard but i mean i choose to take care of you beacuse i love you with all my heart its almost an honor for me and some ppl seem to forget the love"
he also went on to say "them 2 seem to have forgotten the wife and husband relationship if so YES THAN IT IS VERY VERY VERY HARD, + she says she is happy but her face, her face says something diffrent"
He could at least fold his own laundry...
Now, how is your life? Wishing you a lot of happiness, Everyone in life has difficult times, some people go through hardships and then overcome and life will smile at them, you have gone through that road together. I take my hat off to you, You guys are great.
Ari, you are the true inspiration ... And you have a very good marriage.. And on those situations, I always put myself in the opposite site.. If I had an accident will I want the help from my husband (or wife, )?? And I know that Ephraim would do the same for you..😍.. That's called true love (and team effort as you said) .. Congrats..
Its crazy how paralysis can happen so suddenly and change your life forever. It blows my mind.
It also scares me, but his accident was somehow stupid, sometimes people get injured in daily life situations.
I thought your story showed tremendous love for each other. Arianna, you are doing an amazing job staying in their for your husband and life partner. We'll done to you both, best of luck in your future together, love NZ.
I hope things are still going and you're learning a lot still man!!
This is really cool. Life sucks a lot of times, they have done really well after tragedy.
He does seem really selfish ,which annoys me to no end . It was his stupid decision to jump from the freakin rock ,so he needs to take full responsibility over his life now cuz Ari has her own goals and dreams too .She is a really beautiful soul and she deservs only the best . This doesn't mean they shouldn't try to help each other and push each other as much as possible ,but he must sacrifice a lot more for her too .
Hey i understand that life becomes more difficult and sometimes its that hard that it makes you angry. But togheter you are doing fine. And the feelings of anger and sadness will be there sometimes. I get that people think youre a inspiration and you feel it maybe not the same. But i think that when you love someone that its normal you stand by youre partner and help them. And i know that can be hard and difficult sometimes. You seems a very nice couple. And i hope for you that you someday maybe be able to walk again. And if its not in the cards for you that you will be happy again with each other and possible youre future kids. Nothing is impossible and you will be work it out toghetter so have fun and try to be happy. You guys deserve it. Love sabrina
I don/t understand this, I'm a T1 para and I thing he can take care of him self, I have for 47 years. My wife works , I work and take care of myself
Thats 65 years ago now/
People who are saying he should cook for himself and fold the laundry lost the part that he is still at the beginning of his rehab after the injury when this was filmed - 1 year. He is using his upper body to do what able bodied people do with their legs and that takes a toll, takes getting used to, and doesnt leave much for folding laundry.
Its the little muscles that are at issue with me, a high functioning partial quad. Folding a load of laundry, or washing a load of dishe in addition to 15 to 20 transfers per day can and does cause injury. This means we cannot do anything on our own. So yes in the beginning those simple household chores get done by someone else while you get to the point you can use the toilet and dress yourself independently. Then you start working on doing chores independently. Note he is helping with the cooking.
Im 24 years from my accident and dishes still are not something i can do independently but i can cook by myself and usually do my own laundry. Still folding it is hard and frustrating.
Just because you see a task as easy, doesnt actually mean it is for everyone at all times in all situations.
she seems a bit depressed. caregivers have it rough.
Thank you for letting me know
There are some tasks that he can do too like making his breakfast.. He can move his arms so why not? Sorry if I am rude but it is what I think about him. I am sorry for her.
You are both doing great ,,Spinal injuries are still so much an unexplored area Please look up Wings For Life UK & the book Penguin Bloom written by an Australian couple in the same situation ...----Good luck , you two will make it :) * means thumbs up
Might be a good thing for his wife to get into counseling. Just someone neutral to be able to talk about her stress and grief and loss. Im praying for you ma'm. You are very strong and carrying a great deal. How tough it must have been to give up everything and move. You are very caring and a great wife.
It bothered me that when he was being tooken up in the helicopter by emergency, that people were still recording... Like wouldn't you be in the moment fucking worried? Not focused on recording for your crappy Snapchat?
Thanks for sharing your story. Both of you are living and are as happy as any married young couple...your struggles relationship wise seem similar to what I experienced as a young married woman. Just saying your honey is a handsome guy to some people may be checking him out as well 😉
ALLAH YAR VE YARDIMCINIZ OLSUN
Ari ❤❤❤ Ephraim ❤❤
the man bro and to your amazing wife. Tu Tangata korua
The wife must return with her family then. It seems that she thinks that she made a mistake, she is with him because she feels it is her responsibility as a wife but the love changed since the accident, she needs to admit that she does not want to be with him anymore .. she is not happy, sacrifice for someone because you have feelings of guilt is a mistake, That is my impression when I see it 😢
Moi Herdz Agreed. He seems a bit selfish as well. His arms are fully functioning, why not help out more?
The wife is the best really. And the guy I don't understand... he is complaining all the time about the consequences of his action (jumping), and he says he doesn't regret having jumped. What kind of contradictory reasoning is that?
awesome! will def network am disbaled n live in gizzy!
She must get caregiver support so she can have time out like a holiday weekend away he must drop his ego and let support come in or she will burn out and crumble and might leave him
She’s paid so it’s not like caregiver respite time. She would have to take the day off.
Super, my wife looks after me but she doesn't want to train with me. We have children who also require attention. My wife is really busy and tired. I'm a walking quadriplegic.
He is skipping leg day. Much respect.
I'm sorry man.
His wife seems pretty exhausted from caring for him already. How will she finds the time to take care of her babies? Taking care of her husband is already full time job. It will only get harder when they are in their 40's and older.
His legs look so fragile, making me feel weak!😖
Ariana got a raw deal
I wil met you, wheelchair competition 😉 only I’m almost 50 🙈… but I never quit bodybuilding…
are they still together? the wife seemed quite depressed, but of course it is hard to say from a few minutes of video. i wish them both the best, togeteher or apart. i think Ari deserves so much respect for everything she‘s doing.
I see she is not happy enough. Pardon me if i am wrong.. 😢😢😢😢
They won’t make the long haul, she’s doing everything...in and out of the home. He obviously thinks household chores aren’t “men’s chores” or part of his job.
I wish for them to have children...
I am not sure, but is it even possible for him?
Wife should go back to AU then. Seems like she thinks she made a mistake.
@feliceluvzya1 I think he does more to take care of himself when the cameras are off. They just say she does everything so she can get paid. Can't really blame them, everyone need money.
Why a healthy young person choose jump and risk being dependent on someone else for life ?
Because of being young! The brain doesnt finish maturing until age 26! Most people feel like they are "Bulletproof" - ie It Cant Happen to Me! Teens/YA even more so - they dont even see/feel/know that Bullets even exist!!!