I had someone ask me what I thought about FWB. I said I wouldn't be good at it because I get too attached and am not good at letting people go. I resisted his first attempt at getting close. Then he tempted me again and I gave in . It was actually just heart breaking for me because I really liked this person as a person. But as it turned out he only wanted a one night stand. Then poof gone but still there since we work together. It was just so awful and still is .So heart broken ..
I think friends first is a good thing. Forget the whole "benefits" . . .aka fornication and adultery. If a woman doesn't want to meet you on an equal playing field and wants to be wined and dined and taken care of before the guy gets a chance to find out who she is and what's she's about. . . . I say run. Friends with benefits though is just another excuse to use a person. Let's be friends and have sex means. . . let me use you and have no obligation. That's abusive garbage.
From a guy's pov. With regards to the question. Why would a guy want to just hook up one time if there is good chemistry instead of becoming FWB? Answer: 1. he's not attracted to you 2. if you're older but attractive, he wants younger 3. the chemistry was never there, he led you to believe it was, just to get laid Rarely is the guy just trying to get notches under his belt, if the physical and mental stimulation are there, unless he's 16 yrs old.
No way would I accept ‘friends with benefits’ if she asks me. I will not under value myself. If you don’t want a committed relationship with me than I’ll walk away with my dignity intact.
Any girl or guy that falls for that shit is silly and shallow been around enough to know..... after I left my failing relationship of many years and became single again....found that older guys and guys my age were no good except for one thing.....then got onto meeting much younger guys and the rest is history as they say would never be with a older guy again EVER to sexist and arrogant and cold...my young man had proved himself to me time and time again.....he is kind and nice and understanding.....non judgemental, my best friend...lover and wonderful man who found me thanks...been through it all....being stupid and young once not anymore...
Hi Susan! Just wanted to say I found you somehow on YT - yours is not a topic that I typically search for (happily married for 30 years) but I find that I love to hear you talk about relationships and what people are struggling with today. I have a single best friend and my kids are young singles and these are weird times, to say the least! Bravo, great content!
I won't be exclusively in something that's not openly acknowledged as a relationship. Amazingly people expect it. Been there, done that, but they aren't. You're just a stepping stone.
I never thought. I would come across such situations. The guy I liked said , he wants something casual. We been on two dates and he even made a move. I fell for it once now I decided to distance a bit. Is best to let go. I haven’t reach to that point of “benefit “ yet.
I love how direct your message are. Brilliant Q&A ..idk how people can do one year. Is true what u say , look for people who fit your Interest. If u seek Husband Material look for a man in that department.
I have a FWB as we speak and I love it :) Why? I get my needs for affection and sex met without the complications of the early dating stages, does he likes me? Is he serious? With this guy I enjoy the moment and when we connect we are just the 2 of us enjoying each other. I prefer this than trying to date wondering if there is more, craving affection.... This FWB makes me feel so much more relaxed and detached, I now attract much more men that want a relationship hahahaha... And my Friend... sexbuddy, I wont fall in love cause i couldn't imagine a relationship with him.
@@doughartley3513 well I’ll take your comment as a compliment 😊 so thank you. I honestly think it is all about conscious choice. Do I have feelings for him? Yes off course! I feel so good when with him, yet I’ve decided to not worry about tomorrow, trying as much as possible to engage in the present and enjoy it! I might be gone tomorrow. Will I miss him the day we stop it, yes absolutely. He kind of is all I am looking for in a man 😊 Do I want a relationship, yes off course we all want at a certain point. I keep open to potential suitors. Do I want to become anxious about a relationship, wondering if guy is into me or not? Not anymore. And what I notice, since I am not so attached about the future outcome... men gravitate to me, even my FWB 😊 He loves my positive relaxed attitude...there is no pressure and no drama, though when he crosses a boundary I tell him, without the drama as he doesn’t owe me anything and neither do I. At the end of the day we do and can choose to fall in love or not. Men and woman can dinghies consciously when we let go of projecting into the future and getting attached to outcomes. Most women want a relationship and are attached to commitment, be sure he will be there... becoming anxious if she feels he is drifting away, she turns in a guys biggest nightmare. Most men want a relationship as well, yet they fear loosing their freedom, being obliged to stay there... so scared about the drama. They chose FWB. I choose to feel good with a man and call it FWB, it is also a relationship not a suffocating one for the man, the less I expect, the more he gives what most women want from a relationship. I have my cake and eat it too. 2 fulfilled people 😊
@@nathalie5238 you have identified a key point. Which is that by being ok with not clinging to expectations and whether they’re committing, or if they’re into you. That freedom is really attractive to men and women. It shows that both can handle being in a grown up, emotionally secure relationship. Not like the kind typically found in junior high school. Yes, you are rare. And that was a compliment. And, even better, you are finding guys more attracted to you, even the fwb.
By the way, here, in order to defend myself from a certain type of society, I had to say that I was happily married. I cut loose all of the old circles of friends, some years ago. Toxic ppl. My revenge was saying that I was married and they weren't allowed in my husband's social context not because he belonged to the high society but because he didn't like the way they acted with me. I am not married but this lie was a weapon to make them desist from contacting me only to judge me for no reason. It's just a trick we sometimes have to use.
Hi I Gatti. Amazing, isn't it? Single. Married. They are just choices we make. Yet people can get very bent out of shape if our choice is different from theirs.
@@SusanWinter Italy is a Catholic country so... but luckily in recent years even the elderly have begun to be more open-minded. I have always been among the "renegades", by the way. That's because I had relationships with younger and foreign guys. Serious commitment. Northern Europe was considered like Mars by ppl who lived in the countryside...ahah. Luckily there's been an evolution in some chunks of the population. The old narrow-minded " friends" of mine remained the same so I took a different way. I think they spoke out of frustration, they felt the need to settle with men they wouldn't have picked up if they hadn't been forced to by society/family in order to get married and have children.
I chose to be fwb from the start before we even met., He’s a different religion and is religious. When we met he said “I like this. No strings attached”. He cooks dinner though so I had lucked out with this fwb. Then it fizzled out. Now randomly out of the blue he messaged me that he was thinking of me. Said I could come over. I don’t do last minute asks!!!!
Heidi, I thnk you may have created a situation which is closer than you anticipated. That's not a bad thing. The 'friends' part is real. He likes to spend time with you.
@@SusanWinter I would like it if he likes spending time with me. But the last time we got together was last December. One time when I was over there, he had his best friends over (it’s a couple). So a few weeks ago that night they were there, he messaged me that they were there so he was thinking of me and he would talk later. Made a flirty comment also. I replied back a flirty comment and said how I had plans. (I don’t do last min asks). So I’m not sure what it is. Due to the religion issue, it’s a line I will not cross. Just the way I was brought up. But I want him to respect me and see me as a high value woman. To feel that he’s lucky to have me as his fwb! That’s the part I’m not sure how to achieve???
@@heidilehman9009 A man will never see you as a high value woman, when she wants FWB. And not when she 'settles' on his request for being a woman only for FWB. Man have different codes and are different 'wired'. They see every woman as low class, if the woman has sex with them. And other things to give to a man just for fun or company. A man is a man. A man just thinks a high value woman has high standarts to her body and mind. It is what it is. Deal with it or grow up to behave like a high value woman. The sad part is... A woman who sleeps with a man, without being married. Not virgin anymore. Is allready a fallen woman. She is not innocent anymore. A non virgin is allready a turn off. So if you are not virgin anymore. Your value is allready low. So, you need to be strong, from now on to build yourself up and grow into a wise and intelligent woman. Sooner or later you will regret to have lost your beauty, years into meaningsless 'relationshits'. Your youth is very quickly gone. If you see yourself being a FWB girl, go ahead. But if you see yourself one day married. Do not waste your youth. Do not waste time on men, who do not value YOU. Sex and men. They love it. But yes... That is all you are good for as FWB. Do you want to feel used at the end? Because woman are emotional different. Because sooner or later you will feel used by men. Men do not mind to use you. Until they find a woman, who they really want to be real with and care for real. Men who meet a woman and know, that is the woman, where they want to start a family with, will never do things to lose you. Do you really want to waste your time, youth on men you do not want to be build a real commitment with? Why? See youtube: See Books: RUclips: Tony Gaskins R.C.Blakes jr. Derrick Jaxn School of Affluence Books: John Gottman The 5 love languages The attachment theory Attachment styles Avoidant personality disorder And more... Bless you lady. Kind regards from belgium.
FWB is great, where a semi-couple or people who don’t want to be sexually exclusive can explore what they like or not without great expectations. If people want it, set reasonable rules and not ruin something functional.
I think that's crazy that people have no self-esteem. One reason someone would do that. I was raised differently and I know times have changed also. But if you have to belittle yourself to get a man more power to you. But there are still people out there looking for a relationship and not sex. I have a 120 day rule you will know if he cares for you or not. Like they say I'm not giving you wife benefits to a boyfriend or a friend.
I thought I could handle it, but I told him right at the start that it was on a road to nowhere, and I want a relationship. He keeps contacting me and is beginning to be a sex- pest, but he won't take "NO" for an answer. Until recently when I have had medical problems, but he is only waiting until I overcome them as if I am only his own personal sex -slave. That will not be happening again. Is he a Narcissist?
My ex and I are in this predicament too. He's always there for me calls me . Refers to himself as my.mentor and refers to me as his best friend. And told me I'm the best sexytime he's ever had. Sometimes he he gets distant but usually.doesent last more than a week or two ( at most ) most of the time we text and tall almost everyday... It's very confusing place. He spends weekends at my place. Buys me groceries. Helps with me rent and recently got me a laptop...I love him so much. But ... I dunno.jow he feels. He also basically took care of me after both my surgeries. How is this something a friend would do ? Nove of my.friemds go above and beyond. The only time I don't like this set up is the times he gets distant. Now is one of those times. It makes me feel like a drug addict. My mom told me he's like my part-time boyfriend.... She's right. It's odd. And backstory we used to live together for 2 years before this happened.
I love "sexy best friend" and I was looking for someone like this and I found recently. We had very good connection with each other and deep feelings which we share but he decided that he wants to explore more on dating and asked me to be his friend. I said that I want more than this but he continues to ask to start meeting as friends because he values our great connection and doesnt want to loose me. What should I do?
Thanks for your answer Mara Girl. He said he doesn't want sex but connection and good feelings when we are together are benefits as well. It's so hard..I totally don't understand him..if he likes me so much why he is looking for someone else until he doesn't like me as he says...
why have sex with anyone that isn’t on the same level? maybe if the chemistry is that strong you would dump there but YOou would be asking for trouble, I feel.
I lived with my boyfriend for 7 yrs and then decided to move back in my own house. My boyfriend throws up in my face a couple of times that I left the house. I try to talk to him on that I won't had left but that he had made me feel like I was not wanted as a girlfriend. Now we still see each other but not sure if it was friends or more. When I see him at his house it's can you do my dishes or clean the cat litter. So I started to back off going to his house after he told me I'm only using him for sex I was hurt. Now he has been coming more over my house. Is this still fwb
Hi Denise. Your relationship is clearly undefined and not serving your needs. Take some time to figure out what you really want from him. Is the only thing you have left sex? Why does he expect you to act like a housewife by cleaning dishes and taking out kitty litter when you're not together?? Very odd. Don't do what doesn't work. Figure out what does work, if anything. Isolate that and start from there.
it's fornication. This is a carnal or worldly way of putting it. . . but if the guy gets the milk for free, he will never buy the cow. Now. . .that's pretty crass. . . because of course you are not a cow. But, the analogy works. Sex before or outside of marriage is a sin and a set up for resentments and trust degradation.
Hi Susan, I girl I am really interested in and she has had 2 bad husbands. The last one just died last year as my wife did also. She just wants to be friends and I told her I wanted more than friends. She said she doesn’t want a relationship. I feel she is afraid of being hurt again. She is very busy caring for older parents (part-time) and a mentally and physically disabled 22 yr. old son. What would recommend I do?
I'm a nurse for the elderly. If you really like her. Be friends with her. Support her even on the bad days. This would show her that you are there for her whenever. And when she maybe sees that you are there for her even on her bad days, maybe she will Start to trust you and your emotions. She has a lot of responsibilities. I respect her for her courage to deal with so much. Take your time with her
Understand that you face an uphill battle if you want a relationship with her. She's closed to the idea. Just know the facts going in, and don't let 'hope' blind you.
I think this would work for me. I have moved on with emotions and feelings actually about how to connect and control. Making sex much more easier guilt trip non existence.
Grow up, the only benefit a women wants is the guys money. Friends strangers next door neightbor it does’nt make a difference. She wwnts and needs the guys money. Done deal
Susan, I've gotten so used to being alone, that I don't even feel hurt anymore.
"They didn't know how to BE more." Oooo boy, what an amazing quote!
I had someone ask me what I thought about FWB. I said I wouldn't be good at it because I get too attached and am not good at letting people go. I resisted his first attempt at getting close. Then he tempted me again and I gave in . It was actually just heart breaking for me because I really liked this person as a person. But as it turned out he only wanted a one night stand. Then poof gone but still there since we work together. It was just so awful and still is .So heart broken ..
It’s the worst
Sorry to hear that Mary can I talk with you about that
I think somethings about you
I find it super insulting when a guy tries to "sell" me on Friends with Benefits.
No
Give it up..ladies you know it I know it nails it
@@tuff47 that’s a stupid remark!
@@Dragonfly657 7
I think friends first is a good thing. Forget the whole "benefits" . . .aka fornication and adultery. If a woman doesn't want to meet you on an equal playing field and wants to be wined and dined and taken care of before the guy gets a chance to find out who she is and what's she's about. . . . I say run. Friends with benefits though is just another excuse to use a person. Let's be friends and have sex means. . . let me use you and have no obligation. That's abusive garbage.
From a guy's pov.
With regards to the question. Why would a guy want to just hook up one time if there is good chemistry instead of becoming FWB?
Answer:
1. he's not attracted to you
2. if you're older but attractive, he wants younger
3. the chemistry was never there, he led you to believe it was, just to get laid
Rarely is the guy just trying to get notches under his belt, if the physical and mental stimulation are there, unless he's 16 yrs old.
No way would I accept ‘friends with benefits’ if she asks me. I will not under value myself. If you don’t want a committed relationship with me than I’ll walk away with my dignity intact.
It's not an insult anyways
Any girl or guy that falls for that shit is silly and shallow been around enough to know..... after I left my failing relationship of many years and became single again....found that older guys and guys my age were no good except for one thing.....then got onto meeting much younger guys and the rest is history as they say would never be with a older guy again EVER to sexist and arrogant and cold...my young man had proved himself to me time and time again.....he is kind and nice and understanding.....non judgemental, my best friend...lover and wonderful man who found me thanks...been through it all....being stupid and young once not anymore...
Colette, I'm so happy to read of you and your younger man. Brava!
As the comedian Gad said once, “In France they just call them friends” 🤣
He's fantastic. And thanks for this.
Hi Susan! Just wanted to say I found you somehow on YT - yours is not a topic that I typically search for (happily married for 30 years) but I find that I love to hear you talk about relationships and what people are struggling with today. I have a single best friend and my kids are young singles and these are weird times, to say the least! Bravo, great content!
Hi Debbie. Thanks for stopping by and also for your note!
I won't be exclusively in something that's not openly acknowledged as a relationship. Amazingly people expect it.
Been there, done that, but they aren't. You're just a stepping stone.
That is me Susan, no casual sex I love to deeply🤗
Same
I never thought. I would come across such situations. The guy I liked said , he wants something casual. We been on two dates and he even made a move. I fell for it once now I decided to distance a bit.
Is best to let go. I haven’t reach to that point of “benefit “ yet.
I love how direct your message are. Brilliant Q&A ..idk how people can do one year. Is true what u say , look for people who fit your Interest. If u seek Husband Material look for a man in that department.
OMG I LOVE these Q&As!! I get So Excited over the extended time with Susan! 😁 Such Great Advice! Thank You!
Hi Rich. Thanks for letting me know. Much appreciated
I have a FWB as we speak and I love it :)
Why? I get my needs for affection and sex met without the complications of the early dating stages, does he likes me? Is he serious? With this guy I enjoy the moment and when we connect we are just the 2 of us enjoying each other.
I prefer this than trying to date wondering if there is more, craving affection....
This FWB makes me feel so much more relaxed and detached, I now attract much more men that want a relationship hahahaha...
And my Friend... sexbuddy, I wont fall in love cause i couldn't imagine a relationship with him.
I think you are a rare woman. Enjoying the moment and connecting with each other.
@@doughartley3513 well I’ll take your comment as a compliment 😊 so thank you.
I honestly think it is all about conscious choice. Do I have feelings for him? Yes off course! I feel so good when with him, yet I’ve decided to not worry about tomorrow, trying as much as possible to engage in the present and enjoy it! I might be gone tomorrow.
Will I miss him the day we stop it, yes absolutely. He kind of is all I am looking for in a man 😊
Do I want a relationship, yes off course we all want at a certain point.
I keep open to potential suitors.
Do I want to become anxious about a relationship, wondering if guy is into me or not? Not anymore.
And what I notice, since I am not so attached about the future outcome... men gravitate to me, even my FWB 😊
He loves my positive relaxed attitude...there is no pressure and no drama, though when he crosses a boundary I tell him, without the drama as he doesn’t owe me anything and neither do I.
At the end of the day we do and can choose to fall in love or not.
Men and woman can dinghies consciously when we let go of projecting into the future and getting attached to outcomes.
Most women want a relationship and are attached to commitment, be sure he will be there... becoming anxious if she feels he is drifting away, she turns in a guys biggest nightmare.
Most men want a relationship as well, yet they fear loosing their freedom, being obliged to stay there... so scared about the drama. They chose FWB.
I choose to feel good with a man and call it FWB, it is also a relationship not a suffocating one for the man, the less I expect, the more he gives what most women want from a relationship.
I have my cake and eat it too.
2 fulfilled people 😊
@@nathalie5238 you have identified a key point. Which is that by being ok with not clinging to expectations and whether they’re committing, or if they’re into you. That freedom is really attractive to men and women. It shows that both can handle being in a grown up, emotionally secure relationship. Not like the kind typically found in junior high school. Yes, you are rare. And that was a compliment. And, even better, you are finding guys more attracted to you, even the fwb.
And why do you women don’t share your perspective on this. My guess it’s an ethical, moral issue.
It’s kinda said living a detached life to be honest but to each it’s own
By the way, here, in order to defend myself from a certain type of society, I had to say that I was happily married. I cut loose all of the old circles of friends, some years ago. Toxic ppl. My revenge was saying that I was married and they weren't allowed in my husband's social context not because he belonged to the high society but because he didn't like the way they acted with me. I am not married but this lie was a weapon to make them desist from contacting me only to judge me for no reason. It's just a trick we sometimes have to use.
Hi I Gatti. Amazing, isn't it? Single. Married. They are just choices we make. Yet people can get very bent out of shape if our choice is different from theirs.
@@SusanWinter Italy is a Catholic country so... but luckily in recent years even the elderly have begun to be more open-minded. I have always been among the "renegades", by the way. That's because I had relationships with younger and foreign guys. Serious commitment. Northern Europe was considered like Mars by ppl who lived in the countryside...ahah. Luckily there's been an evolution in some chunks of the population.
The old narrow-minded " friends" of mine remained the same so I took a different way. I think they spoke out of frustration, they felt the need to settle with men they wouldn't have picked up if they hadn't been forced to by society/family in order to get married and have children.
I chose to be fwb from the start before we even met., He’s a different religion and is religious. When we met he said “I like this. No strings attached”. He cooks dinner though so I had lucked out with this fwb. Then it fizzled out. Now randomly out of the blue he messaged me that he was thinking of me. Said I could come over. I don’t do last minute asks!!!!
Heidi, I thnk you may have created a situation which is closer than you anticipated. That's not a bad thing. The 'friends' part is real. He likes to spend time with you.
@@SusanWinter I would like it if he likes spending time with me. But the last time we got together was last December. One time when I was over there, he had his best friends over (it’s a couple). So a few weeks ago that night they were there, he messaged me that they were there so he was thinking of me and he would talk later. Made a flirty comment also.
I replied back a flirty comment and said how I had plans. (I don’t do last min asks). So I’m not sure what it is. Due to the religion issue, it’s a line I will not cross. Just the way I was brought up. But I want him to respect me and see me as a high value woman. To feel that he’s lucky to have me as his fwb! That’s the part I’m not sure how to achieve???
@@heidilehman9009
A man will never see you as a high value woman, when she wants FWB. And not when she 'settles' on his request for being a woman only for FWB. Man have different codes and are different 'wired'. They see every woman as low class, if the woman has sex with them. And other things to give to a man just for fun or company.
A man is a man. A man just thinks a high value woman has high standarts to her body and mind.
It is what it is.
Deal with it or grow up to behave like a high value woman.
The sad part is...
A woman who sleeps with a man, without being married. Not virgin anymore. Is allready a fallen woman. She is not innocent anymore. A non virgin is allready a turn off. So if you are not virgin anymore. Your value is allready low.
So, you need to be strong, from now on to build yourself up and grow into a wise and intelligent woman. Sooner or later you will regret to have lost your beauty, years into meaningsless 'relationshits'.
Your youth is very quickly gone.
If you see yourself being a FWB girl, go ahead.
But if you see yourself one day married. Do not waste your youth. Do not waste time on men, who do not value YOU.
Sex and men. They love it.
But yes...
That is all you are good for as FWB.
Do you want to feel used at the end? Because woman are emotional different. Because sooner or later you will feel used by men. Men do not mind to use you. Until they find a woman, who they really want to be real with and care for real. Men who meet a woman and know, that is the woman, where they want to start a family with, will never do things to lose you.
Do you really want to waste your time, youth on men you do not want to be build a real commitment with? Why?
See youtube:
See Books:
RUclips:
Tony Gaskins
R.C.Blakes jr.
Derrick Jaxn
School of Affluence
Books:
John Gottman
The 5 love languages
The attachment theory
Attachment styles
Avoidant personality disorder
And more...
Bless you lady.
Kind regards from belgium.
@@heide-raquelfuss5580 Thank you. Usually I stand my ground. I’m not in FWB but the guy wanted casual. He was transparent. Is not worth it
This appears so casual and does no one ever even mention STD’s?
Great material, as always, Susan! I am following You, just watching theese afterwards! Cheers!
Thanks Thomas.
Big mistake i will Never do this again.
FWB is great, where a semi-couple or people who don’t want to be sexually exclusive can explore what they like or not without great expectations. If people want it, set reasonable rules and not ruin something functional.
Susan, this long video is packed with so many of your other lessons. Thank you thank you I've taken diligent notes.
I was in and out during the live but I heard way too many gems being dropped lol, definitely gonna dissect this one
thank you Shai!
I think that's crazy that people have no self-esteem. One reason someone would do that. I was raised differently and I know times have changed also. But if you have to belittle yourself to get a man more power to you. But there are still people out there looking for a relationship and not sex. I have a 120 day rule you will know if he cares for you or not. Like they say I'm not giving you wife benefits to a boyfriend or a friend.
She says: "I just want to be friends." ........... He says: "I'll call you." Both are overt lies!
Susan can u do a live more in depth of the “maybe box” ?
I thought I could handle it, but I told him right at the start that it was on a road to nowhere, and I want a relationship. He keeps contacting me and is beginning to be a sex- pest, but he won't take "NO" for an answer. Until recently when I have had medical problems, but he is only waiting until I overcome them as if I am only his own personal sex -slave. That will not be happening again. Is he a Narcissist?
@country Another think coming.
Tell him take a hike mike lol and shut the doors
Starting over- it's refreshing. Moving to New location. Meeting new people- be opened
My ex want to be friends but with benefits and I let him go Becuase I want more but .. I know he will never speak to me again
Susan as usual is awesome and all over this hot topic!👍👍
Hi David!! Thank you. Thanks for dropping me a note.
Thanks!
Russell!! Thank you!
Your advice is excellent.
My ex and I are in this predicament too. He's always there for me calls me . Refers to himself as my.mentor and refers to me as his best friend. And told me I'm the best sexytime he's ever had. Sometimes he he gets distant but usually.doesent last more than a week or two ( at most ) most of the time we text and tall almost everyday... It's very confusing place. He spends weekends at my place. Buys me groceries. Helps with me rent and recently got me a laptop...I love him so much. But ... I dunno.jow he feels. He also basically took care of me after both my surgeries. How is this something a friend would do ? Nove of my.friemds go above and beyond. The only time I don't like this set up is the times he gets distant. Now is one of those times. It makes me feel like a drug addict. My mom told me he's like my part-time boyfriend.... She's right. It's odd. And backstory we used to live together for 2 years before this happened.
Hello from uk Susan! 💕💕💕
HI Kristina
Where are the benefits?
It's my frist time with friends with benefits,what can I do. Im trying tk leave him but he won't leave me or go.
Be firm with your boundaries and block him. Don't look back or go back. Then it is over and done.
You are the best
Love from France
Awesome video ❤❤❤❤
Thank you Alexander
I love "sexy best friend" and I was looking for someone like this and I found recently. We had very good connection with each other and deep feelings which we share but he decided that he wants to explore more on dating and asked me to be his friend. I said that I want more than this but he continues to ask to start meeting as friends because he values our great connection and doesnt want to loose me. What should I do?
Thanks for your answer Mara Girl. He said he doesn't want sex but connection and good feelings when we are together are benefits as well. It's so hard..I totally don't understand him..if he likes me so much why he is looking for someone else until he doesn't like me as he says...
How things turned out with u? I'm in the same situation so asking..
@@agasza3 ..
why have sex with anyone that isn’t on the same level? maybe if the chemistry is that strong you would dump there but YOou would be asking for trouble, I feel.
Yes❤
Yes
I really dislike this new "caught" feelings for thing.
Sex with benefits. Is it a yes or a no?
I lived with my boyfriend for 7 yrs and then decided to move back in my own house. My boyfriend throws up in my face a couple of times that I left the house. I try to talk to him on that I won't had left but that he had made me feel like I was not wanted as a girlfriend. Now we still see each other but not sure if it was friends or more. When I see him at his house it's can you do my dishes or clean the cat litter. So I started to back off going to his house after he told me I'm only using him for sex I was hurt. Now he has been coming more over my house. Is this still fwb
Hi Denise. Your relationship is clearly undefined and not serving your needs. Take some time to figure out what you really want from him. Is the only thing you have left sex? Why does he expect you to act like a housewife by cleaning dishes and taking out kitty litter when you're not together?? Very odd. Don't do what doesn't work. Figure out what does work, if anything. Isolate that and start from there.
it's fornication. This is a carnal or worldly way of putting it. . . but if the guy gets the milk for free, he will never buy the cow. Now. . .that's pretty crass. . . because of course you are not a cow. But, the analogy works. Sex before or outside of marriage is a sin and a set up for resentments and trust degradation.
Hi Susan,
I girl I am really interested in and she has had 2 bad husbands. The last one just died last year as my wife did also. She just wants to be friends and I told her I wanted more than friends. She said she doesn’t want a relationship. I feel she is afraid of being hurt again. She is very busy caring for older parents (part-time) and a mentally and physically disabled 22 yr. old son.
What would recommend I do?
I'm a nurse for the elderly. If you really like her. Be friends with her. Support her even on the bad days. This would show her that you are there for her whenever. And when she maybe sees that you are there for her even on her bad days, maybe she will Start to trust you and your emotions. She has a lot of responsibilities. I respect her for her courage to deal with so much. Take your time with her
Understand that you face an uphill battle if you want a relationship with her. She's closed to the idea. Just know the facts going in, and don't let 'hope' blind you.
What was the name of your friends website that does the texting to a guy and what to say ? I remember seeing it on one of your videos ?
HAHAHA I'm in the 3rd category now
This is what I need, with a mature lady. I'm running out of time. Damn.
Sex isn't casual. Masturbation is the only sex that approaches casual. It isn't casual either, but only one person sins, not two.
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Men can cope with friends with benefit women, can’t
God I love you!!!
She is fantabulous!💙
Thanks Wifi
@@davidcasillas285 awwww... big hug to you David
Wanting a female friend to hang out with, dine, travel, & benefits.
feieds with you
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It is not possible to be friends and have sex with one another. NOPE!
Sexy best friend lol, love it! 🤣
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I think this would work for me. I have moved on with emotions and feelings actually about how to connect and control. Making sex much more easier guilt trip non existence.
Finalmente :)
Love that!
@@SusanWinter Sometimes I use German adverbs in the same way. It's fun.
Grow up, the only benefit a women wants is the guys money. Friends strangers next door neightbor it does’nt make a difference. She wwnts and needs the guys money. Done deal