"MEN CANT BE SA'ED, AND EVEN IF THEY CAN THEY NEED TO SUCK IT UP AND COME BACK TO THE SA'ER AND APOLOGIZE TO THEM FOR NOT FORGIVING EARLIER" - some person on discord I was watching this video with
When a man is SA'd, people ask, "why didn't you fight back?" Now, when this man fights back against being SA'd, people say, "you shouldn't have fought back." *Well, which one is it!?*
@@crazyazura7564 I'm convinced every woman who claims men can't be SA'd are, if not SA'ers themselves, strongly in favour of it, and would do it if they had the chance.
If the wife jumped on Reddit looking for a sugar daddy like the post mentioned, then it's obvious she married out of convenience and never truly loved OP. Hence, how easily she would've divorced him. She was probably hoping no one would look into the truth of the matter so she could get a good chunk of cash from OP. Hope he didn't fall for his (hopefully now) Ex-wife's BS.
@@southernflight5078 You have a point. I didnt think about it earlier but these women could had set him up, the vile ex-wife would simply wait a few years before attemps to ruin his life and steal wealth from him. Unfortunately he married parasite, not real woman.
@@MattJDave it's not just women who say that, it's men too. I bet if men had other men's back on this topic more often, this wouldn't be much of an issue.
@sunny-my9ng The crazy part is even women are doing it now. Have you seen the 'women math' trend? It has to be some of the most sexist shit I've ever seen
People treat female SA victims correctly showing concern and so on. But act like male victims are babies if they have any PTSD or anything. My biggest fear is being accused of that. It can and would ruin any man's life. So of course it's serious.
From first hand experience with a crazy ex, trust me It's not fun. I only got through it thanks to the fact that people knew she was a pathological liar so not many believed her. It still ruined a lot of relationships with people in my hometown as some still believe her, so i cant really go back there but cant really change that if they don't wanna listen.
yep the icing on the cake was the ex wife thinking he wasn't going to do anything after all said and done got her trfling thot ass kicked out and impending divorce!
When you are married and lose your man card that's what op is when you married to a woman you should be her best friend otherwise why the f are you living with her anyway.
Story 1: Yeah the wife is in love with Amy. And oh my goodness her comments revealed the kind of filth she is. She’s just as crazy as Amy. Wife wants Amy? Let her have her. The only reason why she doesn’t want OP to divorce her is because she knows HER reputation is at stake
i think she pushed her friend in to having sex with her husband,so she could have an excuse to convince him of a open relationship,or him and his wife and her friend,at the same time as a regular thing,no matter what count on it involves something sexual between the three of them.
@@RequiemPoete i do actually believe it i know women just like the wife. The wife is a common narcissist you can tell by how she spoke about him in her comments
He was SAd himself, I'm a 100% sure it was pure survival instinct. Dude's not to blame, she is. His trauma is not only with the fact she falsely claimed he assaulted her, it's also the fact that he suffered a SA.
Not just as his wife, but as a fellow survivor of ab.use... how would she feel if people said she deserved what her ex did and to "get over it" a week later?
She was looking for sugar daddies online and saying he was a crying baby and deserved all of that for hitting her friend... She was as much of a bith as her friend, the difference is that he was married to her so he didn't see her true cheating colors...
Exactly. Perfect example is the video that went viral years ago of a dude popping out of a trash can to scare someone and got slumped right off the bat
If op doesn't divorce his wife he must prepare to be always sexond to that ah wife's friend. She believe a false accuser over him. Glad op divorced her abd kicked her out. She and amy deserved each other
Story 1: Problems I have with Amy's story: 1. If she was the victim, where are her clothes? 2. If you left them in the room, why are you walking around another person's home nekky? 3. Why are you more concerned with damage control than how your friend is doing? Man is a victim and his wife has forsaken him.
Well, I think that's part of the reason why most people didn't believe her except for his biased wife and those hardcore feminists. I have nothing against feminists but gotta acknowledge that many of the hardcore ones can be so absurd and illogical.
OP should have kept his mouth shut and waited until wife and Amy were in Greece. Then he should have moved out, left divorce papers with his lawyer's phone number and changed all his contacts.
And also everyone is mentioning the false accusations but no one is talking about the fact that HE WAS LITERALLY ASSAULTED! What in gods goddamn earth is wrong with people. That’s how you know the female grape is more valued/respected than male grape, this is disgusting.
S3: I'm sorry bUT WTF did the daughter forget that she doesn't live alone and her dad can come in anytime that she was doing that IN THE DARN LIVING ROOM SORRY WTF ITS A SHARED SPACE and all the comments who said they had a similar experience WTAF DO THAT SHIT IN YOUR ROOM IF YOU SHARE A HOUSE HOW DUMB does that commenter and her BF have to be to do _the devils tango_(/s) in the living room knowing she was not living alone
I hate that excuse! Why use it! It's not like if you run someone over than its found out you were drunk the charged were dropped right? Why even think it is a valid excuse?!!!
The Dad was a super hero, especially the part about sending the couch for deep cleaning and putting this in his back pocket for ten (more like twenty) years from now
Story #3 Yep, that's awkward. Glad I didn't give OP any advice, as what I would have suggested might have gone horribly wrong. My family deals with awkwardness through humor. If it can be joked about, then it must not be a big deal. I recall at a relative's funeral for example, the mother of the deceased was saying a few words during the service. She said something to the effect of "He's in heaven now, looking down over the world, and watching over us, always", to which her other son responded "...And that's why I always masturbate UNDER the covers". Everyone laughed, even the grieving mom. That was very aligned with her late son's sense of humor, the kind of joke he would have laughed at, so by keeping that humor alive, it was actually a fitting remembrance. But I can easily see how in other families, that would be very awkward, deeply offend some people, and might even be considered "bullying" the grieving family. Context is essential. OP might have been able to lighten the mood a bit by joking about the whole incident, and that would work in my family, but it sounds like his daughter might be less receptive to that approach. You really have to know your audience. Then there's the more overt and honest approach. Simply say "You know, every time you avoid me, I'm reminded of why you're avoiding me. Please, let's just get back to normal so I can get that image out of my head". That's probably a bad thing to say, but honest at least. If her sense of shame is what's keeping her away, and you know you can't do anything to assuage that embarrassment, then leverage it to force her down a path back to the normal status quo. That's probably bad advice too, but effective, I'm sure. OR as OP did, just wait it out, that works too. She can't avoid him forever.
@@happilyevernever4289More likely she's just a garbage person who was using OP for money and was gonna use the false SA accusations to take everything of his in the divorce
Honestly the fact that it took more than a hour after her waking up in the hospital to realize that the op was innocent and refused to speak to him after he was SA’ed would should have been enough to divorce. You don’t come back from that level of distrust
I dont know if I actually believe the reddit post being the wife. I mean, it seems way too callous. Also the sugar daddy shit kinda makes me think this was someone mascarading as the wife.
Yeah on story 1 ops ex-wife is absolutely a scumbag but it's also Reddit and it wouldn't be the first time someone's pretended to be someone else on there to try and cause drama and issues
Either someone just wanting more drama. Or the wife letting the mask slip a little too early. But there's also the chance that Toxic Amy was always trying to get her "friend" divorced so they can live the single life together again.
@smughorse She never said she wanted to spite him. Considering how long they were trying for a baby and how committed she was (even though she was regrettably groomed), she's keeping the baby bc she wants it. Look at the boyfriend's reaction where he said he'd pay her to get an abortion and when she wouldn't do what he wanted, kicked her out of the house. Is that not fucked up to you?
Taking up a hobby is a good way to recover from emotional stress. I personally agree with the home gym, but that might be because I can’t paint or draw to save my life.
They weren't married because the guy "didn't believe in it" another way of saying, I don't care enough about you, I don't want the government in our relationship, or I've given up on marriage completely. Obviously in this case being the former.
Op said boyfriend not husband, and that they had been together for 10 years. But other things dont make sense to me, she alludes to a bad financial situation, then seems fine with being a single mother, is now considering college, even though she is in a bad financial situation and is expecting a child, and what time does she have for college since she seems to have a full time job already, since she mentioned a transfer. Im calling fake.
Did she say there her boyfriend was 30 and shes 26, they've been together for 10 years, im confused Edit: im confused by their age diff. Why was their relationship accepted. Yes she should leave the guy, his attitude shows that if his kids were in a dangerous situation, he would rather go to a party than help them, he only cares about hinself not op
20 and 16 Romeo and Juliet Laws would've protected the relationship. It's basically there to defend couples that usually met in high school but are just a few years apart. But in this case, I would've side eyed their relationship. Feels like something someone should've known would blow up in her face and talked her out of it.
They probably come from a state where 16 is the age of consent. Contrary to popular belief due to most movies and pop culture coming from California, 18 isn't the legal standard across the entire country. Although 18 is the federal minimum for images. Which leads to strange situations where teens (including even something like a pair of same aged 17 year olds that can legally date and screw each other) can end up with sex offender convictions for sending each other sexting pics.
Story 1: The wife's supposed posts on reddit in reply to OP are so over the top that it all feels fake. It's too much like a cartoon villain to be believable.
Unfortunately blaming men for hitting women in self defense and calling them babies for being emotionally distraught is incredibly common. Even if he's being sexually assaulted men are pretty much expected to do nothing to his aggressor if she's a woman bc women are uwu delicate babies who can't handle being hit even if they decide to SA people
Story 1: My guess is that it was definitely a “test” and they started doubling down after friend got mollywopped for being rapist and then it spiraled because the friends natural instinct to make false accusations took over. The “wife’s post” was definitely fake though. Story 2: The guy is grossly immature but she should have waited until they could have some privacy, and there was no direct need to tell him right then. She wasn’t going to be less pregnant after the party. I would be very disappointed if I found out with a group rather than getting to share that moment alone.
For the second story, she was 26 and they’ve been dating for 10 years, meaning they started dating when she was 16. He was turning 30 and would have been 20 when they started dating. Which is just really off putting to me.
@@southernflight5078 really? I was under the impression those only applied if they were both minors when they started dating? Like a 15 and 17 year old can continue dating when the 17 year old turns 18
Story 1: It’s always funny to me when attempted bravado turns into a hubristic vice. A poetic twist that paints more character than someone else’s description of you.
S1 she's single again! Wants her friend single too so can go out picking guys up together if he had accepted and cheated it'd still be the same story! Just wondering if wife is in on it too!
If I was op I would file for divorce and count himself lucky that he didn’t have kids with his wife and go no contact and get let her deal with the consequences of her actions story1
12:27 Is no one gonna point out undiagnosed narcissistic personality disorder the wife probably has because the way the wife started begging for a sugar daddy at 12:57 might be some sort of psychotic break IDK
Op saying she knew amy longer is a BS excuse, what if a man had said that about his hypothetical r*pist man friend, A woman would never excuse that and nor should men, to hypothetical r*pist women like amy
First story: Why can't you just get over it My girl do you know how many lives have been ruined over false allegations your husband or should I say your ex-husband got lucky because this could have been way worse for him
Story 1 is a great show of the power of feminism, such equality, we need to fight more cause women are oppressed! Meanwhile women SA men, accuse them of being the assaulter, send them to jail then years later come clean about it and face no consequences...
I get the instinct the believe a victim, especially if she was or knew a victim who hadn't been believed before, but still taking the friends side after the confession instead of flipping to defend the husband? That is the real red flag
Yep, wife is cheating, she's trying to frame him with her friend to ease the guilt, or was trying to make him cheat so she could get the hall pass, her trip to Greece or whatever with Amy gives it all.
Story 3, HE SCREAMED?! WTF?! Any sane person would silently walk out before theyre noticed, or say a "oops, sorry" and walk out. Screaming just added years to the time until they reconcile. 😂
Poor father in the last story. A girl in puberty is already hell to raise when you know that stage from your own experience. But when you are from the opposite sex, it is such a challenge. He should never ever have to announce his arrival in his home. They both could learn from that experience: Do not do things you might be ashamed off in a shared room like the living room. That is what your private space is for. The living room is not a private space unless you live alone. And as a father - your child will be curious about adult relationships sooner or later and explore their own desires. That is natural. Just carefully explain it was the wrong room she did it in. not the wrong act to do.
At first I understood the wife's not being sure about who to believe. Because I had a similar situation and it's hard to choose who to believe when you believe neither is capable of doing something like that. But after is unacceptable. You have a confession?! End of relationship.
Story 2. Before the fallout. I remember when I was going to have a wedding. I left the planning to my boyfriend because he wanted to have his day. I got pissed off when I found out he planned our wedding a day before my birthday. I accused him of always needing to be the centre of attention. Because, in all social situations, he somehow had to take attention to him. We split about a year later.
This is why men take note of the type of friends their partners have. Because even if you trust your wife and your wife trusts you, all it take is 1 person who truly knows how to manipulate people to ruin a relationship.
Some how the wife was equal in quality to a rapist simply by being an enabler and a gross cheater. The audacity of her to cry and scream in the comments.
First, why would she be walking around with little to nothing on. That Is a big red flag and I the moment my partner sided with someone like that without really listening to me it would be over period. Critical thinking needs to be taught in school as so many fail to think through situations in their adult life because they never learn it in their youth.
3rd Story: Uff, flashback for me. I was 14 and my dad + stepmom and older stepsister were out and I was alone in the house for the whole afternoon. This was in 2002, we had no internet back then. I wanted to go on a walk with our dog, but as I grabbed the dog leash, the tying clap broke. I knew my parents had another dog leash in the living room in a drawer and as I opened it, I put some stuff to the side and I found an adult video tape with very explicit covers. Omg I never saw an adult movie and barely any adult related stuff (I once found a adult magazine at my brothers room he is nine years older than me before he moved out but I was grossed out to touch it) and I guess with puberty and stuff you can guess that I was really exited. I let the dog into our garden instead of a walk and I watched the video. After that I wanted to sneak the video tape back into the drawer but the video tape got stock and wouldn't come out of the VCR player and I was so freaking embarassed. Then I saw the car of my parents down the driveway, panicked and went straight to my room. Glad you need to put the channel for the VCR recorder manually at this old TV lol. Few days later at the evening I had a knock at my door and my father and I had a (for me) very embarassing talk. I told why I searched in the drawer and he said he forgot to hide this tape in his bedroom and told he can understand my curiosity and what was going on and he managed to get the cassette out without breaking it and told my stepmom it was his fault. He also told me that that P and reality adult stuff are very different things and if I ever had questions regarding adult stuff, he'll be there to listen and answer and I don't need to be ashamed. When I was 16, I heard a silent knock at my door one evening, a "sssssssh!" and he slided an adult magazine under the door and I laughed and yelled: "Dad, not interested, we have internet now!!" 😂 I am grateful for my father's reaction and that he is so supportive!
What tf is wrong with the name title in 3 story💀? I read this reddit post six months ago and it was titled:"Daughter avoids me at all costs after an embarrassing encounter, how can I gain her back?" Why does the title in this video sound like a father is a creep who deliberately spied on his naked daughter? What kind of "her private space" are we talking about if it wasn't her bedroom, but a living room that any resident of the house can enter? Since when is masturbation in the living room become a "safe space" if you aren't living alone? What are these strange accusations? From the first lines of the post, it is clear that the father and daughter had an awkward situation, that it was an accident. People have really gone crazy for clickbait and views, since they write incest and pedophile hints in the titles of the post.
The last story was crazy… don’t usually hear a girl getting walked in on by the father… maybe that’s just me but usually it’s the son and it could be anyone 🤣🤣🤣 that being said op was a great father in that situation between how he handled it and asking for advice. They should be good 😊
Story 1: As a lady, I wish I could let OP know that he was smeggsually assaulted, and he should report her for that ALONE, let alone that he has proof of a confession in the friggin group chat! 😫🤬 Did the redditors really skip over that???!!! For real????!!!! 😰
Too bad bc when it actually happens to Amy or the (now ex) wife, no one's going to believe them and its all their fault. Amy's for lying and ex's for believing and taking Amy's side.
Story 2 There were a LOT of red flags that she friggin ignored. The way he treated her at the party wasn't a one time thing. You see how he's acting? That's not an "oops"
What is the ideal course of action in this situation? In which a woman tries to force herself on you? You know that if you refuse she can claim assault
I hate how story 1 just ends like wtf? Story 3: it’s like this. Us fathers simply don’t want to see our naked teen daughters at all. I’ve had the unfortunate experience of seeing that and ffs no God no! 🤦🏾♂️
OP fucked up by giving her exactly what she wanted, sadly. The best thing you can do in that situation is to swallow your pride, get on the ground and shield your face and call the GF/wife to get her crazy friend/sister away from you herself, to make it harder to force herself onto you, so your wife can "catcch you in the act". It's clear this was her plan from the very beginning and OP handed her the victory on a silver platter.
Believe all women, because they would never ever lie about something this serious, right?! She just made it that much more difficult for actual victims, of which there are many. Most go unreported.
Honestly it's stories like this that make me afraid of dating and just not want to get married, even though I have wanted to get married for a long time. The way OP's soon-to-be-ex was acting was horrendous, she acted like a typical abuser would. Full on like 'lol, he's not gonna leave me. She confessed and everything is fine, so why's he being such a little bitch about it.'
DUDE was sexually assaulted… why are we ignoring that?!?! WHAT IN THE HELL
Because it doesn't count of the victim is a man. #becausereasons
@@jonathanj8303that makes me so sad
Thats why sexual assault from a woman against a minor is not rape or not titeled as such... Welp, man realy dont count
Cause the world doesnt take actually caring about men being abused!
"MEN CANT BE SA'ED, AND EVEN IF THEY CAN THEY NEED TO SUCK IT UP AND COME BACK TO THE SA'ER AND APOLOGIZE TO THEM FOR NOT FORGIVING EARLIER" - some person on discord I was watching this video with
When a man is SA'd, people ask, "why didn't you fight back?"
Now, when this man fights back against being SA'd, people say, "you shouldn't have fought back."
*Well, which one is it!?*
some are abusers themselves, its all okay until it happen to them.
@@crazyazura7564 I'm convinced every woman who claims men can't be SA'd are, if not SA'ers themselves, strongly in favour of it, and would do it if they had the chance.
If the wife jumped on Reddit looking for a sugar daddy like the post mentioned, then it's obvious she married out of convenience and never truly loved OP. Hence, how easily she would've divorced him. She was probably hoping no one would look into the truth of the matter so she could get a good chunk of cash from OP. Hope he didn't fall for his (hopefully now) Ex-wife's BS.
@@southernflight5078 You have a point. I didnt think about it earlier but these women could had set him up, the vile ex-wife would simply wait a few years before attemps to ruin his life and steal wealth from him. Unfortunately he married parasite, not real woman.
@@MattJDave it's not just women who say that, it's men too. I bet if men had other men's back on this topic more often, this wouldn't be much of an issue.
Also amy admitted to it and the wife still said "idk who to believe"
girl what?
She then cries and plays victim? What a weirdo
It's a classic women☕ moment
"idk who to believe"
"Uhhhh.... Both of us? She confessed, so our stories are in agreement now."
@@captaingramcrackergrams5990 no, it's a bad person moment. don't blame shitty behaviour on gender, it's ridiculous.
That's like saying men☕ when there's a story about a man SAing someone. @@captaingramcrackergrams5990
@sunny-my9ng The crazy part is even women are doing it now. Have you seen the 'women math' trend? It has to be some of the most sexist shit I've ever seen
People treat female SA victims correctly showing concern and so on. But act like male victims are babies if they have any PTSD or anything. My biggest fear is being accused of that. It can and would ruin any man's life. So of course it's serious.
Nope not even that, remember #metoo and how many dudes were falsely accused?
But imagine being SAed and then being accused of what was done to you by them. That's a whole another level.
From first hand experience with a crazy ex, trust me It's not fun. I only got through it thanks to the fact that people knew she was a pathological liar so not many believed her. It still ruined a lot of relationships with people in my hometown as some still believe her, so i cant really go back there but cant really change that if they don't wanna listen.
@@dominicdefraine8751hope your life got better now that you’re away from her
If you get overpowered by a woman as a man you won't get sympathy from other men. The false accusation from a woman is a legitimate threat to a man
Story 1 glad op left her. I hope he finds someone worthy of him.
ya don't know why he waited 2 months
yep the icing on the cake was the ex wife thinking he wasn't going to do anything after all said and done got her trfling thot ass kicked out and impending divorce!
fr, I would never stay with someone who would laugh off and tried to brush off a SA as a "big misunderstanding"
When you are married and lose your man card that's what op is when you married to a woman you should be her best friend otherwise why the f are you living with her anyway.
The wife is a narcissist
Story 1: Yeah the wife is in love with Amy. And oh my goodness her comments revealed the kind of filth she is. She’s just as crazy as Amy. Wife wants Amy? Let her have her. The only reason why she doesn’t want OP to divorce her is because she knows HER reputation is at stake
i think she pushed her friend in to having sex with her husband,so she could have an excuse to convince him of a open relationship,or him and his wife and her friend,at the same time as a regular thing,no matter what count on it involves something sexual between the three of them.
Either that, or coerce him into better divorce agreement for her (on account of him cheating on her)
You really think the story is real? I mean it was believable until the cartoonists over the top bs wife posts
@@RequiemPoete i do actually believe it i know women just like the wife. The wife is a common narcissist you can tell by how she spoke about him in her comments
That definitely wasn't her account. I think they were just trying to get engagement from claiming it and then tried to get sugar daddies tbh
I wouldn't blame OP for punching her. It sounded like a reflex or whatever cos he panicked.
He was SAd himself, I'm a 100% sure it was pure survival instinct. Dude's not to blame, she is. His trauma is not only with the fact she falsely claimed he assaulted her, it's also the fact that he suffered a SA.
If she forced herself on you, then you were the one who was assaulted.
So, his wife turns out to be an awful person, just like her friend. Is anyone really surprised by this? I'm not.
Show me your friends and I'll show you who you are.
Without any of the background, the trip to Greece would have been enough to send me to a divorce lawyer.
Her spending a single day with that woman after what she did would’ve been enough for me to divorce
is the wife bisexual,one have to wonder.
She'd have come home to an empty house.
Story 1 A Wife that loves you would have been on your side. Your wife in no way loves you.
Not just as his wife, but as a fellow survivor of ab.use... how would she feel if people said she deserved what her ex did and to "get over it" a week later?
She was looking for sugar daddies online and saying he was a crying baby and deserved all of that for hitting her friend... She was as much of a bith as her friend, the difference is that he was married to her so he didn't see her true cheating colors...
Op punching Amy was 100% a fight response and is in the similar vain as those people that punch others when they get startled
Exactly. Perfect example is the video that went viral years ago of a dude popping out of a trash can to scare someone and got slumped right off the bat
If op doesn't divorce his wife he must prepare to be always sexond to that ah wife's friend. She believe a false accuser over him. Glad op divorced her abd kicked her out. She and amy deserved each other
OP dodged the largest bullet known to man
@@taminostam9912 Try an ICBM.
@@taminostam9912 tactical nuke
@@taminostam9912 death star
Story 1:
Problems I have with Amy's story: 1. If she was the victim, where are her clothes? 2. If you left them in the room, why are you walking around another person's home nekky? 3. Why are you more concerned with damage control than how your friend is doing?
Man is a victim and his wife has forsaken him.
Well, I think that's part of the reason why most people didn't believe her except for his biased wife and those hardcore feminists. I have nothing against feminists but gotta acknowledge that many of the hardcore ones can be so absurd and illogical.
As a survivor of SA, OPs wife and her friend infuriates me to the core.
I remember the first story. I was one of the ones who called her out on the sugar daddy posts which was why she deleted them
So you uploaded her comments to the thread?😂
@@LegendStormcrow No
OP should have kept his mouth shut and waited until wife and Amy were in Greece. Then he should have moved out, left divorce papers with his lawyer's phone number and changed all his contacts.
I disagree I think at least a direct confrontation to understand her motives would be better than just leaving.
8:06 *WHAT*? *She* should be the one who sleeps in the guest bedroom!
Gutter.
12:28 ..... wow. just wow, this bitch
Only a beta male would give up his bedroom to a woman and only a beta male would leave a house during an argument.
And also everyone is mentioning the false accusations but no one is talking about the fact that HE WAS LITERALLY ASSAULTED! What in gods goddamn earth is wrong with people. That’s how you know the female grape is more valued/respected than male grape, this is disgusting.
Because on average, a guy is stronger than a gal.
S3: I'm sorry bUT WTF did the daughter forget that she doesn't live alone and her dad can come in anytime that she was doing that IN THE DARN LIVING ROOM SORRY WTF ITS A SHARED SPACE and all the comments who said they had a similar experience WTAF DO THAT SHIT IN YOUR ROOM IF YOU SHARE A HOUSE HOW DUMB does that commenter and her BF have to be to do _the devils tango_(/s) in the living room knowing she was not living alone
Yea people are PRETTY dumb when it comes to sexual desire.
Dumb horny teens are dumb 😂 to be fair he came home unexpectedly but still lmao
I remember st1
Ah yes the classic she was under the influence excuse.
I love that excuse as much as a pedophile saying a 12 yr old flirted with me first personally.
Ever notice that men can’t use that same exact excuse?
I hate that excuse! Why use it! It's not like if you run someone over than its found out you were drunk the charged were dropped right? Why even think it is a valid excuse?!!!
I would seriously start questioning wether your wife was in on it the entire time and this wasn't a team effort between the both of them.
The Dad was a super hero, especially the part about sending the couch for deep cleaning and putting this in his back pocket for ten (more like twenty) years from now
Story #3
Yep, that's awkward. Glad I didn't give OP any advice, as what I would have suggested might have gone horribly wrong. My family deals with awkwardness through humor. If it can be joked about, then it must not be a big deal.
I recall at a relative's funeral for example, the mother of the deceased was saying a few words during the service. She said something to the effect of "He's in heaven now, looking down over the world, and watching over us, always", to which her other son responded "...And that's why I always masturbate UNDER the covers". Everyone laughed, even the grieving mom. That was very aligned with her late son's sense of humor, the kind of joke he would have laughed at, so by keeping that humor alive, it was actually a fitting remembrance. But I can easily see how in other families, that would be very awkward, deeply offend some people, and might even be considered "bullying" the grieving family. Context is essential.
OP might have been able to lighten the mood a bit by joking about the whole incident, and that would work in my family, but it sounds like his daughter might be less receptive to that approach. You really have to know your audience.
Then there's the more overt and honest approach. Simply say "You know, every time you avoid me, I'm reminded of why you're avoiding me. Please, let's just get back to normal so I can get that image out of my head". That's probably a bad thing to say, but honest at least. If her sense of shame is what's keeping her away, and you know you can't do anything to assuage that embarrassment, then leverage it to force her down a path back to the normal status quo. That's probably bad advice too, but effective, I'm sure.
OR as OP did, just wait it out, that works too. She can't avoid him forever.
OP’s wife messed up to expose herself that she was looking for sugar daddy on Reddit.
I think she's trynna mess with OP
@@happilyevernever4289More likely she's just a garbage person who was using OP for money and was gonna use the false SA accusations to take everything of his in the divorce
@@happilyevernever4289I be like commenting on her post saying “yeah someone please take her I don’t want her anymore”
Honestly the fact that it took more than a hour after her waking up in the hospital to realize that the op was innocent and refused to speak to him after he was SA’ed would should have been enough to divorce. You don’t come back from that level of distrust
As a fellow meat shmeater myself, do it in your room not IN THE MIDDLE OF THE LIVING ROOM.
You can do it in the living room WHEN YOU LIVE ALONE
@@Black-Rose12 naw chief, that still ain't right on a courteous level for your visitors.
@@kaboom983 he should watch the American Pie spin off movies to learn the consequences of such actions lmao.
I dont know if I actually believe the reddit post being the wife. I mean, it seems way too callous. Also the sugar daddy shit kinda makes me think this was someone mascarading as the wife.
Yeah on story 1 ops ex-wife is absolutely a scumbag but it's also Reddit and it wouldn't be the first time someone's pretended to be someone else on there to try and cause drama and issues
Either someone just wanting more drama. Or the wife letting the mask slip a little too early. But there's also the chance that Toxic Amy was always trying to get her "friend" divorced so they can live the single life together again.
Story 2: wow but uhm OP is in a pickle cause if he signs away parental rights he’s not obligated or ordered to pay child support
I was gonna say the same. Op is screwed.....
That’s not true. It depends on the state.
I was dying when she said she's gonna keep it. Don't bring a whole a$$ person into the world because you obviously want to spite your cheating ex. Jfc
@smughorse She never said she wanted to spite him. Considering how long they were trying for a baby and how committed she was (even though she was regrettably groomed), she's keeping the baby bc she wants it. Look at the boyfriend's reaction where he said he'd pay her to get an abortion and when she wouldn't do what he wanted, kicked her out of the house. Is that not fucked up to you?
That depends entirely on the state. In most states it does not get you out of child support.
Amy punished the dog for her choices? Yeah, lock her up
Everybody say it with me:
✨ART ROOM!✨
😂
That's only for men. On reddit, she's a hero for duping a straight guy and he "needs to fix her crown" while she "lives her truth and comes out!"
Probably don't have the cash for it.
Home gym, much much cheeper. Bench, long & short bars, weights, punching bag & speedball. Well under a grand $.
Taking up a hobby is a good way to recover from emotional stress. I personally agree with the home gym, but that might be because I can’t paint or draw to save my life.
Story 2: “26 F and married for 10 years”. 😮. Found the problem
They weren't married because the guy "didn't believe in it" another way of saying, I don't care enough about you, I don't want the government in our relationship, or I've given up on marriage completely. Obviously in this case being the former.
Young marriages are only a problem in this time of Satanic rule.
Op said boyfriend not husband, and that they had been together for 10 years.
But other things dont make sense to me, she alludes to a bad financial situation, then seems fine with being a single mother, is now considering college, even though she is in a bad financial situation and is expecting a child, and what time does she have for college since she seems to have a full time job already, since she mentioned a transfer.
Im calling fake.
Story 1 was quite the rollercoaster.
Did she say there her boyfriend was 30 and shes 26, they've been together for 10 years, im confused
Edit: im confused by their age diff. Why was their relationship accepted.
Yes she should leave the guy, his attitude shows that if his kids were in a dangerous situation, he would rather go to a party than help them, he only cares about hinself not op
Yeah that's wild
Yeah 4 year difference normal for lots of couples in high school, still that guy is and was a dumbass.
Story 2: It being his birthday is no excuse. Dump him.
20 and 16
Romeo and Juliet Laws would've protected the relationship. It's basically there to defend couples that usually met in high school but are just a few years apart. But in this case, I would've side eyed their relationship. Feels like something someone should've known would blow up in her face and talked her out of it.
They probably come from a state where 16 is the age of consent. Contrary to popular belief due to most movies and pop culture coming from California, 18 isn't the legal standard across the entire country.
Although 18 is the federal minimum for images. Which leads to strange situations where teens (including even something like a pair of same aged 17 year olds that can legally date and screw each other) can end up with sex offender convictions for sending each other sexting pics.
Can anyone use the "under the influence" excuse?
Only women.
RUN CONNOR RUN
If the wife told him the same thing and he didnt belive her would it be dramatic then also… glad shes gone
Story 1: The wife's supposed posts on reddit in reply to OP are so over the top that it all feels fake. It's too much like a cartoon villain to be believable.
Unfortunately blaming men for hitting women in self defense and calling them babies for being emotionally distraught is incredibly common. Even if he's being sexually assaulted men are pretty much expected to do nothing to his aggressor if she's a woman bc women are uwu delicate babies who can't handle being hit even if they decide to SA people
Those posts are definitely from the wife...it reeks of projections and hate, which even a dummy can know that she never loved her husband.
I'm glad you're done with both of them. Dude you deserve better.
Story 1: My guess is that it was definitely a “test” and they started doubling down after friend got mollywopped for being rapist and then it spiraled because the friends natural instinct to make false accusations took over.
The “wife’s post” was definitely fake though.
Story 2: The guy is grossly immature but she should have waited until they could have some privacy, and there was no direct need to tell him right then. She wasn’t going to be less pregnant after the party. I would be very disappointed if I found out with a group rather than getting to share that moment alone.
For the second story, she was 26 and they’ve been dating for 10 years, meaning they started dating when she was 16. He was turning 30 and would have been 20 when they started dating. Which is just really off putting to me.
Romeo and Juliet Laws can be abused in this manner sadly. Just have to be a few years in difference, and you can date a high schooler legally. 😒
@@southernflight5078 really? I was under the impression those only applied if they were both minors when they started dating? Like a 15 and 17 year old can continue dating when the 17 year old turns 18
Depending on where you are in the world there are some places where the age of consent is actually 16 years old.
Story 1 if amy didn't get something she need then she wouldn't let anyone have it
If that was my wife in story 1, I’d probably not be here to type this comment. She and her friend would be long departed.
The dad in the last story knows what sort of toys to buy her now 😂
Story 1: wow, the wife and amy deserve each other. I cant believe her heartless response.
Story 1: It’s always funny to me when attempted bravado turns into a hubristic vice. A poetic twist that paints more character than someone else’s description of you.
S1 she's single again! Wants her friend single too so can go out picking guys up together if he had accepted and cheated it'd still be the same story! Just wondering if wife is in on it too!
If I was op I would file for divorce and count himself lucky that he didn’t have kids with his wife and go no contact and get let her deal with the consequences of her actions story1
Why isn't anyone talking about story three and how the guy is going to send his couch "for deep cleaning"😆😆😆
Op needs to divorce and get as far as he can.
12:27 Is no one gonna point out undiagnosed narcissistic personality disorder the wife probably has because the way the wife started begging for a sugar daddy at 12:57 might be some sort of psychotic break IDK
Op saying she knew amy longer is a BS excuse,
what if a man had said that about his hypothetical r*pist man friend,
A woman would never excuse that and nor should men,
to hypothetical r*pist women like amy
First story: Why can't you just get over it My girl do you know how many lives have been ruined over false allegations your husband or should I say your ex-husband got lucky because this could have been way worse for him
something tells me she approved her friend having sex,with her husband.
Are you certain your wife isn’t having an affair with Amy ? Run she is not someone you want in your corner as you can obviously see .
Story 1 is a great show of the power of feminism, such equality, we need to fight more cause women are oppressed!
Meanwhile women SA men, accuse them of being the assaulter, send them to jail then years later come clean about it and face no consequences...
WTFFFFF in the 3rd Story😂😂😂😂😂
Story 1:
OP = NTA
Amy & OP's ex-wife = WAHMEN ☕😮💨🙄😐😮💨😠😡
So... The woman replied to the comment on a public account she had used to find sugar daddies....
Seriously man there need to be some public registry of false accusers.
I get the instinct the believe a victim, especially if she was or knew a victim who hadn't been believed before, but still taking the friends side after the confession instead of flipping to defend the husband? That is the real red flag
Yes you could ask her to leave !
Op: "i love my beautiful wife"
Proceeds to describe a manipulative monster
Story 1: Wife and Amy were working together. Wife missed being a party girl and needed a way to get a favorable divorce.
Misery loves company, and her freind sounds as miserable as they come...
Looks like OP2 didn't even need to get pregnant since she already had a giant baby in her life
the 3rd story start is comedic
Why would you even try to work it out with that snake.
Yep, wife is cheating, she's trying to frame him with her friend to ease the guilt, or was trying to make him cheat so she could get the hall pass, her trip to Greece or whatever with Amy gives it all.
Story 3, HE SCREAMED?! WTF?! Any sane person would silently walk out before theyre noticed, or say a "oops, sorry" and walk out. Screaming just added years to the time until they reconcile. 😂
First story was nuts but the wife wasn't the only one ignoring signs. His wife was a screaming red flag that he ignored.
Wooooow the response is crazy if that's her actual response
If OPs best friend tried the same thing with her, would she just "get over it?" She deserves to be sad and alone for that attitude.
Poor father in the last story. A girl in puberty is already hell to raise when you know that stage from your own experience. But when you are from the opposite sex, it is such a challenge. He should never ever have to announce his arrival in his home.
They both could learn from that experience: Do not do things you might be ashamed off in a shared room like the living room. That is what your private space is for. The living room is not a private space unless you live alone.
And as a father - your child will be curious about adult relationships sooner or later and explore their own desires. That is natural. Just carefully explain it was the wrong room she did it in. not the wrong act to do.
I wish I could ask "why just NOT assault people" but i have to just accept that i will never understand how these people think.
Story 3. Why do it in the living room, when you have your own room with laptop? Bruh.
Bigger screen I guess lol
At first I understood the wife's not being sure about who to believe. Because I had a similar situation and it's hard to choose who to believe when you believe neither is capable of doing something like that. But after is unacceptable. You have a confession?! End of relationship.
Story 2. Before the fallout.
I remember when I was going to have a wedding.
I left the planning to my boyfriend because he wanted to have his day.
I got pissed off when I found out he planned our wedding a day before my birthday.
I accused him of always needing to be the centre of attention.
Because, in all social situations, he somehow had to take attention to him.
We split about a year later.
This is why men take note of the type of friends their partners have. Because even if you trust your wife and your wife trusts you, all it take is 1 person who truly knows how to manipulate people to ruin a relationship.
Some how the wife was equal in quality to a rapist simply by being an enabler and a gross cheater. The audacity of her to cry and scream in the comments.
By new uodates we can get know her as a manipulator and narcistic person. (now Ex)-Husband is at fault but no them.
Equal? I think she's worse somehow...
First, why would she be walking around with little to nothing on. That Is a big red flag and I the moment my partner sided with someone like that without really listening to me it would be over period. Critical thinking needs to be taught in school as so many fail to think through situations in their adult life because they never learn it in their youth.
3rd Story: Uff, flashback for me. I was 14 and my dad + stepmom and older stepsister were out and I was alone in the house for the whole afternoon. This was in 2002, we had no internet back then. I wanted to go on a walk with our dog, but as I grabbed the dog leash, the tying clap broke. I knew my parents had another dog leash in the living room in a drawer and as I opened it, I put some stuff to the side and I found an adult video tape with very explicit covers. Omg I never saw an adult movie and barely any adult related stuff (I once found a adult magazine at my brothers room he is nine years older than me before he moved out but I was grossed out to touch it) and I guess with puberty and stuff you can guess that I was really exited. I let the dog into our garden instead of a walk and I watched the video. After that I wanted to sneak the video tape back into the drawer but the video tape got stock and wouldn't come out of the VCR player and I was so freaking embarassed. Then I saw the car of my parents down the driveway, panicked and went straight to my room. Glad you need to put the channel for the VCR recorder manually at this old TV lol. Few days later at the evening I had a knock at my door and my father and I had a (for me) very embarassing talk. I told why I searched in the drawer and he said he forgot to hide this tape in his bedroom and told he can understand my curiosity and what was going on and he managed to get the cassette out without breaking it and told my stepmom it was his fault. He also told me that that P and reality adult stuff are very different things and if I ever had questions regarding adult stuff, he'll be there to listen and answer and I don't need to be ashamed. When I was 16, I heard a silent knock at my door one evening, a "sssssssh!" and he slided an adult magazine under the door and I laughed and yelled: "Dad, not interested, we have internet now!!" 😂 I am grateful for my father's reaction and that he is so supportive!
Im so sorry for him and all vicitms who dont get justice. Male victims are just as valid as female victims. We must stand up for them
Oh hell no divorce her
Leave your wife for mistrust. Plus she was ready to divorce you, but shrugs off Amy's fault?
What tf is wrong with the name title in 3 story💀? I read this reddit post six months ago and it was titled:"Daughter avoids me at all costs after an embarrassing encounter, how can I gain her back?" Why does the title in this video sound like a father is a creep who deliberately spied on his naked daughter? What kind of "her private space" are we talking about if it wasn't her bedroom, but a living room that any resident of the house can enter? Since when is masturbation in the living room become a "safe space" if you aren't living alone? What are these strange accusations? From the first lines of the post, it is clear that the father and daughter had an awkward situation, that it was an accident. People have really gone crazy for clickbait and views, since they write incest and pedophile hints in the titles of the post.
What did you expect? This entire channel is a shameless cash grab.
When he said he punched her THATS CRAZY 😂
I've trust issues
Had i been in place of OP I'd have jumped into sprinting without turning back
The last story was crazy… don’t usually hear a girl getting walked in on by the father… maybe that’s just me but usually it’s the son and it could be anyone 🤣🤣🤣 that being said op was a great father in that situation between how he handled it and asking for advice. They should be good 😊
Story 1:
As a lady, I wish I could let OP know that he was smeggsually assaulted, and he should report her for that ALONE, let alone that he has proof of a confession in the friggin group chat! 😫🤬
Did the redditors really skip over that???!!! For real????!!!! 😰
Too bad bc when it actually happens to Amy or the (now ex) wife, no one's going to believe them and its all their fault. Amy's for lying and ex's for believing and taking Amy's side.
Story 2
There were a LOT of red flags that she friggin ignored. The way he treated her at the party wasn't a one time thing. You see how he's acting? That's not an "oops"
What is the ideal course of action in this situation? In which a woman tries to force herself on you? You know that if you refuse she can claim assault
I hate how story 1 just ends like wtf?
Story 3: it’s like this. Us fathers simply don’t want to see our naked teen daughters at all. I’ve had the unfortunate experience of seeing that and ffs no God no! 🤦🏾♂️
OP fucked up by giving her exactly what she wanted, sadly. The best thing you can do in that situation is to swallow your pride, get on the ground and shield your face and call the GF/wife to get her crazy friend/sister away from you herself, to make it harder to force herself onto you, so your wife can "catcch you in the act". It's clear this was her plan from the very beginning and OP handed her the victory on a silver platter.
Story 1: the most shocking thing is that OP's wife didn't immediately start a relationship with her rat of a friend as soon as OP walked out.
Wife and Amy want to visit the island of Lesbos on their trip to Greece.
Story 1. If this is real; the wife and friend set this up intentionally.
Believe all women, because they would never ever lie about something this serious, right?! She just made it that much more difficult for actual victims, of which there are many. Most go unreported.
Honestly it's stories like this that make me afraid of dating and just not want to get married, even though I have wanted to get married for a long time. The way OP's soon-to-be-ex was acting was horrendous, she acted like a typical abuser would. Full on like 'lol, he's not gonna leave me. She confessed and everything is fine, so why's he being such a little bitch about it.'