This song reminds me of my girlfriend from the mid-90's. Letting her go was my biggest regret. She is newly single and just as mesmerizing to me now as she was then.
As a boy who broke some hearts back in the day I'm not ashamed to admit I cried to this song and I felt like I matured a lot listening to another perspective
@@superdoobo didn’t ask don’t care and you’re actually wrong. u have that completely wrong vernacular and verbiage. go take a vocabulary lesson u uneducated bafoon, it’s assuming not amusing u airhead
Damn, this song is such memories for me, when your young and you think that love is love, you have no idea what love truly is until you've had your heart broken, ripped apart and somehow find a way to let someone who truly loves you repairs it, this song is just a real reminder of all the times I had to repair my heart for myself, for the right person to come along, and love me.
My loved younger brother who was in his early 30's at the time cried with this song many times, we used to hang on my garage ,drink a few beers and listen to many of our favorite artists, we were pretty close, I saw him as my son, I'm 8 years older than him, he passed away in 2015, left a big hole in my heart, now this song makes me cry every time. 😢
My brother is eight years older. I think theres something magical about that age difference... its almost like raising ur own, getting to teach them about the world. I used to love hearing my brothers stories and all the grown uo shit he got experience and that I would too one day. Im sure ur brother admired you and looked up to you. I absolutely adore my older brother. Even tho im a girl and very feminine, he always treated me like one of his boys and I love it. ❤ Im sorry about ur loss. Im sure you have many memories that you wilk forvever cherish. Sending positive vibes from toronto, happy holidays.
This song bring back such nostalgie. I'm 41 y/o now and I can't help but think about how better life was back then and how it could have been better if I had made different choices. This is a BEAUTIFUL song and it will always have a special place in my heart :)
Exactly...I'm 42 (3/11/79)...I hadn't heard this in years and listened a couple weeks ago and it just broke me...the nostalgia of my youth, the heartbreaks I thought I would never recover from, the heartbreaks I caused, the fun that I've had, the miserable times that I've had, just everything hits so hard.
And obviously the thoughts of how things would be if I made different choices...'I used to be attracted to boys who would lie to me, the more self destructive the better' kills me because I got married after that to someone who treated me like a queen and then I left....
@@srhbluerain what is it that makes that happen? Is it just too boring to know someone is willing to die for you? I am mostly over all those days,, but the occasional ramble thru time with Alanis makes me wistful. I actually found someone who inspired me like Alanis' music touched my heart, and I finally let her in. After 32 years of being single and fairly sure that was the way to be. 13 years later, only one hurtful argument in all that time, and she left,,, never a plate thrown, never a hissed name called. She couldn't bear a child, and left in the confusion of finding that out. I've walked alone since. I'm getting to believe that straight line steadfast solid dudes just aren't appreciated anymore.
This is a weird day. We're in the middle of a pandemic and subsequent self isolation. It's my birthday, I live alone. So, the best I can do is reflect, which brought me here. I hope this finds you future person on the other side of this ❤️ EDIT: Well, this was a weird year. Dear future person (maybe me again?) we made it.
A woman speaking openly to her various ex lovers about what she learned and felt. She admits feeling everything from love to anger. She is the focus and the men are supportive her story - for a change. It is so bad ass and beautiful.
Alanis is such a great songwriter. Here she sings about past relationships and what she learned from each one. I don't know why I feel sad when I listen to this song, I guess it makes me think of bad past relationships.
I have experienced the Terrance and Lou. Terrance was too available and I felt smothered with too much affection and attention. Today, I miss that the most. Lou and I were working on highly stressful degrees, he in medicine, me in the middle of switching from a music major to criminal justice. We just got burnt out and really didn't know how to make it work. Ultimately we just parted ways, with no argument, no lashing out. We just stopped communicating, and after graduation I moved and never heard from him again.
The first to fall for me was "Terrence", and I rejected him (stupid move of me, I know), because he began asking a question I did not think he'd ask, as I felt at the time, that he'd become possessive of me. Now I would very much like to have a "Terrence". "Jonathan" was the tragic type, sure, and not particularly honest. But he was the one to reject me, and pushed me away. He just looked for the first reason to do it. I think I met "Marcus" once, but that was it, because he ruined it. A former friend is a mix of "Matthew" (a musician) and "Lou". A current friend is a bit like "Terrence", but he has been, and always will be a friend.
One of the most perfect songs about relationships ever written. It never gets old. I think of all the thoughts I've had about former loves that I could pen into letters unsent. She is out of favor now, but one day I think the world will celebrate her for the enduring poet and artist she is.
Cannot believe I haven’t heard this track before today. Typical Alanis, sounds fantastic with a stunning instrumental behind it. I need to look beyond jagged little pill
Dear Lou, we learned so much... I realize we won't be able to talk for sometime, and I understand that as I do you The long distance thing was the hardest and we did as well as we could... we were together during a very tumultous time in our lives I will always have your back and be corious about you... ...About your career, your whereabouts.
Alanis, like always, teaching us a lot about life... After I heard this song when released, I made the writing goodbye letters to my former significant others when we went apart. Still do, and trust me, It helps a lot!!!
I'm always cry when I listen to this song. One of the mysteries of life people who we like, care about, we don't know the whereabout. It's like the love we have we need to keep in a special place in our heart util the time do the part. Thank you so much Alanis, for expressing exactly we feel.
this song made me realize that until i met my wife, those other relationships before her had a deep significance but where a means to an end, there were times when i broke up with one of them i felt i wasn´t gonna be able to find somebody who loved me as much as i can, but here we are, my wife, my best friend, my partner was just around the corner
I’m a 60 year old man. Watching June 2020. The World and the USA is so FUCKED UP. This song has a different meaning to other people. For me her voice is helping me decompress. Always thought she was really cute. Be safe everyone
This is my favorite Alanis song. I love how she pours her heart out and reflects on her exes. We can all relate to this...even if our exes are no longer a part of our lives, they still had a profound impact on us and helped shape us into who we are today.
There are people of a certain generation who have seen it, back when music channels had it in rotation when the video had come out. I think it's like one of those perfect songs of the Cold Y Generation (which I am part of), as the lyrics hit at so many points. I'll put Gen-X and Millennials in there as well, but Cold Y is between the two, and as the song and the video get to my feelings, I could posit, that it most captures the imagination of the Cold Y generation, too.
I've had a crush on Alanis most of my life Beautiful face, beautiful songwriter, beautiful voice. I know she lives in the USA but she is still a great Canadian girl.
Essa música me transporta lá para fins dos anos 90, quando não havia internet como hoje, adquirir um CD da Alanis era um acontecimento na vida. Ouvia sem parar. Tenho até hoje o CD original. Virou relíquia. Essa música era especial, eu trocava cartas com amigas que tinham um significado especial. Outros tempos.
sim, eu ouvi o cd a primeira vez num toca discos no Carrefour, ia todo dia e ouvia um trecho.. lembro ate hj como Front Row e Baba me impressionava.... bons tempos.
Aida, Jessica, Tina, Andrea, Angel, Lisa, Tanya, Jess, Susan, thank you for the good times we spent together and there will always be a place for you in my heart. ❤
Such a beautiful song, I used to listen to this song all the time... now listening to it, it takes me back to the lovers I had in my college years and 20's, and all the ups and downs i faced with them. I am very happily married now, but listening to this song brings back memories, both good and bad.
I remember when this would come on the radio a lot in early 1999. I could never imagine this being played on the radio now days! It's too amazing to be played along with the rest of the bullshit that is played today....
man this song hurts my heart so bad ....so many nice guys I let go and now I'm alone and wishing I hadn't messed up so bad. What was wrong with me ....?
Such sadness. I wish each of us was not so afraid of rejection or embarrassment as to talk about the things that really matter in a safe, judgment-free environment. This song is a testament to fear controlling our need to trust. I hope I never have to be so afraid of my partner that I could not talk about anything.
The way she kept herself open for love no matter how hurt she gets each time speaks for itself. This song hits harder each time I listen it and this was on the 1st CD I ever got for my 10th birthday 20+ years ago. Been a fan for as long as I can remember honestly! Love your music Alanis Morissette! This is how music should be. 🥰🥰🥰🙌🙌🙌
Love letters she wrote about past bfs by reflecting on her Past relationships & the shortcomings... With Fondness & frankness - i can't believe how young she was in 1999 to be so wise & this reflective. #SFIJ #mtvUplugged #JLP
The lyrics signify, truth, spiritual beauty. They are so touching and so relatable and I am just a teenager listening to this. I love Alanis, she is my inspiration.
Hitting me now that “Dear, Matthew”, is no doubt about her quick time with Dave Matthews. They really fell for each other on the making of Before These Crowded Streets where she assisted. You can see in the documentary on the making of the album. Wow this is very nostalgic.
Listening to this reminds me of my past relationships and how they shaped me and made nostalgic for some of those blokes and wonder what they're doing now...
Isn’t it weird to think of our past relationships. We used to be together everyday and talk about pointless things and then it’s over. But, it shapes you. Happy times…sad times…I appreciate it all…
The way Terrence looks at her at the end of his clip ... Beautiful acting, you can see so much in his eyes. Love, nostalgia, regret, hope, resignation, I can see it all there :)
UNSENT LYRICS [Verse 1] Dear Matthew, I like you a lot I realize you're in a relationship with someone right now And I respect that I would like you to know that if you're ever single in the future And you want to come visit me in California I would be open to spending time with you And finding out how old you were When you wrote your first song [Verse 2] Dear Jonathan, I liked you too much I used to be attracted to boys who would lie to me And think solely about themselves And you were plenty self-destructive for my taste at the time I used to say the more tragic the better The truth is whenever I think of the early 90's Your face comes up with a vengeance Like it was yesterday [Verse 3] Dear Terrance, I love you muchly You've been nothing but open hearted and Emotionally available and supportive And nurturing and consummately there for me I kept drawing you in And pushing you away I remember how beautiful it was to Fall asleep on your couch and cry in front of you for the first time You were the best platform from which to jump beyond myself What was wrong with me? [Verse 4] Dear Marcus, you rocked my world You had a charismatic way about you with the women And you got me seriously thinking about spirituality And you wouldn't let me get away with kicking my own ass But I could never really feel relaxed and looked out for around you though And that stopped us from going any further than we did And it's kind of too bad because we could've had much more fun [Verse 5] Dear Lou, we learned so much I realize we won't be able to talk for some time And I understand that as I do you The long distance thing was the hardest and we did as well as we could We were together during a very tumultuous time in our lives I will always have your back and be curious about you About your career, your whereabouts
one of my favorite visual artists, performance artist Marina Abramovic, said in her manifesto, "an artist must look deep inside himself for inspiration, the deeper he looks inside himself, the more universal he becomes" this song and video are just a perfect example of that.
Sombody in 2024? Thank you Dear Alanis
Meeeee
My favorite Alanis Morrisette song. It's impossible to get older without looking back with some regrets.
This song reminds me of my girlfriend from the mid-90's. Letting her go was my biggest regret. She is newly single and just as mesmerizing to me now as she was then.
Same, I don't understood the lyrics but it's so beautiful
Well said!
@@jada6632 Sounds to me like you should meet for a coffee. :)
@@willow100cm We texted for a few months and I totally chickened out.....and I think she is seeing someone else now.
As a boy who broke some hearts back in the day I'm not ashamed to admit I cried to this song and I felt like I matured a lot listening to another perspective
I am sure those boys whose hearts you broke have moved on. 😄
Yes. Make peace with the past.
@@superdoobo why r u assuming their sexuality. so weird…
@@audreyharper1234 Let me help you with Grammar: "Why are you amusing their sexuality?" That's so weird.
@@superdoobo didn’t ask don’t care and you’re actually wrong. u have that completely wrong vernacular and verbiage. go take a vocabulary lesson u uneducated bafoon, it’s assuming not amusing u airhead
this song hits deeper as time goes on, her music is painfully profound.
That's the truth.
For real.
alas, the magic of Alanis along with the extraordinary talent.
Never really thought about the words when I was growing up.... Now, they mean everything.
Everyone of these ex is someone I have had in my life...including the very last one.
This video deserves a 4K remaster.
Damn, this song is such memories for me, when your young and you think that love is love, you have no idea what love truly is until you've had your heart broken, ripped apart and somehow find a way to let someone who truly loves you repairs it, this song is just a real reminder of all the times I had to repair my heart for myself, for the right person to come along, and love me.
what a beautiful comment 💿🫶
@@joan-yw1pe Thank you, it's my honesty. This song is beautiful ❤️
❤
Still looking for the one who will know what to do with the fire in my eyes
Thank you for sharing such important wisdom 🙏
My loved younger brother who was in his early 30's at the time cried with this song many times, we used to hang on my garage ,drink a few beers and listen to many of our favorite artists, we were pretty close, I saw him as my son, I'm 8 years older than him, he passed away in 2015, left a big hole in my heart, now this song makes me cry every time. 😢
Beautiful comment! My sincere condolences to you...
My condolences
My brother is eight years older. I think theres something magical about that age difference... its almost like raising ur own, getting to teach them about the world. I used to love hearing my brothers stories and all the grown uo shit he got experience and that I would too one day. Im sure ur brother admired you and looked up to you. I absolutely adore my older brother. Even tho im a girl and very feminine, he always treated me like one of his boys and I love it. ❤ Im sorry about ur loss. Im sure you have many memories that you wilk forvever cherish. Sending positive vibes from toronto, happy holidays.
@@doeeyes2, thank you, , I'm hoping you both live a happy long life.
I m so sorry for your lost
This song bring back such nostalgie. I'm 41 y/o now and I can't help but think about how better life was back then and how it could have been better if I had made different choices. This is a BEAUTIFUL song and it will always have a special place in my heart :)
think the same
Exactly...I'm 42 (3/11/79)...I hadn't heard this in years and listened a couple weeks ago and it just broke me...the nostalgia of my youth, the heartbreaks I thought I would never recover from, the heartbreaks I caused, the fun that I've had, the miserable times that I've had, just everything hits so hard.
And obviously the thoughts of how things would be if I made different choices...'I used to be attracted to boys who would lie to me, the more self destructive the better' kills me because I got married after that to someone who treated me like a queen and then I left....
41 too 8/6/80.
I think we all think that way some times and RIP to Taylor Hawkins!
@@srhbluerain what is it that makes that happen? Is it just too boring to know someone is willing to die for you?
I am mostly over all those days,, but the occasional ramble thru time with Alanis makes me wistful. I actually found someone who inspired me like Alanis' music touched my heart, and I finally let her in. After 32 years of being single and fairly sure that was the way to be. 13 years later, only one hurtful argument in all that time, and she left,,, never a plate thrown, never a hissed name called. She couldn't bear a child, and left in the confusion of finding that out. I've walked alone since.
I'm getting to believe that straight line steadfast solid dudes just aren't appreciated anymore.
This is a weird day. We're in the middle of a pandemic and subsequent self isolation. It's my birthday, I live alone. So, the best I can do is reflect, which brought me here. I hope this finds you future person on the other side of this ❤️
EDIT: Well, this was a weird year. Dear future person (maybe me again?) we made it.
Cat_in_a_lesuire_suit Life brings people together unexpectedly, never lose hope! He/she’s out there! And happy belated birthday. 😌
Happy belated birthday, fancy cat.
Happy belated birthday!
Hey, happy birthday for then. Lockdown greetings from England, August 2020.
i want to get eaten by wild animal
I still get choked up at Alanis' vulnerability throughout this video. She is an amazing songwriter...simply wonderful.
She is so GEMINI! I guess every gemini person see yourself in this song.
Im.a Gemini but I want to win.
A woman speaking openly to her various ex lovers about what she learned and felt. She admits feeling everything from love to anger. She is the focus and the men are supportive her story - for a change. It is so bad ass and beautiful.
toxic femininity
It so perfectly brings up many different relationship situations during the song which most have us have all dealt with at some point, men or women.
Alanis is such a great songwriter. Here she sings about past relationships and what she learned from each one. I don't know why I feel sad when I listen to this song, I guess it makes me think of bad past relationships.
I have experienced the Terrance and Lou. Terrance was too available and I felt smothered with too much affection and attention. Today, I miss that the most. Lou and I were working on highly stressful degrees, he in medicine, me in the middle of switching from a music major to criminal justice. We just got burnt out and really didn't know how to make it work. Ultimately we just parted ways, with no argument, no lashing out. We just stopped communicating, and after graduation I moved and never heard from him again.
The first to fall for me was "Terrence", and I rejected him (stupid move of me, I know), because he began asking a question I did not think he'd ask, as I felt at the time, that he'd become possessive of me. Now I would very much like to have a "Terrence".
"Jonathan" was the tragic type, sure, and not particularly honest. But he was the one to reject me, and pushed me away. He just looked for the first reason to do it.
I think I met "Marcus" once, but that was it, because he ruined it.
A former friend is a mix of "Matthew" (a musician) and "Lou".
A current friend is a bit like "Terrence", but he has been, and always will be a friend.
This came out when I was 14 or 15. So did not understand this song or video...but I sure do now in my 30s....
+netDSgirl crushing ... isnt it?!?
very
I know right? seems like yesterday
if only ...
netDSgirl I totally relate! Similarly likened to your year of transgender feelings where u wore your mom's cloths.
Unsent letters to her various bfs or exes...this song is so damn unconventional...I love the way she pours her heart out...one of my fav videos...
a lovely constructed love song
thanks for solving the riddle i had for so long about the title of the song 🙏
Agreed
fuccking boring dialogues
I just love the song and her honesty. People really can still learn things.
Without fail, this song makes me cry every time.
My cat is named Alanis
cool cat
me too...not sure why...
Me too
i feel you, i can relate to this song so much, i do not know why...
Listening in 2018, I love this song even more. 20 years later.
41 years old, this song just keeps making more sense. Amazing
41 too when I came here... 8/6/80 and this resonates so much deeper... Taylor Hawskins passing brought me here this time.
This is a highly under-rated Alanis Song about the value of friendship in our lives and how it fosters us all.
One of the most perfect songs about relationships ever written. It never gets old. I think of all the thoughts I've had about former loves that I could pen into letters unsent. She is out of favor now, but one day I think the world will celebrate her for the enduring poet and artist she is.
It's 2020 - I'm now 51 years old. Still makes me sob.
Cannot believe I haven’t heard this track before today. Typical Alanis, sounds fantastic with a stunning instrumental behind it. I need to look beyond jagged little pill
It’s incredible how the people who come in and out of our lives can be amazing teachers isn’t it? In positive ways and negative too.
Brings me to tears since the 90's. ❤
It wasn't just jagged little pill that I loved from her catalog... I love this song!
She portrays her feelings well. You can see how hurt she is when she realizes what Marcus is talking about. On an unrelated vein, I love her smile.
And i love the way she smile for Matthew and Terrence 💗
Dear Lou, we learned so much...
I realize we won't be able to talk for sometime, and I understand that as I do you
The long distance thing was the hardest and we did as well as we could...
we were together during a very tumultous time in our lives
I will always have your back and be corious about you...
...About your career, your whereabouts.
Most sad letter 😢
Thats my favorite part too. 🖤🖤
Alanis, like always, teaching us a lot about life... After I heard this song when released, I made the writing goodbye letters to my former significant others when we went apart. Still do, and trust me, It helps a lot!!!
I'm always cry when I listen to this song. One of the mysteries of life people who we like, care about, we don't know the whereabout. It's like the love we have we need to keep in a special place in our heart util the time do the part. Thank you so much Alanis, for expressing exactly we feel.
Such a beautiful unappreciated song. melts my heart and gives me goosebumps whenever I hear it
unsent , a love story with no ending , BEAUTIFUL song
One of my many favourites by Alanis.''
''Dear Terrance, I love you muchly'' only Alanis could have written that line.
My favorite Alanis song ever! It is so pure & beautiful! I think I have listened to it over 100 times!!!!
Una de mis canciones favoritas, tendré la oportunidad de verla en su concierto el 25 de marzo 2025. Saludos desde el Perú y nos vemos ese día.
this song made me realize that until i met my wife, those other relationships before her had a deep significance but where a means to an end, there were times when i broke up with one of them i felt i wasn´t gonna be able to find somebody who loved me as much as i can, but here we are, my wife, my best friend, my partner was just around the corner
I’m a 60 year old man. Watching June 2020. The World and the USA is so FUCKED UP. This song has a different meaning to other people. For me her voice is helping me decompress. Always thought she was really cute. Be safe everyone
And what do you think in 2024?
This is my favorite Alanis song. I love how she pours her heart out and reflects on her exes. We can all relate to this...even if our exes are no longer a part of our lives, they still had a profound impact on us and helped shape us into who we are today.
What's really sad about this song is how most people haven't seen it!
There are people of a certain generation who have seen it, back when music channels had it in rotation when the video had come out. I think it's like one of those perfect songs of the Cold Y Generation (which I am part of), as the lyrics hit at so many points.
I'll put Gen-X and Millennials in there as well, but Cold Y is between the two, and as the song and the video get to my feelings, I could posit, that it most captures the imagination of the Cold Y generation, too.
@@mardus_ee I’ve heard Elder Millennial, and Xennial, but Cold Y is new to me.
@@candi6642 It was once on Wikipedia, too, but the article was removed for being "original research".
I relate to this so much I cried while watching it. Alanis just has a way with emotions and songwriting. My heart.....
I've had a crush on Alanis most of my life Beautiful face, beautiful songwriter, beautiful voice. I know she lives in the USA but she is still a great Canadian girl.
Local Girl Too! Ottawa!
This song is such an ultimate punch in the gut my goodness! Heard it after so so many years and it instantly brought tears to my eyes.
Best Alannis Morrisette song I think.
On that album.
Essa música me transporta lá para fins dos anos 90, quando não havia internet como hoje, adquirir um CD da Alanis era um acontecimento na vida. Ouvia sem parar. Tenho até hoje o CD original. Virou relíquia. Essa música era especial, eu trocava cartas com amigas que tinham um significado especial. Outros tempos.
sim, eu ouvi o cd a primeira vez num toca discos no Carrefour, ia todo dia e ouvia um trecho.. lembro ate hj como Front Row e Baba me impressionava.... bons tempos.
@@tukakids did you buy it
E a gente guardava cada centavo pra comprar porque era caro, mas valia a pena! Como valia! Tenho todos da colação
Até hj eu lembro quando eu comprei esse cd, foi no natal de 1998, junto com o Ray of Light da Madonna, bons tempos, discos maravilhosos.
Oliver songs remind me that I should be a positive person
Great song about past relationships. Love her and her music. Brings me back to my 20's being free and just having fun.
Aida, Jessica, Tina, Andrea, Angel, Lisa, Tanya, Jess, Susan, thank you for the good times we spent together and there will always be a place for you in my heart. ❤
this song takes me back to 1999
Acabo de encontrar esta canción q me parecía perdida 😢no la recordaba grande y gracias Alaniss es una noche muy melancolíca la de hoy😢
Love this song, and as many times as I heard it I've never seen the video. I love it though. The 90's and early 2000's were the best,
The 90s and 2000s really were the best. 😊🙌👍
Same here ✌🏻❤️
Such a beautiful song, I used to listen to this song all the time... now listening to it, it takes me back to the lovers I had in my college years and 20's, and all the ups and downs i faced with them. I am very happily married now, but listening to this song brings back memories, both good and bad.
Ben W nothin wrong with that at all.
I remember when this would come on the radio a lot in early 1999. I could never imagine this being played on the radio now days! It's too amazing to be played along with the rest of the bullshit that is played today....
Since the day it came out, it's always been my very favorite Alanis song. Simple yet so effective.
man this song hurts my heart so bad ....so many nice guys I let go and now I'm alone and wishing I hadn't messed up so bad. What was wrong with me ....?
I feel u so much....
We all feel that way sometime .
Keep smiling.
Me, it's the other way around; kept waiting for someone "BETTER" to come along. Now - alone, crippled up, not much prospects @ 55 yrs. If only ...
When I first heard this song in the 90s, I thought wow, she's a really eloquent lyricist. This song aged so nicely :)
This is what we call mature song writing and a wonderful video to match.
I don't know who cast the men for this music video, but they did a phenomenal job of matching each dude with the lyrics.
omg!! i;m here because of Cougar Town...had to see for myself!! love Alanis (I'm from Ottawa tooo) and LOVE Cougar Town!!
Such sadness. I wish each of us was not so afraid of rejection or embarrassment as to talk about the things that really matter in a safe, judgment-free environment. This song is a testament to fear controlling our need to trust. I hope I never have to be so afraid of my partner that I could not talk about anything.
Well said. I totally agree. :-)
Hairmetallurgist o
The way she kept herself open for love no matter how hurt she gets each time speaks for itself. This song hits harder each time I listen it and this was on the 1st CD I ever got for my 10th birthday 20+ years ago. Been a fan for as long as I can remember honestly! Love your music Alanis Morissette! This is how music should be. 🥰🥰🥰🙌🙌🙌
Beautiful
Alanis has an amazing ability to take something so specifically personal and make it sound universal.
"I'd like you to know that you're every single in the future".......... very cool line
Such a fantastic track. Alanis is an eloquent artist
Love letters she wrote about past bfs by reflecting on her Past relationships & the shortcomings... With Fondness & frankness - i can't believe how young she was in 1999 to be so wise & this reflective. #SFIJ #mtvUplugged #JLP
This song is so real. Video is great too! Alanis rocks!
Dear me, sometimes I wish I never doubted you, we could have made it far. But those days are gone so I should let 'em go. Thank you Alanis!
This song had such a profound HIT on my personal life - I dont know if i love it or hate it !
Alanis - Love your music n love your soul !
this song has that auto-bittersweet aura about it, force you to look back in that way. Makes me in tears without fail.
The lyrics signify, truth, spiritual beauty. They are so touching and so relatable and I am just a teenager listening to this. I love Alanis, she is my inspiration.
This song always amazed me, like for 20 years straight, but it's only now that I noticed that its lyrics are unrhymed poetry.
I miss alanis so much! I remember buying a cassette tape of this album when I was 16!! she's one of my favorite!
In my opinion, she is a such a raw talent and someone who is as true as it can be when it comes to be herself. Amazing spirit. ❤️
By far her best song. I relate to this kind of pain.
love this song. always did... lyrics hit me hard, played this song w/ guitar at open mic night recently.
Hitting me now that “Dear, Matthew”, is no doubt about her quick time with Dave Matthews. They really fell for each other on the making of Before These Crowded Streets where she assisted. You can see in the documentary on the making of the album. Wow this is very nostalgic.
Love this brilliant love this lady brilliant music and singing xx🏍🏍💙❤️💜
Listening to this reminds me of my past relationships and how they shaped me and made nostalgic for some of those blokes and wonder what they're doing now...
Well, Alanis is SO much fun. I really like her. :)
Another great song by Alanis Morissette !!! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
This Song is so much about at Looking back at times .. so easy to get sad.. but also thankfull…
came here to see if Greyson from Cougar Town was really in the video & he is!!! :D
omg me too!!
Charlene Zai LOL Three years later and here I am doing the same thing.
Love when they made an episode about him being in Alanis' video.
same
Me too 🤦🏾♂️... its 2020 smh .. where have I been😂😂😂
Great song and production .Wish it was longer .
There’s an extended version which is the demo version, with like 3 extra verses. U can find it here on RUclips “Alanis Morissette Unsent Demo Version”
She makes my soul weep i always listen to her when im sad makes me sing (badly) which always makes me feel better. Music heals.
Any artist sing like Alanis nowadays?? I dont think so. What a voice
so sad, makes me cry....geat song and video..
Isn’t it weird to think of our past relationships. We used to be together everyday and talk about pointless things and then it’s over. But, it shapes you. Happy times…sad times…I appreciate it all…
'The More Tragic the better, What was Wrong with me'...? We love, we grow, we learn, we remember... #SelfLove=Selfworth❤️
The way Terrence looks at her at the end of his clip ... Beautiful acting, you can see so much in his eyes. Love, nostalgia, regret, hope, resignation, I can see it all there :)
I think that's Lou. Terrance is the guy in the brown corduroy jacket who seems the most in touch with himself.
UNSENT LYRICS
[Verse 1]
Dear Matthew, I like you a lot
I realize you're in a relationship with someone right now
And I respect that
I would like you to know that if you're ever single in the future
And you want to come visit me in California
I would be open to spending time with you
And finding out how old you were
When you wrote your first song
[Verse 2]
Dear Jonathan, I liked you too much
I used to be attracted to boys who would lie to me
And think solely about themselves
And you were plenty self-destructive for my taste at the time
I used to say the more tragic the better
The truth is whenever I think of the early 90's
Your face comes up with a vengeance
Like it was yesterday
[Verse 3]
Dear Terrance, I love you muchly
You've been nothing but open hearted and
Emotionally available and supportive
And nurturing and consummately there for me
I kept drawing you in
And pushing you away
I remember how beautiful it was to
Fall asleep on your couch and cry in front of you for the first time
You were the best platform from which to jump beyond myself
What was wrong with me?
[Verse 4]
Dear Marcus, you rocked my world
You had a charismatic way about you with the women
And you got me seriously thinking about spirituality
And you wouldn't let me get away with kicking my own ass
But I could never really feel relaxed and looked out for around you though
And that stopped us from going any further than we did
And it's kind of too bad because we could've had much more fun
[Verse 5]
Dear Lou, we learned so much
I realize we won't be able to talk for some time
And I understand that as I do you
The long distance thing was the hardest and we did as well as we could
We were together during a very tumultuous time in our lives
I will always have your back and be curious about you
About your career, your whereabouts
I love lou too
The red flags! Its amazing how outside people always see it but those of us in it, we never do.
Incredible. This is now one of my favorite songs
Alanis Morissette's Masterpieces! Love you Alanis!! ✌️out!
song gives me chills for some reason...
Thank you Lain!! You said it beautifully undone 🙏
i feel so reflected with this song.
The honesty in this track can never be replicated because of the immediacy and insistence of social media. A privilege to have turned 40 in 2014.
I LOVE her! Such soul baring...and what a voice!
Josh Hopkins is truly BREATHTAKING.
one of my favorite visual artists, performance artist Marina Abramovic, said in her manifesto, "an artist must look deep inside himself for inspiration, the deeper he looks inside himself, the more universal he becomes" this song and video are just a perfect example of that.
THIS VIDEO IS BRILLIANT
and of course, the song is unparalleled...!