In most facilities for a woman to have her tubes tied she needs the permission of her partner, and if she doesnt have a partner she would be denied, even if its for serious medical reasons. I dont find it fair at all that a man could have a vasectomy without his wife even knowing, yet most women cant get their tubes tied without permission from their partner.
Yes, hubby should have been up front about his change of mind right from the first, but lot's of people are only children and have good lives. The OP needs to stop obsessing about this. I get that she was lonely as an only child, but there was a solution available that she apparently didn't make much use of. She could have gotten involved with other kids. If she was too socially uncomfortable to do that directly, she could have joined clubs, gotten involved with hobbies, done charity work etc.
It's bad move for husband to go behind her back for the procedure, but at the same time - I believe him. OP was an only child and she solely has her own point of view. She has no idea how it is to raise multiple children. Especially with her delusion of having 4-6 babies back to back just year apart. Husband faced the reality of supporting you through pregnancy and then raising a child and turns out he's not made for more than 1 child. That is perfectly find to change your mind once you're starting executing your plans. Life happens, you experience it and you make the call if the initial plan is still a good idea. It isn't for him. OP can't cling to the idea "he promised me 4 children", that's living in her delusion. OP needs to face reality. Tell him how hurt you are for him going behind your back instead of talking to you about his change of heart.
I agree and disagree with this comment. He was the one who was constantly telling her he wanted to have a big family. They would sleep together, and the whole time, he would talk about how he was going to give her another baby and how excited he was. Yeah, sorry, but if I was op, I'd feel disgusting too. You feel like that you talk about it. But you don't lie to your partner for 2 years and make them feel like there's something wrong with them. Because you went behind their back and got a procedure done and are too much of a pussy to have a conversation with your wife.
@@tay_kisses3720He should have said something if he wasn't happy. Having kids is not easy and after the first baby a lot of people change their plans but when you're married you can't make life changing decisions by yourself
In most facilities for a woman to have her tubes tied she needs the permission of her partner, and if she doesnt have a partner she would be denied, even if its for serious medical reasons. I dont find it fair at all that a man could have a vasectomy without his wife even knowing, yet most women cant get their tubes tied without permission from their partner.
Yes, hubby should have been up front about his change of mind right from the first, but lot's of people are only children and have good lives. The OP needs to stop obsessing about this. I get that she was lonely as an only child, but there was a solution available that she apparently didn't make much use of. She could have gotten involved with other kids. If she was too socially uncomfortable to do that directly, she could have joined clubs, gotten involved with hobbies, done charity work etc.
It's bad move for husband to go behind her back for the procedure, but at the same time - I believe him. OP was an only child and she solely has her own point of view. She has no idea how it is to raise multiple children. Especially with her delusion of having 4-6 babies back to back just year apart. Husband faced the reality of supporting you through pregnancy and then raising a child and turns out he's not made for more than 1 child. That is perfectly find to change your mind once you're starting executing your plans. Life happens, you experience it and you make the call if the initial plan is still a good idea. It isn't for him. OP can't cling to the idea "he promised me 4 children", that's living in her delusion. OP needs to face reality. Tell him how hurt you are for him going behind your back instead of talking to you about his change of heart.
I agree and disagree with this comment. He was the one who was constantly telling her he wanted to have a big family. They would sleep together, and the whole time, he would talk about how he was going to give her another baby and how excited he was. Yeah, sorry, but if I was op, I'd feel disgusting too. You feel like that you talk about it. But you don't lie to your partner for 2 years and make them feel like there's something wrong with them. Because you went behind their back and got a procedure done and are too much of a pussy to have a conversation with your wife.
@@tay_kisses3720He should have said something if he wasn't happy. Having kids is not easy and after the first baby a lot of people change their plans but when you're married you can't make life changing decisions by yourself