This is a really great video. I appreciate that this, it gives really good insight into what I've been studying. I find it intriguing that you use the word disassociate to describe how men are taught to disconnect from those emotions. It is important to realize that emotions exist for our bodies to communicate with us for the purpose of learning and/or taking action, and they are not the opposite of logic. The logical approach is to understand your emotions, the purpose of them, AND express them in healthy ways. Lack of emotional expression does not equal logic, and that is a huge disconnect that we have in modern society. Men and women do have the same emotions, but women are encouraged to express them, where as men and boys are conditioned to only express "appropriate" emotions, like anger and joy. Learning how to work together with our emotions, recognizing when they are appropriate AND when to take a step back is, and how and when they interfere with our reasoning is what all humans should strive for. Learning healthy emotional expression is the key, and songwriting is a great way.u
@NickShellVideos Ahhh...I try! I'm on my own journey in developing a healthy relationship to my emotions while working in the behavioral health field. If I can share my knowledge to help others heal, that's a win for me!
@NickShellVideos Good question. It was definitely a combination of things in my personal and professional life, cycles that kept repeating even though I was in therapy. Long story short, I decided to change careers (again), go back to school (again), and get into a field that forced me to confront my own issues, and continues to do so. I had to learn that I couldn't just shut down uncomfortable thoughts and emotions even though that's what I was taught, I had to learn to lean in and listen to what they wanted to tell me, especially if I was trying to help others work through their own difficulties
Super interesting take - thanks for sharing :) As a woman I find I resonate more with your experience of using joy, anger, creativity and passion as my main emotions and shying away from sadness and despair. Possibly as I’m an INTJ personality type and we make up only 0.5% of the female population. I’ve always found allowing too much emotion to be overwhelming. Interesting to hear you have the same experience
Clinging to anger or fear is weakness for men, those are 2 of the 8 emotional vices. Strength is exercised through choosing their opposing virtues, calmness & courage. ruclips.net/p/PLDk9Qxl-FqcL6V2Gzd94asjgzmBnY-thf&feature=shared
❤amazing video as always!!
This is a really great video. I appreciate that this, it gives really good insight into what I've been studying.
I find it intriguing that you use the word disassociate to describe how men are taught to disconnect from those emotions.
It is important to realize that emotions exist for our bodies to communicate with us for the purpose of learning and/or taking action, and they are not the opposite of logic.
The logical approach is to understand your emotions, the purpose of them, AND express them in healthy ways.
Lack of emotional expression does not equal logic, and that is a huge disconnect that we have in modern society.
Men and women do have the same emotions, but women are encouraged to express them, where as men and boys are conditioned to only express "appropriate" emotions, like anger and joy.
Learning how to work together with our emotions, recognizing when they are appropriate AND when to take a step back is, and how and when they interfere with our reasoning is what all humans should strive for.
Learning healthy emotional expression is the key, and songwriting is a great way.u
Umm... did you just become my favorite viewer?
@NickShellVideos Ahhh...I try! I'm on my own journey in developing a healthy relationship to my emotions while working in the behavioral health field.
If I can share my knowledge to help others heal, that's a win for me!
What inspired you to start that journey?
@NickShellVideos Good question. It was definitely a combination of things in my personal and professional life, cycles that kept repeating even though I was in therapy. Long story short, I decided to change careers (again), go back to school (again), and get into a field that forced me to confront my own issues, and continues to do so.
I had to learn that I couldn't just shut down uncomfortable thoughts and emotions even though that's what I was taught, I had to learn to lean in and listen to what they wanted to tell me, especially if I was trying to help others work through their own difficulties
Super interesting take - thanks for sharing :) As a woman I find I resonate more with your experience of using joy, anger, creativity and passion as my main emotions and shying away from sadness and despair. Possibly as I’m an INTJ personality type and we make up only 0.5% of the female population. I’ve always found allowing too much emotion to be overwhelming. Interesting to hear you have the same experience
Clinging to anger or fear is weakness for men, those are 2 of the 8 emotional vices. Strength is exercised through choosing their opposing virtues, calmness & courage. ruclips.net/p/PLDk9Qxl-FqcL6V2Gzd94asjgzmBnY-thf&feature=shared
I love this! Thank you. This is very helpful to me.
@NickShellVideos I'm glad to hear you find it helpful, if you have any questions feel free to ask them in the particular vice video. Peace.