Conversation heart to heart... now I can understand that meme of a Russian guy saying "boobs are fine, but in girls I prefer the soul". This is so sweet, I'm melting qwq
I'm American also and I hate small talk. I deliberately keep most people away because relationships are so superficial. I'm half Slavic so wondering if it's because of that.
Fedor, I just came back from Moscow. I spent 7 days (really 6 because my last day I had to go to the airport early in the morning), and I had an awesome time. The city is beautiful, the food was great, and I didn't even get to see everything I wanted. I was able to get by because my vocabulary is good enough, however I seriously underestimated how important listening skills are; I couldn't understand anybody. I need serious improvement for the next time I go back, and I will certainly be investing in some real classes. Thank you for what you do, a lot of my language skills that helped me while I was over there were from your channel.
I trained my listening by listening to podcasts which I find interesting. Or interviews from people you find interesting such as stars, sports people etc. Or a book you already read in your language and don't mind hearing in audio again in russian.
@@saidelbiev5326 Those are great suggestions, thanks! My problem is I'm so used to watching with subtitles that as soon as the subtitles are gone I'm completely lost. I did try watching "Moscow Does Not Believe in Tears" a second time without subtitles and I was completely lost. The audiobook is a good idea, Metro 2033 is my favorite book series, maybe I can give that a try.
You are right about the conversations. I converted to Russian Orthodoxy 20 years ago and immediately noticed the change in the level of talk between Russians and Westerners
I visited Russia twice . While in Moscow , I found an eatery with common tables . Patrons sat with me and were warm and friendly . I also took a train from Moscow to Gagarin and sat across from an older couple . We ended up sharing family photos . Further , she even gave me snacks ! I found people warm and hospitable the whole trip . Frankly, I was blown away ! Someday I hope to return ❤ .
A society that is socially recluse on the street, but so respectful, caring and inclusive to friends and family, and expect you to do the same This speaks to me more than anything.
Fell in love with Russia.Leaving on my third visit there soon😍As a South African took some time not to smile all the time.We are a smiley and talkative nation....😊
The thing about not being able to have a heart to heart with someone in the states really hit me. I feel like here everyone's guarded, leery of each other and afraid to show their weaknesses for fear of ostracization or losing face. Also people just don't trust each other like they used to. In the states you get it drilled into you that you look out for yourself first and foremost. To me, it's deeply unhealthy on a psychological and even spiritual level.
Hi Fedor, i'm from Brazil and start watch your videos recently... i'm watching a lot of your old videos. It is been very useful to help me to learn russian... i'm studying russian by myself and since i discovered your chanel i subscribed. Thank you for your tips and i'm sorry for my bad english. Tks 🇷🇺🇧🇷👍
Your English is fantastic! No need to apologize at all. In fact, it’s quite impressive that you speak multiple languages. I know this is common in many countries, especially in Europe, but in the USA many people only speak English and find no need to learn another language, which I find sad.
Для россиян зачастую даже в собственной стране путешествовать уже дорого, а чтобы посетить все достопримечательности уйдёт очень много времени, годы. Но все хотят увидеть стандартный набор из чудес света и рекордов Гиннеса.
When I was in Russia in the summer I wanted to buy 6 roses and the lady said "ШЕСТЬ!?" to which I sad да and she responds "НЕТ НЕТ НЕТ, семь" I bought 7 roses and I thought it was a bit strange, looking at the bunch 7 seemed to fit together in a better shape which is what I thought it was but now I understand, thank you!
Interesting, as always ;) I've been to Russia before but there's always something to learn. Your channel has helped me with my language skills on my earlier trip quite a lot ;) Looking forward to learning more and visiting russia again ✌🏼
Russian smile thing in few sentences. "Dude, did you know in my country it is polite to hug a man you've just met? It's called being positive. Why didn't you hug him back, are you grumpy? What do you mean you don't hug strangers? It's basic politeness and positivity!" Yeah, that's how it feels when a stranger smiles to me. Like he hugged me. Who tf are you and what do you want...
About a smile. I think it’s not customary to smile on the street also because, basically, it will not look like politeness or goodwill, but as if you are laughing at this person. And even if you don't mean it, the other person may see it differently and, let's be honest, a lot of people won't like it and might want to be rude in return.
I can't wrap my mind around the fact that people smile at strangers for now reason just because they made an eye contact. It seems so draining. Has happened to me a few times and I felt so awkward and weird. It's different from the smile after saying couple of words to eachother, but along with the eyecontact only? Nah
It is not always like that. In Canada where people are known for being polite this happens only once in a while. For example, when we say sorry to strangers (who actually could have just hit you accidentally).
it sounds weird to me too, i live in the UK where we go out of our way to interact as little with people as possible lol, people smiling at me would make me feel very uncomfortable and like im about to be murdered
@@ben1147 really you do this only when you are forced to (i.e. interaction with stranger) or you are passing your colleague or neighbour you don't really care for. Other than that no one smiles at strangers.
I think if you’re raised in a culture where most people smile/speak/nod to strangers it’s not that odd or draining. It’s actually more of an automatic response than anything. If you visit the southern USA you’ll find that most people will actively acknowledge everyone, whether they know them or not. We aren’t trying to do it to upset people or be nosy though. I live in a town with a lot of tourists because we have a National park and I am always speaking to strangers. Just yesterday I saw a woman taking photographs of the Mississippi River in a location that is okay, but not exceptionally pretty so I stopped my car and rolled down my window to tell her that if she was interested in BETTER places to photograph the river I’d be happy to tell her. At first I think she was scared because a stranger had stopped to speak to her but she did want to know good places to take photos so she took my advice. After that I said goodbye and I hope she enjoyed her stay. I can definitely see where this would be odd if you are not accustomed to that, but I genuinely DO want visitors to my town to enjoy their stay and feel it’s my duty to help make that happen.
‘If you left your home and then realized that you forgot something, don’t come back but if you really have to, first thing to do when entering the home is looking at mirror and smile’. At first I thought my Ukrainian wife lost her mind but later on I came to know that it’s kind of tradition. Pls tell us if you have something similar in Russia too :))
100 percent true, there is such a sign. It is believed that your road or journey will be unsuccessful, like a sign with a black cat that crossed your path.
Listening to you makes me miss my Russian friends. I can get my Russian fix from listening to you. You have the true Russian soul, especially since you do the banyan!
Россия Большая, красивая и великая страна, с Лучшие военные и армия в мире Что за история Интересная культура Добрый и патриотичный человек И гениальный Путин, которого все любят Страна, которая всегда помогает, поддерживает колонизированные страны. Вот почему Индонезия и Россия всегда были хорошими друзьями. ❤ Браво Россия урааааа....
6:45 yeah in America, the reason we don't talk heart-to-heart is that it's seen as rude and oversharing, lol. The common rule of thumb is "I'm fine" = "I literally want to die", "it's going" = "I've never had a worse day in my life", and "I'm good" = "if I keep talking I'm going to cry". A lot of American culture was built on Christian Puritanism, so having any mental or emotional problem is seen as being Crazy or Unstable or Depressed, so you have to be Normal.
when you wrote "we jump in the show", did you subconsciously mix up 'n' with 'н' or was it just a typo? asking just out of curiosity great video as always!
It's not just you, it's a problem in the States, I think. I've lived here my whole life and most of school had one group of friends. We were all very close. Once out of high school, I entered college, knowing basically nobody. NO ONE wants to get personal. They don't hardly talk about personal stuff or have any kind of deep conversations with you. That's not to say I don't like the people I'm around (I do), but they don't want those kind of relationships. I'm just your average American and I crave that sort of friendship. Haven't had it since I was a kid. The only way I've had something like that with anybody is with a buddy of mine. We decided to go get food before a late night class and we actually talked. It was nice.
I think I'll fit right in to Russian culture because I don't usually smile alot, and very reserve until I get to know someone better or feel a level of comfort with them which can take a very long time. I keep shady people at arm's length. People where I live don't respond to well with that. They perceive me as being aloof and stand-offish. If that is the norm in Russia, I think I will be perfectly fine with that.
I feel like I've seen a dozen of roses be a thing in Russia - just not any other even number. Also, the whole "dress up to go take out the trash" thing is a bit outdated now. Women don't always dress up nowadays. For some that's not even their style at all and they prefer to look casual generally. But plenty of women go out to the corner shop in their robes.. Maybe less so in big cities, but in smaller towns it's only a specific kind of crowd that would take things as far as putting on makeup to go to the corner shop..
Sounded a bit outdated when i heard it lol. It would be a bit weird to expect women to dress up everywhere they go when men can wear whatever they want. Thanks for the response
Regarding roses, not necessarily. You can give just one flower as a present as well. All in all gifting an even number of flowers ia huge no because even number of flowers is prepared for burial ceremonies.
Oh no never. What do I look like bringing 12 Roses to a Birthday party. Thats like kicking people in the belly. I cant Imagine a Russian doing that. Under NO circumstances other than a funeral.
Its considered corteous but personally I don`t do it to people I don`t like or strangers I`ll not give them that. I view it as a psych thing & vinegar gets the same back from me.
I‘m watching and learning Russian because I wanna travel and I have a friend from Электросталь and probably in near future a girlfriend from Чебоксары^^ Thank you Fedor
I am the same way. I don’t smile at strangers either! Too me, it’s more important to keep happiness in one’s heart than fake a smile. I met a lot of people that look happy but aren’t. I never liked feigned smiling.
Agreed!!! But I do smile with strangers a lot...Why? Here is the truth. I'm scared of being disliked because of my own insecurities. I smile to diffuse any possible conflict. I smile because I feel weak in character. It is better not to smile. Be polite. Be respectful. But do not smile with strangers. Many will see it as a weakness. Not as a virtue. It is the ugly human condition. I also noticed that 90% of women do not smile. And I also noticed that 50% of men do not smile. Women do not smile as a self-defense mechanism because they do not want to be accosted and taken advantage of or being approached by sexual perverts and predators. When a woman does not smile she is trying to say don't don't mess with me. When a man smiles he's trying to say please like me. These men that smile usually smile at women and the women do not reciprocate the smile. Now there is a small percentage of women that do smile they usually married.
@@damianlopez7630 I don’t smile either too signal weakness. I heard that smiling is seen as more feminine and women tend to prefer men who look serious. Also, I heard this is true especially in Eastern European cultures and Middle Eastern cultures that women don’t smile at men so they don’t get the wrong idea.
Hi Fedor. I trust you and your wife are enjoying your time in Russia with family and friends. At the dinner table do we help ourselves or do we wait until we are asked? Keep up the good work!
It's pretty much the same as in USA. You do not want to start first though. Unless the host offers you to do so. Just wait until everyone is at the table and start your meal like everyone else. The only difference between Russian and American way of dining is we do not prefer buffet style. We usually put all food on the table where we dine at. You would see a lot of deli meat, fish, salads, veggies, etc. And of course, if a plate is far away from you, you would ask other person to pass it to you or send your plate to them. Later the host would bring the main course and send it around or stop by every guest and put food on the plate. So people would just sit together for hours this way munching on stuff, drinking and conversing. Then the host would clean the table and prepare it for dessert. And again you would enjoy it for another hour or so. Of course it would not be unrare to dance or sing in between. Love Russian gatherings like this!
Honestly it is changing in America. People are not as friendly as they once were. I notice nowadays when I pass people, they never make eye contact and definitely never smile or say hey. It used to happen ALL THE TIME and it was very charming and warming experience. It's a good thing. It really has the intention of "we are all in this together", let's make each other's day/life/existence a little brighter, a little happier. But because of the surge of social media and being glued to devices, Americans have become much less social and open with strangers versus before tech took over in say, the 80s and 90s and before. I miss how people once were in my country. It used to be a great country, but it just goes downhill more and more every day.
In the US, people often smile at strangers in the suburbs or more rural areas. In New York City, do NOT smile at strangers. It's weird and there are simply too many people. In NYC, smiling at strangers makes you look creepy or like an outsider.
Conversely, I live in the Deep South and it’s considered rude to not smile and/or wave to everyone, even strangers. It’s so interesting to see the cultural differences not only across international borders but also within our own country.
@@olegpetrov2617 New England is over 1200 miles (2000 km) from where I live. My town is on the Mississippi River not far from New Orleans. It is similar to the distance between St. Petersburg and Sochi.
Did you know in the US, dudes will tell random strangers who are females "Smile!" If they see us sitting there straight faced. It is SO ANNOYING. Wtf why the fuck should I be smiling!! I wish I could go back to all those times when I was younger and pretend to be Russian at those times 😂😂😂
🤔 So... You've been counting the minutes to get to visit Russia, you finally make it and can't wait to meet the locals and practice your Russian BUT they have no clue you're a tourist. 😂 Dude, can we just have a tutorial on how to make friends in Russia since smiling is out of question? 😂
That's a really neat little video Feodor. You didn't mention an important fact about the banya: that you go there naked, not with knee length swim trunks 😁
What he left out is that banya is not just a sauna - you literally wash yourself there. Therefore, another outcome - everyone in the banya has their weiners in the open. So you really have to be close friends with someone you invite to banya - if you got invited, you're not a stranger to the host.
There was that russian woman that smiled at me one day while in the metro station and stared.. I couldn't believe my eyes because I know russians don't smile at strangers... then she suddenly started playing with a laser pointer and blowing bubbles at me.. *ah that explains it.*
A place where I’m not expected to be smiling all the time? Sounds pretty nice because the amount of times I’ve had people ask me “are you ok? Why aren’t you smiling is something wrong?” Like no my face is just like that all the time😂
Great video, I love this series. I had never heard about sitting down for a minute before leaving for trips! I wonder how it originated such that most people do it.
Hi! This tradition has pretty interesting origins. It came from the Old Rus times. In slavs mythology - in Russian particulary - there is a spirit of a house, so-called Domovoy (Домовой). Many centuries ago people believed, that there are Domovoys in every house. Domovoys were patrons of a house and the family living in it. They could provide farmers with good harvest, warn people about any troubles or even guard them from illness. But they could also became angry with people, if they were doing something wrong. In that case Domovoys could hide things from people, make scary noises, eat their food. So it was very important to become a friend of your Domovoy and keep things that way. With that purpose, for example, people used to leave a bowl of milk near the camin for the night, so that Domovoy could drink it. And the another tradition was exactly sitting for a minute before leaving for a long trip (посидеть на дорожку). In that way you showed respect to the Domovoy, kind of asking him for a permission to leave the house. During this minute Domovoy could also give a sign to the person leaving the house - like loud noises or dishes falling to the floor. That meant, that there is danger waiting for him on the road, and people could even cancel the trip and stay home in this situation. Sorry for the lot of words. : )
@@КириллЮгай-б3з Thank you so much for the explanation! I had heard a little about the domovoy before, but I had no idea it related to this. I feel like there is always so much more to know about Slavic mythology, and the influences still remaining from it today are fascinating. I'm American, and our collective "culture" only goes back a couple hundred years or so, all of which has happened within the "modern" era - sometimes I'm a little jealous of peoples, like the Slavs, who can trace their cultural roots back for over a thousand years!
To be fair i would not smile to a stranger as a portuguese myself i can tell that i might feel happy but i do not expressed it so that's why i view smiling as "fake" emotion because i don't do it when i am happy
Very interesting traditions. In my country we usually give or send a dozen or half a dozen flowers (even number) for any occasion. The number of flowers you buy depends on your budget. The kind of flower or its color speaks of the occasion. There is a special kind of flower that is used in funerals or cemeteries. It would be a huge mistake to give them to somebody for any other reason, no matter the number of them.
You have real conversations with your friends, but if you visited my house and we are casual aqueintences, we would have a very superficial conversation. If you visit a Russian aqueintence, the questions they'll ask you, or what they would tell you about themselves, would be far more personal than the normative chitchat of a social gathering here (US).
I had to get a taxi ride from one part of Kislovodsk to the other. My wife (Russian) was with me and the driver had such a deep voice, yet he looked so young. He never smiled, and he said very little. I figured a guy like this had zero sense of humor. I remember one of my little lessons about tipping, so when we got to our destination, I gave him 500 rubles when the total was 420ish and I was like, "На чаи." and he scared me with the way he laughed. He was like, "huh huh huh huh huh..." My wife said, "I know you learned that in the Earworms music application, but we don't really use that." Cool guy. Never thought I would hear that guy laugh, ever. Well, I was wrong.
@@Jaytecx I have already written an answer to one of the viewers. For Russians, sincerity in a smile is important! The Western habit of smiling at everyone is very doubtful, because it is insincere, this smile of a merchant who wants to sell you junk or a service staff who grovels before you! Sincerity is possible only between people between whom there is trust, therefore, they have long been familiar and tested in real life!
я из таганрога - у нас не особо по баням ходят. так, иногда - но это больше по-сибирски/холодным регионам, а не по всей россии в качестве постоянного заняния
We don't always answer fully. Typically it is 50x50. So both ways are acceptable. The remaining observations I am inclined to agree with. Just note that while loving to have guests over, Russians can live for decades alongside their neighbours and not even know their names, let alone greet them. It is not always like that but in large cities this is something very common.
When some one says "kak dela" in Russian, is it acceptable or okay to not answer at all? Or is that considered rude? In English it is okay to not answer because "how are you" is more like "hi" than a real question.
@@pissupehelwan no, you need to provide an answer. Not having one will be awkward. Да все в порядке, Потихоньку, Да всё ничего, Живу помаленьку, Да вроде неплохо и т.п.
After he explained the reason for an odd number of flowers it made sense to me though. I’ve noticed odd numbers of flowers in films made in several Eastern European countries and just thought that was the customary way that they were sold. I did not realize there was a reason. But it is a good thing to know because I might have been invited to someone’s home and brought flowers as a gift and accidentally upset my host instead.
@@evl1536 Hey, I’m American and I don’t get people who actually believe that stuff. I’ve always viewed them like fortune cookies, they’re silly and mean nothing as far as determining what happens in your life.
There are more weird superstitions in Russia and other Russian speaking countries. Some examples: - Don't put empty bottles on a table - Don't cross someone's way with an empty bucket - Don't whistle in a building - Don't shake someone's hand over a doorstep - Don't return your debt in the evening - Don't put money on a bed or a couch - If a black cat crosses your way, stop! The most weird thing is that a lot of people who do not really believe in superstitions still follow all this BS, just because "everyone else" does.
Most likely no, it is ok to refuse. Just add why so that the hosts didn't take it personally. Unless you are somewhere in the remote village where people are well drunken already - refusal might be a problem in there.
Alright, I can take that trade off. You don't smile frivolously (even though I like smiling at everyone,) but when you are present you show up entirely. So no, it's not just you, people in the states are generally bred to be shallow. It's unfortunate. Hо, мне нравится твой видит за Россия. Kak плохого лежат это?
Hi Fyodor- I noticed two additional things: 1. In the Banya guys take big, long leaves and swat each other on the back with them, 2. When guests visit for a meal, before starting there are THREE toasts: a. Guests thanking host, b. Host thanks guests, c. Each persons mentions a loved one who died most recently and the people lift their glasses up high, not touching other glasses. It was poignant, but I was shocked.
The third toast is usually symbolic. At a wedding, for example, the third toast is for the parents, and if on military holidays, then for the dead, depends on the company and the situation. But if they drink to the dead, then they do not clink with glasses and usually stand.
My husband is Russian, and all our friends are Ukrainian, and visit each other often, and I have never seen anyone do what you describe prior to a meal.
My advice would be don't eat for at least three days before visiting a Russian home as a quest😂😂 It is polite to eat what a host cooked for you, if you resist, it would be kinda cold. If you eat with appetite and say that food is delicious - it's super nice
It definitely isn't you. Americans find it hard to trust people to share our secrets with. There's also a lot of judgement and division amongst us. Things have changed A LOT since I was a little kid in the 80's. Things were so different then. You could knock on your neighbor's door to borrow a cup of sugar, no problem. As a young kid, you could hop on your bicycle and ride downtown by yourself and come back at dark for dinner. It's just not the same anymore. It's just hard to trust people. People keep their doors locked, you better call first before dropping by... It just got weird. So, we may have only 1 or 2 people we feel safe enough with to confide in. We can't even trust most of our family members. Too much betrayal. It's the sad truth.😢
However it is not rude to answer: "Not good" in Russia. People just prefer to be honest. Yes Russians would say Great or OK in most cases. But if it is someone more close like a colleague at work they would not hide if something bad happened in the family or you feel sick. You just say how you feel.
its kind of the same here in sweden. if you walked pass a stranger on the street and they smiled towards you, it would feel a bit creepy. however, as a swede i usually smile towards anyone i have a conversation with (wether stranger or not - although a conversation with a stranger is pretty rare unless its a formal meeting.) how does it work in russia? lets say you show up in a job interview. the person you meet obviously is a stranger to you but you both know why you talk withother. would the recruiter looked down on you because you smiled during the interview? xD
The thing about the United States is that cultures are different from state to state or region to region. California and New York arent known for hospitality... the south is. Iowa and Wisconsin isnt known for bikini season. California and Florida are...
Oh, there is also a sign or tradition to look in the mirror if you returned home immediately after you left. For example, you forgot your keys or suddenly remembered that you did not turn off the light. As a child, this was all presented as some kind of superstition, but with age you understand that this is necessary to make sure that you have not forgotten something else. For example glasses or a hat. I once almost went out into the street in home slippers)))
We don’t have personal conversations except with those we know and can trust, because we’re always suspicious of others wanting to know too much or take advantage somehow. At least that’s been my experience here in the West. In the Southeast, that’s probably a whole different story. They tend to lean more British/Irish. All they want to do is get into your business. So it depends on which part of the country you’re in. Minnesota? Forget it. That’s why they call it “Minnesota Nice.” Lots of Scandinavian influence. Or so I’ve heard. I’ve never been there. Yet. 🇺🇸
(In my world) Americans used regularly invite folks to their homes for dinner, games, nothing. Then suddenly that changed. You'd hear things they weren't going to treat you like company--and you're supposed to be honored. But translated, they're not going to go out of their way. I was also surprised when I recently heard some say that they were taught to never go over anyone's house around dinner time--apparently, it was rude and intrusive. While I totally believe, GENERALLY speaking, most Americans are selfish--unless there's a trade-off.
Conversation heart to heart... now I can understand that meme of a Russian guy saying "boobs are fine, but in girls I prefer the soul". This is so sweet, I'm melting qwq
The most important in girls!
Русский мемы самый лучший
Направление? Какое направление?
... 🖐🤩🤩🤩🤩🖐
6:21 i think us amaricans should do that more often. I hate small talk. I like to explane my emotions and my veiw of the world.
I'm American also and I hate small talk. I deliberately keep most people away because relationships are so superficial. I'm half Slavic so wondering if it's because of that.
Fedor, I just came back from Moscow. I spent 7 days (really 6 because my last day I had to go to the airport early in the morning), and I had an awesome time. The city is beautiful, the food was great, and I didn't even get to see everything I wanted.
I was able to get by because my vocabulary is good enough, however I seriously underestimated how important listening skills are; I couldn't understand anybody. I need serious improvement for the next time I go back, and I will certainly be investing in some real classes. Thank you for what you do, a lot of my language skills that helped me while I was over there were from your channel.
Great goal
I trained my listening by listening to podcasts which I find interesting. Or interviews from people you find interesting such as stars, sports people etc. Or a book you already read in your language and don't mind hearing in audio again in russian.
@@saidelbiev5326 Those are great suggestions, thanks!
My problem is I'm so used to watching with subtitles that as soon as the subtitles are gone I'm completely lost. I did try watching "Moscow Does Not Believe in Tears" a second time without subtitles and I was completely lost.
The audiobook is a good idea, Metro 2033 is my favorite book series, maybe I can give that a try.
@@FunVanDriver I wish you good luck!
You are right about the conversations. I converted to Russian Orthodoxy 20 years ago and immediately noticed the change in the level of talk between Russians and Westerners
This is why I love Russians, so similar to my Italian culture...
Idk, the Italians I met were very smiley...
Italians just a happy russians
Russians just a sad italians
i saw you in tandem app
@@bilalmohsin4870 Me or the presenter?
you
I visited Russia twice . While in Moscow , I found an eatery with common tables . Patrons sat with me and were warm and friendly . I also took a train from Moscow to Gagarin and sat across from an older couple . We ended up sharing family photos . Further , she even gave me snacks ! I found people warm and hospitable the whole trip . Frankly, I was blown away ! Someday I hope to return ❤ .
I can say the heart-to-hearts aspect makes me extremely fond of my Russian friends. I adore their openness and it builds much trust.
But at the same time, it’s hard for us to make friends in North America. Somehow we are perceived as arrogant.
I am from Spain, I would have a hard time not smiling at strangers 🤣🤣🤣 Good to know!!!
La verdad y por eso me gustaba visitar tu pais..
The most smiling girl from Spain is Nuria from Badalona! Check out her channel "Когда ты Нурия", pay attention to how well she speaks Russian!
@@ИмперияДобра-е9с I have seen her videos, her Russian is awesome :D
If you do that in Russia, people will think that you are flirting with them!
I’m from Sadie and ik I will smile at a stranger all the time 😂
A society that is socially recluse on the street, but so respectful, caring and inclusive to friends and family, and expect you to do the same
This speaks to me more than anything.
Fell in love with Russia.Leaving on my third visit there soon😍As a South African took some time not to smile all the time.We are a smiley and talkative nation....😊
Well, it's not a problem to visit a friend without bringing any gifts.
If a person is not known well, than yes, that makes sense.
Yes, it's not a rule, but it will never be bad to do =)
This is more relevant for some holidays, such as a birthday or new year's eve
I'm Russian and every time I go to the friends HOUSE I always bring with me a gift.
The thing about not being able to have a heart to heart with someone in the states really hit me. I feel like here everyone's guarded, leery of each other and afraid to show their weaknesses for fear of ostracization or losing face. Also people just don't trust each other like they used to. In the states you get it drilled into you that you look out for yourself first and foremost. To me, it's deeply unhealthy on a psychological and even spiritual level.
Hi Fedor, i'm from Brazil and start watch your videos recently... i'm watching a lot of your old videos. It is been very useful to help me to learn russian... i'm studying russian by myself and since i discovered your chanel i subscribed. Thank you for your tips and i'm sorry for my bad english. Tks 🇷🇺🇧🇷👍
Your English is fantastic! No need to apologize at all. In fact, it’s quite impressive that you speak multiple languages. I know this is common in many countries, especially in Europe, but in the USA many people only speak English and find no need to learn another language, which I find sad.
@@courtneymayfield3380 many people haven't even left usa as travelers.
@@olegpetrov2617 то же самое и с русскими.
@@Natashanjka ну в общем да. Но есть разница- для многих россиян просто дорого,а американцам просто не интересно куда там ехать за тридевять земель.
Для россиян зачастую даже в собственной стране путешествовать уже дорого, а чтобы посетить все достопримечательности уйдёт очень много времени, годы. Но все хотят увидеть стандартный набор из чудес света и рекордов Гиннеса.
When I was in Russia in the summer I wanted to buy 6 roses and the lady said "ШЕСТЬ!?" to which I sad да and she responds "НЕТ НЕТ НЕТ, семь"
I bought 7 roses and I thought it was a bit strange, looking at the bunch 7 seemed to fit together in a better shape which is what I thought it was but now I understand, thank you!
banya doesn't just clean the soul that thing burns it too i never been inside something that hot in my life .
edit : i can't lie loved it .
Banya is great!!!
Sounds great about celebrating at home. Good in cold winter I’m sure. Thanks Fedor!
you have a very beautyful culture 😍💗 a really like Russian people
Interesting, as always ;) I've been to Russia before but there's always something to learn. Your channel has helped me with my language skills on my earlier trip quite a lot ;) Looking forward to learning more and visiting russia again ✌🏼
Welcome back here! Do you also learn the Russian language?
Russian smile thing in few sentences.
"Dude, did you know in my country it is polite to hug a man you've just met? It's called being positive. Why didn't you hug him back, are you grumpy? What do you mean you don't hug strangers? It's basic politeness and positivity!"
Yeah, that's how it feels when a stranger smiles to me. Like he hugged me. Who tf are you and what do you want...
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About a smile. I think it’s not customary to smile on the street also because, basically, it will not look like politeness or goodwill, but as if you are laughing at this person. And even if you don't mean it, the other person may see it differently and, let's be honest, a lot of people won't like it and might want to be rude in return.
Ha ha In my country it's just letting people know they are welcome to your place, business or office. That they are ok and accepted.
I can't wrap my mind around the fact that people smile at strangers for now reason just because they made an eye contact. It seems so draining. Has happened to me a few times and I felt so awkward and weird. It's different from the smile after saying couple of words to eachother, but along with the eyecontact only? Nah
It is not always like that. In Canada where people are known for being polite this happens only once in a while. For example, when we say sorry to strangers (who actually could have just hit you accidentally).
it sounds weird to me too, i live in the UK where we go out of our way to interact as little with people as possible lol, people smiling at me would make me feel very uncomfortable and like im about to be murdered
It is exhausting! But it’s what we need to do to feel not threatening and polite when passing someone in the street here. Ugh
@@ben1147 really you do this only when you are forced to (i.e. interaction with stranger) or you are passing your colleague or neighbour you don't really care for. Other than that no one smiles at strangers.
I think if you’re raised in a culture where most people smile/speak/nod to strangers it’s not that odd or draining. It’s actually more of an automatic response than anything. If you visit the southern USA you’ll find that most people will actively acknowledge everyone, whether they know them or not. We aren’t trying to do it to upset people or be nosy though. I live in a town with a lot of tourists because we have a National park and I am always speaking to strangers. Just yesterday I saw a woman taking photographs of the Mississippi River in a location that is okay, but not exceptionally pretty so I stopped my car and rolled down my window to tell her that if she was interested in BETTER places to photograph the river I’d be happy to tell her. At first I think she was scared because a stranger had stopped to speak to her but she did want to know good places to take photos so she took my advice. After that I said goodbye and I hope she enjoyed her stay. I can definitely see where this would be odd if you are not accustomed to that, but I genuinely DO want visitors to my town to enjoy their stay and feel it’s my duty to help make that happen.
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I have fall in love with Russian because they rarely smile to strangers which attracts me❤️ salam❤️🇴🇲
Fedor, I love your very informative videos. I hope to visit Russia one day; your country and its people are very beautiful.
As a person who lived with russians for a while
Earth is a planet 🌎
And russia is another planet 🌍
‘If you left your home and then realized that you forgot something, don’t come back but if you really have to, first thing to do when entering the home is looking at mirror and smile’. At first I thought my Ukrainian wife lost her mind but later on I came to know that it’s kind of tradition. Pls tell us if you have something similar in Russia too :))
100 percent true, there is such a sign. It is believed that your road or journey will be unsuccessful, like a sign with a black cat that crossed your path.
I'd like to think that I don't believe in omens, but I kinda look into the mirror if I forget something and have to return home:D
@@CC-pi4rq There is another sign or omen, you can not put a mirror in front of the entrance door!
@@ИмперияДобра-е9с That's interesting. I never knew about this one. Also another one is that to never sleep with your legs facing an enterance.
Another one, don’t ever drop the salt 🧂
Listening to you makes me miss my Russian friends. I can get my Russian fix from listening to you. You have the true Russian soul, especially since you do the banyan!
Россия
Большая, красивая и великая страна, с
Лучшие военные и армия в мире
Что за история
Интересная культура
Добрый и патриотичный человек
И гениальный Путин, которого все любят
Страна, которая всегда помогает, поддерживает колонизированные страны.
Вот почему Индонезия и Россия всегда были хорошими друзьями. ❤
Браво Россия
урааааа....
Banya is life ♥️
6:45 yeah in America, the reason we don't talk heart-to-heart is that it's seen as rude and oversharing, lol. The common rule of thumb is "I'm fine" = "I literally want to die", "it's going" = "I've never had a worse day in my life", and "I'm good" = "if I keep talking I'm going to cry". A lot of American culture was built on Christian Puritanism, so having any mental or emotional problem is seen as being Crazy or Unstable or Depressed, so you have to be Normal.
Thanks for your explanation 😅
Very informative, especially about the connection with Puritanism.
when you wrote "we jump in the show", did you subconsciously mix up 'n' with 'н' or was it just a typo? asking just out of curiosity
great video as always!
Typo of course. But a funny one lol
that is exactly what i was thinking
It's not just you, it's a problem in the States, I think. I've lived here my whole life and most of school had one group of friends. We were all very close. Once out of high school, I entered college, knowing basically nobody. NO ONE wants to get personal. They don't hardly talk about personal stuff or have any kind of deep conversations with you. That's not to say I don't like the people I'm around (I do), but they don't want those kind of relationships. I'm just your average American and I crave that sort of friendship. Haven't had it since I was a kid. The only way I've had something like that with anybody is with a buddy of mine. We decided to go get food before a late night class and we actually talked. It was nice.
I think I'll fit right in to Russian culture because I don't usually smile alot, and very reserve until I get to know someone better or feel a level of comfort with them which can take a very long time. I keep shady people at arm's length. People where I live don't respond to well with that. They perceive me as being aloof and stand-offish. If that is the norm in Russia, I think I will be perfectly fine with that.
Same!! I'm American and I get called negative all the time!! But I'm just being.....normal 🙄
That's alot of Information to give out about yourself to the internet,
I got an ad about learning russian when clicking on this video
I feel like I've seen a dozen of roses be a thing in Russia - just not any other even number.
Also, the whole "dress up to go take out the trash" thing is a bit outdated now. Women don't always dress up nowadays. For some that's not even their style at all and they prefer to look casual generally. But plenty of women go out to the corner shop in their robes.. Maybe less so in big cities, but in smaller towns it's only a specific kind of crowd that would take things as far as putting on makeup to go to the corner shop..
Sounded a bit outdated when i heard it lol. It would be a bit weird to expect women to dress up everywhere they go when men can wear whatever they want. Thanks for the response
Regarding roses, not necessarily. You can give just one flower as a present as well. All in all gifting an even number of flowers ia huge no because even number of flowers is prepared for burial ceremonies.
Oh no never. What do I look like bringing 12 Roses to a Birthday party. Thats like kicking people in the belly. I cant Imagine a Russian doing that. Under NO circumstances other than a funeral.
As a Russian woman living in North America, I find men here smile to much. I prefer not to.
Its considered corteous but personally I don`t do it to people I don`t like or strangers I`ll not give them that. I view it as a psych thing & vinegar gets the same back from me.
Oh good to hear that russian culture is quite the same as with asian culture when it comes to hospitality! Greetings from the Philippines!
I‘m watching and learning Russian because I wanna travel and I have a friend from Электросталь and probably in near future a girlfriend from Чебоксары^^
Thank you Fedor
And more and more I hear it is way different to have Russian girlfriend than from somewhere else right?
Oh hello, I'm from. Чебоксары too! 😄
@@olgabagildinskaia7415 cool…There are mostly Чувашию people I heard
May I know where you are from? Would you like to make another friend from Kotelnich? This is a very small Russian town
No, it's not just you. In my experience, heart to heart can be difficult to have especially for men. That's been my observation.
I'm an American.
I never smile, especially at strangers.
I'm just not a smiley person.
I'd blend in well over there on that reason alone
I am the same way. I don’t smile at strangers either! Too me, it’s more important to keep happiness in one’s heart than fake a smile. I met a lot of people that look happy but aren’t. I never liked feigned smiling.
Agreed!!! But I do smile with strangers a lot...Why? Here is the truth. I'm scared of being disliked because of my own insecurities. I smile to diffuse any possible conflict. I smile because I feel weak in character. It is better not to smile. Be polite. Be respectful. But do not smile with strangers. Many will see it as a weakness. Not as a virtue. It is the ugly human condition. I also noticed that 90% of women do not smile. And I also noticed that 50% of men do not smile. Women do not smile as a self-defense mechanism because they do not want to be accosted and taken advantage of or being approached by sexual perverts and predators. When a woman does not smile she is trying to say don't don't mess with me. When a man smiles he's trying to say please like me. These men that smile usually smile at women and the women do not reciprocate the smile. Now there is a small percentage of women that do smile they usually married.
@@damianlopez7630 I don’t smile either too signal weakness. I heard that smiling is seen as more feminine and women tend to prefer men who look serious. Also, I heard this is true especially in Eastern European cultures and Middle Eastern cultures that women don’t smile at men so they don’t get the wrong idea.
Hi Fedor. I trust you and your wife are enjoying your time in Russia with family and friends. At the dinner table do we help ourselves or do we wait until we are asked? Keep up the good work!
It's pretty much the same as in USA. You do not want to start first though. Unless the host offers you to do so. Just wait until everyone is at the table and start your meal like everyone else. The only difference between Russian and American way of dining is we do not prefer buffet style. We usually put all food on the table where we dine at. You would see a lot of deli meat, fish, salads, veggies, etc. And of course, if a plate is far away from you, you would ask other person to pass it to you or send your plate to them. Later the host would bring the main course and send it around or stop by every guest and put food on the plate. So people would just sit together for hours this way munching on stuff, drinking and conversing. Then the host would clean the table and prepare it for dessert. And again you would enjoy it for another hour or so. Of course it would not be unrare to dance or sing in between. Love Russian gatherings like this!
@@nataliak2693 Thanks Natalia for the reply.
Some similar traditions we share.
The last one is new and useful!
Honestly it is changing in America. People are not as friendly as they once were. I notice nowadays when I pass people, they never make eye contact and definitely never smile or say hey. It used to happen ALL THE TIME and it was very charming and warming experience. It's a good thing. It really has the intention of "we are all in this together", let's make each other's day/life/existence a little brighter, a little happier. But because of the surge of social media and being glued to devices, Americans have become much less social and open with strangers versus before tech took over in say, the 80s and 90s and before. I miss how people once were in my country. It used to be a great country, but it just goes downhill more and more every day.
In the US, people often smile at strangers in the suburbs or more rural areas. In New York City, do NOT smile at strangers. It's weird and there are simply too many people. In NYC, smiling at strangers makes you look creepy or like an outsider.
Conversely, I live in the Deep South and it’s considered rude to not smile and/or wave to everyone, even strangers. It’s so interesting to see the cultural differences not only across international borders but also within our own country.
Ironically, I moved to the deep south about 7 weeks ago with military family. The culture shock is real.
@@courtneymayfield3380 in NE a half of bus drivers don't smile they don't even reply for hi..funny
@@olegpetrov2617 New England is over 1200 miles (2000 km) from where I live. My town is on the Mississippi River not far from New Orleans. It is similar to the distance between St. Petersburg and Sochi.
@@courtneymayfield3380 I meant "northeast" but It's almost the same.
Did you know in the US, dudes will tell random strangers who are females "Smile!" If they see us sitting there straight faced. It is SO ANNOYING. Wtf why the fuck should I be smiling!! I wish I could go back to all those times when I was younger and pretend to be Russian at those times 😂😂😂
To smile could mean `approval` of someone that they like you but randomly & routinely smiling @ people is mindless & I don`t give them that.
they are insecure and looking for your validation.
This is fascinating. We have a good Russian friend and this is her to a T. Thank you.
Thanks! Very helpful video. :)
🤔 So... You've been counting the minutes to get to visit Russia, you finally make it and can't wait to meet the locals and practice your Russian
BUT
they have no clue you're a tourist. 😂
Dude, can we just have a tutorial on how to make friends in Russia since smiling is out of question? 😂
Alcohol can always help you to make friends
@@I_bring_the_pain_like_ 😂👍
Fedor: Woman always dress up when going anywhere!
Me going to the store in my pajamas: 👁👄👁
I'm persian we r so much alike!
That's a really neat little video Feodor.
You didn't mention an important fact about the banya: that you go there naked, not with knee length swim trunks 😁
deep conversation are something really important i believe and wish i had here in india .
Privet, nice to know through your flog here.very nice.
I've never smiled at strangers in my life
also banya is starting to become a thing in the US
minus the snow part
What he left out is that banya is not just a sauna - you literally wash yourself there.
Therefore, another outcome - everyone in the banya has their weiners in the open. So you really have to be close friends with someone you invite to banya - if you got invited, you're not a stranger to the host.
I've been in sankt Petersburg many many years ago at Smolnyi and was a very amazing month.. I'd like to come back again
There was that russian woman that smiled at me one day while in the metro station and stared.. I couldn't believe my eyes because I know russians don't smile at strangers... then she suddenly started playing with a laser pointer and blowing bubbles at me.. *ah that explains it.*
A place where I’m not expected to be smiling all the time? Sounds pretty nice because the amount of times I’ve had people ask me “are you ok? Why aren’t you smiling is something wrong?” Like no my face is just like that all the time😂
Im here in russia and not all women dress great...some are just wearing simple clothes without make up....
see you Russia next year
Germans don`t smile much either. Very serious people.
These are sooo similar, almost the same as Macedonian traditions 😁 I don't think I'll have a hard time in Russia at all. 😁
You Don't Get Wrinckles!
I went to Poland and it the same people don't smile either lol. In Ukraine the same lol.
Those are the real places.
A common Slavic culture.
@@Natashanjka Im not much of a smiling person myself so its ok to me haha.
Thank you! Amazing video!
I am from maldives, here people greet and smile but in my case its the opposite, i have nothing against smilling, i just don't like smile too often.
Great video, I love this series. I had never heard about sitting down for a minute before leaving for trips! I wonder how it originated such that most people do it.
Hi! This tradition has pretty interesting origins. It came from the Old Rus times. In slavs mythology - in Russian particulary - there is a spirit of a house, so-called Domovoy (Домовой). Many centuries ago people believed, that there are Domovoys in every house. Domovoys were patrons of a house and the family living in it. They could provide farmers with good harvest, warn people about any troubles or even guard them from illness. But they could also became angry with people, if they were doing something wrong. In that case Domovoys could hide things from people, make scary noises, eat their food. So it was very important to become a friend of your Domovoy and keep things that way. With that purpose, for example, people used to leave a bowl of milk near the camin for the night, so that Domovoy could drink it. And the another tradition was exactly sitting for a minute before leaving for a long trip (посидеть на дорожку). In that way you showed respect to the Domovoy, kind of asking him for a permission to leave the house. During this minute Domovoy could also give a sign to the person leaving the house - like loud noises or dishes falling to the floor. That meant, that there is danger waiting for him on the road, and people could even cancel the trip and stay home in this situation. Sorry for the lot of words. : )
@@КириллЮгай-б3з Thank you so much for the explanation! I had heard a little about the domovoy before, but I had no idea it related to this. I feel like there is always so much more to know about Slavic mythology, and the influences still remaining from it today are fascinating. I'm American, and our collective "culture" only goes back a couple hundred years or so, all of which has happened within the "modern" era - sometimes I'm a little jealous of peoples, like the Slavs, who can trace their cultural roots back for over a thousand years!
I have No Idea that's Tradition. Well explanation
To be fair i would not smile to a stranger as a portuguese myself i can tell that i might feel happy but i do not expressed it so that's why i view smiling as "fake" emotion because i don't do it when i am happy
Very interesting traditions. In my country we usually give or send a dozen or half a dozen flowers (even number) for any occasion. The number of flowers you buy depends on your budget. The kind of flower or its color speaks of the occasion. There is a special kind of flower that is used in funerals or cemeteries. It would be a huge mistake to give them to somebody for any other reason, no matter the number of them.
I live in US and have many heart-to-heart friends. Thanks for these great videos!
exactly. It really depends on how you are.
You have real conversations with your friends, but if you visited my house and we are casual aqueintences, we would have a very superficial conversation. If you visit a Russian aqueintence, the questions they'll ask you, or what they would tell you about themselves, would be far more personal than the normative chitchat of a social gathering here (US).
Thanks for video
What tournaments were you taking part in ?
Wow, once you get past the smiling (or lack thereof), seems like there are similarities between Russians and Latinos.
Odd number of flowers. Got it! 🤔
An even number of flowers can even be insulting.
I had to get a taxi ride from one part of Kislovodsk to the other. My wife (Russian) was with me and the driver had such a deep voice, yet he looked so young. He never smiled, and he said very little. I figured a guy like this had zero sense of humor. I remember one of my little lessons about tipping, so when we got to our destination, I gave him 500 rubles when the total was 420ish and I was like, "На чаи." and he scared me with the way he laughed. He was like, "huh huh huh huh huh..." My wife said, "I know you learned that in the Earworms music application, but we don't really use that." Cool guy. Never thought I would hear that guy laugh, ever. Well, I was wrong.
Maybe maybe to Russians, smiling at someone you don’t know is the equivalent of a “smirk” which has an alternative meaning in the West.
Not without this, by the way, maniacs also smile at their victims, at least in the movies!
@@ИмперияДобра-е9с So do you think what I said is true?
@@Jaytecx I have already written an answer to one of the viewers. For Russians, sincerity in a smile is important! The Western habit of smiling at everyone is very doubtful, because it is insincere, this smile of a merchant who wants to sell you junk or a service staff who grovels before you! Sincerity is possible only between people between whom there is trust, therefore, they have long been familiar and tested in real life!
@@ИмперияДобра-е9с I see, quite interesting really. Where I live, people don’t smile either. Only when looking at their smartphones. 😑
smirk из ухмылка. In Canada when strangers smile at each other (occasionally and not really often) I would say it is кривая улыбка.
я из таганрога - у нас не особо по баням ходят. так, иногда - но это больше по-сибирски/холодным регионам, а не по всей россии в качестве постоянного заняния
Two girls in airport regularly was smiling at me and i dont know why
some same traditions as Finland
We don't always answer fully. Typically it is 50x50. So both ways are acceptable. The remaining observations I am inclined to agree with. Just note that while loving to have guests over, Russians can live for decades alongside their neighbours and not even know their names, let alone greet them. It is not always like that but in large cities this is something very common.
When some one says "kak dela" in Russian, is it acceptable or okay to not answer at all? Or is that considered rude? In English it is okay to not answer because "how are you" is more like "hi" than a real question.
@@pissupehelwan no, you need to provide an answer. Not having one will be awkward. Да все в порядке, Потихоньку, Да всё ничего, Живу помаленьку, Да вроде неплохо и т.п.
Конечно, после того как прыгнешь в снег, после бани , то скорее всего будет воспаление лёгких
The even/odd number of flowers is THE WEIRDEST tradition I’ve ever heard😂😂😂
Trust me, that's only the tip of the superstition iceberg
After he explained the reason for an odd number of flowers it made sense to me though. I’ve noticed odd numbers of flowers in films made in several Eastern European countries and just thought that was the customary way that they were sold. I did not realize there was a reason. But it is a good thing to know because I might have been invited to someone’s home and brought flowers as a gift and accidentally upset my host instead.
The strangest tradition I've heard about is to believe in horoscopes and zadiac signs :)
@@evl1536 Hey, I’m American and I don’t get people who actually believe that stuff. I’ve always viewed them like fortune cookies, they’re silly and mean nothing as far as determining what happens in your life.
There are more weird superstitions in Russia and other Russian speaking countries. Some examples:
- Don't put empty bottles on a table
- Don't cross someone's way with an empty bucket
- Don't whistle in a building
- Don't shake someone's hand over a doorstep
- Don't return your debt in the evening
- Don't put money on a bed or a couch
- If a black cat crosses your way, stop!
The most weird thing is that a lot of people who do not really believe in superstitions still follow all this BS, just because "everyone else" does.
I from Canada anyways I see Russian Culture as more ancient as in the classical era. Do anyone else sees this or is it just me.
If you dont drink alcohol, are you going to insult your hosts by refusing a drink ? And what is the best way to explain this to friends ?
This is a good question
I take medicine
You can simply say that you do not like alcohol and state of intoxication. Or that your religious beliefs don't allow you. Or any other truth.
Best way to drink beer
Most likely no, it is ok to refuse. Just add why so that the hosts didn't take it personally. Unless you are somewhere in the remote village where people are well drunken already - refusal might be a problem in there.
Alright, I can take that trade off. You don't smile frivolously (even though I like smiling at everyone,) but when you are present you show up entirely. So no, it's not just you, people in the states are generally bred to be shallow. It's unfortunate. Hо, мне нравится твой видит за Россия.
Kak плохого лежат это?
Hi Fyodor- I noticed two additional things: 1. In the Banya guys take big, long leaves and swat each other on the back with them, 2. When guests visit for a meal, before starting there are THREE toasts: a. Guests thanking host, b. Host thanks guests, c. Each persons mentions a loved one who died most recently and the people lift their glasses up high, not touching other glasses. It was poignant, but I was shocked.
1. Girls too
2. Not necessarily like this, the third one might as well be "for love" and holding a glass in left hand
Not always at all. Certain cases only.
The third toast is usually symbolic. At a wedding, for example, the third toast is for the parents, and if on military holidays, then for the dead, depends on the company and the situation. But if they drink to the dead, then they do not clink with glasses and usually stand.
Birch branches.
My husband is Russian, and all our friends are Ukrainian, and visit each other often, and I have never seen anyone do what you describe prior to a meal.
My advice would be don't eat for at least three days before visiting a Russian home as a quest😂😂 It is polite to eat what a host cooked for you, if you resist, it would be kinda cold. If you eat with appetite and say that food is delicious - it's super nice
dont be in a rush in russia
I'm Russian and I don't do the most of named things.
It definitely isn't you. Americans find it hard to trust people to share our secrets with. There's also a lot of judgement and division amongst us. Things have changed A LOT since I was a little kid in the 80's. Things were so different then. You could knock on your neighbor's door to borrow a cup of sugar, no problem. As a young kid, you could hop on your bicycle and ride downtown by yourself and come back at dark for dinner. It's just not the same anymore. It's just hard to trust people. People keep their doors locked, you better call first before dropping by... It just got weird. So, we may have only 1 or 2 people we feel safe enough with to confide in. We can't even trust most of our family members. Too much betrayal. It's the sad truth.😢
OMG! I can relate with the family betrayal.
In UK you always answer the "How are you?" question contrary to your comment about this in the USA.
However it is not rude to answer: "Not good" in Russia. People just prefer to be honest. Yes Russians would say Great or OK in most cases. But if it is someone more close like a colleague at work they would not hide if something bad happened in the family or you feel sick. You just say how you feel.
its kind of the same here in sweden. if you walked pass a stranger on the street and they smiled towards you, it would feel a bit creepy. however, as a swede i usually smile towards anyone i have a conversation with (wether stranger or not - although a conversation with a stranger is pretty rare unless its a formal meeting.) how does it work in russia? lets say you show up in a job interview. the person you meet obviously is a stranger to you but you both know why you talk withother. would the recruiter looked down on you because you smiled during the interview? xD
I never smile.
That's how it should be, you're Tyler Durden dude! And remember: The first rule of fight club is not to tell anyone about fight club!
The thing about the United States is that cultures are different from state to state or region to region. California and New York arent known for hospitality... the south is. Iowa and Wisconsin isnt known for bikini season. California and Florida are...
Im an Indonesian but for some reason i don't like to smile at strangers even though thats impolite in our culture.
Smiling @ someone could be taken as you like them so no I don`t give them that unless I mean it.
Oh, there is also a sign or tradition to look in the mirror if you returned home immediately after you left. For example, you forgot your keys or suddenly remembered that you did not turn off the light. As a child, this was all presented as some kind of superstition, but with age you understand that this is necessary to make sure that you have not forgotten something else. For example glasses or a hat. I once almost went out into the street in home slippers)))
The how are you thing is the same in Germany.
We don’t have personal conversations except with those we know and can trust, because we’re always suspicious of others wanting to know too much or take advantage somehow. At least that’s been my experience here in the West.
In the Southeast, that’s probably a whole different story. They tend to lean more British/Irish. All they want to do is get into your business. So it depends on which part of the country you’re in.
Minnesota? Forget it. That’s why they call it “Minnesota Nice.” Lots of Scandinavian influence. Or so I’ve heard. I’ve never been there. Yet. 🇺🇸
The south is the best place trust me there’s nothing more more annoying then a danm yanke form the north
They still like to shit on the south
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(In my world) Americans used regularly invite folks to their homes for dinner, games, nothing. Then suddenly that changed. You'd hear things they weren't going to treat you like company--and you're supposed to be honored. But translated, they're not going to go out of their way. I was also surprised when I recently heard some say that they were taught to never go over anyone's house around dinner time--apparently, it was rude and intrusive. While I totally believe, GENERALLY speaking, most Americans are selfish--unless there's a trade-off.