This video is so beast! It was the most amazing experience to film with Stephen Graham, genuinely one of the best actors this country has ever seen & such a lovely bloke. So proud of this one!!
My old man passed away last year. Due to the pandemic, I wasn't allowed to visit him in the hospital where he withered day after day, alone. He owned a bar, where he used to organize live music events. I remember our grey and sad town coming alive during these events, little bit happier, little bit more alive. The nights pretty much always ended up in red (he had the habit of offering to drink to everyone) but he never really cared that much, all he wanted was to share his love for music with anyone who passed by. He loved his job so much and I guess that's why, despite being a loving father, he was never really present when I was a kid. We started to get closer in the last three years, more or less, bonding over our shared love for music. I remember him constantly asking me to go with him to that concert there, this vinyl exhibition here. But I also remember me constantly refusing because I was battling depression, thought still thinking that we could eventually go, once I got better, that we still had time. Joke's on me because I got better and he got worse and time has run out now. This song has brought back lots of unresolved feelings in me. Thank you Sam, perhaps I needed this.
When he played this at Glastonbury, a man next to me teared up. I asked if he was okay, he told me he lost his father a few months prior and had only just mended their relationship in time before his death. I gave him a hug, being thankful for still having a father. This song really speaks to a lot of people.
Me mam left me and me younger sister when I was 14ish, I still cannot forgive her, me poor dad never knew what hit him, and it wrecked me life, yes, she is dead now, still cannot forive her
Lost my middle son, only 29years old due to addiction. He was a beautiful person,caring , funny strong hard working & handsome. I miss him so much. This song connects to me. He was a spit of me & I hope some day I will see & meet with him again. Had a great 9 months with him before his passing. God bless all who has connection through this song.
Sounds like you had a good relationship. I’ve never felt a real connection with my dad, he’s been there my whole life but there’s just nothing. I mourn for it sometimes. Sounds like you had something special. Stay strong 💪
This was my relationship with my dad, i cant remember ever having any deep meaningful conversations with him, not many i love yous or hugs but i always thought the world of him, he just wasnt that kind of person with me. He was a big drinker and had a toxic relationship with my mother which created a pretty terrible home life for many years. I was about 17 and came home from football practice to find out that hed walked out on us, i was upset but wasnt surprised, i had a little cry on my own in my room, punched a hole in my wardrobe and that was it. I didnt hear from him for months, had no idea where hed gone then finally got a call, he was living in Spain. Over the next 12 or 13 years i had minimal contact with him, not through choice but he would be constantly changing numbers and i couldnt get hold of him, i did manage to fly out to see him 3 or 4 times in those 13 years and he never returned to the uk. I was 29/30 and got a call from the British consulate, he was found living homeless on the streets and had been taken in by a charity, i was told he seemed to be suffering from memory loss, was in a bad physical condition and would keep disappearing. I booked a flight out on my own straight away to search the streets to try and find him and found out hed been taken to hospital, i found out where it was and got a taxi there, he was almost unrecognisable and he had no idea who i was. He was diagnosed with vascular dementia, a kind of dementia that can be brought on by drinking. Over the next 3 months he stayed in hospital and between flying between the UK and Spain i would look after him, buy him clothes and the kind of things he used to like, cut his hair, trim his beard. In that time he would have spells where his memory would come back, hed know who i was and we would talk like wed never been apart yet he also seemed to be totally unaware of the situation he was in, then he would just stop talking and hed start staring straight through me like he had no idea who i was again. Although he had spells where his mental condition seemed to get better his physical condition rapidly deteriorated. I had to return home to the UK on Christmas eve as i had a 6 month old baby, was self employed and had a house to pay for, i just couldnt keep spending any more time and money out there. That was the last time i saw him, i woke up one morning about a month or so later to a voicemail from a Spanish nurse saying that hed died, it was in Spanish and i barely understood a word but i knew what she was saying. Im 35 now with two daughters and the older i get the more i keep seeing my dad in myself, we look and act almost identically. I never questioned any of the things my dad put me/us through and he never acknowledged it, i never asked him why he left. I wish i could meet him again as an adult because i feel like i only knew him as a child and the older i get and the more i learn about myself the more i start to feel like i could have understood him. I suppose on a positive note its given me the self awareness i need to aknowledge my own faults and i can use that to be the best father to my daughters i could possibly be. RIP Dad, i still love you x
Lovely message mate, i think we can all learn from our painful experiences which will make us better parents and its a shame you didn't get to an age where you could perhaps have that adult conversation and understand the "why" man to man. My situation has made me try and be and more open with my son as i want him to be able to tell me anything without judgement as i never had that.
Thanks a lot Neil. Looking at some of the comments on here it seems a lot of people had similar relationships with their dads, i wonder if its a generational thing that men in those days just didnt open up and talk about what they think, how they feel, there emotions etc. Il admit i find it hard so maybe that attitude has been passed on and maybe passed on through men for generations before. I remember reading something that said how it takes a strong person to be the one to break that mold and to stop those traits being passed on to future generations (our kids). Maybe its our responsibility to do that. All the best to you and your son.
Man your story brought me to tears. I appreciate how much love and forgiveness you have in your heart and I wish you that you'll get that love back from all those around you. ❤️
My son just sent this to me - simultaneously disconcerting and heartwarming - it actually made me cry, and now I look at these comments I see I'm not alone ... thanks son.
Hope you called him.... It's your cue. And you should be so proud you have a son with that bravery. It'll give you a future family you won't unless you got back to him...God speed John
I described Sam as a generational talent to a friend of mine just yesterday. It's a gift to be able to put to words how so many of us feel about people we love and ourselves, and make it a banger all at the same time
I'm here with everyone else who had a "complicated" relationship with their father. And I'm here with those of you who never really got the chance to correct it before he passed. Thanks, Sam, this song gets me every time.
My son was born just over a year ago now and there were many times i struggled mentally with providing for my family and trying to be the best father i can. I had so much stress but felt i needed to keep it bottled in so I be a rock for my wife. There were times i felt like giving up but I came across this song and it gave me such a new lease of life. I sang it my boy everynight as it felt like a way to connect with him and made me realise i was doing a decent job as a father. Saved my life really.
This song was close to making me cry when I heard it but after seeing the video I’m bawling. My dad and I get along but don’t talk and when we do it’s typically about my brother. Two weeks ago my grandfather died and I saw my dad cry for one of the first times in my life. A week after that my dad got diagnosed with a blood clot. I think it’s time I learn to talk to him, life is precious
Love your dad while you can. My dad passed away really suddenly last year. I miss him terribly and a piece of me died when he did. Life isn’t the same. I know he’ll be looking down willing me on my not so good days to carry on. You’ve still got the chance to tell your dad and show him how much you love him. Make every day count because when they are gone it’s horrible ❤️
I listened to the whole album driving from Kirkcaldy to dundee. Honestly one of the best albums I’ve listen to in a long time. I don’t have a close relationship to my dad, now he’s older and got dementia and I see him slipping further away, song literally pulls on so many heart strings. Sam just has that rare quality of making the listener feel like they are the only ones who listen to him in that way of an undiscovered artist. Such a talent and humbling singer.
@@chelseachelsea572 I beg your pardon? I made a comment about my relationship with my dad not a romantic relationship? I thought that was made quite clear by the amount of times I mentioned my father in the comment.. Edit: if by chance you meant “not a woman” in the sense of this only being relatable to men and their relationship with their fathers, kindly stop telling me to listen to something else. Having a rough relationship with your dad has nothing to do with whether you’re a man or woman. That way of thinking goes against everything Sam stands for.
My dad was an abusive alcoholic. He died back in September. He put us through hell, this video totally got to me. This combined with seventeen going under has had me bawling tonight. Bravo on an amazing song, a brilliant video & you've found a new fan in me.
The great thing about this man's stuff is even if you didn't experience anything like the subject matter it takes you there as if you did, you can appreciate the pain.
Snap ❤️ I really hope your scars have healed. This and 17 going under go right through me too for the exact same reasons ❤️ I hope you’ve healed friend.
Whoever ist responsible for the artistic representation of Sam‘s music is amazing. There is not 1 video I don’t like. It captures the mood of every song just perfectly. And I’m always sooo moved afterwards. Especially here: very good acting and so relatable! And now I want fish&chips and a camping holiday!
When things were at their very worst: 2 Suns, Cross in the sky, 2 comets will collide = don`t be afraid - repent, accept Lord`s Hand of Mercy. Scientists will say it was a global illusion. Beware - Jesus will never walk in flesh again. After WW3 - rise of the “ man of peace“ from the East = Antichrist - the most powerful, popular, charismatic and influential leader of all time. Many miracles will be attributed to him. He will imitate Jesus in every conceivable way. Don`t trust „pope“ Francis = the False Prophet - will seem to rise from the dead - will unite all Christian Churches and all Religions as one. One World Religion = the seat of the Antichrist. Benedict XVI is the last true pope - will be accused of a crime of which he is totally innocent. "The time for the schism in the Church is almost here and you must get prepared now" "Arab uprising will spark global unrest - Italy will trigger fall out" The Book of Truth
As a 17-year-old who's yet to experience more of life, this song and the entire album hit me. What a breath of fresh air in the toxic pop culture in my generation.
Rarely do I hear a song where both the music and the lyrics sum up exactly how I'm feeling. I'm 34 and don't talk to my dad because he is an emotional abuser and it's something I struggle with every day. Last night I went for a drive somewhere quiet, had this on repeat. I cried and cried and cried, it was exactly what I needed. Thank you with all my heart Sam!
I feel you JB. I'm kind of in the same predicament', but unfortunately, it can't be resolved. It has been 28 years and my father refuses to act correctly. I'm done being sad. A hug to you, my brother.
Also 34 and in a similar situation bud. Many guys out there with clueless fathers who no doubt had clueless fathers themselves. It doesn’t take the pain away however. People like us will rise and set a better standard ✊🏻❤️
To all those sons out there with a dad still alive that they don’t talk to …. Go talk to him ! He still loves you, try to understand his life and story ….A lot of men Leave their families as a sacrifice to the happiness of all in the house. Yes there are lots of men who should be alone but there are a lot more who crave the love of their children ! Don’t wait until it’s too late go try to offer an olive branch and talk …. I wish my sons would, I know that for sure. I have tried to talk to them ! Now I’m just lonely old man of 58 still loving the little boys he left behind many years ago wanting to know them as the men they have become. ❤
I'm a 70yo woman, and this song broke my heart. It speaks to men and women. The music is great, but especially in the refrain. I just want to put my hands up to the sky! Good luck, son, in your life and musical career. May you go far, and be happy with it!
This song hits hard. Emotional, beautiful and raw. I love how Sam writes songs on topics which we usually don’t talk about or hear in music these days. I grew up with an absent father and it reminds me of my turbulent love-hate relationship with my mother. I can’t stop crying.
My 19 year old lad sent me this song as I'm not seeing as much of him as I would like after splitting with his mum 3 ears ago. Se we call it our song now....THANKS Sam
This made me cry so hard. So fucking honest. We need real northern influences like Sam Fender in our lives and I’m so glad he’s out here killing it. 😭🙏🏼
I wouldn't say underrated at all mate. I think every person alive knows that this bloke can act, his emotional barrier is off the chart. I love him. And he is diehard LIVERPOOL FC FAN!!! YNWA.
“You kissed her forehead, and it run like a tap”. I’m sure there’s alot of people who felt a lot pain hearing that line. Sam Fender you’re generational. Game changer.
I’ve grown up my whole life living single parented with my mum, I lost contact with my dad by the time I was 8. I never received a birthday card, a Christmas card, a text a phone call. Nothing. I’m 21 and still haven’t spoken to my father since I was 8, he could be anywhere in this world, and I’d never know. This song relates to me massively, “I can talk to anyone, I can talk to anyone. I can’t talk to you“ Dad if your anywhere out there I’m sorry I was never enough for you to love me or want time with me, maybe in another life you will. You’ve taught me a lesson in life though and I thank you for it. That lesson is to never ever disown my own born like you.
Never had a song to remind me of my old man until this. Hes still alive and kicking but cant help but tear up when i listen to this. Sam man. With all the shit remakes made today you stand alone.
Tale as old as time.. got damnit if it isn't the hardest thing in the world to make peace with your dad when the communication is haltered by intergenerational trauma and social suffering. I felt every damn word of this song in the guts. WHAT a songwriter you are Sam. Hats off!
Sam lad Am a fellow George,n Yr tracks burn my heart, am 50 n dnt see my laddie n th pain hurts so bad Any followers over wor Sam take note Av nowt left t live for but carry on on th off chance Any lads n lass,s n similar paths, Grab Yr bairn by both arms n don't let go Peace......n up th mags
Am one ov those dad's very local(tyneside)n u think where all lovers Av not seen my boy for 11yrs n as each Yr goes by more over me dies Dad's gud or bad r not th same friend Good n happy day wife Yr laddie.... Respect
As a South Wales valley boy I see so many similarities with my friends in the North. My dad was a miner hard men .there was no way on gods earth could you sit down and chat with my dad . Love your music Sam. You have brought back respect to the British music industry .
If only I could talk to him at least once again... My dad passed away when I was 21 and miss him every single day of my life. Thank you for this masterpiece and for a biblical new album, Sam. Tears of joy and gratefulness for my feelings after watching this.
I recently lost my dad too to a heart attack. This song got me when I watched Sams performance at Glastonbury and he had stage visuals as all the family pics, a lot like my dads funeral. My dad was my best friend and we talked but not always. I’d go through torture to just have a conversation over a pint with him again.
Hi, A Native of North Shields here. This song struck a Chord with me. I live in Germany and don`t get back much. I had no contact with my Dad for many years but I did have, and did take, the opportunity to make my peace with him when he became terminally ill with Cancer. He always said I was just like him....a spitting image so to say. He realized toward the end that this wasn`t the case. I am many things that he wasn`t precisely because of how he was. Growing up in the 60/70`s at the bottom end of the social ladder in Shields was , let us say, an interesting time. Times were hard and our parents did the best they could, or knew how to under difficult circumstances. Thanks for the song 🙂
Going home on Friday to the UK after 14 years of being ‘stuck’ in the USA - haven’t seen my dad for that long. This just stabbed me in the heart. Can’t wait to see him and tell him I love him.
Wow this song is my Dad and I in a nutshell.. never could talk to him In a meaningful deep way. My father really missed out on having a great relationship with his son who loves him very much..
Two of Britain’s finest within in the entertainment business in one video. Sam couldn’t have picked a better actor, hats off to whoever made this happen. Absolutely superb 💙
@Blue&Green I was thinking the message was more "I came from you but I'm nothing like you" and using an actor who doesn't resemble Sam was meant to visually illustrate that.
This was my Dad with his Dad. Such a complicated relationship made worse when my dads brother died of meningitis aged only 2, my dad only 8. He left the north west aged 18 to come to uni in Newcastle & never went back home. He vowed never to be like that with his kids. He was 80 last week & has never stopped hugging his 3 daughters & 4 grandkids & tells us he loves us every day. So proud of my Dad & so proud of my fellow Geordie Sam. X
Just come across Sam after someone on Facebook shared his interview on BBC breakfast with a massive hangover and he was instantly likable, honest and funny.. I'm 35, and I hate most music released now adays so I read more about him and the meaning of his songs before coming here and listening to them... Well I am hooked! He's hooked me under for the first time since I was a teenager listening to house and dance classics in the 90s, he's brilliant and what an inspiration to young kids today. I wish him the biggest and the best career ever, and he will give his mam everything he dreamed of because he is a breath of fresh air in such a horrible world. His mum must be bursting with pride and she should be so proud of her son because she has done a wonderful job of raising him. So from a new fan, I will be following him now and supporting him by buying his albums and going to see him play live. A very lovely and fantastic story with so much more to come and I wish for the best. What a fantastic normal lad... And I hope that his head is abit better today 😂
Amazing song.. relatable. My father has been emotionally and at times physically abusive growing up. This was my relationship with him. He'd smash glass tables and hurt my mother, but at the same time he was always good at providing for us. I'd always cower in my room until I heard my mother scream. But it always stuck with me, I never managed to grow out of that fear and eventually I began to talk less and less to him as an adult. It wasn't because I hated him.. just he wasn't a close person to me and never was. He now resents me for it, but I just can't talk to him. And I can talk to anyone.
He doesn’t deserve your love. He should be coming to you for forgiveness. He’s had his chance. You’re more of a man than he’ll ever be. And he knows it. Must eat at him daily. Sam’s written your song.
51 yrs old and watching my relationship with my Dad in this video, and hearing it through Sam's words. He's just recently been diagnosed with Cancer, and I want to be there for him, but still always the endless anger driving him makes me love him a little less each day. I can indeed talk to anyone, but not him. Thank you Sam and Stephen for putting my thoughts into your words and pictures.
He's having a fucked up time working (or not working) through his griefs. Stuck in anger. I'm there with my parents still after decades. Hang tight you're working through it even if he can't.
This video is a piece of astounding cinematography. I thought that the music video for Seventeen Going Under was moving, but let me say that once watching this one, I feel that Spit Of You is far way more poignant and stirring in my opinion. The plain, honest scenes about a dad and his kid going through the motions together and facing them, it’s something which can only convey pure bliss and beauty to the story. Words have a tangible identity when portrayed on screen, which means you can relate more and more to them. As usual, tears rise to my eyes as I write a comment under one of your mv’s.
The last was Noel Gallagher…I’ve been waiting for many years for another generation defining songwriter, I think this is him. What an incredible talent you are Sam Fender.
I have followed his career since the start,I am an adopted Geordie (moved there age 10). I'm old but love music and this guy is exceptional. His lyrics blow me away. Nobody does it better. Keep well Sam, and keep sharing your talent ❤
When they played this song at glastonbury, I was overwhelmed with emotion and had tears rolling down my face, my girlfriend hugged me. The way this song captures my relationship with my father really hits me, thank you sam for that moment. What an incredible artist.
This song sums up my dad and me. He’s 68 I’m 38 but we struggle to talk to each other unless it involves me kids. Still love him. Our relationship is a result of a father working away for 10-15 years to provide for his family that I’m great full that I don’t need to do.
Don't leave it until it's too late. Take him out for a pint, and tell him you understand why he had to work away so much! My dad died when I was 23 and I would do anything to go back in time and thank him for grafting 7 days a week to provide.
I miss my dad so much. I writing this as I've jusy my mum last Friday. Suppose I was looking for a sad song to force the tears out. I feel so alone .. I'm a fucking orphan at 37 . Why me . Don't know why I end up listening to these songs as they make me sad .anyway . Just want anyone to know you ain't alone Xx
No matter drunk, no matter sober. This song hits the true depth of emotions any time. It transcends away from life, jobs, friends, family, love and makes all of those things disappear and swing right at back at you at the same time. Reflecting in the most powerful way possible.
Honestly....This is the kind of relationship I had with my Dad. This explained in 4+ minutes what I had been struggling to explain my most of my life about my Dad. He passed 4 years ago. In any case thanks for the music. Keep it up mate. Talented Man.
I'm 37 I wouldn't know where to start with making things right with me and my dad but love this so makes me think of him every time I hear it but also makes me cry every time too! One day dad!
This was my dad. He could connect with any and everyone but his own kids. It wasn't until I was in my early 30's before he could finally speak to me like a human being. I guess he figured he was getting too old and needed to connect. He passed away February 2021 and I miss him dearly. This song just brought me to tears.
I saw you so upset when your mum died. I didn’t know what to say. Yet I knew in that moment that one day it would be me upset over you dad. I will never forget that day…. coming home from college on the bus and had a powerful spiritual moment of my Nan saying goodbye to me. I knew she had passed away as I walked home to see you home early from work and for you to tell me Nan had passed away. Yet I already knew. This song is incredible. It helps me to reach out to my dad even though he rarely does for me. Time is precious.
So I'm a new Sam Fender fan. I'm a Gen-xer. Listen to what I know. Classic rock, 80s music etc. Sometimes will dip out to listen to modern stuffs, synthwave etc. Had a 1975 radio thing on, kinda like them. And a Sam Fender song came on. It was this song. And it was a soul punch. You know that feeling. A song comes on. You have never heard it before in your life, but instantly you soul aches for it, and cries for it. It was this song. I looked at what it was.. Sam Fender. Okay lets listen to more. AND MY FUCKING GOD. How have missed out on all of Sam's songs. Absolute quality. Instant fan mah dude.
Late to the party... I’m 36 my father ( builder ) died from a genetic condition which eventually made him disabled and unable to talk. Even before he was unable to talk I never felt I could express my feelings to him. This is such a beautiful song for a man whose fathers are working-class. Please don't leave it too late.
I never had a good relationship with my dad, he never bothered with me as a kid and he turned to drink when my parents divorced, which led to him getting into heated arguments with me. I guess sometimes you can relate to music a lot and this song certainly reminds of that time and how I felt about everything. So, thanks, Sam!
Im 49. My Dad and I have never been that close. He lost my Mum when she was only 46. Lost another partner of 21yrs last year then suffered a massive brain hemmorhage not long after and survived. I feel so heartbroken for him after what he's had to endure in one lifetime and really struggle even looking him in the eye now as to me he's gone breaks my heart this song. So true on so many levels for me. Unbelievable songwriting. In tears every single time.
My dad is also my boss so over the years we’ve had some major disagreements and fall outs. But we could always sit down and have a beer watching the football, just discussing life. Makes me appreciate that whilst my dad might not always be my favourite person, I can always get on with him at the end of the day.
I lost my dad when I was 8 and, despite the meaning being different, this song still makes me think of all the amazing times and chats we would have had. Top class tune from a wonderfully talented bloke.
From watching this i see the story of Stephen’s character as the man who has lost his wife and Sam his mum and whilst she was there they were bonded by her. Now she is gone and it’s just them 2 they are too the same to really know each other. The look Sam gives Stephen in the pub like “when are we going to talk about what’s happened” yet Stephen is happy putting it to the back of his mind playing pool and drinking as it’s easier than opening up to his son. The look he gives Sam as he is ordering the food sort of says why are you here and she isn’t. Superb acting from both
Reminds me of my dad. Left me, my brother (who was very unwell - “i remember, the sickness was forever”) and mum when I was 13. That was in the late 80s. Minimal contact beyond that, which has gone on to almost zero over the last 20 years. The last conversation we had was me calling to tell him my brother had died from complications of the illness he’d lived with for years. And then normal service resumed ; no contact, nothing. The thing is his actions have left me empty and feeling like I had something to do with it all, like I was never good enough. The emptiness, void, is pushed aside every day (ignored even) but it’s always there. Sam should be especially proud of this song. I think it helps to comfort and connect with people even when they feel alone. And now I’m a dad and I try so hard not to become the person that brings me so much unhappiness. Yet even in his long-term absence, his legacy lingers. I hate him for that. “I can talk to anyone. I can’t talk to you.”
They say I'm the spit of you And they're not wrong Bury my head too Stomach hurts all the time Can't shift it Been like that since eight Knotted up with the baggage Neck like a stone All sounds just like you Smashing cups off the floor And kicking walls through That's me and you I can talk to anyone I can talk to anyone I can't talk to you I can talk to anyone I can talk to anyone I can't talk to you You kissed her forehead And it ran like a tap No more than four stone soaked wet through And I'd never seen you like that Spun me out Hurt me right through 'Cause it was love In all its agony Every bit of me Hurting for you 'Cause one day that'll be your forehead I'm kissing And I'll still look exactly like you And I can talk to anyone I can talk to anyone I can't talk to you I can talk to anyone I can talk to anyone I can't talk to you Hey I can talk to anyone I can talk to anyone I can't talk to you And I can talk to anyone I can talk to anyone I can't talk to you Come on, hey
This is my favorite song sam my dad passed away 10 years ago i am the spit of him and love and miss him every day this is definitely our song cheers sam 💙
I thank God every day I have a great relationship with my son. I really try to help guide him and keep him from making the same mistakes I did and of course I am lecturing and preaching sometimes so I have to stop myself and realize that he's like me and at the same time not like me. I asked myself what it takes to be a good dad when he was born and rest assured there are plenty of folks willing to tell you how to do it. In my opinion the so called advice givers are really not sure what to do. I think the important thing is to simply be there for him. Great song BTW.
Such a heartfelt sing about (I think) a relationship between a parent and son/daughter who has been let down by their parent(s) and still love them dearly and just begging to be able to connect with them again but it's so hard. They wish to embrace and communicate with them but it seems impossible after time.....Sam I absolutely adore your music. This is my favourite. You are already a star but so proud of you!!
I've never known who my dad is and this song makes me think of him and at the same time everyone else's dad. Sam does that. Amazing songwriting, artist & Awesome song!
That just left me in bits. I never knew my father beyond a handful of vague childhood memories and two occasions in later life when I met him, the last time shortly before he died in 1992. I didn't realise how damaged I am by it until recently. One positive I can take from it is that I'm determined that my son who's ten at the moment will never be in doubt of how much I love him.
I’m 25. It took all the other comments to think about speaking. My parents split up at a young age, my dads still my hero. I went from seeing him daily, to forthrightly, to monthly, then yearly. This song made me swallow my pride and message me to see him. In my eyes it shouldn’t be my job, but when he’s gone I’ll regret it. I love that man. Thanks Sam, you helped me overcome stubborn pride and made me cry in the bath to message my dad. 😂 I mean it though, as a lad dads are heroes❤️
My Dad passed two weeks ago. I knew it was coming and have been listening to this song for months. I was lucky to have a loving relationship with my Dad but this song has resonated with me as I've had many friends who had a difficult relationship with their Dad. Only a week before he passed, I was waiting in the queue at the pharmacy at the supermarket, to pick up a syringe so we could give Dad the correct amount of oral morphine. This song came on. I was reduced to tears but sang the words quietly all the way through. Bless you Sam, this is beautiful and poignant art.
Well where do I start. This song and video truly depict my life and how I feel. Every time I hear or see it it makes me cry, sometimes joy, sometimes sadness. I've been fighting a mental health battle for over 6 years, lost my ex wife, nearly lost my sons, new partner and family. I'm still here fighting and will never give up but it is hard to truly let go of your inner feelings, thoughts, fears and expectations. Every day is a new battle in the war but I'm still winning. Thank you for this wonderful creation Sam and Steven.
This is like watching my son with his father. My daughter with her father. Me with mine. Brilliant resonant capturing of the unfortunate reality of a lot of failing fathers. Heartbreaking. Thank you for this masterpiece x
This is how my Dad felt for his own dad. My Dad is the best and I can talk to him at anytime I want. He wanted that within own Dad but realised it was never gonna happen. He made the change with his own kids. I love my dad with all my heart and can tell him anything. Thank you Dad. You are the best ❤❤❤❤❤
I've never met my dad, he left when mom was pregnant, i wasn't even born yet, 8 months old. This video makes me cry. Abusive father is not a good thing, but you still can meet him and might to fix your relationship. I'm always wondering, what will make him feel, if he ever thought of me, my existence. As i asked my mom, did he ever knew about me. She said yes, he knew i was pregnant when he left. I never want to meet him. I can't possibly imagine how will i react. The word of father means anger and pain to me.
Our community and many other countries need this video. This video needs to be played out loud on screens all over the world. Then after that because of human opinion another great voted for by the populace of its respected genre. Get it out there.
I’m going through stuff with my old man. I listened to this tune when it first come out. He sent it to me a couple of months back. Made me cry. Still does now after listening and watching this music video about 10 mins ago. Touching song for me and my dad. Amazing from Sam Fender helps me through hard times 👏🏽❤️
God almighty please, I’m 29 and I want to connect with my father before it’s too late. Please give me strength. God almighty please. Edit: I’m 29 but I feel like I’m 7 missing my father god almighty it hurts so much. He’s a good man who made bad choices. God save us all.
There's nothing so precious than seeing a son with his dad. Mom sitting back watching the beautiful view. Thats how I see it. Luv it!! Thats how my son is. He doesn't talk seriously to his father but they have a good time together. Mom is for serious things. Thats my baby boy. Of course.
This song resonates with me. Mum and dad divorced when I was small and this song basically is a mirror image of my relationship with him now. Not sad in anyway just a great song that tells about real life and relationships. Fender you are a genius!
I totally understand the sentiment of this song and video. I hope My daughter never feels the same angst as what I felt as a young lad. Love Sam Fender. Proper top lad 👍👍
Isn't it so relieving and great when someone says all we hurt and feel with their words in music. Absolute genius this guy is. Soul singer. To all who have lost nd loved. Pain makes us who we are along with all the other great moments in life
An existential masterpiece.. Sam feels the compassion toward his father, as he is in agony over his wife dying, that was never provided to him...he knows he will suffer again when his father is gone..😢
Probably one of the only artists that songs really have moved me. When you can receive and relate to the picture in which he paints it really makes the lyrics more that just a song. This man has done things for me that people in my life haven’t through a song.
I literally cry every time when I try to cover this song.. It hits me emotionally too much because of a lot of youth pain. Thank you Sam for existing I love your songwriting style.
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This video is so beast! It was the most amazing experience to film with Stephen Graham,
genuinely one of the best actors this country has ever seen & such a lovely bloke. So proud of this one!!
this video is amazing Sam! you are so really amazing i'm so proud of you, i love u
Me encanta! Eres increíble 💯✨
It really is amazing. Never felt so many emotions watching a game of pool 😭😭😭
proud of you!!!
This is so beautiful, love every second of it❤️
My old man passed away last year.
Due to the pandemic, I wasn't allowed to visit him in the hospital where he withered day after day, alone.
He owned a bar, where he used to organize live music events.
I remember our grey and sad town coming alive during these events, little bit happier, little bit more alive.
The nights pretty much always ended up in red (he had the habit of offering to drink to everyone) but he never really cared that much, all he wanted was to share his love for music with anyone who passed by.
He loved his job so much and I guess that's why, despite being a loving father, he was never really present when I was a kid.
We started to get closer in the last three years, more or less, bonding over our shared love for music.
I remember him constantly asking me to go with him to that concert there, this vinyl exhibition here.
But I also remember me constantly refusing because I was battling depression, thought still thinking that we could eventually go, once I got better, that we still had time.
Joke's on me because I got better and he got worse and time has run out now.
This song has brought back lots of unresolved feelings in me.
Thank you Sam, perhaps I needed this.
Moving story
Much love to you ❤️
Wow. This comment is poetry. So poignant. Best wishes to you!
Sending you so much love. Thank you for sharing this with us.
Thank you for this story. Sending you love and support
I’m a 51 year old man and I can’t tell you how much I love this lad’s music. He’s a generational talent. Look after him.
About the same age and you're so right Mark!🙂
He's a breath of fresh air and can actually sing
He’s absolutely fantastic… I’m 48 btw
Fab singer, lovely voice
same age, exactly same opinion here … every once in a while a talent like him comes along to keep me believing there’s still great music around
When he played this at Glastonbury, a man next to me teared up. I asked if he was okay, he told me he lost his father a few months prior and had only just mended their relationship in time before his death. I gave him a hug, being thankful for still having a father. This song really speaks to a lot of people.
JJ he needed that hug. X
respect brother
Same.... can't listen to this with out either singing along n choking or tears..
Me mam left me and me younger sister when I was 14ish, I still cannot forgive her, me poor dad never knew what hit him, and it wrecked me life, yes, she is dead now, still cannot forive her
And also from North Shields
Lost my middle son, only 29years old due to addiction. He was a beautiful person,caring , funny strong hard working & handsome. I miss him so much. This song connects to me. He was a spit of me & I hope some day I will see & meet with him again. Had a great 9 months with him before his passing. God bless all who has connection through this song.
So sorry for your loss
So very sorry for your loss. Heartbreaking. I fell in love with this song when I lost my younger brother to cancer.
We've all lost someone close, and these songs bind us together like a bridge ❤ sorry for your loss.. dearly
I’m so sorry for your loss 😭💔
Sounds like you had a good relationship. I’ve never felt a real connection with my dad, he’s been there my whole life but there’s just nothing. I mourn for it sometimes. Sounds like you had something special. Stay strong 💪
This was my relationship with my dad, i cant remember ever having any deep meaningful conversations with him, not many i love yous or hugs but i always thought the world of him, he just wasnt that kind of person with me. He was a big drinker and had a toxic relationship with my mother which created a pretty terrible home life for many years. I was about 17 and came home from football practice to find out that hed walked out on us, i was upset but wasnt surprised, i had a little cry on my own in my room, punched a hole in my wardrobe and that was it. I didnt hear from him for months, had no idea where hed gone then finally got a call, he was living in Spain. Over the next 12 or 13 years i had minimal contact with him, not through choice but he would be constantly changing numbers and i couldnt get hold of him, i did manage to fly out to see him 3 or 4 times in those 13 years and he never returned to the uk. I was 29/30 and got a call from the British consulate, he was found living homeless on the streets and had been taken in by a charity, i was told he seemed to be suffering from memory loss, was in a bad physical condition and would keep disappearing. I booked a flight out on my own straight away to search the streets to try and find him and found out hed been taken to hospital, i found out where it was and got a taxi there, he was almost unrecognisable and he had no idea who i was. He was diagnosed with vascular dementia, a kind of dementia that can be brought on by drinking. Over the next 3 months he stayed in hospital and between flying between the UK and Spain i would look after him, buy him clothes and the kind of things he used to like, cut his hair, trim his beard. In that time he would have spells where his memory would come back, hed know who i was and we would talk like wed never been apart yet he also seemed to be totally unaware of the situation he was in, then he would just stop talking and hed start staring straight through me like he had no idea who i was again. Although he had spells where his mental condition seemed to get better his physical condition rapidly deteriorated. I had to return home to the UK on Christmas eve as i had a 6 month old baby, was self employed and had a house to pay for, i just couldnt keep spending any more time and money out there. That was the last time i saw him, i woke up one morning about a month or so later to a voicemail from a Spanish nurse saying that hed died, it was in Spanish and i barely understood a word but i knew what she was saying. Im 35 now with two daughters and the older i get the more i keep seeing my dad in myself, we look and act almost identically. I never questioned any of the things my dad put me/us through and he never acknowledged it, i never asked him why he left. I wish i could meet him again as an adult because i feel like i only knew him as a child and the older i get and the more i learn about myself the more i start to feel like i could have understood him. I suppose on a positive note its given me the self awareness i need to aknowledge my own faults and i can use that to be the best father to my daughters i could possibly be. RIP Dad, i still love you x
Lovely message mate, i think we can all learn from our painful experiences which will make us better parents and its a shame you didn't get to an age where you could perhaps have that adult conversation and understand the "why" man to man. My situation has made me try and be and more open with my son as i want him to be able to tell me anything without judgement as i never had that.
Thanks a lot Neil. Looking at some of the comments on here it seems a lot of people had similar relationships with their dads, i wonder if its a generational thing that men in those days just didnt open up and talk about what they think, how they feel, there emotions etc. Il admit i find it hard so maybe that attitude has been passed on and maybe passed on through men for generations before. I remember reading something that said how it takes a strong person to be the one to break that mold and to stop those traits being passed on to future generations (our kids). Maybe its our responsibility to do that. All the best to you and your son.
Extremely moving comment, wishing you all the best pal ❤️
very moving. Hope all is well now ♥
Man your story brought me to tears. I appreciate how much love and forgiveness you have in your heart and I wish you that you'll get that love back from all those around you. ❤️
My son just sent this to me - simultaneously disconcerting and heartwarming - it actually made me cry, and now I look at these comments I see I'm not alone ... thanks son.
He talked to you mate!
Hope you called him.... It's your cue. And you should be so proud you have a son with that bravery. It'll give you a future family you won't unless you got back to him...God speed John
The best musician of our generation. I am honoured to be here to witness this mans growth. God speed Sam x
Too fuckin right !
Well said mate.
Too far.
I described Sam as a generational talent to a friend of mine just yesterday. It's a gift to be able to put to words how so many of us feel about people we love and ourselves, and make it a banger all at the same time
Good song writer, maybe the best. But not best musician by a long way.
I'm here with everyone else who had a "complicated" relationship with their father. And I'm here with those of you who never really got the chance to correct it before he passed. Thanks, Sam, this song gets me every time.
Yep
My son was born just over a year ago now and there were many times i struggled mentally with providing for my family and trying to be the best father i can. I had so much stress but felt i needed to keep it bottled in so I be a rock for my wife. There were times i felt like giving up but I came across this song and it gave me such a new lease of life. I sang it my boy everynight as it felt like a way to connect with him and made me realise i was doing a decent job as a father. Saved my life really.
I wish you well.😊
This song was close to making me cry when I heard it but after seeing the video I’m bawling. My dad and I get along but don’t talk and when we do it’s typically about my brother. Two weeks ago my grandfather died and I saw my dad cry for one of the first times in my life. A week after that my dad got diagnosed with a blood clot. I think it’s time I learn to talk to him, life is precious
Lovely comment
Love your dad while you can. My dad passed away really suddenly last year. I miss him terribly and a piece of me died when he did. Life isn’t the same. I know he’ll be looking down willing me on my not so good days to carry on. You’ve still got the chance to tell your dad and show him how much you love him. Make every day count because when they are gone it’s horrible ❤️
I listened to the whole album driving from Kirkcaldy to dundee. Honestly one of the best albums I’ve listen to in a long time. I don’t have a close relationship to my dad, now he’s older and got dementia and I see him slipping further away, song literally pulls on so many heart strings. Sam just has that rare quality of making the listener feel like they are the only ones who listen to him in that way of an undiscovered artist. Such a talent and humbling singer.
This song is about a man’s relationship with his father not a woman. Please listen to something else
@@chelseachelsea572 I beg your pardon? I made a comment about my relationship with my dad not a romantic relationship? I thought that was made quite clear by the amount of times I mentioned my father in the comment..
Edit: if by chance you meant “not a woman” in the sense of this only being relatable to men and their relationship with their fathers, kindly stop telling me to listen to something else. Having a rough relationship with your dad has nothing to do with whether you’re a man or woman. That way of thinking goes against everything Sam stands for.
My dad was an abusive alcoholic. He died back in September. He put us through hell, this video totally got to me. This combined with seventeen going under has had me bawling tonight. Bravo on an amazing song, a brilliant video & you've found a new fan in me.
Sorry to hear this 😢 this song definitely evokes so much emotion for a lot of people and their Dad.
The great thing about this man's stuff is even if you didn't experience anything like the subject matter it takes you there as if you did, you can appreciate the pain.
Made me cry for sure. Such a talent.
I get you brother
Snap ❤️ I really hope your scars have healed. This and 17 going under go right through me too for the exact same reasons ❤️ I hope you’ve healed friend.
Whoever ist responsible for the artistic representation of Sam‘s music is amazing. There is not 1 video I don’t like. It captures the mood of every song just perfectly. And I’m always sooo moved afterwards. Especially here: very good acting and so relatable! And now I want fish&chips and a camping holiday!
I know that he used to work with Vincent Haycock (the cinematographer) but I’m not sure if he still does !
Pretty sure this one was directed by Philip barantini :)
When things were at their very worst:
2 Suns, Cross in the sky, 2 comets will collide = don`t be afraid - repent, accept Lord`s Hand of Mercy.
Scientists will say it was a global illusion.
Beware - Jesus will never walk in flesh again.
After WW3 - rise of the “ man of peace“ from the East = Antichrist - the most powerful, popular, charismatic and influential leader of all time. Many miracles will be attributed to him. He will imitate Jesus in every conceivable way.
Don`t trust „pope“ Francis = the False Prophet
- will seem to rise from the dead
- will unite all Christian Churches and all Religions as one.
One World Religion = the seat of the Antichrist.
Benedict XVI is the last true pope - will be accused of a crime of which he is totally innocent.
"The time for the schism in the Church is almost here and you must get prepared now"
"Arab uprising will spark global unrest - Italy will trigger fall out"
The Book of Truth
The 'Borders' music video always hits me so hard.
@SAM FENDER 🎶 odd ball
As a 17-year-old who's yet to experience more of life, this song and the entire album hit me. What a breath of fresh air in the toxic pop culture in my generation.
What a life you have ahead of you. Enjoy it.
I gotta say it:
Don't go under mate
Are you 17 going under? XD
@@ProFam311_2 Luckily, not. Lol
So much life ahead of you. Wishing you all the best and the fortitude to weather the tough times. Hugs.
Rarely do I hear a song where both the music and the lyrics sum up exactly how I'm feeling. I'm 34 and don't talk to my dad because he is an emotional abuser and it's something I struggle with every day. Last night I went for a drive somewhere quiet, had this on repeat. I cried and cried and cried, it was exactly what I needed. Thank you with all my heart Sam!
I feel you JB. I'm kind of in the same predicament', but unfortunately, it can't be resolved. It has been 28 years and my father refuses to act correctly. I'm done being sad. A hug to you, my brother.
@@gethighonlife11 thanks man! Really appreciate the kind words!
Also 34 and in a similar situation bud. Many guys out there with clueless fathers who no doubt had clueless fathers themselves. It doesn’t take the pain away however. People like us will rise and set a better standard ✊🏻❤️
To all those sons out there with a dad still alive that they don’t talk to ….
Go talk to him ! He still loves you, try to understand his life and story ….A lot of men Leave their families as a sacrifice to the happiness of all in the house. Yes there are lots of men who should be alone but there are a lot more who crave the love of their children !
Don’t wait until it’s too late go try to offer an olive branch and talk ….
I wish my sons would, I know that for sure. I have tried to talk to them !
Now I’m just lonely old man of 58 still loving the little boys he left behind many years ago wanting to know them as the men they have become. ❤
It did me too
as if the song alone didn’t make me cry enough
You cried over a song? Bro you’re gay but you’re a British male so it is to be expected
@@chelseachelsea572 Pathetic. If you cant feel emotion through music are you even listening?
@ Chelsea Chelsea .
you sound insecure mate . Go and have a chat to someone
Ignore the trolls mate, getting emotional with songs is nothing to be ashamed of!
@@chelseachelsea572 you probably don't know who your dad is😂
I'm a 70yo woman, and this song broke my heart. It speaks to men and women. The music is great, but especially in the refrain. I just want to put my hands up to the sky! Good luck, son, in your life and musical career. May you go far, and be happy with it!
The working class have always made the best music and this lad is no exception. A wonderful talent!
Listen to Louis dunford exactly what you would like 👍
@@britnatzaredemocracydenier5922 Thank you, I'll check him out!
They've turned the weans against us!!
Now this is one of the best sounding guitars I’ve heard in a long time sounds like 12string Sam fender
There's a grit , working classes are always trying to prove their talent.
Not a bad thing as this song shows
This is potentially one of the best songs I’ve ever heard
Cant stop listening to it tbh
@@mcelwainhd8149 same bro same
This is one of the rare songs for me i instantly liked it and cant stop playing it over and over
Trumpets at the end are so beautiful
@@Andrew.baltazar It's a saxophone but I get what you mean 🎷🎷
This kid is the real deal, I’m 42 and waited a long time for the next genuinely brilliant songwriter to come through, I thought they had dried up !
Shut up
This song hits hard. Emotional, beautiful and raw. I love how Sam writes songs on topics which we usually don’t talk about or hear in music these days. I grew up with an absent father and it reminds me of my turbulent love-hate relationship with my mother. I can’t stop crying.
Same 🙌
Same mate keep your head high
Sending love to you
same ♥️
I'm 33 still struggling can't even listen to this
My 19 year old lad sent me this song as I'm not seeing as much of him as I would like after splitting with his mum 3 ears ago. Se we call it our song now....THANKS Sam
I totally relate to you. Just got things back on track with my son, he's nearly 21. I wish you well.
That's a brave public post mate. I can relate to it and I wish you both the best ❤️
@@ianwaghorne8169 thx..you too mate
Amazing 👏
🙏🏻
This made me cry so hard. So fucking honest. We need real northern influences like Sam Fender in our lives and I’m so glad he’s out here killing it. 😭🙏🏼
Powerful 🤘💫
Tell you what Stephen Graham has got to be one of the most underrated British actors I love everything he’s in ❤️
I agree 👍
I wouldn't say underrated at all mate. I think every person alive knows that this bloke can act, his emotional barrier is off the chart. I love him. And he is diehard LIVERPOOL FC FAN!!! YNWA.
No way! He s done loads of stuff. Venom movie This is England. He s been in kasbians video major drama s on ITV and the BBC! Remarkable actor
Also he's gorgeous x
Best British actor by far.
“It was love in all its agony”
Those words hit hard. In my life love has caused me a lot of agony.
What a beautiful song.
“You kissed her forehead, and it run like a tap”. I’m sure there’s alot of people who felt a lot pain hearing that line. Sam Fender you’re generational. Game changer.
I never kissed, the worsted decition of my life x
What does this line mean? Am slow.
@@PhoenixFury123 i thinkt what is ment with that is the last kiss on the forehead before she goes 6 feet under
@@mrboy9786 and then the running of the tap is just crying a lot
@@lukeisapanini yea man. The lyrics says things so differently but still in a way we understand.
Anyone else remember Sam putting this on his insta story when he came up with the guitar riff for this song?
Me 🙋🏻♀️ it’s still in one of his highlights on insta!
over a year and a half ago aha
Yep! Totally different tune to what I expected but great nonetheless
Mate I've got it screen recorded on my phone!!! Knew it would be a belter
I’ve grown up my whole life living single parented with my mum, I lost contact with my dad by the time I was 8. I never received a birthday card, a Christmas card, a text a phone call. Nothing. I’m 21 and still haven’t spoken to my father since I was 8, he could be anywhere in this world, and I’d never know. This song relates to me massively, “I can talk to anyone, I can talk to anyone. I can’t talk to you“ Dad if your anywhere out there I’m sorry I was never enough for you to love me or want time with me, maybe in another life you will. You’ve taught me a lesson in life though and I thank you for it. That lesson is to never ever disown my own born like you.
He's read, he's listening, he's thinking and digesting what you've put..he'll respond soon. #GodBlessJumpyShot
Never had a song to remind me of my old man until this. Hes still alive and kicking but cant help but tear up when i listen to this. Sam man. With all the shit remakes made today you stand alone.
Tale as old as time.. got damnit if it isn't the hardest thing in the world to make peace with your dad when the communication is haltered by intergenerational trauma and social suffering. I felt every damn word of this song in the guts. WHAT a songwriter you are Sam. Hats off!
Sam lad
Am a fellow George,n Yr tracks burn my heart, am 50 n dnt see my laddie n th pain hurts so bad
Any followers over wor Sam take note
Av nowt left t live for but carry on on th off chance
Any lads n lass,s n similar paths,
Grab Yr bairn by both arms n don't let go
Peace......n up th mags
Am one ov those dad's very local(tyneside)n u think where all lovers
Av not seen my boy for 11yrs n as each Yr goes by more over me dies
Dad's gud or bad r not th same friend
Good n happy day wife Yr laddie....
Respect
What a song, what a singer, what an actor, what a video! Sensational.
What a guitar!!!
As a South Wales valley boy I see so many similarities with my friends in the North. My dad was a miner hard men .there was no way on gods earth could you sit down and chat with my dad . Love your music Sam. You have brought back respect to the British music industry .
If only I could talk to him at least once again... My dad passed away when I was 21 and miss him every single day of my life.
Thank you for this masterpiece and for a biblical new album, Sam. Tears of joy and gratefulness for my feelings after watching this.
and my son aged 33 passed away 5 years ago my friend - this song makes me weep for him - agreed incredible song and singer
My Dad passed when i was 21 also,i feel exactly the same way as you mate,26 years later and i still wish we could talk
I recently lost my dad too to a heart attack. This song got me when I watched Sams performance at Glastonbury and he had stage visuals as all the family pics, a lot like my dads funeral. My dad was my best friend and we talked but not always. I’d go through torture to just have a conversation over a pint with him again.
@@MCroppered ❤️
Hi,
A Native of North Shields here. This song struck a Chord with me.
I live in Germany and don`t get back much. I had no contact with my Dad for many years but I did have, and did take, the opportunity to make my peace with him when he became terminally ill with Cancer. He always said I was just like him....a spitting image so to say. He realized toward the end that this wasn`t the case. I am many things that he wasn`t precisely because of how he was.
Growing up in the 60/70`s at the bottom end of the social ladder in Shields was , let us say, an interesting time. Times were hard and our parents did the best they could, or knew how to under difficult circumstances.
Thanks for the song 🙂
Going home on Friday to the UK after 14 years of being ‘stuck’ in the USA - haven’t seen my dad for that long. This just stabbed me in the heart. Can’t wait to see him and tell him I love him.
Wow this song is my Dad and I in a nutshell.. never could talk to him In a meaningful deep way. My father really missed out on having a great relationship with his son who loves him very much..
Preach. Many of us are in the same position :(
My generation (I'm 44) was all about Oasis for me. Sam Fender is the best since, in my opinion. Can't wait for the next album.
Two of Britain’s finest within in the entertainment business in one video.
Sam couldn’t have picked a better actor, hats off to whoever made this happen. Absolutely superb 💙
@Blue&Green I wonder if that was the point.
@Blue&Green I was thinking the message was more "I came from you but I'm nothing like you" and using an actor who doesn't resemble Sam was meant to visually illustrate that.
I've never heard more powerful lyrics from music in the last 10 years. This is powerful
The height of British talent in one video, Sam Fender and Stephen Graham together can't get any better than this.
This was my Dad with his Dad. Such a complicated relationship made worse when my dads brother died of meningitis aged only 2, my dad only 8. He left the north west aged 18 to come to uni in Newcastle & never went back home. He vowed never to be like that with his kids. He was 80 last week & has never stopped hugging his 3 daughters & 4 grandkids & tells us he loves us every day. So proud of my Dad & so proud of my fellow Geordie Sam. X
Just come across Sam after someone on Facebook shared his interview on BBC breakfast with a massive hangover and he was instantly likable, honest and funny.. I'm 35, and I hate most music released now adays so I read more about him and the meaning of his songs before coming here and listening to them... Well I am hooked! He's hooked me under for the first time since I was a teenager listening to house and dance classics in the 90s, he's brilliant and what an inspiration to young kids today. I wish him the biggest and the best career ever, and he will give his mam everything he dreamed of because he is a breath of fresh air in such a horrible world. His mum must be bursting with pride and she should be so proud of her son because she has done a wonderful job of raising him. So from a new fan, I will be following him now and supporting him by buying his albums and going to see him play live. A very lovely and fantastic story with so much more to come and I wish for the best. What a fantastic normal lad... And I hope that his head is abit better today 😂
"Every bit of me hurting for you." This really resonates with me, watching my dad in so much pain after mum died.
Hope he's doing ok mate👍
Amazing song.. relatable.
My father has been emotionally and at times physically abusive growing up. This was my relationship with him. He'd smash glass tables and hurt my mother, but at the same time he was always good at providing for us. I'd always cower in my room until I heard my mother scream. But it always stuck with me, I never managed to grow out of that fear and eventually I began to talk less and less to him as an adult. It wasn't because I hated him.. just he wasn't a close person to me and never was. He now resents me for it, but I just can't talk to him. And I can talk to anyone.
He doesn’t deserve your love. He should be coming to you for forgiveness. He’s had his chance. You’re more of a man than he’ll ever be. And he knows it. Must eat at him daily. Sam’s written your song.
my father was the same mate and totally understand
51 yrs old and watching my relationship with my Dad in this video, and hearing it through Sam's words. He's just recently been diagnosed with Cancer, and I want to be there for him, but still always the endless anger driving him makes me love him a little less each day. I can indeed talk to anyone, but not him. Thank you Sam and Stephen for putting my thoughts into your words and pictures.
He's having a fucked up time working (or not working) through his griefs. Stuck in anger. I'm there with my parents still after decades. Hang tight you're working through it even if he can't.
This is what music was created for. The emotional connection, an ability to relate. A rarity nowadays. Well done Sam.
This video is a piece of astounding cinematography. I thought that the music video for Seventeen Going Under was moving, but let me say that once watching this one, I feel that Spit Of You is far way more poignant and stirring in my opinion. The plain, honest scenes about a dad and his kid going through the motions together and facing them, it’s something which can only convey pure bliss and beauty to the story. Words have a tangible identity when portrayed on screen, which means you can relate more and more to them.
As usual, tears rise to my eyes as I write a comment under one of your mv’s.
Cinematography ? Lol what? The videos good but cinematography is not what makes it that way. You understand the word?
@@idrinkmilk282 could you please explain why cinematography is not what makes it that way? Spill the tea, wanna know more about your insight.
No disrespect and I agree with the comment, but I refuse to believe that Patrick Bateman didn't write that comment sitting in his raincoat
@@BOOMSHINNY sorry what? 😂
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The last was Noel Gallagher…I’ve been waiting for many years for another generation defining songwriter, I think this is him. What an incredible talent you are Sam Fender.
Agree... I'm 41 and this is honestly the first person who's songs mean so much for me. Quality
Alex turner?
This song makes me appreciate my Dad a little more.
Update he likes the song too and got a hug out it
I have followed his career since the start,I am an adopted Geordie (moved there age 10). I'm old but love music and this guy is exceptional. His lyrics blow me away. Nobody does it better. Keep well Sam, and keep sharing your talent ❤
Sam Fender and Stephen Graham, what a great combination
When they played this song at glastonbury, I was overwhelmed with emotion and had tears rolling down my face, my girlfriend hugged me. The way this song captures my relationship with my father really hits me, thank you sam for that moment. What an incredible artist.
This song sums up my dad and me. He’s 68 I’m 38 but we struggle to talk to each other unless it involves me kids. Still love him. Our relationship is a result of a father working away for 10-15 years to provide for his family that I’m great full that I don’t need to do.
Don't leave it until it's too late. Take him out for a pint, and tell him you understand why he had to work away so much! My dad died when I was 23 and I would do anything to go back in time and thank him for grafting 7 days a week to provide.
I miss my dad so much. I writing this as I've jusy my mum last Friday. Suppose I was looking for a sad song to force the tears out. I feel so alone .. I'm a fucking orphan at 37 . Why me . Don't know why I end up listening to these songs as they make me sad .anyway . Just want anyone to know you ain't alone
Xx
I was a orphan at 33 it sucks.
No matter drunk, no matter sober. This song hits the true depth of emotions any time. It transcends away from life, jobs, friends, family, love and makes all of those things disappear and swing right at back at you at the same time. Reflecting in the most powerful way possible.
Honestly....This is the kind of relationship I had with my Dad.
This explained in 4+ minutes what I had been struggling to explain my most of my life about my Dad.
He passed 4 years ago.
In any case thanks for the music.
Keep it up mate. Talented Man.
❤
I'm 37 I wouldn't know where to start with making things right with me and my dad but love this so makes me think of him every time I hear it but also makes me cry every time too! One day dad!
This was my dad. He could connect with any and everyone but his own kids. It wasn't until I was in my early 30's before he could finally speak to me like a human being. I guess he figured he was getting too old and needed to connect. He passed away February 2021 and I miss him dearly.
This song just brought me to tears.
I saw you so upset when your mum died. I didn’t know what to say. Yet I knew in that moment that one day it would be me upset over you dad. I will never forget that day…. coming home from college on the bus and had a powerful spiritual moment of my Nan saying goodbye to me. I knew she had passed away as I walked home to see you home early from work and for you to tell me Nan had passed away. Yet I already knew. This song is incredible. It helps me to reach out to my dad even though he rarely does for me. Time is precious.
So I'm a new Sam Fender fan. I'm a Gen-xer. Listen to what I know. Classic rock, 80s music etc. Sometimes will dip out to listen to modern stuffs, synthwave etc. Had a 1975 radio thing on, kinda like them. And a Sam Fender song came on. It was this song. And it was a soul punch. You know that feeling. A song comes on. You have never heard it before in your life, but instantly you soul aches for it, and cries for it. It was this song. I looked at what it was.. Sam Fender. Okay lets listen to more. AND MY FUCKING GOD. How have missed out on all of Sam's songs. Absolute quality. Instant fan mah dude.
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I’m 36 my father ( builder ) died from a genetic condition which eventually made him disabled and unable to talk. Even before he was unable to talk I never felt I could express my feelings to him. This is such a beautiful song for a man whose fathers are working-class. Please don't leave it too late.
On my fathers death bed in 2019, I coudn't say those simple words to him, I just said "You know right?" and he just nodded. He passed the next day.
What a song….simply superb! Stephen Graham and Sam Fender are British treasures we need to protect and cherish in this horrible world! Peace ✌️😎😊😍
I never had a good relationship with my dad, he never bothered with me as a kid and he turned to drink when my parents divorced, which led to him getting into heated arguments with me. I guess sometimes you can relate to music a lot and this song certainly reminds of that time and how I felt about everything. So, thanks, Sam!
Sorry to hear that mate.
Im 49. My Dad and I have never been that close. He lost my Mum when she was only 46. Lost another partner of 21yrs last year then suffered a massive brain hemmorhage not long after and survived. I feel so heartbroken for him after what he's had to endure in one lifetime and really struggle even looking him in the eye now as to me he's gone breaks my heart this song. So true on so many levels for me. Unbelievable songwriting. In tears every single time.
My dad is also my boss so over the years we’ve had some major disagreements and fall outs. But we could always sit down and have a beer watching the football, just discussing life. Makes me appreciate that whilst my dad might not always be my favourite person, I can always get on with him at the end of the day.
I lost my dad when I was 8 and, despite the meaning being different, this song still makes me think of all the amazing times and chats we would have had. Top class tune from a wonderfully talented bloke.
From watching this i see the story of Stephen’s character as the man who has lost his wife and Sam his mum and whilst she was there they were bonded by her. Now she is gone and it’s just them 2 they are too the same to really know each other. The look Sam gives Stephen in the pub like “when are we going to talk about what’s happened” yet Stephen is happy putting it to the back of his mind playing pool and drinking as it’s easier than opening up to his son. The look he gives Sam as he is ordering the food sort of says why are you here and she isn’t. Superb acting from both
Reminds me of my dad. Left me, my brother (who was very unwell - “i remember, the sickness was forever”) and mum when I was 13. That was in the late 80s. Minimal contact beyond that, which has gone on to almost zero over the last 20 years. The last conversation we had was me calling to tell him my brother had died from complications of the illness he’d lived with for years. And then normal service resumed ; no contact, nothing. The thing is his actions have left me empty and feeling like I had something to do with it all, like I was never good enough. The emptiness, void, is pushed aside every day (ignored even) but it’s always there. Sam should be especially proud of this song. I think it helps to comfort and connect with people even when they feel alone. And now I’m a dad and I try so hard not to become the person that brings me so much unhappiness. Yet even in his long-term absence, his legacy lingers. I hate him for that. “I can talk to anyone. I can’t talk to you.”
Sandy here from America loving me some Sam Fender.. Your music is truly amazing and I love it from across the pond!
They say I'm the spit of you
And they're not wrong
Bury my head too
Stomach hurts all the time
Can't shift it
Been like that since eight
Knotted up with the baggage
Neck like a stone
All sounds just like you
Smashing cups off the floor
And kicking walls through
That's me and you
I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone
I can't talk to you
I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone
I can't talk to you
You kissed her forehead
And it ran like a tap
No more than four stone soaked wet through
And I'd never seen you like that
Spun me out
Hurt me right through
'Cause it was love
In all its agony
Every bit of me
Hurting for you
'Cause one day that'll be your forehead I'm kissing
And I'll still look exactly like you
And I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone
I can't talk to you
I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone
I can't talk to you
Hey
I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone
I can't talk to you
And I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone
I can't talk to you
Come on, hey
This is my favorite song sam my dad passed away 10 years ago i am the spit of him and love and miss him every day this is definitely our song cheers sam 💙
I thank God every day I have a great relationship with my son. I really try to help guide him and keep him from making the same mistakes I did and of course I am lecturing and preaching sometimes so I have to stop myself and realize that he's like me and at the same time not like me. I asked myself what it takes to be a good dad when he was born and rest assured there are plenty of folks willing to tell you how to do it. In my opinion the so called advice givers are really not sure what to do. I think the important thing is to simply be there for him. Great song BTW.
Great song. I'm 69, and am loving Sam Fender. And hey - there's Stephen Graham in the vid!
I love Sam Fender he's a true artist bc I hadn't even watched the video yet but I knew it was a strained parent - child relationship
Hes here , the musicaian this generations been yearning for . Proud to witness it
Such a heartfelt sing about (I think) a relationship between a parent and son/daughter who has been let down by their parent(s) and still love them dearly and just begging to be able to connect with them again but it's so hard. They wish to embrace and communicate with them but it seems impossible after time.....Sam I absolutely adore your music. This is my favourite. You are already a star but so proud of you!!
"Cause it was love in all it's agony "is possibly one of the most heartfelt lyrics I've heard ,just beautiful honest sincere and sad all in one line !
This guy’s music is fucking phenomenal.
I've never known who my dad is and this song makes me think of him and at the same time everyone else's dad. Sam does that. Amazing songwriting, artist & Awesome song!
So sorry you’ve never known your dad. Hope you’ve had decent role models in your life. But it sadly nothing replaces a GOOD dad.
That just left me in bits. I never knew my father beyond a handful of vague childhood memories and two occasions in later life when I met him, the last time shortly before he died in 1992. I didn't realise how damaged I am by it until recently. One positive I can take from it is that I'm determined that my son who's ten at the moment will never be in doubt of how much I love him.
This hit home. North/South, father/mother, son/daughter, it's the same story. A brilliant theme, and so well done.
I’m 25. It took all the other comments to think about speaking. My parents split up at a young age, my dads still my hero. I went from seeing him daily, to forthrightly, to monthly, then yearly. This song made me swallow my pride and message me to see him. In my eyes it shouldn’t be my job, but when he’s gone I’ll regret it. I love that man. Thanks Sam, you helped me overcome stubborn pride and made me cry in the bath to message my dad. 😂 I mean it though, as a lad dads are heroes❤️
My Dad passed two weeks ago. I knew it was coming and have been listening to this song for months. I was lucky to have a loving relationship with my Dad but this song has resonated with me as I've had many friends who had a difficult relationship with their Dad.
Only a week before he passed, I was waiting in the queue at the pharmacy at the supermarket, to pick up a syringe so we could give Dad the correct amount of oral morphine. This song came on. I was reduced to tears but sang the words quietly all the way through.
Bless you Sam, this is beautiful and poignant art.
Well where do I start. This song and video truly depict my life and how I feel. Every time I hear or see it it makes me cry, sometimes joy, sometimes sadness.
I've been fighting a mental health battle for over 6 years, lost my ex wife, nearly lost my sons, new partner and family. I'm still here fighting and will never give up but it is hard to truly let go of your inner feelings, thoughts, fears and expectations. Every day is a new battle in the war but I'm still winning.
Thank you for this wonderful creation Sam and Steven.
This is like watching my son with his father. My daughter with her father. Me with mine. Brilliant resonant capturing of the unfortunate reality of a lot of failing fathers. Heartbreaking. Thank you for this masterpiece x
This is how my Dad felt for his own dad. My Dad is the best and I can talk to him at anytime I want.
He wanted that within own Dad but realised it was never gonna happen.
He made the change with his own kids. I love my dad with all my heart and can tell him anything. Thank you Dad. You are the best ❤❤❤❤❤
I've never met my dad, he left when mom was pregnant, i wasn't even born yet, 8 months old.
This video makes me cry. Abusive father is not a good thing, but you still can meet him and might to fix your relationship. I'm always wondering, what will make him feel, if he ever thought of me, my existence. As i asked my mom, did he ever knew about me. She said yes, he knew i was pregnant when he left.
I never want to meet him. I can't possibly imagine how will i react. The word of father means anger and pain to me.
Our community and many other countries need this video. This video needs to be played out loud on screens all over the world. Then after that because of human opinion another great voted for by the populace of its respected genre. Get it out there.
Feeling very melancholic every time
I hear this one.
I’m going through stuff with my old man. I listened to this tune when it first come out. He sent it to me a couple of months back. Made me cry. Still does now after listening and watching this music video about 10 mins ago. Touching song for me and my dad. Amazing from Sam Fender helps me through hard times 👏🏽❤️
Takes a real man to admit his true feelings...respect to you pal...👍😎
The collab we never thought of but needed!
God almighty please, I’m 29 and I want to connect with my father before it’s too late. Please give me strength. God almighty please.
Edit: I’m 29 but I feel like I’m 7 missing my father god almighty it hurts so much. He’s a good man who made bad choices. God save us all.
There's nothing so precious than seeing a son with his dad. Mom sitting back watching the beautiful view. Thats how I see it. Luv it!! Thats how my son is. He doesn't talk seriously to his father but they have a good time together. Mom is for serious things. Thats my baby boy. Of course.
This song resonates with me. Mum and dad divorced when I was small and this song basically is a mirror image of my relationship with him now. Not sad in anyway just a great song that tells about real life and relationships. Fender you are a genius!
I totally understand the sentiment of this song and video. I hope My daughter never feels the same angst as what I felt as a young lad. Love Sam Fender. Proper top lad 👍👍
Isn't it so relieving and great when someone says all we hurt and feel with their words in music. Absolute genius this guy is. Soul singer. To all who have lost nd loved. Pain makes us who we are along with all the other great moments in life
An existential masterpiece.. Sam feels the compassion toward his father, as he is in agony over his wife dying, that was never provided to him...he knows he will suffer again when his father is gone..😢
Genuinely think this is one of Sam's best and most relatable songs. Top quality music video only makes it even better. Love Stephen Graham.
Probably one of the only artists that songs really have moved me. When you can receive and relate to the picture in which he paints it really makes the lyrics more that just a song. This man has done things for me that people in my life haven’t through a song.
I literally cry every time when I try to cover this song.. It hits me emotionally too much because of a lot of youth pain. Thank you Sam for existing I love your songwriting style.